40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!

Episodes

February 3, 2023 43 min
It's really easy to get bitchy with each other in our gay male community. Whether it is on the apps, in relationships, or when we are trying to come out. But what would happen if we worked on the big "E" and I'm not talking about erections. Instead, imagine using EMPATHY to better understand each other as gay men. Empathy Activist Rob Volpe, and author of the book Tell Me More About That: Solving the Empathy Crisis ...
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Great sex. Fun Sex. Sex on your terms, your way. Why is that so hard for so many gay guys to achieve? Because of shame, shame, shame about sex and asking for what you want, not only in sex, but in life. We're breaking the shame game today and inviting you to let your sexual freak flag fly, not matter what your sexual desires might be. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the th...
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Debt. Most Americans, and many, many, many gay men have it. Why? Because we want to live a fabulous life and then we end up fabulously in debt. No fun at all. I know. Been there done that a couple of times. So how do you manage all this and do it with fabulous gay style? Call on the Debt Free Guys - David and John - hosts of the Queer Money Podcast. So let's talk money guys and see what we can do to get you on track and having ...
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I want more. I want to be better. I need something different in my life. Ok, cool. But do you get so obsessed about that as a gay man that you never get where you are going, or get what you are trying to achieve? Well then this podcast can guide get more, better, different with some simple tricks you can implement today. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telli...
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Whether it is better sexual health - rock hard erections, stamina, or screwing like a porn star - most gay men want great sex but do they do what they need to do for better sexual health. The answer is "NO!" Here to guide towards better habits and practices, is Dr. Judson Brandeis, Top Urologist in the SF Bay Area, and ally to the LGBTQ community, with ways to improve your health, sex life and even the length and girth of y...
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New Years is just two days away and while we could do, "Tips for making the most of your New Year," instead let's declutter our lives so we can have a great start for making the most of our new year. Here's a no bullcrap way of getting the junk out of your life so you can get focused on what is really important in 2023. Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing...
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Instead of getting caught up in your gay life that doesn't please or serve you, go have a stroke. Actually don't. I speak from experience in this podcast about how to stroke other things in life to bring you happiness, rather than dealing with a stroke. Just make sure what you are stroking pays off, and I'm not talking about a money shot! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You...
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Your partner has cancer, then recovers. Then you have cancer, and recover. Then your partner and pets both pass on. All of this while lovely COVID is reeking havoc on the planet. How do you thrive through this much turmoil? You trust the process and see the beauty in the challenges. Avid listener and beautiful gay man with a soulful heart, Jason Arnold, vulnerably shares his journey of loss and grief and how he is navigating is 40 ...
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If I make them happy, then I will be liked. Or even better, if I do this for them then they will do something nice for me. Sound familiar? It's call being a pleaser and as gay men, we have tried to please everyone else, hiding our true self, and then when we come out, it doesn't end, until you confront the pleaser within, and fix that madness. Today we explore who to take your pleaser saboteur and put him in the right place...
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Authenticity is one of those words that can be cringe or cult worthy. For most gay men, it is something that we all struggle with as we battle the demon of "that's not what you're supposed to be." Let's end that battle and look at authenticity through the lens of how you define it, and only how you define it. Joining me on the podcast today is Coach Maddox - the authenticity activist and host of The Authentic G...
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Dating. It's either fun or the bane of your existence. Whatever happened to the good old days of waving a magic wand and meeting Prince Charming. LMAO. Yeah, keep dreaming men. It's time to do the work and make those relationships happen. What better way to celebrate the 200th episode of 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk than to have a candid conversation about Cupid's Arrow with Michael Kay, Head of Global Communications at ...
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Stop whining and start celebrating your milestones of life - age, career advancements, make-ups and breakups, losing weight, gaining weight. They are all milestones that give us the goods to move our lives forward if we use those milestones to kick ourselves in the ass for good instead of moping around like a whiny old man. Here's the goods on turning those milestones into opportunities. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk ...
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Sex, sex, sex. That's all gay men care about. Not exactly true but even if it is, sex and sexual pleasure can get the best and worst of us as we age...or does it? Intimacy expert, Susan Bratton joins me today for a very candid, raw, sexual chat about everything sexual and how to take care of your cock, balls, and masculine energy around sex. Jump on boys, this is one you won't soon forget. About Susan Susan Bratton "Int...
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Aging. Wondering what do I do and where will my life lead me? It's happening to all of us. One of the biggest questions is "When the time comes, where do I find a community that is welcoming to me as an aging, retired gay man, without the fear of having to hide back in the closet?" Loren Ostrow, the founder and developer of Out Palm Springs shares how he and his organization is changing retirement living for the LGBTQ c...

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You have this burning desire to do your own thing, start your own business, be your own boss. Great. Awesome. Then the challenges arise and instead of walking away from a job, you just built yourself a job that you can't get away from. Stefaan DeVreese candidly shares the in's and out's of being a gay man in mid-life who is building a business, and the resilience it takes to be a titan in your own world. Listen for gre...
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Living life is messy. Messy, messy, messy. Now add to it being a gay man, and Lord help us, it can get real messy. Helping us undo some of that mess when we think it is impossible is Author Britt East, sharing wisdom from his book "A Gay Man's Guide To Life." Listen up and you just might learn something that you need to. About Britt BRITT EAST is an author and speaker who uses his experience, strength, and hope to chall...
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It's too late to come out. It's too late to find a relationship. It's too late to find my passion. BULLSHIT! You can come out of the closet of your life, regardless of what that closet is, even when you think it is impossible. These five tips will help you see the thought - "too late" - in a whole new way. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gathe...
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Seems non-monogamy is more and more common as gay men try to find themselves in their relationships in a way that works for them as individuals and as a couple, or even a thruple. So how do you make it all work when Monogamy isn't the way. Polyamory expert Kitty Chambliss joins us today to give you great insights on how to thrive in your relationship when the typical just isn't going to cut it. About Kitty A born-and-raised...
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We guys over 40, should have so much figured out in life, like how not to get our "buttons pushed" by other people. Ok, that is probably not 100% true, but we should have a way to combat that, right? No matter where you are in your station in life, people are going to get under your skin, and sometimes it will harbor there for weeks and months on end. I know, and I am sharing first-hand how to combat this "button pushin...
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Imagine going from being an active member of one of the most well known evangelical churches in Houston - Lakewood Church - yes that one...to becoming a drug addict, dealer,  being homeless and serving in the armed forces. Talk about polar opposites, but it is his reality, his story, and his journey to be himself as a gay man. De'Vannon Hubert shares his journey of life beyond struggles and near catastrophe. About DeVannon De’V...
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