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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Look out with all the things with beauty on the bottom.
All our wold is you. You're my favorite view, but
there's nothing. Welcome back family, Thank you for joining us.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Welcome back you beautiful creatures.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
We are here almost the day off, almost took the
day off. Today we're gonna be recording episode thirty of
season three. We'll probably interact with a little bit for
the chat. For those of you who don't know, we
do record our episodes live in front of our Patreon audience.
Beans about to lose his lobster everyone because he won't.
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He's being very loud with it. He's like a teething baby.
Is he is? He is a giant baby. He's one
hundred pounds toddler. Yeah, so housekeeping, we have a couple
of things that we want to get in before we
get into the thank you email and actually start reading
for the episode. First things first, we still have a
couple of retreats going. By the time this episode goes live,
it'll be July, so the Cape Coral, Florida Couple's Retreat
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will already have been coming gone. However, as of right now,
there's still a slot available for the North Carolina Retreat.
It may not be by the time this airs. I
don't know, but there's one space left available for North Carolina.
It's in August. I can't remember the dates. You can
find that on toobbetter dot com. We have Greece happening
in May of twenty twenty six. That trip has been confirmed.
There's already eight people going, which means the trip is
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definitely happening. I know for a fact that at least
two more people are going to be booking, possibly four
because I think Jay and Krista might try to go.
So if that's the case, will be closer to twelve.
So that'll be a really good time. If you guys
want to go to Greece with us, I highly highly
recommend that you check that out. Danny Kaine said, oh damn,
only one spot. Well, it's one room, So if you
want to go to North Carolina with your partner's you
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get to share a room with your partners. It's two
thousand dollars to go. That covers the weekend. It covers
most of the food. There will be a big dinner
on Friday, a breakfast Saturday, and finger foods all Saturday,
and then Sunday there will be a mini boudoir shoot
with Buff Bell and her husband, if you guys want
to do that. Continuing with the housekeeping, I got my
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book edited and back yesterday. So my next book is
called You Are Not Broken. We'll be dropping on August
fifteenth on Amazon, and I should have signed copies on
the website at that point. And then you wanted to
talk about your new tier on Patreon.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
So I have created a new tier on Patreon for
my ladies. I have the Women's Thrive Group, which is
the lowest tier. I have the Sacred Sisterhood, which is
the medium tier, and now I have a new top
tier called the Awakened Women. This group includes everything that
the Sacred Sisterhood group has, along with bi weekly one
on one coaching calls with myself. It is a very
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limited group. I have five spots. There's only one spot available. So,
like I said, it includes everything the Sacred sister Group has.
You get into the group chats, the group calls, the
weekly challenges, the book prescriptions, and you also gain bi
weekly one on one phone calls with myself.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Dean still hasn't made it to the airport yet. Really, dude,
I really hope that you're able to keep your headphones
on and fucking disassociating the airport as much as you can.
I cannot imagine. We hit two gas stations since ceremony.
I didn't even get out of the car. Yes, yeah,
I went in. Yeah, it was a lot. It was
a fucking lot. That racetrack in Brookstall was packed. There
had to been thirty or forty people standing in there.
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And then when we hit wa Wall this morning, it
was the same thing. Even trying to have social interaction
with the lady working the counter was hard for me.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yeah, talking to her was uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
She could tell she hated her job. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
I felt a lot of eyes on me too going
into the gas station.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
That was intense. Yeah, there was a lot. We'll probably
doing at some point this weekend or this week or
this weekend, at some point doing a Patreon Live after
Dark where we talk about ceremony and what all the
things that went on. This week was a lot. It
was a fucking yeah. Yeah, it's amazing, but.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
It was I went through a doing combo. I looked
at my husband yesterday and I was like, I'll never do.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
This again, And now you're thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Huh, I'm thinking about doing it again. Yeah, figures, do
you guys want to see the burn marks on my arm?
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Of course they do.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
I'm really proud of them, Like this is a badge
of honor for myself.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Look at that. So, for those of you who don't know,
combo is a poison that is on the back of
a frog, the secretion, the secretion, right, it's poison though
to us, Yes, and I felt the poison. You get burned.
They burned dots on you and then they coat you
at the poison and then you puke and poop and
pee and snot and for about twenty to thirty minutes. Yeah,
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but then you feel clean cleansed afterwards, like it's like
a really fast detox. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
I had I sleppt the three hour drive home yesterday.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
I laid in the back of the van on the bed. Yeah,
he slept a whole ride home. You didn't even get out.
At that place we went, we found there's a chakruna
plant place in Odessa, Florida, and there's like it had
to have been ten acres of plants, but the entire
thing looked like a fucking jungle. There was cappy vine
growing everywhere, like I'm so shocked you didn't get out
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of the van. I couldn't.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Yeah, I was so nauseous and raw, Like rolling from
my side to my back made me feel like I
was doing the most astronomical thing with my body.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
It sounds like me from Friday night. I was like,
oh God, the earth is round. Yeah, you did say
that out loud. It was so hard to roll over.
It felt like I was rolling up a hill. I
believe it. It was rough. I believe it. It was rough.
How is everybody's weekend? I feel like so, first of all,
thank you all of you for who listened to our
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podcasts and support what we do. We both had a
lot of realizations about the podcast and our community over
the weekend. Yeah, but we are very greatful for you guys.
We've said that since the beginning, but we got different
insights that we didn't have previous. And and we do
this for you, guys, Like this is not Yes, we
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make money doing it, but we started this to help people,
and that is the whole hope of what we're doing
is to continue to help people grow. And like spending
time with people in our community and seeing there there
somebody looked at you on Saturday and said I'm so
grateful to be alive, and I never thought I would
say that. Yeah, right, like fuck man, Yes, it was
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so beautiful watching you make friends. Yeah. Yeah, on a weekend,
I danced too. You did. You moved and wove your
fingers and moved your hands. You were you were moving
energy around. That was dancing. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Yeah, I'm not a jump around and.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
I'm glad because it probably would have made me naxious
watching you jump up and down and ship like that
was it's too much movement. You you actually got up
at one point and you getting up, I was like,
oh god, oh yeah, I want to go get up.
That was so you could dance. Yeah. One of the
women had a steel drum that she was playing on
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called a hong drum.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
A hong drum yes, spelled like hang yeap, and she
was playing and I just I felt it. I was like,
I need to get up and I need to move energy,
like she's calling to me right now.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
And I went to go get up and You're.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Like, oh god, you moved and I got nauseous, and
I was like, oh, thank you for feeling that so
I didn't have to.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Yeah, I was told a lot this week and that
I looked like a goddess.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Dean said you too, I did.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Oh my gosh, did you hear me? Part of me
was self conscious? Did I sound bad?
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I didn't hear you. No, I didn't hear you singing.
You looked at me and said I hear you. Then
I must have heard you in the moment. Wow, I
don't know. Okay, when you were I heard you when
I didn't hear you near the fire I heard you
when you were on the mat. Yeah, that I absolutely
heard because you were sitting right next to me. That's
what I'm asking about. Yeah, that I heard. But if
you were singing up near the fire pit when you
were dance, sen, I didn't hear that, And that's where
Dean was at, so you had to have sung up
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there for him to hear you.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
No, I don't think I did. You didn't answer my question.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
Though I didn't answer your question. I did hear you singing.
Did it sound okay? Oh? Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, But
how how could you have been singing that loud? Because
it didn't sound loud next to me.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I got I got pretty vocal for a second there. Yeah,
during the Grandmother song. I don't even know how to
explain it. I didn't feel like it was my vocal
chords anymore.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
He said that he was over by Aaron and they
heard you. That's fucking insane. I was so deep in
the medicine it sounded like you were barely barely singing
thank you. No, I was like I was getting it.
There was a couple of times where You're like, babe, babe,
and I was.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yeah. There were times I couldn't even open my eyes.
I was like, I just know he's there and I'm
like hey, babe, and you didn't respond, and I was like, babe,
like you need to hear what I'm about to say
right now. Oh gosh, this weekend was wild.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah, that'll be a thing that's coming, guys. We'll get
into the weekend on an after.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Dark Oh my gosh, Aeron, really, she said it sounded
like I was right next to her.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
That's because you you connect. I think I think everybody
heard everybody because we were connected the way that we were.
Oh yeah, there was a lot. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
We were a collective. We weren't a single being.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
We were a fucking collective. And it's funny because Friday
ceremony everyone went to the same shit and Saturday was
the exact opposite, and everybody had the exact same experience Saturday. Yeah,
Jay's in the chat. Oh.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
Speaking of Jay and his woman Christa, they sent crystals.
Aaron gave me a crystal too, but we rushed out
of the house and I forgot to grab it. Carnelian
flower agate. And I don't know if Christa's listening, but
the palm flower agate that she gave me. I took
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the ceremony with me Friday night, along with the labor light.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Yeah, that's funny.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
This guy came out with me too.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
When you started pulling your crystals out of the bag
and you pulled that giant piece of rose quarts out,
I was like, damn, you weren't fucking kidding. I wasn't.
I was not that.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
My malakite went through it with me Friday night.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Every time I rolled over to purge, my hand to
land on it, and I was moving them and my hound,
my hand found it.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Every time. It's wild.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
My eyes were closed. I could not see Friday night,
you guys, I couldn't either. My my vision was not
a thing. I was I was just a spirit experiencing
a journey. I was convinced that I ship myself.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Friday night, we uh, we definitely went through it. I
mistook Chris's jean for a while. Face dude, we're tired.
Last night I went back into the medicine again. I
dreamt and had a lot. You woke me up, was like,
are you okay? And you never wake me up like that.
Let's not breathing. Yeah, And this morning when I asked
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you what it was, you were like you were crying
in your sleep or something. I don't know. I don't
think I was crying, but I definitely fucking had dreams
of ceremony a lot. Troy's going in front of Congress today,
Yes he is. I'm so excited to get a report
back on how that went. I definitely going to be
praying for him. Keep waiting to hear back from him.
So anything else you want to jump into before we
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jump into some emails? No, all right, for those of
you who actually care about hearing about our ceremony and
the things that we talk about, and that we did
do a live stream for Patreon after the first ceremony
and that's still on our Patreon, So if you guys
want to watch that, you can go back and watch it,
and we'll be doing it again soon. This episode is
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a thank you email, so also keep saying for those
of you who don't know, because I'm assuming that not
everybody's listened to our podcast before. If this is the
first time you're listening. We decided moving forward that we
were going to start every single email that we're every
episode with a thank you email. You kind of set
a positive tone of what we're doing with the podcast,
trying to change the feel of everything. All right, hotness,
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do your thing.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
All right, I'm writing this email to thank you both.
I met my man in high school. We went to
different high school, so I believe it was an act
of God that brought us together. Before I continue, I
want to apologize if this email seems to jump all
over the place. I have ADHD, but I will do
my best to keep everything in a proper order and
as smooth as possible. We both have a messy past,
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but we haven't let it come between us. Before I
found y'all, we had a great relationship, but I was
a people pleaser, especially when it came to family members. Worse,
if they were mine. It almost ended our relationship. We
have always wanted that traditional marriage and way of life,
but it didn't start off that way. We struggled to
find it without locking horns. We have always had good
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communication because we didn't want to be like either of
our parents. His parents hate each other, but refuse to
leave the relationship.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
That's so insane to me.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
Mine had a nasty divorce when I was two and
a half years old. When I found y'all's videos on TikTok,
the very first video I saw was Peaches talking about
being her man's peace, no matter what, no matter the
family member. It struck a chord in me. I fell
down the rabbit hole, so to speak. I soaked up
every word and started talking to my husband about it.
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With him, the chivalry was amplified. An example, he stands
at my back while I'm putting our beautiful children into
their car seats. There are so many other examples. I
could go on and on. I am his piece one
hundred percent. No one is going to talk shit about
him when I'm around. You cause him stress or cause
him to doubt himself, you won't be invited over his mother.
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His entire life has belittled him. The first year into
our marriage, we went to dinner with his family, all
women with the exception of my husband. We all were
having a conversation. My husband decided to say his two
cents on whatever it was. We were talking about. What
happened next. I think I will regret forever. His mother
turned to him and said, um, insert husband's name. The
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women are talking. What I said nothing. We have persevered
and our love has grown and continues to grow. He
will defend me and I will defend him no matter
who it is, including family. I no longer let my
mother in law belittle my husband or anyone else for
that matter.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
That's one of those things that will keep harper at
night for the rest of her life. I should have
said something. I should have stepped in and said something.
I should not have let that go unchecked.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
My instant reaction is to hit him with excuse you.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
One that catches people off guard because it's not aggressive,
and it makes them think about what they just said
and now you're going to have to explain it in
front of everybody.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
People are absolutely loving your earrings. I've seen probably seven
or eight comments in the chat about your earrings. Thank you.
I got a lot of jewelry this weekend, guys, some more.
When we got home, I ordered just more.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
Yes, I'm so excited. I am. A lot of it
came from the Honyicooon tribe, and then Sil was talking
about another one. I cannot rem remember the name of
the tribe. Oh, there's a lot harder to pronounce. But
I got some really massive, long beaded necklaces. I was
gonna wear one today, but I felt like it was
too much for my long ear rings. So I put
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on these guys and I.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Forgot my necklace. I don't feel bad about it, like
it definitely felt clean yesterday, but I'm still not ready
to wear it like that. I get that. I really
thought that thing was gonna break. Yeah, yeah, we have to.
That does all last conversation for the live stream too,
I believe it. I wonder if she Dean said he
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regrets not getting in a necklace.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
You'll get it again next time.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
Brother Jenna said that I loved that Sill was there.
Still is the facilitator she is. She is like hand
in hand tribe.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Maine medicine woman. I adore her.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
She's a beautiful soul.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Yeah, thinking about her makes me want to cry.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
Yeah, I hope that she's able to forgive herself for
not letting that go, like not stepping in and saying
something because it happened, like you can't change it, and
holding on to that forever. It's going to just hurt you.
A learning lesson, right, But now that you know how
you feel because of it, you know not to do
that again. And you know that if it's ever going
to be a moment where you have the opportunity to
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step up and defend your husband, you will assess the
life lesson.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
You know, it's part of being a human. As my
husband told our son the other night, erasers were invented
for a reason.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
Yeah, because they know we're going to make mistakes. Yep.
I also think it's important for people to remember that
you can't learn from somebody else's mistakes. Like our podcast
is us trying to help people, and like we can
give advice so that people have a roadmap of how
to move forward in the event that they find themselves
in these situations. But until you're in a situation, you
have no idea how you're going to handle it, and
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you're probably going to handle it wrong. Even with the
information that you have, and you're gonna have to go
back and go Okay, new roadmap that was not the
move right. Sorry.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
If I see out of a guy, seem out of it.
My body went through a lot yesterday. Yeah, everything hurts.
I was writing in my journal earlier and it felt
like my arm was made of lead. So I appreciate
the grace that you're going to have with me. During
this episode. We listened to another a lot better than before.
Like I said, we had good communication, but now it's
one hundred times better. We don't just talk to each other,
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we communicate. My husband loves to cook. It's one of
his love languages. Personally, I hate cooking, but I love
to bake.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
So he would make.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Meals while I made the desserts. Not exactly traditional, I know,
but that's what he loves.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
Guys are happy. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
When I think of traditional, right, there's the pink jobs
and there's the blue jobs. But I traditional to me
means more beyond that. It's about what your souls are doing.
It's about being the protector and the peace and the
guardian and the communicators and all those kinds of things.
The jobs that are divvied up. Are just the human
forms of things? Right?
Speaker 1 (17:51):
All right, guys, As you know, there was a TikTok scare.
We lost the app for a whole twelve hours and
we have no idea what the future of the app
looks like. And with that, we are very concerned learned
about the loss of our following. We have a massed
almost three million followers across that platform with all four
of our accounts, and we are trying to push people
to other social media platforms to that in the event
that anything happens on one app, we have multiple other
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backup plans. If you want to make sure that you're
not missing any content, we highly recommend that you check
out our Patreon.
Speaker 2 (18:18):
On Patreon, we have multiple tiers to choose from. Starting
at ten dollars, you begin to receive exclusive content. At
fifteen dollars a month, you get access to our private
discord server where we've en massed in an absolutely amazing
community of supportive people. And beyond that, we have other
tiers to check out, along with my two private women's group.
If that's something you may be interested.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
In, Guys. On our fifteen dollars and higher tier, you
have access to live recordings. We record all of our
content three, four, sometimes five times a week live in
front of our Patreon audience, where they are able to
chat with us while we're recording. They can see all
the flirting, the outtakes, the hot topic conversations that never
actually make it on the podcast, and it's really worth
that aspect in itself. We have an after Dark where
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we sit down usually once a week and have a
glass of bourbon or and Peach's case of glass of
wine and a bowl of cheese and we have a
whole lot of fun conversations karaoke in the discord we
finish the lyrics. We literally just hang out and you
guys get to hang out with us. There is a
host of other perks, including zoom calls that are coming
for the Ultimate Tier, so that if you guys are
having problems, you can talk to us. It also gives
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you with the heads up on private meet and greets
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people on our discord on a regular basis. There's a
whole slew of other perks that come through Patreon. I
highly recommend that you check it out.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
The best way to support what we are doing. Is
to share the content. The second best way is to
check out our Patreon. Thank you guys for being here.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
It's chores, Yeah, when you really look at it, there
are going to be things that are more suited for
men and women, obviously, and that's why the pink job
and blue jobs are a thing. But I again this whole, like,
I understand that women are supposed to cook and clean
and do all that shit according to traditional values, but
it doesn't have to be that way. Right. If you're happy,
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you're happy. And if you can if you if you're
in a position where you can put your your woman
in a stay at home position, that's that's even better,
especially if there's kids involved, Like, that's that's the dream.
But the division of labor is just that, it's a
division of labor. When we were there the uh, one
of the guardians asked me about the salt container and
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I was like, I don't know if we've got one
of those, and she's like, well, just it's on the counter.
You would know, and I'm like, no, no, I wouldn't.
I was like, I didn't know we had We didn't
have salt shakers until like four months ago. Yeah, And
she looked at me, and I was like, the kitchen
speech is domain. I was like, I don't cook or
clean or do anything in there. That's all her. Yeah,
And she just looked at me and I was like,
I'm very serious when I say that. That's just the
way that it is in our home. We were like
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five years in before I realized we didn't have salt shakers. Yeah,
what the.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Yeah, I will never forget that text message, where's the
salt shaker?
Speaker 1 (20:53):
We don't own one? Why not because you don't need it? Yeah.
I season our meals to perfect. Jenna said, I feel
like your soul is six foot outside of you right now,
Like it's in the room and communicating, but the host
body is delayed and responding. That's what you're tired feeling,
looks like to me. Yeah, I how it feels. I
can tell you're not all the way back, is what
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I'm trying to say. Yeah, we are definitely tired, guys,
but we wanted to get the episode in. We were
gonna I canceled Voice of the Broker this week. We're
gonna do two episodes just to make sure that we're
continuing because we have a lot going on. We have
something planned every month for the rest of the year,
and I don't want to fucking fall behind.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
I'm gonna be honest. I don't know. If I can
do a second episode today.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
That's fine. We just do pick it up on Wednesday
and do three. We don't have the kids this week,
so yeah. Or we can come in on a day
when we do the night time the after dark and
do one before we do the after dark. I really
don't care. I just don't want to get used to
skipping because that will become habitual.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Recently, he has brought up that he's stressed out about
cooking when he has to get home from a late
shift at work. So I started making dinner. I feel
like I have to burp. I'm so sorry, guys. I'm
still purging a lot, a lot of burping, A lot
of yawning is happening.
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Yeah, yawning is definitely a thing.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Yeah, all right, I'm gonna keep going. But if I
randomly burp, they excuse me, He's already there, Yeah, okay, premeditated.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
Excuse me. Yes.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
So, he said he's been stressed out about having to
cook when coming home late from work, So I started
cooking dinner the first time he came home and found
dinner already and was waiting. He was so appreciative. All
he could do to think was to drop everything and
kiss me. Now he will have nights where he tells
me not to make dinner because he has something in
mind that he wants to do, and I let him.
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It makes him happy. We don't have to ask each
other for many things anymore. If I have reached a
breaking point with our kids, he will tell me to
go relax in a hot shower, cuddle up in bed,
and take a long nap. One thing I would say
we still both struggle with is feeling guilt about not
being enough or doing enough. I am feeling guilty about
being a stay at home feeling like I am not
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doing enough for the household financially. He reassures me that
I am where I need to be, homeschooling and raising
our beautiful babies have grown to wonderful people.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
Money is a tool. Yeah, that's it, guys. That's it.
Money is a tool. It is a fucking resource that
you can get more of. And if you need more money,
then I can understand why that would be a problem.
But if you're able to homeschool and do the home
wife thing, the state at home wife thing, and he's
able to work and make enough meat. You don't need
to worry about your finances. That's a him worry, yes,
And if he comes to you, it's like, Babe, I'm
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not worried about money. That's when you need to worry
about it. Until then, you don't need to be thinking
about your finances at all. That's not a problem for you.
I was once that woman.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
Once I transition to being a stay at home I
felt a lot of guilt for not bringing income anymore,
and that was something that was drilled into me since
I could remember that a lot of my worth was
based on what I can provide financially. As a woman,
I have to be able to do everything a man
can do. Looking back now and reading this email, what
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a way to diminish what you do as a mom
and a wife. Just boil it down to while I'm
not making any money, right your homeschool and your children,
you're taking care of the household. You're your man's peace,
You're cooking meals for him. Now. You're doing everything in
your power to be the best version of you, and
you're allowing a societal guilt weigh you down.
Speaker 1 (24:25):
That societal guilt and societal pressure is a really big
thing from the weekend for me. We talked a lot
about creativity. We talked a lot about the podcast Guys
Like that was a huge topic this weekend. And one
of the things that I wrote down in my journal,
which we'll get into again on an after dark, is
that we make this for you. We're not doing this
for us. Like when we started doing this, we did
this to help people. And when you look at it
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from a creative standpoint, we are making this for you.
It's no different than your kids drawing you a picture
going look, mommy, I made this for you. We made
this for you, and we want you to enjoy it
and gain value from it. We want to change the
societal pressures that come from it. There was a moment
when you were in ceremony that you said that you
didn't sing because somebody told you when you were little
to not quit your day job, and that was something
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you really enjoyed doing, and like it killed the desire
to sing. It only takes once for someone to beat
that creativity out of you in a way that makes
you feel like you're less thand you never want to
do it again. So we're trying to change all of that.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Yeah, continuing, he feels guilty about his work and worries
his children will resent him for it. I reassure him
that the children will not resent him. He still manages
time with them, and they are so excited when he
gets home. The first thing they do is run to
the door screaming Daddy with huge smiles on their faces.
Speaker 1 (25:37):
It's a race to see who can hug me first
when I get home. Yeah, she beats you out there sometimes. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Sometimes I push you out of the way and be like, yeah,
it sucks the suck loser.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
That's funny.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Sometimes her young supple ankles.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Do Yeah, do beat me. That's funny. Our son is
the fact, this one of all.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
And I'm glad when he doesn't race, because then I
have a fighting chance.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Yeah. Yeah. He fucking ran all the way down that
road the other day. He I don't know what it
is in him, wild he did. He ran.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
He ran, oh God, for maybe fifteen minutes straight. Then
he came back and he was like, Mommy, I'm tired.
Speaker 1 (26:22):
I need a break.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:23):
I gave him a piggyback ride. I'd have been like,
you're the one who ran.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
Yeah. He's like, Mommy, I'm so grateful for you, thank
you for this piggyback ride. I was like, you're welcome, kid,
but I'm not doing this again, so don't run again.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
All right?
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Continuing, I tell him the fact that he is so
worried about it tells me that he is a great
father to our children. Thanks to y'all, I would say
we have a good hold on the traditional marriage we
have always been looking for. We are stronger and more
in love than ever. I would do anything for my man,
and I know for a fact he do anything for me.
He is my storm and I am as calm. I
love him so dearly. We will have been together nineteen
(26:58):
years and married eleven years. And I could go on
and on about it but this, but it would turn
into a book. God bless you both.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
I was nice.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
Thank you for sharing that. That was beautiful.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
It is definitely nice knowing that people are like hearing
what we're saying and improving their life because of it
be very easy for people to just get stuck and
not do anything with their life because that's what it's
expected of them. Yeah, you know, all right. This is
a four pager called the What ifs.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
My senses are so heightened right now that I can
taste smells. That's usually a thing for me where I
can taste smells. But it's so intense right now that
I feel like I want to block all of my orifices.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
So you can literally taste the rainbow. Yeah, my eyeballs
are breathing right now. Jay said he loved our episodes
on Somebody of Deconstruction.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
Oh fantastic, Thank you. I was pretty nervous about that.
Speaker 1 (27:53):
I still have to finish mine. Yeah, Tiffany, you cannot
send super chats because this is a private live stream.
This is just for our Patreon community. Nobody else can
see it.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Bethany says, tasting smells me and your sinuses are super clear.
I believe it. I vomited through my nose yesterday. Yeah, yep.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
She also asked if that yawning was was a purging. Yeah.
She she had her first psychedelic experience over the weekend.
I love that for you, Bubba, stop it with the toy.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
Yeah, so purging can look like sneezing, crying, sweating, laughing,
bowel movements. Friday night, my purging was like a five
minute urination. I thought I was dying as I didn't
know my body could hold this much. I'm surprised nobody
came in and checked on me. Wild yeah snot mucus
(28:46):
can be a purge. Okay, getting into this one, the
what ifs Dear christ and Peach. I have been listening
to the podcast since March of twenty twenty two. I've
thought about sitting in an email at least a dozen times,
but have never found the right reason to. Little backstory.
I female, twenty four, have a five year old daughter
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from a previous relationship, a five year old bonus son stepson,
and an almost nine month old daughter with my husband.
My husband, male twenty nine, and I met on Bumble
in February of twenty twenty two.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
There was oh ba house house, no bubba. I know,
dad got excited, You got excited.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
Flat, thank you for hyping up my burp.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Oh I'm going to get back into the email, I promise.
Saturday night, while dancing around the fire, we were all
making noises, right yeah, like shouting and whooping and whatnot,
and I started going like, just sit in it.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
That was huh. Yeah, I thought that was sill. No,
that was me. That's funny, just living life.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
That's how I'm gonna hype people up now that that
energy feels so good to move that way it does.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
There's so much power on our voice. Yes, that was
a big thing for me this weekend too. There's probably
four entries in my journal about our voice. I can't
wait to sit down and do that episode. And for
those of you who can see Aaron in the chat
saying how she's also she was in ceremony, Dean and
Lauren have all agreed to do a zoom call with
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us to talk about their experiences in the medicine. And
I know a lot of you guys are are excited
about that because you really enjoyed ours. So yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
Also shout out to Aaron. She danced with me for
like three hours Saturday night.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
You got up to dance and she was sitting there
by yourself, like you were up by yourself, and she's like, nope,
not letting her do this by yourself. Yeah, and jumped
right back up. Dean said I had to put money
on it that it was still. I'm telling you, I
really thought it was silf. Wow, that's so funny. Oh,
that makes me feel good. All right, let's get back
to Because people at this point are shutting.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Our shows, Okay, I don't think they are. I think
people are excited for us.
Speaker 1 (31:13):
Yeah. Probably.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
Why would you speak negatively like that.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
Well, because there are definitely people out there who don't
want to hear about our daily banter and our nonsense.
They're only here for the emails. You got to think
there are people who subscribe to the channel only to
try to get their email read, like they're waiting for
their shit to pop up, and once it's read, they're
probably going to turn it off and not listen to
us anymore.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
That's probably why your email hasn't been read yet. This
isn't just about you. There you go, We're a collective.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
When you look at it as your email being sent in,
it should be sent in to get help for you
and others. Right, it changes the intent behind the email.
I wonder if that would make people write more honest emails.
Speaker 2 (31:48):
Maybe we met on Bumble in February of twenty twenty two,
but in the first few years together we had been
through a lot and no particular order. Custody struggles, death
of grandparents on both It's moving twice, his father passing
away a state, handling Drama Disney with and without the kids.
Ikea furniture. Oh god, that's one way to test the relationship.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
Boy is it? Boy is it?
Speaker 2 (32:17):
I love that that was included, even just going to Ikea.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
Right, well, I wonder if she's been listening since March
of twenty twenty two, so she's probably heard about the
fucking Ikea furniture to bacle. I refuse to build a shit. Yeah,
fuck Ikia furniture. That one hit my husband on a
personal It did. It did like too soon. The scab
(32:41):
is still wrong. Every time. I got to take that
shit apart and do it again. Yeah, every time. And
they don't come with instructions it does. It's just weird
pictures that don't make no sense.
Speaker 2 (32:51):
Ikea furniture, engagement, miscarriage, pregnancy and birth of our daughter, marriage,
rescuing dogs, getting chickens, we just covering our faith, purchasing
his father's home from the estate where my husband was raised,
refinancing said house, and much much more, most of which
I was not expecting to experience this early in life,
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let alone with the wonderful husband. Throughout these years, we
have continued to maintain support and remembering no matter what
comes our way, it is us together as a team,
and we will get through it together. With all of
this crazy nonsense going on in the world, we've started
to discuss our wishes on the what ifs. His father
passed away after twenty plus years of health struggles just
(33:33):
ten months into our relationship. Seeing both his father and
grandfather go through everything they did within the last few
months of their lives has had a great impact on
his thoughts and wishes if he were to end up
in that sort of situation, if one of us were
to end up as a vegetable, what is our wish?
Along with topics like DNRS, dn RS, oh, my dyslethia
(33:55):
kicked in hard, I thought I said that wrong, ventilators,
medically induced comas, and much more. These are conversations that
should be had, but things that at twenty four and
twenty nine years old, most people don't discuss. After all,
we are in the prime of our life. Nothing can
happen to us, and although those discussions can be hard
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to have, I think forcing your loved ones to make
those sort of life changing decisions without any input on
your end can be devastating.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
I don't think that it's I think that it should
be normalized that you're having those conversations in twenty four
to twenty nine years old. I know people who are
in their late twenties have had heart attacks.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
I see people on TikTok who on the early to
mid twenties who can't leave their house for more than
once a month because it raises their blood pressure and
it makes them sick for weeks on end right, that's
life real quick.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Kalindra said, how do I join the Discord? So you're
obviously on the tier high enough to see that the
link that we posted. In order to access the discord,
you need to use a browser like Google Chrome or whatever,
the Firefox or whatever, and then link Discord and Patreon
through the Patreon website. Don't use the app. Once that's connected,
you open the Discord app and it'll automatically have you
(35:08):
in our server. You just agree to the rules and go.
I agree with you.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
I think that these conversations should be had absolutely. I
think before you decide to get married, these conversations should
be had. We've also started discussing if we want to
be buried or cremated. If we want to be kept
in a vase on the mantle or buried at a cemetery,
or if there is something else we would rather have done.
Being in your twenties and even thirties, you aren't typically
(35:34):
thinking about after the end of life. But we have
both had many friends and acquaintances from school and adult
life that have already lost their lives with early for
many different reasons. Already have my funeral planned out. Yeah, yeah,
I want to be sent away to see.
Speaker 1 (35:48):
Can't promise that, why because I don't know. If I
could let you go, I may have to keep you
with me for a little while before that happens. I can,
I can. I mean, I'm not talking about just dumping
your body in the ocean, all right, but you know,
if we're to cremate, i'd be able to dump you
when I'm ready to like let you go. I don't
think that I'm going to do very well with that
if that's the thing. If you go before me, it's
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gonna be a very very hard time for me.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
So I believe that, especially after this weekend.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
Asshole, don't do that. I'm sorry. There are my tissues
there they are. Would you like a tissue. No, okay.
Speaker 2 (36:33):
Like I mentioned earlier, I have thought about writing many times,
but never had a good reason until now.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
I want to pause there. I don't believe in good
or bad.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I think you telling yourself I have to have a
good reason to talk to Chris and Peaches is diminishing yourself.
I'm willing to talk to a homeless person sitting outside
of seven eleven.
Speaker 1 (36:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
Any reason you have to want to talk to anybody
is good enough. I am in the Air National Guard.
I almost autopilot Air Force. I am in the Air
National Guard planning on staying in the service for at
least twenty years, and the probability of myself seeing the
front lines, I would like to believe, is almost impossible. However,
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my husband would rather be safe than sorry and decided
we needed to have another what if conversation. He had
said something along the lines of if I were to
be a POW for those if you don't know, it
means prisoner of war, he would be here for me
when I come home. But what if I am reported
as MIA or KIA, missing an action or killed in action?
(37:40):
What would my wishes be? How long would I want
him to grieve for I feel like this is a
tough question to answer. When we started talking, we clicked
right away, and from the outside looking in, it may
seem like we were rushing things, but we were living it.
Everything just felt right. So I found it difficult to say, oh,
I want you to wait two years or five years
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or whatever, because I'm gone. I'm with my Lord and Savior,
So what do I care. I'm not going to be
jealous or sad when I'm in heaven. I want my
husband to be happy. I also acknowledge that we have
three young children right now. I would want him to
have a good mother. I would want them to have
a good mother figure in life. I believe God will
provide and would bring the right person in at the
(38:21):
right time. That seems hard to leave as instructions for
a grieving person. Just trust and you'll know. I don't
want the wrong person coming in and trying to take
advantage of the situation. My solution to this problem I
want him to listen to this podcast.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Oh wow.
Speaker 2 (38:37):
I hope he can find a community here to help
support him. I hope that he can learn information to
help guide him towards a good woman who will love
and support him. And our kids as much, if not
more than I do. I want him to hear the conversations,
had the guidance given and the self check ins to
ensure we are holding ourselves accountable to be better and
keep growing.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
I have to pause for a minute, okay, because this
is heavy and I wasn't expecting to get into all this.
I gotta be honest. I was expecting normal relationship shit
today and I wasn't prepared for death conversations, which is
why I didn't want to do the Voice of the broken.
But speaking on myself in this situation, if I, if
you were to die before me and I had twenty
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or thirty more years here on the planet, I wouldn't
be able to dedicate myself to another person because I
know that I'm not going to be able to love
them in the way that I love you, you know
what I mean. And like the reality of it is
is if I did that, they would be a placeholder.
They would literally be somebody to just hang out with
until I died. And I can do that without the
romantic aspect involved, like I could have a roommate or
you know, property and with friends living on it. There's
(39:39):
other ways to do that. But because of the things
that we went through this weekend. Knowing what I know,
I know that you would be waiting for me so
that we could do this again. I don't. I just
I know that we would have amnesia when we came back.
We all do. But like I don't, I wouldn't want to.
I don't. I don't just I don't think I could
do it. I really don't think I could do anything.
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I think that I would just end up being fucking
alone for the rest of my life.
Speaker 2 (40:03):
Yeah, if I were to pass before you, you would
have my blessing, but you also have your own free
will and choice. I'm not going to push you to
make you feel like you have to find somebody else
after me, because I don't think you can survive on
your own. There wouldn't be I wouldn't feel betrayed if
that would be a concern, or like what we had
(40:25):
wasn't significant to you because you were able to find
somebody else, Right, Well.
Speaker 1 (40:29):
It wouldn't be any of that. Right. I know that
I'm not going to be able to dedicate myself to
another human being the way that I've dedicated myself to you,
and that's not fair. To them. Yeah, you know, if
say I was to die and you love me the
way that you love me, and you met another man,
you were never going to be able to love him
the way that you've loved me. No, and neither one
of us will ever have a relationship like this ever again. Period.
There's just no way. There's been too much, too deep
(40:53):
for that to be a thing. And that's a very
egotistical thing to say, But if you've been through the
things that you and I have been through together, you
would understand, so you can save that shit. But like,
that's really what it comes down to. So to have
somebody that loves you the way that I love you,
knowing that I wasn't here and you're not being able
to reciprocate that, it's not fair to them.
Speaker 2 (41:15):
Yeah, so our love is also plastered around the world. Yeah,
it would be unfair of me to bring another man
into this relationship after you passed and have that constant
reminder of she will never love me the way that
she loved him.
Speaker 1 (41:32):
That's what I was getting at. Yeah, they would be
a placeholder, it would be somebody to hang out.
Speaker 2 (41:37):
Exactly what it would be. I would never get married again.
You will never have the title of a husband to me,
Is there any advice you would have if this were
to happen and he was listening in now? Thank you
so much, Chris Peach and the wizards too, for all
that you do to put out to this community. Whether
you hear from the lurkers or not, we are here
and we are listening. I look forward to each new
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vide you put out. If my husband is listening, take time,
take a breath, and go do something that makes you happy,
whether you travel or take it all in the good
God has done around you, or take in all the
good God has done around you, be that the family
we have made, or simply that breeze through the trees
on top of our mountain. Know that I love you
with my whole being and I appreciate everything you do
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for our family.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
I am not in a mindset for this today. Yeah,
this is a normal relationship shit. I was here for.
Was not prepared to deal with that shit today. Advice
that I have is, ultimately he's going to have to
make this decision for himself. And even if you gave
him wishes saying that you want him to wait six
months or six years, the life that he lives when
you're no longer A part of it is going to
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be his life and his decision. As Peach said a
moment ago, she would want me to move on and
find happiness, but she wouldn't try to force it on.
I want you to do what makes you happy, right,
And that's the conversation that needs to be had. You
do what makes you happy. You want to remarry, remarry
you meet somebody in six weeks after I pass. It's
six weeks after I pass. It doesn't diminish the love
(43:22):
that we had if that happened, right, that's my answer
to that email. I think that's the first time we've
got an email like that. I want another steak today. Yeah, yeah, Look,
it'ts you going into heart on the red meat. I
don't know what it is, but my body is craving it. Yeah,
probably from a lot pursing yesterday. Probably we have all
that grasshead beef in the freezer. I think there's stakes
(43:44):
in there.
Speaker 2 (43:45):
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Speaker 2 (44:04):
I got it medium yesterday, so it was red and
pink and it was my soul just needed to be
a carnivore. Yeah, all right, Next email a question about
fifty to fifty households.
Speaker 1 (44:19):
There's no such thing.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
I agree with that. My boyfriend I have been together
for nearly five years, our entire adult lives, starting at
the age of twenty and twenty one, now twenty five
and twenty six. We are starting to get to a
point where marriage is in the near future. As a
woman who lives in a fifty to fifty household, how
can I fully submit to my future husband? I pray
(44:43):
that you elaborate on fifty to fifty household because I
don't believe in fifty fifty household.
Speaker 1 (44:47):
This is a one page email, so we're not getting it.
We're not getting any elaboration. I can't maybe, so let's
assume this is just financially Okay, there's no such thing
as fifty to fifty. You'd have to make the same
amount of money, right, because if you made one hundred
thousand a year and I made fifty thousand a year
and I had to pay half of your bills to
keep up, I'm fucking broke.
Speaker 2 (45:07):
After that, my money is going to make up what
you don't have for enjoyment, vacations, going shopping, fancy dinners.
Speaker 1 (45:18):
Could you imagine that, Let's go, let's go to Iceland.
I don't have no money, all right, Well I'm going
to a lot to then he broke. Bitch. Yeah, that
is so fucking asinine to me. Fifty to fifty doesn't exist.
That's not how that works. Right. If you're in a
relationship and you say I do, and you guys are
in this life together, your money is their money.
Speaker 2 (45:40):
Now, let's look at it from a labor standpoint, right,
say he works and she's a stay at home. I
view the person leaving the house and working as as
the bigger percentage there, okay, and the reason. And we
have children. I take care of the household. You take
care of the dogs in a different sense than I do.
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I feed them and all those kinds of things. And
you take them out.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
I work them.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
Yeah, they're too much for me. I ripped off a
whole fingernail trying to play with them, and I don't
want to hurt myself again. He he hit his head
on my hip yesterday and I thought he broke it.
Speaker 1 (46:17):
Yeah, he's like he's a lot.
Speaker 2 (46:19):
I'm also delicate, So I appreciate that you work them
the way that you do.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
Me.
Speaker 2 (46:26):
Taking care of the household and cooking and being the
primary caregiver for the children, it is a lot of work.
Speaker 1 (46:34):
Yes, I would do that.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
God, I would take care of ten kids before I
had to do what you had to do when it
comes to work.
Speaker 1 (46:42):
Let's let's add to that. Okay, city dwellers don't have
to do that what I'm about to get into. But
if you if you live on more than an acre
of land called five acres or more, be fair, and
you are not well off. There's land maintenance, fences, tree clearing, mowing,
all of that shit that has to get done frequently. Yeah,
and to take the farm that we were just at,
(47:04):
the work on that farm for those two people is
a full time job and a fifty to fifty split
where the woman's taking care of the inside shit, and
the man is working on outside of the house and
bringing in the finances and still has to do all
that other stuff. There's a whole lot of workload that
has to go there, so there's to that. And when
you look at it that way, it's not fifty to fifty.
In a city situation where dude's going to work and
(47:25):
bringing home the money and both people are parenting and
the woman is taking care of the house, that's not
fifty to fifty. No, probably a little more fair, but
definitely not fifty to fifty. And I think that also
depends on his job.
Speaker 2 (47:39):
I agree with that, because if the person leaving the
house is standing outside of the car wash and scrubbing
people's windshield and their partner's staying at home and taking
care of everything at home, I think the at home
person has more of a load on their plate than
the windshield washer.
Speaker 1 (47:58):
I actually would disagree with that I've done because I've
done that job. And granted this was in the nineties
and technology is very different now, but we had to
hand wash the car before it went through the car wash,
and then there were people on the outside that had
to dry. That was a very short lived job. That's
not a thing now, yeah, okay, yeah, so yeah, but
in that situation, I was in direct sunlight all fucking
(48:19):
day long, and like they had to rotate people because
you're standing there in the heat and you're moving constantly.
It's Florida.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
Yeah, that's not a thing either, at least at the
car washes I've been to. Yeah, and this was recent,
like within the last six months.
Speaker 1 (48:30):
Okay, well so they're in a shaded area.
Speaker 2 (48:31):
Literally all this person did was scrub my windshield, scrub
the back window.
Speaker 1 (48:35):
And okay, yeah, so then it's changed. Yeah, but I
did that job at one point. The job sucked, as
it was a very short lived job, but it was
very hard work because it's hot as hell outside and
you're not just doing the window, You're you gotta scrub
and like prepping, get it ready to go through the washer. Right.
Speaker 2 (48:49):
Yeah, So I'm going to rephrase my statement. What's that
I'm old, but you're sexy. So I'm going to rephrase
my statement. Majority of the time, I think the person
leaving the household has the larger percentage when it comes
to a pie chart of life. However, you want to
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look at that. Now, if you're working from home while
simultaneously homeschooling children, taking care of the kids, cleaning the house.
You have a farm to take care of, and your
man leaves the house and does construction work for ten hours,
comes back home and he does nothing at the house.
I would say you have majority of it. I'm just
trying to paint different pictures because people are gonna get
shitty in the comments about it.
Speaker 1 (49:31):
Well and let them. Who cares If people making those
arguments are doing it because they feel like they need
to make their argument. Maybe in their relationship, they do
work harder than their insignificant other, right, maybe not. The
reality is construction workers will be working harder than most
people in the house. If you look at somebody who
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clears land all day, for example, on an excavator, all
they're doing is this, Yeah, it's not hard work with
their air pods until they have to get out and
get a chainsaw and wrap chain around trees and like
do the work. But that's not an everyday thing. So
like that, that is, you know, a very real situation.
So for you like laying things out the way that
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you're laying out, the people who are going to argue
are only doing that because they're trying to make it
sound like they have a harder job than their person.
Speaker 2 (50:20):
You guys are not going to give the same percentages.
Speaker 1 (50:23):
Every single day, Nope, absolutely not.
Speaker 2 (50:25):
Some days you're only going to be able to give
fifteen percent and your partner is going to have to
pick up your slack.
Speaker 1 (50:31):
That fifty to fifty is bullshit. Ye Cozy said insignificant
other nice. I'm glad that somebody caught that because I
said it on purpose. It was intentional. I caught that. Yeah,
because if that's the way that you're living your life,
your person is not meaningful to you. Like, if you're
fighting over things like this, this is not You're not
a team like. This is somebody that you're just kind
of existing with. It's not. We don't have arguments like that.
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We never have arguments over division of labor. Ever, it's
never happened, not once, have we ever had an issue
in that field. You're also willing to help me, right,
that's teamwork. I'm also willing to ask for help, right.
I don't expect you to read my mind. You're also
not trying to fight with me over my socks on
the floor or how a householded like you're grateful that
I put this shit away? All right?
Speaker 2 (51:16):
Continuing as a woman who lives in a fifty to
fifty household, how can I fully submit to my future husband?
I enjoy working and would like to continue to do so,
but I also would like to have a somewhat traditional household.
I was raised to be an independent person, but as
the years have gone, I realized I don't want to
be independent, but to be dependent on each other. So
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how can I fully submit to him while in a
fifty to fifty household? Thank you so much for your time.
Keep doing what y'all are doing. I love watching y'all
and Mayerri y'all also peaches your style and beauty as
top tier. I am so jealous of you, I swear true. Goddess,
Oh thank you for that.
Speaker 1 (51:51):
How can you? How can you compare submission to fifty
to fifty because it's not the same thing. It's not
submitting to me and letting me lead our house has
nothing to do with the division of labor or our finances.
It's giving me the ability to make final decisions and
trust me when I say this is best for us.
Speaker 2 (52:11):
Let's say it fully boils down to my trust me.
Being submissive to you looks like being non combative or
not degrading you for a decision that may not have
gone the way you wanted it to and.
Speaker 1 (52:24):
Really fun sexy times. Yeah. The thing that I hung
up on on most is I was raised to be
an independent person. But in the years I've realized I
don't want to be independent. I want to be dependent
on each other. If you want to be independent, don't
get married, yes, don't get into a long term relationship.
Don't don't live with somebody that you're dating. There's no
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independence in that. When you move in with somebody and
you are cohabiting a household and you were sleeping in
the same bed, that independence is gone. Yes, you can
still have freedom to do the things that you enjoy,
but the independence leaves you're not living as just you anymore.
Where you've decided to live as a unit, and that
team work has to happen.
Speaker 2 (53:04):
While in the medicine, she's uh, that freedom song came
on and I got up and we all danced and
we were all moving. But I looked at you and
I said, Babe, you are my freedom.
Speaker 1 (53:18):
Can you elaborate on that?
Speaker 2 (53:20):
Not without crying. So no, not right now.
Speaker 1 (53:23):
Can you write it down and elaborate it on a
live stream?
Speaker 2 (53:26):
Yeah, okay, I'm not going to forget it. I just
I wrote down what I needed to write down.
Speaker 1 (53:29):
But did you have anything else on this? I don't.
With that being said, guys, thank you for watching our podcast.
We made this for you, yes, and remember that you
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