40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!

Episodes

August 8, 2025 57 mins

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Author Christopher Rice (aka C. Travis Rice) talks about his newest steamy romance Party of 3—and the real-life complexities behind the fantasy. From open relationships to throuples, they dive deep into poly dynamics, personal authenticity, post-sex separation cues, and why queer relationships don’t need to fit straight molds....
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In this powerful and vulnerable episode I sit down with somatic sex educator and retreat leader Court Vox for an unfiltered conversation on reclaiming erotic truth, surrender, and personal power—especially as gay men navigating a heavy, noisy world. We dive into:
  • Why rope work is more than kink—it’s about presence, trust, and release
  • How global unrest impacts our capacity for pleasure and emotional expression
  • The ...
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What happens when two grown men finally stop pretending and start living as their fully authentic selves?

In this powerful episode, Rick Clemons sits down with Mark Dembo to talk about coming out later in life, the messy beauty of self-discovery, and the liberating (and terrifying) freedom that comes with being unapologetically you.

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Tired of swiping? You’re not alone.

Tammy Shaklee—LGBTQ relationship expert and founder of H4M Matchmaking—is here to say what most of us already know: app fatigue is real, and no one’s finding true love buried in DMs and torso pics.

In this episode, Tammy and I talk about how real, lasting connection happens Read more

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Why is it still so hard to just be in your own skin when you’re a gay Latinx man? From religious guilt to macho pressure, the layers of shame and silence can run deep. In this episode, therapist and NYU instructor Lucas Saiter joins us to unpack the mental health challenges gay Latinx men face—and how we can finally stop carrying everyone else's expectations. Lucas brings powerful insight as a clinician, Latinx gay man, and c...
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    The world has become galvanized, polarized, and hell bent on not talking and seeing each other. You're either on my side or out...even in our own LGBTQ+ Community. So how do we find center, find each other, and let each other be the gay men we are, without throwing each other under the bus of hate? David Grass, journalist and television commentator joins us today to share his perspective in navigating our world and getting us all b...
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    What if your anxiety wasn’t something broken—but an invitation?

    In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible Cory Schneider (LMFT, SPHR, CDE), a queer therapist and leadership coach who brings serious depth to the conversation around identity, mental health, and healing.

    We talk about how we’re living in an anxiety generation...

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    Shame is that pebble in the shoe that many of us as gay men just can't seem to get away from. Whether its religious shaming, masculinity shame, or simply the shame of "being gay," there is nothing sacred about owning shame. It's time to uncover the shame of our past, deal with it in our present, and not allow it to leak into our future. Sacred intimate and founder of PostShame.org, Adam MacLean brings his beautiful fierce and sacre...
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    As Pride 2025 is upon us, what are we really celebrating—

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    What exactly is Queer Joy? How do you

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    Pride season is supposed to be all glitter, joy, and celebration—but for many, it can bring up waves of anxiety, loneliness, and even depression. So how do you keep your spirit lifted when everyone else seems to be riding rainbows, and you’re just trying to stay afloat?

    In this powerful and heart-centered episode, we’re joined by the fabulous W...

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    In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Rahim Thawer (

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    Today the word "Christian" is polarizing. In fact for many it conjures up words like hate, nationalism, evil, fear. WOW...it should not. Then couple that word with Queer, and you might as well be burned at the stake! Let's not do that. Instead, let's invite Queer Christians to the table to embrace their love of goad and faith, and invite others who do not believe you deserve a place at the table, to have human conversations to chan...
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    Maybe you find yourself bored in your couple. Then you decide playing together with another guy could be fun...and it is. Then you decide that maybe having another guy in the middle (so to speak) on a permanent basis will make your relationship thrive (so to speak). And then it doesn't! Helping us explore this whole concept of the Throuple live, is TV producer and Author Jeff Hudson, sharing his brand new book, Deconstructing Us: M...
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    Navigating gay relationships isn't easy, but it can be worth it. Yet, for most gay men, that 1st breakup can be a doozy and waht we often don't realized is where that pain is rooted...it's not where you think. Shedding light on how to overcome trauma, is RTT Therapy specialist, Lonay Halloum, who guides us to explore a powerful therapy technique for navigating relationship pain in a new way. In this episode:
    • Discover a ...
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    Relationships are messy - gay or straight! So what happens when you have that candid conversation with your spouse, letting her know that your biseuxal, but you mutually decide that for the betterment of each other, your family, and your future to have a non-monogamous open marriage? What could go wrong? What could go right? Today's guest, and debut Author Wayne Scott, shares about his journey as a bisexual man, and how he and h...
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    Financial uncertainty in 2025? Don’t panic—David Lester, TV money expert, coach, and author, is here to help! Known as "Your Money Gay Best Friend" (MGBF), David dishes out tough love, smart money moves, and a little fabulous flair to get your finances in check. Key lessons you'll learn:
    • How to build a rock-solid money mindset
    • Smart strategies for navigating financial uncertainty
    • Why investing in FREE entertainmen...
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    Connection. We all yearn for it in different ways - personally, professionally, and erotically. Plus, connection in so many other ways. Yet what happened for me over a 4-day Connect Retreat with Court Vox - Certified Intimacy and Sex coach, was surprising, intriguing, scary, exiting, and led me places I never would have imagined - in all areas of my life. Today I share my raw truths, experiences, and insights in this episode. Yo...
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    COVID changed everything—our priorities, our beliefs, and the way we see ourselves. For celebrity hair colorist Corey Powell, it sparked a deeper calling: to help others in the LGBTQ+ community break free from the stories holding them back. After years of coaching clients from his salon chair, Corey took the leap to become a life coach, guiding the LGBTQ+ community toward living their most authentic lives.

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