Silent Suffering is Killing Us As Men - Practical Advice for Modern Men: Interview with Traver Boehm - Hosted by Jay Alders

Welcome to the Shifting Perceptions Podcast, hosted by Jay Alders with special guest Traver Boehm, founder of the Man Uncivilized Movement and author of ManUncivilized and 28 Days in Darkness.  In this episode, we dive deep into the silent struggles that many men face, especially those in their 30s to 50s, who often carry the weight of the world on their shoulders while keeping their pain hidden.

Are you feeling the pressure to be the provider, the strong one, the man who has it all together? Do you sometimes feel like you’re drowning in expectations—both self-imposed and from society—without a safe space to express your emotions? You’re not alone.

** NOTE: Adult language. Not for kids.

Connect with Traver Boehm

• https://www.manuncivilized.com/
• https://www.instagram.com/traverboehm

Buy Traver's Books

• ManUncivilized Book
• Book: Today I Rise: How to Overcome the Gut-Wrenching Pain of Your Breakup or Divorce & Reclaim Your Life
• Uncivilized Journal
• 28 Days in Darkness: A Journey from the Depth of Despair to the Joy of Awakening 

WATCH on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x2A4FcyetAw 

Some of the Topics we covered:

 • Silent Suffering and the Need for Brotherhood: Traver and Jay discuss how men often suffer in silence, hiding their struggles behind a facade of strength. We’ll explore why connection and brotherhood are vital for emotional well-being and how to build these essential bonds.
 • Overcoming the Pressure of Perfection: The modern man is expected to be perfect—successful, emotionally stable, and physically fit. We’ll tackle how to navigate these unrealistic expectations and find a more balanced, fulfilling approach to life.
 • The Role of Vulnerability in True Masculinity: In a world where showing emotions is often seen as weakness, we redefine masculinity. Learn why vulnerability is a strength and how embracing it can lead to deeper relationships and personal growth.
 • Balancing Work, Fatherhood, and Self-Worth: Many men find themselves torn between the demands of their careers and the desire to be present fathers. We’ll discuss strategies for balancing these responsibilities without losing your sense of self-worth.
 • Healing from Childhood Wounds: Our childhood experiences shape who we are, but they don’t have to define us. Traver shares insights on how to heal from past trauma and break free from the patterns that hold us back.
 • Navigating Anxiety in a Chaotic World: With the world feeling more uncertain than ever, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by anxiety. We’ll offer practical advice on how to stay grounded