Lisa Bilyeu sits down with Vanessa Van Edwards—a behavioral investigator, bestselling author, and all-around expert in the science of people—for an unfiltered, practical, and refreshingly relatable conversation.
Vanessa dives into why being smart and prepared isn’t always enough to make a lasting impression, sharing eye-opening stories from Shark Tank and research-backed tips you can use right away. From decoding body language and mastering the subtle art of digital communication, to navigating awkwardness at networking events and setting healthy boundaries without guilt, Vanessa brings her trademark blend of vulnerability and actionable advice.
She opens up about her own struggles with people-pleasing and “fake it till you make it,” revealing how radical transparency and authenticity have transformed her life and career. Plus, get her insider hacks for reading social cues—on Zoom, on dates, in interviews—and creating stronger, warmer connections, even when life (or a pandemic) throws you curveballs.
Whether you constantly feel underestimated, want to feel more confident in any room, or just need a pep talk about loving your awkward self, this episode is packed with the science, stories, and strategies to help you own your impact. Get ready to rethink what it really takes to be seen, heard, and respected—no Spanx required!
SHOWNOTES
00:00 "Effective Panel Preparation Mindset"
07:29 Hot Button Conversations
11:28 "Priming Gender Skills Early"
18:21 Parenthood: From Ideals to Reality
23:24 Confidence and Personal Space Dynamics
30:10 Decoding Personal Space Signals
32:26 "Predicting Crushes by Toe Direction"
41:11 Contempt: Divorce's Key Indicator
44:29 Finding Purpose at Events
50:20 Priming for Successful Meetings
55:11 Embracing Awkwardness as Strength
59:26 "Hiding Our Truths"
01:06:06 Background Choices for Impression Management
01:10:16 Zoom Backgrounds as Personal Statements
01:15:32 The Other Shoe Effect
01:22:07 Zoom Etiquette: Show More Body
01:30:37 Virtual Culinary Experiences
01:31:47 "Missed Storytelling Opportunity with Props"
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