The Real Reason Your Relationships Keep Failing—And How to Build One That Actually Lasts | Matthew Hussey (Fan Fav)

This is a Fan Fav episode. Matthew Hussey returns for his fourth conversation with me, and this time, we’re pulling back the curtain on the secrets—and illusions—of lasting love. Together, we unpack the intoxicating highs of lust, why so many of us mistake chemistry for commitment, and how you can finally spot the difference between short-lived thrill and real, long-term connection. With his usual blend of sharp insight, humor, and practical, no-BS truth, Matthew challenges everything you think you know about “compatibility,” affection, and why consistency—not fireworks—truly matters. Whether you’ve been burned by “bad boys,” stuck on unavailable partners, or just crave the peace that comes from authentic, secure love, this episode is your roadmap to re-writing those old stories and giving yourself the healthy relationship you actually deserve. SHOWNOTES Why we confuse lust, chemistry, and love in new relationships (00:00:29) The truth behind “love at first sight”—and why it’s often a story told by the victors (00:02:24) Attention vs. intention: How to recognize someone’s real investment in you (00:04:09) Why dazzling moments aren’t the real test—what matters on an average Tuesday (00:09:12) Why we chase inconsistency—and how scarcity tricks us into seeing value (00:17:41) The power of naming your needs, playfulness, and building a culture of honesty from day one (00:13:18) Letting go: How to heal, avoid vilifying your ex, and actually trust yourself again (00:34:35) Why communication, not perfection, will save your relationship as you both change (00:38:07) Curiosity and humility: The underrated tools for breaking old patterns and building true love (01:00:04) How to rebuild faith in dating after heartbreak, and Matthew’s advice for reclaiming your power (00:55:10) FOLLOW MATTHEW HUSSEY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthussey/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thematthewhussey CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices