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SPEAKER_00 (00:01):
Welcome to the final episode of this special series,
What It Truly Means to Heal as aMan.
I'm your host, Lyric Williams,and before we begin, I want to
thank you for walking thisjourney with me through
reflection, through honesty,through the parts of ourselves
that many men spend their wholelives avoiding.
We've talked about childhoodscripts, attachment wounds,

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avoidance, alignment, and loveskills, but today we're going to
talk about what all of thisleads to.
Legacy.
This episode is called Legacy ofHealing, rewriting the script
for our children.
Because everything we'vediscussed, all the pain, the
reflection, the change, it's notjust about you.

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It's about what your healingmakes possible for your children
and for everyone who comes afteryou.
When people hear the wordlegacy, they think of money,
inheritance, success, or status.
But legacy is not what you leavefor your children.

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It's what you leave in them.
It's how they understand love.
It's how they handle conflict.
And it's how they talk tothemselves when they fail.
It's how they feel about God,family, and their own worth.
Every healed part of you becomessomething they never have to fix
in themselves.

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Every secure moment you createbecomes a piece of safety they
carry for life.
That's the true legacy.
A home where peace is normal,not rare.
Now I want to talk to you aboutthe legacy of unhealed men.
Because there's an other sidetoo.

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Generations, that's what we'veinherited.
Pain disguised as strength.
In the homes of our fathers andgrandfathers, love was mixed
often with fear.
Discipline was confused withdominance.
Presence meant physical, notemotional.
And for many of us, affectionwas replaced with alcohol,

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silence, or control.
Now, when trauma and addictionwent untreated, it shaped

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our self-worth, our relationships, and our ability
to feel safe.
And we learn early.
Don't cry, don't talk, don'tneed, and don't trust.
That's the legacy of unhealedmen.
And it's been passed down likean heirloom we've never asked
for.
But now we get to decide if itstops with us.

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Healing breaks generationalcycles.
Not through perfection, butthrough awareness.
I believe it's the father whoapologizes after yelling,
teaching his child that repairis possible.
I believe it's the man whochooses therapy instead of
silence.
It's the dad who learns to say,I love you, even when his own

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father never could.
It's the partner who stays inthe room during conflict instead
of walking out.
Every time you choose healing,you are quietly rewriting your
family's story.
Because children don't needperfect fathers.
They need present ones.
And not just present ones.

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They need present ones that havea presence.
They need fathers who show themthat emotions are not
weaknesses, that honesty is notdanger, and that vulnerability
is not something to hide from.
It's something that connects us.
When a father heals, generationshift.

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A healed father raises securechildren.
Secure children becomeemotionally intelligent adults.
Emotionally intelligent adultsbecome safe partners, and safe
partners raise anothergeneration of secure kids.
That's the ripple effect.

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Your healing becomes a bridge,carrying your family from
survival to stability, fromchaos to calm, from trauma to
trust.
And here's the most importantpart you don't have to be
completely healed to make animpact.
You just have to be honest aboutyour healing.

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And when your child sees you'reworking on yourself, reading,
going to therapy, apologizing,regulating, they learn that
growth is normal.
They learn that men can be bothstrong and soft.
They learn that courage isn'tabout suppressing pain, it's
about facing it.

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And you have a responsibilityand the gift of modeling.
Our kids don't learn love fromwhat we say.
They learn it from what wemodel.
If they see a father who avoids,they'll learn to withdraw.
If they see a father whomanipulates, they learn to

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perform.
If they see a father wholistens, they'll learn to trust.
If they see a father whoforgives himself, they'll learn
grace.
The most sacred part offatherhood is modeling what
healing looks like in real time.
Not hiding your struggles, buthandling them.

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Not pretending to be strong, butshowing what strength really is.
Discipline, self-reflection, andhumility.
When you model healing, youdon't just raise good kids, you
raise whole humans.
Now I want to give you somethingpractical, a way to build your

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legacy of healing withintention.
I call this the healing legacyframework.
One, awareness.
Understand your family'spatterns.
Write down what your parentsmodeled, both healthy and
unhealthy.
Then you have to acknowledge.

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Be honest about how thoseparents, those patterns from
your parents show up in youtoday.
What behaviors, habits, orwounds are you still carrying?
And you may need to talk to yourtherapist for this.
Then you must adjust.
Start small.
Introduce a new habit.

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Maybe therapy, maybe journaling,maybe prayer, communication, or
affection.
The next one is accountability.
You need to share your journeywith your kids, your partner,
your friends.
Healing thrives in transparency.
And the last is applying it, theapplication, modeling it every

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day.
Don't just talk healing, liveit.
This framework is aboutreclaiming your future.
We are not trying to rewrite thepast.
Now, I started this series notas an expert, but as a man who's
still healing.
I'm a father learning in realtime how to balance growth,

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responsibility, my mental healthand healing as well.
A partner that's learning how tostay present even when it's
uncomfortable.
I've had moments where I failed,where I said the wrong things,
where I let stress make medistant, but I've also seen the
difference that healing makes.
How my kids look at me now, howthey talk to me, how they trust

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me.
Every step I take toward healinggives them permission to be
themselves, to feel, to speak,to love without fear.
And that's what this wholejourney is about.
Not perfection, but permission.
The permission to change, thepermission to heal, the
permission to lead from truthinstead of pain.

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I remember my therapist told methis.
I can't remember which therapistit was over the last couple
years, but that I remember thisphrase very distinctly.
And he said, It is importantthat you give yourself the
permission to heal.
I believe it was my therapistthat I'm with right now,
actually.
When I'm now that I think aboutit, she said, give yourself the

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permission to heal.
So as we close this series, Iwant to leave you with this.
Your legacy starts the momentyou decide to heal.
You can't change how you wereraised, you can't erase the pain
of your past, but you can decidethat it ends with you.

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You can decide that yourchildren will inherit peace, not
pressure, honesty, not fear,love, not silence.
Here is your final challengefrom this series.
You're gonna write your ownhealing legacy statement.
You can finish this sentence.

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Write down three things you willmodel differently starting
today.
Put it somewhere visible, yourmirror, your phone, your
journal.
Read it every morning.
And I'll say that again.
Finish the sentence.
Because I chose to heal, mychildren will then write three

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sentences, three things that youwill model differently starting
today.
Put it somewhere.
Your mirror, your phone, yourjournal.
Or read it in every morning.
I want you to read it everymorning.
Because your children arewatching, and one day they'll
say, My dad didn't just love us,he healed for us.

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Thank you for walking throughthis series with me.
If these conversations spoke toyou, share them with another
father, another man, anotherfamily, and remember your
healing is just is not justabout you, it's about the world
you're building through yourchildren and your family and
your partner.
My name is Lyric Williams, andthis has been what it truly
means to heal as a man.

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Keep showing up, keep growing,keep building your legacy one
healed moment at a time.

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