20 MINUTE SELF DEVELOPMENT WITH TAM DILLON

If you're walking the path of a healer, teacher, or guide—especially without formal initiation, mentorship, or lineage—this question matters: Why do you want to help others?

In this episode, I explore the deeper motivations behind our desire to hold space and offer support. Not to shame or question the impulse to serve, but to get honest about what's really driving it. Because without elders to check our readiness or shape o...

In this episode, we’re breaking down the misconception that structure limits flow. For healing practitioners, structure isn’t about rigidity—it’s about creating safety, clarity, and sustainability in your work. Without a clear framework, even the most gifted space holders can end up overwhelmed, inconsistent, or energetically depleted. We’ll explore why structure is essential for intuitive work, how it supports client safety and yo...

Many practitioners focus on tools, techniques, and certifications, but overlook the foundational competencies that make healing work truly effective and ethical. In this episode, we unpack what core competencies actually are, why they matter, and how neglecting them can quietly undermine both your clients and your practice. From boundaries and communication to emotional regulation and self-awareness, we’ll explore the less glamorou...

In this episode, we're unpacking a difficult but necessary conversation: when does niche marketing in the healing space become a form of quiet exclusion? As we move through Pride Month and approach Juneteenth, this episode invites practitioners to examine how unconscious bias can shape who they serve - and who they unintentionally shut out. We’ll explore how spiritual preferences can turn into prejudice, why ethical practice means ...

In this episode, I speak openly about the shift in my work and why I’m now focusing exclusively on mentoring practitioners - those called to hold space for others, but who often neglect the depth of work required within themselves. We explore the saturation of the healing industry with individuals who have not done the work, and how this affects the quality and integrity of spiritual and healing spaces. I reflect on the difference ...

Tarot isn't just a tool for insight- it's a path of self-development. In this episode, I explore how to work with the cards beyond traditional readings, using individual archetypes, court personalities, and card lessons to deepen self-awareness and personal growth. Whether you're just beginning your Tarot journey or have been reading for years, this approach invites you to engage with the cards as mirrors and mentors.

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In this episode, we explore the Lovers card as a powerful turning point on the journey of self-development. Far beyond romance, the Lovers represents the sacred act of choosing who you are - your values, your beliefs, and the path you’re willing to walk. We look at how this conscious definition of self lays the groundwork for deeper alignment, supported by the Chariot’s disciplined action and the quiet resilience of Strength. This ...

Before you can truly meet your deeper self, you need to understand the layers that have shaped who you think you are. In this follow-on from last week’s episode on the self, we explore the stage of preconditioning - the beliefs, behaviors, and emotional patterns formed by upbringing, culture, and society.

Drawing from The Art of Tarot guidebook, this episode dives into the Empress, Emperor, and Hierophant cards as archetypes of emot...

In this episode, Tam explores the foundation of identity and personal potential through the lens of the Tarot’s Major Arcana. Drawing from her soon-to-be-released guidebook The Art of Tarot, she unpacks the deeper meaning behind the Fool, the Magician, and the High Priestess - three archetypes that reflect the essence of the Self. Discover how these cards mirror your authenticity, creative power, and inner wisdom, and how they can ...

It’s easy to mistake constant readings, rituals, and signs for spiritual connection - but what happens when those tools quietly take over your ability to trust yourself?

In this episode, we unpack the concept of spiritual crutches - from Tarot cards to rituals to the habit of waiting on signs before making decisions. While tools can support your growth, over-relying on them can leave you stuck, disconnected, and doubting your own in...

We’ve been taught to treat stillness like a skill - something to learn, master, or tick off the list. But true stillness doesn’t come from effort. It’s not something you achieve. It’s a state you remember.

In this episode, we explore the difference between striving for stillness and simply allowing it. We’ll look at what blocks it, where it already exists in your day, and how to stop treating it like a performance. This isn’t about ...

In this episode, I’m talking about navigating change without blowing up your entire life. There’s so much noise out there telling us that growth means starting over - quitting the job, ending the relationship, moving across the world. But sometimes, real change happens within the life you already have.

I’ll share the difference between reacting and responding, offer practical ways to shift without collapse, and explore how to create...

Imposter syndrome has a way of creeping in just when you're about to step into your gifts - and for many healers, practitioners, and professionals, it can feel like a constant shadow. In this episode, we explore how Tarot can be used as a mirror to better understand the roots of imposter syndrome, see what’s keeping it in place, and reconnect with your true strengths and potential.

You'll be guided through two practical, sel...

In a world obsessed with optimization and constant self-improvement, personal growth can easily become another way to feel like you’re not enough. In this episode, Tam explores the subtle but common trap of turning self-development into self-critique - and offers a more grounded, compassionate approach.

Learn how to stay committed to your growth without falling into the loop of always fixing, healing or striving. Discover how rest, ...

This episode ran a little longer than usual—because, well, when you're talking about the entire planet's chakra system, 20 minutes just doesn’t cut it! 🌍✨

In this deep dive, I explore the Earth’s chakras and how global events are influencing these powerful energy centers. From the Root Chakra in the U.S. feeling the effects of instability to the Heart Chakra being tied to resource struggles, we’ll uncover how the planet’s s...

In this weeks episode I explore how thoughts, emotions, and subconscious conditioning filter our experiences of the world. Drawing from cognitive psychology, Buddhist philosophy, and the concept of Maya, I examine how mental biases and heuristics influence what we believe to be true -and how we can break free from these illusions.

Join me as we uncover practical ways to become more aware of mental filters, challenge conditioned thin...

In this episode I dive into the Buddhist concept of anatta — the illusion of a fixed self. What if who you are is more like a flowing river than a solid rock? Anatta challenges our deep-rooted beliefs about identity and invites us to see ourselves as fluid, ever-changing beings. This isn’t about losing yourself but gaining the freedom to grow, evolve, and live authentically without the limitations of rigid labels or roles.

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In this episode of 20 Minutes Self-Development, we explore the Buddhist concept of anicca — the truth of impermanence — and how practicing non-attachment can lead to emotional resilience.

Discover what impermanence really means in daily life and why non-attachment isn’t about being cold or indifferent. Learn practical ways to embrace change, let go of what you can’t control, and build a mind that bends without breaking.

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Life constantly pulls us between extremes—work vs. rest, discipline vs. indulgence, ambition vs. contentment. But what if the key to lasting peace and fulfillment isn’t found in choosing one side, but in walking a balanced path between them?

In this episode, we explore theMiddle Way, a core teaching from Buddhist philosophy that offers a practical approach to avoiding all-or-nothing thinking and creating a more sustainable, peac...