Hello there, sugar pants. I'm back—and whew, life has been a lot lately. But today, I’m diving into something that’s been messing with way too many of us for way too long: perfection.
We’ve been taught that if we can just get it right—be good enough, successful enough, lovable enough—then life will finally feel better.
But here’s the truth: you can’t love perfect. You can’t be perfect. And trying to is killing your joy, your creativity, your connection—and your relationships.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
The red flag hidden in “You seem perfect” (and why it made me cringe)
What went down in my own relationship during a rough season
How even great relationships fall apart a little—and what it looks like to come back from that
Why perfectionism keeps us stuck, lonely, and exhausted (even when everything looks good on paper)
How I help women actually start feeling better—on purpose
I’ll also give you a real look at what we’re doing inside Thrive Midlife—my 6-month group coaching experience for women 40+ who are ready to stop surviving and start actually living.
I’m not being cute. Science shows that 40% of our happiness comes from our daily mindset and choices—not our past, not our DNA.
That’s what Thrive is all about. We blend neuroscience, emotional regulation, coaching, creativity, and a community of women who actually give a damn.
💬 Weekly workshops & tools
🧠 One-on-one coaching with me
👯♀️ A group of badass, funny, honest women
🌄 And a fall retreat in Madison, WI (think goat petting, cider breakthroughs, and cheese)
👉 Early bird pricing ends May 31st, 2025. Get all the details at ThriveMidlifeProgram.com
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Email me at kira@thrivewithkira.com. I love hearing from you.
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