May 8, 2025 • 45 mins
What happens when three lifelong friends tackle the complex, beautiful, and often hilarious topic of motherhood? Heartfelt stories, nostalgic memories, and plenty of laughter.
Our journey begins with the TV moms who shaped our expectations—from Carol Brady's perfect flip to Claire Huxtable's groundbreaking career-mom balance. We reflect on how these fictional mothers set up ideals that real motherhood rarely matches. Remember June Cleaver vacuuming in pearls? Or the gloriously eccentric Moira Rose? Some of these characters influenced how we viewed motherhood long before we experienced it ourselves.
The conversation turns deeply personal as we share the phrases our mothers said that somehow found their way into our own parenting vocabularies. "Because I said so" becomes the ultimate placeholder when we're too exhausted to explain. "You're fine" and "rub some dirt on it" slip out automatically when faced with minor injuries. We've created our own family sayings too, like "It's hard to be you"—which began as genuine empathy for a four-year-old but evolved into good-natured sarcasm over the years.
Most touching are our cherished memories: mothers who created beautiful dinner party deco from odds and ends around the house, the lingering scent of perfume as they headed out for the evening, the calm reassurance during difficult moments of early parenthood. We explore how our relationships with our mothers transformed as we aged, moving from parent-child dynamics to deep adult friendships.
Whether your mother taught you everything she knew or kept you out of the kitchen entirely, whether she's still with you or lives on in memories, this episode celebrates the women who shaped us and the mothers we've become. Share your own favorite "mom-ism" with us or tell us which TV mom most influenced your idea of motherhood!
Amy, Kitty & Stacey
P.S. Isn't our intro music great?! Yah, we think so too. Thank you, Ivy States for "I Got That Wow".
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
All right, ooh, look, I got that.
Wow, who wants some handsomeright now?
We got that.
Turn it up loud.
I know you're wondering how Igot that.
Wow, here I go, here I go,coming.
I can't ever stop.
I'm a tour de force running.
Get me to the top, I don't needa.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello, my darling friends, hello.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
How are you guys Doing good on this fine Sunday
evening so far?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
so good.
Yeah, how are you Hanging in?
All things considered, that'smy new answer to everything now.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
All things considered .
Speaker 2 (00:49):
So that's a great way to start us off, isn't it this?
Speaker 1 (00:54):
is Three Cocktails In .
Speaker 2 (00:56):
We are Three Cocktails In.
We got Stacy, kitty and Amy.
We are three friends who havebeen hanging out together for a
million years and you know we'rehanging tonight.
We have a very deep andimportant topic to discuss
tonight and I hope everybody isready.
(01:17):
Mother knows best.
This is going to be our episodededicated to our moms, to the
moms out there, to the mom-likepeople we have in our lives, to
our children who sufferedthrough with us as their mothers
.
I'm kind of excited to talkabout all things, yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
Yeah, it'll be good.
We have a piece of jewelry thatis just a nice-sized medallion
and the inscription on it saysMom, a title just above Queen.
Oh, I love that.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I love that.
Yeah, Isn't that true?
So Mother's Day, this is.
This is dropping right beforeMother's Day, Stacey the
scheduler.
Right.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Okay, so we're ahead of the game for once.
For once.
One time only.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yes, yes.
So I had a lot of fun thinkingabout this and it kind of went
all the way back to the moms Iwatched on TV growing up.
Because you know there was nostreaming.
It was our mom, the neighbormoms, I think Stacey and I have
already kind of said I mean, wegrew up in the same small town
(02:40):
and the moms were, yes, theywere all unique individuals, but
there was a pretty similarpattern and we listened to all
of them like they were our moms.
So TV was just this whole newworld.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Yeah, do you guys have moms?
You remember watching.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
You know what?
For me, one of the first momsthat comes to my mind is Carol
Brady.
Ah, yes, Carol Brady.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I always thought her hair was so cute.
It was all so, you know donepretty.
Speaker 4 (03:12):
How did she do that?
Speaker 3 (03:14):
I know, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
How come that one hasn't made its way back, not
seeing that trend coming back?
That's true.
I loved watching Bradyady bunch, as probably all of us did.
I could never really figure outwhy she had.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
What was she doing that she also had alice, yes I
know oh yeah, no wait, thoughwait, who had alice first didn't
he have alice?
Speaker 2 (03:48):
did mr?
Maybe mr had alice?
Speaker 4 (03:50):
yeah, I think mr had alice maybe they kept her.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
They just kept her because they didn't want to.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Yeah, give her because she was part of the
family okay, I think so I don'tknow that might have set the
wrong tone for me and myexpectations as what motherhood
was supposed to be.
That I was somehow gonna havehelp in the house, right?
Yeah, no, no help.
Mom that comes to mind for meis mrs cunningham from happy
(04:21):
days.
Oh, she was such a lovely woman.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Wow, I don't think I would have remembered her.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Okay, that's way back .
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Well, I mean, the show was set way back, but it
wasn't really.
I mean, it was of our era thatthat show came on.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
You suppose that was the 70s, Isuppose yeah yeah, yeah, for
sure, the yep 70s, interesting.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
And then.
So, oh, I mean this, this wouldbe a long list of moms from
that era.
And then, even before that,with with, um, uh, the beavers
mom, yes, june, beaver, june,june cleaver warden june cleaver
, yeah so.
(05:15):
So you've got june cleaver andthen fast forward.
I don't know how many yearsyou've got claire huxtable oh,
she's on my list too, yeah shewas.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
She would have been on mine if you guys both said
something.
She was going to be what Ibrought up and I was just I just
remember being so impressedbecause she she might have I
have no idea on the stats, butshe may have been the first TV
mom, you to have a, a big job.
(05:46):
You know, yeah, so you know hadhow many kids and you know I
can't remember.
Was she a doctor as well or alawyer?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
I can't remember, I think she was a lawyer, yeah, he
was a lawyer, he was the doctor.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Yeah, yeah, oh, I loved watching that.
But how old were we when thatcame out?
Speaker 3 (06:10):
I'm thinking we were adults by then, wasn't?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
that, yeah, I was gonna say yeah.
I was gonna say um, because Ijust still remember all through
watching, you know, youthgrowing up, there wasn't a mom
figure that really had the jobthat I would have seen as an
alternative to being mom.
(06:33):
Right, you know, um, the othermom that I thought of and it's
actually the grandmother but, um, I loved watching bewitched and
her mother, sam's mother, anddora, oh gosh, I loved her.
She was a trip.
Yeah, she was spicy, she wasvery spicy with darwin and, yeah
(06:59):
, always pronounced his namewrong.
I love that.
Um, okay, so let's slideforward just a little bit.
We kind of got into, you know,nineties, two thousands, 2010s.
There's been a whole bunch ofdifferent moms that have been on
TV and movies.
(07:19):
Did you guys like the?
Everybody loves raymond, butpatricia heaton had had a series
of moms yeah, she did yeah, yep, I felt I always felt bad for
her in that yeah
Speaker 4 (07:39):
yeah, I mean can you?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
imagine living across the street from your in-laws.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
No.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
No.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
That wouldn't have been good.
Yeah, I really like her, butshe was in another sitcom where
she played a different kind ofmom, and that was in the TV
series the Middle.
Did you guys ever watch that?
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Never watched it A little bit.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Oh my, I came to it really late, like probably 15
years ago, 10 years ago, startedwatching them on reruns or
whatever and my sister and Ihave never laughed so hard about
how horribly wrong everythingwent in their house, everything
and it just it was just so funny.
The kids were just ding-a-lingsand you know, nobody had their
(08:23):
shit together in that house.
But I kind of enjoyed itbecause it was.
That seemed more typical to me,yeah, than the perfect so so
she wasn't the perfect mom.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Things happened that they had yeah that they had no
idea how to yep um.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Can we talk about my favorite mom of all time?
Who's that?
Moira rose.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
For sure.
What would you do with her as amom?
I know right yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
A lot.
So if if you don't know whowe're talking about, this is the
mom from Schitt's Creek, and Ithink we all love Schitt's Creek
, right, stacey, did you love it?
Yes, that is worth asubscription to wherever it,
wherever it may be playing.
I think when I watched it wason apple tv and I didn't have
(09:25):
apple tv and I specifically gotapple tv so I could watch it.
Um, yeah, and but I love thedevelopment of her character
from the beginning to the end.
At the the beginning I didn'treally like her very much and at
the end I mean it's a testamentto how they grew together as a
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family, but just had a lot ofaffection for her at the end.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Yeah, I kind of felt that about the whole cast at the
end.
Yeah, I kind of felt that aboutthe whole cast Like it.
It took me probably fourepisodes before I decided I
liked it.
Like I remember watching thefirst one and I cannot stand the
guy that played.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
I don't like him either.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
Yeah, what is his name?
He was married to DrewBarrymore for like a hot oh
really I didn't know that.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
I don't know.
I just remember he was.
Do I have him in the group withsomebody?
Speaker 2 (10:21):
else.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
He was the guy that used to come up out of the floor
on the David Letterman show.
Did you ever watch that?
Yeah, oh, I don't remember thatpart either.
Oh, yeah, he's just a weirdo.
So, yeah, I wasn't tooimpressed.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Chris Elliott.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Chris Elliott, I do think.
If we Google search, I do thinkhe was married too.
I could be totally wrong.
Okay, this is so perfect forthis episode.
This is exactly how my motherwas.
I'm just going to tell you thatright now, she never got an
actor or an actress's name rightEver.
(10:59):
She never knew the name to theshow.
She mixed everything up.
It was she would be talkingabout that one movie with that
actress.
That's how she would describesomething.
That movie, well, you know thatmovie, that movie with that
actress.
And we're like you got to giveus more mom.
And she's oh, you know where,where the, the woman dies.
(11:20):
Okay, give us some more, yeah,and then and she goes, you know,
you know, with barbara wayne.
She meant deborah winger, butthat's how it came out.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
So okay, it was tim.
Green is who?
Tom green oh yeah she wasmarried to and physically they
look very much alike.
They're both kind of weird andquirky like that?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Yes, all right, good, so I haven't lost too much.
Yeah, so okay, so that's a goodsegue.
Yeah, so okay, so that that's agood segue.
Um, are there any moms that youwatched that you found to be,
um, like when you became a mom,did you, did you feel like being
(12:12):
a mom was like what you hadwatched on TV, Mm-hmm, were
there any moms that?
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Yeah, no, that's hard because again, there's very few
that they show very flawed.
You know, they were all justthe perfect mom all the way
through.
Usually it was the kids thatwere having the issues, not the
moms.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah, there was a TV show on called 30 something, not
30 something.
Yeah 30 something.
Yeah, yeah, 30 something.
And that was when we were inour early twenties, we weren't
30.
Yeah, no, I remember watchingthat and those moms highly
(13:02):
flawed those families highly.
You know those couples.
Everything was all mixed up andmy ex-husband would come home
and I'd be upset about somethingand he's like, were you
watching?
Speaker 3 (13:10):
that show again.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Well, it just looked.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
Yes, it was.
They were having such issuesand so many problems that it
looked so hard and you know it'slike oh man, is that really
what?
Speaker 2 (13:23):
30 is yeah, yeah, yeah.
But I do feel like those kidslike that part of motherhood was
representative oh yeah oh, Iwould say when, when we got
there trying to juggle work andkids and messy house and all
that, yeah, is there anythingthat you found yourself saying
(13:47):
that your mom said?
Because it is, I do think it'strue we become our mothers.
Yes, I'm afraid so.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
Yeah, that's one I Googled just to remember some of
the crazy things you know, likethe money doesn't grow on trees
and what do you think I made ofmoney?
Oh, I've said that to my kidsOver time Over time For sure,
I'm not the ATM.
Speaker 4 (14:13):
Yeah, there you go.
I don't remember my mom sayingI honestly I don't remember my
mom disciplining me at all.
I'm not saying she didn't, butI don't.
I don't have any memory of it.
And I remember one time, so Imust I would.
I would have been under ninebecause I can.
(14:36):
I remember the house that welived in and we moved from that
house when I was nine.
So I would have been under ninebecause I remember the house
that we lived in and we movedfrom that house when I was nine.
So I would have been anywhereand I'm guessing that I was more
in the five, six year I stuckmy tongue out at my mom as she
was walking away, stuck mytongue out at her and she came
(14:57):
back at me and I got a spanking.
That is the only time I everremember doing something that
made her mad and beingreprimanded for it.
But I just I don't have anymemory of her saying these
things.
Now I think I remember my dadsaying am I gonna have to come?
(15:22):
back you know, reaching aroundthe backseat, Don't make me stop
this car.
Um yeah, things like that.
But I find great humor in allof the you know all of these,
because I said so.
Because I said so, oh yeah,will see, actually means no,
(15:43):
yeah, that holds true still Iuse that.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
It just means I can't think about it.
I cannot give this any energy.
That's a placeholder that Ihope you forget about somewhere
along the line.
Yeah, I do remember the oldstop crying or I'll give you
something to cry about.
That was always an empty threatwith my mom, but I do remember
(16:13):
that phrase.
Yeah, we never heard back in myday, we didn't get that too
much.
I do remember that phrase, yeah, yeah, we never heard back in
my day, we didn't get that toomuch.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Yeah, yeah, we didn't either.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Did you ever hear if your friends jumped off a bridge
, would you jump too?
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Oh, yeah, yes, yeah, yeah.
The things that I remember mymom saying was you know, anytime
we were sick didn't feel good.
First of all, we never went tothe doctor.
You had to pretty much have,you know, a limb hanging if you
were going to go to the doctor.
Otherwise, you're fine, thatwas the common phrase.
(16:52):
You're fine.
Then it was do you need to goto the bathroom?
Didn't matter what it was.
Do you need to go to thebathroom and take some aspirin?
That that was her threeremedies, or her two remedies
for everything, everything.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Yeah, yeah, I would say that would have probably
been mine as well, honestly,yeah, we I never took the kids
to the doctor.
Yeah, you'll get over it.
Here's some Tylenol, yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
I did have the checklist of you know when was
the last time you had a glass ofwater, because at that point we
never gave our kids water.
Nobody ever walked arounddrinking water.
Um, you know, have you eatenanything other than snacks?
Have you go have an apple?
Have you, you know, have apiece of toast, sort of thing,
(17:50):
anything?
So I wouldn't have to take themto the doctor I know now it
seems like everybody goes foreverything.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Don't you think that's true?
Like if they're the least bitsick they go oh um, yeah, I kind
of think.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
So I think I agree with that.
I think there are a lot ofpeople who, yeah, it's like
probably one of the reasons whyit's so hard to get into the
doctor Could be.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
And do we think that's because there's too many
people who are at homeself-diagnosing?
Like when we had the kids?
I didn't have any resource, Icouldn't look up anything to see
how bad it could be, so I justassumed it was fine, yep.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
That could be, that could be the reason.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
So do you guys come up with any funny things that
you remember saying to your own?
Speaker 4 (18:54):
kids.
I know that Bill and I haveboth used the as long as you're
living under our roof you willabide by our rules, yeah.
(19:15):
And does that work?
Well?
I, generally speaking, I wouldsay yes, yes but, I don't.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
I mean, he's still living here, so we haven't
driven him out because of ourrules you're gonna have to start
do the um failure to launchwhere now that bill is going to
retire, he needs to have a nakedroom.
Speaker 4 (19:49):
Do you remember that where terry bradshaw has the
naked like do we really want tosee terry bradshaw's what?
No, that's right, that is afunny movie.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
I gotta put that in the queue yeah, hey, bo, we're
gonna have movie night.
Yeah, put that one in, um I?
There were a couple of thingsthat that both kevin and I
started saying and it came outof this us trying not to laugh
when the kids were very upsetabout something and it's taken
(20:24):
off.
And my girls do say it to theirfriends and Madeline for sure
has said it to Alex and that isthe phrase it's hard to be you.
So like when they were reallylittle and it's.
I remember Ava getting kickedout of dance class at four, at
the age of four.
She caused a mutiny in thedance class.
(20:46):
The teacher had no control andshe ushered Ava out of class to
me and I said Ava, what's goingon?
And she goes.
It is hard to be afour-year-old, hard to be a
four-year-old.
And I said Ava, what's going on?
And she goes, it is hard to bea four-year-old.
And I said yes, yes, evidentlyit is let's go home, sort of
thing.
So from that, this whole idea ofanytime they started to
(21:07):
complain was it is really hardto be you, it is so hard to be
you.
And then it turned into it ishard to be eight, you know, or
it is hard to be 10.
Know, or it is hard to be tenand we just still continue to do
it.
And a couple years ago, one ofthe first years that, alex, I
think, after they were marriedand they came back for vacation
(21:27):
or you know, holiday orsomething, something was going
on and it was probably madelineand georgia going back and forth
at each other and Georgia looksat Madeline and goes it's so
hard to be you.
And Alex turned his head andlooked at Madeline and goes I
just now realize that that isnot an empathetic comment that
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you're making there.
That is totally a sarcasm.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
Yes, it is.
There's no sympathy for.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
There's no sympathy, so she'd been telling him that
it is hard to be you.
Speaker 3 (22:01):
Not meaning yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
So I think we've got something to pass on through the
ages.
You know the whole idea that itis hard to be you.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
See, that wouldn't like with Beau, that would not
fly if I said something likethat to him, Because he would
feel attacked by that.
It's hard to be you.
Well, because you're saying itsarcastically.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
But when they started hearing it as a small young
child, we weren't saying itsarcastically, we were trying to
diffuse the situation andacknowledge that what they were
going through was hard.
Acknowledged that what theywere going through was hard.
Now, we were not saying theywere right or they had any, you
know.
We were just trying to say Ihear you, it is hard to be you.
(22:47):
I'm not, you know, but as theygot older and started to
understand the sarcasm behind it, as they're 14 and they're
complaining about not getting togo do something when you go, it
is really hard to be you Thenthey start to get it and you
know it was, it just became oneof those.
(23:10):
So yeah, yeah, so how to?
How to pivot?
Yeah.
The other thing I would tellthe girls was mommy's ears need
a time out, so you have to stoptalking.
Speaker 3 (23:26):
It worked a little bit every once in a while.
For a while it would work yeahyep, yeah things we made up
right?
I know, yeah, I was, you know,and this wasn't what my mom said
.
I'm sure it was my dad, and Iknow your dad told you the same
thing.
You know, walk it off, rub somedirt on it, so you know, you
(23:47):
were never injured.
Get up, get going.
Yeah, you're fine, you're fine,you're fine, you're fine,
you're fine, you're fine.
Oh yeah, yeah, I would tell mykids that one all the time yeah,
you're fine, keep going.
Rub some dirt in it.
Yeah, yeah, I think Malloryclaims she had a broken foot for
a while because I wouldn't giveher any you know sympathy.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Oh, I had a broken hand for a week because my dad
kept telling me to put ice on it.
Stop being such a girl.
I was 18.
Oh, you even got to being agirl.
Stop being such a girl.
And then he said that just topiss me off.
Let's be real honest.
He knew that that was going toirritate me.
So a week later my hand wasstill huge and mom took me in
(24:32):
for x-rays and, yep, it wasbroken and I came home with a
cast.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
Right rays and yep, it was broken and I came home
with the cast.
Right, did you have a cast?
Speaker 2 (24:42):
like this, actually the cast, the cast.
I got to move like this knuckleand just a little bit of my
thumb and everything else wascasted together.
Speaker 4 (24:49):
So I'm like, look, dad how did you break your hands
?
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Um, playing softball, summer softball.
Um, we were shagging balls, popflies, and I was running in and
this dingling girl, who wasjust a joker on her team was
backpedaling and I had my gloveout to catch it and she whipped
her glove back and hit you andjust jammed my finger in, and
(25:18):
that was part of it.
When they fixed it theyactually had to pull the finger
out and reset it sort of.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Thing.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
So talk about you're fine.
Rub some dirt on it, put someice on it, take two aspirin.
She didn't tell me to go to thebathroom with that one at 18.
Speaker 3 (25:35):
Yep, didn't tell me to go to the bathroom with that
one at 18.
Yeah, yep, knock it up, you'refine, yeah, shoot.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
What else?
Well, there's always the thingwhat do you remember?
What do you post?
What was your favorite?
Both your moms listen, so thisis your chance I'll go go.
Speaker 4 (26:07):
Um, I remember parties.
I remember my parents havingpeople over like having dinner,
people coming over for dinner,or when my dad was directing
plays, we would have castparties after the last
performance and all the, all thestudents would come over and
and my mom was so good atcooking for one thing and just
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making amazing food and justorganizing and throwing these
parties.
And it was the same thing whenit was Thanksgiving or Christmas
or Easter or Mother's Day, whenall the relatives would come
over.
We have a very small family,but early on, because my mom and
dad lived in the same smalltown, so their parents knew each
(26:59):
other, so all of our holidaysit was both sides of the family
together.
I thought that's just the wayfamilies were until you know, I
left home and met other peopleand what both sets of your
grandparents don't get togetherwith you for Christmas.
No, that's, that's not normal,okay, but, um, creating a
(27:24):
beautiful dining room table andshe would just pull things that
she had in her house.
You know it wasn't like, okay,I'm gonna go to Target or
wherever, and'm going to buy anew runner and candles and
whatever she would take any.
She would take odds and endsfrom around and create beautiful
tables.
(27:45):
So cooking and entertaining and, just you know, making that
beautiful tablescape all thetime.
I remember that from a veryearly age.
And then one other thing Iremember when my mom and dad
would go out, when we would geta babysitter, which my sister
and I loved having thebabysitter because we got to eat
(28:07):
TV dinners, did you?
Speaker 3 (28:12):
walk.
Yeah, did you have your TVdinner and watch Lawrence Welk?
Because that's what we did?
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Yeah, probably Probably.
And I remember them beingdressed up to go out and they
would come and say goodbye.
And I remember my mom's furcoat.
I remember the smell of herperfume.
Oh, that's wonderful, like likeit was yesterday.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Yeah, that's awesome.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
Yeah, yeah, that's, that's a good one.
My mom also very good atentertaining and putting on a
big um spread.
As you were talking about that.
I remembered that my parents, Ithink, went out every weekend.
We had babysitters all the time, you know, and then they have
bridge night, which is duringthe week, and we'd have a
(29:06):
babysitter.
So I mean, they, that'ssomething.
I remember that they went out alot, you know, which is
interesting.
But my mom specifically, Iwould say you know I learned a
lot from her.
You know, like, how to sew, youknow how to cook, you know a
(29:28):
lot of domestic type stuff, butthe funny thing is I hated every
minute of it.
I fought her that I didn't careabout.
You know, learning how to sewand learning how to do all these
arts and crafts and all thiskind of stuff, which now I like
it, but you know, I just hatedit, hated sitting down and
(29:50):
having to learn, learn anything.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
So learn anything.
So, yeah, no, yeah, probablytypical.
Oh yeah, oh yes.
Um, my mom was then theopposite of that.
She didn't want.
I did not know how to cook asingle thing other than beanie
weenies, which stacy and Italked about campbell's know
(30:15):
pork and beans with chopped uphot dog in it.
Um, I knew how to follow arecipe to bake cookies.
Um, but my mom never wanted usin the kitchen, ever.
We got in her way.
We made a mess.
It was just easier for her todo it.
I didn't know how to washclothes.
My freshman year of college Iwas looking at labels and it
(30:39):
said cold and I put it intogether.
I ruined like three sweatersand a shirt because they were
white and pink, and I put themin with my jeans because they
all said cold.
Didn't know you couldn't dothat.
So where my mom knew how to doall that, I didn't learn it.
So where my mom knew how to doall that, I didn't learn it.
I did know how to sew becauseshe thought that was something I
(31:00):
needed to know how to do.
I'm sure it had to do with 4-H,it was a project or something
that we had to do, and shepicked out the pattern and she
picked out the easiest and I'mnot even I'm pretty sure she
probably did half of it.
You know she didn't care aboutthat sort of stuff.
(31:24):
And I think for many, many, manyyears I'm the oldest, my
brother, I was six when he wasborn, so probably through about
the first 12 years of my life Iwas my dad's boy.
We did sports together all thetime because Cole wasn't old
enough, and so I did a lot moreoutdoor stuff than I ever did
(31:47):
the indoor stuff.
But when I started having, youknow, once I had kids, I called
my mom every single day, kid, Icalled my mom every single day
and she just had such a calmnature to her.
And, um, my mom, my mom, hardlyever drank.
(32:09):
Her idea of a drink was a, afuzzy navel or a pink squirrel,
and if you don't know what thoseare you should Google those.
Um, they're very frou-froudrinks.
But I remember being so upsetand you you know I had with
Madeline.
I had a lot of postpartumdepression, which I didn't know
that what that was at the time.
But I remember her saying Amy,amy, do you have a beer in the
house?
(32:34):
oh my gosh, that's funny becausenow, when they were having kids
, they were told to have a beerbecause it helped with um, like
milk production or something.
They thought that that was athing, so, so she's like there's
not enough alcohol in there,that's gonna hurt you, you know,
you, it'll you, it'll calm youdown, it'll calm her down.
(33:00):
So, um, I came to have agreater appreciation, probably
as we all do, for our, for ourmoms, as we get older.
Speaker 4 (33:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (33:11):
Yeah, definitely.
I mean you're, as we becameadults, you realize that they
were doing it for the first time, raising us, just like we're
doing it for the first timeraising ours, and nobody tells
you how to do this, so you'rejust figuring it out for
yourself and yeah, it's, it'strue, it's hard, yeah, it's hard
(33:37):
and then it becomes a lot offun.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
Then, when you get to be the adult age and you get to
enjoy your parents moms inparticular, in a different
relationship, um, you know, I, Ijust watch all the vacations,
stacy you go on with your momand she's in the sporting gear,
wearing whatever baseball hatand jersey are, whatever field
(34:00):
you're at, you're hiking withher, you're, you know, she's
just in for all of it.
And, kitty, you and your momand your sister are doing so
many, you know, get together andget to see things and stopped
in and saw me at work one day.
Stopped in and saw me at workone day.
You know, it's just fun to getto this point where we can enjoy
(34:22):
our moms as women as opposed toyou know, mom, yes, do you guys
have good plans?
Do you have plans with yourmoms?
Speaker 4 (34:31):
Well, my mom was just here two weekends ago.
My mom was just here twoweekends ago, so, um, I will.
I guess we haven't really eventalked about mother's day, so um
, don't know yet if I'm going tomake a trip there, but my
sister is there where my momlives, so, um, we will have
(34:54):
something special for her.
But I need to get home again.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (35:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
Stacey, does your gang get together?
Speaker 3 (35:04):
Yeah, everybody will be back.
Even though they just came forEaster, trenton and Liza did not
make it, so they're coming forMother's Day.
So, we'll all kind of gettogether.
I don't know what the plan isyet.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
You've got lots of generations of moms in your
house now.
Yeah, yep, yeah, I will beworking again on Mother's Day.
So if anybody would like to buytheir mother a home in Chaska,
please come see me.
I'll make that happen for youon Mother's Day.
Speaker 3 (35:35):
I have an idea.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
So, oh, I hope everybody gets to at least have
a good phone call, good phonecall with their mom, and if your
mom, like me, if your mom isn'there, call your kids, call your
siblings, call that mom figurein your life.
Yeah, there you go.
That's good to you.
So anybody got a shot.
Speaker 4 (36:01):
I finally remembered to bring mine into the room that
I was going to share a coupleof weeks ago.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Excellent, Kitty hit us with a shot.
Speaker 4 (36:11):
All right.
Okay, so mine is artificialflowers for outside.
Okay, so mine is artificialflowers for outside, mm-hmm,
okay.
So I've been seeing this allover TikTok, all over Instagram,
all over Facebook, and I've gota couple of spots in the front
and in the back that I justcannot keep real flowers alive.
(36:32):
They get pummeled by the rainthat's coming off the roof or
whatever, and so I thought I'mgonna, I'm gonna give that a try
.
I want to see.
I want to see, touch and feelthem.
Okay, so these this is asampling of them oh my wow, yes,
(36:53):
very all.
I just, this is just a box thatI have these in.
I had these.
I haven't planted, yet Planted,but you know so it's just like
artificial flowers that you getat Michael's or, you know, hobby
lobby, whatever, but they're UVprotected, so they're not going
(37:15):
to fade.
They can get wet, you know,depending because of how they're
made, they can get wet and theylook real.
So I've got two pots, uh, on myfront steps that I've already
done.
So when I took all the Christmasstuff out, I left all the dirt
in the pot, and these are stuckin the dirt just because I'm
(37:38):
like, well, I'm not going todump the dirt, because I
wouldn't have, you'd have to putsomething in any way to.
So what I, what I'm seeing alot of people do, is just get
that floral clay and then stickthat in there.
But it also needs to be kind ofheavy so that the pot doesn't
blow away, because we get galeforce winds and um.
(38:01):
So these are all the differentones now that I'm going to work
on.
If it stops raining too andthis will probably be I can
probably get at least two orthree pots out of this.
Oh yeah, they're reallyinexpensive.
Speaker 3 (38:20):
Yeah, how much were they?
Speaker 4 (38:22):
That's a little box.
Um, well, this, this isprobably like three orders right
here, like these.
I ordered all of these grasses.
All of these grasses were oneorder and I mean I want to say
like each order was like $25 andyou know.
So you get a lot.
Yeah, yeah, cool, I'm very,very happy with it.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Yep, that used to be my favorite Mother's Day
activity.
All the kids stay home and Iget to go buy hundreds of
dollars worth of flowers.
Yeah, spend the whole afternoonat the greenhouse.
Speaker 4 (39:03):
I just I.
I'm always excited about it atthe beginning of the season and
for for.
For us it was mother's day too,and I do really well watering
things for like the first month,and then it'd start to taper
off and by the end of summerthey just look like crap.
So that's another reason why Iwant to try this this year.
Speaker 3 (39:28):
So there you go.
Yeah, that's a good, goodsuggestion, excellent.
How about you, stacey?
Sick job excellent.
How about you, stacy?
I got called out um by from oneof our podcasts a couple weeks
ago.
Oh, what does that mean?
That means my nephew brody.
I'm gonna call him out on thepodcast.
(39:50):
He listened to our episodeabout the generations.
You know we talked about Gen Xboomer.
Yannick's and I made the commentthat Millennials, or Jen Y they
were named Jen Y, yep, becausethey asked a lot of questions
(40:12):
and he called me out on thissays no, it wasn't, is because
XYyz.
And I said yes, that too.
But they literally said, youknow, at the time, because that
generation's very inquisitive.
And then I kind of secondguessed myself and said, did I
just make that up?
So I, you know, put it in ai,and I was right, it was because
(40:34):
they also asked a lot ofquestions.
Oh, kind of the same thing.
And then again then theychanged it to millennial anyway.
So yeah, so, there you go.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
Okay, um, I I have one too.
But first you have to look atmy eyebrows.
Okay, do we think my eyebrowslook?
I mean, I had one of my kidsduring FaceTime say to me did
you get your eyebrows done?
I'm like no.
So I think that's a good sign.
But here's the product thatI've got.
This is a little itty bitty elf.
(41:05):
It's like a felt tip.
Can you guys see that littlelittle thing?
Speaker 3 (41:10):
So this was kind of looks like an eyeliner, yeah,
that kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
Okay, like an eyeliner, yeah, that kind of
thing.
Okay it is.
It is the holy strokes micro,fine brow pen.
Okay, and for twelve dollars, agreat eyebrow thing.
So it's.
It does have a little ink to it.
It does dry darker, so there'sa little bit of a learning curve
.
But you can actually makelittle, you know, make it look
like hairs instead of justSometimes you get those it looks
(41:45):
more like a pencil, like acrayon pencil.
And then it's just a colorsmudge and I've done the things
that look like a mascara wandand that's great, but it only
lifts what you already have.
So if you have thin brows, thisis how you can fill in.
Nice.
My color is neutral brown,neutral brown.
(42:09):
Got it at Target.
Okay, you can get it anywhere.
So it's the elf brand aninexpensive brand, well worth it
.
So if you ever need to pick meup, there you go $12.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
Make yourself happy.
Good, those were good, thosewere good ones.
Speaker 2 (42:29):
Buy it for your mother, Because probably your
mom's eyebrows are going toolike the rest of us.
Speaker 4 (42:37):
What do you guys think about microblading?
Speaker 2 (42:41):
My sister had it done .
Oops, hope she doesn't mindthat I just said that she
doesn't listen, so I think I'mokay, is that one of those
things I assume you have to getdone often?
Um, I think she had it done anumber of years ago and I think
she's had it touched up once, no, why did she?
Speaker 4 (43:00):
had it done a number of years ago and I think she's
had it touched up once.
Oh, why?
Speaker 2 (43:03):
did she have it done?
She had such such thin barelytheir eyebrows and they were
really super light, okay, andthey look really nice.
Now I did read somethingsomewhere, you know, and I'm
sure it was somebody who wastrying to promote a different
product or different way ofdoing it they did caution with
(43:23):
microblading.
Basically, what it is is it's atattoo, yeah, that your face
changes and your shape of youreye changes, so that's gonna
change too, yeah, but yeah, sheliked it she's I'm not, I'm not,
I I have a.
Speaker 4 (43:44):
I have pretty bushy eyebrows.
I'm not considering it, I justalways, whenever I see people
doing it, I'm always like oh,it's interesting, yeah, yeah, so
just curious.
Good, some people's eyebrows.
Speaker 3 (44:00):
Yep Way way way overdone.
Yeah, they can.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
Eyebrows have gotten big, yeah, yes.
So on that note, let's go big.
Have a big week, my friendshave a big week.
Make it count.
Make it count.
Say happy Mother's Day tosomeone in your life.
And if you have the ability towatch kids, so younger moms can
(44:32):
go spend an afternoon bythemselves, it's okay.
You can have Mother's daywithout your kids.
Yes, it's a celebration of you.
Speaker 3 (44:41):
Yeah, in fact my kids would say that's what I used to
tell them is that they'd saywhat do you want for mother's
day?
And I would say you all to justgo somewhere, or let me be
alone.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
Yes, I would like you to play with your father.
Today it's really Father's Day.
Go play with him.
Speaker 4 (45:00):
Yeah, alright, lovelies, good to talk to you
and you have a good week.
Bye-bye, bye.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
Bye, alright.
Woo, look, I got that.
Wow, who wants some heads upright now?
We got that.
Turn it up loud.
I know you're wondering how Igot that.
Wow, here I go.
Here I go, coming.
I can't ever stop.
I'ma tour the forest running.
Get me to the top.
I don't need an invitation.
I'm about to start acelebration.
(45:35):
Let me in Brought a good timefor some friends.
Turn it up loud past ten.
All right, ooh, look, I got that.
Wow, who wants some handsomeright now?
We got that.
Turn it up loud.
I know you're wondering how Igot that.
Wow, here I go, here I go,coming.
I can't ever stop.
I'm a tour de force running.
Get me to the top, I don't needa.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello, my darling friends, hello.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
How are you guys Doing good on this fine Sunday
evening so far?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
so good.
Yeah, how are you Hanging in?
All things considered, that'smy new answer to everything now.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
All things considered .
Speaker 2 (00:49):
So that's a great way to start us off, isn't it this?
Speaker 1 (00:54):
is Three Cocktails In .
Speaker 2 (00:56):
We are Three Cocktails In.
We got Stacy, kitty and Amy.
We are three friends who havebeen hanging out together for a
million years and you know we'rehanging tonight.
We have a very deep andimportant topic to discuss
tonight and I hope everybody isready.
(01:17):
Mother knows best.
This is going to be our episodededicated to our moms, to the
moms out there, to the mom-likepeople we have in our lives, to
our children who sufferedthrough with us as their mothers
.
I'm kind of excited to talkabout all things, yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
Yeah, it'll be good.
We have a piece of jewelry thatis just a nice-sized medallion
and the inscription on it saysMom, a title just above Queen.
Oh, I love that.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I love that.
Yeah, Isn't that true?
So Mother's Day, this is.
This is dropping right beforeMother's Day, Stacey the
scheduler.
Right.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Okay, so we're ahead of the game for once.
For once.
One time only.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yes, yes.
So I had a lot of fun thinkingabout this and it kind of went
all the way back to the moms Iwatched on TV growing up.
Because you know there was nostreaming.
It was our mom, the neighbormoms, I think Stacey and I have
already kind of said I mean, wegrew up in the same small town
(02:40):
and the moms were, yes, theywere all unique individuals, but
there was a pretty similarpattern and we listened to all
of them like they were our moms.
So TV was just this whole newworld.
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
Yeah, do you guys have moms?
You remember watching.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
You know what?
For me, one of the first momsthat comes to my mind is Carol
Brady.
Ah, yes, Carol Brady.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I always thought her hair was so cute.
It was all so, you know donepretty.
Speaker 4 (03:12):
How did she do that?
Speaker 3 (03:14):
I know, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
How come that one hasn't made its way back, not
seeing that trend coming back?
That's true.
I loved watching Bradyady bunch, as probably all of us did.
I could never really figure outwhy she had.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
What was she doing that she also had alice, yes I
know oh yeah, no wait, thoughwait, who had alice first didn't
he have alice?
Speaker 2 (03:48):
did mr?
Maybe mr had alice?
Speaker 4 (03:50):
yeah, I think mr had alice maybe they kept her.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
They just kept her because they didn't want to.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Yeah, give her because she was part of the
family okay, I think so I don'tknow that might have set the
wrong tone for me and myexpectations as what motherhood
was supposed to be.
That I was somehow gonna havehelp in the house, right?
Yeah, no, no help.
Mom that comes to mind for meis mrs cunningham from happy
(04:21):
days.
Oh, she was such a lovely woman.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
Wow, I don't think I would have remembered her.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Okay, that's way back .
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Well, I mean, the show was set way back, but it
wasn't really.
I mean, it was of our era thatthat show came on.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
You suppose that was the 70s, Isuppose yeah yeah, yeah, for
sure, the yep 70s, interesting.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
And then.
So, oh, I mean this, this wouldbe a long list of moms from
that era.
And then, even before that,with with, um, uh, the beavers
mom, yes, june, beaver, june,june cleaver warden june cleaver
, yeah so.
(05:15):
So you've got june cleaver andthen fast forward.
I don't know how many yearsyou've got claire huxtable oh,
she's on my list too, yeah shewas.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
She would have been on mine if you guys both said
something.
She was going to be what Ibrought up and I was just I just
remember being so impressedbecause she she might have I
have no idea on the stats, butshe may have been the first TV
mom, you to have a, a big job.
(05:46):
You know, yeah, so you know hadhow many kids and you know I
can't remember.
Was she a doctor as well or alawyer?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
I can't remember, I think she was a lawyer, yeah, he
was a lawyer, he was the doctor.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Yeah, yeah, oh, I loved watching that.
But how old were we when thatcame out?
Speaker 3 (06:10):
I'm thinking we were adults by then, wasn't?
Speaker 2 (06:12):
that, yeah, I was gonna say yeah.
I was gonna say um, because Ijust still remember all through
watching, you know, youthgrowing up, there wasn't a mom
figure that really had the jobthat I would have seen as an
alternative to being mom.
(06:33):
Right, you know, um, the othermom that I thought of and it's
actually the grandmother but, um, I loved watching bewitched and
her mother, sam's mother, anddora, oh gosh, I loved her.
She was a trip.
Yeah, she was spicy, she wasvery spicy with darwin and, yeah
(06:59):
, always pronounced his namewrong.
I love that.
Um, okay, so let's slideforward just a little bit.
We kind of got into, you know,nineties, two thousands, 2010s.
There's been a whole bunch ofdifferent moms that have been on
TV and movies.
(07:19):
Did you guys like the?
Everybody loves raymond, butpatricia heaton had had a series
of moms yeah, she did yeah, yep, I felt I always felt bad for
her in that yeah
Speaker 4 (07:39):
yeah, I mean can you?
Speaker 3 (07:40):
imagine living across the street from your in-laws.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
No.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
No.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
That wouldn't have been good.
Yeah, I really like her, butshe was in another sitcom where
she played a different kind ofmom, and that was in the TV
series the Middle.
Did you guys ever watch that?
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Never watched it A little bit.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
Oh my, I came to it really late, like probably 15
years ago, 10 years ago, startedwatching them on reruns or
whatever and my sister and Ihave never laughed so hard about
how horribly wrong everythingwent in their house, everything
and it just it was just so funny.
The kids were just ding-a-lingsand you know, nobody had their
(08:23):
shit together in that house.
But I kind of enjoyed itbecause it was.
That seemed more typical to me,yeah, than the perfect so so
she wasn't the perfect mom.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Things happened that they had yeah that they had no
idea how to yep um.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
Can we talk about my favorite mom of all time?
Who's that?
Moira rose.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
For sure.
What would you do with her as amom?
I know right yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:01):
A lot.
So if if you don't know whowe're talking about, this is the
mom from Schitt's Creek, and Ithink we all love Schitt's Creek
, right, stacey, did you love it?
Yes, that is worth asubscription to wherever it,
wherever it may be playing.
I think when I watched it wason apple tv and I didn't have
(09:25):
apple tv and I specifically gotapple tv so I could watch it.
Um, yeah, and but I love thedevelopment of her character
from the beginning to the end.
At the the beginning I didn'treally like her very much and at
the end I mean it's a testamentto how they grew together as a
(09:47):
family, but just had a lot ofaffection for her at the end.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Yeah, I kind of felt that about the whole cast at the
end.
Yeah, I kind of felt that aboutthe whole cast Like it.
It took me probably fourepisodes before I decided I
liked it.
Like I remember watching thefirst one and I cannot stand the
guy that played.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
I don't like him either.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
Yeah, what is his name?
He was married to DrewBarrymore for like a hot oh
really I didn't know that.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
I don't know.
I just remember he was.
Do I have him in the group withsomebody?
Speaker 2 (10:21):
else.
Speaker 3 (10:23):
He was the guy that used to come up out of the floor
on the David Letterman show.
Did you ever watch that?
Yeah, oh, I don't remember thatpart either.
Oh, yeah, he's just a weirdo.
So, yeah, I wasn't tooimpressed.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
Chris Elliott.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Chris Elliott, I do think.
If we Google search, I do thinkhe was married too.
I could be totally wrong.
Okay, this is so perfect forthis episode.
This is exactly how my motherwas.
I'm just going to tell you thatright now, she never got an
actor or an actress's name rightEver.
(10:59):
She never knew the name to theshow.
She mixed everything up.
It was she would be talkingabout that one movie with that
actress.
That's how she would describesomething.
That movie, well, you know thatmovie, that movie with that
actress.
And we're like you got to giveus more mom.
And she's oh, you know where,where the, the woman dies.
(11:20):
Okay, give us some more, yeah,and then and she goes, you know,
you know, with barbara wayne.
She meant deborah winger, butthat's how it came out.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
So okay, it was tim.
Green is who?
Tom green oh yeah she wasmarried to and physically they
look very much alike.
They're both kind of weird andquirky like that?
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Yes, all right, good, so I haven't lost too much.
Yeah, so okay, so that's a goodsegue.
Yeah, so okay, so that that's agood segue.
Um, are there any moms that youwatched that you found to be,
um, like when you became a mom,did you, did you feel like being
(12:12):
a mom was like what you hadwatched on TV, Mm-hmm, were
there any moms that?
Speaker 3 (12:23):
Yeah, no, that's hard because again, there's very few
that they show very flawed.
You know, they were all justthe perfect mom all the way
through.
Usually it was the kids thatwere having the issues, not the
moms.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Yeah, there was a TV show on called 30 something, not
30 something.
Yeah 30 something.
Yeah, yeah, 30 something.
And that was when we were inour early twenties, we weren't
30.
Yeah, no, I remember watchingthat and those moms highly
(13:02):
flawed those families highly.
You know those couples.
Everything was all mixed up andmy ex-husband would come home
and I'd be upset about somethingand he's like, were you
watching?
Speaker 3 (13:10):
that show again.
Speaker 2 (13:11):
Well, it just looked.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
Yes, it was.
They were having such issuesand so many problems that it
looked so hard and you know it'slike oh man, is that really
what?
Speaker 2 (13:23):
30 is yeah, yeah, yeah.
But I do feel like those kidslike that part of motherhood was
representative oh yeah oh, Iwould say when, when we got
there trying to juggle work andkids and messy house and all
that, yeah, is there anythingthat you found yourself saying
(13:47):
that your mom said?
Because it is, I do think it'strue we become our mothers.
Yes, I'm afraid so.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
Yeah, that's one I Googled just to remember some of
the crazy things you know, likethe money doesn't grow on trees
and what do you think I made ofmoney?
Oh, I've said that to my kidsOver time Over time For sure,
I'm not the ATM.
Speaker 4 (14:13):
Yeah, there you go.
I don't remember my mom sayingI honestly I don't remember my
mom disciplining me at all.
I'm not saying she didn't, butI don't.
I don't have any memory of it.
And I remember one time, so Imust I would.
I would have been under ninebecause I can.
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I remember the house that welived in and we moved from that
house when I was nine.
So I would have been under ninebecause I remember the house
that we lived in and we movedfrom that house when I was nine.
So I would have been anywhereand I'm guessing that I was more
in the five, six year I stuckmy tongue out at my mom as she
was walking away, stuck mytongue out at her and she came
(14:57):
back at me and I got a spanking.
That is the only time I everremember doing something that
made her mad and beingreprimanded for it.
But I just I don't have anymemory of her saying these
things.
Now I think I remember my dadsaying am I gonna have to come?
(15:22):
back you know, reaching aroundthe backseat, Don't make me stop
this car.
Um yeah, things like that.
But I find great humor in allof the you know all of these,
because I said so.
Because I said so, oh yeah,will see, actually means no,
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yeah, that holds true still Iuse that.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
It just means I can't think about it.
I cannot give this any energy.
That's a placeholder that Ihope you forget about somewhere
along the line.
Yeah, I do remember the oldstop crying or I'll give you
something to cry about.
That was always an empty threatwith my mom, but I do remember
(16:13):
that phrase.
Yeah, we never heard back in myday, we didn't get that too
much.
I do remember that phrase, yeah, yeah, we never heard back in
my day, we didn't get that toomuch.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Yeah, yeah, we didn't either.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Did you ever hear if your friends jumped off a bridge
, would you jump too?
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Oh, yeah, yes, yeah, yeah.
The things that I remember mymom saying was you know, anytime
we were sick didn't feel good.
First of all, we never went tothe doctor.
You had to pretty much have,you know, a limb hanging if you
were going to go to the doctor.
Otherwise, you're fine, thatwas the common phrase.
(16:52):
You're fine.
Then it was do you need to goto the bathroom?
Didn't matter what it was.
Do you need to go to thebathroom and take some aspirin?
That that was her threeremedies, or her two remedies
for everything, everything.
Speaker 3 (17:11):
Yeah, yeah, I would say that would have probably
been mine as well, honestly,yeah, we I never took the kids
to the doctor.
Yeah, you'll get over it.
Here's some Tylenol, yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
I did have the checklist of you know when was
the last time you had a glass ofwater, because at that point we
never gave our kids water.
Nobody ever walked arounddrinking water.
Um, you know, have you eatenanything other than snacks?
Have you go have an apple?
Have you, you know, have apiece of toast, sort of thing,
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anything?
So I wouldn't have to take themto the doctor I know now it
seems like everybody goes foreverything.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Don't you think that's true?
Like if they're the least bitsick they go oh um, yeah, I kind
of think.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
So I think I agree with that.
I think there are a lot ofpeople who, yeah, it's like
probably one of the reasons whyit's so hard to get into the
doctor Could be.
Speaker 2 (18:23):
And do we think that's because there's too many
people who are at homeself-diagnosing?
Like when we had the kids?
I didn't have any resource, Icouldn't look up anything to see
how bad it could be, so I justassumed it was fine, yep.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
That could be, that could be the reason.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
So do you guys come up with any funny things that
you remember saying to your own?
Speaker 4 (18:54):
kids.
I know that Bill and I haveboth used the as long as you're
living under our roof you willabide by our rules, yeah.
(19:15):
And does that work?
Well?
I, generally speaking, I wouldsay yes, yes but, I don't.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
I mean, he's still living here, so we haven't
driven him out because of ourrules you're gonna have to start
do the um failure to launchwhere now that bill is going to
retire, he needs to have a nakedroom.
Speaker 4 (19:49):
Do you remember that where terry bradshaw has the
naked like do we really want tosee terry bradshaw's what?
No, that's right, that is afunny movie.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
I gotta put that in the queue yeah, hey, bo, we're
gonna have movie night.
Yeah, put that one in, um I?
There were a couple of thingsthat that both kevin and I
started saying and it came outof this us trying not to laugh
when the kids were very upsetabout something and it's taken
(20:24):
off.
And my girls do say it to theirfriends and Madeline for sure
has said it to Alex and that isthe phrase it's hard to be you.
So like when they were reallylittle and it's.
I remember Ava getting kickedout of dance class at four, at
the age of four.
She caused a mutiny in thedance class.
(20:46):
The teacher had no control andshe ushered Ava out of class to
me and I said Ava, what's goingon?
And she goes.
It is hard to be afour-year-old, hard to be a
four-year-old.
And I said Ava, what's going on?
And she goes, it is hard to bea four-year-old.
And I said yes, yes, evidentlyit is let's go home, sort of
thing.
So from that, this whole idea ofanytime they started to
(21:07):
complain was it is really hardto be you, it is so hard to be
you.
And then it turned into it ishard to be eight, you know, or
it is hard to be 10.
Know, or it is hard to be tenand we just still continue to do
it.
And a couple years ago, one ofthe first years that, alex, I
think, after they were marriedand they came back for vacation
(21:27):
or you know, holiday orsomething, something was going
on and it was probably madelineand georgia going back and forth
at each other and Georgia looksat Madeline and goes it's so
hard to be you.
And Alex turned his head andlooked at Madeline and goes I
just now realize that that isnot an empathetic comment that
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you're making there.
That is totally a sarcasm.
Speaker 3 (21:52):
Yes, it is.
There's no sympathy for.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
There's no sympathy, so she'd been telling him that
it is hard to be you.
Speaker 3 (22:01):
Not meaning yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
So I think we've got something to pass on through the
ages.
You know the whole idea that itis hard to be you.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
See, that wouldn't like with Beau, that would not
fly if I said something likethat to him, Because he would
feel attacked by that.
It's hard to be you.
Well, because you're saying itsarcastically.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
But when they started hearing it as a small young
child, we weren't saying itsarcastically, we were trying to
diffuse the situation andacknowledge that what they were
going through was hard.
Acknowledged that what theywere going through was hard.
Now, we were not saying theywere right or they had any, you
know.
We were just trying to say Ihear you, it is hard to be you.
(22:47):
I'm not, you know, but as theygot older and started to
understand the sarcasm behind it, as they're 14 and they're
complaining about not getting togo do something when you go, it
is really hard to be you Thenthey start to get it and you
know it was, it just became oneof those.
(23:10):
So yeah, yeah, so how to?
How to pivot?
Yeah.
The other thing I would tellthe girls was mommy's ears need
a time out, so you have to stoptalking.
Speaker 3 (23:26):
It worked a little bit every once in a while.
For a while it would work yeahyep, yeah things we made up
right?
I know, yeah, I was, you know,and this wasn't what my mom said
.
I'm sure it was my dad, and Iknow your dad told you the same
thing.
You know, walk it off, rub somedirt on it, so you know, you
(23:47):
were never injured.
Get up, get going.
Yeah, you're fine, you're fine,you're fine, you're fine,
you're fine, you're fine.
Oh yeah, yeah, I would tell mykids that one all the time yeah,
you're fine, keep going.
Rub some dirt in it.
Yeah, yeah, I think Malloryclaims she had a broken foot for
a while because I wouldn't giveher any you know sympathy.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Oh, I had a broken hand for a week because my dad
kept telling me to put ice on it.
Stop being such a girl.
I was 18.
Oh, you even got to being agirl.
Stop being such a girl.
And then he said that just topiss me off.
Let's be real honest.
He knew that that was going toirritate me.
So a week later my hand wasstill huge and mom took me in
(24:32):
for x-rays and, yep, it wasbroken and I came home with a
cast.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
Right rays and yep, it was broken and I came home
with the cast.
Right, did you have a cast?
Speaker 2 (24:42):
like this, actually the cast, the cast.
I got to move like this knuckleand just a little bit of my
thumb and everything else wascasted together.
Speaker 4 (24:49):
So I'm like, look, dad how did you break your hands
?
Speaker 2 (24:56):
Um, playing softball, summer softball.
Um, we were shagging balls, popflies, and I was running in and
this dingling girl, who wasjust a joker on her team was
backpedaling and I had my gloveout to catch it and she whipped
her glove back and hit you andjust jammed my finger in, and
(25:18):
that was part of it.
When they fixed it theyactually had to pull the finger
out and reset it sort of.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Thing.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
So talk about you're fine.
Rub some dirt on it, put someice on it, take two aspirin.
She didn't tell me to go to thebathroom with that one at 18.
Speaker 3 (25:35):
Yep, didn't tell me to go to the bathroom with that
one at 18.
Yeah, yep, knock it up, you'refine, yeah, shoot.
Speaker 2 (25:46):
What else?
Well, there's always the thingwhat do you remember?
What do you post?
What was your favorite?
Both your moms listen, so thisis your chance I'll go go.
Speaker 4 (26:07):
Um, I remember parties.
I remember my parents havingpeople over like having dinner,
people coming over for dinner,or when my dad was directing
plays, we would have castparties after the last
performance and all the, all thestudents would come over and
and my mom was so good atcooking for one thing and just
(26:36):
making amazing food and justorganizing and throwing these
parties.
And it was the same thing whenit was Thanksgiving or Christmas
or Easter or Mother's Day, whenall the relatives would come
over.
We have a very small family,but early on, because my mom and
dad lived in the same smalltown, so their parents knew each
(26:59):
other, so all of our holidaysit was both sides of the family
together.
I thought that's just the wayfamilies were until you know, I
left home and met other peopleand what both sets of your
grandparents don't get togetherwith you for Christmas.
No, that's, that's not normal,okay, but, um, creating a
(27:24):
beautiful dining room table andshe would just pull things that
she had in her house.
You know it wasn't like, okay,I'm gonna go to Target or
wherever, and'm going to buy anew runner and candles and
whatever she would take any.
She would take odds and endsfrom around and create beautiful
tables.
(27:45):
So cooking and entertaining and, just you know, making that
beautiful tablescape all thetime.
I remember that from a veryearly age.
And then one other thing Iremember when my mom and dad
would go out, when we would geta babysitter, which my sister
and I loved having thebabysitter because we got to eat
(28:07):
TV dinners, did you?
Speaker 3 (28:12):
walk.
Yeah, did you have your TVdinner and watch Lawrence Welk?
Because that's what we did?
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Yeah, probably Probably.
And I remember them beingdressed up to go out and they
would come and say goodbye.
And I remember my mom's furcoat.
I remember the smell of herperfume.
Oh, that's wonderful, like likeit was yesterday.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
Yeah, that's awesome.
Speaker 3 (28:45):
Yeah, yeah, that's, that's a good one.
My mom also very good atentertaining and putting on a
big um spread.
As you were talking about that.
I remembered that my parents, Ithink, went out every weekend.
We had babysitters all the time, you know, and then they have
bridge night, which is duringthe week, and we'd have a
(29:06):
babysitter.
So I mean, they, that'ssomething.
I remember that they went out alot, you know, which is
interesting.
But my mom specifically, Iwould say you know I learned a
lot from her.
You know, like, how to sew, youknow how to cook, you know a
(29:28):
lot of domestic type stuff, butthe funny thing is I hated every
minute of it.
I fought her that I didn't careabout.
You know, learning how to sewand learning how to do all these
arts and crafts and all thiskind of stuff, which now I like
it, but you know, I just hatedit, hated sitting down and
(29:50):
having to learn, learn anything.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
So learn anything.
So, yeah, no, yeah, probablytypical.
Oh yeah, oh yes.
Um, my mom was then theopposite of that.
She didn't want.
I did not know how to cook asingle thing other than beanie
weenies, which stacy and Italked about campbell's know
(30:15):
pork and beans with chopped uphot dog in it.
Um, I knew how to follow arecipe to bake cookies.
Um, but my mom never wanted usin the kitchen, ever.
We got in her way.
We made a mess.
It was just easier for her todo it.
I didn't know how to washclothes.
My freshman year of college Iwas looking at labels and it
(30:39):
said cold and I put it intogether.
I ruined like three sweatersand a shirt because they were
white and pink, and I put themin with my jeans because they
all said cold.
Didn't know you couldn't dothat.
So where my mom knew how to doall that, I didn't learn it.
So where my mom knew how to doall that, I didn't learn it.
I did know how to sew becauseshe thought that was something I
(31:00):
needed to know how to do.
I'm sure it had to do with 4-H,it was a project or something
that we had to do, and shepicked out the pattern and she
picked out the easiest and I'mnot even I'm pretty sure she
probably did half of it.
You know she didn't care aboutthat sort of stuff.
(31:24):
And I think for many, many, manyyears I'm the oldest, my
brother, I was six when he wasborn, so probably through about
the first 12 years of my life Iwas my dad's boy.
We did sports together all thetime because Cole wasn't old
enough, and so I did a lot moreoutdoor stuff than I ever did
(31:47):
the indoor stuff.
But when I started having, youknow, once I had kids, I called
my mom every single day, kid, Icalled my mom every single day
and she just had such a calmnature to her.
And, um, my mom, my mom, hardlyever drank.
(32:09):
Her idea of a drink was a, afuzzy navel or a pink squirrel,
and if you don't know what thoseare you should Google those.
Um, they're very frou-froudrinks.
But I remember being so upsetand you you know I had with
Madeline.
I had a lot of postpartumdepression, which I didn't know
that what that was at the time.
But I remember her saying Amy,amy, do you have a beer in the
house?
(32:34):
oh my gosh, that's funny becausenow, when they were having kids
, they were told to have a beerbecause it helped with um, like
milk production or something.
They thought that that was athing, so, so she's like there's
not enough alcohol in there,that's gonna hurt you, you know,
you, it'll you, it'll calm youdown, it'll calm her down.
(33:00):
So, um, I came to have agreater appreciation, probably
as we all do, for our, for ourmoms, as we get older.
Speaker 4 (33:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (33:11):
Yeah, definitely.
I mean you're, as we becameadults, you realize that they
were doing it for the first time, raising us, just like we're
doing it for the first timeraising ours, and nobody tells
you how to do this, so you'rejust figuring it out for
yourself and yeah, it's, it'strue, it's hard, yeah, it's hard
(33:37):
and then it becomes a lot offun.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
Then, when you get to be the adult age and you get to
enjoy your parents moms inparticular, in a different
relationship, um, you know, I, Ijust watch all the vacations,
stacy you go on with your momand she's in the sporting gear,
wearing whatever baseball hatand jersey are, whatever field
(34:00):
you're at, you're hiking withher, you're, you know, she's
just in for all of it.
And, kitty, you and your momand your sister are doing so
many, you know, get together andget to see things and stopped
in and saw me at work one day.
Stopped in and saw me at workone day.
You know, it's just fun to getto this point where we can enjoy
(34:22):
our moms as women as opposed toyou know, mom, yes, do you guys
have good plans?
Do you have plans with yourmoms?
Speaker 4 (34:31):
Well, my mom was just here two weekends ago.
My mom was just here twoweekends ago, so, um, I will.
I guess we haven't really eventalked about mother's day, so um
, don't know yet if I'm going tomake a trip there, but my
sister is there where my momlives, so, um, we will have
(34:54):
something special for her.
But I need to get home again.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (35:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
Stacey, does your gang get together?
Speaker 3 (35:04):
Yeah, everybody will be back.
Even though they just came forEaster, trenton and Liza did not
make it, so they're coming forMother's Day.
So, we'll all kind of gettogether.
I don't know what the plan isyet.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
You've got lots of generations of moms in your
house now.
Yeah, yep, yeah, I will beworking again on Mother's Day.
So if anybody would like to buytheir mother a home in Chaska,
please come see me.
I'll make that happen for youon Mother's Day.
Speaker 3 (35:35):
I have an idea.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:38):
So, oh, I hope everybody gets to at least have
a good phone call, good phonecall with their mom, and if your
mom, like me, if your mom isn'there, call your kids, call your
siblings, call that mom figurein your life.
Yeah, there you go.
That's good to you.
So anybody got a shot.
Speaker 4 (36:01):
I finally remembered to bring mine into the room that
I was going to share a coupleof weeks ago.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Excellent, Kitty hit us with a shot.
Speaker 4 (36:11):
All right.
Okay, so mine is artificialflowers for outside.
Okay, so mine is artificialflowers for outside, mm-hmm,
okay.
So I've been seeing this allover TikTok, all over Instagram,
all over Facebook, and I've gota couple of spots in the front
and in the back that I justcannot keep real flowers alive.
(36:32):
They get pummeled by the rainthat's coming off the roof or
whatever, and so I thought I'mgonna, I'm gonna give that a try
.
I want to see.
I want to see, touch and feelthem.
Okay, so these this is asampling of them oh my wow, yes,
(36:53):
very all.
I just, this is just a box thatI have these in.
I had these.
I haven't planted, yet Planted,but you know so it's just like
artificial flowers that you getat Michael's or, you know, hobby
lobby, whatever, but they're UVprotected, so they're not going
(37:15):
to fade.
They can get wet, you know,depending because of how they're
made, they can get wet and theylook real.
So I've got two pots, uh, on myfront steps that I've already
done.
So when I took all the Christmasstuff out, I left all the dirt
in the pot, and these are stuckin the dirt just because I'm
(37:38):
like, well, I'm not going todump the dirt, because I
wouldn't have, you'd have to putsomething in any way to.
So what I, what I'm seeing alot of people do, is just get
that floral clay and then stickthat in there.
But it also needs to be kind ofheavy so that the pot doesn't
blow away, because we get galeforce winds and um.
(38:01):
So these are all the differentones now that I'm going to work
on.
If it stops raining too andthis will probably be I can
probably get at least two orthree pots out of this.
Oh yeah, they're reallyinexpensive.
Speaker 3 (38:20):
Yeah, how much were they?
Speaker 4 (38:22):
That's a little box.
Um, well, this, this isprobably like three orders right
here, like these.
I ordered all of these grasses.
All of these grasses were oneorder and I mean I want to say
like each order was like $25 andyou know.
So you get a lot.
Yeah, yeah, cool, I'm very,very happy with it.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Yep, that used to be my favorite Mother's Day
activity.
All the kids stay home and Iget to go buy hundreds of
dollars worth of flowers.
Yeah, spend the whole afternoonat the greenhouse.
Speaker 4 (39:03):
I just I.
I'm always excited about it atthe beginning of the season and
for for.
For us it was mother's day too,and I do really well watering
things for like the first month,and then it'd start to taper
off and by the end of summerthey just look like crap.
So that's another reason why Iwant to try this this year.
Speaker 3 (39:28):
So there you go.
Yeah, that's a good, goodsuggestion, excellent.
How about you, stacey?
Sick job excellent.
How about you, stacy?
I got called out um by from oneof our podcasts a couple weeks
ago.
Oh, what does that mean?
That means my nephew brody.
I'm gonna call him out on thepodcast.
(39:50):
He listened to our episodeabout the generations.
You know we talked about Gen Xboomer.
Yannick's and I made the commentthat Millennials, or Jen Y they
were named Jen Y, yep, becausethey asked a lot of questions
(40:12):
and he called me out on thissays no, it wasn't, is because
XYyz.
And I said yes, that too.
But they literally said, youknow, at the time, because that
generation's very inquisitive.
And then I kind of secondguessed myself and said, did I
just make that up?
So I, you know, put it in ai,and I was right, it was because
(40:34):
they also asked a lot ofquestions.
Oh, kind of the same thing.
And then again then theychanged it to millennial anyway.
So yeah, so, there you go.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
Okay, um, I I have one too.
But first you have to look atmy eyebrows.
Okay, do we think my eyebrowslook?
I mean, I had one of my kidsduring FaceTime say to me did
you get your eyebrows done?
I'm like no.
So I think that's a good sign.
But here's the product thatI've got.
This is a little itty bitty elf.
(41:05):
It's like a felt tip.
Can you guys see that littlelittle thing?
Speaker 3 (41:10):
So this was kind of looks like an eyeliner, yeah,
that kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
Okay, like an eyeliner, yeah, that kind of
thing.
Okay it is.
It is the holy strokes micro,fine brow pen.
Okay, and for twelve dollars, agreat eyebrow thing.
So it's.
It does have a little ink to it.
It does dry darker, so there'sa little bit of a learning curve
.
But you can actually makelittle, you know, make it look
like hairs instead of justSometimes you get those it looks
(41:45):
more like a pencil, like acrayon pencil.
And then it's just a colorsmudge and I've done the things
that look like a mascara wandand that's great, but it only
lifts what you already have.
So if you have thin brows, thisis how you can fill in.
Nice.
My color is neutral brown,neutral brown.
(42:09):
Got it at Target.
Okay, you can get it anywhere.
So it's the elf brand aninexpensive brand, well worth it
.
So if you ever need to pick meup, there you go $12.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
Make yourself happy.
Good, those were good, thosewere good ones.
Speaker 2 (42:29):
Buy it for your mother, Because probably your
mom's eyebrows are going toolike the rest of us.
Speaker 4 (42:37):
What do you guys think about microblading?
Speaker 2 (42:41):
My sister had it done .
Oops, hope she doesn't mindthat I just said that she
doesn't listen, so I think I'mokay, is that one of those
things I assume you have to getdone often?
Um, I think she had it done anumber of years ago and I think
she's had it touched up once, no, why did she?
Speaker 4 (43:00):
had it done a number of years ago and I think she's
had it touched up once.
Oh, why?
Speaker 2 (43:03):
did she have it done?
She had such such thin barelytheir eyebrows and they were
really super light, okay, andthey look really nice.
Now I did read somethingsomewhere, you know, and I'm
sure it was somebody who wastrying to promote a different
product or different way ofdoing it they did caution with
(43:23):
microblading.
Basically, what it is is it's atattoo, yeah, that your face
changes and your shape of youreye changes, so that's gonna
change too, yeah, but yeah, sheliked it she's I'm not, I'm not,
I I have a.
Speaker 4 (43:44):
I have pretty bushy eyebrows.
I'm not considering it, I justalways, whenever I see people
doing it, I'm always like oh,it's interesting, yeah, yeah, so
just curious.
Good, some people's eyebrows.
Speaker 3 (44:00):
Yep Way way way overdone.
Yeah, they can.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
Eyebrows have gotten big, yeah, yes.
So on that note, let's go big.
Have a big week, my friendshave a big week.
Make it count.
Make it count.
Say happy Mother's Day tosomeone in your life.
And if you have the ability towatch kids, so younger moms can
(44:32):
go spend an afternoon bythemselves, it's okay.
You can have Mother's daywithout your kids.
Yes, it's a celebration of you.
Speaker 3 (44:41):
Yeah, in fact my kids would say that's what I used to
tell them is that they'd saywhat do you want for mother's
day?
And I would say you all to justgo somewhere, or let me be
alone.
Speaker 2 (44:54):
Yes, I would like you to play with your father.
Today it's really Father's Day.
Go play with him.
Speaker 4 (45:00):
Yeah, alright, lovelies, good to talk to you
and you have a good week.
Bye-bye, bye.
Speaker 1 (45:13):
Bye, alright.
Woo, look, I got that.
Wow, who wants some heads upright now?
We got that.
Turn it up loud.
I know you're wondering how Igot that.
Wow, here I go.
Here I go, coming.
I can't ever stop.
I'ma tour the forest running.
Get me to the top.
I don't need an invitation.
I'm about to start acelebration.
(45:35):
Let me in Brought a good timefor some friends.
Turn it up loud past ten.
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