This episode looks at solutions for when screens and devices like tablets are causing conflict in the home, especially when it is time for them to be turned off!
Siblings will often find themselves in conflict over devices and screen time, whether arguments over whose turn it is, jealousy over differing time allowances and scenarios wherein the younger sibling is a thorn in the side of the older sibling.
Therapist, author and leading expert on youth and family dynamics, Laura Kastner, PhD, shares her expertise on behavioral management, and how it relates to sibling fights.
Also, author Emily Cherkin, MEd and researcher Caroline Fitzpatrick, PhD, share more ideas on preventing and responding to screen related meltdowns, setting boundaries, and fostering emotional regulation in our kids.
Practical tips include redirecting attention, “planned ignoring”, and creating family screen time/media plans (or rules) with little kids—not just teens.
Featured Experts
Laura Kastner, PhD
Emily Cherkin, MEd
Caroline Fitzpatrick of, PhD
Books
Getting to calm & Wise-Minded Parenting, by Laura Kastner
The Screentime Solution, by Emily Cherkin
Research References
Fitzpatrick, C., et al. Early-Childhood Tablet Use and Outbursts of Anger. JAMA Pediatrics, 2024.
Additional Links
Family media plan for Video Gaming
Time Code
00:00 Introduction to Planned Ignoring
00:19 Screen Time Struggles and Sibling Conflicts
01:20 Expert Insights: Laura Kastner
02:54 Behavioral Management Techniques
08:42 Handling Screen Time Tantrums
11:15 Practical Tips for Screen Time Transitions
14:06 Research on Screen Time and Emotional Regulation
18:55 Creating Family Screen Plans
19:51 Conclusion and Resources
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