What I Wish I Knew In My Single Season

Are you navigating the often-challenging waters of being single? In today's episode, we delve into what cherished married couples wish they had known during their single season. The path to love is rarely straightforward, but embracing this period can lead to profound personal growth and preparation for a future partnership. This episode features heartfelt testimonies that highlight trusting God's timing, embracing purpose, and working on oneself before entering a relationship. 

We share inspiring biblical examples from individuals like Paul, Ruth, and the ultimate example of Jesus. Each story illustrates how one can thrive in their single season, viewing it as a time for God-driven fulfillment rather than merely a waiting period. Join us as we unwrap these lessons together, encouraging you to trust in God’s unique timing while nurturing your spirit and personal purpose. 

Whether you're single by circumstance or by design, this episode aims to shift your perspective to see your current phase as a beautiful opportunity for growth. Subscribe today and start your journey toward a more fulfilling and purposeful life as a single individual!

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Episode Transcript

Renee Richel (00:07):
Hi, I'm Renee Richel, the founder and
president of 1 True Match.
I'm here to help you find andcultivate the love of your life.
For over a decade, I'vededicated my life to the
importance, purpose and dynamicof human relationships.
My team and I are disciplinedby faith, love and integrity to
help our clients find thequality relationship they've

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always dreamt of.
Each week, I will be sharingthe tools and tips I've learned
that have rooted my success as amatchmaker with other leaders
around the world.
Hello, loves, welcome back.
I hope you have had anincredible week.
I'm excited today to dive intowhat I wish I knew in my single

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season.
I can't believe we've made itto the season finale of this
series on singleness.
It has been such a blessingwalking through this journey
with you, sharing wisdom,encouragement and, most
importantly, god's truth aboutthis beautiful season of life.
Today we're wrapping it up withsomething special Testimonies

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from our married Christians onwhat they wish they had known in
their single season.
They wish they had known intheir single season.
Plus, we'll look at biblicalexamples of individuals who
thrived in their singlenesswhile serving God's purpose.
So grab your cup of coffee,your tea or whatever beverage of

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choice you want, your journaland let's dive in.
One of the best ways to gainwisdom is to learn from those
who have walked the road beforeus.
I reached out to a few of ourmarried couples and asked them
what's one thing you wish youhad known during your single

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season.
Their answers were so powerfuland I want to share some of them
with you.
So powerful and I want to sharesome of them with you.
First and most important istrusting in God's timing.
Our couples, randy and Julie,shared that they wasted so much
time worrying about when theywould meet the one they wished

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they had trusted God's timinginstead of stressing out about
it.
Looking back, they realizedthat if they had met sooner,
they wouldn't have been readyfor each other.
God's delays are never hisdenials.
In Ecclesiastes 3.11, it sayshe has made everything beautiful

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in its time.
That includes your love story.
Number two embracing purposebefore partnership.
Another testimony came from oneof our clients, bridget, who
said she spent years feelingincomplete about a relationship,
but after surrendering thatdesire to God, she discovered

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that her identity wasn't in herrelationship status.
It was in Christ.
She found purpose in servingand growing spiritually and in
becoming the woman God createdher to be.
And guess what that's?
When she met her husband whenshe was fully thriving in God's

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plan for her.
And last but not least, we needto remember to always develop
healthy habits and boundaries.
Our client, ben, shared that hewished he had worked on his
emotional and spiritual healthbefore marriage.
He admitted that bringingunhealthy wounds into a

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relationship made things hard.
Singleness is a perfect time towork on you, to heal, to grow
and to develop the habits thatwill bless you in your future
marriage.
Develop the habits that willbless you in your future
marriage.
Proverbs 4.23 reminds us Aboveall else, guard your heart, for

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everything you do flows from it.
The Bible is filled with peoplewho maximize their single
season for God's glory.
Let's look at a few of them.
Paul a life of mission.
Paul is one of the bestexamples of someone who used his
singleness to fully pursueGod's calling.
In 1 Corinthians 7, 32-35, hetalks about how singleness

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allows for undivided devotion tothe Lord.
Paul didn't see singleness as awaiting period.
He saw it as an opportunity toserve God wholeheartedly.
Imagine if he had spent daysonly longing for a spouse.
He wouldn't have had much ofthe New Testament.

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Ruth a heart of faithfulness.
Ruth was a widow.
Yet instead of wallowing in herloss, she chose faithfulness.
She stayed with Naomi, workedhard and followed God's lead.
Her faithfulness in her singleseries positioned her for the
beautiful love story God hadwaiting for her, with Boaz the

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key.
She wasn't chasing love, shewas pursuing faithfulness and
putting God first.
Jesus, the perfect example.
Of course, we can't forgetJesus.
He lived a completely singlelife, yet his life was the most

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fulfilled of all.
His purpose was never aboutfinding a spouse.
It was about fulfilling God'swill.
If singleness was good enoughfor the son of God, we can trust
that God has a great plan forus and it will be beautiful.

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So, as we close this season, Iwant you to remember your single
season is not a holding pattern.
It is not a time to sit aroundand wait for life to begin.
It is your time to grow, tothrive, to serve and to draw
closer to God in ways that youmay never get again.

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Marriage is beautiful, but itdoesn't complete you.
Only Jesus does.
If you're feeling discouraged, Iwanna leave you with this verse
Isaiah 40, 31.
But those who wait on the Lordshall renew their strength.

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They shall mount up with wingslike eagles.
They shall run and not be weary.
They shall walk and not faint.
Waiting on God isn't passive,it's active.
So keep running, keep growingand trust that he is leading you
exactly to where you need to be.

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That wraps up our season ofsingleness.
I pray that this series hasblessed you, encouraged you and
challenged you to see yoursingle season as a gift, not a
burden.
If this podcast has encouragedyou, share it with your friends
or others that could really usethis message.
Until next time, keep walkingwith faith, keep trusting in the

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Lord's plan and remember lovealways starts with you and God
first.
Next week we are going to talkabout happily ever after and
beyond, thriving in marriageGod's way.
This is going to start andbegin our marriage series.
And remember listening to thisas a single person, always think

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about the end goal in mind.
I say the trick to all of mysingles is think about marriage
as where you want to go to andwhere to thrive and learn about
what that looks like when you'resingle.
So when you meet that person,you're already enriched and
prepared to be married to theright one.
I hope you have a blessed week.

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Lots of love.
It's been another great talk onthis episode of 1 True Talks by
Renee Richel.
I look forward to our next chat.
Please write in your questionsand comments so I can be sure to
talk about whatever it is youwant to discuss in our next

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upcoming episode.
Lots of love, God Bless.
XOXO.