December 3, 2024 • 30 mins
Meet Chad Cooper, or “Coop” as we fondly call him. At the age of 50, Coop's ponders if it’s even worth it, being a “nice guy” anymore. Do women prefer the “bad boy” over the stable, successful, and thoughtful partner? Life has a funny way of balancing youthful debauchery with more responsible pursuits, as he discovered while trading late-night clubbing for being a caretaker to his elderly parents. With influences from his parents' enduring marriage, we reflect on societal perceptions and personal growth that accompany being single and childless in later years. Modern dating is a beast of its own, especially when nightlife and entertainment careers are involved. As we navigate these waters, we share humor-laden tales and insights on the importance of finding partners who understand the unique demands and sacrifices of such a lifestyle.The digital age has reshaped the way we look for love, bringing both opportunities and challenges. The shift to dating apps and social media has changed the landscape, often leaving genuine human connections in the dust. But amid these complexities, there's an undeniable urgency to pursue happiness and meaningful connections without settling. We explore the societal pressures of age differences in relationships and the joys of embracing friendships. Whether it's through a shared passion for sports or simply finding joy in everyday moments, we encourage listeners to prioritize authentic bonds and cherish the companionships that truly matter.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Welcome to Two Generations, One Mic, and
today's episode is called.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Bad Boys.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Bad Boys.
I mean, I can relate to that,I'm sure every guy's like.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
we all relate to that Sure Phil Dunphy.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I am a bad boy.
I know all the words to Wicked.
I'm telling you it's coming out.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
You know how I know you the words to Wicked.
I'm telling you it's coming out.
You know how I know you're gay.
Yeah, I know right.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
No, but today we actually have a guest.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Yes, we have Chad Cooper, aka Coop.
And who is Coop?
Why is he with us?
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Coop is with us because I've known Coop for a
long time.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
So I think I said before you guys used to date
right.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
No, we never dated.
We were on hiatus, somephysical things Just a couple
times airport restrooms, nothing, really nothing that meant
anything.
Ew, david, no, so we know eachother because I mentioned before
I was previously.
A lot of my career was in radiotelevision.
Previously, a lot of my careerwas in radio television and so
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during my radio career I was ona morning show and we did
charity events.
All the time.
We played charity basketballgames and we were out for blood
playing teachers and coachestrying to win these games.
And at the time Chad had justgraduated high school and he was
the three-point shootingchampion for the high school.
So I went out and grabbed himand recruited him to be on my
(01:28):
morning radio show but to alsoplay on our basketball team.
So you were what?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
17, 18 17, that was in 92 93.
I was a ringer.
I was probably the ringer yeah,on the team um.
So it was like a projectgraduation event where you raise
money for the high school, butyou didn't.
You, your team, wanted to winevery time yes, we did yeah
there.
There wasn't going to be.
Oh, we're going to finish.
You know we're going to lose tothe teachers, or the shop
(01:55):
teachers or the coaches orwhatever it was.
So wait, so you're like 50 nowI'm 50, yeah, 50 years old, born
in 74.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
So a long time I see you like a kid, I still act like
a kid, a lot of times.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Maybe that's where the bad boy part comes in, right
, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
But you've grown so much as a person since.
I've known you and career youstart out kind of.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Well, you hope so.
I mean 17 to 50.
Well, well, he started out onthe on the radio program.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
But then he, he branched out.
You know he's always intosports.
He was a great sports writerand then now entertainment
writer, right, and you do thatfor uh print publications.
Speaker 3 (02:34):
Yeah, the examiner newspaper in beaumont.
I'm the entertainment editorstarted in 02 as sports then, uh
, but my real passion was musicand entertainment.
I would go.
You know, I've never reallybeen outside of my town growing
up.
You know, just family vacationsin Tennessee going to see
Elvis's Graceland, you know inthe 70s, parents driving up so,
(02:56):
and staying at a Howard Johnsonand getting to swim in the
swimming pool.
That was our summers.
Right Then I met you.
Next thing, you know I'm goingto all these concerts and
meeting all these you knowfamous people and backstage and
Michael Jordan.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Michael.
There's my idol and Michael.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Jordan when he's playing baseball.
That was 1997.
It was just an unrealexperience and I'm like, okay, I
love sports, but entertainmentand music is my true passion.
Not playing it, just wanting tobe a part of it.
And then, uh, you know, goingto music festivals with you, you
introducing me to all these uhexecutives, when you know you're
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gallivanting with NSYNC,christina Aguilera, and I'm
right there, you know, with youbeing a part of this Lincoln
Park.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I was in elementary school and those were my jams.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Elementary school and all this was going on Foo
Fighters, dc Topp, dave MatthewsBand.
The list goes on and on.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
So I thought, okay, I want to be a part of this
somehow.
I'm not a musician, but I wantto write about it Concert review
.
So I had the opportunity in theearly 2000s, for I started
working for a radio station inthe promotions department.
Never wanted to be on air,didn't want to be that, I just
wanted to be the guy thatdescribed the atmosphere for
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people, for readers or listeners.
And so, uh, I got a job withthe newspaper.
I've been there since.
Oh, two, um, gradually becamethe entertainment editor,
gradually became theentertainment editor and, uh, I
started like, okay, well, I knowMark Landis and all these big
concerts are coming to Houston,to new Orleans.
This is perfect for me.
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I can go review a concert, Ican interview you know Motley
crew.
Mark can get me, you know, myfoot in the door a little low me
, and that's how it happened.
And next thing, you know, I'mon tour shooting for Coldplay.
It's just on and on and on and Iwas able to grow into concert
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photography.
Not a wedding photographer, nota senior portrait, not anything
like that, an event nightlifeconcert photographer, an event
nightlife concert photographer,and doing the entertainment
stuff and meeting differentpeople and having the
opportunity to work formusicians and then casinos
working product shots, doing allkind of stuff like that.
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So I've really really growninto that little skinny guy that
would sit in the corner anddrill three pointers for you.
In 1994, when we're playing BFEhigh school and we're up by 25
and these people are like doeshe really work on the radio?
And Mark's like yeah, that's myintern.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You know and.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
I'm just like swoosh, swoosh.
Right, so it's really reallygrown into something really,
really cool man that I wouldnever trade it for the world.
But it started with you and youwere, you know, brought me out
of the country to mexico.
Hey, we're taking a listener'strip to mexico city.
Do you want to go?
Absolutely, I'd lose my walleton the first day.
You know true tourist, you knowperson, but it's uh, it's come
(05:55):
full circle and uh, you know,being able to work for you know
these bands now and being ableto take shots and see my photos
on billboards and in trademagazines, it's really, it's
really something cool that'ssomething really cool, you do
yeah, and you're good at it.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I've seen the pictures.
The pictures are so phenomenal,yeah, of of what you accomplish
with these artists, and they'reso artistic looking and just so
good, and so I I couldn't bemore proud of what you, what
you've done and what you'vebecome.
It's truly amazing.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
We set the bar really really high, because you were
the best at what you did.
Everyone knew you.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Oh, now you're praising him.
Stop, everyone listened to you.
Stop, he's still buying dinner.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
So if I'm going to be a protege of Mark Landis, I've
got to knock it out of the park.
You know, I don't want to besubstandard, I don't want to be
somebody that Mark doesn't talkabout anymore.
But yeah, it's.
It's hard work but it's really,really fun and to be able to
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make you proud, because youbasically were the one that got
me started in all this and Ijust kind of ran with it.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Well, you, I couldn't be more proud, and I've always.
That's one of the things thatI've always enjoyed about what I
did in my whole career was oneof the things that was most
satisfying to me was all thepeople that worked with me or
for me, that I watch grow intotheir own careers and become
very, very successful at doingthat and continue to do that
today.
So that's very satisfying forme to see that I can't leave the
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room now.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
For me to see that I can't leave the room now.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Okay, we're going to drag this back to relationships,
because that's what this issupposed to be about.
Andy had always asked me thisquestion and she said you know,
Coop is 50.
Is he gay?
What's going on?
He doesn't have a relationship.
I've been asked that.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
You are one of the nicest guys I've met.
That you are one of the nicestguys I've met.
Right Like you're like thisnice person, you have a nice
personality.
I mean, you're not ugly, youdon't have like a falling eye or
anything, that's all Like atleast you're right.
Sure, you're this guy thatyou've never been married.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Never.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
You don't have kids.
Ever, what's all that about?
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Yeah, you know, nice guys finish last.
I guess I mean it really does.
I think Now, look, there was atime in my 20s where you know I
would go to the nightclubs or,as you and I say, the discotheca
.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
La discotheca.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Yeah, la discotheca.
I went to the nightclubs andpartied and did all that.
But as you get older you'rekind of like maybe that's not
important as much as makingmoney.
But I have one older brother.
I saw him be married twice.
My parents are still living 85and 84.
You take care of them right andI'm a caretaker for my parents.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
See, that's amazing.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Like a person that does that and I saw this long
relationship and saw how my dadtreated my mother and how my
mother treated my father and Isaid, okay, I'm only going to if
I get married, I'm only goingto get married once.
And I know it's 50-50, rightwhen you go into something, but
still to this day you know heopens the door for her.
(09:05):
I'm just, I don't know what itis.
There's what used to be greenflags for guys like me no
children, never been married.
There's may have been an ex ortwo.
That was a little, you know,but no baggage, right, so what
used to be?
oh, that's a unicorn.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
We got to find somebody like that has flipped,
now to usually guys like youhave bodies in the basement like
you guys right like you,usually there's like you're so
nice and you have no baggage andno crazy excess like that's
coming out.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Let the man have hobbies.
Let the man have hobbies.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
You're so nice and you have no baggage and no crazy
excess.
Probably they're in the freezersomewhere.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
You know that, yeah, and it's flipped and I get asked
that so what's the problem?
Why haven't you been married?
You must have a commitmentissue.
Why don't?
you have children?
I don't.
I had before in the past.
I think there's been severalthings that's kind of warranted
different things.
Pre-covid entertainment goesaway.
(10:11):
I focused on my career.
Walls went up.
I got hurt, heartbroken.
I hate disappointment.
I'm a major critic.
I can look at a photo and say,oh man, I got to do this.
I'm not a perfectionist.
But my walls went up after acouple of long relationships
where I was on the crappy end ofit.
Um, got broken up with, cheatedon and I'm like okay, I'm done,
(10:34):
walls up, I'm just going to.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I'm gay now, yeah, oh .
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I'm telling you, give it a shot One year.
If it doesn't take, it doesn'tpay.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
But at least you said you tried, at least I tried.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Hey, we have really good looking gay friends out
there.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Yeah, we have a ton of them.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
If you guys somebody's interested, give it a
shot.
He's a really nice guy.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
So it's walls went up and I didn't want to be
disappointed and I didn't wantto date someone that I didn't
think I would end up with fiveyears later.
So I didn't want to do theone-night stand stuff anymore.
Did that in my 20s, going outto the clubs, doing all that,
being a bad boy, not returning apage because back then,
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pre-Andy, there were pagers.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
There were pagers that we wore on our hip.
Yeah, like only doctors andlike dealers had them right.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Well, yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
And I guess you guys Serial killers and serial
killers, serial killers.
So for my people that don'tknow, like they don't know what
a pager is, it used to be like alittle thingy that they carried
in their like hips and likesomebody will.
You will call your doctor orsomebody and like be like hey,
please, page so-and-so,so-and-so, and you will give a
(11:45):
little tiny message and usuallylike call me back or something.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
So yeah, that would be a number to call back, a code
back.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Yeah, then, we could figure out.
If you could turn it upsidedown, you could do words and
stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
It's sad that she has to explain.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
You have to explain what a pager is.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I only know them because my doctor had a pager,
like my pediatric, like mypediatrician had a pager, and my
mom taught me at an early ageyou're sick, you call your own
doctor.
That's the only reason I know.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Was this your doctor in Mexico?
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Yeah, my doctor in Mexico, so it was probably also
a dealer.
So it.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
Yeah maybe yeah, so so my range of dating has just
been because a lot of times nowI'm at a nightclub, inside a
casino, taking product shots ofBacardi Tito's.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
There's so many women there, right.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
And it's really really young, young, young, and
I've been there.
You know right, I've been there, and it's hard to don't.
You know, young, young and I'vebeen there, you know right,
I've been there, and it's hardto you know, young people like
to go out, a majority of themthree or four nights a week.
If they work in the serviceindustry, their off nights are
like Sunday, monday, tuesday,wednesday.
Well, they're going to go outSunday, monday, tuesday,
wednesday.
That is true, and I understandtheir sacrifices too.
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It all in the beginning ispretty cool.
Um, oh, you, you're going totake pictures of Lady Gaga
tonight at the Toyota Toyotacenter.
That's cool.
And then it gets to.
Well, why are you going toBruno Mars?
Why, why can't I go?
Or why can't I do this?
And then it starts Um, cause myjob, a lot of is at night.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Right.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
You know I do have a nine-to-fiver.
Um, a lot of it's at night whenI take pictures of concerts or
events that go to one or twoo'clock in the morning, but I
know you have to meet in themiddle.
They're sacrifices and I andI've made that, I've made those
sacrifices but, um, it's justgot a weird way of not working
out a lot of times right, I meanI understand like human
relationships are really reallycomplicated, right, right, like
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number one, meeting that person.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I just feel like nowadays I mean, we've been
married for 10 years I don'tknow how it would be for me now,
today, to date people.
Right, because, number one, I'molder, I am 36 and I am tired
of bullshit.
Right, I wouldn't know how topretend to to like somebody,
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like when you, when you startlike, and now, with all the apps
, I mean I sound old, but when,when I was dating, before I
married you, there was no likeapps and anything else.
Right, like.
So you, if you meet somebody,it will be like like in person,
right, like.
So you, if you meet somebody,it will be like like in person.
Right, like you meet somebodyat a bar or or by a friend, like
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with, like in your work, and I,I mean I understand that part
of you, like your work, alsolike doesn't allow you to meet
like serious people.
Let's say right, because it'slike people that are going out,
they're drunk.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
Yeah, and look the, look the apps.
I've been there, done that anda lot.
You swipe right, swipe left,and then you develop a
relationship over text and it'snot like in person, it's like
you're just texting Okay, do youwant to meet?
You know, does this work outthis way?
Then you do, and it's like waita minute, that's not the person
(15:02):
that I swiped right on.
You know, this is a differentperson, or?
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah, so their online persona is not completely
different.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Right, you know it's like that's not the photo.
It's very difficult, it is.
There's not a lot of humaninteraction now.
When you go to dating Back inthe day, you go to bars.
Now it's over apps Snapchat,instagram, sliding into a girl's
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DMs.
That's the norm now.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
But I don't see you doing that.
I don't see you being thatcreepy dude.
No, I don't, because you're notthat person.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
I've become very nice , and that's probably the
problem.
That's a big.
I've been told that's a redflag.
You're too nice.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yeah, because she was telling us today that this I
guess there's a hereditary thingbehind the bad boys thing why
women are attracted to bad boys.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
It's not hereditary.
It's an evolution trait thatwomen we like the bad boy kind
of persona, because we, as anevolutionary thing, we used to
seek that in our tribe, rightLike the bad boy that could
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protect me and whoa there'ssomething wrong with you.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
You're going to get ran over.
You can't stand up for yourself.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
It is Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Yeah like you're not going to stand for me or like I
mean I got to say it.
This guy, my husband, he's oneof the nicest people I know.
I can defend myself.
I will never ask him to defendme because I can punch somebody
but and I can I don't need himfor that.
But I know he will never likenot stand behind me trying to
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protect me.
We'll put that on a test oneday.
We'll see what happens.
But I understand that.
Like if I will just meeting youand you're telling me you're
all this nice person andeverything, I'm like there's
something wrong with you.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
Yeah, yeah, oh, I've got, I've received that a lot.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
And then and I don't blame you, I blame no, no.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Look and I and I understand, and I've't blame you
, I blame us.
No, look and I understand andI've tried to like— Because
we're messed up, tried to hidecertain things.
I'm not going to be a dick,right, I'm just not.
Maybe you have to be a littlebit.
I was in the past, I do.
I have to learn to kind of turnthat on.
And then, when you get in thepart where, oh, I'm very close
to my mom and dad, always have,been amazing, and that in itself
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is a full-time job and you evenhave an older brother.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
That doesn't really help, right he hasn't.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
He's in his own world and so it's been me in um,
especially during covid.
You know my dad, congestiveheart failure, you know all this
stuff your stuff your parentsare in their eighties.
They're in, they're in theireighties.
My mom just turned 84, uh,bless her heart.
Uh, the nicest human beings inthe world.
Um, and, and there's probably alot of times where, no, you
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need to go out and be yourselfand do this, and there's a lot
of times I just I don't chooseto that because I know, ok, this
may be the last birthday Ispend with them, right, and so
you know, and a lot of womendon't like that, they see it as
a negative, they see it as a redflag.
Well, it just happens.
It is now red flag.
Well, it just happens.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
It is now Some don't but once they just want to hook
up, but just ones that you like.
Speaker 3 (18:37):
Okay, I want to spend the you know a lot of time with
, and maybe the rest of my lifewith, a lot of them don't like
that.
Why are you choosing to goshoot concert photos over me
tonight?
I want to go see this movie.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
That's your job, or?
Speaker 3 (18:50):
what?
This movie, because that's yourjob?
Or what?
I tell them that, well, you cando it tomorrow.
Well, no, lady gaga won't behere tomorrow he's in europe
sorry lady, you know it's likewell
Speaker 2 (19:00):
can't your brother help why?
Speaker 3 (19:01):
why do you have to go to the grocery store for your
parents, your dad?
Kind of dry, it's gotten very,very kind of.
So the walls went up.
I did everything and then Istarted dating and going out.
I dated older women.
How?
was that it was interesting.
I've never dated someone reallyolder than me.
I'm 50 now.
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I've dated in my late 40s.
They were she was in hermid-50s, but I dated someone in
their mid-60s who was widowedand I thought it was great.
It was pretty cool, um, but herfriends and her children didn.
I thought it was great, it waspretty cool, um, but her friends
and her children didn't thinkit was very cool.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
They gave her younger .
Speaker 3 (19:41):
I was younger and you don't look 50.
You don't act 50.
You look more like you're inyour thirties or forties and
that and that and that you know.
Hey look, I was most humorousclass clown class of 1993 in my
high school, right, so you know.
But I know when to turn that on, I know when to turn it off and
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I get her side of it.
So.
But I liked her, I had a crushon her, I thought it was really,
really cool and she goes.
Well, I'm going to be, you know, 70 and you're going to be 55.
And I'm like I don't care, thatshouldn't matter if there's
ages involved.
And then, when it's flipped,I'm 50 and I'm dating a
23-year-old.
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I'm the age of her father.
That's very odd and normallydoesn't work out.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yeah, because I'm sitting here 25 years older than
her, but not everybody's, meit's not, it's not.
And she doesn't act like a.
I am not Mentally andemotionally and maturity-wise.
She doesn't act like a muchyounger person.
She falls asleep before I do Ido I am?
Speaker 2 (20:49):
I'm an old lady, I just like to Netflix, and then
I'm just like yeah, last night Ithink she was asleep at 7.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
So as I was still watching television football, I
turned it on football.
Speaker 3 (21:00):
Did it once ever go through your mind the age
difference when y'all first met?
Or was hey, I'm clicking withthis guy, he's nice, I don't
care what people say.
Or did you battle with that?
Speaker 2 (21:10):
I kind of battled a little bit, but honestly I've
always loved older men okay Idon't have daddy issues or
anything, because my dad wasgreat as that and I really
enjoyed my time with him.
But man, I really like oldermen like harrison ford.
If you're watching, hit me uplike like I.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
I really like competing with indiana jones
right and Indiana Jones, IndianaJones right and Han.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Solo, han Solo, like I don't, like I never liked
people my age and honestly, likeI am sorry, guys Like, but we
women mature more like fastright.
Speaker 3 (21:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
I mean, the issue I had with was mostly I mean I
don't know like him having alittle bit of baggage behind you
know, like he has been marriedbefore, he has kids, which his
daughter, tiffany.
She's my best friend, we're thesame age.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
Now, is that interesting or difficult?
Not at all.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Not at all, Because you would think it would be.
But Tiffany also works for usin our beauty company, our
beauty brand company.
She works for us, our beautycompany, our beauty brand
company.
She works for us.
We talk to her.
Her and Tiffany talk probably Idon't know 10 times a day, most
every day.
We're actually leaving, youknow, to see them as much as
possible and they try to see usas much as possible.
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She'll come to Europe to see uswhen we're over there, but they
get along very, very well andthere's no weirdness about that.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Well, it was at first .
When I met her, I was like,okay, is this going to be weird?
But her and.
I like exactly the same things.
We are very much alike and whenwe are together without you, we
usually like.
People are like oh, so what areyou guys like?
I was like some people thinkwe're dating honestly.
Like there was this time wewere like business traveling and
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we were like having dinner andI don't know how like people
like oh, who's like the?
The waitress at the end waslike, oh, who's paying for the?
Like she thought we were datingor something.
I was like okay, no, we're not,but we're like this, I don't
know like sisters.
She's also my stepdaughter, butshe's also my best friend and
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it's just a weird thing and Ihonestly love her to death.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
That's pretty cool though.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
I call her my sour patch because she's the cutest
person, but she could also be somean.
She's a meanie and I adore herLike I cannot see my life
without her and him right.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
And Tiffany, you said that she's one year older than
she is.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah, I'm one year older.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
I've tried the long-distance relationship where
I live.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
That wouldn't work for me.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
You know I've tried that and it did a little bit,
but then it's just so muchpressure, like, okay, do you
spend this weekend with theperson and do you have to work
this week?
Or my off days are differentthan her off days, mondays and
Tuesdays, which are busier thanmine.
It's hard.
It's hard being single in 2024,especially when you live in a
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smaller community.
That is true you live in, youknow, a lot of the people or
whatever it is, and now it isagain.
An industrial part of the stateof Texas where I live is a lot
of, you know, oil and gas andthat's dominated by the
workforce and there's a lot ofpeople that work at the plants
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and they have the eight to five,for, you know, 6 am to 6 pm on
the shift work, the shift work,and a lot of women want that.
Yeah, they want to have dinnerat the same time, they want to
have this at the same time theywant to have like a normal kind
of the normal average yeah, andnothing I do.
I don't think is is normalanymore.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
But then you also meet all these women, like you
told me that are like already,like in their fourth marriage I
do because that doesn't work forthem either no no, and so so we
again, we want this normalthing, but then we also want
this bad boy thing.
But we also are not happy withthat.
But then when the nice guycomes, I mean, thankfully my
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nice guy came and I tookadvantage of it.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
But um, yeah, if I mean a nice guy comes, then
we're like not sure about ityeah, and when you're cheated,
when you're in a relationshipand with someone and you're
cheated on by the bad boy thatshe's had to put, like and I
didn't want drama.
If I want to be in a real, I tryto stay drama free and I know
life has its ups and downs allthe time, but when she has to
(25:44):
put a protection order againstthis guy and then she's cheating
on you with this guy, it's likeI'm not going, it's not gonna
work, it's not going to work,it's not going to live that way
I apologize for because I, no,because I, I, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Again, like I said, like if I wasn't with him now, I
don't know what my life wouldbe, I don't know what my dating
habits would be.
I used to date like, really badguys, like and when I say bad
guys I mean like.
But if there were badrelationships, there were toxic
like toxic relationships andI've healed myself a lot through
them with him and that's whyour relationship works, because
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I I've changed If I was the sameperson.
I was back in that time I don'tthink we will be together.
Like because we have toxictraits.
Like why are you going outright now?
Speaker 3 (26:32):
Like we constantly text and hey, why are you going
out right now Constantly texting, hey, why didn't you text me
back?
And it's like a couple hourslater, when you text someone
back, oh, I'm still that person,are you?
Speaker 2 (26:40):
I mean we're together 24-7.
And I'm like, why are youanswering the phone?
Speaker 3 (26:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
You're in the restroom.
I know you have your phone.
I'm not far away.
I'm in the shower.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
I know you have your phone with you when you're
booping, so I know you're notanswering.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Yeah, and I've been the friends with benefits thing,
you know, and the things thatyou miss are you know, I'm old
fashioned the holding hands youknow the kissing and stuff like
that in public and all that.
But I've kind of learned.
Here's the red flag.
I've learned to be reallyindependent, and I know a lot of
women don't like that.
A lot of women want somecodependency on them a little
(27:20):
bit.
But I've learned to be very,very independent, strong-minded,
boom, boom, boom, work, try tokeep a doctor schedule and work
as much as I can, and I know alot of women that don't like
that.
But again though, I know youhave to meet in the middle and I
know you have to sacrificethings, but it just seems like
when you do, that's when theknives come out and it's just
(27:41):
like I've put my walls up, I'mnot getting hurt.
I don't want to be disappointed.
I don't want to bring thisperson home to my parents and
then two months later they askabout this young lady.
She's nowhere around.
That's a thing.
Yeah, I know I've been labeleda softie a lot.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
So what's the future hold?
What do you see in your future,what's your priority and what
are you hoping?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
happens.
I don't want to literally Idon't want to die alone.
I look at my parents and theyhave each other.
So it's on the list, thatpriority list, to find someone
to spend the rest of my lifewith.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
I mean, ladies, if somebody's watching and you
really like this guy message usSend applications or you can
make comments?
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Obviously, yeah.
If you haven't already, pleaselike subscribe to the channel.
You're welcome to sendquestions and we can pass along
to Chad as well.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
I swear he's a good guy.
He's not a serial killer oranything, he's just a nice guy.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
But it's on the priority list to make that a
priority and to stop working intrying to be the best at this,
because I'm running out of timetoo, because you're never
guaranteed tomorrow.
You're just not.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
That is true, true and I could say the same thing
you know yeah, so, um, it is,it's.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
I don't want to force it and just settle, but it is a
priority to find someone tofall in love with and, like you
know whether we have dogs, cats,tarantulas, raised baby
raccoons something I want babyraccoons can I be the godmother
come?
See y'all in Spain.
Yes, and all the raccoons yeahso it's definitely on the
priority list to get it goinghere you know she says this all
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the time.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
She says you know what would you do if something
happened to me?
I'm like you're 25 years youngerthan me you're going to live a
lot longer than I am and shegoes, I could get hit by a bus
tomorrow.
And so what, what?
What do you?
What?
What's your plans?
And I said I can't even imagineshe's talking about, she
doesn't want to date.
I can't even imagine going ondates.
I was telling her and Tiffanywe're all having this
conversation at dinner and Isaid, yeah, if something were
(29:43):
God forbid to happen to Andy,there's not a chance in hell I'm
going to be dating.
I said what I'd really like todo is find a man that I could
really have a close relationshipand talk about sports all the
time and go to sporting eventsand do that kind of stuff.
And I said if I could be like,you know, be like gay, but
(30:06):
without the sex.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Yeah, just like had a relationship.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
So you mean just having a friend, you mean a
friend.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
She goes Dad.
I think they call that a friendSpot on.
I was like it might be it.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
I'm just looking for that at this point, just like a
friend You're talking about afriend.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Well, if we get anybody that sends us messages,
we'll pass them along to you.
Like and subscribe, askquestions, anything you'd like
to do to the channel andhopefully we'll have updates on
what's happening.
We'll stay in touch with you,absolutely.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
And girls, we really need to do better.
Don't settle for the bad guy.
Don't settle for that.
It's okay.
It gets better than that.
Welcome to Two Generations, One Mic, and
today's episode is called.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Bad Boys.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Bad Boys.
I mean, I can relate to that,I'm sure every guy's like.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
we all relate to that Sure Phil Dunphy.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I am a bad boy.
I know all the words to Wicked.
I'm telling you it's coming out.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
You know how I know you the words to Wicked.
I'm telling you it's coming out.
You know how I know you're gay.
Yeah, I know right.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
No, but today we actually have a guest.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Yes, we have Chad Cooper, aka Coop.
And who is Coop?
Why is he with us?
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Coop is with us because I've known Coop for a
long time.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
So I think I said before you guys used to date
right.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
No, we never dated.
We were on hiatus, somephysical things Just a couple
times airport restrooms, nothing, really nothing that meant
anything.
Ew, david, no, so we know eachother because I mentioned before
I was previously.
A lot of my career was in radiotelevision.
Previously, a lot of my careerwas in radio television and so
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during my radio career I was ona morning show and we did
charity events.
All the time.
We played charity basketballgames and we were out for blood
playing teachers and coachestrying to win these games.
And at the time Chad had justgraduated high school and he was
the three-point shootingchampion for the high school.
So I went out and grabbed himand recruited him to be on my
(01:28):
morning radio show but to alsoplay on our basketball team.
So you were what?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
17, 18 17, that was in 92 93.
I was a ringer.
I was probably the ringer yeah,on the team um.
So it was like a projectgraduation event where you raise
money for the high school, butyou didn't.
You, your team, wanted to winevery time yes, we did yeah
there.
There wasn't going to be.
Oh, we're going to finish.
You know we're going to lose tothe teachers, or the shop
(01:55):
teachers or the coaches orwhatever it was.
So wait, so you're like 50 nowI'm 50, yeah, 50 years old, born
in 74.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
So a long time I see you like a kid, I still act like
a kid, a lot of times.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Maybe that's where the bad boy part comes in, right
, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
But you've grown so much as a person since.
I've known you and career youstart out kind of.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Well, you hope so.
I mean 17 to 50.
Well, well, he started out onthe on the radio program.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
But then he, he branched out.
You know he's always intosports.
He was a great sports writerand then now entertainment
writer, right, and you do thatfor uh print publications.
Speaker 3 (02:34):
Yeah, the examiner newspaper in beaumont.
I'm the entertainment editorstarted in 02 as sports then, uh
, but my real passion was musicand entertainment.
I would go.
You know, I've never reallybeen outside of my town growing
up.
You know, just family vacationsin Tennessee going to see
Elvis's Graceland, you know inthe 70s, parents driving up so,
(02:56):
and staying at a Howard Johnsonand getting to swim in the
swimming pool.
That was our summers.
Right Then I met you.
Next thing, you know I'm goingto all these concerts and
meeting all these you knowfamous people and backstage and
Michael Jordan.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Michael.
There's my idol and Michael.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Jordan when he's playing baseball.
That was 1997.
It was just an unrealexperience and I'm like, okay, I
love sports, but entertainmentand music is my true passion.
Not playing it, just wanting tobe a part of it.
And then, uh, you know, goingto music festivals with you, you
introducing me to all these uhexecutives, when you know you're
(03:32):
gallivanting with NSYNC,christina Aguilera, and I'm
right there, you know, with youbeing a part of this Lincoln
Park.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I was in elementary school and those were my jams.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Elementary school and all this was going on Foo
Fighters, dc Topp, dave MatthewsBand.
The list goes on and on.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
So I thought, okay, I want to be a part of this
somehow.
I'm not a musician, but I wantto write about it Concert review
.
So I had the opportunity in theearly 2000s, for I started
working for a radio station inthe promotions department.
Never wanted to be on air,didn't want to be that, I just
wanted to be the guy thatdescribed the atmosphere for
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people, for readers or listeners.
And so, uh, I got a job withthe newspaper.
I've been there since.
Oh, two, um, gradually becamethe entertainment editor,
gradually became theentertainment editor and, uh, I
started like, okay, well, I knowMark Landis and all these big
concerts are coming to Houston,to new Orleans.
This is perfect for me.
(04:33):
I can go review a concert, Ican interview you know Motley
crew.
Mark can get me, you know, myfoot in the door a little low me
, and that's how it happened.
And next thing, you know, I'mon tour shooting for Coldplay.
It's just on and on and on and Iwas able to grow into concert
(04:54):
photography.
Not a wedding photographer, nota senior portrait, not anything
like that, an event nightlifeconcert photographer, an event
nightlife concert photographer,and doing the entertainment
stuff and meeting differentpeople and having the
opportunity to work formusicians and then casinos
working product shots, doing allkind of stuff like that.
(05:15):
So I've really really growninto that little skinny guy that
would sit in the corner anddrill three pointers for you.
In 1994, when we're playing BFEhigh school and we're up by 25
and these people are like doeshe really work on the radio?
And Mark's like yeah, that's myintern.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You know and.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
I'm just like swoosh, swoosh.
Right, so it's really reallygrown into something really,
really cool man that I wouldnever trade it for the world.
But it started with you and youwere, you know, brought me out
of the country to mexico.
Hey, we're taking a listener'strip to mexico city.
Do you want to go?
Absolutely, I'd lose my walleton the first day.
You know true tourist, you knowperson, but it's uh, it's come
(05:55):
full circle and uh, you know,being able to work for you know
these bands now and being ableto take shots and see my photos
on billboards and in trademagazines, it's really, it's
really something cool that'ssomething really cool, you do
yeah, and you're good at it.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I've seen the pictures.
The pictures are so phenomenal,yeah, of of what you accomplish
with these artists, and they'reso artistic looking and just so
good, and so I I couldn't bemore proud of what you, what
you've done and what you'vebecome.
It's truly amazing.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
We set the bar really really high, because you were
the best at what you did.
Everyone knew you.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Oh, now you're praising him.
Stop, everyone listened to you.
Stop, he's still buying dinner.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
So if I'm going to be a protege of Mark Landis, I've
got to knock it out of the park.
You know, I don't want to besubstandard, I don't want to be
somebody that Mark doesn't talkabout anymore.
But yeah, it's.
It's hard work but it's really,really fun and to be able to
(06:58):
make you proud, because youbasically were the one that got
me started in all this and Ijust kind of ran with it.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Well, you, I couldn't be more proud, and I've always.
That's one of the things thatI've always enjoyed about what I
did in my whole career was oneof the things that was most
satisfying to me was all thepeople that worked with me or
for me, that I watch grow intotheir own careers and become
very, very successful at doingthat and continue to do that
today.
So that's very satisfying forme to see that I can't leave the
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room now.
Speaker 2 (07:22):
For me to see that I can't leave the room now.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Okay, we're going to drag this back to relationships,
because that's what this issupposed to be about.
Andy had always asked me thisquestion and she said you know,
Coop is 50.
Is he gay?
What's going on?
He doesn't have a relationship.
I've been asked that.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
You are one of the nicest guys I've met.
That you are one of the nicestguys I've met.
Right Like you're like thisnice person, you have a nice
personality.
I mean, you're not ugly, youdon't have like a falling eye or
anything, that's all Like atleast you're right.
Sure, you're this guy thatyou've never been married.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
Never.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
You don't have kids.
Ever, what's all that about?
Speaker 3 (08:08):
Yeah, you know, nice guys finish last.
I guess I mean it really does.
I think Now, look, there was atime in my 20s where you know I
would go to the nightclubs or,as you and I say, the discotheca
.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
La discotheca.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Yeah, la discotheca.
I went to the nightclubs andpartied and did all that.
But as you get older you'rekind of like maybe that's not
important as much as makingmoney.
But I have one older brother.
I saw him be married twice.
My parents are still living 85and 84.
You take care of them right andI'm a caretaker for my parents.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
See, that's amazing.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
Like a person that does that and I saw this long
relationship and saw how my dadtreated my mother and how my
mother treated my father and Isaid, okay, I'm only going to if
I get married, I'm only goingto get married once.
And I know it's 50-50, rightwhen you go into something, but
still to this day you know heopens the door for her.
(09:05):
I'm just, I don't know what itis.
There's what used to be greenflags for guys like me no
children, never been married.
There's may have been an ex ortwo.
That was a little, you know,but no baggage, right, so what
used to be?
oh, that's a unicorn.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
We got to find somebody like that has flipped,
now to usually guys like youhave bodies in the basement like
you guys right like you,usually there's like you're so
nice and you have no baggage andno crazy excess like that's
coming out.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
Let the man have hobbies.
Let the man have hobbies.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
You're so nice and you have no baggage and no crazy
excess.
Probably they're in the freezersomewhere.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
You know that, yeah, and it's flipped and I get asked
that so what's the problem?
Why haven't you been married?
You must have a commitmentissue.
Why don't?
you have children?
I don't.
I had before in the past.
I think there's been severalthings that's kind of warranted
different things.
Pre-covid entertainment goesaway.
(10:11):
I focused on my career.
Walls went up.
I got hurt, heartbroken.
I hate disappointment.
I'm a major critic.
I can look at a photo and say,oh man, I got to do this.
I'm not a perfectionist.
But my walls went up after acouple of long relationships
where I was on the crappy end ofit.
Um, got broken up with, cheatedon and I'm like okay, I'm done,
(10:34):
walls up, I'm just going to.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
I'm gay now, yeah, oh .
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I'm telling you, give it a shot One year.
If it doesn't take, it doesn'tpay.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
But at least you said you tried, at least I tried.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Hey, we have really good looking gay friends out
there.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Yeah, we have a ton of them.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
If you guys somebody's interested, give it a
shot.
He's a really nice guy.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
So it's walls went up and I didn't want to be
disappointed and I didn't wantto date someone that I didn't
think I would end up with fiveyears later.
So I didn't want to do theone-night stand stuff anymore.
Did that in my 20s, going outto the clubs, doing all that,
being a bad boy, not returning apage because back then,
(11:17):
pre-Andy, there were pagers.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
There were pagers that we wore on our hip.
Yeah, like only doctors andlike dealers had them right.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
Well, yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
And I guess you guys Serial killers and serial
killers, serial killers.
So for my people that don'tknow, like they don't know what
a pager is, it used to be like alittle thingy that they carried
in their like hips and likesomebody will.
You will call your doctor orsomebody and like be like hey,
please, page so-and-so,so-and-so, and you will give a
(11:45):
little tiny message and usuallylike call me back or something.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
So yeah, that would be a number to call back, a code
back.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Yeah, then, we could figure out.
If you could turn it upsidedown, you could do words and
stuff like that.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
It's sad that she has to explain.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
You have to explain what a pager is.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
I only know them because my doctor had a pager,
like my pediatric, like mypediatrician had a pager, and my
mom taught me at an early ageyou're sick, you call your own
doctor.
That's the only reason I know.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Was this your doctor in Mexico?
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Yeah, my doctor in Mexico, so it was probably also
a dealer.
So it.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
Yeah maybe yeah, so so my range of dating has just
been because a lot of times nowI'm at a nightclub, inside a
casino, taking product shots ofBacardi Tito's.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
There's so many women there, right.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
And it's really really young, young, young, and
I've been there.
You know right, I've been there, and it's hard to don't.
You know, young, young and I'vebeen there, you know right,
I've been there, and it's hardto you know, young people like
to go out, a majority of themthree or four nights a week.
If they work in the serviceindustry, their off nights are
like Sunday, monday, tuesday,wednesday.
Well, they're going to go outSunday, monday, tuesday,
wednesday.
That is true, and I understandtheir sacrifices too.
(12:58):
It all in the beginning ispretty cool.
Um, oh, you, you're going totake pictures of Lady Gaga
tonight at the Toyota Toyotacenter.
That's cool.
And then it gets to.
Well, why are you going toBruno Mars?
Why, why can't I go?
Or why can't I do this?
And then it starts Um, cause myjob, a lot of is at night.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Right.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
You know I do have a nine-to-fiver.
Um, a lot of it's at night whenI take pictures of concerts or
events that go to one or twoo'clock in the morning, but I
know you have to meet in themiddle.
They're sacrifices and I andI've made that, I've made those
sacrifices but, um, it's justgot a weird way of not working
out a lot of times right, I meanI understand like human
relationships are really reallycomplicated, right, right, like
(13:42):
number one, meeting that person.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
I just feel like nowadays I mean, we've been
married for 10 years I don'tknow how it would be for me now,
today, to date people.
Right, because, number one, I'molder, I am 36 and I am tired
of bullshit.
Right, I wouldn't know how topretend to to like somebody,
(14:05):
like when you, when you startlike, and now, with all the apps
, I mean I sound old, but when,when I was dating, before I
married you, there was no likeapps and anything else.
Right, like.
So you, if you meet somebody,it will be like like in person,
right, like.
So you, if you meet somebody,it will be like like in person.
Right, like you meet somebodyat a bar or or by a friend, like
(14:25):
with, like in your work, and I,I mean I understand that part
of you, like your work, alsolike doesn't allow you to meet
like serious people.
Let's say right, because it'slike people that are going out,
they're drunk.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
Yeah, and look the, look the apps.
I've been there, done that anda lot.
You swipe right, swipe left,and then you develop a
relationship over text and it'snot like in person, it's like
you're just texting Okay, do youwant to meet?
You know, does this work outthis way?
Then you do, and it's like waita minute, that's not the person
(15:02):
that I swiped right on.
You know, this is a differentperson, or?
Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah, so their online persona is not completely
different.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Right, you know it's like that's not the photo.
It's very difficult, it is.
There's not a lot of humaninteraction now.
When you go to dating Back inthe day, you go to bars.
Now it's over apps Snapchat,instagram, sliding into a girl's
(15:33):
DMs.
That's the norm now.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
But I don't see you doing that.
I don't see you being thatcreepy dude.
No, I don't, because you're notthat person.
Speaker 3 (15:41):
I've become very nice , and that's probably the
problem.
That's a big.
I've been told that's a redflag.
You're too nice.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yeah, because she was telling us today that this I
guess there's a hereditary thingbehind the bad boys thing why
women are attracted to bad boys.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
It's not hereditary.
It's an evolution trait thatwomen we like the bad boy kind
of persona, because we, as anevolutionary thing, we used to
seek that in our tribe, rightLike the bad boy that could
(16:27):
protect me and whoa there'ssomething wrong with you.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
You're going to get ran over.
You can't stand up for yourself.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
It is Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Yeah like you're not going to stand for me or like I
mean I got to say it.
This guy, my husband, he's oneof the nicest people I know.
I can defend myself.
I will never ask him to defendme because I can punch somebody
but and I can I don't need himfor that.
But I know he will never likenot stand behind me trying to
(16:55):
protect me.
We'll put that on a test oneday.
We'll see what happens.
But I understand that.
Like if I will just meeting youand you're telling me you're
all this nice person andeverything, I'm like there's
something wrong with you.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
Yeah, yeah, oh, I've got, I've received that a lot.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
And then and I don't blame you, I blame no, no.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
Look and I and I understand, and I've't blame you
, I blame us.
No, look and I understand andI've tried to like— Because
we're messed up, tried to hidecertain things.
I'm not going to be a dick,right, I'm just not.
Maybe you have to be a littlebit.
I was in the past, I do.
I have to learn to kind of turnthat on.
And then, when you get in thepart where, oh, I'm very close
to my mom and dad, always have,been amazing, and that in itself
(17:44):
is a full-time job and you evenhave an older brother.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
That doesn't really help, right he hasn't.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
He's in his own world and so it's been me in um,
especially during covid.
You know my dad, congestiveheart failure, you know all this
stuff your stuff your parentsare in their eighties.
They're in, they're in theireighties.
My mom just turned 84, uh,bless her heart.
Uh, the nicest human beings inthe world.
Um, and, and there's probably alot of times where, no, you
(18:12):
need to go out and be yourselfand do this, and there's a lot
of times I just I don't chooseto that because I know, ok, this
may be the last birthday Ispend with them, right, and so
you know, and a lot of womendon't like that, they see it as
a negative, they see it as a redflag.
Well, it just happens.
It is now red flag.
Well, it just happens.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
It is now Some don't but once they just want to hook
up, but just ones that you like.
Speaker 3 (18:37):
Okay, I want to spend the you know a lot of time with
, and maybe the rest of my lifewith, a lot of them don't like
that.
Why are you choosing to goshoot concert photos over me
tonight?
I want to go see this movie.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
That's your job, or?
Speaker 3 (18:50):
what?
This movie, because that's yourjob?
Or what?
I tell them that, well, you cando it tomorrow.
Well, no, lady gaga won't behere tomorrow he's in europe
sorry lady, you know it's likewell
Speaker 2 (19:00):
can't your brother help why?
Speaker 3 (19:01):
why do you have to go to the grocery store for your
parents, your dad?
Kind of dry, it's gotten very,very kind of.
So the walls went up.
I did everything and then Istarted dating and going out.
I dated older women.
How?
was that it was interesting.
I've never dated someone reallyolder than me.
I'm 50 now.
(19:21):
I've dated in my late 40s.
They were she was in hermid-50s, but I dated someone in
their mid-60s who was widowedand I thought it was great.
It was pretty cool, um, but herfriends and her children didn.
I thought it was great, it waspretty cool, um, but her friends
and her children didn't thinkit was very cool.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
They gave her younger .
Speaker 3 (19:41):
I was younger and you don't look 50.
You don't act 50.
You look more like you're inyour thirties or forties and
that and that and that you know.
Hey look, I was most humorousclass clown class of 1993 in my
high school, right, so you know.
But I know when to turn that on, I know when to turn it off and
(20:01):
I get her side of it.
So.
But I liked her, I had a crushon her, I thought it was really,
really cool and she goes.
Well, I'm going to be, you know, 70 and you're going to be 55.
And I'm like I don't care, thatshouldn't matter if there's
ages involved.
And then, when it's flipped,I'm 50 and I'm dating a
23-year-old.
(20:22):
I'm the age of her father.
That's very odd and normallydoesn't work out.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yeah, because I'm sitting here 25 years older than
her, but not everybody's, meit's not, it's not.
And she doesn't act like a.
I am not Mentally andemotionally and maturity-wise.
She doesn't act like a muchyounger person.
She falls asleep before I do Ido I am?
Speaker 2 (20:49):
I'm an old lady, I just like to Netflix, and then
I'm just like yeah, last night Ithink she was asleep at 7.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
So as I was still watching television football, I
turned it on football.
Speaker 3 (21:00):
Did it once ever go through your mind the age
difference when y'all first met?
Or was hey, I'm clicking withthis guy, he's nice, I don't
care what people say.
Or did you battle with that?
Speaker 2 (21:10):
I kind of battled a little bit, but honestly I've
always loved older men okay Idon't have daddy issues or
anything, because my dad wasgreat as that and I really
enjoyed my time with him.
But man, I really like oldermen like harrison ford.
If you're watching, hit me uplike like I.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
I really like competing with indiana jones
right and Indiana Jones, IndianaJones right and Han.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Solo, han Solo, like I don't, like I never liked
people my age and honestly, likeI am sorry, guys Like, but we
women mature more like fastright.
Speaker 3 (21:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
I mean, the issue I had with was mostly I mean I
don't know like him having alittle bit of baggage behind you
know, like he has been marriedbefore, he has kids, which his
daughter, tiffany.
She's my best friend, we're thesame age.
Speaker 3 (22:02):
Now, is that interesting or difficult?
Not at all.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Not at all, Because you would think it would be.
But Tiffany also works for usin our beauty company, our
beauty brand company.
She works for us, our beautycompany, our beauty brand
company.
She works for us.
We talk to her.
Her and Tiffany talk probably Idon't know 10 times a day, most
every day.
We're actually leaving, youknow, to see them as much as
possible and they try to see usas much as possible.
(22:28):
She'll come to Europe to see uswhen we're over there, but they
get along very, very well andthere's no weirdness about that.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Well, it was at first .
When I met her, I was like,okay, is this going to be weird?
But her and.
I like exactly the same things.
We are very much alike and whenwe are together without you, we
usually like.
People are like oh, so what areyou guys like?
I was like some people thinkwe're dating honestly.
Like there was this time wewere like business traveling and
(22:59):
we were like having dinner andI don't know how like people
like oh, who's like the?
The waitress at the end waslike, oh, who's paying for the?
Like she thought we were datingor something.
I was like okay, no, we're not,but we're like this, I don't
know like sisters.
She's also my stepdaughter, butshe's also my best friend and
(23:22):
it's just a weird thing and Ihonestly love her to death.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
That's pretty cool though.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
I call her my sour patch because she's the cutest
person, but she could also be somean.
She's a meanie and I adore herLike I cannot see my life
without her and him right.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
And Tiffany, you said that she's one year older than
she is.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah, I'm one year older.
Speaker 3 (23:45):
I've tried the long-distance relationship where
I live.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
That wouldn't work for me.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
You know I've tried that and it did a little bit,
but then it's just so muchpressure, like, okay, do you
spend this weekend with theperson and do you have to work
this week?
Or my off days are differentthan her off days, mondays and
Tuesdays, which are busier thanmine.
It's hard.
It's hard being single in 2024,especially when you live in a
(24:13):
smaller community.
That is true you live in, youknow, a lot of the people or
whatever it is, and now it isagain.
An industrial part of the stateof Texas where I live is a lot
of, you know, oil and gas andthat's dominated by the
workforce and there's a lot ofpeople that work at the plants
(24:35):
and they have the eight to five,for, you know, 6 am to 6 pm on
the shift work, the shift work,and a lot of women want that.
Yeah, they want to have dinnerat the same time, they want to
have this at the same time theywant to have like a normal kind
of the normal average yeah, andnothing I do.
I don't think is is normalanymore.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
But then you also meet all these women, like you
told me that are like already,like in their fourth marriage I
do because that doesn't work forthem either no no, and so so we
again, we want this normalthing, but then we also want
this bad boy thing.
But we also are not happy withthat.
But then when the nice guycomes, I mean, thankfully my
(25:17):
nice guy came and I tookadvantage of it.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
But um, yeah, if I mean a nice guy comes, then
we're like not sure about ityeah, and when you're cheated,
when you're in a relationshipand with someone and you're
cheated on by the bad boy thatshe's had to put, like and I
didn't want drama.
If I want to be in a real, I tryto stay drama free and I know
life has its ups and downs allthe time, but when she has to
(25:44):
put a protection order againstthis guy and then she's cheating
on you with this guy, it's likeI'm not going, it's not gonna
work, it's not going to work,it's not going to live that way
I apologize for because I, no,because I, I, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Again, like I said, like if I wasn't with him now, I
don't know what my life wouldbe, I don't know what my dating
habits would be.
I used to date like, really badguys, like and when I say bad
guys I mean like.
But if there were badrelationships, there were toxic
like toxic relationships andI've healed myself a lot through
them with him and that's whyour relationship works, because
(26:21):
I I've changed If I was the sameperson.
I was back in that time I don'tthink we will be together.
Like because we have toxictraits.
Like why are you going outright now?
Speaker 3 (26:32):
Like we constantly text and hey, why are you going
out right now Constantly texting, hey, why didn't you text me
back?
And it's like a couple hourslater, when you text someone
back, oh, I'm still that person,are you?
Speaker 2 (26:40):
I mean we're together 24-7.
And I'm like, why are youanswering the phone?
Speaker 3 (26:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
You're in the restroom.
I know you have your phone.
I'm not far away.
I'm in the shower.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
I know you have your phone with you when you're
booping, so I know you're notanswering.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
Yeah, and I've been the friends with benefits thing,
you know, and the things thatyou miss are you know, I'm old
fashioned the holding hands youknow the kissing and stuff like
that in public and all that.
But I've kind of learned.
Here's the red flag.
I've learned to be reallyindependent, and I know a lot of
women don't like that.
A lot of women want somecodependency on them a little
(27:20):
bit.
But I've learned to be very,very independent, strong-minded,
boom, boom, boom, work, try tokeep a doctor schedule and work
as much as I can, and I know alot of women that don't like
that.
But again though, I know youhave to meet in the middle and I
know you have to sacrificethings, but it just seems like
when you do, that's when theknives come out and it's just
(27:41):
like I've put my walls up, I'mnot getting hurt.
I don't want to be disappointed.
I don't want to bring thisperson home to my parents and
then two months later they askabout this young lady.
She's nowhere around.
That's a thing.
Yeah, I know I've been labeleda softie a lot.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
So what's the future hold?
What do you see in your future,what's your priority and what
are you hoping?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
happens.
I don't want to literally Idon't want to die alone.
I look at my parents and theyhave each other.
So it's on the list, thatpriority list, to find someone
to spend the rest of my lifewith.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
I mean, ladies, if somebody's watching and you
really like this guy message usSend applications or you can
make comments?
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Obviously, yeah.
If you haven't already, pleaselike subscribe to the channel.
You're welcome to sendquestions and we can pass along
to Chad as well.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
I swear he's a good guy.
He's not a serial killer oranything, he's just a nice guy.
Speaker 3 (28:40):
But it's on the priority list to make that a
priority and to stop working intrying to be the best at this,
because I'm running out of timetoo, because you're never
guaranteed tomorrow.
You're just not.
Speaker 2 (28:54):
That is true, true and I could say the same thing
you know yeah, so, um, it is,it's.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
I don't want to force it and just settle, but it is a
priority to find someone tofall in love with and, like you
know whether we have dogs, cats,tarantulas, raised baby
raccoons something I want babyraccoons can I be the godmother
come?
See y'all in Spain.
Yes, and all the raccoons yeahso it's definitely on the
priority list to get it goinghere you know she says this all
(29:22):
the time.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
She says you know what would you do if something
happened to me?
I'm like you're 25 years youngerthan me you're going to live a
lot longer than I am and shegoes, I could get hit by a bus
tomorrow.
And so what, what?
What do you?
What?
What's your plans?
And I said I can't even imagineshe's talking about, she
doesn't want to date.
I can't even imagine going ondates.
I was telling her and Tiffanywe're all having this
conversation at dinner and Isaid, yeah, if something were
(29:43):
God forbid to happen to Andy,there's not a chance in hell I'm
going to be dating.
I said what I'd really like todo is find a man that I could
really have a close relationshipand talk about sports all the
time and go to sporting eventsand do that kind of stuff.
And I said if I could be like,you know, be like gay, but
(30:06):
without the sex.
Speaker 2 (30:07):
Yeah, just like had a relationship.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
So you mean just having a friend, you mean a
friend.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
She goes Dad.
I think they call that a friendSpot on.
I was like it might be it.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
I'm just looking for that at this point, just like a
friend You're talking about afriend.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Well, if we get anybody that sends us messages,
we'll pass them along to you.
Like and subscribe, askquestions, anything you'd like
to do to the channel andhopefully we'll have updates on
what's happening.
We'll stay in touch with you,absolutely.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
And girls, we really need to do better.
Don't settle for the bad guy.
Don't settle for that.
It's okay.
It gets better than that.
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