In this heartfelt episode, adoption author Sherrie Eldridge shares deeply personal insights and practical advice for adoptive and foster parents seeking to connect with their children truly. Drawing from her book 20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed, Sherrie explores how well-intentioned words can be misinterpreted by adopted children—and offers better ways to communicate that honor both the child and their birth family. From reframing statements like “You were chosen” to understanding the primal wound of adoption, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to build stronger, more empathetic relationships within adoptive families.
✅ Key Takeaways:
- Abandonment is primal: Adopted and foster children often carry deep feelings of abandonment, no matter how young they were at the time of placement.
- Well-intentioned words can hurt: Phrases like “You were chosen” or “Your birth mom loved you so much she gave you away” may be misunderstood and cause emotional pain.
- Honor both families: Speaking respectfully about birth parents helps build a child’s sense of identity and self-worth.
- Speak the heart language: Use empathetic, shame-reducing language that acknowledges both the joy and grief of adoption.
- Create safety through honesty: Children who feel emotionally safe are more likely to open up about complicated feelings.
🔗 Related Links:
- 20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed by Sherrie Eldridge
View on Amazon - Forever Fingerprints: An Amazing Discovery for Adopted Children
View on Amazon - Little Branch Gets Adopted
View on Amazon - Sherrie Eldridge’s Adoption Blog
https://sherrieeldridgeadoption.blog - https://familytofamilynetwork.org
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