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August 12, 2025 28 mins

Cynthia Kane's "The Pause Principle" teaches how to pause and regain control in challenging situations. Using the SOFTEN method (Sensation, Own discomfort, Focus on present, Take a breath, Eyes on other person, Need to say), people can shift from reactive responses to intentional communication by calming their nervous system first.


TAKEAWAYS

  • Notice body sensations first - Pay attention to physical discomfort signals like racing heart or tense jaw to recognize when you need to pause
  • Use the SOFTEN method - Simple practices like focusing on breath or saying your name help shift from fight-or-flight to calm response
  • Practice daily in low-stakes moments - Build the pause muscle through regular practice so it's available during high-pressure conversations

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