How to Want Yourself with Self-Talk Shifter Katie Horwitch

In today's episode, you'll meet Katie Horwitch, who reminds us how the right community can make all the difference. On March 13, please join me for Uplifters Live, where we'll come together as a community of brave, beautiful Uplifters for a day of deep connection, courage-building workshops, celebration (including my own 50th birthday!), and an amazing lunch created by Emma’s Torch. I hope to see you there!

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Today’s Featured Uplifter: Katie Horwitch

Katie radiates the kind of warmth that makes you forget to care about being "cool." As the founder of WANT (Women Against Negative Talk) and a nationally recognized mindset coach, Katie has built her life's work around helping women shift their self-talk patterns. But her journey to becoming a self-talk activist began with her own struggle to feel at home in herself.

"I am someone who has had such a heightened self-awareness her entire life. I could feel when I was shutting parts of myself away and shutting down different personality traits and pretending."

This awareness became both Katie’s challenge and her salvation – allowing her to recognize when she was living out of alignment with her true self, while simultaneously pointing the way back home.

For Katie, the path to authenticity wasn't linear. It involved navigating OCD (which she describes as "a disorder of extreme catastrophization"), eating disorders, and the constant pressure to dampen her natural enthusiasm. But through it all, she kept integrity as her center line.

Her Courage Practice: "No Talky Time"

At the heart of Katie's self-care practice is what she calls "no talky time" – periods of complete silence that allow her to recharge and reconnect with herself. As a self-described “textbook introvert”, she's learned that these moments of stillness are non-negotiable. Whether it's 10 minutes or several hours, this practice helps her maintain the energy she needs to show up fully for both her work and her relationships.

This seemingly simple practice ripples out into every aspect of her life, influencing how she coaches clients, maintains boundaries, and preserves her capacity to help others. It's a powerful reminder that sometimes the bravest thing we can do is honor our own needs, even when they don't match our expectations of what a "helper" should look like.

"Life is short, but it is also wide, and you have that to use all of the parts of yourselves and bring all of those parts to the table. That is what I suspect will lead you to saying as you look back, 'Oh yeah, that was a life well lived.'"

5 Ways Katie Shows Us How to Build Our Courage Capital:

1. Embrace Your Natural Enthusiasm

Let your genuine excitement shine as a beacon that attracts authentic connections and opportunities.

2. Make Friends with Your Inner Critic

Transform your inner critic into an inner ally by understanding its misguided attempts to protect you.

3. Practice Radical Self-Awareness Times Action

Turn insights into impact by asking yourself what specific actions you'll take with your newfound awareness.

4. Honor Your Non-Negotiables

Protect the daily practices that keep you functioning at your best, from sleep to silence to boundaries.

5. Choose Warmth Over Cool

If we let go of the pressure to be "cool" we just might