July 3, 2025 • 39 mins
The journey to forge meaningful adult friendships continues as we check in on month four of our year-long Friendship Project. Overcoming the inertia of social isolation takes creativity, courage, and sometimes just a flat driveway and some pickleball paddles!
Stacey shares her brilliant success story of inviting six neighbor women for casual pickleball games, creating a regular gathering where the breaks have become everyone's favorite part. "The best part is when we sit in my lawn chairs, chat, and then finally one of us will say, 'We have to get up and play some more,'" she explains. This organic approach to deepening casual relationships has created consistent social connections that everyone looks forward to.
Meanwhile, Amy describes her strategy of making "micro-connections" through thoughtful social media engagement, discovering how these small touchpoints can blossom into rekindled friendships. Kitty reveals how she's leveraging professional online groups to create relationships that will transition to in-person connections at an upcoming convention.
Looking ahead to month five, we outline practical next steps for strengthening these budding friendships, including follow-up texts, transitioning group acquaintances into deeper one-on-one relationships, and attending community events with a new mindset. As Kitty reflects on an upcoming concert, "I don't give a crap if we're going with somebody or meeting somebody up there. I just want to go, just the two of us, and who knows who we'll run into?"
Join us to learn how small, intentional actions can break through social barriers and create meaningful connections in adulthood. What friendship-building strategy might work for you? Listen, try something new, and let us know how it goes!
Amy, Kitty & Stacey
P.S. Isn't our intro music great?! Yah, we think so too. Thank you, Ivy States for "I Got That Wow".
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
All right, look I got that.
Wow, who wants some heads upright now?
We got that.
Turn it up loud.
I know you're wondering how.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I got that.
Wow, here I go.
Here I go, coming.
I can't ever stop.
I'm a tour de force running.
Get me to the top, I don't needan invitation.
I'm about to start acelebration.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Hello, Get me to the top.
I don't need an invitation.
I think I'm about to start acelebration.
Hello Hi, good evening, Kitty.
Did you change this background?
Speaker 4 (00:37):
just to match my shirt tonight.
Aw, I'm feeling special.
I did, I knew exactly what youwere wearing.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Good job Well thank you.
And welcome everyone to ThreeCocktails In Addicting
Conversations with Kitty andStacey and me, Amy.
This is what friends do foreach other, right?
You see what beautiful blueyou're wearing and they put a
perfect blue background in, likeblue you're wearing and they
(01:10):
put a perfect blue background inlove that.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
How are you guys good doing good, trying to stay cool
?
Yeah, yeah, it's a bit hot.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
A bit hot this weekend so not at all what we're
talking about.
But I have a question.
Okay, so I sat out late lastnight not late, but you know
eight, nine, ten ish when itfinally cooled down to be like
90 degrees and it felt reallygood.
So you feel good outside andthen you come in and it's cold
(01:39):
and you're like oh, this feelsgood too.
Yeah, you're kind sweaty.
So you go take a shower and thecold shower is too cold, but
you then decide to have a hot,hot shower.
Anybody else think that thismakes absolutely no sense, or is
it just me?
Speaker 5 (01:57):
No, it's not just you , no.
I can't remember the last time.
Well, this actually has to dowith podcasts.
I was doing something and gothome and needed to take a shower
at night, which I don't usuallydo I'm a morning shower but it
was hot and sweaty and I thought, oh gosh, a cold shower will be
(02:19):
good because I think it's agood for you.
Oh my, my gosh Couldn't standit.
I did a hot shower, you knowwhat.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
I mean.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
No, it doesn't make sense.
But yes, that's no um, I don'tknow.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
So what about the cold plunge thing?
Are you guys have you?
Speaker 4 (02:35):
tried.
Speaker 5 (02:37):
No, no need, yeah.
No, that's supposed to be goodfor you, but I don't think so
Because, like I said, I can'tstand a very cold shower, even a
lukewarm shower.
No.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Yeah, I like to wake up and take that cold plunge
into my first Diet Coke of theday, that's the part I like to
know about.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
There you go.
Some people now are just doingthe face plunge.
Speaker 5 (03:06):
Have you seen that Into like a or something?
Speaker 4 (03:08):
yeah and I feel like I feel like I could do that in
the morning, like to you know,to wake up.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I could do that, but I'm not going to do the full
body you remember the wholescene in mommy dearest where
Joan Crawford plunges her faceinto the bowl of the ice cold
water in the morning.
Speaker 5 (03:28):
Hmm.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I don't remember that .
That's part of her routine, youknow with all of her.
Speaker 5 (03:34):
Oh well, yeah there you go, must be something to it.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Yeah, so, um, I think what Stacy wants to share with
us has something to do with ourfriendship project.
Speaker 5 (03:47):
It does.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
This is our fourth check-in.
Speaker 5 (03:52):
Fifth check-in.
We're going to review numberfour, and then next is number
five.
A lot of course a lot, ofcourse.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
So if you are just listening or watching, we
decided 2025 is the year to tryand make one more friend one.
Um, we started by identifyingwhat kind of friend we were
looking for.
We started.
Then we moved on to practicingbeing out in public, took the
(04:23):
training wheels off, which islike the earbuds out, put the
phone down, looked around.
Last month we decided, as partof the plan is, to utilize
social media and digitalplatforms to see if that gets us
to a place with like-mindedpeople.
(04:44):
So how did that go for everyonelast week, last month?
Excuse me, did you use somesocial media, digital access to
get out there into the world?
Speaker 4 (05:00):
I'll go first.
So I feel like I'm doing thisall the time with my business.
So, in addition to that, I amalso I'm being more visible and
present in groups of otherconsultants, because now we're
(05:20):
getting ready to go toconvention and I want to go and
take those relationships, thatwhere we've just messaged each
other and, you know, notnecessarily I mean first just
talking about business, but then, you know, you just become more
friendly and then being able tomeet those people in Vegas at
(05:41):
the end of July.
So, um, those groups to me arerelated to my business.
Um, but that's I mean, it wasjust it's right there in front
of me the whole time.
It's been right there in frontof me the last three years and I
haven't really taken advantageof it.
And now I am.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
That's awesome and that's part of what we're going
to talk about for the next month.
You know that's a great tool,so you've got a head start.
Yeah, Cool.
How about you Stace?
I have a feeling this is goingto be good.
Speaker 5 (06:13):
Yeah, yeah, mine's going to be kind of long.
Go ahead, maybe not.
During the last month'sdiscussion I just all of a
sudden had this you know lightbulb idea.
Don't ask me how, but duringour conversation I thought about
(06:34):
it.
So my last month I decided tolook for local friends, you know
.
So basically just people Ialready know, and invite them
for pickleball and we play.
I have, I've had a pickleballset, you know, for a couple of
(06:56):
years and my we play in thedriveway.
My driveway is super flat, iteven has you know lines and we
just have to draw the kitchenline.
And so I invited six women,knowing that not everybody can
show up on the same night, andif we ever did, it'd be fine,
we'd get more of a break.
(07:17):
You know, what.
I mean.
Yeah, so it's been just a hoot.
Some have played.
You know, I've playedpickleball a few times.
I'm lousy at it, I'm not sayingI'm good, but I know the rules
and how to play.
And another, you know, anotherof the ladies knew how to play.
The rest have are just starting.
(07:37):
So have no idea, but we'rereally after just three weeks.
We've played, we try to eitherplay, we try to play Monday and
Tuesday, and only one week we'vegotten together twice.
So we've played four times outof six, mondays and Tuesdays,
and some show up some night andsome can't, and so we just,
who's ever there?
We just, we just play.
(07:59):
But the, you know, and we'relaughing because it's so stupid
and funny, anyway.
But I'll tell you what the bestpart is.
The best part is when we say,oh, my gosh, we got to take a
break.
So we all sit in my lawn chairs, we just sit there and chat and
then finally one of us will say, oh, we got to get up and go
play some more.
So we do that about two orthree times and it's been really
(08:27):
fun just having theconversation in the middle and
after, as we're kind of, youknow, resting and taking a break
.
That's been.
That's been the fun part.
So, anyway, that's my new thing.
So we'll do it all summer, andwe even have um a spot we might
be able to play all winter too.
So that's that's awesome ohisn't that funny oh my yeah,
gosh, yeah, so it's.
(08:49):
It's not making making newfriends, it's making new
connections.
You know, I know them all wekind of all know each other you
know cocktails in, yeah Right.
Yeah.
We did a big tournament.
(09:11):
Yep Fun.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
Good idea.
Speaker 5 (09:19):
So that's my idea yeah, reconnecting and
connecting more with the peopleI already know so I'm really
curious.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
So and go ahead I'm sure that the I'm sorry we we've
definitely got a delay going on.
Speaker 5 (09:37):
Yeah maybe a little, a little delayed, but that right
, she'll jump in sometimes thereaction from your friends has
to be Stacey.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
thank you so much for doing this.
Yeah, what a great idea.
This is awesome.
Speaker 5 (09:54):
Yeah, because you know it's good to step off the
couch and doing something.
And yeah, yeah, yeah, yep, Ithink they're enjoying it.
They wouldn't come back againif they hated it.
So, yeah, right.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Yep.
So what did they say when youfirst asked them?
Did they?
Speaker 5 (10:12):
what did they say Like you want us to come play
pickleball on your driveway,yeah right.
And once they come and see andremember, oh yeah, you do have
an extremely flat driveway andit's literally just about the
right width, you know.
And, like I said, we just haveto draw two lines.
You know that with sidewalkchalk, and then it gets washed
(10:35):
away, draw it again every time,which is fine, takes two minutes
to set it up and whatever.
But yeah, at first they, youknow, you know, one of them said
, well, I've never played.
And it's like, yeah, whatever,come.
You know, and honestly,pickleball is not so hard that I
mean anybody can play,literally anybody can play.
(10:58):
And we joke that.
The one said you know that this80 year old guy kept asking her
to come play pick a ball withher and she's gone.
Yeah, I don't think so.
And and the one son warned herthat, well, you be careful
because people fall and break ahip.
Well, if we get injured, Iguess we get injured, I don't
(11:22):
know.
But yeah, we just have fun.
We're not very, we haven't evenwe've started serving, you know
, we serve correctly and inorder and whatever.
We haven't kept score yet.
So after four times we're stilljust whacking it back and forth
and just kind of playing notkeeping score and playing a real
game yet.
But we'll get there, probablythis week.
(11:44):
Good job.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
You're going to start keeping score.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Yeah, yep, sometimes we've had three.
A couple of times we had three,so we just play one against two
and then we rotate.
Everybody gets you know.
So, yeah, we just do whatever.
Everybody's pretty easy goingand you know there's no real.
What do I want to say?
(12:10):
You know nobody's taking itserious that we've got to, you
know, have to do games exactlyand anything.
So, like I said, the funnestpart has been the resting and
just chatting about whatever.
So, yeah, that's been fun,that's good.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
There you go.
Speaker 5 (12:33):
That's mine for the month.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
I kind of whipped out , Other than I have taken more
of an interest and this is oneof the suggestions that to be
more proactive in commenting onother people's posts and stuff
on social media, Because it'slike a friend is telling you
(12:55):
something.
They're sharing some news.
If you ran into them in thegrocery store and they shared
with you, of course you wouldsay something back in the
grocery store and they sharedwith you, of course you would
say something back.
Speaker 5 (13:14):
so I'm I'm also hoping that by continuing to do
that, I get to see more actualpeople in my feed and a lot less
ads, yeah, so yeah, and I evencomment on other people's
comments that I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
You know somebody especially.
We've put things out on ours.
Um, nice, nicely done, sharingthat picture of me with those
two antler heads without askingmy position.
Speaker 5 (13:44):
Well, I suppose you know that's probably karma.
I'll be expecting some reallyshitty picture of me and that
picture was good of you anyway.
I just thought it was funnybecause I knew just when it was,
when we went to Vegas and wehad masks.
You know, you had a mask on Ijust had.
I don't know I came across it.
It was like it came up as amemory and I mask on I just had.
(14:05):
I don't know I came across it.
It was like it came up as amemory and I'd forgotten they
even had the picture.
So, yeah, it was.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Yeah, yeah so you know, commenting on stuff like
that, coming on commenting onsomebody else's comment starts a
new conversation, and it isagain one of those micro
connections that you can haveduring real time and on a daily
basis makes you laugh.
(14:30):
Um, so I've done that quite abit and I I I actually got a
message that I graduated highschool with, and she sent just a
lovely little message I postedsomething about in kind of my
disco 1970s shirt.
It was brand new but I feltvery disco in it.
(14:53):
She sent me a message saying oh, you look fabulous, whatever.
What a nice thing to open upyour phone and see you have like
a message and you look atyou're like, oh my gosh, it's a
real person and they saidsomething nice to me, yeah, so
we really should do more of that.
(15:13):
Should do more of that.
That should be our shot for thenext week once a day.
Send somebody outside the threeof us, even though we appreciate
those two, um, you know, kittyand stacy send somebody a little
bit further out your circle.
Something nice, comment, nicely, comment on their post.
Send them a message, somethingmake somebody stay so yeah,
(15:37):
great idea yeah, so what's theplan for next month?
As we continue on, we are kitty.
This is so right in line withwhat you have been doing.
It's to strengthen newfriendships.
So you guys are already aheadof the game.
Not only did you set upsomething new with people that
(16:00):
you kind of knew, stacy, you'recontinuing it, kitty.
You've had these conversations,you're trying to take it to the
next level with hopes ofdeepening the friendship.
So action steps.
Follow up with new connectionsby sending a friendly text or
inviting them out.
Yay for both of you Transitiongroup acquaintances into deeper
(16:29):
one-on-one friendships.
Kitty, that's you.
What you got going on and thenthe last is kind of a suggestion
on how you can go about doingthis without having to plan your
own pickleball league.
Um is to attend trivia nightsor karaoke or local social
events to bond further.
So, um stace, you posted apicture of you manning the
(16:55):
bounce house.
What was that?
Speaker 5 (16:57):
for that was jewel jubilee, jewel jubilee and did
you volunteer to go?
Speaker 3 (17:07):
do that?
Speaker 5 (17:07):
yeah, I volunteered.
They asked for volunteers.
So one of the pickleball ladies, allison, who lives four down,
four houses down, she's like thejewel area, development
something, something you know,director now as of this year.
So she'd put out a thing foryou know, volunteer, need
(17:28):
volunteers, you know whatever.
So yeah, I said, okay, I can doit, for I can do it for a
couple hours and that's what shewanted.
I asked her, like what do youneed?
So that was the thing.
Oh my gosh, yeah, can youimagine.
And there was two bouncy houses.
So just my sole purpose was tomake sure nobody, you know,
(17:48):
clunked heads you know, if theydid start crying, push them off
onto their parents.
You know, and you can only put10 kids in a bouncy house at a
time.
And, oh my gosh, they were justgoing back and forth, and back
and forth and finally I justsaid you guys do what you want.
The one kid, one kid, I wasn'teven thinking.
He goes, hey, I can do a flip,and I said, okay, yeah, great,
(18:10):
well, I'll watch it.
And then literally, literally,on the bounce house, you know,
don't rules, yeah, rules, no, no.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Flipping, no flips it's like whatever, whatever I I
just chuckled and I'm I don'tknow that I put it out on social
media, but I know that I sentyou a message that said I'm not
sure I would have asked you tohandle the risk.
Speaker 5 (18:36):
Logistics, no literally, yeah, literally, let
them do whatever.
There was this one busy timewhere, you know, like I told, my
sole purpose was to make surethere was only 10 in there at a
time.
Well, I was kind of countingyeah, it's probably at least 10,
it's probably 15, and so Istopped this little kid and I
(18:57):
said, oh, just wait a minutetill somebody goes down the
slide or comes out, and he looksat me like, and went in anyway.
So, so that was pointless, Iknow.
So it's like what are you herefor, lady?
And you know their parents.
They're little, so theirparents were all around and the
rest of them that were bigger,their parents probably weren't
(19:21):
anywhere close.
So, yeah, they were happy.
Somebody else was gonna watch,right?
Yeah, well, that was that.
It was only two hours and thenI was done.
So you know things like that.
It didn't kill me to govolunteer for two hours.
Yeah, it was kind of funny,honestly so good entertainment.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Yeah, it kind of was oh, that's a great example, yeah
, so, um, I, you know, I, it'spride month here in minneapolis
and there's parades and there'susually things going on and of
course, they're always on thestinking weekends and I don't
get a go and, uh, bum me out.
(20:04):
Um, I've talked to one of mydaughters and they were spending
this afternoon decorating apride float, boy, you know.
So there are a lot of thingsthat are going, especially in
summer.
There are a lot of things thatare going on, a lot of
opportunities to go.
When people are just so danghappy to have more volunteers,
(20:26):
they're super happy that you'rethere.
Grab, grab a neighbor, grabsomebody and say, hey, you know
you want to go do this.
Yeah, yeah, I, I sent, I, um, Isent a message.
Uh, on Monday went to work andit was that first really hot God
(20:47):
awful day that it was like 95degrees and about 700% humidity
and it felt just like the firstweek in August when we always
had Girl Scout camp, when you'dwake up that Monday anticipating
a couple of hundred girlsgetting dropped off for six
hours and it was going to bemuggy and hot and you're just
(21:08):
going to come home so nasty.
I sent that message to a few ofmy former leaders and I'm like
did they camp get moved, anybodyelse?
I'm getting the same thing, andthat was one of those nice
little touch points.
Did they camp get moved Anybodyelse?
Again, the same thing.
That was one of those nicelittle touch points with friends
from years past Finding thosememories, yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:32):
Something I've been thinking about this week, with
4th of July coming up quickly.
I've always loved 4th of Julyin the neighborhood, in the
community, because there'salways just so many fun things
to do.
And I said to Bill the otherday I'm really excited about
(21:59):
Fourth of July coming up becausewith him not working and me
working from home, it just feelscompletely different.
And I was thinking about itfurther and I was remembering so
, amy, you know all thecommunity things that happen,
right, and so for many yearsthey do this big party up in the
(22:19):
park and they have a band andeverything.
And I know that there wereseveral years that we would you
know, you guys went with usseveral times, other people went
with and I always had the.
I always felt like I didn't wantto go unless we had somebody to
go with, or like we were goingand we knew that we were going
(22:40):
to meet up with people there.
Yes, and now I just said toBill the other day how it's
going to be super fun to go andI don't give a crap if we're
going with somebody or meetingsomebody up there.
I just want to go, just the twoof us, and walk around and who
knows who we'll run into whoknows.
(23:04):
So I'm glad that I feel less.
You know, nobody would haveknown if you'd gone up there, if
we'd gone up there just the twoof us and we weren't meeting
anybody or with anybody.
What a weird right, what aweird thing for me to be worried
about.
Speaker 5 (23:25):
Yeah, it was a habit.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
It was a habit, you know, yeah, and also when we had
younger kids it was also anopportunity to actually go go
have a night out with anothercouple that you know you were so
longing to.
If you've been, I know formyself.
When I was home with the kids Iwas I was so excited to go talk
to somebody new.
(23:47):
You know that.
Excuse me, what else was goingon?
Speaker 5 (23:54):
Well, that's good.
I hope you go and I would lovewe'll love to hear who you met,
who you, if you saw anyone youalready know.
Yeah, yeah, I think that's agood opportunity to you know,
talk to somebody new.
There will be another couplestanding around with nobody you
never know.
Yeah, for sure.
(24:16):
Or even just go into a group.
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Yeah, because again now you've got a chance to meet
other people in the group andyou would assume, if A and B are
good together and B and c aregood together, that a and c
probably have a connecting pointtoo.
yeah, yeah so cool yeah, so I,I'm the.
(24:39):
I'm the one that's got to workon something here.
I know, oh, I'm making a newfriend at work.
I've got a junior realtor.
A junior salesperson is with me.
She's been with me for threedays and she's going to come
back the week after we get backfrom Italy.
Cool, nice, she's 21.
I have to chuckle.
(25:02):
I'm like, hey, if anything Isay to you comes out like your
mom, don't be offended, justignore me.
I'm not trying to mother you.
Speaker 5 (25:11):
Sort of deal.
Yeah are you sure your mom,because you're probably older
than her mom.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
Oh, well, thank you for that.
Thank you, thank you for that.
Just saying my baby's 25 for acouple more weeks, yep so funny
for a couple more weeks.
Speaker 5 (25:30):
Yep, yeah, work.
Friends are a thing.
I think work would be tortureif you had no one, you know.
Mm-hmm, no one, you're friendlywith at work.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
Mm-hmm, it really is helpful.
The only person I see daily inmy job is my sales the
construction supervisor, becausehe offices out of the home that
I work and I get such a kickout of him.
I so enjoy him.
You know he likes to tellstories with a little drama,
(26:10):
just like I do, so we areforever laughing about stuff
that's going on and you knowhe's full of oh my gosh, I can't
believe, can you believe?
and I'm like, yeah, we speak thesame language here, so those
are kind of fun that is a goodone, yep yeah, it's really good
(26:30):
when I sent him a text and saidI think that there are birds in
this unfinished basement of ahouse that just got framed and
I'm not going down there.
And yes, I know I'm a grownadult, but no, I'm not going
down there.
I need you to go look at thistomorrow, go and shoooo them out
.
Yeah, yeah, but I did have totell them.
I know I'm an adult, but no,I'm still not doing this.
(26:51):
I don't like birds.
So somebody took care of it.
It wasn't me.
Speaker 4 (26:58):
There you go.
What's the market like rightnow?
Speaker 3 (27:02):
It has.
Honestly, it's kind of groundto a halt in the metro area
Really.
And it's kind of ground to ahalt in the metro area Really.
And it's not just newconstruction, it's something
weird.
There's just a little hiccupright now.
End of June.
July is usually slow, especiallylocally.
(27:23):
For us, a lot of people arekids, are out of school now.
They've got vacations planned.
Sports are winding down, summersports are winding down, so
fourth of july, big vacationweek in minnesota.
So that's not unusual.
Yeah, but in talking to a lotof realtors at all sorts of
(27:43):
price points, price pointseverybody has just kind of put
things on hold.
So you know the Fed doesn'thelp in that they.
They've been talking aboutmoving interest rates for well.
I mean months and months andmonths and nothing's happened.
So I think people are just likeyou know what?
(28:06):
I'm just going to enjoy mysummer for right now and maybe
we'll come back, yeah, yeah.
So I think for the first timesince I joined the company, I'm
not going to hit my goal for thequarter.
It's killing me.
I hate that.
Speaker 5 (28:23):
Yeah, maybe it just means even more for next quarter
.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
Yeah, hopefully, yeah , but maybe it just means even
more for next quarter.
Yeah, hopefully, yeah.
And it does mean the people whocome in, they're not, they're
not kicking tires, they actuallyhave thought it through.
So I've had more conversationsabout people who want to build
um, and that's a differentbudget where you know they don't
it's not a job transfer, it'snot.
Uh, we're having more kids,it's you know.
(28:52):
We've been thinking about it.
Now it's kind of the time sortof deal so yeah, cool, yeah,
well, probably a good time to beon vacation, then it is.
It is a really good time.
Um, jace, hate to break this toyou.
I have an appointment 530 onMonday night, the night that
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you're coming there.
Speaker 5 (29:15):
Oh, I won't be.
I won't be there early becauseI'll be trying to shove all my
work together, probably worklate and get there late.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Yeah, yeah.
So I think it's funny.
This is the third reschedule.
Oh, this realtor has said shegoes.
I am so sorry, I'm so sorry,I'm like it's fine, it's fine,
it's fine.
But this last time I said, yep,that'll work.
But, by the way, I'm going tobe out of town July 1st through
the 9th.
Speaker 5 (29:42):
So you need to get it done.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
I said so, if there we, I we can work it out
beforehand, or it's going tohave to wait till after that.
Oh, no worries, I'm gone.
The second through the sixth.
Ok good.
Good, we're all on the same page, and that's that's pretty
typical for realtors.
Usually the weekend beforeFourth of July through the
weekend after is.
(30:04):
So if you really wanted to buyin the metro area and you didn't
want any competition, get outthere.
That way there's not going tobe anybody who's you're going to
have to bid against.
So there you go.
There's your tip.
There is your tip, the realestate tip of the day yes, tip
of the day, yes, speaking,speaking of our vacation.
(30:27):
Yes.
Speaker 5 (30:30):
Bonjour, bonjour.
Guess where we're going?
Yeah, amy and I are going toItaly.
We're a little more than a weekout.
I do have a packing tip, okaygood what is that Organizing tip
?
Here's my thought.
So a week out, I'm going to go,you know, down in the basement,
(30:50):
get my carry-on, get out my youknow bag that I take and start
chucking stuff in it.
You know, not clothes, I'm notpacking clothes yet but you know
I've got my passport.
You know all the other littlestuff I could pack, my jewelry.
That would be something youcould do instead of the day
before I'm going to pack all ofmy little, you know, travel size
(31:15):
, travel size stuff.
I can pack that all the way andput that in.
You know, find all those things, the two pairs of shoes you
know, and put those in.
Do all this stuff ahead of time, cause I'll think, oh yeah, I
need to get that and oh yeah, Ineed to do that.
My thought on the travel sizestuff If I pack that on now,
I've got a whole week to.
(31:35):
You know, if I don't haveenough of something, I could get
it this week, cause I don'twant to do that last minute and
have to go somewhere, you know,to get stuff.
So get all of that kind ofstuff out of the way and then
start figuring out clothes andI'll be packed, you know, two
days early probably yeah, I likethat, I like that idea yeah,
(32:00):
yeah, because you know I don'thave, I'm not gonna wear stuff
this week that I'm in a pack,right?
so, like I said, just start thisearly getting stuff organized,
so I'm not doing it last minute.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
Well, I always think you do that.
Early A week ago you sent medon't forget, your, your, your
compression socks and your nightmask and your sleeping mask and
something else.
I'm like are you packingalready?
Cause I thought she wasseriously packing.
Speaker 5 (32:31):
Yeah.
And I said, oh yeah, I'm allpacked already.
And she goes oh no, you're not.
And of course not.
But like I found all that stuffand I'll put it in a pile, you
know, just so I'm notfrantically looking for it later
, I'll have all the stuff readyahead of time.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
Well, we're going to have to report back because I am
trying to do this in only acarry-on bag.
Yeah, we have a carry-on.
Yeah, just a carry-on, and I'llcheck it.
It's not that I don't want tocheck the.
I don't want to carry itBecause all I've heard about
Italy is that it's cobblestonestreets and it's a bitch to try
(33:12):
and roll your luggage.
Speaker 5 (33:13):
You've got to be able to lift it upstairs and stuff
I'm going to try and go with,like you mean, like a duffel bag
, you mean like a duffel bag,you're carry-on, you're rolling,
not a big one, yeah, not a bigone, yeah yeah, I'm hoping are
(33:34):
my packing cubes, which I havesitting out right next to me um
will help, help do that yes, Idid order packing cubes, so
we'll report back how how thatgoes, because I think for me too
that'll end up being yeah,super, duper, slick, get it all.
Yeah, compact and matter offact.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
I'm going to give you another tip.
I think that packing cubes area wonderful gift that you could
give anybody who travels, and bytravels that could just be a
couple of trips a year.
Yeah, you can organize so muchstuff.
You don't have to dig throughyour whole suitcase, yes, and
(34:15):
take it all apart just to getanother pair of socks which I
always do.
Speaker 5 (34:20):
Yeah, yeah.
So I think this will workreally well yeah, so there you
go what do you?
Have kitty, do you?
Do you have a shot for us?
Do you have a tip okay?
Speaker 4 (34:37):
so I just started, I'm taking, I'm doing a through
an app, I'm doing an ai courseare you doing like the 28 day?
Speaker 5 (34:46):
ai course that one oh , I can't wait to hear what you
said, what you find out becauseI've looked at it a bunch of
times I same.
Speaker 4 (34:54):
so I keep seeing the ads for it and and so I finally
it was.
It was very inexpensive and Ithought, okay, because I use
chat gpt every single day andI'm using it more and more and
I'm I'm using it now to like,create um, canva templates, and
so not just not just asking itthings, I'm, I'm having it do
(35:17):
things.
So it's the one that I pickedis called cursive c-o-u-r-s-i-v
um, trying to figure out if Ican give you a visual.
Well, anyway, it's a really,really nice interface, and so
the the first one is chat GPT,but then it will go into I can't
(35:37):
remember how many, like eightor nine different AI models and
it'll show you, you know, whatmakes this one different, what
you can use it for, and it givesyou exercises to go through.
So it'll give you you know whatmakes this one different, what
you can use it for, and it givesyou exercises to go through.
So it'll give you a little bitof the education and then you
can put it, you know, put it towork.
So I'm finding the ChatGPT oneto be very, very basic, but just
(36:05):
, you know, we all probablywould, because we all use it.
So I'm excited to get past thisone and into the next one.
So I'll report back in a fewweeks, but I'm loving it.
So I take, you know, 15 minutesin the morning and run through
a few exercises and yeah, I justthink it's really cool Really
good, yeah, I can't wait to hearwhat you think, because I've
looked at it a bunch.
(36:27):
Mm-hmm, so use it fortranslation too, like it can
help you translate things.
Oh, and also, I was watchingsomebody else on Instagram and
they were traveling.
They were in Japan or China orsomewhere and they had some sort
(36:49):
of app.
I don't know what it is.
You should look into this.
So there's a sign.
They would shoot the app at thesign and it would translate the
sign.
Speaker 3 (36:59):
Oh nice, super helpful for menus.
Yes, yes.
Speaker 5 (37:05):
Yeah, I think Google does.
It Doesn't Google translateGoogle translate.
Probably Maybe.
I think Google does.
It Doesn't Google Googletranslate, google translate?
Speaker 4 (37:11):
Probably Maybe that's what they were using.
I guess I've I've never used itbefore.
Speaker 3 (37:16):
Yeah, well, I'm going to let my tour guide take care
of that, okay, no, I think.
Speaker 5 (37:25):
I think that's why we travel well, because we each
have our own set of skills.
Sometimes I just go I gotnothing, and then Amy takes over
and then she'll say I don'tknow.
And I say, yeah, we're goingthis way, that kind of stuff,
whatever.
Speaker 3 (37:39):
We're going to be way more patient this time when we
exit a building and we're goingto wait for the Google Maps to
get itself switched aroundbefore we start walking halfway
down the block and have to turnaround and walk back the other
way.
Speaker 5 (37:57):
I'm telling you, when you walk out of a building and
you're facing that way, itthinks that's the way you're
going.
You have to get going one wayso you know which way the arrow
is going.
I know you've gotten sofrustrated with me, like I was
always going opposite, but yougot to see which way the arrow
points.
You got to go that way.
Then you're going to go theother way, so we'll see, we'll
(38:17):
see how it goes.
Speaker 3 (38:18):
But after you've started off the wrong way, seven
times a day for the first fourdays, on the fifth day, on the
fifth try is that's pretty muchwhen like you know.
Speaker 5 (38:32):
Oh my god, not again.
Well, if we always turn left,will we be right 50 percent of
the time?
What are the odds?
I don't know.
I have no idea.
Speaker 3 (38:44):
We should just be thankful we're not printing out
map quest directions from pointa to point b, to point c, to
point d, yep, I know, yes, forsure, yeah, so all right, ladies
, okay, so good to talk to you,my oldest and dearest friends,
(39:05):
on our quest to make new friendsgo forth and lean in a little
bit more to a new friendshipthat you've got.
You got cooking, yeah all right, all right see everybody next
week see you soon.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
cheers, cheers.
All right, I can't ever stop.
I'm a tour de force running.
Get me to the top.
I don't need an invitation.
I'm about to start acelebration.
Let me in Brought a good timefor some friends.
Turn it up loud past 10.
Turning up the crowd when I hitthem with the power.
All right, look I got that.
Wow, who wants some heads upright now?
We got that.
Turn it up loud.
I know you're wondering how.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I got that.
Wow, here I go.
Here I go, coming.
I can't ever stop.
I'm a tour de force running.
Get me to the top, I don't needan invitation.
I'm about to start acelebration.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Hello, Get me to the top.
I don't need an invitation.
I think I'm about to start acelebration.
Hello Hi, good evening, Kitty.
Did you change this background?
Speaker 4 (00:37):
just to match my shirt tonight.
Aw, I'm feeling special.
I did, I knew exactly what youwere wearing.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Good job Well thank you.
And welcome everyone to ThreeCocktails In Addicting
Conversations with Kitty andStacey and me, Amy.
This is what friends do foreach other, right?
You see what beautiful blueyou're wearing and they put a
perfect blue background in, likeblue you're wearing and they
(01:10):
put a perfect blue background inlove that.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
How are you guys good doing good, trying to stay cool
?
Yeah, yeah, it's a bit hot.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
A bit hot this weekend so not at all what we're
talking about.
But I have a question.
Okay, so I sat out late lastnight not late, but you know
eight, nine, ten ish when itfinally cooled down to be like
90 degrees and it felt reallygood.
So you feel good outside andthen you come in and it's cold
(01:39):
and you're like oh, this feelsgood too.
Yeah, you're kind sweaty.
So you go take a shower and thecold shower is too cold, but
you then decide to have a hot,hot shower.
Anybody else think that thismakes absolutely no sense, or is
it just me?
Speaker 5 (01:57):
No, it's not just you , no.
I can't remember the last time.
Well, this actually has to dowith podcasts.
I was doing something and gothome and needed to take a shower
at night, which I don't usuallydo I'm a morning shower but it
was hot and sweaty and I thought, oh gosh, a cold shower will be
(02:19):
good because I think it's agood for you.
Oh my, my gosh Couldn't standit.
I did a hot shower, you knowwhat.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
I mean.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
No, it doesn't make sense.
But yes, that's no um, I don'tknow.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
So what about the cold plunge thing?
Are you guys have you?
Speaker 4 (02:35):
tried.
Speaker 5 (02:37):
No, no need, yeah.
No, that's supposed to be goodfor you, but I don't think so
Because, like I said, I can'tstand a very cold shower, even a
lukewarm shower.
No.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Yeah, I like to wake up and take that cold plunge
into my first Diet Coke of theday, that's the part I like to
know about.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
There you go.
Some people now are just doingthe face plunge.
Speaker 5 (03:06):
Have you seen that Into like a or something?
Speaker 4 (03:08):
yeah and I feel like I feel like I could do that in
the morning, like to you know,to wake up.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I could do that, but I'm not going to do the full
body you remember the wholescene in mommy dearest where
Joan Crawford plunges her faceinto the bowl of the ice cold
water in the morning.
Speaker 5 (03:28):
Hmm.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
I don't remember that .
That's part of her routine, youknow with all of her.
Speaker 5 (03:34):
Oh well, yeah there you go, must be something to it.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
Yeah, so, um, I think what Stacy wants to share with
us has something to do with ourfriendship project.
Speaker 5 (03:47):
It does.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
This is our fourth check-in.
Speaker 5 (03:52):
Fifth check-in.
We're going to review numberfour, and then next is number
five.
A lot of course a lot, ofcourse.
Speaker 3 (04:02):
So if you are just listening or watching, we
decided 2025 is the year to tryand make one more friend one.
Um, we started by identifyingwhat kind of friend we were
looking for.
We started.
Then we moved on to practicingbeing out in public, took the
(04:23):
training wheels off, which islike the earbuds out, put the
phone down, looked around.
Last month we decided, as partof the plan is, to utilize
social media and digitalplatforms to see if that gets us
to a place with like-mindedpeople.
(04:44):
So how did that go for everyonelast week, last month?
Excuse me, did you use somesocial media, digital access to
get out there into the world?
Speaker 4 (05:00):
I'll go first.
So I feel like I'm doing thisall the time with my business.
So, in addition to that, I amalso I'm being more visible and
present in groups of otherconsultants, because now we're
(05:20):
getting ready to go toconvention and I want to go and
take those relationships, thatwhere we've just messaged each
other and, you know, notnecessarily I mean first just
talking about business, but then, you know, you just become more
friendly and then being able tomeet those people in Vegas at
(05:41):
the end of July.
So, um, those groups to me arerelated to my business.
Um, but that's I mean, it wasjust it's right there in front
of me the whole time.
It's been right there in frontof me the last three years and I
haven't really taken advantageof it.
And now I am.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
That's awesome and that's part of what we're going
to talk about for the next month.
You know that's a great tool,so you've got a head start.
Yeah, Cool.
How about you Stace?
I have a feeling this is goingto be good.
Speaker 5 (06:13):
Yeah, yeah, mine's going to be kind of long.
Go ahead, maybe not.
During the last month'sdiscussion I just all of a
sudden had this you know lightbulb idea.
Don't ask me how, but duringour conversation I thought about
(06:34):
it.
So my last month I decided tolook for local friends, you know
.
So basically just people Ialready know, and invite them
for pickleball and we play.
I have, I've had a pickleballset, you know, for a couple of
(06:56):
years and my we play in thedriveway.
My driveway is super flat, iteven has you know lines and we
just have to draw the kitchenline.
And so I invited six women,knowing that not everybody can
show up on the same night, andif we ever did, it'd be fine,
we'd get more of a break.
(07:17):
You know, what.
I mean.
Yeah, so it's been just a hoot.
Some have played.
You know, I've playedpickleball a few times.
I'm lousy at it, I'm not sayingI'm good, but I know the rules
and how to play.
And another, you know, anotherof the ladies knew how to play.
The rest have are just starting.
(07:37):
So have no idea, but we'rereally after just three weeks.
We've played, we try to eitherplay, we try to play Monday and
Tuesday, and only one week we'vegotten together twice.
So we've played four times outof six, mondays and Tuesdays,
and some show up some night andsome can't, and so we just,
who's ever there?
We just, we just play.
(07:59):
But the, you know, and we'relaughing because it's so stupid
and funny, anyway.
But I'll tell you what the bestpart is.
The best part is when we say,oh, my gosh, we got to take a
break.
So we all sit in my lawn chairs, we just sit there and chat and
then finally one of us will say, oh, we got to get up and go
play some more.
So we do that about two orthree times and it's been really
(08:27):
fun just having theconversation in the middle and
after, as we're kind of, youknow, resting and taking a break
.
That's been.
That's been the fun part.
So, anyway, that's my new thing.
So we'll do it all summer, andwe even have um a spot we might
be able to play all winter too.
So that's that's awesome ohisn't that funny oh my yeah,
gosh, yeah, so it's.
(08:49):
It's not making making newfriends, it's making new
connections.
You know, I know them all wekind of all know each other you
know cocktails in, yeah Right.
Yeah.
We did a big tournament.
(09:11):
Yep Fun.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
Good idea.
Speaker 5 (09:19):
So that's my idea yeah, reconnecting and
connecting more with the peopleI already know so I'm really
curious.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
So and go ahead I'm sure that the I'm sorry we we've
definitely got a delay going on.
Speaker 5 (09:37):
Yeah maybe a little, a little delayed, but that right
, she'll jump in sometimes thereaction from your friends has
to be Stacey.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
thank you so much for doing this.
Yeah, what a great idea.
This is awesome.
Speaker 5 (09:54):
Yeah, because you know it's good to step off the
couch and doing something.
And yeah, yeah, yeah, yep, Ithink they're enjoying it.
They wouldn't come back againif they hated it.
So, yeah, right.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Yep.
So what did they say when youfirst asked them?
Did they?
Speaker 5 (10:12):
what did they say Like you want us to come play
pickleball on your driveway,yeah right.
And once they come and see andremember, oh yeah, you do have
an extremely flat driveway andit's literally just about the
right width, you know.
And, like I said, we just haveto draw two lines.
You know that with sidewalkchalk, and then it gets washed
(10:35):
away, draw it again every time,which is fine, takes two minutes
to set it up and whatever.
But yeah, at first they, youknow, you know, one of them said
, well, I've never played.
And it's like, yeah, whatever,come.
You know, and honestly,pickleball is not so hard that I
mean anybody can play,literally anybody can play.
(10:58):
And we joke that.
The one said you know that this80 year old guy kept asking her
to come play pick a ball withher and she's gone.
Yeah, I don't think so.
And and the one son warned herthat, well, you be careful
because people fall and break ahip.
Well, if we get injured, Iguess we get injured, I don't
(11:22):
know.
But yeah, we just have fun.
We're not very, we haven't evenwe've started serving, you know
, we serve correctly and inorder and whatever.
We haven't kept score yet.
So after four times we're stilljust whacking it back and forth
and just kind of playing notkeeping score and playing a real
game yet.
But we'll get there, probablythis week.
(11:44):
Good job.
Speaker 4 (11:47):
You're going to start keeping score.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
Yeah, yep, sometimes we've had three.
A couple of times we had three,so we just play one against two
and then we rotate.
Everybody gets you know.
So, yeah, we just do whatever.
Everybody's pretty easy goingand you know there's no real.
What do I want to say?
(12:10):
You know nobody's taking itserious that we've got to, you
know, have to do games exactlyand anything.
So, like I said, the funnestpart has been the resting and
just chatting about whatever.
So, yeah, that's been fun,that's good.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
There you go.
Speaker 5 (12:33):
That's mine for the month.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
I kind of whipped out , Other than I have taken more
of an interest and this is oneof the suggestions that to be
more proactive in commenting onother people's posts and stuff
on social media, Because it'slike a friend is telling you
(12:55):
something.
They're sharing some news.
If you ran into them in thegrocery store and they shared
with you, of course you wouldsay something back in the
grocery store and they sharedwith you, of course you would
say something back.
Speaker 5 (13:14):
so I'm I'm also hoping that by continuing to do
that, I get to see more actualpeople in my feed and a lot less
ads, yeah, so yeah, and I evencomment on other people's
comments that I don't know.
Speaker 3 (13:33):
You know somebody especially.
We've put things out on ours.
Um, nice, nicely done, sharingthat picture of me with those
two antler heads without askingmy position.
Speaker 5 (13:44):
Well, I suppose you know that's probably karma.
I'll be expecting some reallyshitty picture of me and that
picture was good of you anyway.
I just thought it was funnybecause I knew just when it was,
when we went to Vegas and wehad masks.
You know, you had a mask on Ijust had.
I don't know I came across it.
It was like it came up as amemory and I mask on I just had.
(14:05):
I don't know I came across it.
It was like it came up as amemory and I'd forgotten they
even had the picture.
So, yeah, it was.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Yeah, yeah so you know, commenting on stuff like
that, coming on commenting onsomebody else's comment starts a
new conversation, and it isagain one of those micro
connections that you can haveduring real time and on a daily
basis makes you laugh.
(14:30):
Um, so I've done that quite abit and I I I actually got a
message that I graduated highschool with, and she sent just a
lovely little message I postedsomething about in kind of my
disco 1970s shirt.
It was brand new but I feltvery disco in it.
(14:53):
She sent me a message saying oh, you look fabulous, whatever.
What a nice thing to open upyour phone and see you have like
a message and you look atyou're like, oh my gosh, it's a
real person and they saidsomething nice to me, yeah, so
we really should do more of that.
(15:13):
Should do more of that.
That should be our shot for thenext week once a day.
Send somebody outside the threeof us, even though we appreciate
those two, um, you know, kittyand stacy send somebody a little
bit further out your circle.
Something nice, comment, nicely, comment on their post.
Send them a message, somethingmake somebody stay so yeah,
(15:37):
great idea yeah, so what's theplan for next month?
As we continue on, we are kitty.
This is so right in line withwhat you have been doing.
It's to strengthen newfriendships.
So you guys are already aheadof the game.
Not only did you set upsomething new with people that
(16:00):
you kind of knew, stacy, you'recontinuing it, kitty.
You've had these conversations,you're trying to take it to the
next level with hopes ofdeepening the friendship.
So action steps.
Follow up with new connectionsby sending a friendly text or
inviting them out.
Yay for both of you Transitiongroup acquaintances into deeper
(16:29):
one-on-one friendships.
Kitty, that's you.
What you got going on and thenthe last is kind of a suggestion
on how you can go about doingthis without having to plan your
own pickleball league.
Um is to attend trivia nightsor karaoke or local social
events to bond further.
So, um stace, you posted apicture of you manning the
(16:55):
bounce house.
What was that?
Speaker 5 (16:57):
for that was jewel jubilee, jewel jubilee and did
you volunteer to go?
Speaker 3 (17:07):
do that?
Speaker 5 (17:07):
yeah, I volunteered.
They asked for volunteers.
So one of the pickleball ladies, allison, who lives four down,
four houses down, she's like thejewel area, development
something, something you know,director now as of this year.
So she'd put out a thing foryou know, volunteer, need
(17:28):
volunteers, you know whatever.
So yeah, I said, okay, I can doit, for I can do it for a
couple hours and that's what shewanted.
I asked her, like what do youneed?
So that was the thing.
Oh my gosh, yeah, can youimagine.
And there was two bouncy houses.
So just my sole purpose was tomake sure nobody, you know,
(17:48):
clunked heads you know, if theydid start crying, push them off
onto their parents.
You know, and you can only put10 kids in a bouncy house at a
time.
And, oh my gosh, they were justgoing back and forth, and back
and forth and finally I justsaid you guys do what you want.
The one kid, one kid, I wasn'teven thinking.
He goes, hey, I can do a flip,and I said, okay, yeah, great,
(18:10):
well, I'll watch it.
And then literally, literally,on the bounce house, you know,
don't rules, yeah, rules, no, no.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Flipping, no flips it's like whatever, whatever I I
just chuckled and I'm I don'tknow that I put it out on social
media, but I know that I sentyou a message that said I'm not
sure I would have asked you tohandle the risk.
Speaker 5 (18:36):
Logistics, no literally, yeah, literally, let
them do whatever.
There was this one busy timewhere, you know, like I told, my
sole purpose was to make surethere was only 10 in there at a
time.
Well, I was kind of countingyeah, it's probably at least 10,
it's probably 15, and so Istopped this little kid and I
(18:57):
said, oh, just wait a minutetill somebody goes down the
slide or comes out, and he looksat me like, and went in anyway.
So, so that was pointless, Iknow.
So it's like what are you herefor, lady?
And you know their parents.
They're little, so theirparents were all around and the
rest of them that were bigger,their parents probably weren't
(19:21):
anywhere close.
So, yeah, they were happy.
Somebody else was gonna watch,right?
Yeah, well, that was that.
It was only two hours and thenI was done.
So you know things like that.
It didn't kill me to govolunteer for two hours.
Yeah, it was kind of funny,honestly so good entertainment.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
Yeah, it kind of was oh, that's a great example, yeah
, so, um, I, you know, I, it'spride month here in minneapolis
and there's parades and there'susually things going on and of
course, they're always on thestinking weekends and I don't
get a go and, uh, bum me out.
(20:04):
Um, I've talked to one of mydaughters and they were spending
this afternoon decorating apride float, boy, you know.
So there are a lot of thingsthat are going, especially in
summer.
There are a lot of things thatare going on, a lot of
opportunities to go.
When people are just so danghappy to have more volunteers,
(20:26):
they're super happy that you'rethere.
Grab, grab a neighbor, grabsomebody and say, hey, you know
you want to go do this.
Yeah, yeah, I, I sent, I, um, Isent a message.
Uh, on Monday went to work andit was that first really hot God
(20:47):
awful day that it was like 95degrees and about 700% humidity
and it felt just like the firstweek in August when we always
had Girl Scout camp, when you'dwake up that Monday anticipating
a couple of hundred girlsgetting dropped off for six
hours and it was going to bemuggy and hot and you're just
(21:08):
going to come home so nasty.
I sent that message to a few ofmy former leaders and I'm like
did they camp get moved, anybodyelse?
I'm getting the same thing, andthat was one of those nice
little touch points.
Did they camp get moved Anybodyelse?
Again, the same thing.
That was one of those nicelittle touch points with friends
from years past Finding thosememories, yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:32):
Something I've been thinking about this week, with
4th of July coming up quickly.
I've always loved 4th of Julyin the neighborhood, in the
community, because there'salways just so many fun things
to do.
And I said to Bill the otherday I'm really excited about
(21:59):
Fourth of July coming up becausewith him not working and me
working from home, it just feelscompletely different.
And I was thinking about itfurther and I was remembering so
, amy, you know all thecommunity things that happen,
right, and so for many yearsthey do this big party up in the
(22:19):
park and they have a band andeverything.
And I know that there wereseveral years that we would you
know, you guys went with usseveral times, other people went
with and I always had the.
I always felt like I didn't wantto go unless we had somebody to
go with, or like we were goingand we knew that we were going
(22:40):
to meet up with people there.
Yes, and now I just said toBill the other day how it's
going to be super fun to go andI don't give a crap if we're
going with somebody or meetingsomebody up there.
I just want to go, just the twoof us, and walk around and who
knows who we'll run into whoknows.
(23:04):
So I'm glad that I feel less.
You know, nobody would haveknown if you'd gone up there, if
we'd gone up there just the twoof us and we weren't meeting
anybody or with anybody.
What a weird right, what aweird thing for me to be worried
about.
Speaker 5 (23:25):
Yeah, it was a habit.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
It was a habit, you know, yeah, and also when we had
younger kids it was also anopportunity to actually go go
have a night out with anothercouple that you know you were so
longing to.
If you've been, I know formyself.
When I was home with the kids Iwas I was so excited to go talk
to somebody new.
(23:47):
You know that.
Excuse me, what else was goingon?
Speaker 5 (23:54):
Well, that's good.
I hope you go and I would lovewe'll love to hear who you met,
who you, if you saw anyone youalready know.
Yeah, yeah, I think that's agood opportunity to you know,
talk to somebody new.
There will be another couplestanding around with nobody you
never know.
Yeah, for sure.
(24:16):
Or even just go into a group.
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Yeah, because again now you've got a chance to meet
other people in the group andyou would assume, if A and B are
good together and B and c aregood together, that a and c
probably have a connecting pointtoo.
yeah, yeah so cool yeah, so I,I'm the.
(24:39):
I'm the one that's got to workon something here.
I know, oh, I'm making a newfriend at work.
I've got a junior realtor.
A junior salesperson is with me.
She's been with me for threedays and she's going to come
back the week after we get backfrom Italy.
Cool, nice, she's 21.
I have to chuckle.
(25:02):
I'm like, hey, if anything Isay to you comes out like your
mom, don't be offended, justignore me.
I'm not trying to mother you.
Speaker 5 (25:11):
Sort of deal.
Yeah are you sure your mom,because you're probably older
than her mom.
Speaker 3 (25:17):
Oh, well, thank you for that.
Thank you, thank you for that.
Just saying my baby's 25 for acouple more weeks, yep so funny
for a couple more weeks.
Speaker 5 (25:30):
Yep, yeah, work.
Friends are a thing.
I think work would be tortureif you had no one, you know.
Mm-hmm, no one, you're friendlywith at work.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
Mm-hmm, it really is helpful.
The only person I see daily inmy job is my sales the
construction supervisor, becausehe offices out of the home that
I work and I get such a kickout of him.
I so enjoy him.
You know he likes to tellstories with a little drama,
(26:10):
just like I do, so we areforever laughing about stuff
that's going on and you knowhe's full of oh my gosh, I can't
believe, can you believe?
and I'm like, yeah, we speak thesame language here, so those
are kind of fun that is a goodone, yep yeah, it's really good
(26:30):
when I sent him a text and saidI think that there are birds in
this unfinished basement of ahouse that just got framed and
I'm not going down there.
And yes, I know I'm a grownadult, but no, I'm not going
down there.
I need you to go look at thistomorrow, go and shoooo them out
.
Yeah, yeah, but I did have totell them.
I know I'm an adult, but no,I'm still not doing this.
(26:51):
I don't like birds.
So somebody took care of it.
It wasn't me.
Speaker 4 (26:58):
There you go.
What's the market like rightnow?
Speaker 3 (27:02):
It has.
Honestly, it's kind of groundto a halt in the metro area
Really.
And it's kind of ground to ahalt in the metro area Really.
And it's not just newconstruction, it's something
weird.
There's just a little hiccupright now.
End of June.
July is usually slow, especiallylocally.
(27:23):
For us, a lot of people arekids, are out of school now.
They've got vacations planned.
Sports are winding down, summersports are winding down, so
fourth of july, big vacationweek in minnesota.
So that's not unusual.
Yeah, but in talking to a lotof realtors at all sorts of
(27:43):
price points, price pointseverybody has just kind of put
things on hold.
So you know the Fed doesn'thelp in that they.
They've been talking aboutmoving interest rates for well.
I mean months and months andmonths and nothing's happened.
So I think people are just likeyou know what?
(28:06):
I'm just going to enjoy mysummer for right now and maybe
we'll come back, yeah, yeah.
So I think for the first timesince I joined the company, I'm
not going to hit my goal for thequarter.
It's killing me.
I hate that.
Speaker 5 (28:23):
Yeah, maybe it just means even more for next quarter
.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
Yeah, hopefully, yeah , but maybe it just means even
more for next quarter.
Yeah, hopefully, yeah.
And it does mean the people whocome in, they're not, they're
not kicking tires, they actuallyhave thought it through.
So I've had more conversationsabout people who want to build
um, and that's a differentbudget where you know they don't
it's not a job transfer, it'snot.
Uh, we're having more kids,it's you know.
(28:52):
We've been thinking about it.
Now it's kind of the time sortof deal so yeah, cool, yeah,
well, probably a good time to beon vacation, then it is.
It is a really good time.
Um, jace, hate to break this toyou.
I have an appointment 530 onMonday night, the night that
(29:13):
you're coming there.
Speaker 5 (29:15):
Oh, I won't be.
I won't be there early becauseI'll be trying to shove all my
work together, probably worklate and get there late.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Yeah, yeah.
So I think it's funny.
This is the third reschedule.
Oh, this realtor has said shegoes.
I am so sorry, I'm so sorry,I'm like it's fine, it's fine,
it's fine.
But this last time I said, yep,that'll work.
But, by the way, I'm going tobe out of town July 1st through
the 9th.
Speaker 5 (29:42):
So you need to get it done.
Speaker 3 (29:44):
I said so, if there we, I we can work it out
beforehand, or it's going tohave to wait till after that.
Oh, no worries, I'm gone.
The second through the sixth.
Ok good.
Good, we're all on the same page, and that's that's pretty
typical for realtors.
Usually the weekend beforeFourth of July through the
weekend after is.
(30:04):
So if you really wanted to buyin the metro area and you didn't
want any competition, get outthere.
That way there's not going tobe anybody who's you're going to
have to bid against.
So there you go.
There's your tip.
There is your tip, the realestate tip of the day yes, tip
of the day, yes, speaking,speaking of our vacation.
(30:27):
Yes.
Speaker 5 (30:30):
Bonjour, bonjour.
Guess where we're going?
Yeah, amy and I are going toItaly.
We're a little more than a weekout.
I do have a packing tip, okaygood what is that Organizing tip
?
Here's my thought.
So a week out, I'm going to go,you know, down in the basement,
(30:50):
get my carry-on, get out my youknow bag that I take and start
chucking stuff in it.
You know, not clothes, I'm notpacking clothes yet but you know
I've got my passport.
You know all the other littlestuff I could pack, my jewelry.
That would be something youcould do instead of the day
before I'm going to pack all ofmy little, you know, travel size
(31:15):
, travel size stuff.
I can pack that all the way andput that in.
You know, find all those things, the two pairs of shoes you
know, and put those in.
Do all this stuff ahead of time, cause I'll think, oh yeah, I
need to get that and oh yeah, Ineed to do that.
My thought on the travel sizestuff If I pack that on now,
I've got a whole week to.
(31:35):
You know, if I don't haveenough of something, I could get
it this week, cause I don'twant to do that last minute and
have to go somewhere, you know,to get stuff.
So get all of that kind ofstuff out of the way and then
start figuring out clothes andI'll be packed, you know, two
days early probably yeah, I likethat, I like that idea yeah,
(32:00):
yeah, because you know I don'thave, I'm not gonna wear stuff
this week that I'm in a pack,right?
so, like I said, just start thisearly getting stuff organized,
so I'm not doing it last minute.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
Well, I always think you do that.
Early A week ago you sent medon't forget, your, your, your
compression socks and your nightmask and your sleeping mask and
something else.
I'm like are you packingalready?
Cause I thought she wasseriously packing.
Speaker 5 (32:31):
Yeah.
And I said, oh yeah, I'm allpacked already.
And she goes oh no, you're not.
And of course not.
But like I found all that stuffand I'll put it in a pile, you
know, just so I'm notfrantically looking for it later
, I'll have all the stuff readyahead of time.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
Well, we're going to have to report back because I am
trying to do this in only acarry-on bag.
Yeah, we have a carry-on.
Yeah, just a carry-on, and I'llcheck it.
It's not that I don't want tocheck the.
I don't want to carry itBecause all I've heard about
Italy is that it's cobblestonestreets and it's a bitch to try
(33:12):
and roll your luggage.
Speaker 5 (33:13):
You've got to be able to lift it upstairs and stuff
I'm going to try and go with,like you mean, like a duffel bag
, you mean like a duffel bag,you're carry-on, you're rolling,
not a big one, yeah, not a bigone, yeah yeah, I'm hoping are
(33:34):
my packing cubes, which I havesitting out right next to me um
will help, help do that yes, Idid order packing cubes, so
we'll report back how how thatgoes, because I think for me too
that'll end up being yeah,super, duper, slick, get it all.
Yeah, compact and matter offact.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
I'm going to give you another tip.
I think that packing cubes area wonderful gift that you could
give anybody who travels, and bytravels that could just be a
couple of trips a year.
Yeah, you can organize so muchstuff.
You don't have to dig throughyour whole suitcase, yes, and
(34:15):
take it all apart just to getanother pair of socks which I
always do.
Speaker 5 (34:20):
Yeah, yeah.
So I think this will workreally well yeah, so there you
go what do you?
Have kitty, do you?
Do you have a shot for us?
Do you have a tip okay?
Speaker 4 (34:37):
so I just started, I'm taking, I'm doing a through
an app, I'm doing an ai courseare you doing like the 28 day?
Speaker 5 (34:46):
ai course that one oh , I can't wait to hear what you
said, what you find out becauseI've looked at it a bunch of
times I same.
Speaker 4 (34:54):
so I keep seeing the ads for it and and so I finally
it was.
It was very inexpensive and Ithought, okay, because I use
chat gpt every single day andI'm using it more and more and
I'm I'm using it now to like,create um, canva templates, and
so not just not just asking itthings, I'm, I'm having it do
(35:17):
things.
So it's the one that I pickedis called cursive c-o-u-r-s-i-v
um, trying to figure out if Ican give you a visual.
Well, anyway, it's a really,really nice interface, and so
the the first one is chat GPT,but then it will go into I can't
(35:37):
remember how many, like eightor nine different AI models and
it'll show you, you know, whatmakes this one different, what
you can use it for, and it givesyou exercises to go through.
So it'll give you you know whatmakes this one different, what
you can use it for, and it givesyou exercises to go through.
So it'll give you a little bitof the education and then you
can put it, you know, put it towork.
So I'm finding the ChatGPT oneto be very, very basic, but just
(36:05):
, you know, we all probablywould, because we all use it.
So I'm excited to get past thisone and into the next one.
So I'll report back in a fewweeks, but I'm loving it.
So I take, you know, 15 minutesin the morning and run through
a few exercises and yeah, I justthink it's really cool Really
good, yeah, I can't wait to hearwhat you think, because I've
looked at it a bunch.
(36:27):
Mm-hmm, so use it fortranslation too, like it can
help you translate things.
Oh, and also, I was watchingsomebody else on Instagram and
they were traveling.
They were in Japan or China orsomewhere and they had some sort
(36:49):
of app.
I don't know what it is.
You should look into this.
So there's a sign.
They would shoot the app at thesign and it would translate the
sign.
Speaker 3 (36:59):
Oh nice, super helpful for menus.
Yes, yes.
Speaker 5 (37:05):
Yeah, I think Google does.
It Doesn't Google translateGoogle translate.
Probably Maybe.
I think Google does.
It Doesn't Google Googletranslate, google translate?
Speaker 4 (37:11):
Probably Maybe that's what they were using.
I guess I've I've never used itbefore.
Speaker 3 (37:16):
Yeah, well, I'm going to let my tour guide take care
of that, okay, no, I think.
Speaker 5 (37:25):
I think that's why we travel well, because we each
have our own set of skills.
Sometimes I just go I gotnothing, and then Amy takes over
and then she'll say I don'tknow.
And I say, yeah, we're goingthis way, that kind of stuff,
whatever.
Speaker 3 (37:39):
We're going to be way more patient this time when we
exit a building and we're goingto wait for the Google Maps to
get itself switched aroundbefore we start walking halfway
down the block and have to turnaround and walk back the other
way.
Speaker 5 (37:57):
I'm telling you, when you walk out of a building and
you're facing that way, itthinks that's the way you're
going.
You have to get going one wayso you know which way the arrow
is going.
I know you've gotten sofrustrated with me, like I was
always going opposite, but yougot to see which way the arrow
points.
You got to go that way.
Then you're going to go theother way, so we'll see, we'll
(38:17):
see how it goes.
Speaker 3 (38:18):
But after you've started off the wrong way, seven
times a day for the first fourdays, on the fifth day, on the
fifth try is that's pretty muchwhen like you know.
Speaker 5 (38:32):
Oh my god, not again.
Well, if we always turn left,will we be right 50 percent of
the time?
What are the odds?
I don't know.
I have no idea.
Speaker 3 (38:44):
We should just be thankful we're not printing out
map quest directions from pointa to point b, to point c, to
point d, yep, I know, yes, forsure, yeah, so all right, ladies
, okay, so good to talk to you,my oldest and dearest friends,
(39:05):
on our quest to make new friendsgo forth and lean in a little
bit more to a new friendshipthat you've got.
You got cooking, yeah all right, all right see everybody next
week see you soon.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
cheers, cheers.
All right, I can't ever stop.
I'm a tour de force running.
Get me to the top.
I don't need an invitation.
I'm about to start acelebration.
Let me in Brought a good timefor some friends.
Turn it up loud past 10.
Turning up the crowd when I hitthem with the power.
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