S4-E5: Nervous System Dysregulation, Co-Regulation and Self Regulation with Dr. Abrar Hussain

Dr. Abrar Hussain is back to help us stand on some foundational concepts as it relates to all things #NervousSystemIntelligence. We cover the 3 nervous system states, why they matter, what creates them and how to navigate each one .I find myself asserting that our nervous system is 80% of the solution. That being stuck in a spin cycle of anxiety, tension, over analysis, scarcity and unhelpful behaviours is repairable. In my experience, long term, sustainable repair is found by working with, and through, your nervous system. 

CAT Basics (Quick Recap)

Cognitive Analytic Therapy (CAT) explores relational patterns—especially how we relate to ourselves and others through learned roles. These patterns shape how we respond emotionally and physiologically.

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1. Nervous System Dysregulation

What it is:
Your system is overwhelmed—stuck in fight, flight, or freeze. Emotions are intense or shut down.

CAT lens:
Often rooted in past roles like criticised, neglected, or abandoned. The nervous system learned to stay on alert due to early relationships.

Examples:

• Overreacting to small things

• Feeling numb or unsafe

• Trapped in repeating emotional loops

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2. Co-regulation

What it is:
Calming through connection. Another person’s steady presence helps you feel safe.

CAT lens:
Reflects roles like soothing to soothed. In therapy or healthy relationships, this helps rewrite old patterns of fear, rejection, or abandonment.

Examples:

• Talking to someone who listens

• Feeling calmer with a trusted person nearby

• Therapist offering a regulated, grounding presence

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3. Self-regulation

What it is:
You soothe your own system using awareness and tools. It’s learned, not automatic.

CAT lens:
A sign you’ve internalized healthier roles—like