December 21, 2025 • 32 mins
In this episode of Weekly Energy Boost, we explore a powerful spiritual reframe: our mistakes are not interruptions to our growth, but an essential part of it. Drawing on timeless teachings, we uncover how moments of falling short, missteps, and perceived failures are divinely woven into our soul’s journey—designed to awaken deeper awareness, humility, and strength.
This conversation offers practical and inspiring guidance on how to heal past failures not by reliving them, but by transforming our behavior in the present. We discuss how self-judgment keeps us stuck, while conscious action opens the door to repair, clarity, and renewed purpose.
If you’ve been carrying regret, self-blame, or the feeling that you’ve gone “off track,” this episode is an invitation to release the inner critic and reconnect with a life that feels guided, supported, and infused with the Light of the Creator. Your past does not define you—your next choice does.
Join us for the next episode of Weekly Energy Boost with @ElishevaBalas and @EitanYardeni. Watch LIVE Sundays at 10 am PT / 1 pm ET on The Kabbalah Centre YouTube or catch the latest episode wherever you listen to podcasts.
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This conversation offers practical and inspiring guidance on how to heal past failures not by reliving them, but by transforming our behavior in the present. We discuss how self-judgment keeps us stuck, while conscious action opens the door to repair, clarity, and renewed purpose.
If you’ve been carrying regret, self-blame, or the feeling that you’ve gone “off track,” this episode is an invitation to release the inner critic and reconnect with a life that feels guided, supported, and infused with the Light of the Creator. Your past does not define you—your next choice does.
Join us for the next episode of Weekly Energy Boost with @ElishevaBalas and @EitanYardeni. Watch LIVE Sundays at 10 am PT / 1 pm ET on The Kabbalah Centre YouTube or catch the latest episode wherever you listen to podcasts.
Find out more about our work, dig into our archives, and send us a message at: www.weeklyenergyboost.com.
You can also help make Weekly Energy Boost possible by making a tax-deductible contribution at www.weeklyenergyboost.com/donate-today.
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Good morning everyone, good evening, good afternoon wherever you are,
and welcome to this week's a weekly energy boost. My
name is Elisheva and I'm here with Aton, and today
we're talking about how to release and heal from one
of the greatest plagues of the twentieth century, and that
is guilt. I don't think anybody is exempt. Maybe there
(00:36):
maybe I shouldn't say that. Maybe there are some people
that do not are not bothered or affected by feelings
like guilt, blame and shame. But the combination this week
of both the weekly energy and the fact that we're
we just started the month of Capricorn, which if you're
a Capricorn or you know someone who loves Capricorns, you
(00:57):
know that one of the tendencies that can hinder the
shining of their great light is how hard they are
on themselves and how seriously they take everything. And the
Cabalysts teach that whenever the problem arises, the solution comes
before the problem, the cure comes before the illness. So
(01:20):
we have the opportunity this week to inoculate ourselves from
the areas in our lives where guilt plagues us the
most and really learn to develop a completely new perspective,
which is what our goal with you in the next
little while is, is to share with you the wisdom
and tools that can help you free yourself from the guilt,
(01:41):
the unhealthy guilt that's standing in your way from you
shining more of your own unique light. Weekly Energy Boost
is a seven day spiritual weather forecast where we provide
our listeners with the most powerful and practical tools to
navigate the coming seven days. We do that because we
practice and study the wisdom of Kabbalah, so and every
(02:03):
episode we share the wisdom, the tools, the consciousness, and
even stories about people doing this work, so that every
episode ends up revealing wisdom and tools you can use
not only this week, but any week of your life.
And because we're now writing on the coattails of Hanukah
and we've just begun the month of Capricorn, we have
(02:25):
renewed energy that we can focus toward diminishing the influences
that prevent us from shining that light. And really, to me,
it's a version of darkness that comes up for us.
And one of the gifts that we receive this week
of Hanukah is the energy to transcend our challenges, and
(02:48):
as a person who works with individuals who are trying
to live these principles, I find that one of the
top challenges people face in their spiritual journey is guilt,
dealing with decisions they made in the past that were
shortsighted or from a limited place, mistakes as they call them,
(03:09):
that they made things when they hurt people or were selfish.
And how can we in this week utilize the energy
not only to heal the past, but going forward to
use those moments that we could easily let hold us
back and break us down. How can we use those
moments to grow, to expand and to heal aton Where
(03:31):
should we begin?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
You know, here is the paradox. In one hand, when
you take seriously your purpose in life, which is transformation, grow, delevation, purity,
So every spiritual mistake, every mistake, every moment you hurt people,
every time you're not aligned with your soul and you've
been taken by your ego, by your negative side, by
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your reactive it will bother you and a person that
truly care will be bothered, will be upset about mistake.
If not, you don't care in one end. In the
other hand, when you're bothered too much, or when you
dwell in shame and in guilt too much, then you're
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not having the strength to move forward in new spiritual path.
So really, in this episode, we really would like to
reframe mistakes, not to dismiss mistakes, to grow from them,
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to learn from them, but how do we transform energy
of guilt to energy of growth? And I would like
to start with a there's a story in the Zoar
which was a discussions between in the angels that assisted
the Creator in creating mankind and the Creator and the said,
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You're about to create a human being that's gonna seem
gonna make so many mistakes, gonna be so low, the
opposite of your nature. Why And the Creator answered, I,
Mistakes are part of the path of humanity. Mistakes are
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actually giving human being the opportunity to get higher if
you woun't make mistakes. So actually mistakes are part of life.
Wrong actions are part of life. None of us can
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say I never made mistakes, I never short circuit, I
never listened to my ego. We all died and we
all will. The question is how do we reframe our
perspective around mistakes wrongdoing in a way that it can
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actually perpetuate growth and elevation. So that's that's really. We
want to be perfect, we want to be better, we
want to be elevated, but part of our path will
be mistakes. So where would you start and maybe maybe Elisheva,
(06:42):
can you share with us how is it connected to
the story of this weekly portion.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Yeah, that's that to me is the best illustration of
what we're talking about, because, as we've been sharing in
the last few weeks, the main character in the tour
portions has been Joseph, and we come to the point
in the story where as we spoke about a few
weeks ago, his brothers lost everything. There's a famine, they
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could no longer make ends meet, and at the time,
the Egyptian Empire ruled over hundreds of countries, and they
came to Egypt to ask for support, to ask for
a government handout loan, and of course Joseph was responsible
for the wealth of the Egyptian Empire, so they came
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to Joseph. Joseph recognized them immediately, and at a certain
point Joseph revealed himself to his brothers and said, you know,
it's me Joseph, And of course they were shocked because
they had sold him years before and for sure at
that point thought he must be dead, and they the hug.
(07:53):
It's very emotional, and at a certain point, one of
the brothers, Hudah, comes to Joseph like he can he
can't contain himself anymore. He feels so terrible and at
the same time is looking at the greatness of his
brother and it's like there's this ultimate reconciliation that takes place,
(08:15):
this ultimate breakdown in a way of the ego of
the like. Really, the unification that happens in that point
takes everybody's movie to the next level. And a big
part of that story, according to Kabbalah, is Joseph's perception right.
He says, I have nothing to forgive you for you
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didn't do anything. The Creator made you do it because
I had to get to Egypt in order to fulfill
my soul's purpose.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
I had to be.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Thrown into the pit and into prison and everywhere that
I've been because it wouldn't become And this is, I think,
is what we need to remember. If not for those
low moments, and Joseph had his moments of uncertainty and weakness,
if not for those moments, he would not be the
chariot for the energy of Yasaud and the second to Farah,
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and all the levels that he achieved were because of
where he had been. He was able to have that
perspective and completely release any blame, hatred anger to his
brothers for what they did. Like he could, he saw
the hand of the creator, even in what looked like
was selfish and damaging and wrong. And so I think
(09:29):
for us, obviously it sounds like a superhuman you know,
transformation elevation, but I believe that what we can see
and what we can learn from also the way that
the cabalists teach us to reframe mistakes and guilt and
blame and shame is that there is a divine purpose
(09:50):
to it all. And I'm hoping that at least, you know,
between us, we can share those gems, those diamonds really
for our own growth, not only to say it was
a story that happened thousands of years ago, and how
powerful those sous must have been. That's us. Those people
are us, and we have that same ability to use
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those moments where we act out of lack, out of fear,
out of doubt, out of worry and understand that those moments,
like you said, it's part of the process of becoming
who we need to be. How can we best deliver
that message? Not only the message, but imagine that the
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universe is showing us this week, here's the energy for
the rest of the year. That anytime you fall, you fail,
you you stop short of your of what you're capable
of doing. Tap into the energy of this week, and
you'll have in your reservoir the ability to rise above,
take responsibility and heal from it.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Beautiful and I think, I think in the story that
you describe between the brothers and Joseph with Yehuda, the
leader of the brothers was the one in front of Joseph,
and Youda went through processes step number one. He didn't realize,
he didn't know he made mistakes of selling his brothers.
(11:15):
He thought he did the right thing, and then he
woke up to realize, Wow, I feel so shame, I
feel so guilt. I caust so much pain to my brother,
I cast so much pain to my father. It felt weak.
He felt weak, he felt unenergized, he felt not connected
(11:38):
to the creator. And then then it got to a
deeper level. He realized I take full responsibility by the
miss from the by the mistake and by wrong intention,
and with the fact that I was blinded with my
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brother hears and the pain that I cause, I take
full responsibility. Nevertheless, I know that's part of my journey,
and I know without that mistakes, my brother will not
be where he is and the Israelized will not. Eventually
you will leave Egypt because that was the doing of
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the line. Nevertheless, I took full responsibility, but not willing
to learn the lessons to change my ways. Actually, one
of the indications you take full responsibility is with you
acting differently. And while Yahood that took responsibility didn't act
properly to protect his brother Joseph, now he was willing
(12:44):
to sacrifice his life to protect the other brother, Benjamin,
so really bad. At the same time, it was a mistake.
But I don't regret any aspects of the past. Rothberg
always shared, learn from your past. Don't regret your past.
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Without your past, you wouldn't be who you are today.
It's interesting, before you make mistakes, you need to feel wow,
Please the Creator allow me to do the right thing.
I don't to make mistakes. After you make mistake, you
need to look at this, you know what, Stop being
hard on yourself, dwelling guilty. Initially we all would that
(13:32):
feel better about ourselves, but then wake up face the
brutal truth, the honest truth of what mistakes you've done,
what action you're willing to take. But be present and
know that the Creator is with you, because thinking I'll
never be worthy of the light, that's the opposite of
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why the Creator even presented potential mistakes that will make
in this way, and that's the level that you would
have reached. You know. I remember learning with a doctor
that had a major career as a sergeant in in
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initial years when he was in his starf in in
residencies that he studied. He made a major mistake as
a beginning doctor that could almost cost a life of someone,
and it turned to be okay, and it was hesitant
(14:41):
should I share it with my main mentor doctor or not,
and he decided to share. So that had doctor for
the department called all the doctors and all the residents
that were there, and he said, let's celebrate the mistake
(15:06):
that our friend just made, because if we don't celebrate mistakes,
and if we're not acknowledged mistakes, will never grow mistakes.
It's part of becoming a better doctor in that particular arena.
So my friend's student that studied me for many years,
(15:28):
that became a major doctor, a leader to so many
other doctors in a unique field from that moment, learned
and actually mentors all the doctors under him. Let's celebrate mistakes.
Our reactive nature is every time we do something amazing,
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going to celebrate it and to be proud of it
and to tell other people about it. And every time
we'd make mistakes, something is wrong with me. I'm ashamed,
I feel guilt. Why should I celebrate? It's tough for
me even to accept myself with that mistake. Why should
I celebrate it with others? The strength? Yeah, feel bad,
(16:13):
because if you don't feel bad, initially you don't care.
But then turn that energy to growth, turn that energy
to full acceptance. I've done already. It's exactly in my path.
Not for the sake of mistakes. That's why I am
move on. No, because you want to grow from that mistake.
(16:36):
That's part of the path of transformation and growth. Celebrate
mistakes is the opposite of the energy of killed. It's
actually learning that all those downs are actually potential apps
and growth. And how EGO don't like it, how ego
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can perceive ums ourself. I'm good, I'm bad, I'm good,
I'm bad, the good behavior is good? How can I
get better? And the mistake so what we call the
bad behaver. It's part of the process to become even
higher good or good, good or better.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I'm listening to what you're saying, and I'm thinking of
so many teachings that have helped me in my own
journey to leave behind the beating myself up and thinking,
you know, why did I do it? How could I
have been so selfish, so stupid, so whatever. And I'm thinking,
(17:44):
you know, there's a bit of a well, let's say
the main teaching that helped me, and then I have
a question for you about it, because at the same time, right,
we've taught in many different episodes, we've spoken about the
idea that Cabbala's teaches that there is both free will
and predetermination. Right, there's certain aspects of our existence that
(18:08):
are unavoidable. They're going to happen no matter what we do.
And there's certain aspects of the movie that are up
to us to create. So There is a teaching really
that it's like to live as you say, to be
in that dance of in the moment when I have
a decision to make, when I need to take action,
(18:30):
when I need to speak up or make a move,
I need to know that it depends on me, right,
I can't The taking responsibility starts from the beginning of
the process, not only retrospectively. So I need to know
that there is some light for me to reveal and
I need to focus on I must. I want to
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do my best with it. What's the highest version of
this movie that I can create? Obviously we're not there
all the time, you know, everybody gets impatient, has a
you know, a bad move. That we're human, right, and
in those moments there's light as well. But once we've
made the decision, once the day is done, the Cabitalists teach,
at the end of the day, we need to know
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that the creator.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Did it all.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
It wasn't even us. And that mindset for me, on
one hand, it's a deeply you know, I want to
say spiritual. It's maybe too easy of a word to use.
It's like a really if you let it in and
you understand that everything that in our existence, from the
people in our family, the people on the street, every
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moving part of our life is orchestrated by the Creator.
You realize you didn't really do that much at all,
even though you take so seriously the mistake you made,
the words you use, the attitude you have, and being
in you know that place of when it's in front
of me, it's only up to me. I'm the only
one that can do it. And when it's behind me,
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I actually didn't do anything at all. It was all
the light of the Creator. So I think it's also
possible to get confused in that moment, Right, Do I
have free will? Did I make any choices? Or is
Cabbala saying the creator gave me the thoughts? I didn't
even really do anything. Is that really what we're teaching?
And I know the answer is no. But at the
(20:16):
same time, I wonder it's very easy to use this
teaching as an excuse. Yeah, I yelled at my kids.
The light made me do it. Yeah, I know, cut
somebody off in traffic. The light made me do it.
How do we balance between taking responsibility and the light
of the Creator is behind everything.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
That's a beautiful question, and I think it's important to
see the big picture. So in the big picture, we
all in a journey of transformation from selfish to selfless
foom driven by ego to driven by soul, from doing
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actions we need for recognition or doing action for the
need and the pure intention to get closer to the Creator,
for manifesting one percent of our potential, to manifest one
hundred percent of our potential and becoming closer to the Creator,
beamed like the Creator and becoming a pure channel. That's
the journey that all of us came to this world.
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So what is the free will? Will it take a
hundred tiers to get to that ultimate potential that already
cabalistically existed in the perfected dimensioned? Or will it take
two lifetimes five flight time, hundred lifetime, two hundred lifetime.
We're all going to get there, So it's given now
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more we'll learn faster, will learning the lessons of how
to become better, to become less controlled by our ego,
by our reactive nature, faster in the world of time,
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the world of process, the world of time, it's only
our world, and that's our free will. Will it be
longer or sooner? Will be filled with a lot of
pain or much less pain, much more joy. That's the
test of our humanity. All of us as humanity will
arrive to the final destination, which is sheer consciousness or love.
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That that bus yourself and each one of us is individual.
While yes, I would like to wake up to all
the lessons that they can do in life. But one
of the greatest ways to wake up from mistakes after
the fact, after the fact, is to learn that mistakes
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was part of my path. Now it's your business to
learn from it. So what you're saying, elisha Eva, in
one end, we have the consciousness every second matter. Make
sure to make choices that comes from soul. Don't fall,
don't fall into the ego. Absolutely, and we would love
to increase the moment that we aware, we are mindful,
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We realize everything is a test that we want to
increase that. But part of our journey as imperfect human
being will make mistakes. And the only way you grow
from the mistakes that you realize that you were blind
and you made a mistake. But after the fact, actually
(23:44):
that mistake or already was written to you by the creator. Yes,
if you would have learned the lessons about what you
need to act better Earlier. You might have keeped that.
But who wrote all our potential destiny with all the
mistakes and less mistakes and less mistake? Who presented it me?
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That's ego tree. My only free will is to split
up the process, to move from a long movie to
a shorter movie more joyous. All the movies was created
and written by the creator, which reminding me the beautiful
teachings of ashleg And is giving the example of an
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orange tree and oranges every fruit in this wall. While
the final destination of the fruit from us the people
who eating the fruit, is to eat juicy, sweet fruit.
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But the fruit is going through a process from the
second the fruit appear on the branches. If you're gonna
taste it, it will be so sour and still sour,
and gradually it will become sweet. When you, as a farmer,
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know that it takes about few years for the fruit
to be sweet. And you're tasting the fruit in a
sour state, are you gonna say it's a bad fruit,
or you're gonna say it's an unripe fruit? And right,
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Ravashlak shares every time you made a mistake, every time
you see in someone else in your partner. Something is wrong,
there's a decision. You judge it as bad, So you're
basically saying the creator is bad when you look at this. Hmm,
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it's unripe because every unripe behavior, selfish behavior, ego behavior,
you can judge it as bad or unripe because the
process of evolution of every attribute. In order to achieve love,
you have to go through many stages of selfishness. It's
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a process. You don't jump to love. You go from
unripe to ripe, like a fruit needs to go from
unripe to ripe. The attribute of love, the attribute of
true creativity egoless in an egoless way. So every beautiful
attributes and beautiful behavior caughture the process of unripe. To write, so,
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let's say you hurt someone in the process of being
controlled by your anxiety and fear. You can call it bad,
but in a context of the bigger picture is it
Are you really bad or this particular attribute? Takeful responsibility.
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It was a mistake, but it's simply unripe. And by
taking that responsibility with acceptance and eventually with self love,
you allow the process of unripe to become more ripe
more elevated when when you behave poorly towards someone that
(27:34):
you love, and you dwelling guilt and shame and still
judge yourself for a while, ask yourself the question is
that guilt and shame and self judgment help you to
become better next time? In you to heal your attributes
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and to become more caring and more love. It does
the opposite from my experience. Guilt is the permission to
do the same thing again. Is the illusionary I'm punishing
myself now through guilt. Now I'm free, I can do
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it again. It doesn't help us instead of being brutally
honest it was wrong and will even to celebrate mistake.
But I know it's part of my process to become better.
And I'm loving myself and my attitude towards myself is
not I'm just a sour fruit. I'm man ripe, but
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I believe in myself. That's part of the evolution of life.
Imagine you look at your child and they did something
wrong and you say you are bad instead of smiling, Wow,
what a beautiful soul. Say going to the process of
evolution and growth, and imagine people that you love partners, spouses.
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How many relationships being destroyed because we have a fixed consciousness.
What you've done is bad period, instead of unripe. And
I'm not suggesting that we should any person that behave
in a certain poor ways should be their best friend.
But the people in our environment, which we know deep
inside in our ticoon, they're helping us to grow their
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unripeness because it's triggered within us the opportunity to become
like the Creator. The Creator look at all of us.
Are we ripe, beautiful being that align with God one
hundred percent? Not yet, but the Creator sees and loves
us by the full ripeness.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
I love it, and I'm just thinking one other. I mean,
if somebody needs motivation to put what you're talking about
out in practice. The cabalists also teach that when you
are in that space of accepting and celebrating, you take
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all of the previous times you behaved that way and
you turn those dark moments into light moments. So it's
not only yes, you're growing, you're becoming a better person.
How you behave in the present and the future also
changes how your past affects you. And to know that,
(30:33):
at least for me personally gives me greater motivation. Yeah,
you know, I exploded, I lost my temper there a
minute ago, and I feel terribly, But I also know
that I'm doing better and better, and next time it'll
take more to get me there, or I'll get there
for a second and come back to myself. But that
work in progress, that ripening journey is something that all
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of us are in and to know that it worked
in all directions and not just in this moment, to
me is deeply inspiring and I hope everybody can take
it to heart this week because the healing in the
present moment also heals the past, which definitely has a
dramatic effect on where we are going forward. Weekly Energy
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At
Good morning everyone, good evening, good afternoon wherever you are,
and welcome to this week's a weekly energy boost. My
name is Elisheva and I'm here with Aton, and today
we're talking about how to release and heal from one
of the greatest plagues of the twentieth century, and that
is guilt. I don't think anybody is exempt. Maybe there
(00:36):
maybe I shouldn't say that. Maybe there are some people
that do not are not bothered or affected by feelings
like guilt, blame and shame. But the combination this week
of both the weekly energy and the fact that we're
we just started the month of Capricorn, which if you're
a Capricorn or you know someone who loves Capricorns, you
(00:57):
know that one of the tendencies that can hinder the
shining of their great light is how hard they are
on themselves and how seriously they take everything. And the
Cabalysts teach that whenever the problem arises, the solution comes
before the problem, the cure comes before the illness. So
(01:20):
we have the opportunity this week to inoculate ourselves from
the areas in our lives where guilt plagues us the
most and really learn to develop a completely new perspective,
which is what our goal with you in the next
little while is, is to share with you the wisdom
and tools that can help you free yourself from the guilt,
(01:41):
the unhealthy guilt that's standing in your way from you
shining more of your own unique light. Weekly Energy Boost
is a seven day spiritual weather forecast where we provide
our listeners with the most powerful and practical tools to
navigate the coming seven days. We do that because we
practice and study the wisdom of Kabbalah, so and every
(02:03):
episode we share the wisdom, the tools, the consciousness, and
even stories about people doing this work, so that every
episode ends up revealing wisdom and tools you can use
not only this week, but any week of your life.
And because we're now writing on the coattails of Hanukah
and we've just begun the month of Capricorn, we have
(02:25):
renewed energy that we can focus toward diminishing the influences
that prevent us from shining that light. And really, to me,
it's a version of darkness that comes up for us.
And one of the gifts that we receive this week
of Hanukah is the energy to transcend our challenges, and
(02:48):
as a person who works with individuals who are trying
to live these principles, I find that one of the
top challenges people face in their spiritual journey is guilt,
dealing with decisions they made in the past that were
shortsighted or from a limited place, mistakes as they call them,
(03:09):
that they made things when they hurt people or were selfish.
And how can we in this week utilize the energy
not only to heal the past, but going forward to
use those moments that we could easily let hold us
back and break us down. How can we use those
moments to grow, to expand and to heal aton Where
(03:31):
should we begin?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
You know, here is the paradox. In one hand, when
you take seriously your purpose in life, which is transformation, grow, delevation, purity,
So every spiritual mistake, every mistake, every moment you hurt people,
every time you're not aligned with your soul and you've
been taken by your ego, by your negative side, by
(04:01):
your reactive it will bother you and a person that
truly care will be bothered, will be upset about mistake.
If not, you don't care in one end. In the
other hand, when you're bothered too much, or when you
dwell in shame and in guilt too much, then you're
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not having the strength to move forward in new spiritual path.
So really, in this episode, we really would like to
reframe mistakes, not to dismiss mistakes, to grow from them,
(04:46):
to learn from them, but how do we transform energy
of guilt to energy of growth? And I would like
to start with a there's a story in the Zoar
which was a discussions between in the angels that assisted
the Creator in creating mankind and the Creator and the said,
(05:09):
You're about to create a human being that's gonna seem
gonna make so many mistakes, gonna be so low, the
opposite of your nature. Why And the Creator answered, I,
Mistakes are part of the path of humanity. Mistakes are
(05:33):
actually giving human being the opportunity to get higher if
you woun't make mistakes. So actually mistakes are part of life.
Wrong actions are part of life. None of us can
(05:56):
say I never made mistakes, I never short circuit, I
never listened to my ego. We all died and we
all will. The question is how do we reframe our
perspective around mistakes wrongdoing in a way that it can
(06:21):
actually perpetuate growth and elevation. So that's that's really. We
want to be perfect, we want to be better, we
want to be elevated, but part of our path will
be mistakes. So where would you start and maybe maybe Elisheva,
(06:42):
can you share with us how is it connected to
the story of this weekly portion.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Yeah, that's that to me is the best illustration of
what we're talking about, because, as we've been sharing in
the last few weeks, the main character in the tour
portions has been Joseph, and we come to the point
in the story where as we spoke about a few
weeks ago, his brothers lost everything. There's a famine, they
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could no longer make ends meet, and at the time,
the Egyptian Empire ruled over hundreds of countries, and they
came to Egypt to ask for support, to ask for
a government handout loan, and of course Joseph was responsible
for the wealth of the Egyptian Empire, so they came
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to Joseph. Joseph recognized them immediately, and at a certain
point Joseph revealed himself to his brothers and said, you know,
it's me Joseph, And of course they were shocked because
they had sold him years before and for sure at
that point thought he must be dead, and they the hug.
(07:53):
It's very emotional, and at a certain point, one of
the brothers, Hudah, comes to Joseph like he can he
can't contain himself anymore. He feels so terrible and at
the same time is looking at the greatness of his
brother and it's like there's this ultimate reconciliation that takes place,
(08:15):
this ultimate breakdown in a way of the ego of
the like. Really, the unification that happens in that point
takes everybody's movie to the next level. And a big
part of that story, according to Kabbalah, is Joseph's perception right.
He says, I have nothing to forgive you for you
(08:37):
didn't do anything. The Creator made you do it because
I had to get to Egypt in order to fulfill
my soul's purpose.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
I had to be.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
Thrown into the pit and into prison and everywhere that
I've been because it wouldn't become And this is, I think,
is what we need to remember. If not for those
low moments, and Joseph had his moments of uncertainty and weakness,
if not for those moments, he would not be the
chariot for the energy of Yasaud and the second to Farah,
(09:06):
and all the levels that he achieved were because of
where he had been. He was able to have that
perspective and completely release any blame, hatred anger to his
brothers for what they did. Like he could, he saw
the hand of the creator, even in what looked like
was selfish and damaging and wrong. And so I think
(09:29):
for us, obviously it sounds like a superhuman you know,
transformation elevation, but I believe that what we can see
and what we can learn from also the way that
the cabalists teach us to reframe mistakes and guilt and
blame and shame is that there is a divine purpose
(09:50):
to it all. And I'm hoping that at least, you know,
between us, we can share those gems, those diamonds really
for our own growth, not only to say it was
a story that happened thousands of years ago, and how
powerful those sous must have been. That's us. Those people
are us, and we have that same ability to use
(10:13):
those moments where we act out of lack, out of fear,
out of doubt, out of worry and understand that those moments,
like you said, it's part of the process of becoming
who we need to be. How can we best deliver
that message? Not only the message, but imagine that the
(10:33):
universe is showing us this week, here's the energy for
the rest of the year. That anytime you fall, you fail,
you you stop short of your of what you're capable
of doing. Tap into the energy of this week, and
you'll have in your reservoir the ability to rise above,
take responsibility and heal from it.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Beautiful and I think, I think in the story that
you describe between the brothers and Joseph with Yehuda, the
leader of the brothers was the one in front of Joseph,
and Youda went through processes step number one. He didn't realize,
he didn't know he made mistakes of selling his brothers.
(11:15):
He thought he did the right thing, and then he
woke up to realize, Wow, I feel so shame, I
feel so guilt. I caust so much pain to my brother,
I cast so much pain to my father. It felt weak.
He felt weak, he felt unenergized, he felt not connected
(11:38):
to the creator. And then then it got to a
deeper level. He realized I take full responsibility by the
miss from the by the mistake and by wrong intention,
and with the fact that I was blinded with my
(11:58):
brother hears and the pain that I cause, I take
full responsibility. Nevertheless, I know that's part of my journey,
and I know without that mistakes, my brother will not
be where he is and the Israelized will not. Eventually
you will leave Egypt because that was the doing of
(12:21):
the line. Nevertheless, I took full responsibility, but not willing
to learn the lessons to change my ways. Actually, one
of the indications you take full responsibility is with you
acting differently. And while Yahood that took responsibility didn't act
properly to protect his brother Joseph, now he was willing
(12:44):
to sacrifice his life to protect the other brother, Benjamin,
so really bad. At the same time, it was a mistake.
But I don't regret any aspects of the past. Rothberg
always shared, learn from your past. Don't regret your past.
(13:08):
Without your past, you wouldn't be who you are today.
It's interesting, before you make mistakes, you need to feel wow,
Please the Creator allow me to do the right thing.
I don't to make mistakes. After you make mistake, you
need to look at this, you know what, Stop being
hard on yourself, dwelling guilty. Initially we all would that
(13:32):
feel better about ourselves, but then wake up face the
brutal truth, the honest truth of what mistakes you've done,
what action you're willing to take. But be present and
know that the Creator is with you, because thinking I'll
never be worthy of the light, that's the opposite of
(13:54):
why the Creator even presented potential mistakes that will make
in this way, and that's the level that you would
have reached. You know. I remember learning with a doctor
that had a major career as a sergeant in in
(14:18):
initial years when he was in his starf in in
residencies that he studied. He made a major mistake as
a beginning doctor that could almost cost a life of someone,
and it turned to be okay, and it was hesitant
(14:41):
should I share it with my main mentor doctor or not,
and he decided to share. So that had doctor for
the department called all the doctors and all the residents
that were there, and he said, let's celebrate the mistake
(15:06):
that our friend just made, because if we don't celebrate mistakes,
and if we're not acknowledged mistakes, will never grow mistakes.
It's part of becoming a better doctor in that particular arena.
So my friend's student that studied me for many years,
(15:28):
that became a major doctor, a leader to so many
other doctors in a unique field from that moment, learned
and actually mentors all the doctors under him. Let's celebrate mistakes.
Our reactive nature is every time we do something amazing,
(15:50):
going to celebrate it and to be proud of it
and to tell other people about it. And every time
we'd make mistakes, something is wrong with me. I'm ashamed,
I feel guilt. Why should I celebrate? It's tough for
me even to accept myself with that mistake. Why should
I celebrate it with others? The strength? Yeah, feel bad,
(16:13):
because if you don't feel bad, initially you don't care.
But then turn that energy to growth, turn that energy
to full acceptance. I've done already. It's exactly in my path.
Not for the sake of mistakes. That's why I am
move on. No, because you want to grow from that mistake.
(16:36):
That's part of the path of transformation and growth. Celebrate
mistakes is the opposite of the energy of killed. It's
actually learning that all those downs are actually potential apps
and growth. And how EGO don't like it, how ego
(16:59):
can perceive ums ourself. I'm good, I'm bad, I'm good,
I'm bad, the good behavior is good? How can I
get better? And the mistake so what we call the
bad behaver. It's part of the process to become even
higher good or good, good or better.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I'm listening to what you're saying, and I'm thinking of
so many teachings that have helped me in my own
journey to leave behind the beating myself up and thinking,
you know, why did I do it? How could I
have been so selfish, so stupid, so whatever. And I'm thinking,
(17:44):
you know, there's a bit of a well, let's say
the main teaching that helped me, and then I have
a question for you about it, because at the same time, right,
we've taught in many different episodes, we've spoken about the
idea that Cabbala's teaches that there is both free will
and predetermination. Right, there's certain aspects of our existence that
(18:08):
are unavoidable. They're going to happen no matter what we do.
And there's certain aspects of the movie that are up
to us to create. So There is a teaching really
that it's like to live as you say, to be
in that dance of in the moment when I have
a decision to make, when I need to take action,
(18:30):
when I need to speak up or make a move,
I need to know that it depends on me, right,
I can't The taking responsibility starts from the beginning of
the process, not only retrospectively. So I need to know
that there is some light for me to reveal and
I need to focus on I must. I want to
(18:50):
do my best with it. What's the highest version of
this movie that I can create? Obviously we're not there
all the time, you know, everybody gets impatient, has a
you know, a bad move. That we're human, right, and
in those moments there's light as well. But once we've
made the decision, once the day is done, the Cabitalists teach,
at the end of the day, we need to know
(19:11):
that the creator.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Did it all.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
It wasn't even us. And that mindset for me, on
one hand, it's a deeply you know, I want to
say spiritual. It's maybe too easy of a word to use.
It's like a really if you let it in and
you understand that everything that in our existence, from the
people in our family, the people on the street, every
(19:34):
moving part of our life is orchestrated by the Creator.
You realize you didn't really do that much at all,
even though you take so seriously the mistake you made,
the words you use, the attitude you have, and being
in you know that place of when it's in front
of me, it's only up to me. I'm the only
one that can do it. And when it's behind me,
(19:56):
I actually didn't do anything at all. It was all
the light of the Creator. So I think it's also
possible to get confused in that moment, Right, Do I
have free will? Did I make any choices? Or is
Cabbala saying the creator gave me the thoughts? I didn't
even really do anything. Is that really what we're teaching?
And I know the answer is no. But at the
(20:16):
same time, I wonder it's very easy to use this
teaching as an excuse. Yeah, I yelled at my kids.
The light made me do it. Yeah, I know, cut
somebody off in traffic. The light made me do it.
How do we balance between taking responsibility and the light
of the Creator is behind everything.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
That's a beautiful question, and I think it's important to
see the big picture. So in the big picture, we
all in a journey of transformation from selfish to selfless
foom driven by ego to driven by soul, from doing
(21:05):
actions we need for recognition or doing action for the
need and the pure intention to get closer to the Creator,
for manifesting one percent of our potential, to manifest one
hundred percent of our potential and becoming closer to the Creator,
beamed like the Creator and becoming a pure channel. That's
the journey that all of us came to this world.
(21:26):
So what is the free will? Will it take a
hundred tiers to get to that ultimate potential that already
cabalistically existed in the perfected dimensioned? Or will it take
two lifetimes five flight time, hundred lifetime, two hundred lifetime.
We're all going to get there, So it's given now
(21:49):
more we'll learn faster, will learning the lessons of how
to become better, to become less controlled by our ego,
by our reactive nature, faster in the world of time,
(22:10):
the world of process, the world of time, it's only
our world, and that's our free will. Will it be
longer or sooner? Will be filled with a lot of
pain or much less pain, much more joy. That's the
test of our humanity. All of us as humanity will
arrive to the final destination, which is sheer consciousness or love.
(22:33):
That that bus yourself and each one of us is individual.
While yes, I would like to wake up to all
the lessons that they can do in life. But one
of the greatest ways to wake up from mistakes after
the fact, after the fact, is to learn that mistakes
(22:59):
was part of my path. Now it's your business to
learn from it. So what you're saying, elisha Eva, in
one end, we have the consciousness every second matter. Make
sure to make choices that comes from soul. Don't fall,
don't fall into the ego. Absolutely, and we would love
to increase the moment that we aware, we are mindful,
(23:22):
We realize everything is a test that we want to
increase that. But part of our journey as imperfect human
being will make mistakes. And the only way you grow
from the mistakes that you realize that you were blind
and you made a mistake. But after the fact, actually
(23:44):
that mistake or already was written to you by the creator. Yes,
if you would have learned the lessons about what you
need to act better Earlier. You might have keeped that.
But who wrote all our potential destiny with all the
mistakes and less mistakes and less mistake? Who presented it me?
(24:08):
That's ego tree. My only free will is to split
up the process, to move from a long movie to
a shorter movie more joyous. All the movies was created
and written by the creator, which reminding me the beautiful
teachings of ashleg And is giving the example of an
(24:32):
orange tree and oranges every fruit in this wall. While
the final destination of the fruit from us the people
who eating the fruit, is to eat juicy, sweet fruit.
(24:52):
But the fruit is going through a process from the
second the fruit appear on the branches. If you're gonna
taste it, it will be so sour and still sour,
and gradually it will become sweet. When you, as a farmer,
(25:17):
know that it takes about few years for the fruit
to be sweet. And you're tasting the fruit in a
sour state, are you gonna say it's a bad fruit,
or you're gonna say it's an unripe fruit? And right,
(25:40):
Ravashlak shares every time you made a mistake, every time
you see in someone else in your partner. Something is wrong,
there's a decision. You judge it as bad, So you're
basically saying the creator is bad when you look at this. Hmm,
(26:02):
it's unripe because every unripe behavior, selfish behavior, ego behavior,
you can judge it as bad or unripe because the
process of evolution of every attribute. In order to achieve love,
you have to go through many stages of selfishness. It's
(26:22):
a process. You don't jump to love. You go from
unripe to ripe, like a fruit needs to go from
unripe to ripe. The attribute of love, the attribute of
true creativity egoless in an egoless way. So every beautiful
attributes and beautiful behavior caughture the process of unripe. To write, so,
(26:46):
let's say you hurt someone in the process of being
controlled by your anxiety and fear. You can call it bad,
but in a context of the bigger picture is it
Are you really bad or this particular attribute? Takeful responsibility.
(27:12):
It was a mistake, but it's simply unripe. And by
taking that responsibility with acceptance and eventually with self love,
you allow the process of unripe to become more ripe
more elevated when when you behave poorly towards someone that
(27:34):
you love, and you dwelling guilt and shame and still
judge yourself for a while, ask yourself the question is
that guilt and shame and self judgment help you to
become better next time? In you to heal your attributes
(27:57):
and to become more caring and more love. It does
the opposite from my experience. Guilt is the permission to
do the same thing again. Is the illusionary I'm punishing
myself now through guilt. Now I'm free, I can do
(28:18):
it again. It doesn't help us instead of being brutally
honest it was wrong and will even to celebrate mistake.
But I know it's part of my process to become better.
And I'm loving myself and my attitude towards myself is
not I'm just a sour fruit. I'm man ripe, but
(28:43):
I believe in myself. That's part of the evolution of life.
Imagine you look at your child and they did something
wrong and you say you are bad instead of smiling, Wow,
what a beautiful soul. Say going to the process of
evolution and growth, and imagine people that you love partners, spouses.
(29:03):
How many relationships being destroyed because we have a fixed consciousness.
What you've done is bad period, instead of unripe. And
I'm not suggesting that we should any person that behave
in a certain poor ways should be their best friend.
But the people in our environment, which we know deep
inside in our ticoon, they're helping us to grow their
(29:26):
unripeness because it's triggered within us the opportunity to become
like the Creator. The Creator look at all of us.
Are we ripe, beautiful being that align with God one
hundred percent? Not yet, but the Creator sees and loves
us by the full ripeness.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
I love it, and I'm just thinking one other. I mean,
if somebody needs motivation to put what you're talking about
out in practice. The cabalists also teach that when you
are in that space of accepting and celebrating, you take
(30:11):
all of the previous times you behaved that way and
you turn those dark moments into light moments. So it's
not only yes, you're growing, you're becoming a better person.
How you behave in the present and the future also
changes how your past affects you. And to know that,
(30:33):
at least for me personally gives me greater motivation. Yeah,
you know, I exploded, I lost my temper there a
minute ago, and I feel terribly, But I also know
that I'm doing better and better, and next time it'll
take more to get me there, or I'll get there
for a second and come back to myself. But that
work in progress, that ripening journey is something that all
(30:57):
of us are in and to know that it worked
in all directions and not just in this moment, to
me is deeply inspiring and I hope everybody can take
it to heart this week because the healing in the
present moment also heals the past, which definitely has a
dramatic effect on where we are going forward. Weekly Energy
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