40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity, sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success, and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our lives as gay men 40+ years of age!

Episodes

November 7, 2025 42 mins
In this open and unapologetic conversation, Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, talks about sexual wellness, communication, and confidence at any age. From lube myths to aging libidos, solo masturbation to mutual pleasure, we explore how science, honesty,...

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In this Halloween episode of 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk., host Rick Clemons sits down with UK-based author and creative professional Ricky Baxter to explore what it means to keep your creativity alive as a gay man over 40. They dive deep into the press...

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In this powerful episode, Eric Swanson activist, performer, and drag entertainer - aka Miss Bouvier - joins me to talk about what it really means to keep Pride alive when the world feels divided. From Florida’s political battlegrounds to global stages in Amsterdam, Eric opens up about using performance as protest, the legacy of Stonewall, and why LGBTQ+ unity is more vital than ever.

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In this episode of 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk, Rick sits down with author Cas Holman - author, creative designer, and playful instigator, to explore the power of playfulness in adult life—and why it matters more than ever for gay men over 40. From family life to queerness to creativity, Cas shares insights from their new book ...
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In this powerful National Coming Out Day episode, Rick Clemons sits down with Brian Bond, CEO of PFLAG National, to talk about the organization’s 52-year mission of supporting LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. From the history of PFLAG to personal coming out stories and the creation of affirming spaces across America, Brian shares how the movement has grown and why community support still matters...
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Talking about condoms shouldn’t feel awkward—it should feel empowering. In this episode, I sit down with Milla Impola, a sexual health educator and advocate with ONE® Condoms, to explore how pleasure, safety, and confidence all go hand-in-hand. From the FDA approval of condoms for anal sex to the innovation of over 50 c...

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In this episode, choreographer and dancer David Rousseve joins Rick to share his inspiring journey—from Princeton to law school to the dance stage. David opens up about the recent loss of his husband, his bold leap into the arts, and his upcoming performances in Pittsburgh and Los Angeles. Together, they explore themes of love, aging, resilience, and why following...

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About John

John Casey is senior editor of The Advocate, writing columns about political, societal, and topical issues with leading newsmakers of the day.

The columns include interviews with Sam Altman, Mark Cuban, Colman Domingo, Jennifer Coolidge, Kelly Ripa and Mark Counselos, Jamie Lee Curtis, Shirley MacLaine, Neil Patrick Harris, Ellen DeGeneres, Bridget Everett, U.S. Reps. Nancy Pelosi, ...

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Gay men often live for the fun of today but forget to plan for tomorrow. Enter Brian Thompson, queer financial advisor and founder of Brian Thompson Financial LLC. With a background as a tax attorney and host of the Mission Driven Business podcast, Bri...

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In today's episode, Rick Clemons interviews author Bill Hulseman about his new book Six to Carry the Casket and One to Say the Mass. Bill opens up about growing up Catholic, embracing his queer identity, and discovering the transformative role of ritual in weddings, community, and personal healing. From his own wedding cer...

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In this episode I’m joined by keynote speaker and workshop leader Rob Giardinelli to unpack the real reason so many of us as gay men fumble in rooms (not back rooms) full of people, and how to flip that script without turning into someone you’re not.

Whether it’s a networking mixer, a conference, or that awkward social gay happy hour—you’ll walk away with real t...

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In this deeply moving episode, Rick sits down with poet and cancer survivor Mickie Kennedy to explore how poetry became a tool for healing after prostate and colon cancer. Together, they unpack the power of storytelling, the challenges of queer survival during the AIDS crisis, and the urgency of preserving LGBTQ+ histories. From laughter about fiducials to...
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    What do you get when a 63-year-old gay man becomes the adoptive father of a homeless 21-year-old gay teen?

    You get a story that redefines family, masculinity, and what it means to show the hell up for someone.

    In this episode, I sit down with Brian Gorman—maverick coach, neuroscience nerd, and proud single dad—to talk about th...

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    Why is hearing “no” so hard for gay men? Read more

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    Author Christopher Rice (aka C. Travis Rice) talks about his newest steamy romance Party of 3—and the real-life complexities behind the fantasy. From open relationships to throuples, they dive deep into poly dynamics, personal authenticity, post-sex separation cues, and why queer relationships don’t need to fit straight molds....
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    In this powerful and vulnerable episode I sit down with somatic sex educator and retreat leader Court Vox for an unfiltered conversation on reclaiming erotic truth, surrender, and personal power—especially as gay men navigating a heavy, noisy world. We dive into:
    • Why rope work is more than kink—it’s about presence, trust, and release
    • How global unrest impacts our capacity for pleasure and emotional expression
    • The ...
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    What happens when two grown men finally stop pretending and start living as their fully authentic selves?

    In this powerful episode, Rick Clemons sits down with Mark Dembo to talk about coming out later in life, the messy beauty of self-discovery, and the liberating (and terrifying) freedom that comes with being unapologetically you.

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    Tired of swiping? You’re not alone.

    Tammy Shaklee—LGBTQ relationship expert and founder of H4M Matchmaking—is here to say what most of us already know: app fatigue is real, and no one’s finding true love buried in DMs and torso pics.

    In this episode, Tammy and I talk about how real, lasting connection happens Read more

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    Why is it still so hard to just be in your own skin when you’re a gay Latinx man? From religious guilt to macho pressure, the layers of shame and silence can run deep. In this episode, therapist and NYU instructor Lucas Saiter joins us to unpack the mental health challenges gay Latinx men face—and how we can finally stop carrying everyone else's expectations. Lucas brings powerful insight as a clinician, Latinx gay man, and c...
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    The world has become galvanized, polarized, and hell bent on not talking and seeing each other. You're either on my side or out...even in our own LGBTQ+ Community. So how do we find center, find each other, and let each other be the gay men we are, without throwing each other under the bus of hate? David Grass, journalist and television commentator joins us today to share his perspective in navigating our world and getting us all b...
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