Self Critical vs Self Deprecating: Finding the Balance

In this episode, Kari and Lisa explore the subtle difference between being self-critical—a constructive approach that fosters growth—and self-deprecating, which can erode confidence and self-worth. Drawing on insights from Esther Apoussidis, Vaishali Patel, Heather Jones, and Trudy Horsting, they examine how discomfort with praise, fear of appearing arrogant, and ingrained social norms can lead to habitual self-dismissal. Kari and Lisa discuss reframing negative self-talk, acknowledging compliments with grace, and recognizing the “energy of lack” that emerges when self-deprecation becomes a default. By sharing personal anecdotes—including the value of humor rooted in self-acceptance rather than self-undermining—the hosts offer practical advice for cultivating balanced self-criticism while nurturing healthier, more affirming perspectives.

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