Communication and disrespect S3 Ep33

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Look up with all the things on the bottom. All
our world is you. You're my favorite views.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
But that's not.

Speaker 1 (00:22):
Welcome back family.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
Welcome back you beautiful creatures as.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
You guys see them wearing these giant, awesome head muffs.
We've had technical issues this morning. We would just reset everything.
So there's all of that ship. So today is going
to be the last official, like scheduled record day that
we have. We will be doing something hopefully later this week,
just to keep on track, but Wednesday will not be it.
We are going to be changing our work schedule when
we get back from Costa Rica somehow, I'm not sure yet.

(00:47):
I think that our public live streams are gonna happen
on Monday instead of Wednesday, and then we're gonna probably
do Tuesday Wednesday record days. But that's not set in
stone yet. But we want to be able to start
going back to the gym. We want to be a
to do like life things. We talked this morning a lot,
and like we really do have a crazy busy life. Yeah,

(01:07):
but it's because everything is squished in between a time frame.

Speaker 3 (01:12):
Yeah, and I still have to maintain our home after
that after all of our work shit, right.

Speaker 1 (01:18):
And then with the changes that we have with editors
and all of the other things that's going on, things
are in a weird transition phase yet again, and we're
leaving the studio again starting yeah after June.

Speaker 2 (01:29):
We're all it's all going back to home base.

Speaker 1 (01:31):
If we come back from Costa Rica and are able
to get internet set up right away, I'll probably spend
that first week just moving everything back and getting it
set up, and then make small trips every single day
come and get a single load until everything is moved,
just so that I'm not trying to kill myself moving
all the shit or get everything that I needed to
get that it's like valuable, and then call Trevor and

(01:53):
be like, hey, bro, move all the shit, don't damage
my stuff.

Speaker 2 (01:57):
I think that would be a good idea.

Speaker 1 (01:58):
So anyways, we're also going to have to if when
we figure out our work schedule, we're also going to
have to record a intro that goes before the music
video of our podcast that lets people know that we're
changing our schedule. Because we've changed our schedule so much
at this point that I don't believe that the like
the normal listeners know what our schedule is. I know
Patreon does. Yeah, but I think that everybody else is

(02:19):
kind of just like, oh, look they're doing something today.
Oh look, it must be this day that they're doing
this thing, you know. But I would really like to
be able to I can't wait to have internet at home.
I feel like I feel like a kid who's getting
the internet for the first time, because it's been so
long since we've been able to do shit at the house. So,
but we'll be able to set up that whiskey room,

(02:41):
all the whiskey's gone, get all that shit situated, get
all of our books and our stuff set up on
the bookcases of the way that we want it to look,
and then put up a little system to record and go.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (02:51):
So we will also have a whole lot of stuff
to get rid of, because there's a whole lot of
stuff that's not going to fit in the house. The
upside is where I have to buy a TV for
the man cave. We have one and it's on rollers. Yeah,
so if we're not using it, we can just roll
it up against the wall and it's not out in
the way, you know what I mean, And then when
we want to use it, we just roll it right
in front of us. Right, all right, we got you

(03:12):
got any any housekeeping anything you want to talk about
before we get any emails?

Speaker 2 (03:15):
No, not really.

Speaker 3 (03:17):
My mind is becoming more focused on making sure the
house is put together and the children are taking care
of while we're gone and packing and all of that.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
Yeah. Yeah, the next three weeks is gonna be very,
very rough. I really want to make sure that when
we get back, everything is a very smooth transition back
to work life, because we're gonna be gone for two weeks.
It's gonna be the longest vacation that you and I
have ever taken together. Yeah, and to go that long
without working, and like, there's a lot that goes into that.
And I also still need to go buy another phone.

(03:48):
And I think that when I buy that other phone,
I honestly think that I might retire my iPhone and
just go to a new number.

Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yeah, because there's a lot of people that have that number.
Like I got a text from Sam Alb, the UFC fighter,
the other day, and that was kind of cool, and
that was a good reminder to like not get rid
of that phone. But I don't want to carry I
don't want everybody to be able to access me like that, Like,
it's very nice to be able to just shut that
shit off and people not be able to reach out.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Yeah, you have a lot of phones. I do.

Speaker 1 (04:14):
I do we have that. I have that, the Samsung
that what is it, the S twenty two Ultra or
whatever that I had that I thought was not holding
a charge. It's still at like forty percent. It's been
a week on not not being used, and I could
technically just use it. But Vibe said, do you like
the unplugged phone. I like the features of the unplugged phone,

(04:34):
but I've been on iPhone for so long that moving
to Android system sucks ass for me, and I don't
like there's a lot of limitations on that phone. And
it's like that for a reason, because it's supposed to
be a secure phone, and the more you put shit
on there that's not secure, the more the phone is
no longer secure. I don't know. Maybe that's maybe that's
what I need to do, is just charge that phone
and take that one with.

Speaker 2 (04:53):
Me instead, but maybe save money.

Speaker 1 (04:56):
It would say, say a thousand bucks. Yeah, going on
to some feel good emails, Okay, if this is what
I think it is, you guys are going to cry.
I hope you got your tissues.

Speaker 3 (05:05):
Thank you Patreon from your local pet groomer. Dear Christ
and Peach. I'm writing today to thank you for a
multitude of reasons, so I'll just jump right into it
after this short disclaimer. This may be a bit intense
at first, but it ends happily, I promise. I hope
you're ready for the long haul because I'm going to
provide a lot of detail to hopefully convey just how
much of a difference you have made in my life.

(05:25):
I would like to start by thanking you for doing
what you do with this podcast, for following the path
so carefully laid out for you, despite all of the
negativity and hardships you have endured along the way. Thank
you for choosing to focus on the good, on the
hard work you've done, and on the help you are
providing so many who need it. Lord knows I needed it.
When this podcast came into my life one year ago,
I was sick, terribly sick in both the physical and

(05:46):
mental sense. With my body failing me, my mind was
quickly following the same route. All hope was lost in
my eyes, and I truly believed I was not long
for this earth. Whether it be my hand or God's
that made the call. I learned during those months that
pain is a mighty thing, able to drive any to
their breaking point. As I was in the depths of
my own despair and seemingly endless pain, I prayed. I

(06:06):
begged anything, any creator god of the universe to help me,
helped me to heal both my mind and body, and
to take this pain from me, because I could not
keep living like this anymore. Two days later, my dad
stopped me from taking matters into my own hands. I
recall him telling me that the lifeless look he saw
in my eyes that day after I hugged him and
my mom and said goodbye to my dogs before walking
out their front door, was something that he had seen

(06:28):
in the mirror himself. He said that he knew if
I left, he would not see my eyes again. My
dad begged me not to let the demons win, to
fight a bit more and I would see myself through
to the other side of this war. So I told
him I would try. At the time, I thought he
couldn't truly understand my pain, or he wouldn't have been
there to pull me out of my car. The next day,
while laying in my bed and waiting for things to end,
having completely given up and not wanting to further hurt

(06:50):
my loved ones, you showed up on my FYP. At first,
your content frustrated me. I felt attacked, angry, and resolute
in my beliefs that you were both wrong. Your clips
came out up multiple times, and I remember thinking of
how much you reminded me of my own parents in
both personality and your relationship. Most people would hear that
and think it's a good thing. However, I hated them
at the time and viewed their relationship as an abomination,

(07:12):
weak and sad. I'll explain these thoughts in the full
Turnaround in Perspective thanks to your podcast. From the time
I got my first phone at fourteen, I had social media.
My parents had no clue at the time how vast
and dangerous of a realm I had been given free
access to. As a teen, I spent hours, nights, days
consuming content meant to bolster women, to show us young

(07:33):
girls what to accept for men and how to feel righteous,
and the treatment we doled out to men and the
opposing treatment we were deemed we were to demand of them.
Social media taught me that women who were soft were weak.
Women who were consistent and concise rather than lashing out
emotionally didn't really care, and women should demand the utmost
respect without equal respect given in return, as we were

(07:56):
perfectly justified due to years of being downtrodden. So taught
me that strong men were abusive. Pretty much any form
of pushback from a man was abuse or narcissism, and
that you should never be led by a man least
you find yourself no longer a true woman, a strong woman,
the mantra I can do anything a man can do,
and do it better with a strong theme on social media.

(08:16):
For me, this's all shaped my perspective into my most
in my most formative years. That breaks my heart, right,
I fell into that trap.

Speaker 1 (08:25):
A lot of women do. That's why relationships aren't working anymore.
It's also why men have become frail. Yeah, because they
know that the strong man is not wanted anymore. In
order to get a woman, we've got to downplay our
fucking manliness and be a little snipling bitches about everything,
because that's what you know, society's teaching women to want
a man. Yeah, I hate that shit.

Speaker 3 (08:44):
This is also why our children will not have unrestricted
access to the internet at young ages.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
They're not going to have a phone that doesn't do
any more than text message until they are old enough
to buy their own smartphone. Yeah, and we won't have
a computer that's successible either. If you guys want to
be on the computer to play games or something, they'll
be scheduled times for that shit. Yeah, and it'll be monitored.

Speaker 2 (09:05):
One hundred percent.

Speaker 3 (09:06):
My gosh, me thinking back to when I was, oh gosh,
maybe an early teen thirteen, fourteen years old, and I
would sit on the computer Friday Saturday nights until three
or four o'clock in the morning playing games I should
not have been playing, extremely sexual, inappropriate.

Speaker 2 (09:23):
My parent had no idea.

Speaker 3 (09:24):
Yeah, continuing in the email, then seeing the podcast clips,
I remember feeling frustrated that Peaches was so willing to
lower herself to serve her husband, something I had viewed
as weak in my own mother for a long time.
I fought with my mom constantly and tried to push
her boundaries because I knew she was a weak willed woman.
I mean, look at how she let my father make

(09:45):
final decisions for the house. She allowed him to stand
taller than her and carry the weight of the world.
I couldn't stand that she put him above me as
her child when making decisions.

Speaker 1 (09:55):
Is she said? I mean, look at how she let
my father make the final decision for the house. How
she allowed him to stand taller than her and carry
the weight of the world. How can that be viewed
as a bad thing. Let me shelter you to make
sure that none of this shit lands on you, But
it's a bad thing.

Speaker 3 (10:14):
Yeah, I would rather you be the big, strong oak
so I can be this nice, delicate sunflower.

Speaker 1 (10:19):
Fucking insane to me. It's also crazy to me how
that whole argument in the feminist movement that is that
is all of this bails to realize how important a
roles woman is to a man to be able to
allow him to do that. There is a there is
a lot that you guys have to do in order
for us to be able to do that effectively. It's

(10:39):
just insane to me. Can't It's insane.

Speaker 2 (10:42):
I don't.

Speaker 3 (10:43):
I don't have the ship the shoulders to carry the
weight of the world. Yea, I appreciate that you do
that for me. My job continuing I was meant to
be her number one priority. Right, your kids should come
above all else. Why didn't my own mom seem to
understand that? With that said, I decided earlier on that

(11:03):
I didn't want to be like her. I didn't want
a man to be stronger than me in any way,
and my kids would always be my first priority above
all else. How would I ever be able to live
with myself if I became that kind of woman who
thought otherwise, I would surely hate myself, bail my children,
and secretly or not so secretly, despise my husband. That's

(11:24):
what I had learned from the women on social media.
I also felt that Chris, mirroring my father's own strength
as a man of the house, was overbearing and downright narcissistic.
I had fought with my dad constantly as well. He
would get so upset after explaining something to me three
or four times, always in order to help me, that
it would devolve into chaos, just the way I wanted

(11:45):
it to. I felt he couldn't control me if I
didn't ever allow him to guide me, so we fought.
I fought tooth and nail against every man I met
because I needed to prove my worth as a woman.
Just like all of the other strong women I followed
and revered on social media. I was the alpha, and
I wouldn't be second to any man.

Speaker 1 (12:03):
I wonder if, now that she knows me in real
life and has like actually interacted with me on several occasions,
if she still thinks I'm a narcissist.

Speaker 2 (12:11):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (12:12):
We had that conversation. Yeah, I felt so surevious that
every time my dad tried to help me, it was
taken as an attack, and I responded with venom and fangs,
effectively destroying what was once a very close relationship. Now
let's get to the part where I realized how far
down the social media and doctrination rabbit hole I had fallen,
and how I willingly, willingly, willingly, oh fuck will ing

(12:37):
willingly willingly, I had allowed it to poison my relationships
with family, friends, partners, and coworkers. Your podcast kept coming up,
and I would scroll away, swatting it down like a
gnat I didn't want to deal with, until I eventually
decided to look at an episode that a clip had
come from, if only to hear the nonsense and comment

(12:59):
about how ridiculous it was. Except that didn't happen. Oh
I love that.

Speaker 1 (13:07):
I actually really enjoy it when people get mad at
a clip and they go watch the content and.

Speaker 2 (13:10):
Be like, oh, yeah, me too.

Speaker 1 (13:12):
Yeah, tell me why you're triggered. What's really going on there?
Because something something They aren't right for you to get
mad at something like that.

Speaker 2 (13:18):
This ain't about us, yeah.

Speaker 1 (13:21):
Jenna said, always the ling ling.

Speaker 3 (13:23):
That messes me up. I'm over here. You were checking
whatever you were checking on your phone. I was gonna
wait for you to be done. On over You're like willingly, willingly, willingly.

Speaker 2 (13:33):
That just doesn't.

Speaker 3 (13:36):
My eyes don't compute with my brain on that one,
and then it has to transfer to my vocal cords.

Speaker 1 (13:41):
My goodness, Belle said, that was me triggered as fuck.

Speaker 2 (13:45):
And now we're friends. You love me now.

Speaker 1 (13:48):
I don't think it was you that triggered her, though, Yeah,
I think it was me.

Speaker 3 (13:50):
And now look triggering others you darned too, and oh everyone,
Sierra came in late. Let's all stop conversation and look
at her walk through the door. I wasn't angry with you.
I was angry with myself. Much to my own surprise,
in this episode, I found that you both spoke an
equal measure about mutual respect, love for others and self,

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and gathering the strength to battle your demons, pushing forward
with everything you have while building a relationship that would thrive.

Speaker 1 (14:21):
It was totally me, Yeah, she said, no, it absolutely
was Chris. I did not like how he made me feel.
Jenny said, now, damn it. Now I feel like I'm
in trouble.

Speaker 2 (14:35):
That disappointed.

Speaker 1 (14:35):
Look, damn it, let's stare at them with disapproval. That TikTok.

Speaker 3 (14:40):
Yeah, all right, sorry, No, we love you, Sierra.

Speaker 2 (14:45):
Thank you for coming in even though you're a little
bit late.

Speaker 1 (14:48):
It's funny.

Speaker 2 (14:48):
Yeah, all right, No, she said, I'm sorry. I had
a meeting. Note I was. I was one hundred percent joking.
I was lovingly giving shit. I do that with my
own children.

Speaker 3 (15:03):
Sissy and I will stand there and wait on brother
and be like, we need to watch him walk in
so he knows that we were waiting again, all right, continuing,
I saw you too, sharing looks that spoke of love
and true happiness. I heard Chris speak of the responsibility
he takes onto his shoulders at the start of every
day for the betterment of your lives. I heard Peach

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speak of loving her role in your home, and how
rewarding and natural it felt. I wondered for a moment
if my parents felt the same. I was intrigued by
the truth that I could see behind your words, though
the concept was one I had fought hard against for
so long. So curious, I kept listening through my illness,
through the most trying emotional or deals I have yet

(15:44):
to experience, I listened. The more I listened to you
both speak, the more I realize I lived a life
of hatred while you both lived a life of love.

Speaker 1 (15:52):
Mm. It's like that TikTok you made doing the shimmy. Yeah,
and imagine hating Peaches while she's out here dancing in
the sunlight.

Speaker 2 (15:58):
Yeah. I got a lot of comments about that.

Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yeah, because it's insane to me. We really are living
a good life and we're both very fucking happy and thriving,
and like people hate us for it, it's because they
we have a joy that they lack. It's no different
than me being envious of people's musical talents. Yeah, there's
a part of me that's like, fuck them for being
good at them when I could be good at that
if I just took the time to learn to do it. Yeah,

(16:21):
people could be good at their relationships that they just
took the time to learn to fucking communicate.

Speaker 2 (16:25):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (16:25):
Continuing Not because I was filled with hatred. I realized
this was because I scrolled through the endless perfect women,
strong women, true women, and believed every word they said
as though it was gospel. From a very young age,
at fourteen, I was desperate for acceptance from my peers
and the great world at my fingertips, and I believe

(16:47):
that this was surely the correct way to think. At
twenty one, I found myself within a group of bitter
young women who hated all men, yet were dating men.
It was as though our partners were zempt because they
had chosen such strong, independent women. I want to comment
on that real quick.

Speaker 2 (17:05):
I was.

Speaker 3 (17:05):
I was a part of that group. Fuck all men,
men aren't shit. I can do everything a man can do,
and I can do it better. And I was still
dating men. But the men that I was dating were
different because I hand selected you. You're special, because I
like you. You're not like the other men, because I
see you differently. The high horse that I was sitting on,

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my goodness continuing despite the trouble, I had connecting with
men in real world. Social media still proclaimed that I
was right in my thinking. At the ripe old age
of twenty six, being single, sick, and friendless. Damn, I
found myself wondering have I had it wrong this whole time?

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Never before had that thought entered my mind until watching
that first episode. So I began to dissect my past
relationships and friendships, the fights and the chaos, and then
it hit me. The common denominator of every single one.

Speaker 2 (18:04):
Of them was me.

Speaker 1 (18:05):
It's like we've said that a lot.

Speaker 3 (18:08):
My fuck all men attitude was so strong that I
can hardly believe I managed to find men willing to
date me, let alone enter a relationship with me. My
female friends were volatile towards men and women alike, and
I was right there with them, hating men who lived
in their strengths and hating women who dared to nurture
and live in the light of their feminine energy. I
too was that woman that woman. Did I say women?

(18:29):
I too was that woman. I too was that woman.
I despised any woman who took care of themselves right.
I would go into Walmart, like you remember that website.
The people of Walmart were I was one of those people. Yeah, yeah,
I did not care about my appearance. I thought I
was hot as shit no matter what. I would go

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in ungroomed, wearing ripped clothing, my ass hanging out of
shorts like I was a mess, and all of that
was at my highest weight. Was zero self care happening.

Speaker 1 (19:02):
Pretty delusional when you look back on it.

Speaker 2 (19:03):
Yeah, yes it is. You want to know what one
of my wake up calls was.

Speaker 3 (19:08):
I was walking through Aldi and there was this I
don't know, little five or six year old boy and
he kept.

Speaker 2 (19:13):
Going but but but because of what I was wearing.

Speaker 1 (19:17):
Yeah, And I was like, oh.

Speaker 3 (19:19):
My goodness, Like that was the first real embarrassment I
felt about taking myself in the public and not grooming
me five year old. A five year old hurt my feelings. Also,
children don't care about hurting feelings, not at all. They're
not gonna turn a blind eye or silently judge somebody.

Speaker 2 (19:37):
They're just gonna say it out loud.

Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (19:38):
Continuing, I tried to ignore this revelation and the discomfort
that came with it. After five episodes, I found myself
admitting I was unhappy with the way I chose to
conduct myself and began implementing changes in my life. It
start as small. I won't let my emotions come out first.
I'll pause, think, and then speak. I had the first
phone conversation with my my mom in years where one

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of us didn't hang up or get frustrated. She texted
me later that day to tell me how happy it
had made her. I found myself glowing with happiness for
the first time in months. Then the changes started rolling
in and with the mini firsts. The more I watched,
the more I implemented change, the more change, The more
I changed, the better I felt, The better I felt,

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the more I healed physically and mentally. By the thirtieth episode,
I was walking, eating six small meals a day to
fuel my body in a way it could accept, and
taking care of myself again. By the one hundredth episode,
I was going on a first date in my life
where I didn't show up with a fanfare of attitude
to ensure that this man knew that I was a
strong and independent woman. I arrived humbled. I talked about

(20:45):
my dreams and listened to his, and for the first
time of my life, I felt calm while allowing a
man to lead our evening today. I have watched every
episode you have released, join your discord, and then moved
up to Peach's Sacred Sisterhood group. I'm healthy, both mentally
and physically, seventy five pounds lighter, and I have found
the strength within myself to not only live, but to thrive.

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I found the soft tender parts of my heart and
soul that I had willingly locked within a cage and freedom.
Oh that almost tripped me up. I felt myself stumbled,
but like my hands went out.

Speaker 1 (21:19):
And guys, so before we move on, because we're almost noting,
we have a page and a half left. We heard
all of this already.

Speaker 2 (21:27):
Yes, this was an in person conversation.

Speaker 1 (21:29):
That had all of us standing outside of a dog
room or on the sidewalk and like a massive grocery
store parking lot, fucking sobby big old plaza. Yeah yeah, yeah,
I was like, please just send that in, Please send
that fucking email in.

Speaker 3 (21:45):
I found the soft tender parts of my heart and soul.
Oh I just read that. I'm not willing to try
that again. I nailed it the first time. I see
men and women for the power they possess. Though different,
they are equally beautiful. I am blaeus to have experienced
the first relationship in my life where there was no
yelling love that though we did not stay together, we

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ended things amicably with a discussion, rather than a dramatic
screaming match as I would have done in the past.
I had the confidence to voice my concerns and had
provided him a space where he felt safe to do
the same. Without the guidance your podcast provided, I know
this would have gone down a very nasty, drawn out path.
We'd have stayed somewhere we didn't belong for far too

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long and grown resentful. We would have damaged each other.
Because of the reach your words have through others, a
man who has never seen your podcast had spared another
hurt in his life was spared another hurt in his
life for that. I am endlessly thankful to you. I
no longer hate my parents. Their relationship is a beautiful
union of two souls truly in love, not an abomination.

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I see my mom as the strongest woman in the
world for all she has done to support and prioritize
my dad. I see my dad for the kind, loving
strong man he is. Because of you, Chris and Peach,
I got to tell my parents that I saw them.
I truly saw them. I see love, kindness, and grace.
I have cried with them over my revelations and how

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proud I am to be their daughter, Thanking them for
all that they have done for me and leading by
example a day I'm not sure they ever thought that
they would see. Thank you for changing my life. Thank you,
Peach for helping me understand what it means to be
a strong woman. Thank you, Chris for helping me understand
what a man really is and how they should be respected.
Thank you both for giving me the tools to find

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my true self. Thank you for helping me to see
who my parents really are and how beautiful their marriage is.
Thank you for opening my eyes to the poison I
had so willingly swallowed. I am so thankful that God
showed me exactly what I needed to take the pain
away one year ago. Please keep following this path. There
are no others better suited for your journey. Thank you

(23:52):
above all else for the life I am now living.
This happiness and love would not have been possible without
both of you.

Speaker 4 (24:00):
And many thanks. That's a good one did make me
cry as much as it did the first time. It
definitely got me to water up this time, but the
first time when she was telling us in person, was
fucking out there trying not to like.

Speaker 2 (24:14):
I have an Awakened Women's call with her today.

Speaker 1 (24:17):
Oh yeah, Oh she upgraded to the higher tier.

Speaker 2 (24:21):
She did.

Speaker 1 (24:23):
Love. That just goes to show how much you're actually
changing lives.

Speaker 2 (24:26):
Yeah, I'm fucking trying. I'm not trying. I am.

Speaker 3 (24:30):
Naomi like really drilled into me. Stop saying I'm trying
or I hope because you are. Yeah, And I was like, damn,
She's like, I've seen it.

Speaker 2 (24:40):
I am. I'm doing the thing.

Speaker 3 (24:42):
Speaking of my Awakened Women's group, I have three women's groups,
all different tiers. I have my Women's Thrive Group, I
have my Sacred Sisterhood, and I have my Awakened Women's Group.
All three groups offer something different. Each tier gets more
in depth the higher you go. And I wanted to
ask the ladies who are currently in the chat and Patreon.

(25:03):
I had five spots available for my Awakened Women's group
where they get bi weekly one on one phone calls
with me for one hour where we talk about your
guys's life problem, solve, give advice, celebrate, wins, talk about
losses and try to create your life, mold your life
into what you want it to be.

Speaker 2 (25:24):
All five spots are gone.

Speaker 1 (25:26):
All right, guys. As you know, there was a TikTok scare.
We lost the app for a whole twelve hours and
we have no idea what the future of the app
looks like. And with that, we are very concerned about
the loss of our following. We have a master almost
three million followers across that platform with all four of
our accounts, and we are trying to push people to
other social media platforms to that in the event that
anything happens on one app, we have multiple other backup plans.

(25:48):
If you want to make sure that you're not missing
any content, we highly recommend that you check out our patreon.

Speaker 3 (25:53):
On Patreon, we have multiple tiers to choose from. Starting
at ten dollars, you begin to receive exclusive content. At
fit fifteen dollars a month, you get access to our
private discord server where we've enmassed in an absolutely amazing
community of supportive people. And beyond that, we have other
tiers to check out, along with my two private women's group.

Speaker 2 (26:12):
If that's something you may be interested in guys.

Speaker 1 (26:14):
On our fifteen dollar and higher tier, you have access
to live recordings. We record all of our content three, four,
sometimes five times a week live in front of our
Patreon audience, where they are able to chat with us
while we are recording. They can see all the flirting
and the outtakes, the hot topic conversations that never actually
make it on the podcast, and it's really worth that
aspect in itself. We have an after Dark where we

(26:35):
sit down usually once a week and have a glass
of bourbon or and Peach's case of glass of wine
and a bowl of cheese, and we have a whole
lot of fun conversations karaoke in the discord we finish
the lyrics. We literally just hang out and you guys
get to hang out with us. There is a host
of other perks, including zoom calls that are coming for
the Ultimate tier, so that if you guys are having problems,
you can talk to us. It also gives you the

(26:57):
heads up on private meet and greets because when we
travel we try to meet up with people on our
discord on a regular basis. There's a whole slew of
other perks that come through Patreon. I highly recommend that
you check it out.

Speaker 3 (27:06):
The best way to support what we are doing is
to share the content. The second best way is to
check out our Patreon. Thank you guys for being here.
Are you ladies interested in me opening more spots for
that Awaken Women's group? Do I have ladies who are
interested in doing one on one phone calls with me
bi weekly for an hour? This is just feedback. I'm
not saying I'm going to do it. I am just

(27:29):
looking for data collection.

Speaker 1 (27:31):
Well, we went on to answer. Britney said that I
emailed my story in before, but I will send a
year end a year in updates soon. We love updates,
especially if you include the name of your first email
so we can put them together even more so if
we read it. I'm willing to bet that if you
open that up, it would probably sell out in a
day or so.

Speaker 3 (27:51):
I mean the first five spots, then all of them
came from my sacred sister herds Chat too.

Speaker 2 (27:56):
Yeah, they all upgraded.

Speaker 1 (27:57):
Because already they already saw the value of what you had. Yeah, yeah,
all right, let's let's let's get into some helping people.

Speaker 3 (28:06):
Okay, it will never be Hem versus me, Patreon, Christ
and Peaches I'd like to open with a huge thank
you for being such a prominent therapeutic resource in my relationship.
Blah blah blah blah blah. I'm not fixing it. I'm
just going to touch on we aren't therapists. No, I'm
glad that we can be a resource for you guys

(28:28):
in your relationships. Just know we are not licensed. We
have not gone to school for this. We don't have
any letters behind our names. We are just two people
living life together. We found a way to be happy
and we want to help you guys find that as well.

Speaker 1 (28:44):
We are qualified helpers.

Speaker 3 (28:45):
Yes we are, and that came from a licensed therapist.
That was somebody who has nate letters behind their names.

Speaker 1 (28:51):
So this is going to be one of those things
that when it comes down to it, it doesn't matter
if you have letters or degrees or nothing. If you
were able to give somebody a piece of advice that
drastically changes their life and you're able to hold space
for people, you should be doing that.

Speaker 2 (29:06):
Yeah, one hundred percent.

Speaker 3 (29:08):
My boyfriend I have been listening, watching, and stalking on
Patreon since the beginning of our relationship, and it has
been such a great talking point for us I just
know when he hears this in his air pods at work,
he's going to call me. Oh, hopefully a good phone call.
We usually listen to you guys at work or while
we're cleaning the house and converse about the topic at

(29:29):
hand while we listen, and it gives us the option
to talk about things that are really in the back
of our minds that we don't know how to bring up.

Speaker 2 (29:36):
Again, Thank you.

Speaker 1 (29:37):
Such a powerful tool it is. You know we've talked
in the past that you and I don't just watch TV.

Speaker 2 (29:42):
No.

Speaker 1 (29:44):
I can't imagine how frustrating it would be for a
stranger to come hang out with us. Oh gosh and
try to watch a movie.

Speaker 3 (29:50):
Oh no, an hour and a half movie turns into
three hours constantly.

Speaker 1 (29:54):
Yeah, there's like two shows that we watch without interruption
because we're glued to like what's happening mom Land one
of them, Yeah, and the other ones the Neighbor Show. Yeah,
and even that one gets paused to degrees, but not
like because it's such a train wreck.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
It really is.

Speaker 3 (30:09):
They did such a great job just bringing this man
off of his throne. Yeah, and he is panicking about life.

Speaker 2 (30:16):
It's great.

Speaker 1 (30:17):
But we do we pause and talk about everything. I
can only imagine for people who are having rocky relationships
to have this as a resource to do the same thing.
Oh yeah, it's huge. And when you can talk about
other people's messiness and relate it to your own messiness,
you don't take it personal.

Speaker 2 (30:31):
Right. We can't even watch a kid's movie.

Speaker 1 (30:35):
Kids' movies are the hardest. It's the hardest for me
because they're trying to show you a message, right, most
of them are trying to give you a message, a
life lesson.

Speaker 3 (30:44):
Yeah, I am not about watching frivolous things with the children.
If we can't learn something from it, whether that be
a life lesson nature, lesson science, art, then we're not
watching it. Right.

Speaker 2 (30:56):
With the children, it's so much.

Speaker 3 (30:57):
Worse though, because I'll pause something and then I'll ask them,
what did you just see happen in the show, and
then they'll verbate them what just happened, and then we'll
go on a philosophical forty five minute side tangent about
how that can be applicable to life and why we
don't or do do those kinds of things.

Speaker 2 (31:18):
Yeah, when it.

Speaker 1 (31:18):
Comes to your kids, everything is a learning opportunity, though, yeah,
may not mean your kids, I mean every listener with
your kids, everything Humanity's children.

Speaker 3 (31:29):
Continuing, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost
three years. We met on a dating app and moved
in together two months into our relationship. After having a
long talk about our futures, the things we wanted to accomplish,
our finances, and discussing action plans and how we plan
on achieving our goals, moving in together made the most
sense emotionally and financially. It's still, to this day is

(31:52):
the best decision we have ever made. From the start,
we knew that we each had work that needed to
be done. We never had a puppy love phase. We
knew that we want We knew that we wanted to
do what we call the life thing together. We dove
in head first and it worked for us. We both
had shitty relationship trauma and realized that we both had

(32:15):
a multitude of things that we needed to work on
to be our best selves for each other. So we
listened to you guys. We communicated. Hold on, so we
listened to you guys. We communicated, and we put in
the work. Every time one of our friends asked us
how we found a good relationship.

Speaker 2 (32:34):
We both had the exact same answer.

Speaker 3 (32:37):
You don't find a good relationship, you get your hands
dirty and you fucking build it. Damn right, Oh gosh,
it must be nice. Is how did you find this?
My gosh, it is this is really nice. I love
my life, I love our marriage, I love my husband.
I don't want to not be around you. This morning

(33:03):
you were like, I might stay after and play a
few games, and I was like, you don't want to
be with me.

Speaker 2 (33:10):
I want to be around you all the time.

Speaker 3 (33:12):
And when you don't want to be around it's healthy
for you to have your own things that you do
and for me to have my things. And we do
things separately sometimes and it feels good to fill our
own cups. But do you like secretly hate me because
you don't want to be around me?

Speaker 1 (33:33):
You know, people seem to think that we woke up
one day in the same bed and not knew each other.
Like God just put you in my bed and we
woke up and that was life. Yeah, And we're just
so lucky that God puts you there and that was it. It's
no different than somebody who's a musician or an artist
of any type. We're a construction worker that can build houses.

(33:54):
It didn't wake up one day and just have the
knowledge to go do that shit. It took years of
building it and like like cultivating your fucking existence to
get to the point where you can do those things.
Even if you're a savant, you don't wake up and
you're just a master at something. You just have a
natural talent that a lot of people don't have. You
still got to do the fucking work. It's not luck

(34:15):
that it's luck. Thing really gets under my skin. Like,
that's probably one of the most triggering phrases that somebody
can say to me. Even that it must be nice.
Thing doesn't bother me anymore because when I hear that shit,
I'm like, it is, bro, it's fucking great, because then
they're like, oh, yeah, shut the fuck up. But you're lucky.
Thing that gets me? That gets me.

Speaker 2 (34:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (34:37):
You know that TikTok that we posted of us hugging
the group hug Yeah. I went through all the comments
on the video on TikTok and there was one person
who was like, she looks like she's really struggling. I
hope she's okay. And it took everything I had nice
to be like, was it the crying in the video
that made you think she wasn't okay? You fucking twat?

Speaker 2 (34:53):
Was it the group hug?

Speaker 1 (34:54):
What was it?

Speaker 3 (34:54):
Like? What tell me about it, Raven? What vision did
you get to know that I'm not okay?

Speaker 1 (35:00):
Ah? People?

Speaker 3 (35:04):
You know what, because we've talked about like the start
of our relationship and how rocky things were to where
we are now. It blows my mind that people can't
fathom that we almost didn't become a thing.

Speaker 1 (35:16):
No, yeah, right right.

Speaker 3 (35:20):
There was a lot of I don't think I can
do this. Yeah, we didn't just find this fucking relationship.
This was I want you over my own discomforts and
we'll find a way to make it work.

Speaker 1 (35:37):
We still have to do that, Yeah, not because of
the relationship, but because life throws shit at you sometimes
you just have to you.

Speaker 2 (35:45):
Know, navigate it, of course.

Speaker 3 (35:46):
Correct, continuing, he had no children, no pets, and no
real ties to the area he was in. I had
a son, two cats, and medical conditions that required me
to stay near the area I was in. He packed
up his entire life and moved two hours south to
be with me. He stepped up to the plate and
provided everything in a man I required in a relationship.

(36:10):
He gained a solid relationship with my son, who now
trusts him and looks to him for guidance with life
encounters and how to be a good man. He accompanies
me to doctor's appointments if I need him to, and
works a full time blue collar job to make sure
that we are well taken care of. All of this
to say, he is a damn good man and I
am forever grateful to have him onto being able to

(36:30):
keep him. We rarely get into arguments or get loud
with each other. We have learned that raising our voice
is a full stop because you have taught us that
in order to effectively communicate, you need to be calm
and rational. Nobody is ever offended in a moment. If
the words I'm finished with this for now are issued
to the other party in the middle of a.

Speaker 1 (36:49):
Disruption, called it a disruption.

Speaker 2 (36:51):
Mm hmm.

Speaker 1 (36:52):
I love that me too. We're changing. So you know
what makes things a cult? Verbiage verbie right. They have
their own way of speaking. That's a big one. Attire
like the way that they dress is a big one.

Speaker 2 (37:08):
A mother and father that they look to, and then.

Speaker 1 (37:11):
A leader that they look to and we have our
own verbiage. We sell our own clothes, and people refer
to us as as mom and pops and you know
what would peaches do? And yeah, well, you know, I
think that we actually do kind of check all the
boxes of a cult. I'm okay with it.

Speaker 3 (37:28):
We also have a sacred sacrament, take this medicine, and
then we're going to have a group circle and talk
about it. Continuing the area of concern for me is
that I don't think he understands when I'm telling him
that something he is doing has bothered me. We have
discussed this in detail about it's not what you say,

(37:49):
it's how you say it, and that has been an
area I have worked on as well. I also don't
think that you can wait to bring something up a
week later if something is bothered you. What is going
on with my eyeball? Your eyeballs ever malfunction?

Speaker 1 (38:05):
I'm old, Yeah, they malfunction all the time. I get
every time you're like, were are your glasses? Yeah, that's
my eyeball's malfunctioning, Jenna said one of us, one of us,
I think we need to make a shirt. This is
one of us to be better podcast.

Speaker 3 (38:20):
Yes, every once in a while my eye will just
like blur, But it's only one part of my eyeball.

Speaker 2 (38:27):
I see a doctor.

Speaker 1 (38:28):
Maybe does it do it all the time or is
it just at random? Maybe maybe got eyeboogies.

Speaker 2 (38:34):
It happens enough for me to recognize that it's becoming
a thing. Not daily.

Speaker 1 (38:39):
But maybe you have worms living in your eye?

Speaker 2 (38:43):
Oh why would you say that?

Speaker 3 (38:46):
Why would you do that to me? Why would you
plant that seed? Do you remember that scene in that
show where that woman cut her scalp off to see
if she was human or a robot?

Speaker 1 (38:55):
Yeah? Yep, what was that? Was that a black mirror eye?

Speaker 2 (38:58):
No, it was like awakened conscious electric dreams.

Speaker 1 (39:03):
Yes, it's not a tuma.

Speaker 2 (39:08):
I don't I don't have worms in my face.

Speaker 1 (39:15):
Jet's like, why would you say that?

Speaker 2 (39:22):
I have that same energy as that scene from Ted?
Who did this to us? My husband? I'm leaving.

Speaker 1 (39:32):
I'm offended, this email said. The area concern for me
is that I don't think he understands what I'm telling him,
that something he is doing has bothered me. I think
that you might need to work on your delivery. If
that's the case, what you're doing I have.

Speaker 3 (39:47):
Worked myself up, and I am now getting our daughter's
fan out of my purse so I can calm down,
big old clunk. Okay, the placebo effects kicking in. I
can feel something crawling in my eyes. Are we are
we continuing?

Speaker 1 (40:06):
Yeah? I wait on you. Okay, it'd be good for
you to focus on something.

Speaker 3 (40:10):
Else, right, But the thing that I'm focusing on, my
eyeballs are moving. I also don't think that you can
wait to bring something up a week later or something
is bothering you. He is a type of person that
will bottle up his issues, and I am the type
of person that likes to address it in the moment.
He likes to ride his dirt bike in the summer

(40:30):
months and had let me know early on in a
relationship that his dirt bike has helped him immensely with
his mental health and serves as an outlet for his
brain space. When we first moved in, it was starting
to snow outside, and he literally put his dirt bike
in the kitchen of our townhouse because if we're cold,
she's cold, you have to bring her inside. And from

(40:52):
that point on I knew how important this was to him.
That's funny that is really funny.

Speaker 1 (40:57):
Could you imagine walking into the kitchen for the first
time in a motorcycle being in there?

Speaker 2 (41:01):
Yeah, you're Indian, just part Yeah.

Speaker 1 (41:03):
The real question is how did you even get that
in here?

Speaker 3 (41:06):
Right?

Speaker 2 (41:07):
Did you get a tiny ramp to get it over?

Speaker 3 (41:09):
Like?

Speaker 1 (41:09):
N that's funny.

Speaker 3 (41:11):
She would have to live somewhere else, like your whiskey room. Continuing,
he usually goes back and forth about maybe I'll go
riding this weekend, and an hour later it will be
I don't think I'll go riding this weekend, and then
he'll do this for days. I do that when I'm depressed,
when I know I need to do something that's good

(41:32):
for my mental health, but the thought of exerting the
energy for it's too much for me. So I'll go
back and forth on things like that.

Speaker 1 (41:39):
My problem is is that I make plans when I'm
in a good headspace, and then time comes to do
it and I don't.

Speaker 2 (41:45):
Have to kind of fruition.

Speaker 1 (41:46):
Yeah, yep, future me sometimes or past me really looks
out for me in future times because I know that
I need to do these things. And other times I'm like, you, bitch,
how dare you make plans?

Speaker 3 (42:00):
I never get a straight answer, which makes it hard
to decipher if we'll be able to spend time together
on the weekends. Recently, I attempted to make plans for
us on a Sunday to spend time together. I wanted
to go magnet fishing, and he sounded excited to come
as well. He woke me up on Sunday to let
me know he was going to go riding his dirt
bike with his friends. I was visibly upset, and he

(42:21):
asked what the issue was. Again, I'm not going to
sit on this emotion and not speak about it. When asked,
I told him I didn't know you were going out,
and he said, I told you I might go, followed
by I told you when the weather got nicer that
I would be outriding a lot, which he did. He
communicated to me very well that our free time in
the summer months would be spent a part due to
him writing my issue was a lack of communication. I

(42:43):
just wanted to spend time with my person. Don't scroll yet, please, Okay,
roll back up. You can say what you're going to say,
but don't scroll.

Speaker 1 (42:50):
The issue isn't that he didn't communicate or that there
was a lack of communication. The issue is that you
wanted to spend time with your person and you didn't
think he was going to go because he had him
been hot about going during the winter months. Right now
that it's gotten warmer out, he's wanting to go ride.
And you took the ship personal. If you guys had
plans to go magnet fishing and you thought you were
going to get up and go first thing in the morning,

(43:11):
he thought he was gonna get up, go ride and
do the magnet fishing afterwards, that's a lack of communication
right on both of your parts. When do you want
to go do that? Because I'm gonna I may go
ride with the boys in the morning. Are we going
in the evening? Do you want to get up at
six am so that I can be at the park
by noon with my guys? Like right, yeah?

Speaker 3 (43:27):
I also want to point out she said I wanted
to go magnet fishing and he sounded excited to come also,
So was it his tone did he say I can't
wait to go magnet fishing with you on Sunday at
ten am Eastern Standard time when we got out of
bed together, Like.

Speaker 2 (43:46):
That was very exaggerated, but I want to drive my
point home.

Speaker 3 (43:49):
If he didn't verbalize I am coming with you on Sunday,
I can't wait to do this with you. I love
spending time with you like this. And you think that
he sounded excited because because it was his tone of
voice or hell yeah, babe, that sounded like a blast, whatever, whatever, whatever,
the lack of communication or the miscommunication would be the

(44:10):
assumption that he was coming with you because he was
excited in his voice.

Speaker 1 (44:14):
Yeah, there's also you guys need to there's a communication
that these happen. Even with that, even if he was
excited to go magnet fishing, how long do you plan
on being out there?

Speaker 2 (44:23):
Right?

Speaker 1 (44:24):
If you're like I want to go to the beach
and look for seashells, I'm thinking we're gonna be out
there for no more than two hours tops, if you
if you drove right, let's let's say that I'm not
the one that drives us everywhere, and we took your
vehicle and drove out there and like two hours later,
I'm ready to go. When you're just getting started, right,
I'm not going to have a good day. I don't
want to be out here for five hours. It's fucking hot.
We live in Florida, Like, I want to go out

(44:44):
there right before sunset, when it's not super hot. You
can do your thing real quick. When sun goes down,
we have a choice. But the leaves you can't see
the seashells. Let's go. Yeah, but we have to have
the discussions that we're having at least a baseline understanding
what's going on. There's a lack of communication on both
of their parts in this situation. But he did specify
to her that during the summer months, when he has
free time, he's gonna go ride his dirt bike.

Speaker 3 (45:05):
I am also somebody I will over communicate to make
sure shit's clear between us.

Speaker 1 (45:09):
Yeah, it's necessary.

Speaker 3 (45:10):
So if I'm making a plan and you're like, hell, yeah, babe,
that sounds like a blast.

Speaker 2 (45:16):
Babe, do you want to come with me? I would
love it if you joined me.

Speaker 3 (45:20):
How about we spend time together on Sunday and we
can we can do this as a date. I need
verbal very like we are gonna have a verbal contract
about this day, and then when you break that contract,
I'm fucking calling judge Judy.

Speaker 2 (45:35):
I do.

Speaker 3 (45:37):
I would also be upset if I was under the understanding, right,
I don't. Okay, not even that. Even if I was
under the understanding that we were gonna be doing something
together on Sunday and you woke me up and I
was like, Hey, I'm gonna go ride my bike with
my buddies for the next four hours, I would be
more upset over the fact that you made a last
minute plan and disrupted my autism then the fact that

(45:59):
we're not spending time together that day. I need that
prediction of our life. Yeah, I'm not going to tell
you not to go, but you definitely disrupted my chi
for the next few thirty minutes, hour whatever, Like, I
have to reregulate myself.

Speaker 1 (46:17):
Well, if you knew you wanted to go at nine
am and I didn't, I was like, all right, I'm
gonna go do this thing. I'll be back at noon
and we can go magnet fishing. Would it do the
same thing? And at that point, whose fault would it
be yours or mine?

Speaker 2 (46:29):
What do you mean whose fault would it be?

Speaker 1 (46:31):
Well, if you if you add it in your head
that you wanted to leave at nine o'clock and I
just knew we were going to go magnet fishing on Sunday. Oh.

Speaker 2 (46:37):
If I didn't give you a time, that's on me.

Speaker 1 (46:39):
And I woke up Sunday morning, I was like, Hey,
I'm gonna go to Walla. I'll run to the studio
edit do a couple things. I'll be back here at
like noon, one o'clock, and then we can go magnet fishing.
Like that would be changing last minute plans because I
didn't know what your actual schedule was.

Speaker 3 (46:52):
Right if I didn't say we're going magnet fishing, or
I would like to go magnet fishing at ten am,
and I'm like, I just want to go magnet fishing
on Sunday. I feel like that's a very open ended plan.
It's almost me pushing the rest of the planning onto
you figure out to make it happen.

Speaker 2 (47:12):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (47:13):
I'm also not against spending time by myself or trying
to make plans with other people. If I had been
rainy all week and then Sunday is the first sunny
day of summer and you're like, Babe, I really want
to go ride my dirt bike. I haven't been able
to do it in the last seven months because of
harsh winter's winter is coming and it just ended. Yeah, babe,

(47:37):
go do your thing. We can do magnet fishing another day.
We can do it overcast, rainy, sit under a tree, whatever,
and I'll go do something by myself.

Speaker 2 (47:46):
I'm going to see you at the end of the day.

Speaker 3 (47:48):
Right continuing, I told him you going out riding is
not an issue, but I feel a little neglected in
this relationship lately, and I need us to be able
to actually spend some quality time together. Okay, a p
There now is not the time to bring that up.
That should have been brought up when you made the
plans to do the magnet fishing. Hey, babe, I'm feeling

(48:09):
like we're slacking a little bit on our romance or intimacy,
and I would really like to dedicate a day to
reconnecting with you. Can we do that on Sunday and
go magnet fishing. That changes the whole premise of why
you're going out together versus I want to go sit
in the sun and magnet fish.

Speaker 2 (48:24):
Do you want to go with me?

Speaker 1 (48:25):
Right? Well, that also indicates the entire day is going
to be spent together magnet fishing, right Because you said
I would like to take a day, So in that situation,
I would assume that whatever's going on that day is
dedicated to us spending time together, right, right, So there's clear,
clear communication that aspect. Yeah, I agree with that, though
I also think that having that conversation right then and

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there before he's going to go out and do his
dirt bike thing is not the answer.

Speaker 3 (48:51):
I agree, why because that your relationships fucked up at
this point. Now I'm going to feel guilty going out
and riding my bike knowing when I get home my
woman doesn't feel like I love her.

Speaker 1 (49:03):
Yeah, it gives you an entire day to be separate,
stewing at each other. Yeah, I really do think that's
a conversation that should have been had when he got back,
or after dinner, after they both had time to acclimate
to being home.

Speaker 3 (49:15):
Or any time prior, because you I feel a little
neglected in this relationship lately. When I think of lately,
I'm envisioning the last month, the last.

Speaker 1 (49:24):
Three weeks, right, not just this morning.

Speaker 3 (49:26):
Right. So any time during that period where you're starting
to recognize, Oh, I'm feeling like feeling neglected a little bit,
bring it up. Laying in bed while cuddling, Hey, babe,
can we spend some more time together, the intimacies.

Speaker 1 (49:41):
I'm feeling disconnected, right, I view this as a guilt trip.

Speaker 2 (49:44):
Yeah, me too.

Speaker 1 (49:47):
Okay, so let's let's play this out. Okay, that conversation happens.
I now assuming that I'm because I have a decision
to make. I either have to put my relationship in jeopardy,
go and get my self care and enjoy my day
with people that have already dedicated my time to right,
There's a whole lot that goes into that, or I

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need to cancel with all of them and stay home
and spend the day with you. I'm not winning in
either one of these situations, because in the event that
I cancel with everyone else and I don't go do
the thing that fills my cup, I'm now going to
be running at zero percent battery doing things that you
want to do, resenting you for making me do these
things when you knew that I had other plans to
do something that fills my cup. Or I can go

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knowing that you're having the issue that you're having, and
go and try to have a good time with my
friends while in the back of my head, I know
I'm going to come home to conflict because you started
up you know some bullshit before I had to go
in the morning.

Speaker 3 (50:43):
The way that I would have approached this, I would
let you know I'm a little disappointed. I was really
looking forward to going magnet fishing today. I understand that
you need this time. Though you are a social creature,
I can't do online social shit. It doesn't fill my
cup the same way like in person interactions do. But

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I get that need to have interactions with other people
that aren't me. So I'm not gonna try to guilt,
trit you to stay home or make you feel bad
for making that decision. I will let you know I'm disappointed.
Go have fun, enjoy yourself, and I look forward to
you coming home. And then you get home, we would
spend the rest of our day together doing whatever we're doing.
I would get myself into a better mood, and then

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over dinner or after dinner, when we're relaxing on the couch,
I would hit you with you know, this morning, while
I was thinking about why I was so upset about
you going riding your bikes, I'm recognizing that I'm feeling
disconnected in our relationship and can we make more time
for each other one on one to bring that back.

Speaker 2 (51:47):
Yep, what are you gonna say?

Speaker 1 (51:49):
There's both of those things are doable in a day. Yeah,
you're not gonna go ride dirt bikes for twelve hours. Now,
this is not gonna happen. If you get upt the
ass crack of dawnload your bike up, go to the
fucking track, ride around for five or six hour, come home, eat,
probably taking a nap because it's exhausting a shit to
ride like that, and then get up and go and
magnet fish wherever you're gonna go. Magnet fish from like
you know, five pm until sunset. Yeah, it gives you

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three or four hours to magnet fish. Like there's no
reason that both of those things couldn't have been done
in a day.

Speaker 3 (52:14):
I would also view this as so she she said
what she said, and then, like you said, he has
a choice to make. He can either go ride the
dirt bikes, or he can stay home and deal with
the relationship. If you were to stay home and deal
with the relationship, either consciously or subconsciously. Anybody in this
position who makes their partner feel like they have to
stay home instead of going out and enjoying themselves is

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now aware that they can guilt trip their person in
future situation.

Speaker 1 (52:39):
Yep.

Speaker 3 (52:40):
All I have to do is let them know that
I am disappointed and upset and they're gonna cave to me.

Speaker 1 (52:46):
And if they don't, then fuck them because they don't
care enough about me to care about my feelings or emotion.

Speaker 3 (52:51):
Yeah, continuing, his response was, I am allowed to go riding.
The weather is finally nice, and I told you i'd
be going a lot. Things escalated and we were going
back and forth about him thinking I was upset about
him riding, and me trying to explain that I only
wanted to spend the day together.

Speaker 1 (53:07):
You know, talk about that.

Speaker 2 (53:09):
What are your thoughts on it?

Speaker 1 (53:11):
He was hung up on the riding aspect because that's
what she was trying to take from him. Yeah, and
she was hung up on the fact that they are
disconnected and feeling neglected in the relationship. He correlated what
he wanted to do, and she did not correlate what
he wanted to do. This is about self care, both
of them needing something in life that they're not getting

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from the other person right now. The issue is not
the dirt bike writing. And he didn't understand that because
he felt like she was trying to take that from him,
trying to control him, right, trying to take away the
one thing that he really enjoys that helps his mental health.
And it's like, could you imagine going to therapy and
like learning how to become a better person in your
partner getting mad because you have a therapy appointment, right
as somebody who rides motorcycles that you know, well, I

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don't ride dirt bikes like that, but getting on a
cross rocket and hitting triple digits, even for five minutes
is enough to fucking silence everything. You get that adrenaline
dump and everything is calm afterwards. Him and riding his
dirt bike through the woods single track or jumping or
you know, doing whatever it is that he's doing. He's
explained to her that that's helped his mental health, so

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he needs to do something as self care and she's
trying to fill her cup as well. And now they're
arguing over two different points, right, And that's the issue
that's here.

Speaker 3 (54:25):
Yeah, nobody's needs in a relationship is more important or
a priority over the other persons. It's about compromise and
trying to make sure both cups are filled.

Speaker 2 (54:32):
It's not always going to be at the same time.

Speaker 1 (54:35):
Nope, it is not.

Speaker 3 (54:38):
Okay, so this is a really silly request. Feel free
to tell me. No, it's currently raining and windy outside.
Can I go stand out there for like thirty seconds
and then come back in and we can pick it up.

Speaker 2 (54:48):
Go ahead, Yes, I'll be right back, guys, I promise.

Speaker 1 (54:51):
I actually think she's going to go stand in the rain,
and not just on the porch. She's out in the rain.
Both dogs and me are staring at her out in
the rain. This situation is real simple, guys. When you
have a situation like this, you need to be able
to have the conversation about what's really going on, and
he should have been able to explain to her, like
I feel like you're trying to take this from me

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because you want to spend time with me. That was
less than thirty seconds. Yeah, yeah, worried about people.

Speaker 2 (55:19):
I got what I needed.

Speaker 1 (55:20):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (55:21):
There were birds out there and they didn't run away
from me.

Speaker 1 (55:23):
Yeah, because first time in months it's rained out here.

Speaker 2 (55:29):
That felt good.

Speaker 1 (55:30):
Okay, I'm glad I needed that.

Speaker 3 (55:32):
Continuing, neither of us were making the points of the
issue clear enough to the other person. He felt attacked
because I brought up something he had done that was
bothering me, and I felt pushed to a side because
I needed something that I was not going to get
quality time, So you weren't getting it in the capacity
you imagine you would be getting it.

Speaker 1 (55:50):
You weren't getting your way right.

Speaker 3 (55:53):
You could still get quality time at the end of
the day, Like my husband said, even if he woke
up at the ass crack of dawn, got about five am,
left by six, started writing by six thirty, and then
rode for six hours.

Speaker 2 (56:05):
He'd be home by noon.

Speaker 3 (56:08):
Yep, took a short nap, woke up. You guys could
be somewhere by three o'clock.

Speaker 2 (56:12):
Continuing.

Speaker 3 (56:13):
We paused the argument when we both realized we weren't communicating,
just battling each other. He eventually went writing, and I
spent the day by myself doing things that made me happy.
He did check in before he left, asking are you
sure you're not mad that I'm going writing, to which
I responded, I'm sure that wasn't a lie or me
trying to ignore the issue. I truly wasn't upset he

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wanted to go writing, because that was never the issue.
He deserves to decompress and spend time doing things that
are good for his mental health. I am all in
favor of that always. Okay, so she said I felt
pushed the side because I needed something that I was
not going to get, and that was quality time. So

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was that stated when you made the plans to go
magnet fishing? I need quality time right now? This is
don't want for me. My cup is empty. I need
to feel loved in this relationship. Can we go do
something together? Or was it, Hey, do you want to
go magnet fishing? That sounds like fun on Sunday? Those
are two very different conversations.

Speaker 1 (57:14):
Yeah. Absolutely.

Speaker 3 (57:15):
And to get upset because you are not getting what
you need quote unquote. So I'm gonna say this as
a hypothetical because she did not clarify how she asked
or posed the question about going magnet fishing. If it
was not clearly defined, you kind of put your own
hand on the stove. Does that make sense. I can't
get upset at you for not giving me what I

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need when I didn't tell you that I needed it.
The bigger issue, I think is that I bring up
something he is doing that is bothering me.

Speaker 2 (57:43):
No matter how I bring it up.

Speaker 3 (57:45):
He takes it as an attack, which means that it
immediately becomes him versus me. I don't want to lose him,
but there has been a There has to be a
better way to communicate that something is bothering me without
him taking it as an attack. Ever intentionally attack him
because I was upset about something. It's usually brought up like, hey,

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so that bothered me, and we talk about it or
argue about it.

Speaker 1 (58:08):
Because it's not true though, because the way that she
just explained that entire situation is not how that played out.

Speaker 2 (58:14):
The way that she brought it up, the.

Speaker 1 (58:15):
Way that all of this email up until now is
not how that was just done.

Speaker 3 (58:19):
Yeah, timing also matters, true, the tone of which things
are said matters. I told him you going out writing
is not an issue, but I feel little neglected in
this relationship lately, and I need us to be able
to actually spend some quality time together.

Speaker 1 (58:35):
Right. That's an accusatory statement. It's very different than going hey,
I want to connect with you. Let's plan a date
a date day. So this is not a situation where
it's the two of you versus the problem. You're having
an issue right now and you're expecting him to fix
it right, and you're doing it in a situation that
is not optimal timing. If you would have if you

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would have stated, I want to go magnet fishing because
blah blah blah blah bla, that's a very different situation
than having it out right before he goes riding. Yeah,
And granted she said that they ended up going and
everything was fine, but then she then later in the
email said she said that when we when it's brought up,
I'm usually like, hey, so that bothered me, and we
talk about it or argue about it, because it is

(59:18):
to me, it is us versus a problem. But to
him it's always him versus me. It's that's delivery, it's timing.
That situation was a guilt trip. Yeah, that's not I
want quality time with you, Like, that's not what that
conversation was. That might have been what you were intending
and what you needed from him, but at the time
he was focused on him getting his cup filled, like

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you were trying to pull the rug out from underneath
of him. Sometimes you're gonna your partner is gonna feel
like you're trying to do that, especially if your shit's
not laid out in a way that makes it about
the relationship. If I had, you know, if if this
was us, I would feel the same way. I'd be like, damn,
she just doesn't want me to go rideing dirt bikes
with my friends. Like there's okay. And there's also whole

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other conversation that could be set said here, depending on
your previous relationships, there could be a Now she's trying
to isolate me for my people. She knows that this
is the one thing that makes me the happiest, and
she doesn't want me to go do it. Like, so
if I don't go do this and I cut off
my friends, eventually my friends are gonna stop wanting to
hang out with me because I'm the guy that's not
reliable when they ask me to do shit.

Speaker 3 (01:00:21):
Right.

Speaker 1 (01:00:22):
And I'm giving up all of the things that makes
me happy to make sure that her needs are met.
And now I'm achelle of a human being because of it. Yeah,
there's a lot. There's a lot that goes into This
is a tricky one, but it's not really tricky. The
way that it's laid out makes it very simple. You
just don't have these conversations in the moment, and you're
very clear about what you need. It wasn't about magnet fishing,
you guys, spending time together was what you wanted, So

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that should have been the conversation. Hey, I'm I'm like
you said earlier, I'm feeling disconnected and I need to
feel intimate, intimately connected to you. Again, Let's spend the
day together. I have an idea, let's go magnet fishing.
Very different conversation than let's just go magnet fishing, because
you can do that shit by yourself. I don't have
to be there for that, right.

Speaker 3 (01:01:01):
I need us to be able to actually spend some
quality time together. That those words right there, minus everything
else that was said, comes across as he's the problem.
Yes it does. And the reason that I say that
I have always had a hard time with the word
actually because that makes it sound like in my mind,

(01:01:22):
actually makes it sound like my perspective of what is
happening is not an accurate one. Right, So if I
were to say a stegosaurus has three horns on its
head and someone goes, no, actually, that's to try sarratops,
you're correcting me, and you are.

Speaker 1 (01:01:41):
Telling you that it's not factual.

Speaker 3 (01:01:42):
Right, you're telling me that I'm wrong and that it
makes me feel like I'm the issue here, right, continuing,
It's not his fault he takes things that way. It
may be a trauma response or it's a communication fault
on my end.

Speaker 1 (01:01:55):
It could be both. Good things can be true at once.

Speaker 2 (01:01:58):
Yep, I don't.

Speaker 3 (01:02:00):
I don't want this to be one of those my
boyfriend won't fix this problem emails. I would really enjoy
your insight on how I can better fix my communication
regarding these things that bother or upset me with him,
so we don't keep having fights about it. I think
that the way we communicate with each other is the
most important thing in our relationship, and I don't want
this to cause a trickle down effect where we lack
communication by not addressing things because it will lead to

(01:02:22):
a fight. We both work immensely hard to keep our
relationship healthy, and I'd like to be able to keep
improving for him. If I can, thank you for reading,
for always helping, and thank you for the work you do.
Please send help and tissues. I love this man so much.

Speaker 1 (01:02:39):
I mean, this isn't this is definitely we I think
we gave you everything that you needed in this. I
didn't read this as my boyfriend won't fix the problem email.
I took this as you guys do want how to
talk to each other email. It sounds like you have
a lot of really poor timing. Yeah, and that's a
bigger thing. And I got to be honest. Even even
with the timing aspect of that, you don't have have

(01:03:00):
to have that conversation when he's gone, Like knowing that
he was going to go do that and you were disappointed,
you could have let him go and have a good day,
and you could have found the right words to let
him know later in the day that you really need
some intimate time together and you need a date day.
So maybe next Saturday, instead of him going riding, you
want to go magnet fishing, and then Sunday he can
go ride again. Like there's also that backstory of he
told her during summer summer months, like he rides his

(01:03:22):
bike every weekend, because it's a thing. I don't know
if that means he rides every weekend, like every day
of the weekend, Saturday and Sunday. But if that's the case,
maybe you tell him one weekend a month you need
a Saturday that's exactly what I thought. Or a Sunday
right like, there needs to be a communication happening in
that aspect.

Speaker 3 (01:03:39):
I would want. So there's four weekends in a month.
That's eight days for him to be able to go
and do what he wants. I am okay with a
date day after a workday, I'll neglect the house for
an evening. Laundry can wait until tomorrow, Mopping the floor
can wait until tomorrow. There's a lot of comper minds

(01:04:00):
that can be had. Or even I want two Saturdays
a month during the summer months, so you still have
six days to ride, and that gives us two days
to really dedicate twenty four hours to loving one another.

Speaker 1 (01:04:13):
You could also go, I know that you're going to
ride from until two or three o'clock in the afternoon.

Speaker 2 (01:04:17):
Let's do dinner, right.

Speaker 1 (01:04:19):
You don't have to give up. This is just a
scheduling thing.

Speaker 3 (01:04:24):
Yeah, this one's titled please send guidance. First and foremost,
thank you for being here. Before we get into the
nitty gritty, a bit of background information relevant to the issues.
My significant other and my schedules do not mesh normally,
so we have limited time together. Also, we live on
a family compound with my parents and sister about two

(01:04:44):
hundred and fifty yards from our house.

Speaker 2 (01:04:46):
Oh that's close.

Speaker 1 (01:04:47):
Yep.

Speaker 3 (01:04:49):
First, most recent, you spend too much time with your
family and I don't feel like a priority. I have
distanced myself from my family as I was spending more
than fifty percent of my free time with them. Currently,
I spend every morning before work at the gym with
my sister and visit my parents for fifteen to twenty
minutes three or sometimes four days out of the week,
depending on my father's health. I've made spending quality time

(01:05:11):
with my significant other mandatory. How it should have been
incorporating physical touch and words of affirmation, which are his
main love languages. However, this is still an issue for
my significant other. What can I do to fix this?

Speaker 1 (01:05:25):
By asking him? What can I do to make you
feel like a priority?

Speaker 3 (01:05:28):
Yeah, I got nothing on that. There's not enough information.
Why does he not feel like a priority?

Speaker 1 (01:05:34):
Right? Well, she's focused on the first part of it.
You spend too much time with your family, so that's
what the focus was on. She missed the entire second
part of that. Yeah, I don't feel like a priority.
I need to feel like a priority in this relationship.
That could be simple things like, you know, making sure
that dinner's made, or calling a check on him while
he's at work, or being on the phone with him
and to drive home. Like, there's a whole lot of

(01:05:55):
things that could be done to make him feel like
he's the most important thing. Give us what it is
that he needs.

Speaker 3 (01:06:00):
Yeah, giving him kiss before going to the gym with
your sister. Yeah, it could be a whole host of things. Second,
I wish that when I came home, I didn't feel
the need to have a beer.

Speaker 2 (01:06:10):
Oh.

Speaker 3 (01:06:10):
That could be a whole host of things, right. It
could be work, it could be social life, it could
be his own family.

Speaker 1 (01:06:17):
Could be coming into the home in a war zone. Yeah,
there's a whole lot though, if you're not able to
live your life without a substance, yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:06:25):
I asked what he meant by the statement and why
he felt this way, and his response was, I just
get so stressed out and I am not at peace
here there you go. I asked if it was something
I was doing, like a behavior tone, and he said no.
What can I do to aid his piece? I'm a
fairly peaceful person. However, I do have my tendencies to
become argumentative. I am combating that by taking time before responding.

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And my favorite coping mechanism has been the quote you
do not have to RSVP to every fight you are
invited to, which seems to help as I am naturally confrontational.

Speaker 1 (01:06:57):
So which one is you're a fairly peaceful person or
your argumentative combative and confrontational naturally confrontational because you just
contradicted the shit out of yourself. There's there's an issue
here in him not being at peace in the home.
That's the discussion that needs to be had.

Speaker 2 (01:07:15):
There right, not what am I doing? Why are you
not at peace?

Speaker 3 (01:07:19):
Third drinking, Please remember my above mentioned statement of being
naturally confrontational. This subject is where it shines the most.
My significant other is a drinker in all caps drinker.
When I say this, I mean literally can go through
an entire twelve pack and be slightly buzzed but enough
to truly get on my nerves, but nowhere near drunk.

Speaker 1 (01:07:40):
So he's an alcoholic. So that's he's using the I'm
not at piece as the reason to drink. Yeah, that's
probably the reality of the situation.

Speaker 2 (01:07:48):
The coope mechanism or.

Speaker 1 (01:07:50):
The fact that he's off work and now I guess
to drink. Yeah, there are a lot of alcoholics who
don't start drinking until they get off of work because
you have to perform their duties. Right, Does it make
you less of an alcoholic? You still fucking alcoholic?

Speaker 3 (01:08:01):
Yeah, you're just an alcoholic on the schedule. In the past,
while drinking hard lookor he would become very rude and
disrespectful towards me, would pick fights and use words to
intentionally hurt my feelings to the point of me crying
and begging the powers above to just make to just
make him sleep it off. Then in the morning, he
would act like everything was fine until I brought up
how he had emotionally hurt me, to which he would

(01:08:21):
apologize and I forgave him. Everything was fine until the
next time. Ultimately, I banned hard liquor from our household
as I had gotten to that point he could choose
the bottle or me. Thankfully, he chose me, until he
has now started a similar.

Speaker 1 (01:08:36):
Pattern with beer, so he didn't choose you.

Speaker 3 (01:08:38):
I've spoken with him about this and express my concerns
because I do not want to go back to crying
myself to sleep almost every Saturday night. To what he
tells me, I have slowed down drinking and it's not
going to be like that again, or stop mothering me.
This is when I have to work on my rage down.
To work my rage down and not speak with my emotions.
What do I do about this? I'm not going to

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be with an alcoholic, I.

Speaker 1 (01:09:02):
Would say, I will gladly stop mothering you. This is
your option. You either quit drinking or I'm not staying. Yeah,
because this isn't about mothering you. This is about setting
boundaries of what I expect out of my partner or
what I will or will not accept in my life.
I'm not going to accept the belittling, the shit talking,
and all the ugly that comes from somebody because they're

(01:09:22):
choosing to drink every single day. You don't have to
accept someone's shitty behavior. It doesn't matter how much you
love them or how much they claim to love you.
If somebody is doing something in your life that you
don't see what I'm looking for. Somebody's doing something in
your life that you don't see as a good thing,
you have the right to walk away from them, and

(01:09:44):
you have the right to give them the opportunity to
fix their behavior. Yes, and they have the same opportunity
with you. Just all there is to that you guys
are choosing to live life together. There's a whole lot
of things that have to happen in order to make
that a positive. Excuse me, a positive situation, right If
one of you is unhappy the other one's doing over
the fuck they want, why would you stay?

Speaker 2 (01:10:04):
M h Fourth.

Speaker 3 (01:10:06):
Then, finally, I don't feel respected. There are times when
he openly talks about our sex life intentionally to make
others uncomfortable. I am happy that he is pleased with
our bedroom activities, but I don't wish for everyone to
know what we do in the sheets. I have asked
him not to do this, and he says that he
will work on it, but it hasn't gotten any better
despite my reminders of the conversation. The way he speaks

(01:10:29):
about me in this area of our life is like
I'm a prostitute who doesn't have to be paid.

Speaker 2 (01:10:33):
I hate it.

Speaker 3 (01:10:34):
In all caps, sharing of details from our sex life
correlates with how much he's had to drink. He also
has no issues groping me in front of anyone. I
know most women would be happy to have their man
not able to keep his hands off of them, but
while he is exploring our nightly activities, it just makes
me feel dirty. I don't know how to explain this

(01:10:54):
to him, as he is very much all or nothing
when it comes down to it. I have mentioned it
before and the outcome was no physical touch at all
and still talking about our sex life, just with slightly
less detail. I have tried everything I know to do
to try and stop this from happening, for example abruptly
leaving the room at the first mention of it. I'm
beginning to feel like I should just embrace it and
take it as a compliment, but it's extremely hard to

(01:11:16):
do when other girls present look at me with pity
laced in their eyes. Yes, I have left the room
crying on several occasions from being so embarrassed. Peaches specifically,
what would you do in this situation? I would be mad,
disrespectful at this point. I would tell you to shut
the fuck up and we need to step outside and
have a conversation right now. And we would step outside,
and that conversation would look like you are either going

(01:11:38):
to stop doing this or you are no longer going
to be in a relationship with me.

Speaker 2 (01:11:41):
I wouldn't tolerate this.

Speaker 3 (01:11:44):
I am not a side show for you to talk
about with your friends and show me off and be like, oh,
look what I have and you don't, and this is
my sex life and she bends over this way for me.

Speaker 1 (01:11:56):
Yeah, it's very disrespectful behavior. Yeah, said, there's a difference
between not keeping my hands off of you and still
having respect for you.

Speaker 2 (01:12:03):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:12:05):
This that that whole situation. I know she's not asked me,
she asked you specifically what we do in that situation.
But ultimately she needs to see some fucking boundaries and
she needs to stand up for herself because the right
because in all of this, she's not getting you know,
leaving the room crying is not setting boundaries that you're
giving in to what's happening and getting frustrated and leaving
and just allowing it right and allowing it to happen again.

(01:12:27):
I view I view this as a form of emotional rape, yes, right,
because she he knows that she doesn't appreciate any of this,
and he's turning her into a sexual object in front
of all of his friends. Furthermore, I'm willing to bet
that hearing all of those things, if he if he's
that type of person, that means he hangs out with
those type of people. The friends are probably now looking

(01:12:49):
at her as a piece of meat too, and giving
the opportunity, there would probably be lines crossed. This is
just not an okay situation. I wouldn't if this was
somebody that I cared about and I heard about this, like,
I would get involved.

Speaker 2 (01:13:00):
Oh yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:13:02):
If this was my friend and her husband was talking
like this about her in front of everybody. This isn't
This isn't public conversation, right, I am gonna say some shit,
and there might be an argument that erupts, and everyone's
gonna fucking go home, and then you guys are no
longer going to be invited to things, or we're not
gonna come over anymore.

Speaker 1 (01:13:20):
Yeah. That seeing somebody do that to the point of
their woman crying to be the last time we ever
went over there. Yeah, and it would probably be the
last time that we're invited because I would say some shit. Yeah,
like I'm not letting that ride. And the fact that
there are other men in the situation watching it happens
is a whole lot about the people that you're surrounding
yourself with.

Speaker 2 (01:13:36):
Yeah, and the fact that the women who were there
did not get up.

Speaker 1 (01:13:39):
And follow her, right, just looked at her with pity.

Speaker 2 (01:13:41):
Right, Yeah, this is I would not I would not
allow myself to be in this situation.

Speaker 1 (01:13:51):
It's crazy when you set standards for yourself and you
hold those standards, how fast your social social circle changes.
That was the hard one for me, Social circle changes.

Speaker 2 (01:14:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:14:02):
I'm really disgusted by the women in that group who
just looked at her with pity and did absolutely nothing
to console her, to stand up for her. And those
men in that circle are not men.

Speaker 1 (01:14:12):
No, I agree. Well, we are well over an hour
at this point, even with cuts in your little rain situation.
Damn it, I keep closing that window when I keep
meaning to close the email. Do you have anything else
that you want to add on to before we wrap up?

Speaker 3 (01:14:26):
Nobody, women or men have to tolerate disrespectful behavior like that.

Speaker 1 (01:14:31):
I agree.

Speaker 3 (01:14:31):
If anything in your relationship makes you uncomfortable, period, that's
a full stop. And if your person wife, husband, boyfriend,
girlfriend is not willing to adjust themselves to help you
feel comfortable in the relationship, that's not your person. I'd
be packing bags fucking quick, either my own and going

(01:14:53):
somewhere else or his and he can go somewhere else.
I'm not willing to live life that way.

Speaker 1 (01:15:00):
And once that happens the first time, and you allow
it to continue to happen, you're making a choice. Yeah,
you're choosing to live that way. And ultimately you have
to decide do you want to live your life like
this right because it is your life to live, it's
no one else's. You're the one that's suffering right now.
And if you don't make a choice to get out
of that suffrage, you're choosing to live that way.

Speaker 3 (01:15:18):
Yes, I would cause a fucking scene. So you're telling
me she does all of the work. Is because the
alcohol makes your dick limp.

Speaker 2 (01:15:24):
Oh.

Speaker 3 (01:15:25):
I would cause a fucking scene about all of it.
Oh yeah, that made me a little heated. I'm calming down.

Speaker 2 (01:15:32):
Hey, guys, a little quick interruption.

Speaker 3 (01:15:33):
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Speaker 1 (01:15:41):
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It costs you nothing and it greatly helps the show.
We got to wrapp up anyways, okay, and we don't
have time to do another one, So we're definitely gonna
have to revisit the new structure of podcasting because this
is not going to keep us ahead.

Speaker 2 (01:16:02):
Right. We also had the premiere today and that set
us back an hour.

Speaker 1 (01:16:06):
Right, Well, that's what I'm saying, Like, that's what I
was talking about earlier when we were walking the dogs,
Like if we if we have to wait till the
premiere to end, there's gonna be times where we record
an hour and a half or two our podcasts not
gonna until fucking noon one o'clock. Like it really fucks
with our schedules. So we need to figure out like
even if we just do the premiere and a live
on Monday and that's it, and then come in Tuesday,
do two episodes, Wednesday two episodes, and then we're done

(01:16:26):
for the week. That covers everything that we're supposed to
do other than the after dark for the ultimates here. Okay,
So I just I know that it adds one more
day of shit to us, but at least Monday would
be a short day because we don't have to get
here until the premiere ends or you know, noon, and
we just go alive from noon to too or whatever.
But it'll also be different when we have all the
shit at the house versus here.

Speaker 2 (01:16:48):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:16:48):
Yeah, So all right, guys. Well remember with that being said,
remember you are the author of your own life a
pen and we will see you on the next one.

Speaker 2 (01:16:57):
Bye, guys.

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