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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Mojo in the Morning.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
So Anna Rob is about to be a month into
this Mojo in the Morning Show. It's crazy to think.
How sasty is the week?
Speaker 3 (00:07):
Three weeks right, so I started like a little after
the rest of the month.
Speaker 4 (00:11):
It feels like you've been here for a while. I
was just telling somebody, I feel like you fit right in. Yes, seamlessly.
Really love you too.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Yes, the right decision was made.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Listen to this though, Anna Rob joining the Mojo on
the Morning Show has not been all that great though
for her when it comes to her friends, what's the story?
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Okay, I don't love how you set that up. So
I'm gonna do a little bit of a.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Back Wait a second, I thought I liked you.
Speaker 5 (00:43):
I like it.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
She was a little messy. She's correcting me. Go ahead,
tell me the story topic. She but okay. So here's
the deal.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
As many of you know, I grew up in White
Lake and moved to Detroit around five years ago. When
I moved here, not only was I physically distant from
my family and friends that I grew up with. I
also like became unbelievably invested in my career and doing
whatever it took to succeed like I was hustling. There's
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no better way to put it. I was just hustling
and always working or figuring out how I could elevate
my TikTok, my personal brand. And on the camera, like
what you would see that I'm posting, it looks like
I'm living this very glamorous life. But it was not.
That was not it. It was very much like getting
it out of the mud. And I have a friend
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group that I grew up with my entire life. So
we lived in the same neighborhood, we went to the
same kindergarten, high school, college, which I'm learning is not
super common, but like a group of five of us,
and we have been close our entire lives. But I
became distant once I moved to Detroit because I was
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so invested in my career. I was physically farther away
from them, and I just felt like I had to
do what I had to do.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Which a lot of people I think can relate to
that when they started a new job, or they go
way somewhere to college or wherever it is.
Speaker 4 (02:15):
Proximity is a factor in friendship changes it, yeah, but.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
It genuinely took me like four years, the past four
years to get to a place where I now feel
comfortable in my career, to where like, Okay, I don't
have to go to every event, I don't have to
do this. I could go hang out with my friends.
But now I feel like all of my friends and
even my family, like all of those relationships are suffering
because I was so distant for like four years or
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like the past however many years, and I just I'm
now trying to reach out to them, but I'm getting
pushed back like, well, where have you been? Like now
you want to hang out? And I admit, like I
know that I'm at fault. I could have done a
better job communicating and stuff, but like on my side
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of it, I also feel like where were you guys?
Like I was crying on my kitchen floor, like I
didn't know how I was going to pay my rent.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
But they didn't see that because right because you weren't community.
When you live the.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Life of somebody that does, you know everything on social media.
Social media is such a to be honest with you,
I hate to say it, it's a kind of a
fake world out there. Sometimes it's a where the person
you see everything and you go, oh, this person's got
everything great going on. But that's what they show you.
A lot of times you don't see the struggles that
you're going through and what's happening. But I'm surprised you
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didn't turn to those friends as a you know, you
didn't use their them as comfort to tell you, like
what you were going through.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
I also made a lot of friends. Like another part
of this is that they're all in the same industry.
They're all in the medical field. They they do doctor stuff.
I don't know what they do. I made my friends
in my industry so like people that I work with
a lot or can help me. So there's just differences.
But I love them so much and I miss them.
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But now I just feel like, is it too late.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
For me, especially true friendships, and not to mention.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
They're all in such different places in their lives now,
like getting married, having kids, and I haven't even had
time to date, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
One of the biggest regrets I have in my life.
And Shannon and keV and Lydia and Beyonca and everybody
have heard me talk about my buddy Brad Yeager. Brad
it's like my best friend since you know, kindergarten. One
of my biggest regrets was I did not have him
as a groomsman in my wedding.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I actually didn't even invite him to my wedding.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Are you serious?
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Crazy?
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Was because we were kind of distant because I was
doing what you did. I became the radio guy that
moved across the country and out of sight, out of mine,
and so I had radio friends and then my family
in the wedding. And I regret. He and I both
have had conversations. I didn't go to his wedding, he
didn't go to my wedding, and we both regret that
it's never too late to become friends again. And what
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for me, what it was, it was a funeral that
brought us together. So it was the death of Dad
that ended up bringing the two of us back together again,
because you know, it usually happens you go back to
your hometown. Yeah, you know, when somebody in the family
dies or you know, gets married.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
So did you talk about the issues or did you
just sort of just become friends?
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Can I tell you what we have as a friendship.
Anything that was a bad situation we kind of never
brought back up again, and we occasionally will reference it
like a moment where we didn't get along with each other,
but we have that understanding with each other that hey,
we were both in two different lives at that time.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Would it be uncomfortable for you, Oh go.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
Ahead, KEVN Sorry, would you feel uncomfortable going to them
and saying because I've had to do this before, I
to MODO's point, I really I want a relationship with you.
I understand we've fallen off over the past couple of years,
but like, I want this, I want to continue and
I want to you know, I want that, and I
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know where I went wrong and apologize or are you
kind of waiting for them to do that?
Speaker 3 (06:07):
No, I think I know I need to do that.
So something actually recently happened. They were all getting together
and they invited me and I canceled last minute because
we got invited by Priority Waste to go to the
Tigers game. I was like, this is my first outing
with the team, like I need to be there. And
one of them called me and they're like, not gonna lie, Like,
we're kind of upset that you just always blow us
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off for work.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
This is why they hate them the show, So it
is I was right when I did the intro to
the show, so.
Speaker 3 (06:35):
I got brought up and I talked about it with
one of the girls. But I don't know, I feel uncomfortable.
I also feel like there's four of them and one
of me, and I just am like, I don't know
if they can see my side of it. But I'm
also willing to take like accountability. I know I was
not a good friend.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I think, so like two things come to mind.
Speaker 6 (06:55):
The first thing you said about hustling on your grind
having a goal, I think elevation sometimes requires isolation, and
there are things that you have to do alone in
order to get where you're going that you just can't
do if you got everybody with you. So I don't
fault you for that. The second thing I want to
say is and shout out pastor for this. But a
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lack of communication leads to imagination, and when you aren't
communicating the reality of the situation, the only thing people
have left to do is make up.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Stuff that's true.
Speaker 6 (07:30):
And the longer you allow that time to go, the
crazier the thoughts are, and the more the thoughts are,
And sometimes it requires you to just strip off everything
you got and just be completely honest with them, and
I guarantee you they'll love you because they'll see who
they loved originally.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
It's still in there. Yeah, I feel that. And Hickory
Dickery Dock the Mouse ran up the clock, keV.
Speaker 4 (07:56):
Says something Sometimes I'm like, I'm just going to shut
because nothing's going to be that good.
Speaker 1 (08:03):
I do.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
I will say this to you if you don't want
these girls as friends, I'm assuming they're probably cute.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
I live close to White Lake, Michigan.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
If they want a friend, I'll drive from West Bloomfield
to go visit them.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
We'll go hang out. What's that more thing?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Go ahead, wait, go ahead. What we're gonna say? What's
you want is?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I think it's tough because they grew up with me
and I've become a much different person.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
So like they see the changes in me.
Speaker 3 (08:26):
And even one of them said to me, like, we
just want to hang out with Anna, and I'm like
this is.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Me, Like I'm I'm more happy than I've ever been.
Like this is me. I make all my friends they
grew up with me as Tom call me Mojo. I
say to them, you call me mojo, or don't talk
to me at all. Derek, what's going on? How you doing?
Speaker 7 (08:46):
Good morning, guys.
Speaker 8 (08:47):
How's it going?
Speaker 1 (08:47):
My name good?
Speaker 2 (08:48):
I'm in silly today, buddy. I didn't get much sleep
last night, but go ahead. What's happening?
Speaker 8 (08:54):
Oh? Not much.
Speaker 6 (08:55):
I was just gonna comment about Anna.
Speaker 8 (08:56):
I'm a fellow water Laker two thirty nine years and
it's good to hear that someone from white.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
Likes on the radio.
Speaker 8 (09:02):
But other than that, friends are going to probably dissipate
because they don't want their.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Business to be involved on the topic or something like that.
Speaker 5 (09:10):
You know, they're.
Speaker 8 (09:11):
Naturally just going to move away from you.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Oh great.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
That happens from time to time where friends get a
little upset about this. But sometimes I actually it's good
to get that side of you on the air, like
it's like your your life growing up in who you
were growing up. Is great for the listeners to be
able to hear because they'll be able to relate to it,
you know.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
But Derek, where do you live now? What's that? Where
do you live now? I still live in White Lake.
Speaker 3 (09:42):
I actually operate my window cleaning company out of like.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Okay, what's the name of it.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
Chapel's Window Cleaning, all right, right.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
I like it.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Well, thanks for listening, buddy, appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
My buddy.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Brad lives in the same hometown that I grew up
in my whole life, and and there's part of me
that honestly is as I got older, jealous, I wish
that I still lived in that little town and never
moved out. And the best part that happened to me
was meeting Chelsea. I would have never met her and
had our boys, but it was so cool to see
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like him, Like he called me it was Summerfest this
weekend at our church, Saint Mike's, and he was like, hey,
I'm going to Summerfest. Remember those days? And it brought
back memories to me, like, oh that was. You know,
it's kind of kind of neat, you know that. You
get that, so you get you're lucky because you live
in the same you know, proximity, so you can drive
thirty minutes or forty minutes and go home.
Speaker 3 (10:38):
It's good and bad because it's like close enough to
drive and go home, but like far enough, like it's
still a it's a drive.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
There was a wise man named John bon Jovi that said,
who says you can't go home?
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Huh? Sure you never hear that song. No, you got
to play that after this because it's his life. It's
now or never. What's at Rachel? Hi? Rachel? Hi? How
are you goodhead? What's going on?
Speaker 7 (11:03):
I was just calling a comment to say, you know,
the same thing happens, you know when you have kids
and you're in different stages of your life in your
friend Yeah, I had the friends that I met in college.
We were all in nursing school, so we were all
partying and going out and doing things. And then like
I was one of the ones that first started having kids,
and then everything kind of gets distant and you kind
of have to have book conversations like I'm at this
stage of my life, like either you're going to be
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in with me in that stage of life, and like
your friends should be supporting you too, you know, when
you're making these new changes and doing better things with
your life, you know, and then if they don't, you know,
they're kind of not friends.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
That was the hardest transition for me, Like you hit
the nail on the hud with that. We're you're already
experiencing so many emotions being a new mom, and you're
also like, but where did all my friends go like,
that is so tough.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Megan, what's up?
Speaker 8 (11:51):
Hey, I just want first of all, I want to
say I'm a first time a long.
Speaker 1 (11:54):
Time what's what?
Speaker 7 (11:57):
So long?
Speaker 8 (11:59):
Thank you for having me personally, Anne, I just want
to say, welcome to the show, and I'm so happy
that you are part of the family. And I also
very much appreciate the fact how vulnerable you were. That
is like a really tough conversation but so relatable to
so many millennials. Yes, kind of like going off of
what the previous colors of saying, like, I feel like
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once you enter in different phases.
Speaker 5 (12:23):
Of your life, friendships get really hard and it's so
hard to keep those connections and those friendships because naturally
you drift away and it's like almost like you're just
sad that like you're not the same person, but like
you were saying, you're so happy and so you want
to celebrate being happy in your new phase of life.
But it's so hard when like friends like aren't like
growing with you at the same time. So I just
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want to say thank you for sharing that because it's
so relatable to so many people.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
You know, it's great.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
I'm so glad you said that in the words that
you said, because I've been trying to talk to Anna
and I think she gets it. She's gotten in such
a short period of time that you guys, our listeners
are thirteen faithful friends. You guys like when we communicate
things that you can say, Oh, I'm going through this
or I went through this. And that's why these topics
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that we do on our show, I think are so
valuable for people to be able to hear.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
As they're going into work or school or whatever.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
This is a great conversation to have on the air
because guarantee you there are many people that either are
going through this, have gone through it, or will go
through it.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
So I think that that's awesome. So should I have
talked to them before I went on air? No? You
always do it on the air.
Speaker 5 (13:32):
No.
Speaker 4 (13:32):
And also I think like this might spark a conversation.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
This is going to kickstart you or them. We'll see