December 10, 2024 • 27 mins
Ever wondered how to keep the spark alive while working and living with your partner 24/7? We share our 12-year journey of blending romance and business, highlighting the crucial role of communication in avoiding conflicts and misunderstandings. With a mix of humor and honesty, we tackle the stereotype that men don’t listen and share how quick conflict resolution has been our secret weapon in maintaining a strong bond amidst the stress of running a business together.
Discover the quirks that come with spending so much time together, from growing infatuations with each other's scents to evolving personal boundaries. Our playful debates on personal space during showers and baths, combined with language mishaps and cultural misunderstandings, bring a lighthearted touch to complex relationship dynamics. Join us as we navigate the nuances of English, laughter, and love in a multicultural setting.
The beauty industry offers its own set of challenges—particularly when it comes to attraction and communication. We discuss the importance of maintaining trust while admiring beauty in others, sharing amusing stories of hiring a stunning. From speaking English with a charming accent to managing ADHD quirks, we underscore the importance of patience, understanding, and humor in communication, inviting listeners to share their own experiences and insights.
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Speaker 2 (00:04):
it's two generations, one mic and today's episode is
about why is oral important in arelationship?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
and I gotta tell you I've been so excited about this,
I've made all these notes.
Um, I'm a modern man and Irealized that at this time, and
and women becoming equal, thatthe importance of pleasuring a
woman is.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hey fucker, no, no, no, no, no, no.
We're talking aboutcommunication like oral, as in
like communication in arelationship.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
You dummy, okay, no, sorry, no, not that oral All
right.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Let me come up with something else then.
No, no, I understand.
It's very important to havegood, good communication.
If you don't talk, you're nevergoing to work things out or
you're not going to grow as acouple.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Oh, absolutely.
I mean, I think we make ourrelationship work because we we
always talk our issues.
We're not a perfect couple, ofcourse, but we've been together
for 12 years and we spent oh mygosh, I do that all the time,
sorry, you and I always talkthings through.
(01:18):
We spend 24-7 together and that, for some people, could be
complicated.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Yeah, it's very intense.
Most couples don't spend allday together.
You know they either go work,one of them goes to work, both
of them go to work, they seeeach other at different times of
day and then they get backtogether at the end of the day
generally.
But we are in this situationbecause we own our own
businesses, that we work out ofour house, wherever that is.
(01:47):
We have multiple places aroundthe world.
We we are, and so we're.
Unless we're travelingindividually for something which
doesn't happen that often,we're always together and that
can be a little daunting to alot of people, because you know,
as we said, how can I miss youwhen you won't go away?
Speaker 2 (02:06):
yeah, that's gonna be another episode, but yeah, no,
for sure, I it's being together24 7, because we own the
business together.
Right, we work together.
We spend all our time together.
We always eat together, we goto the gym together, except for
when I'm going doing my balletor stuff and we sometimes, even
(02:32):
when we don't talk much aboutsomething, we always have
something to talk about.
I don't know how we make thatwork, something to talk about.
I don't know how we make thatwork, but it does Like it works.
We never, ever, go to bed angrywith each other.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
No, no, we generally have.
We work everything out beforewe go to sleep.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I think it's important to always talk to your
partner about things that upsetyou, things that bother you,
because if you don't, they startbuilding up and when you build
up something you will explodeand there's not going to be like
going back.
I cannot tell you how manytimes we can be arguing about
(03:16):
something.
Usually it's about work,because he's trying to tell me
what to do and I don't like that.
Or he's trying to rush methrough an airport and I don't
like that.
And's trying to rush me throughan airport and I don't like
that.
And then I will literally justlike tell you to go fuck off and
you tell me to go fuck off, andthen that's it.
And then 10 minutes later,we're perfectly fine.
Yeah, we're fine.
Sometimes my mom that lives withus in Spain she's like oh my
(03:40):
god, what happened?
What happened?
What happened?
Is this it?
And I'm like what?
What's?
What's happening?
No, we're fine.
She's like then what were youguys arguing about?
I was like I don't evenremember, but we work it through
Like we always.
If something bothers you, youtell me, and I've taught you
that because when we starteddating, you will be mad about
something and you wouldn't tellme.
(04:00):
I wouldn't tell me.
I'm like what are you 15?
Like you need to tell me whatare you mad about and if I am
mad, I make sure he knows I ammad.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Yeah, I don't think there's any ambiguity there
whatsoever.
I know what you're mad about.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
When I am mad, I make sure he knows I'm mad, Like he
knows, and he's like what areyou mad about?
And then I go on.
But after that he realizes ifhe did something wrong, or I
realize if I overreacted, whichcan happen a lot.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yeah, but, like you said, I think the big part about
it is 90% of our arguments.
Our quick arguments are aboutthe business and about money,
because we have a lot of stresson us with that.
There is everybody that followsus as fans or watching from
afar.
They only see the fun stuffthat we do struggle of owning
(05:03):
your own business, aninternational business that
deals with shipping and tariffsand multiple countries and
thousands of people working allaround the world for you to make
things happen, and when thingshappen incorrectly, that the
stress that puts on you becausethere are literally millions of
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dollars at stake it becomes very, very frustrating.
And so that's usually thearguments that we will get into.
We might, you know we'll getpast that pretty quick and then
we come up with a solution.
You know, 99% of the time we'llget together and work out a
solution as to what we should doto make that problem go away or
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to how to fix that problem orbetter handle that issue I think
also, like what makes me madand we're talking about
communication and I really thinkit's a men women thing is you
guys don't listen.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Huh, you see, you guys don't listen.
Like men don't listen.
We can tell you guys and I knowit's not only my husband, I
know this for a fact you guys,we tell you things and then you
tell me no, you didn't tell meyou were doing this.
I literally told you thatyesterday.
No, you, you, you thought youtold me that, but you didn't.
(06:25):
Now you're making me questionmy sanity.
Did I think about it?
I'm sure I told him and henodded at me, I'm pretty sure.
But then I don't know whatyou're thinking about.
I like your little chipmunk onthere.
It's just like where are younow?
Like I know I told you things,and then you're like arguing
with me because I don'tcommunicate with you.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Well, you do communicate, but you also you
have a bad habit of you thinkpeople read your mind.
So you may say some informationto people not just me, but
other people too, because we'vehad this come up.
You think you say things topeople that they understand
Because in your mind you aretrying to perfect it makes sense
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, but you don't communicate theentire thought to people.
And then you expect them tohave read your mind and they and
you understand why it didn'tget done, what you thought was
going to happen.
So I tell you this a hundredtimes people can't read your
mind.
You have to, you have to speak.
Why can't you all read my mind?
You have to speak to them infull, complete sentences and you
have to be succinct in whatyou're saying.
(07:31):
How many times do we have this?
Even just simple everydaythings?
It drives me bananas.
I will ask you the choice oftwo different things Do you want
to do this or do you want to dothis?
Yes, and your answer is yes.
Well, that wasn't one of thechoices.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Well, it would mean yes to the latter one.
How would I know that?
It's absolutely like to me itmakes sense, like if you're
telling me do you want pinkbottle or a black bottle, and
then I said yes, that means theblack bottle.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
No, it just means you acknowledged what I said.
You could use.
It's only one word.
You could say pink or blackinstead of saying yes.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Thinking in two languages it gets complicated.
I tell you this all the time.
I need to constantly, and mybilingual people out there.
I don't even know how easy itwould be to try a lingual, but
thinking about two languages allthe time it's.
Sometimes you feel like youwant to say something and then
it doesn't kind of liketranslate and then you can't, or
(08:34):
it communicates in a differentway and vice versa, like I don't
know how to.
It's complicated.
Try it one time.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Think in two languages.
You should try it.
It's complicated.
Try it one time.
Yeah, think in two languages.
You should try it.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
it's complicated yeah , I'm just trying to speak in
two languages.
That's enough for me thinkingin two languages consciously.
There's no way I could pullthat off.
But uh, so I understand that'sgot to be a problem.
But you know, the communicationthing is is extremely important
.
Um, when it comes to everythingnot just.
Yeah, you know that,statistically, like
communication is actually likelack of communication is
extremely important when itcomes to everything.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah, you know that, statistically, like
communication is actually likelack of communication is one of
the number one cause of divorcein countries like the U?
S Canada.
Well, this is interesting, likethe countries with the most
divorces are again like USCanada, some places in Europe,
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and the countries that have lessdivorces are countries where
women don't really talk too much.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
What countries would those be?
Shut up.
Shut up.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Places like India, right, they just don't have any
divorces, and I don't know ifit's because women can talk and
communicate with their partnerwhat's going on, but to me I
think, if I can't tell youwhat's happening, I will just
(10:04):
feel trapped.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Well, I know you felt really uncomfortable when we
were on our one of our lastinternational trips.
Just when we were in the VIProom, we went to the lounge in
Doha, abu.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Dhabi.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Yeah, we were in Abu Dhabi and you were really
uncomfortable there.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
I was.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
We were sitting there enjoying our cocktails and
everything else, but there wereso many women in there.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Yes, and I tried to wrap my head around different
cultures and different costumesand the fact that women need to
walk behind the men.
These women were sitting infront of a wall without their
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covers and just eating, likelooking at a wall, so nobody
else could see them.
To me, I could not do that,because I like to talk, I like
to make myself visible.
I want you to know what I'mthinking.
And if you don't like it, thenI can punch you, but.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Well, to me it seems like that scenario.
Is you, a woman becomes morelike property than she does a
person.
She's more like property, she'snot.
She's not a person, she's not ahuman being that has their own
feelings and thoughts and cancommunicate and just live life.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
That happens in a lot of cultures, not only like in
the Muslim culture.
That happens a lot in LatinAmerica too.
Like a lot of machismo is stillout there and I can tell you
that, well, in the US now, a lotof people feel like women
shouldn't have any I don't know,saying on what's happening A
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lot of.
If you're a woman, you shouldjust be quiet and accept what's
happening.
And in your marriage, right, Idon't know, older people stay
together because they didn'treally talk things through or
they just thought we're here, wejust die together.
But since we have theopportunity to talk as a human
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race and communicate, we shouldtake advantage of that.
And if you don't like something,you tell me.
I mean at this point, 12 yearsin, if you don't like something,
then that's it, right.
Like I don't think.
Like you would say, oh, by theway, I don't like the way you
dress Well, we're way past thatpoint, right.
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Or I don't like the way yousmell Well, we're past that
point.
But I can tell you hey, babe, Idon't like that.
You're becoming more picky withsomething, for example.
I've told you that.
I don't like that.
With the age, you're becomingpickier with your food and more
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obnoxious about the way you actwhen your food doesn't come the
way you want.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Right, because you're a foodie.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Yes, big time.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
And I've told you that and we've tried to work
through that.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Yes, we have.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
And if I, don't tell you that one of these days, I
swear, I'm going to grab a knife.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Well, you also have been acting like all this time
together and then, just like thelast couple of days, you've
been like weirdly infatuatedwith my smell.
You know that came out ofnowhere.
You're like I just love the wayyou smell.
You're picking up my arms andsmelling them like it was a
chicken leg or something.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Because you smell good.
This is the man that I saw.
He travels with three differentcolognes because he wears his
colognes depending on the moodand depending on the time of the
day.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
I'm a fancy boy or gay?
We don't know yet.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
We don't know yet, we don't know yet.
But you know it's just and yousmell good.
I don't know, I was touchingyour arm and it just smelled
good and you should be gratefulfor that.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
No, I am.
It was just surprising.
I've seen when, the longeryou're together, you see the
relationship expand.
You see things happen thatdidn't happen before.
When we first got together, youwouldn't let me anywhere near
the restroom if you were peeing.
You were like oh my God, I'mpeeing, get out of here, get out
of here, I'm peeing, you can'tbe in here, I'm going to pee.
And now you just leave the doorwide open and you're pooping
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all day long.
It's just crazy.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
To be fair, that was Spain.
Thanks to Spain, because inSpain, our apartment in Spain,
the bathroom doesn't have a doorthat divides the bedroom with
the bathroom.
It's like a whole open space.
And at some point I had to poopand you, really I don't know, I
think you were shaving yourarms at some point, like you
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decided shaving your arms wasimportant when I was pooping and
I was like, okay, this is it,and I don't know, I think that's
right.
Like it took.
It took me a while for it to beable for you to.
I don't like people watch mepee, like not even like I know
girls go to the bathroom withother girls.
That to me, I feeluncomfortable.
I don't I like my space.
Uh, I like we never takeshowers together because that's
my space, like right, never, noone, never once.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
If we don't think we've ever taken a shower
together.
Every time I even suggested it.
No, you were like uh, what areyou crazy?
Speaker 2 (15:22):
yeah you, you're hoarding the hot water for me.
No, no, no, no, no.
That's insane.
Like my shower is my shower,like that's my time.
That's my personal space.
You don't get involved intothat.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Yeah, but I've asked you, like you know, trying to be
romantic hey, you want to takea nice romantic shower together
and you're like, hey suggest,but you're not into that
whatsoever.
No, you like your own shower.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Tom, I like my own shower and also like the thought
of like having a bath together.
I don't know, babe, it's justweird, like it's just a bunch of
like, no, no, no, no, that'snot, a thing, not a thing?
No, I think I find it gross.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Well, since this is supposed to be about oral
communications and things likethat, you have to admit that
sometimes, because of youraccent and because of everything
, your words aren't alwaysunderstandable.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
They're perfectly understandable.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
I mishear some things a lot of times.
I cannot tell me.
It's like I don't know whatyou're saying, because you're
saying Because you're not payingattention?
Like the other day you said youwanted to take a worm bath.
I'm like what's a worm bath?
You're going to get a worm bath.
Warm oh, a warm bath.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Fine.
I'm going to start talking likethat.
You know like Sofia Vergara inthat episode of Modern Family.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
I don't need you to do that, but it's just some of
the words you say.
I can't understand what you'resaying.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Because you're not paying attention.
Sometimes I say babe, do youwant chicken?
And then you'll be like what?
The pink thing, what Nothing,it doesn't even sound alike and
you're not paying attention.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Yeah, but you know that's not a real representation
of some of the words that youmispronounce sometimes, which
are sometimes very cute, but Ican't even think of all the
words that you Well, that's notme, it's your English, greek and
English.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
I don't know why English is so complicated.
Like you will say some thingslike sour, but then you will say
pour as in pouring water, likethey are O-U-R.
So you go like why is not likesore?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Yes, we've had many conversations about you asking
me in English why is it spelledlike this?
But these two words arepronounced completely different.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Exactly.
Who knows, we don't know.
Why does the word knife havelike N Like?
That makes no sense.
Take the K out.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
And then it has a V.
Where's the F?
That makes no sense.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Knives.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Knives, knives.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Knives.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Knives, like what's happening.
It's not my fault that yourlanguage is a little bit
complicated and ourcommunication sometimes gets a
little.
I also have to say, when I getmad, I really my English doesn't
come out the way I want and Istart mixing things and I start
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yelling in English, but then itcomes to translating exactly how
I'll be cussing in Spanish.
So I'm really trying to make apoint on how mad I am and then
you're not understanding whatI'm trying to tell you.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
No, because even when I try to cuss in spanish, you
just say what are you saying?
I said I'm cussing in spanishand you're like you're just
talking nonsense.
Are you having a stroke?
None of those words correlatewith each other.
I said what did I just say?
Said nonsense.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
So I thought you were having a stroke that's true,
like having having to think itin two languages at once gets
complicated.
But I will always tell you whenI am mad, or when I don't like
something you did, or yeah, Ithink.
I will always tell you.
And the date that's gone, it'sbecause I don't care anymore.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Well, hopefully we don't get to that point.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
And then I'm up with Harrison Ford.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Yeah, hopefully we don't get to that point, or Liv.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
Shriver Liv, if you're watching this, you and I
are married.
But you don't know that yet,but yeah, so yeah, again, like I
think we make it work becausewe communicate with each other
and everybody should do that ifthey want a long-lasting
relationship.
That's one of our things, right?
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And I don't know how you werepast relationships were, but
please always tell me likeyou're mad at me because of
something.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Well, we also as a couple we don't also.
We also don't, um, we're notvery jealous, we don't have like
jealous moments or fits, noneof that stuff.
It's like there's not a lot.
But we also we all started outone of those couples like Oh'm
going out with the girls tonightor I'm going out with my
buddies tonight for hours at abar.
Neither one of us do that atall.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
It's like very, you know, that doesn't happen if one
day you tell me I'm going outwith the girls no, you go out
with the girls this is one ofthose communication things that
you have to listen to what I'msaying.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
I thought you meant you going out with the girls.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I'm like who do you think you are?
Speaker 1 (20:34):
No, I'm not going out with the girls.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I'm like what girls?
No, yeah, that's true, becausewe'd rather spend time together.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
It's adapted over years.
I mean when we were firsttogether, I think your favorite
three words that you would saywhen you looked at my Facebook
page and people would tell mestuff or comment, your favorite
three words were who's thatbitch?
That's what you would alwaysalso say.
Who's that bitch?
That's all you would always say.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
I used to say it Sorry, girls.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Not to call you old bitches.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
But yeah, I would be like why is she DMing you?
Because when we started datingand then we made our
relationship public, a lot ofthese younger girls felt
entitled that they could comeinto your.
I don't know what the worldthought about our relationship,
but all these girls were like,oh, you were still working in
the radio.
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And I remember specificallythis girl that sent you a dm and
she was like oh, if you, if youdo this for me, I'll give you a
lap dance.
I kind of remember.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Don't know who the girl was.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
To me that was like who's that bitch?
Why does she think she can saythat to you when you're clearly
in a relationship?
And you told me oh no, youdon't understand, she's joking,
you don't understand the Englishhumor.
I'm like English humor, my ass.
That means the same thing inEnglish that in Spanish, right.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
So I Well.
Thankfully that was a long timeago.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Yeah.
But, we've survived all thatand again, we talk to each other
all the time.
If he thinks a girl isattractive, I can recognize when
other people are attractive.
You can clearly tell me likehey, I think that girl is hot,
and I will say yes.
Or are you crazy Like metelling you oh, I think that
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grandpa over there is hot, youknow?
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Yeah, now we just go, yeah, you know.
We say you know it's differentthough, but I'll see a girl.
I'll say I have no problem orworry, that I can say to you
like, oh my God, that girl'sbeautiful, look at her.
But also, remember we're in thebeauty business, so we're
always looking at beautifulpeople.
It's different now and we're welook at a lot of times we'll
analyze girls is like, ok, isthis?
How could this girl maybe helpus with our beauty business or
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something, if she's stunninglypretty, looks like a model or
whatever she has that look.
But you know, know, and the lastgirl we hired in spain I mean,
it was all you wasn't me, thankgod, because I will, there's no
way I would the ukrainian girl,it was just a stunning,
beautiful blonde who went on.
You went on and on and on fordays about her, about how
beautiful this girl was, and Iwas to the point, was like I
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don't even want to see herbecause, my god, what my
reaction is going to be, becauseyou're going to be looking at
me like, all, all right, look ather, but not too much.
So I was like, oh, I'm dreadingeven meeting this person,
because I'm thinking, oh my gosh, what's this girl going to look
like?
And she is a pretty girl,stunningly beautiful.
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Ukrainian blonde.
What?
19?
Or something like that19-year-old Ukrainian blonde
girl who speaks fluent Spanishbecause she was born and was
raised in Spain.
So, by the way, the Spanishpeople as a culture are just
always stunningly beautiful.
I mean, the majority of theSpanish people are this
beautiful, like olive skin, alot of blue eyes the
Mediterranean mix.
And the mixture of the culture.
And you know they speak in theSpanish like it's not Mexican
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Spanish, it's more of a lyricallispy Spanish, and so they're
very pretty.
Both men and women are juststunningly beautiful people
there.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
Yeah, and we have the trust that we can tell each
other that that person is pretty, or I think, the other person.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
That's been our joke forever.
Our good neighbor has arestaurant across the street
from us.
He's really good looking, hisname is Javier and he actually
just got off of the last theSpain Survivor.
He was one of the contestantsand he spent like 18 weeks or
something on an island in theMediterranean and so he was one
of the last few people.
But he was good looking beforethen and even now and he's the
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sweetest guy in the world.
His family's very wealthy, he'sactually royalty.
His family's like uh yeah, butwe always have that joke that if
you die on me, I'll marryjavier yeah, she says if you die
, I mean I'm marrying javier andI said he's so good looking.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
If you die, I'm marrying javier because he's so
nice and so good looking, nomatter what he's marrying into
this family one way or the other.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
But he went to.
I love him because he's so niceand he went to Boston College,
speaks fluent English and hisbrother-in-law is actually
American and so every time hecomes in he's like oh Mark,
please come over here and talkto my brother-in-law, because he
has somebody to talk to inEnglish.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
But see you understand that now.
Like communication, like you,communicating it's part of the
human process and you like thesepeople because they speak
English to you.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
And in Spain, like if they wouldn't speak in English
to you.
You would not.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
I don't mind going back and forth.
I like to try to speak Spanishback and forth with them.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
But you feel more comfortable.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
But of course, yes, when they talk to me in english,
of course I speak this, andmost of the other people speak
spanish.
Yeah, it's nice but then you'llnever learn the spanish but
then I have a part time when wecome here or other parts of the
world.
How long from when we're firstback do I start speaking in
spanish to everyone?
That's true, we were in wheresweden, stockholm, sweden and
the waiter comes up and then I'mtalking to him in spanish and
you're like gracias.
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And you're like they don't speakSpanish here.
Yeah, no.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
That's funny, but yeah, I understand that.
It happens to me when we goback and I just say thank you to
everybody and then I just needto switch.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
For the first few weeks.
We're back here every singletime Because we do two months in
Spain, two months here and thefirst couple weeks I'm always
speaking in Spanish to waitersor people.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Well, they do speak Spanish and walking through,
stores.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
I'm like perdóname, perdón.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Perdóname, and then oh.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
I'm sorry, excuse me, I just do that naturally
because you're used tocommunicating that way.
But I think communicate againwhat we take from this is
communication is unbelievablyimportant, especially in a
relationship.
If you're going to make it work, you make it last.
You're going to make it work,you make it last you have to
communicate.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
You have to.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
You may not like what they have to say, but you know
it's a good way to grow, exactlyyou can grow.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
And if you can't handle what the other person is
telling you like me, I get mad,I get defensive.
I could get defensive when youtell me something you don't like
about me and I will explode.
And then I try to calm down andlisten.
But then, also with my ADHD, Istart thinking about a million
other things that are goingwrong.
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And then I become defensive,but I'll try my best and we try
our best with each other.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
And I will do the same, and perhaps later we could
talk about the way I thoughtthe topic was going to go.
So, speaking of communicate, ifyou would please like,
subscribe and follow us on allof our platforms YouTube and
every platform that this isbroadcast on and engage with us,
communicate with us, ask ussome questions.
We'll be happy to answer them.
Hate on us.
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Whatever you want to do, we'llbe happy to talk.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
I'll come after you.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
You don't want that Might not know what she's
talking about, but you
it's two generations, one mic and today's episode is
about why is oral important in arelationship?
Speaker 1 (00:12):
and I gotta tell you I've been so excited about this,
I've made all these notes.
Um, I'm a modern man and Irealized that at this time, and
and women becoming equal, thatthe importance of pleasuring a
woman is.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hey fucker, no, no, no, no, no, no.
We're talking aboutcommunication like oral, as in
like communication in arelationship.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
You dummy, okay, no, sorry, no, not that oral All
right.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Let me come up with something else then.
No, no, I understand.
It's very important to havegood, good communication.
If you don't talk, you're nevergoing to work things out or
you're not going to grow as acouple.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Oh, absolutely.
I mean, I think we make ourrelationship work because we we
always talk our issues.
We're not a perfect couple, ofcourse, but we've been together
for 12 years and we spent oh mygosh, I do that all the time,
sorry, you and I always talkthings through.
(01:18):
We spend 24-7 together and that, for some people, could be
complicated.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Yeah, it's very intense.
Most couples don't spend allday together.
You know they either go work,one of them goes to work, both
of them go to work, they seeeach other at different times of
day and then they get backtogether at the end of the day
generally.
But we are in this situationbecause we own our own
businesses, that we work out ofour house, wherever that is.
(01:47):
We have multiple places aroundthe world.
We we are, and so we're.
Unless we're travelingindividually for something which
doesn't happen that often,we're always together and that
can be a little daunting to alot of people, because you know,
as we said, how can I miss youwhen you won't go away?
Speaker 2 (02:06):
yeah, that's gonna be another episode, but yeah, no,
for sure, I it's being together24 7, because we own the
business together.
Right, we work together.
We spend all our time together.
We always eat together, we goto the gym together, except for
when I'm going doing my balletor stuff and we sometimes, even
(02:32):
when we don't talk much aboutsomething, we always have
something to talk about.
I don't know how we make thatwork, something to talk about.
I don't know how we make thatwork, but it does Like it works.
We never, ever, go to bed angrywith each other.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
No, no, we generally have.
We work everything out beforewe go to sleep.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I think it's important to always talk to your
partner about things that upsetyou, things that bother you,
because if you don't, they startbuilding up and when you build
up something you will explodeand there's not going to be like
going back.
I cannot tell you how manytimes we can be arguing about
(03:16):
something.
Usually it's about work,because he's trying to tell me
what to do and I don't like that.
Or he's trying to rush methrough an airport and I don't
like that.
And's trying to rush me throughan airport and I don't like
that.
And then I will literally justlike tell you to go fuck off and
you tell me to go fuck off, andthen that's it.
And then 10 minutes later,we're perfectly fine.
Yeah, we're fine.
Sometimes my mom that lives withus in Spain she's like oh my
(03:40):
god, what happened?
What happened?
What happened?
Is this it?
And I'm like what?
What's?
What's happening?
No, we're fine.
She's like then what were youguys arguing about?
I was like I don't evenremember, but we work it through
Like we always.
If something bothers you, youtell me, and I've taught you
that because when we starteddating, you will be mad about
something and you wouldn't tellme.
(04:00):
I wouldn't tell me.
I'm like what are you 15?
Like you need to tell me whatare you mad about and if I am
mad, I make sure he knows I ammad.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Yeah, I don't think there's any ambiguity there
whatsoever.
I know what you're mad about.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
When I am mad, I make sure he knows I'm mad, Like he
knows, and he's like what areyou mad about?
And then I go on.
But after that he realizes ifhe did something wrong, or I
realize if I overreacted, whichcan happen a lot.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Yeah, but, like you said, I think the big part about
it is 90% of our arguments.
Our quick arguments are aboutthe business and about money,
because we have a lot of stresson us with that.
There is everybody that followsus as fans or watching from
afar.
They only see the fun stuffthat we do struggle of owning
(05:03):
your own business, aninternational business that
deals with shipping and tariffsand multiple countries and
thousands of people working allaround the world for you to make
things happen, and when thingshappen incorrectly, that the
stress that puts on you becausethere are literally millions of
(05:27):
dollars at stake it becomes very, very frustrating.
And so that's usually thearguments that we will get into.
We might, you know we'll getpast that pretty quick and then
we come up with a solution.
You know, 99% of the time we'llget together and work out a
solution as to what we should doto make that problem go away or
(05:48):
to how to fix that problem orbetter handle that issue I think
also, like what makes me madand we're talking about
communication and I really thinkit's a men women thing is you
guys don't listen.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Huh, you see, you guys don't listen.
Like men don't listen.
We can tell you guys and I knowit's not only my husband, I
know this for a fact you guys,we tell you things and then you
tell me no, you didn't tell meyou were doing this.
I literally told you thatyesterday.
No, you, you, you thought youtold me that, but you didn't.
(06:25):
Now you're making me questionmy sanity.
Did I think about it?
I'm sure I told him and henodded at me, I'm pretty sure.
But then I don't know whatyou're thinking about.
I like your little chipmunk onthere.
It's just like where are younow?
Like I know I told you things,and then you're like arguing
with me because I don'tcommunicate with you.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Well, you do communicate, but you also you
have a bad habit of you thinkpeople read your mind.
So you may say some informationto people not just me, but
other people too, because we'vehad this come up.
You think you say things topeople that they understand
Because in your mind you aretrying to perfect it makes sense
(07:09):
, but you don't communicate theentire thought to people.
And then you expect them tohave read your mind and they and
you understand why it didn'tget done, what you thought was
going to happen.
So I tell you this a hundredtimes people can't read your
mind.
You have to, you have to speak.
Why can't you all read my mind?
You have to speak to them infull, complete sentences and you
have to be succinct in whatyou're saying.
(07:31):
How many times do we have this?
Even just simple everydaythings?
It drives me bananas.
I will ask you the choice oftwo different things Do you want
to do this or do you want to dothis?
Yes, and your answer is yes.
Well, that wasn't one of thechoices.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Well, it would mean yes to the latter one.
How would I know that?
It's absolutely like to me itmakes sense, like if you're
telling me do you want pinkbottle or a black bottle, and
then I said yes, that means theblack bottle.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
No, it just means you acknowledged what I said.
You could use.
It's only one word.
You could say pink or blackinstead of saying yes.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Thinking in two languages it gets complicated.
I tell you this all the time.
I need to constantly, and mybilingual people out there.
I don't even know how easy itwould be to try a lingual, but
thinking about two languages allthe time it's.
Sometimes you feel like youwant to say something and then
it doesn't kind of liketranslate and then you can't, or
(08:34):
it communicates in a differentway and vice versa, like I don't
know how to.
It's complicated.
Try it one time.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Think in two languages.
You should try it.
It's complicated.
Try it one time.
Yeah, think in two languages.
You should try it.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
it's complicated yeah , I'm just trying to speak in
two languages.
That's enough for me thinkingin two languages consciously.
There's no way I could pullthat off.
But uh, so I understand that'sgot to be a problem.
But you know, the communicationthing is is extremely important
.
Um, when it comes to everythingnot just.
Yeah, you know that,statistically, like
communication is actually likelack of communication is
extremely important when itcomes to everything.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Yeah, you know that, statistically, like
communication is actually likelack of communication is one of
the number one cause of divorcein countries like the U?
S Canada.
Well, this is interesting, likethe countries with the most
divorces are again like USCanada, some places in Europe,
(09:30):
and the countries that have lessdivorces are countries where
women don't really talk too much.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
What countries would those be?
Shut up.
Shut up.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Places like India, right, they just don't have any
divorces, and I don't know ifit's because women can talk and
communicate with their partnerwhat's going on, but to me I
think, if I can't tell youwhat's happening, I will just
(10:04):
feel trapped.
Speaker 1 (10:06):
Well, I know you felt really uncomfortable when we
were on our one of our lastinternational trips.
Just when we were in the VIProom, we went to the lounge in
Doha, abu.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Dhabi.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Yeah, we were in Abu Dhabi and you were really
uncomfortable there.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
I was.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
We were sitting there enjoying our cocktails and
everything else, but there wereso many women in there.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
Yes, and I tried to wrap my head around different
cultures and different costumesand the fact that women need to
walk behind the men.
These women were sitting infront of a wall without their
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covers and just eating, likelooking at a wall, so nobody
else could see them.
To me, I could not do that,because I like to talk, I like
to make myself visible.
I want you to know what I'mthinking.
And if you don't like it, thenI can punch you, but.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
Well, to me it seems like that scenario.
Is you, a woman becomes morelike property than she does a
person.
She's more like property, she'snot.
She's not a person, she's not ahuman being that has their own
feelings and thoughts and cancommunicate and just live life.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
That happens in a lot of cultures, not only like in
the Muslim culture.
That happens a lot in LatinAmerica too.
Like a lot of machismo is stillout there and I can tell you
that, well, in the US now, a lotof people feel like women
shouldn't have any I don't know,saying on what's happening A
(11:47):
lot of.
If you're a woman, you shouldjust be quiet and accept what's
happening.
And in your marriage, right, Idon't know, older people stay
together because they didn'treally talk things through or
they just thought we're here, wejust die together.
But since we have theopportunity to talk as a human
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race and communicate, we shouldtake advantage of that.
And if you don't like something,you tell me.
I mean at this point, 12 yearsin, if you don't like something,
then that's it, right.
Like I don't think.
Like you would say, oh, by theway, I don't like the way you
dress Well, we're way past thatpoint, right.
(12:33):
Or I don't like the way yousmell Well, we're past that
point.
But I can tell you hey, babe, Idon't like that.
You're becoming more picky withsomething, for example.
I've told you that.
I don't like that.
With the age, you're becomingpickier with your food and more
(12:55):
obnoxious about the way you actwhen your food doesn't come the
way you want.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Right, because you're a foodie.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
Yes, big time.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
And I've told you that and we've tried to work
through that.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Yes, we have.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
And if I, don't tell you that one of these days, I
swear, I'm going to grab a knife.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Well, you also have been acting like all this time
together and then, just like thelast couple of days, you've
been like weirdly infatuatedwith my smell.
You know that came out ofnowhere.
You're like I just love the wayyou smell.
You're picking up my arms andsmelling them like it was a
chicken leg or something.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Because you smell good.
This is the man that I saw.
He travels with three differentcolognes because he wears his
colognes depending on the moodand depending on the time of the
day.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
I'm a fancy boy or gay?
We don't know yet.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
We don't know yet, we don't know yet.
But you know it's just and yousmell good.
I don't know, I was touchingyour arm and it just smelled
good and you should be gratefulfor that.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
No, I am.
It was just surprising.
I've seen when, the longeryou're together, you see the
relationship expand.
You see things happen thatdidn't happen before.
When we first got together, youwouldn't let me anywhere near
the restroom if you were peeing.
You were like oh my God, I'mpeeing, get out of here, get out
of here, I'm peeing, you can'tbe in here, I'm going to pee.
And now you just leave the doorwide open and you're pooping
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all day long.
It's just crazy.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
To be fair, that was Spain.
Thanks to Spain, because inSpain, our apartment in Spain,
the bathroom doesn't have a doorthat divides the bedroom with
the bathroom.
It's like a whole open space.
And at some point I had to poopand you, really I don't know, I
think you were shaving yourarms at some point, like you
(14:54):
decided shaving your arms wasimportant when I was pooping and
I was like, okay, this is it,and I don't know, I think that's
right.
Like it took.
It took me a while for it to beable for you to.
I don't like people watch mepee, like not even like I know
girls go to the bathroom withother girls.
That to me, I feeluncomfortable.
I don't I like my space.
Uh, I like we never takeshowers together because that's
my space, like right, never, noone, never once.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
If we don't think we've ever taken a shower
together.
Every time I even suggested it.
No, you were like uh, what areyou crazy?
Speaker 2 (15:22):
yeah you, you're hoarding the hot water for me.
No, no, no, no, no.
That's insane.
Like my shower is my shower,like that's my time.
That's my personal space.
You don't get involved intothat.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Yeah, but I've asked you, like you know, trying to be
romantic hey, you want to takea nice romantic shower together
and you're like, hey suggest,but you're not into that
whatsoever.
No, you like your own shower.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Tom, I like my own shower and also like the thought
of like having a bath together.
I don't know, babe, it's justweird, like it's just a bunch of
like, no, no, no, no, that'snot, a thing, not a thing?
No, I think I find it gross.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Well, since this is supposed to be about oral
communications and things likethat, you have to admit that
sometimes, because of youraccent and because of everything
, your words aren't alwaysunderstandable.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
They're perfectly understandable.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
I mishear some things a lot of times.
I cannot tell me.
It's like I don't know whatyou're saying, because you're
saying Because you're not payingattention?
Like the other day you said youwanted to take a worm bath.
I'm like what's a worm bath?
You're going to get a worm bath.
Warm oh, a warm bath.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Fine.
I'm going to start talking likethat.
You know like Sofia Vergara inthat episode of Modern Family.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
I don't need you to do that, but it's just some of
the words you say.
I can't understand what you'resaying.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Because you're not paying attention.
Sometimes I say babe, do youwant chicken?
And then you'll be like what?
The pink thing, what Nothing,it doesn't even sound alike and
you're not paying attention.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
Yeah, but you know that's not a real representation
of some of the words that youmispronounce sometimes, which
are sometimes very cute, but Ican't even think of all the
words that you Well, that's notme, it's your English, greek and
English.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
I don't know why English is so complicated.
Like you will say some thingslike sour, but then you will say
pour as in pouring water, likethey are O-U-R.
So you go like why is not likesore?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Yes, we've had many conversations about you asking
me in English why is it spelledlike this?
But these two words arepronounced completely different.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Exactly.
Who knows, we don't know.
Why does the word knife havelike N Like?
That makes no sense.
Take the K out.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
And then it has a V.
Where's the F?
That makes no sense.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
Knives.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Knives, knives.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Knives.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Knives, like what's happening.
It's not my fault that yourlanguage is a little bit
complicated and ourcommunication sometimes gets a
little.
I also have to say, when I getmad, I really my English doesn't
come out the way I want and Istart mixing things and I start
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yelling in English, but then itcomes to translating exactly how
I'll be cussing in Spanish.
So I'm really trying to make apoint on how mad I am and then
you're not understanding whatI'm trying to tell you.
Speaker 1 (18:43):
No, because even when I try to cuss in spanish, you
just say what are you saying?
I said I'm cussing in spanishand you're like you're just
talking nonsense.
Are you having a stroke?
None of those words correlatewith each other.
I said what did I just say?
Said nonsense.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
So I thought you were having a stroke that's true,
like having having to think itin two languages at once gets
complicated.
But I will always tell you whenI am mad, or when I don't like
something you did, or yeah, Ithink.
I will always tell you.
And the date that's gone, it'sbecause I don't care anymore.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Well, hopefully we don't get to that point.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
And then I'm up with Harrison Ford.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Yeah, hopefully we don't get to that point, or Liv.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
Shriver Liv, if you're watching this, you and I
are married.
But you don't know that yet,but yeah, so yeah, again, like I
think we make it work becausewe communicate with each other
and everybody should do that ifthey want a long-lasting
relationship.
That's one of our things, right?
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And I don't know how you werepast relationships were, but
please always tell me likeyou're mad at me because of
something.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
Well, we also as a couple we don't also.
We also don't, um, we're notvery jealous, we don't have like
jealous moments or fits, noneof that stuff.
It's like there's not a lot.
But we also we all started outone of those couples like Oh'm
going out with the girls tonightor I'm going out with my
buddies tonight for hours at abar.
Neither one of us do that atall.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
It's like very, you know, that doesn't happen if one
day you tell me I'm going outwith the girls no, you go out
with the girls this is one ofthose communication things that
you have to listen to what I'msaying.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
I thought you meant you going out with the girls.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
I'm like who do you think you are?
Speaker 1 (20:34):
No, I'm not going out with the girls.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
I'm like what girls?
No, yeah, that's true, becausewe'd rather spend time together.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
It's adapted over years.
I mean when we were firsttogether, I think your favorite
three words that you would saywhen you looked at my Facebook
page and people would tell mestuff or comment, your favorite
three words were who's thatbitch?
That's what you would alwaysalso say.
Who's that bitch?
That's all you would always say.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
I used to say it Sorry, girls.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Not to call you old bitches.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
But yeah, I would be like why is she DMing you?
Because when we started datingand then we made our
relationship public, a lot ofthese younger girls felt
entitled that they could comeinto your.
I don't know what the worldthought about our relationship,
but all these girls were like,oh, you were still working in
the radio.
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And I remember specificallythis girl that sent you a dm and
she was like oh, if you, if youdo this for me, I'll give you a
lap dance.
I kind of remember.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Don't know who the girl was.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
To me that was like who's that bitch?
Why does she think she can saythat to you when you're clearly
in a relationship?
And you told me oh no, youdon't understand, she's joking,
you don't understand the Englishhumor.
I'm like English humor, my ass.
That means the same thing inEnglish that in Spanish, right.
Speaker 1 (22:07):
So I Well.
Thankfully that was a long timeago.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Yeah.
But, we've survived all thatand again, we talk to each other
all the time.
If he thinks a girl isattractive, I can recognize when
other people are attractive.
You can clearly tell me likehey, I think that girl is hot,
and I will say yes.
Or are you crazy Like metelling you oh, I think that
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grandpa over there is hot, youknow?
Speaker 1 (22:33):
Yeah, now we just go, yeah, you know.
We say you know it's differentthough, but I'll see a girl.
I'll say I have no problem orworry, that I can say to you
like, oh my God, that girl'sbeautiful, look at her.
But also, remember we're in thebeauty business, so we're
always looking at beautifulpeople.
It's different now and we're welook at a lot of times we'll
analyze girls is like, ok, isthis?
How could this girl maybe helpus with our beauty business or
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something, if she's stunninglypretty, looks like a model or
whatever she has that look.
But you know, know, and the lastgirl we hired in spain I mean,
it was all you wasn't me, thankgod, because I will, there's no
way I would the ukrainian girl,it was just a stunning,
beautiful blonde who went on.
You went on and on and on fordays about her, about how
beautiful this girl was, and Iwas to the point, was like I
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don't even want to see herbecause, my god, what my
reaction is going to be, becauseyou're going to be looking at
me like, all, all right, look ather, but not too much.
So I was like, oh, I'm dreadingeven meeting this person,
because I'm thinking, oh my gosh, what's this girl going to look
like?
And she is a pretty girl,stunningly beautiful.
(23:37):
Ukrainian blonde.
What?
19?
Or something like that19-year-old Ukrainian blonde
girl who speaks fluent Spanishbecause she was born and was
raised in Spain.
So, by the way, the Spanishpeople as a culture are just
always stunningly beautiful.
I mean, the majority of theSpanish people are this
beautiful, like olive skin, alot of blue eyes the
Mediterranean mix.
And the mixture of the culture.
And you know they speak in theSpanish like it's not Mexican
(24:02):
Spanish, it's more of a lyricallispy Spanish, and so they're
very pretty.
Both men and women are juststunningly beautiful people
there.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
Yeah, and we have the trust that we can tell each
other that that person is pretty, or I think, the other person.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
That's been our joke forever.
Our good neighbor has arestaurant across the street
from us.
He's really good looking, hisname is Javier and he actually
just got off of the last theSpain Survivor.
He was one of the contestantsand he spent like 18 weeks or
something on an island in theMediterranean and so he was one
of the last few people.
But he was good looking beforethen and even now and he's the
(24:44):
sweetest guy in the world.
His family's very wealthy, he'sactually royalty.
His family's like uh yeah, butwe always have that joke that if
you die on me, I'll marryjavier yeah, she says if you die
, I mean I'm marrying javier andI said he's so good looking.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
If you die, I'm marrying javier because he's so
nice and so good looking, nomatter what he's marrying into
this family one way or the other.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
But he went to.
I love him because he's so niceand he went to Boston College,
speaks fluent English and hisbrother-in-law is actually
American and so every time hecomes in he's like oh Mark,
please come over here and talkto my brother-in-law, because he
has somebody to talk to inEnglish.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
But see you understand that now.
Like communication, like you,communicating it's part of the
human process and you like thesepeople because they speak
English to you.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
And in Spain, like if they wouldn't speak in English
to you.
You would not.
Speaker 1 (25:35):
I don't mind going back and forth.
I like to try to speak Spanishback and forth with them.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
But you feel more comfortable.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
But of course, yes, when they talk to me in english,
of course I speak this, andmost of the other people speak
spanish.
Yeah, it's nice but then you'llnever learn the spanish but
then I have a part time when wecome here or other parts of the
world.
How long from when we're firstback do I start speaking in
spanish to everyone?
That's true, we were in wheresweden, stockholm, sweden and
the waiter comes up and then I'mtalking to him in spanish and
you're like gracias.
(26:01):
And you're like they don't speakSpanish here.
Yeah, no.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
That's funny, but yeah, I understand that.
It happens to me when we goback and I just say thank you to
everybody and then I just needto switch.
Speaker 1 (26:13):
For the first few weeks.
We're back here every singletime Because we do two months in
Spain, two months here and thefirst couple weeks I'm always
speaking in Spanish to waitersor people.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
Well, they do speak Spanish and walking through,
stores.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
I'm like perdóname, perdón.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
Perdóname, and then oh.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
I'm sorry, excuse me, I just do that naturally
because you're used tocommunicating that way.
But I think communicate againwhat we take from this is
communication is unbelievablyimportant, especially in a
relationship.
If you're going to make it work, you make it last.
You're going to make it work,you make it last you have to
communicate.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
You have to.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
You may not like what they have to say, but you know
it's a good way to grow, exactlyyou can grow.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
And if you can't handle what the other person is
telling you like me, I get mad,I get defensive.
I could get defensive when youtell me something you don't like
about me and I will explode.
And then I try to calm down andlisten.
But then, also with my ADHD, Istart thinking about a million
other things that are goingwrong.
(27:09):
And then I become defensive,but I'll try my best and we try
our best with each other.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
And I will do the same, and perhaps later we could
talk about the way I thoughtthe topic was going to go.
So, speaking of communicate, ifyou would please like,
subscribe and follow us on allof our platforms YouTube and
every platform that this isbroadcast on and engage with us,
communicate with us, ask ussome questions.
We'll be happy to answer them.
Hate on us.
(27:35):
Whatever you want to do, we'llbe happy to talk.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
I'll come after you.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
You don't want that Might not know what she's
talking about, but you
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