May 22, 2025 • 38 mins
The friendship drought is real. As we navigate our busy adult lives, making genuine connections becomes increasingly challenging, especially when established friends move away. In this heartfelt episode of Three Cocktails In, Stacey, Kitty, and Amy continue their year-long "Project 2025: Make a New Friend" journey with practical strategies for connection in the digital age.
Surprisingly, Facebook groups emerge as friendship goldmines when centered around shared interests. Amy shares how her crafting community has blossomed into meaningful relationships despite members living states apart. The hosts exchange laughs about their collective failure to join new in-person groups last month while acknowledging the very real time constraints that make digital connections so valuable for busy adults.
Summer offers unique opportunities for connection, and the conversation sparkles with creative ideas: community education classes that group people by skill level, neighborhood "porch crawls," farmers' markets, local baseball games, and art festivals. The key insight? Consistency matters more than the specific activity—showing up regularly to the same places increases your chances of forming relationships with fellow regulars.
The conversation takes a poignant turn as Kitty opens up about the anger she felt when close friends moved away without warning. This resonates deeply as the hosts acknowledge we're entering life stages where retirements and relocations will increasingly challenge our friendship circles.
With equal parts humor, vulnerability, and practical advice, this episode validates the struggle while offering a roadmap for connection. Whether you're an introvert seeking digital communities or ready to organize that neighborhood gathering, you'll find strategies that respect your comfort level while gently expanding your social horizons.
Amy, Kitty & Stacey
P.S. Isn't our intro music great?! Yah, we think so too. Thank you, Ivy States for "I Got That Wow".
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
All right, I got that .
Wow, who wants some heads upright now?
We got that.
Turn it up loud.
I know you're wondering how Igot that.
Wow, here I go, here I go,coming.
I can't ever stop.
I'm a tour de force running.
Get me to the top.
I don't need a.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello, my darling friends.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Hello ladies.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Welcome.
Welcome to yet another episodeof Three Cocktails In With
Stacey, the delegate from Iowa,kitty, the delegate from the
southwest suburbs, and me fromthe heart of the city.
Amy, how are you guys doing?
Doing great.
Speaker 4 (00:50):
The week is off to a good start.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Yes, it is Thursday night for me.
Rocking hard Only because it'snot really Thursday night, but
my weird schedule.
Super, super excited about ourdiscussion that we're going to
have tonight.
We're doing a friendship checkin.
Yes, yep, now we've been kindof embarked on this whole year
(01:16):
project 2025.
Make a new friend.
So we have identified what kindof friends we're looking for.
We have gotten ourselves outinto the world and done things
with our lights on little sign,saying hey, I'm here, how are
(01:38):
you?
Last week or last month, wetalked about joining some
different groups.
Maybe that's a little harder.
How has that gone?
What have you?
Speaker 4 (01:53):
guys, been your, what's been your experience
Joining groups.
So I have not joined anyspecific groups, me neither.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
I haven't either.
I think this goes to how hardit can be, you know, for people
to find people.
You know, find new people.
You know, this last month justflew by and really didn't have.
You know, I don't want to saydidn't have time.
You always have time to dosomething you want to do, but
(02:29):
maybe less opportunity you know,there wasn't going on that, um,
you know, if that makes sense,just not not something going on
that I could join in on.
Let's say yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Well, I agree with that.
Joining groups can mean, okay,so you might be picking up a new
hobby or the group might.
Then that might mean once amonth you go and meet, yeah.
So, depending on what it is, itcan mean a time commitment and,
(03:06):
like Stacey said, you know,yeah, if it's something that you
really want to do, then youmake time for it.
And I know we're going to talkabout this, but one of the
(03:42):
things to crack the nut onmeeting new people digitally one
of the things that they saythat's not a good analogy but
one of the things that they sayis join groups online because
then in in that entity, you'regoing to find people with
commonalities, yeah.
And so I think that's probablya more accessible solution for
(04:13):
us, because obviously the threeof us didn't go to the community
center or wherever, and find agroup to join.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
So that was the recommendation for this month to
leverage apps, digital apps andsocial media.
And my first thought when I waspreparing for this month was,
as you all know, I've had enoughof digital apps that are trying
to set me up with somebodyMatchcom, trying to set me up
(04:44):
with somebody matchcom.
So my first thought was well,yeah, there's, I know Bumble has
.
Part of their business model isto find friends.
You know, you're new to a city.
You just want to meet somepeople to be friends with.
(05:07):
There are different groups thatyou can go do.
That seems really intimidating,but as we were talking about
this, you know, prepping fortonight, kitty says well, like
she just talked about her, herFacebook group and I worked for
a company that had a largeFacebook group and I think a lot
of us don't automaticallyassume that's a source of
(05:28):
friends.
We look at it as they're justtrying to sell me something,
when the reality is you are in aplace with people who like the
same things.
You do, whatever.
That is, quilting, jewelryting,jewelry kitty, I've watched
yours, stacy, I know you're onthere too.
(05:50):
We've all watched um.
I worked for ge designs andgudrun's got a group on there.
Um, really good people.
Leaders do a great job ofencouraging conversations.
I've noticed you not only areyou making friends with people,
kitty, but people in your groupare making friends with each
(06:14):
other.
Yeah, and they really do.
They come on with regularity,they see each other.
I've seen people post well,where's Susan?
And somebody else will pipe upand say susan's got this going
on.
Yeah, one would assume your nextdoor neighbors.
No, these people don't evenlive in the same city right it's
(06:37):
a great source of you know,maybe a daily connection, maybe
a weekly connection yeah, it was.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
It's something that was very surprising to me.
And then and then I was likewell, why?
Why am I surprised about this?
So it's, yeah it, and I, everytime I get a message from
someone, I am realizing thatthis is more than just their
(07:11):
customer of mine.
We have become friends and mylife is better because I know
them and because we now have afriendship.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
And this is a really easy one.
This is a very easy opportunityto put yourself out there.
If you're not in the practiceof it, yeah.
Or if you're in a rural area ortransportation is an issue or
your time is short, you can dothis from the comfort of your
(07:45):
couch, yeah, yeah, and you don'thave to buy right no, does
anyone ever ask whereeverybody's from kitty in your
show?
Speaker 3 (07:59):
that might be something you could do one of
these times, like who's fromwho's local in minneapolis or
who you know, and match peopleup.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
That would be interesting yeah so, and every
once in a while I do it.
Uh, if I'm trying to, if I'mtrying to generate a lot of
comments, I'll, I'll do it, butevery once in a while, somebody
somebody else will do it one ofyou know, one of the other
viewers will do it, and and thenI just sit back and watch.
And when somebody says I'm fromRoanoke, virginia, or I'm from,
(08:30):
I'm from Virginia, and thensomebody says oh where?
And then now in the commentsthey're sitting there talking.
And then I realized later thatthey've become friends and you
know communication on their own.
But yes, that is, and you know,and we have communication on
(08:51):
their own.
But yes, that is people love tolike.
If I'm from Minnesota, I'm fromMinnesota.
Like you know, it's a freakingstate.
We have one thing in common,that's all it takes yeah, so you
were talking.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
You brought up um, I belong to a group of knitters
and crocheters and it's anonline community called
Ravelrycom.
I haven't been on it for a longtime because, you know, my
hobbies jump around too, butwork and everything.
But I have made friends and Istill.
(09:23):
I follow them on Facebook.
We comment on each other'sthings.
They are a great source for hey, I'm gonna be in Boston, I'm
gonna be in Roanoke, virginia,where do I need to go?
And people meet each other andlike three or four people will
say, well, I'm close, I'm only45 minutes away, and somebody
(09:44):
else will go.
I'm a half an hour away.
Let's all meet at this, thiscoffee shop, at this time and
we'll get a table and we'll allbring our knitting.
So we know who each other.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
I mean, you've probably seen pictures by then,
but what a great, easy thing todo yeah it just takes one person
to start it and make thecomment and see who wants to see
who wants to eat and gettogether yeah, and speaking of,
that's a great segue.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
So I was thinking of how do we meet people in the
summer?
For those of us in the Midwest,the upper Midwest, this is the
time meet people in the summer.
For those of us in the Midwest,the upper Midwest, this is the
time we are in the prime outdoor, everybody's happy, everybody's
walking, dogs, kids, grandkidswalking around the neighborhood.
(10:38):
So I brainstormed a list ofdifferent ways that we can be
out and about with similarpeople.
So you guys, let me know whatyou think.
Good idea, bad idea?
I've done it.
I want to do this.
So my first thought was look atthat community education book
(11:02):
that comes out in the mail,because now is the prime time
for lessons.
Signing up for lessons, golflessons, pickleball lessons, um.
Golf, um.
Tennis, um.
The cool thing about these,these opportunities are people
(11:24):
are often grouped by skill.
So maybe you've never playedpickleball before and all your
neighbors want you to go play,but they all play all the time.
For me, that's a problem.
I don't want to go out thereand be playing against three
people who know what they'redoing and I suck.
That's my own issue.
I'm working on that just as anaside.
But if you sign up for lessons,you're going to be put with
(11:48):
people of like skill.
That's a great bondingexperience.
Everybody's struggling with thesame challenges.
Yeah, they're multi-age, whichis also great.
There's no expectation ofhaving to be friends, but you're
probably going to see them sixtimes over, maybe six weeks.
Speaker 4 (12:10):
Yep, yeah, that's a good idea.
A lot of times too, thosecommunity education program
things are very reasonablypriced, yes, and they're not big
chunks of time, right it'susually an hour, yeah, but like
(12:30):
it's like a six week course orsomething like that.
So it's, you know, once a weekfor six weeks and then, and then
you're done.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
And yeah, hopefully by then you've met one or two
(12:58):
people and and, yeah, I thinkit's a great idea.
But to go with somebody else oryour group field trip, whatever
you want to do, what a greatopportunity to learn something
new, to meet somebody new, to goto a new place that's the
trifecta right there.
Yep, yep, okay.
So the other flip side of thecommunity education is there are
(13:23):
often leagues bocce ball, cornhole, again, golf but they do
things like gardening groups orthey might have a Saturday
morning garden tour.
That's all people that like todo the same stuff you do.
(13:44):
If you're into gardening, andmaybe they start in one
neighborhood and they have threedifferent local gardeners that
have beautiful yards.
What a perfect thing to do.
Everybody you're going withlikes the same stuff you do.
It's a very short amount oftime.
You get to meet somebody new.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
You learn something amount of time you get to meet
somebody new, you learnsomething.
Excellent idea.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
Okay, Now, when one of you said something about
organizing, didn't you saysomething about organizing?
It's hard to plan.
I don't know.
My mind works and you've got abestie.
(14:38):
You know that lives next door,but you don't know a lot of the
other people in yourneighborhood or you don't see
them as much.
Minnesota, everybody is out ontheir porch after dinner, After
work, everybody's sitting out.
How about you organize for lackof a better term a porch crawl
(15:01):
in your, on your block, fromfive to seven or six to eight?
Um, everybody be out at yourporch and you know whether it's
a cocktail or a lemonade or icedcoffee or something, just you
know.
Talk to your neighbors, make itan effort to just again.
You're not having to clean yourhouse.
You don't have to put on fancyclothes.
You can do your thing.
(15:23):
I think that would be reallyfun.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
A lot of neighborhoods still do the
neighborhood night out.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
That's on my list as well, yes.
Yeah, but I just thought youknow you can do it smaller.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
It shouldn't be just Halloween when you get to knock
on neighbors' doors.
Yeah, trick or drink, you knowwe can do it in the summer.
(16:03):
Yeah, that's a good idea.
Then think about other outdoorplaces where you can go, and if
you go consistently, like Kittyat the Coffee Shops, you can
start to meet people.
Farmer's Market happens everySaturday morning or every
Wednesday afternoon, you know,in smaller towns it's usually in
kind of the city center area.
What a fun thing to do, youdon't?
(16:26):
I mean you can buy one thing ornot.
Go get some carrots, go getsomething for dinner.
Meet some of the people thatlive in your community.
Ask them what do you do withthis vegetable?
What a great conversation piece.
Everybody loves to share whatthey know.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
Yeah, that's a good idea, Yep.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Of course, being the baseball fan, go cheer on one of
your town teams.
Minnesota has great town ballbaseball.
It is the last place where it'sreally a good small town feel.
You sit in the grandstand, youbuy popcorn, you get a hot dog,
you watch your town team play,you see neighbors, there are
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kids running up and down thestairs.
It's just a really lovely,inexpensive night outside.
Yeah, kitty, you met a lot offriends when you started doing
that.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Right many yep, yep, absolutely, and it was truly
you'd see, you'd see yourneighbors and um your mechanic
and the person that works at thecoffee shop, and yep, that said
, then, that also makes me thinkabout and I was just thinking
about this the other day when Idrove by the high school so,
(17:46):
with our kids not being in highschool anymore, we went to a lot
of the high school footballgames for a while, and and I was
here, on the marching bandRight.
That was first and and I washere on the marching band.
Right, that was first, and sowhen I was driving by the school
the other day, I thought maybethis fall we'll go to a football
game, and I actually would.
(18:08):
We, would we really do that?
So we don't know anybody.
None of our friends have kidsin high school right now.
Would we do that we could?
Why not?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Yeah, chances are, you're going to see somebody you
know Doing different things.
Yeah, yeah, and here's a goofyone.
You know, for those of you whobelong to gyms and clubs, do you
go?
Like?
Lifetime Fitness here inChanhassen has a beautiful
(18:44):
outdoor pool.
Okay, so go to the pool.
But I've got a tip for youDon't just sit on the lounge
chair under your umbrellareading, reading your book,
because that doesn't really sayhey, I want to meet somebody or
talk to somebody.
Go sit on the edge of the pool,put your legs in the water,
(19:05):
maybe have your book to the side, but you're saying to people
I'm here and I'm in this.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
You know, anytime you can take that extra little step
and it's a great.
There's some, there's other, amom that's there chasing a kiddo
down, or you know, those areintergenerational things, where
you're at an environment whereeverybody there likes the same
thing.
Let's not make this morecomplicated than it has to be
(19:36):
Right.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
Yeah, bo has been a member of Lifetime for years and
every once in a while if he'sout with us at dinner and he'll
run into somebody and you knowthe guy will be like Bo and you
know they'll do the dudehandshake or you know the dude.
You know like that, um, andwe're like who, who is that?
(20:02):
Oh, it's so-and-so.
At the gym we work out together.
Oh, cool, yeah, so he's gotthese.
You know specific people that,because they are consistent with
the time that they go to thegym, because they are consistent
with the time that they go tothe gym, yeah, and so you know
they.
Hey, would you spot me?
That's an opening to yeah, what?
(20:27):
Hey?
Speaker 2 (20:27):
what?
What's your name you?
Speaker 4 (20:28):
know, yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
I'm going to put you guys on the spot and you guys
love it when I do this.
Yes, when Amy goes rogue, yep,and you guys love it when I do
this, love it when Amy goesrogue, stacey and Kitty.
Can you think of some place inyour community, locally, that
does something like this thatyou could go to?
Where in your community wouldyou go if you wanted to just put
(20:53):
yourself out there now thatit's summer, if you wanted to
just put yourself out there?
Speaker 3 (20:58):
now that it's summer, listening to all the ideas, I
came up with something, but I Idon't want to tell you what it
is on this episode, not because,not for that.
I'm going to do it this weekand I'm going to report back in
a month.
I don't want to say what it is.
And it's kind of going to haveto combine a couple of things.
(21:22):
I'm going to start with socialmedia and end up at a thing.
Okay, but I'm not I'm not goingto say, not going to say what it
is, it does.
It covers all the bases youknow.
Put putting yourself out thereusing social media, meeting with
people, and I think I think itmight work, I think I might be
(21:43):
able to report some success andI am very intrigued, you sneaky
person yo I'm not going to tellyou what it is right away.
Stacy with the secrets.
Yeah, let's see how it goes.
Yep, kitty, what do?
Speaker 2 (21:59):
you think?
Speaker 4 (22:00):
Well, um you know, we have the beautiful Arboretum
right out here, Love theArboretum.
And I always.
It's always one of those thingswhen the summer rolls around
that I think we should reallyhave a membership there so that
we go walk or go, you know,cause they do all sorts of
things out there.
I think that would be good.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Yes, now that Mr Blingboss is retired, how much
fun.
I love the Arboretum.
Speaker 4 (22:35):
Yeah, so then do they have different activities.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
I'm assuming is that what you're saying.
They like have planned nightsof this, or something like that.
Speaker 4 (22:44):
Yeah, they do.
Yeah, so thank you for askingthat question, amy.
I'm going to put that on ourlist for this week to pop onto
the website and see what theyhave coming up.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
Very cool idea.
Minneapolis, it's art season.
It was Art World this weekend.
Of course, I couldn't gobecause I was working, but Stone
Arch Festival is coming.
There is nothing I love morethan strolling around and seeing
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what people do and you guys,I'm sure you know by now I talk
to everybody.
You know, oh, where'd you getthat?
What booth was that in?
You know what?
What are you eating what?
What food truck did you getthat from?
I just love those occasions toget out, do something different,
see something that I like doing.
(23:37):
It doesn't cost me a dimeunless I buy something, which
usually happens but there's noentry fee.
I love stuff like that.
It's like a state fair forartists.
Yeah, so I'm gonna, I'm gonnahit, I'm gonna get my fanny up
out of bed and go before I haveto go to work.
Awesome, good idea.
(24:00):
So things outside to go do.
Stacy's got a plan cooking.
We're making new friends.
We're making new friends.
We did have part of ourconversation this past week
(24:20):
about friends that fall off theface of the earth.
Yeah, or you know, I think thatwe've tapped into or we've
talked about reconnecting withold friends.
We think that that certainlytapped into, or we've talked
about reconnecting with oldfriends.
We think that that certainly isa very viable option.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
People you already know.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
What happens when you reach out and you get nothing
in return.
That's sad.
Or the people that you rely onin your neighborhood that you
would plan the porch crawl withwhat if they up and move?
If I could quote somebodyUh-huh, they just upped and
moved.
(25:04):
I'm not bitter.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
Tell us a story.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Katie.
So we've been in thisneighborhood since 1999.
And there's been a fair amountof turnover.
We've been here the whole time.
People over here have been herethe whole time, but everybody
else has come and gone and wehad a family right across the
(25:36):
street from us and Bo and theyoungest over there were the
same age and we became fastfriends Doing the outdoor things
, you know, in the summer, andthen in the depths of winter we
(25:58):
would get together and havecoffee and eat toaster strudels
in front of the fireplace, Imean we had a good toaster
strudel Really really, really,really good times together and
all of a sudden they said we'removing.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
And I'm going to be real honest I was pissed, not
sad.
Was pissed, not sad, pissed Ishouldn't laugh about it, but
bless your heart for sharingthis.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
Because, it's true, you didn't talk to us, yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
You didn't talk to us about that.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
Well, so the good news is now they're moving back.
They're moving back here,they've moved back to Eden
Prairie.
And you know, of course westayed in touch, but we didn't
stay in regular touch, we didn'ttalk every week like we did
when they lived here.
(26:53):
And I kind of asked myself thequestion well, why?
Why not?
Because there's no reason forus to not still have the
communication and the closenessthat we had before.
I think I was mad.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Yeah, yeah, mad because somebody you relied on
and loved hanging out withchanged the whole pattern.
Speaker 4 (27:27):
yeah, and it's out of your control yeah, we, we.
then there was another familytoo, that was kitty corner and
amy.
You might, you might rememberthem and yeah, so they were, um,
husband and wife and they hadone child.
And he was so what was he?
(27:49):
Maybe five years older than bo.
He was enough, he was oldenough that when we needed like
a nanny, he became our Manny andum, he was just such a good
role model, role model for Bo.
And it was also during theyears that we were having a lot
(28:10):
of problems with Bo it w.
We had some rough, rough, roughyears, and whenever we did, I
would reach out to the mom,kitty Corner, because she and Bo
had a very, very special bond.
She could, if he was wound up,she could bring him down, and it
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was like if everything wasimploding here, she could come
in and I would leave she wouldtake away.
De-escalate, thank you, that'sthe word.
And then, same thing, we'removing.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Are you taking Bo with you?
Speaker 4 (28:58):
And that one hurt just as bad.
Like well, what the what are wegonna do now?
You know, of course I was beingvery selfish about it, but, um,
and we have kept in touch andwe've seen them a few times.
Um, yeah, and you know, thecommunication is is great.
I'm grateful for all of thetechnology that we have.
(29:21):
Same thing Like if we didn'thave Facebook, we never would
have connected with all of ourhigh school friends or our
middle school friends.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Oh yes, yep, I was thinking about when Tricia left,
when Tricia moved, I was nothappy about that, yeah, she and
I, because of proximity, and weboth stayed at home with our
kids and through the seven yearsI think that she lived here in
(29:52):
Minnesota.
One of the two of us waspregnant the entire time and it
was just she was that other momthat totally knew what I was
going through and she was thatother set of hands.
It was like, okay, you takeboth babies while I go do this,
and then I'll be back and takeboth babies and you go do that.
(30:12):
And it was this tag team effortPlus.
She is hilarious and a lot offun and she just, you know it
was hard when she moved, as shewould say, bless her heart.
She is really one of thosepeople that we can talk to
occasionally.
(30:32):
We share stuff on Facebook andthen most of the time she comes
up here to visit all of us andit's like she never left and
that's a really good friend.
But, that was a hard one whenthey leave.
Yeah, it is, and you're right,we are at that.
(30:53):
You talked about being in yourneighborhood for such a long
time.
I think many of us are in thatstage of life where people might
be retiring.
They may now be choosing tomove where their children are.
I think that we're at the startof seeing a lot more people
move.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Yeah, yeah, at least spend the winter, you know,
somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
Yeah maybe retire, you know, have a winter snowbird
escape.
So we are going to have todouble down on our efforts to
stay in touch, whether it'stechnology, whether it's the
old-fashioned calling callingsomebody and actually talking to
(31:42):
them using the phone for itsoriginal purpose.
Speaker 3 (31:45):
I know we don't do that very often, but we need to
yeah, so all right.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
So do we have the makings of a plan?
Stacy's got one already cookedup, letting us in on nope I, I
have a plan.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
I think it's a good plan.
I hope it works.
We'll see.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
All right, so Kitty's going to check out the
Arboretum.
Yep, I'm going to start to getout and walk to Walkmore.
You know, get out and even ifit's walking to dinner.
But down here that's also agreat socialized place.
I have a.
You know it sounds bad that Ihave a local bar, but it's
(32:27):
actually a bar restaurant that Ihave been going to since the
day I moved in, where Kitty andI went and had dinner and I've
taken some dates there, justbecause it's super casual and I
kind of know where I'm going andI walk and I sit down and the
bartenders are like, oh hey, sonice to see you.
People are looking at me like,oh, you must come here all the
(32:52):
time.
But it is one of the advantagesof having a spot, having your
spot.
You develop, you knowconnections and you can talk
about certain things, and it's a.
It's a nice feel and it's theopening to meeting somebody else
.
That's right, all right.
(33:12):
So we're gonna try it.
We're all gonna take a shot attrying something new this month,
which is always our shot.
Um, do we have other shots?
I don't have one I do okay,tell us okay so one of our
recent episodes was um theoscars watching oscar movies,
(33:36):
and I was a very poorparticipant at that time, having
not watched very many, but Iwatched a Nora last night and I
want everybody to give it a shot.
It was.
I somehow anticipated that itwas going to be this horrible
(33:56):
graphic, really ultra sad, and Ifound it to be a little bit
lighter than that, yeah, I meanthe story.
I mean it's not a goodsituation for her, but a lot of
it was really kind of funny andthey were having fun.
I think people should give it ashot.
Of course, I will abide by thecaveat, in the privacy of your
(34:18):
own home.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
With, you know, because there's a lot of boobage
that you see.
But the story you know, and Ireally did like the ending, the
very, very ending.
You know, I thought that waskind of good.
So I would say I would say Istill don't know that it's Oscar
worthy, right, so worthwatching Worth watching.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
I think we all agree it shouldn't have won the Oscar.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
Yeah, but it didn't win for best film.
Did it, it did, I thought itwas just her.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
No, no, it won best film and she won for best
actress, and that's the thingthat's like.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
I have seen her in some different stuff and every
time I see her she does.
She is a really good actress.
What else?
I think her filmography to useyour term is quite extensive in
a lot of different things.
She's been acting for a longtime.
She's not this ingenue upstart.
(35:20):
She's got a.
She was in Well well, I think Iused it as a shot months ago.
Was that, um, that seriesbetter things?
better things yeah she's theoldest daughter in that, okay,
um totally different personalitythan in this one Mikey Mikey
(35:42):
Madsen, I think, is her name.
Speaker 3 (35:44):
Right.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
And I really didn't recognize anybody else in that
cast?
No.
Speaker 4 (35:52):
I didn't either.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Yeah, so that's my shot.
Give it a shot people.
Give it a shot.
There you go Give it a shot.
Yeah, all right, all right,shot.
Give it a shot, people give ita shot.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
There you go give it a shot.
Yeah, all right, all right.
Speaker 3 (36:03):
Well, on that note, I say let the friendship games
continue right, yes, and we willreport back in a month our
progress back.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
We have been doing yes oh hey, speaking of
friendship, we were good, wewere gonna talk about this in an
upcoming episode.
We are going to re-watch um andtalk about um.
A re-watch show that.
So you know, see if it stillholds up.
And so the one that we kind ofdecided the three of us were
(36:35):
going to do is watching the fourseasons.
Four seasons, four seasons.
It's out right now as a series,but it is based off a movie
from the seventies, so 81, 1981.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Yeah, Wow.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Okay, 81.
That's close to the seventies,1981.
Speaker 3 (36:53):
If if I didn't know, because of the streaming service
that told me it was 1981, I'dhave guessed it was a lot
earlier than that too.
It is 1981.
Yep, and the remake now is moreof a series, I think six or
eight parts or whatever.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
I think it's an eight-part series.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
Yeah, tina Fey, and I don't know who else I can't
remember now.
Oh, yep, steve Carell.
Speaker 2 (37:17):
Steve Carell, tina Fey yeah, steve.
Speaker 3 (37:19):
Carell, steve Carell, tina Fey Will Fort the old
version 1981 version is AlanAlda Rena.
Moreno, sandy Dennis, is thaton Netflix or Amazon?
It's on Netflix right now.
You can catch the old one.
Speaker 2 (37:36):
Everybody do a little homework from the comfort of
your own, your own home againwatch four seasons, the series
that's live, you know that'sstreaming and watch the four
seasons original movie, yeah,and then let's discuss, yes, all
about friendship, again, allabout friendship.
(37:59):
Awesome, it's good.
All right, people, we betterget on it.
We've got a lot to do in thenext.
Yes, all right, we do love youguys Good night.
Speaker 4 (38:14):
See you next week.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
Bye-bye that.
Wow, here I go.
Here I go coming.
I can't ever stop i'ma tour theforest running.
Get me to the top.
I don't need an invitation.
I'm about to start acelebration.
Let me in.
Brought a good time for somefriends.
Turn it up loud past 10.
All right, I got that .
Wow, who wants some heads upright now?
We got that.
Turn it up loud.
I know you're wondering how Igot that.
Wow, here I go, here I go,coming.
I can't ever stop.
I'm a tour de force running.
Get me to the top.
I don't need a.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hello, my darling friends.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Hello ladies.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Welcome.
Welcome to yet another episodeof Three Cocktails In With
Stacey, the delegate from Iowa,kitty, the delegate from the
southwest suburbs, and me fromthe heart of the city.
Amy, how are you guys doing?
Doing great.
Speaker 4 (00:50):
The week is off to a good start.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Yes, it is Thursday night for me.
Rocking hard Only because it'snot really Thursday night, but
my weird schedule.
Super, super excited about ourdiscussion that we're going to
have tonight.
We're doing a friendship checkin.
Yes, yep, now we've been kindof embarked on this whole year
(01:16):
project 2025.
Make a new friend.
So we have identified what kindof friends we're looking for.
We have gotten ourselves outinto the world and done things
with our lights on little sign,saying hey, I'm here, how are
(01:38):
you?
Last week or last month, wetalked about joining some
different groups.
Maybe that's a little harder.
How has that gone?
What have you?
Speaker 4 (01:53):
guys, been your, what's been your experience
Joining groups.
So I have not joined anyspecific groups, me neither.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
I haven't either.
I think this goes to how hardit can be, you know, for people
to find people.
You know, find new people.
You know, this last month justflew by and really didn't have.
You know, I don't want to saydidn't have time.
You always have time to dosomething you want to do, but
(02:29):
maybe less opportunity you know,there wasn't going on that, um,
you know, if that makes sense,just not not something going on
that I could join in on.
Let's say yeah.
Speaker 4 (02:44):
Well, I agree with that.
Joining groups can mean, okay,so you might be picking up a new
hobby or the group might.
Then that might mean once amonth you go and meet, yeah.
So, depending on what it is, itcan mean a time commitment and,
(03:06):
like Stacey said, you know,yeah, if it's something that you
really want to do, then youmake time for it.
And I know we're going to talkabout this, but one of the
(03:42):
things to crack the nut onmeeting new people digitally one
of the things that they saythat's not a good analogy but
one of the things that they sayis join groups online because
then in in that entity, you'regoing to find people with
commonalities, yeah.
And so I think that's probablya more accessible solution for
(04:13):
us, because obviously the threeof us didn't go to the community
center or wherever, and find agroup to join.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
So that was the recommendation for this month to
leverage apps, digital apps andsocial media.
And my first thought when I waspreparing for this month was,
as you all know, I've had enoughof digital apps that are trying
to set me up with somebodyMatchcom, trying to set me up
(04:44):
with somebody matchcom.
So my first thought was well,yeah, there's, I know Bumble has
.
Part of their business model isto find friends.
You know, you're new to a city.
You just want to meet somepeople to be friends with.
(05:07):
There are different groups thatyou can go do.
That seems really intimidating,but as we were talking about
this, you know, prepping fortonight, kitty says well, like
she just talked about her, herFacebook group and I worked for
a company that had a largeFacebook group and I think a lot
of us don't automaticallyassume that's a source of
(05:28):
friends.
We look at it as they're justtrying to sell me something,
when the reality is you are in aplace with people who like the
same things.
You do, whatever.
That is, quilting, jewelryting,jewelry kitty, I've watched
yours, stacy, I know you're onthere too.
(05:50):
We've all watched um.
I worked for ge designs andgudrun's got a group on there.
Um, really good people.
Leaders do a great job ofencouraging conversations.
I've noticed you not only areyou making friends with people,
kitty, but people in your groupare making friends with each
(06:14):
other.
Yeah, and they really do.
They come on with regularity,they see each other.
I've seen people post well,where's Susan?
And somebody else will pipe upand say susan's got this going
on.
Yeah, one would assume your nextdoor neighbors.
No, these people don't evenlive in the same city right it's
(06:37):
a great source of you know,maybe a daily connection, maybe
a weekly connection yeah, it was.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
It's something that was very surprising to me.
And then and then I was likewell, why?
Why am I surprised about this?
So it's, yeah it, and I, everytime I get a message from
someone, I am realizing thatthis is more than just their
(07:11):
customer of mine.
We have become friends and mylife is better because I know
them and because we now have afriendship.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
And this is a really easy one.
This is a very easy opportunityto put yourself out there.
If you're not in the practiceof it, yeah.
Or if you're in a rural area ortransportation is an issue or
your time is short, you can dothis from the comfort of your
(07:45):
couch, yeah, yeah, and you don'thave to buy right no, does
anyone ever ask whereeverybody's from kitty in your
show?
Speaker 3 (07:59):
that might be something you could do one of
these times, like who's fromwho's local in minneapolis or
who you know, and match peopleup.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
That would be interesting yeah so, and every
once in a while I do it.
Uh, if I'm trying to, if I'mtrying to generate a lot of
comments, I'll, I'll do it, butevery once in a while, somebody
somebody else will do it one ofyou know, one of the other
viewers will do it, and and thenI just sit back and watch.
And when somebody says I'm fromRoanoke, virginia, or I'm from,
(08:30):
I'm from Virginia, and thensomebody says oh where?
And then now in the commentsthey're sitting there talking.
And then I realized later thatthey've become friends and you
know communication on their own.
But yes, that is, and you know,and we have communication on
(08:51):
their own.
But yes, that is people love tolike.
If I'm from Minnesota, I'm fromMinnesota.
Like you know, it's a freakingstate.
We have one thing in common,that's all it takes yeah, so you
were talking.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
You brought up um, I belong to a group of knitters
and crocheters and it's anonline community called
Ravelrycom.
I haven't been on it for a longtime because, you know, my
hobbies jump around too, butwork and everything.
But I have made friends and Istill.
(09:23):
I follow them on Facebook.
We comment on each other'sthings.
They are a great source for hey, I'm gonna be in Boston, I'm
gonna be in Roanoke, virginia,where do I need to go?
And people meet each other andlike three or four people will
say, well, I'm close, I'm only45 minutes away, and somebody
(09:44):
else will go.
I'm a half an hour away.
Let's all meet at this, thiscoffee shop, at this time and
we'll get a table and we'll allbring our knitting.
So we know who each other.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
I mean, you've probably seen pictures by then,
but what a great, easy thing todo yeah it just takes one person
to start it and make thecomment and see who wants to see
who wants to eat and gettogether yeah, and speaking of,
that's a great segue.
Speaker 2 (10:17):
So I was thinking of how do we meet people in the
summer?
For those of us in the Midwest,the upper Midwest, this is the
time meet people in the summer.
For those of us in the Midwest,the upper Midwest, this is the
time we are in the prime outdoor, everybody's happy, everybody's
walking, dogs, kids, grandkidswalking around the neighborhood.
(10:38):
So I brainstormed a list ofdifferent ways that we can be
out and about with similarpeople.
So you guys, let me know whatyou think.
Good idea, bad idea?
I've done it.
I want to do this.
So my first thought was look atthat community education book
(11:02):
that comes out in the mail,because now is the prime time
for lessons.
Signing up for lessons, golflessons, pickleball lessons, um.
Golf, um.
Tennis, um.
The cool thing about these,these opportunities are people
(11:24):
are often grouped by skill.
So maybe you've never playedpickleball before and all your
neighbors want you to go play,but they all play all the time.
For me, that's a problem.
I don't want to go out thereand be playing against three
people who know what they'redoing and I suck.
That's my own issue.
I'm working on that just as anaside.
But if you sign up for lessons,you're going to be put with
(11:48):
people of like skill.
That's a great bondingexperience.
Everybody's struggling with thesame challenges.
Yeah, they're multi-age, whichis also great.
There's no expectation ofhaving to be friends, but you're
probably going to see them sixtimes over, maybe six weeks.
Speaker 4 (12:10):
Yep, yeah, that's a good idea.
A lot of times too, thosecommunity education program
things are very reasonablypriced, yes, and they're not big
chunks of time, right it'susually an hour, yeah, but like
(12:30):
it's like a six week course orsomething like that.
So it's, you know, once a weekfor six weeks and then, and then
you're done.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
And yeah, hopefully by then you've met one or two
(12:58):
people and and, yeah, I thinkit's a great idea.
But to go with somebody else oryour group field trip, whatever
you want to do, what a greatopportunity to learn something
new, to meet somebody new, to goto a new place that's the
trifecta right there.
Yep, yep, okay.
So the other flip side of thecommunity education is there are
(13:23):
often leagues bocce ball, cornhole, again, golf but they do
things like gardening groups orthey might have a Saturday
morning garden tour.
That's all people that like todo the same stuff you do.
(13:44):
If you're into gardening, andmaybe they start in one
neighborhood and they have threedifferent local gardeners that
have beautiful yards.
What a perfect thing to do.
Everybody you're going withlikes the same stuff you do.
It's a very short amount oftime.
You get to meet somebody new.
Speaker 3 (14:03):
You learn something amount of time you get to meet
somebody new, you learnsomething.
Excellent idea.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
Okay, Now, when one of you said something about
organizing, didn't you saysomething about organizing?
It's hard to plan.
I don't know.
My mind works and you've got abestie.
(14:38):
You know that lives next door,but you don't know a lot of the
other people in yourneighborhood or you don't see
them as much.
Minnesota, everybody is out ontheir porch after dinner, After
work, everybody's sitting out.
How about you organize for lackof a better term a porch crawl
(15:01):
in your, on your block, fromfive to seven or six to eight?
Um, everybody be out at yourporch and you know whether it's
a cocktail or a lemonade or icedcoffee or something, just you
know.
Talk to your neighbors, make itan effort to just again.
You're not having to clean yourhouse.
You don't have to put on fancyclothes.
You can do your thing.
(15:23):
I think that would be reallyfun.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
A lot of neighborhoods still do the
neighborhood night out.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
That's on my list as well, yes.
Yeah, but I just thought youknow you can do it smaller.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
Yep.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
It shouldn't be just Halloween when you get to knock
on neighbors' doors.
Yeah, trick or drink, you knowwe can do it in the summer.
(16:03):
Yeah, that's a good idea.
Then think about other outdoorplaces where you can go, and if
you go consistently, like Kittyat the Coffee Shops, you can
start to meet people.
Farmer's Market happens everySaturday morning or every
Wednesday afternoon, you know,in smaller towns it's usually in
kind of the city center area.
What a fun thing to do, youdon't?
(16:26):
I mean you can buy one thing ornot.
Go get some carrots, go getsomething for dinner.
Meet some of the people thatlive in your community.
Ask them what do you do withthis vegetable?
What a great conversation piece.
Everybody loves to share whatthey know.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:45):
Yeah, that's a good idea, Yep.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Of course, being the baseball fan, go cheer on one of
your town teams.
Minnesota has great town ballbaseball.
It is the last place where it'sreally a good small town feel.
You sit in the grandstand, youbuy popcorn, you get a hot dog,
you watch your town team play,you see neighbors, there are
(17:13):
kids running up and down thestairs.
It's just a really lovely,inexpensive night outside.
Yeah, kitty, you met a lot offriends when you started doing
that.
Speaker 4 (17:24):
Right many yep, yep, absolutely, and it was truly
you'd see, you'd see yourneighbors and um your mechanic
and the person that works at thecoffee shop, and yep, that said
, then, that also makes me thinkabout and I was just thinking
about this the other day when Idrove by the high school so,
(17:46):
with our kids not being in highschool anymore, we went to a lot
of the high school footballgames for a while, and and I was
here, on the marching bandRight.
That was first and and I washere on the marching band.
Right, that was first, and sowhen I was driving by the school
the other day, I thought maybethis fall we'll go to a football
game, and I actually would.
(18:08):
We, would we really do that?
So we don't know anybody.
None of our friends have kidsin high school right now.
Would we do that we could?
Why not?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Yeah, chances are, you're going to see somebody you
know Doing different things.
Yeah, yeah, and here's a goofyone.
You know, for those of you whobelong to gyms and clubs, do you
go?
Like?
Lifetime Fitness here inChanhassen has a beautiful
(18:44):
outdoor pool.
Okay, so go to the pool.
But I've got a tip for youDon't just sit on the lounge
chair under your umbrellareading, reading your book,
because that doesn't really sayhey, I want to meet somebody or
talk to somebody.
Go sit on the edge of the pool,put your legs in the water,
(19:05):
maybe have your book to the side, but you're saying to people
I'm here and I'm in this.
Speaker 4 (19:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
You know, anytime you can take that extra little step
and it's a great.
There's some, there's other, amom that's there chasing a kiddo
down, or you know, those areintergenerational things, where
you're at an environment whereeverybody there likes the same
thing.
Let's not make this morecomplicated than it has to be
(19:36):
Right.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
Yeah, bo has been a member of Lifetime for years and
every once in a while if he'sout with us at dinner and he'll
run into somebody and you knowthe guy will be like Bo and you
know they'll do the dudehandshake or you know the dude.
You know like that, um, andwe're like who, who is that?
(20:02):
Oh, it's so-and-so.
At the gym we work out together.
Oh, cool, yeah, so he's gotthese.
You know specific people that,because they are consistent with
the time that they go to thegym, because they are consistent
with the time that they go tothe gym, yeah, and so you know
they.
Hey, would you spot me?
That's an opening to yeah, what?
(20:27):
Hey?
Speaker 2 (20:27):
what?
What's your name you?
Speaker 4 (20:28):
know, yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
I'm going to put you guys on the spot and you guys
love it when I do this.
Yes, when Amy goes rogue, yep,and you guys love it when I do
this, love it when Amy goesrogue, stacey and Kitty.
Can you think of some place inyour community, locally, that
does something like this thatyou could go to?
Where in your community wouldyou go if you wanted to just put
(20:53):
yourself out there now thatit's summer, if you wanted to
just put yourself out there?
Speaker 3 (20:58):
now that it's summer, listening to all the ideas, I
came up with something, but I Idon't want to tell you what it
is on this episode, not because,not for that.
I'm going to do it this weekand I'm going to report back in
a month.
I don't want to say what it is.
And it's kind of going to haveto combine a couple of things.
(21:22):
I'm going to start with socialmedia and end up at a thing.
Okay, but I'm not I'm not goingto say, not going to say what it
is, it does.
It covers all the bases youknow.
Put putting yourself out thereusing social media, meeting with
people, and I think I think itmight work, I think I might be
(21:43):
able to report some success andI am very intrigued, you sneaky
person yo I'm not going to tellyou what it is right away.
Stacy with the secrets.
Yeah, let's see how it goes.
Yep, kitty, what do?
Speaker 2 (21:59):
you think?
Speaker 4 (22:00):
Well, um you know, we have the beautiful Arboretum
right out here, Love theArboretum.
And I always.
It's always one of those thingswhen the summer rolls around
that I think we should reallyhave a membership there so that
we go walk or go, you know,cause they do all sorts of
things out there.
I think that would be good.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
Yes, now that Mr Blingboss is retired, how much
fun.
I love the Arboretum.
Speaker 4 (22:35):
Yeah, so then do they have different activities.
Speaker 3 (22:38):
I'm assuming is that what you're saying.
They like have planned nightsof this, or something like that.
Speaker 4 (22:44):
Yeah, they do.
Yeah, so thank you for askingthat question, amy.
I'm going to put that on ourlist for this week to pop onto
the website and see what theyhave coming up.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
Very cool idea.
Minneapolis, it's art season.
It was Art World this weekend.
Of course, I couldn't gobecause I was working, but Stone
Arch Festival is coming.
There is nothing I love morethan strolling around and seeing
(23:17):
what people do and you guys,I'm sure you know by now I talk
to everybody.
You know, oh, where'd you getthat?
What booth was that in?
You know what?
What are you eating what?
What food truck did you getthat from?
I just love those occasions toget out, do something different,
see something that I like doing.
(23:37):
It doesn't cost me a dimeunless I buy something, which
usually happens but there's noentry fee.
I love stuff like that.
It's like a state fair forartists.
Yeah, so I'm gonna, I'm gonnahit, I'm gonna get my fanny up
out of bed and go before I haveto go to work.
Awesome, good idea.
(24:00):
So things outside to go do.
Stacy's got a plan cooking.
We're making new friends.
We're making new friends.
We did have part of ourconversation this past week
(24:20):
about friends that fall off theface of the earth.
Yeah, or you know, I think thatwe've tapped into or we've
talked about reconnecting withold friends.
We think that that certainlytapped into, or we've talked
about reconnecting with oldfriends.
We think that that certainly isa very viable option.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
People you already know.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
What happens when you reach out and you get nothing
in return.
That's sad.
Or the people that you rely onin your neighborhood that you
would plan the porch crawl withwhat if they up and move?
If I could quote somebodyUh-huh, they just upped and
moved.
(25:04):
I'm not bitter.
Speaker 3 (25:07):
Tell us a story.
Speaker 4 (25:08):
Katie.
So we've been in thisneighborhood since 1999.
And there's been a fair amountof turnover.
We've been here the whole time.
People over here have been herethe whole time, but everybody
else has come and gone and wehad a family right across the
(25:36):
street from us and Bo and theyoungest over there were the
same age and we became fastfriends Doing the outdoor things
, you know, in the summer, andthen in the depths of winter we
(25:58):
would get together and havecoffee and eat toaster strudels
in front of the fireplace, Imean we had a good toaster
strudel Really really, really,really good times together and
all of a sudden they said we'removing.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
And I'm going to be real honest I was pissed, not
sad.
Was pissed, not sad, pissed Ishouldn't laugh about it, but
bless your heart for sharingthis.
Speaker 4 (26:24):
Because, it's true, you didn't talk to us, yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
You didn't talk to us about that.
Speaker 4 (26:32):
Well, so the good news is now they're moving back.
They're moving back here,they've moved back to Eden
Prairie.
And you know, of course westayed in touch, but we didn't
stay in regular touch, we didn'ttalk every week like we did
when they lived here.
(26:53):
And I kind of asked myself thequestion well, why?
Why not?
Because there's no reason forus to not still have the
communication and the closenessthat we had before.
I think I was mad.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Yeah, yeah, mad because somebody you relied on
and loved hanging out withchanged the whole pattern.
Speaker 4 (27:27):
yeah, and it's out of your control yeah, we, we.
then there was another familytoo, that was kitty corner and
amy.
You might, you might rememberthem and yeah, so they were, um,
husband and wife and they hadone child.
And he was so what was he?
(27:49):
Maybe five years older than bo.
He was enough, he was oldenough that when we needed like
a nanny, he became our Manny andum, he was just such a good
role model, role model for Bo.
And it was also during theyears that we were having a lot
(28:10):
of problems with Bo it w.
We had some rough, rough, roughyears, and whenever we did, I
would reach out to the mom,kitty Corner, because she and Bo
had a very, very special bond.
She could, if he was wound up,she could bring him down, and it
(28:36):
was like if everything wasimploding here, she could come
in and I would leave she wouldtake away.
De-escalate, thank you, that'sthe word.
And then, same thing, we'removing.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
Are you taking Bo with you?
Speaker 4 (28:58):
And that one hurt just as bad.
Like well, what the what are wegonna do now?
You know, of course I was beingvery selfish about it, but, um,
and we have kept in touch andwe've seen them a few times.
Um, yeah, and you know, thecommunication is is great.
I'm grateful for all of thetechnology that we have.
(29:21):
Same thing Like if we didn'thave Facebook, we never would
have connected with all of ourhigh school friends or our
middle school friends.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Oh yes, yep, I was thinking about when Tricia left,
when Tricia moved, I was nothappy about that, yeah, she and
I, because of proximity, and weboth stayed at home with our
kids and through the seven yearsI think that she lived here in
(29:52):
Minnesota.
One of the two of us waspregnant the entire time and it
was just she was that other momthat totally knew what I was
going through and she was thatother set of hands.
It was like, okay, you takeboth babies while I go do this,
and then I'll be back and takeboth babies and you go do that.
(30:12):
And it was this tag team effortPlus.
She is hilarious and a lot offun and she just, you know it
was hard when she moved, as shewould say, bless her heart.
She is really one of thosepeople that we can talk to
occasionally.
(30:32):
We share stuff on Facebook andthen most of the time she comes
up here to visit all of us andit's like she never left and
that's a really good friend.
But, that was a hard one whenthey leave.
Yeah, it is, and you're right,we are at that.
(30:53):
You talked about being in yourneighborhood for such a long
time.
I think many of us are in thatstage of life where people might
be retiring.
They may now be choosing tomove where their children are.
I think that we're at the startof seeing a lot more people
move.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
Yeah, yeah, at least spend the winter, you know,
somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
Yeah maybe retire, you know, have a winter snowbird
escape.
So we are going to have todouble down on our efforts to
stay in touch, whether it'stechnology, whether it's the
old-fashioned calling callingsomebody and actually talking to
(31:42):
them using the phone for itsoriginal purpose.
Speaker 3 (31:45):
I know we don't do that very often, but we need to
yeah, so all right.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
So do we have the makings of a plan?
Stacy's got one already cookedup, letting us in on nope I, I
have a plan.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
I think it's a good plan.
I hope it works.
We'll see.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
All right, so Kitty's going to check out the
Arboretum.
Yep, I'm going to start to getout and walk to Walkmore.
You know, get out and even ifit's walking to dinner.
But down here that's also agreat socialized place.
I have a.
You know it sounds bad that Ihave a local bar, but it's
(32:27):
actually a bar restaurant that Ihave been going to since the
day I moved in, where Kitty andI went and had dinner and I've
taken some dates there, justbecause it's super casual and I
kind of know where I'm going andI walk and I sit down and the
bartenders are like, oh hey, sonice to see you.
People are looking at me like,oh, you must come here all the
(32:52):
time.
But it is one of the advantagesof having a spot, having your
spot.
You develop, you knowconnections and you can talk
about certain things, and it's a.
It's a nice feel and it's theopening to meeting somebody else
.
That's right, all right.
(33:12):
So we're gonna try it.
We're all gonna take a shot attrying something new this month,
which is always our shot.
Um, do we have other shots?
I don't have one I do okay,tell us okay so one of our
recent episodes was um theoscars watching oscar movies,
(33:36):
and I was a very poorparticipant at that time, having
not watched very many, but Iwatched a Nora last night and I
want everybody to give it a shot.
It was.
I somehow anticipated that itwas going to be this horrible
(33:56):
graphic, really ultra sad, and Ifound it to be a little bit
lighter than that, yeah, I meanthe story.
I mean it's not a goodsituation for her, but a lot of
it was really kind of funny andthey were having fun.
I think people should give it ashot.
Of course, I will abide by thecaveat, in the privacy of your
(34:18):
own home.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (34:20):
With, you know, because there's a lot of boobage
that you see.
But the story you know, and Ireally did like the ending, the
very, very ending.
You know, I thought that waskind of good.
So I would say I would say Istill don't know that it's Oscar
worthy, right, so worthwatching Worth watching.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
I think we all agree it shouldn't have won the Oscar.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
Yeah, but it didn't win for best film.
Did it, it did, I thought itwas just her.
Speaker 3 (34:53):
No, no, it won best film and she won for best
actress, and that's the thingthat's like.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
I have seen her in some different stuff and every
time I see her she does.
She is a really good actress.
What else?
I think her filmography to useyour term is quite extensive in
a lot of different things.
She's been acting for a longtime.
She's not this ingenue upstart.
(35:20):
She's got a.
She was in Well well, I think Iused it as a shot months ago.
Was that, um, that seriesbetter things?
better things yeah she's theoldest daughter in that, okay,
um totally different personalitythan in this one Mikey Mikey
(35:42):
Madsen, I think, is her name.
Speaker 3 (35:44):
Right.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
And I really didn't recognize anybody else in that
cast?
No.
Speaker 4 (35:52):
I didn't either.
Speaker 3 (35:53):
Yeah, so that's my shot.
Give it a shot people.
Give it a shot.
There you go Give it a shot.
Yeah, all right, all right,shot.
Give it a shot, people give ita shot.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
There you go give it a shot.
Yeah, all right, all right.
Speaker 3 (36:03):
Well, on that note, I say let the friendship games
continue right, yes, and we willreport back in a month our
progress back.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
We have been doing yes oh hey, speaking of
friendship, we were good, wewere gonna talk about this in an
upcoming episode.
We are going to re-watch um andtalk about um.
A re-watch show that.
So you know, see if it stillholds up.
And so the one that we kind ofdecided the three of us were
(36:35):
going to do is watching the fourseasons.
Four seasons, four seasons.
It's out right now as a series,but it is based off a movie
from the seventies, so 81, 1981.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Yeah, Wow.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
Okay, 81.
That's close to the seventies,1981.
Speaker 3 (36:53):
If if I didn't know, because of the streaming service
that told me it was 1981, I'dhave guessed it was a lot
earlier than that too.
It is 1981.
Yep, and the remake now is moreof a series, I think six or
eight parts or whatever.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
I think it's an eight-part series.
Speaker 3 (37:10):
Yeah, tina Fey, and I don't know who else I can't
remember now.
Oh, yep, steve Carell.
Speaker 2 (37:17):
Steve Carell, tina Fey yeah, steve.
Speaker 3 (37:19):
Carell, steve Carell, tina Fey Will Fort the old
version 1981 version is AlanAlda Rena.
Moreno, sandy Dennis, is thaton Netflix or Amazon?
It's on Netflix right now.
You can catch the old one.
Speaker 2 (37:36):
Everybody do a little homework from the comfort of
your own, your own home againwatch four seasons, the series
that's live, you know that'sstreaming and watch the four
seasons original movie, yeah,and then let's discuss, yes, all
about friendship, again, allabout friendship.
(37:59):
Awesome, it's good.
All right, people, we betterget on it.
We've got a lot to do in thenext.
Yes, all right, we do love youguys Good night.
Speaker 4 (38:14):
See you next week.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
Bye-bye that.
Wow, here I go.
Here I go coming.
I can't ever stop i'ma tour theforest running.
Get me to the top.
I don't need an invitation.
I'm about to start acelebration.
Let me in.
Brought a good time for somefriends.
Turn it up loud past 10.
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