What happens when the label that once hurt you becomes the voice that heals you?
In this deeply human conversation, Charles Turtz sits down with James Wallis, creator of "Hey, gay boy", to unpack the journey from shame to authenticity. Together, they explore what it means to be seen versus simply visible, how to reclaim your story after years of silence, and why healing the inner child is essential to real confidence and connection.
From navigating social media identity to redefining pride beyond perfection, this episode invites you to pause, breathe, and remember that growth doesn’t come from pretending — it comes from telling the truth.
You’ll Learn:
- How to transform shame into strength through storytelling
- Why authenticity on social media starts with inner work
- How to recognize the difference between visibility and being seen
- Why vulnerability is the foundation of healing and self-worth
- How to hold two truths: pride and pain can coexist
- Why inner-child healing is key to emotional freedom
- How to release perfectionism and embrace your full humanity
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Timestamps
00:00 – Meet James: The Creator Behind “Hey Gay Boy”
04:00 – From Therapy to TikTok: Turning Shame Into Art
07:00 – Why It’s Easier to Be Honest With Strangers
09:00 – Authenticity, Audience, and the Second-Person Storytelling Style
14:00 – The Difference Between Being Real and Performing Realness
18:00 – Would You Take the Straight Pill? Reclaiming Complex Truths
22:00 – Therapy, Gay Shame, and the Challenge of Self-Acceptance
26:00 – Visibility vs. Being Seen: The Social Media Paradox
30:00 – When Viral Means Unhealthy: The Hidden Cost of “Going Big”
34:00 – The Pain Behind Perfection: Body Image and Validation
38:00 – Learning Healthy Narcissism and Letting Go of Shame
42:00 – Compliments, Validation, and the Power of Self-Awareness
46:00 – Healing the Inner Child and Reconnecting to Joy
50:00 – The Real Work of Recovery: Courage, Compassion, and Continuity
54:00 – The Lesson That Changed Everything: Let the Wounded Child Rest
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