Episode 7: The Importance of Community

In this episode I talk with two fellow gentle warrior sisters-Brittany Neal and Danielle DeMarco. We discuss what made each of us join GW, the importance of community and being held through healing, and what has surprised us the most in joining a healing group. We also discuss life experiences, how you can find community in other ways, and what has been the biggest blessing from finding a sisterhood. 

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Episode Transcript

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In the darkness, I found mylight.
In the broken, I found my fight.
Through the struggles, I learnedto soar.
I rose above and I wanted more.
I am the eighth wonder.
Standing tall, I won't be tornasunder.

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I've healed the wounds I'veovercome.
I am the eighth wonder.
The strongest one.

Ashley (00:38):
Hello, and welcome to the eighth wonder podcast,
inspiring you to be proud ofwhere you're at one story at a
time.
I'm your host, Ashley.
Let's get started.
Welcome to episode six.
we have two fellow beautiful,gentle warrior sisters here,
Danielle and Brittany.
Say hi guys.
Hi.
So excited you guys are here.
Thanks for having us.
Yeah.
Thank you.
I'm excited.

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Of course.
I just want to today talk aboutGentle Warrior as like the
community that it's created forus and like how it's changed our
lives.
the first question I wanted toask, and either of you can
answer first, but, what made youjoin Gentle Warrior?
what was your like, aha, I needto join this group moment?
I've got a kind of unique storywith it.

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Um, actually met Jeremy andTaryn Neves, um, about six
months before the groupie birth.
So my husband was a part of, um,Jeremy's Abundant Tribe and we
went on a Mexico vacation And itpretty much changed the

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trajectory of our entire life.
Um, we were living in Dayton,Ohio at one point, and we kind
of came home and said, Hey,listen, like we're wanting, we
met this rad group of people.
Um, Taryn hadn't even launchedGentle Warrior at that point.
So, um, it was one of thosethings where we were, we came

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home, talked to our oldestdaughter and she actually said
yes, which is very rare for a 14year old to want to pack up from
Ohio and move across country.
So we started that and kind ofput it in motion and then Taryn
announced the group like threeor four months after that
vacation and I had alreadysigned up to do one on one

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coaching with her.
So it was like, What the hell?
I might as well.
And like, you know, I'm movingacross country.
I have no friends out thereother than the few people that
we, you know, interacted withand met with.
Um, and I was looking truly forjust kind of a group of women
that would be able to meet mewhere I was at.
And was on the same kind oftrajectory as me.

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And that was just something thatwas missing.
It had been missing for years.
So it was, I kind of felt like ano brainer.
Yeah.
You guys were just going to comeget, you're just going to get
me.
But was that scary for you?
It was so scary.
Yeah.
Part of it.
I mean, I lived in Ohio my wholelife and our entire family was

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there.
Like, um, we were very activewith our family, like kind of
doing family events and.
Just everything.
Um, and we left a lot of stuffbehind, you know, not just
people, but, you know, a homethat we thought that we were
going to be at for forever.
Yeah.
It was just, it was, it wascrazy, but it was great.
So cool.

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Yeah.
It's really badass that you didthat.
I'm like, I don't know if Iwould have been brave enough to
move across the country and belike, and it's really cool that
It was like a true YOLO moment,you know, and, and being at that
time, like, what is it?
30, 37 years old.
Like, it was like, okay, we'redoing this.
We're moving two kids.

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Two dogs, a ball python, whichhad to sit in the middle of the
road.
Oh my gosh! Do you have a snake?
Yes! Do you have a snake?
I do.
Yes.
Yes, her name is Kaya, and shesat in, like, right up front
with us.
Oh my goodness! The whole 26hours that we drove out to Utah,
so.
That is awesome.
Legit.

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I'm like, I told my oldestdaughter, like, you make sure
that she does not get out.
Cause if she starts wrappingaround me while we're driving,
like we're going to have issues.
But yeah.
And the two dogs in the back,like Jake's got the moving truck
and it's Arabella on the frontseat, man.
It was an interesting.
Do you need pictures?
I, I don't.

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Oh, I know.
I'm like, I want to see those.
The whole try the whole time.
I was like, And I probablyshouldn't say this, but we were
drugging the dog.
So that way they wouldn't actcrazy.
Like they had their, their stuffthat made them real drowsy.
So, um, we had that going forus.
And then, um, you know, the, thesnake in between us, I'm like,

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We fed her before we left, soI'm like, she'll be good for
like, a week until we getsettled.
Oh my goodness.
But yeah, it was, it was, it waswild.
I have to say.
Yeah.
You said, I don't know if I'd bebrave enough to do that.
Yeah.
Isn't it funny to actually thinkthat?
Old me would've been like, I,yeah.
I don't, I couldn't do that.

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But yeah.
Now knowing, now knowing I woulddo it in a heartbeat.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And the magic and the all of it.
Mm-Hmm.
Can, I can see you and Nick to,are you kidding?
I could see you guys Totally.
Yeah.
Going on a trip and with thegroup and then like, okay, yeah,
let's do this.
True.
It's true.
It felt like home.

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Yeah.
I mean, I've never met likewomen.
That's so sweet.
And just even in the men.
Um, you know, some of ourchoices and friends prior, um,
were just, I wouldn't probablyput people in that, like that
vault category.
Um, it was more likeacquaintances and it was more

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people that, you know, we're onone trajectory and we just
wanted more.
So it always felt like we were alittle, once Jake, my husband
started to really dive into thework, like he went first.
And I obviously followed and itjust felt like we needed to have

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that, like, support andcommunity in those, in those
choices that we were making tobetter ourselves, but then also,
you know, break some of thegenerational trauma that we
were, that we carried with us.
So, and it's, I mean, this workis not for the faint hearted.
No, it's not.
It's not.
It's not.
I mean, it's, it's every day.

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It's a struggle and you, youneed that.
And you kind of need the peoplethat are on the same trajectory.
I love that.
That was my story.
It's kind of a long windedstory.
No, I love it.
Ohio to Utah and we're here.
I love it so much.
It's like perfect.
It's exactly what I want to talkabout is like it shows the
importance of community that youwere willing to like pack up

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your whole life and come herebecause you knew the importance
of it.
So beautiful.
Interesting, Taryn.
Yeah.
How could you not?
Yeah, it's true.
Hey, Jeremy, my gosh.
So good.
Yeah, my, why I joined GentleWarrior.

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So I admit it's all, I metJeremy and Taryn in, I think it
was 2020.
Um, in a personal developmenttraining, I staffed their
training and then like startedfollowing them on social media
and just watched Terrin'sjourney.
And, um, she had shared going toRhythmia and Costa Rica and like

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her, Ayahuasca story.
And after that, when sheannounced that she was taking a
group back to arrhythmia, um, I,yeah, just hit her up and was
like, can we go to lunch?
So we went to lunch.
I decided, I was like fillingthe call, like, okay, like I'm
in, I'd paid for the trip andeverything.

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I think 20, let's see.
20, we went in 23, right?
So 22, like fall of 22.
And then, um, by January, Ithink she announced it that she
was doing it in like January.
That feels right.
Yeah.
I think it was January, maybe,but January.

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Cause I think we started inFebruary of 23.
Um, and I was headed for.
Ayahuasca with them in March,and Planyel had done a lot of
prep.
Of course she did.
Just takes it very serious.

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Doing a ton of crosswords andall that internal work.
Um, and I did know from theresearch, I had nothing, like
how important integration is.
And so like when she announcedit, I was like, yeah, like I
want to have a community ofpeople that can hold me through,

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um, cause not only is like themedicine is super important, but
If you don't integrate and youdon't have someone to kind of
like keep you on your path aftermedicine can just be kind of an
experience.
Yeah.
So for me it was the same thinglike no brainer.
Yeah.
Um, and then yeah, that's why Ijoined the group.

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For me, it's interesting becauseI didn't know, like, that there
would be a huge, like, I didn'teven know the sense of humanity
that I needed.
Um, I was, it's so wild.
I was just friends with Chiara,who is Taryn's sister in law,
and she, like, told me, Taryn'sstarting this project.
Gentle warrior group, it's fullwent for women, like on a

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healing path and I had likedipped my toes into healing, but
I had never done like breathwork or any of those type of
things.
Um, I've been mostly likecounseling and getting through
and I've shared that before.
And so, um.
Cara is like, we should join.
And I'm like, Oh, I don't know.
Like, and she's like, just fillout the application, like talk
to Taryn and see how you feel.
And so I fill out theapplication and then I talked to

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Taryn.
I was like, done.
Like, like you said, like, howcan you not trust her?
She's just incredible.
Um, but it's been a hugesurprise for me, the community
because it's not what I went infor.
I went in because I was justlike, yeah, I need something
else.
Like I need to heal more.
I knew that.
Um, and so the community hasbeen the biggest surprise for me
and the most healing for me.
So it's been really cool., Ialso wanted to ask, what do you

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guys feel like the differenceis?
Cause I've had that questionbefore.
Like what's the difference ingentle warrior between just like
friend groups of women and likeother groups that you've been in
or, um, I know there's a lot ofwomen that are fearful to join
groups full of women.
So I just kind of want to touchon like the difference of gentle
warrior.
And what we've experiencedbefore.

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Um, for me, I feel like thedifference it's Taryn, like
Taryn, just the way she openedup the group and just was like,
shared herself.
And was very vulnerable and thenjust like laid the groundwork
for how things are going to be.
Um, I think set the tone for allof us having taken it very

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serious, like with like areverence and maybe I'm just
speaking for myself, but itfills, I feel that I feel the
safety and I feel like it'sbecause she laid the groundwork.
Yeah.
I mean, she created the, thecontainer.
Yeah.
Sure.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
Totally.
And, you know, for, I know Dani,you and I, like in, in the

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corporate world, it's just, it'sso, it's such a different type
of friendship and a differenttype of sisterhood that I just
don't feel like there's manythat could truly compare because
of how vulnerable Taryn was andalso just making sure that her

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expectations of, of what thegroup was going to be.
It's out there too.
I mean and ultimately she waslooking for that too.
She created what she was whatshe was looking for Yeah, what
she wanted.
Yeah, which is so cool Yeah, andI forgot what I was gonna say

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Yeah, we got one pregnancy brainand two mom brains Just I think
one of Taryn's gifts is that Shecoaches and leads in such a
beautiful way that.
There is an ego attached and,um, she's in the work with us

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and she's never claimed to notbe.
And so I think her leading andshow, I call her a way shower,
she's a way shower and sheinspires all of us to be human.
And she does that by beinghuman.
Yes.
And we all make mistakes.
Like all of us are in the work.

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And for me, why Gentle Warriorhas been so powerful, I'm gonna
get choked up, is because it'slike, I didn't know I had
anything missing either, justlike you.
Yeah.
But to have this container kindof like created, and then
knowing to be a human and likestart using these tools that

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she's talking about with eachother.
And um, it gives me more courageto like work on it, like build
the muscle and then take it outinto real life and use it.
And that's been, that's why it'sbeen so powerful for me is to
like see blind spots in otherpeople and then be brave enough

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to.
To discuss them.
Yeah.
And then to know that like, it'sa safe container that I want
everyone to call me on my blindspots too.
And that's how we grow is bylike pulling each other up.
Yes.
And it just, Oh, it's the best.
It is the best.
I was thinking the same thing.
Like Taryn has been just sohuman and so like raw and real

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with us.
Like she doesn't get on callsand not share her own shit too.
Like, she's like, I'm goingthrough this right now and I'm
doing this.
And I'm, she shows up totallyauthentic and vulnerable.
And it has been such apermission for all of us to do
the same.
It's why I'm here.
It's why I'm sharing stories isbecause her first sharing her

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story and giving us allpermission to share ours has
changed my whole life.
Like, it's so rad.
I don't even have words, like,English words to say of what it
has done for me.
You know, literally just had afreaking full circle moment,
Ash.
Yeah.
Because look at you, you didn'treally know.
You guys, when you met me, Iknow.

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Ashley was my firstaccountability buddy.
Yeah.
I love that.
And we exchanged numbers and wegot on Marco Polo.
And we started Marco ing eachother, and I think I'm like the
person that's just like, So,here's right where I'm at.
Yeah, I love it.
It's so good.
It's totally me.
And then Ash just got on and waslike, on Marco, and was like, So

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this is so out of, no, I don'teven think you led with that.
Yeah, I don't think I did.
You told me right where youwere.
Mm hmm.
And then at the end she waslike, This is so out of my
comfort zone.
And then I had Marco back, I'mlike, Is it?
Because you're just like, That,I never realized that.
Yeah.
Like, so to go from there andhow you talk about like, you

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were in a place in your lifewhere you were so anxious you
didn't want to call and make adoctor's appointment.
Yeah.
To like this.
Yeah.
I'm just, it's been so beautifulto witness.
Thank you.
It's been really fun.
Chills.
I know.
Proud of you.
Thank you.
So sweet.
Killed the game.
You guys are so, so nice to youguys.
This is why community isimportant.
They're sweeter to me then.

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I know we have a bunch of them.
Yeah.
Can't hurt to have 10 hypegirls.
That's so good.
You know, people that are goingto meet you where you're at, you
know, it's someday.
I've had so many friendships,and I'm sure that you guys have
too, where like, you know, youmight have yelled at the dogs,

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yelled at the kids, spilled shitall over the floor.
Sorry, I don't know if you'reallowed to cuss.
Yes, you are.
You're allowed to say whateveryou want.
God, draw back that little Ohio.
Leave me.
Um, but like, you know, things,things happen, and, and
sometimes like, There would betimes where I'd be in the middle
of a meltdown, like just crying,and like, just feeling really

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crappy about myself, or feelinglike I didn't have it all
together, and when a friendwould call, they would be like,
Hey, how's it going?
Oh, it's good.
Everything's great.
It was a lie, but it was reallythat safety.
Like you didn't feel safe totell people where you're at.

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Conditioned.
Yeah.
We're literally conditioned andsociety.
Had to have it all together.
And like, I love the generationthat came before us.
Love my parents.
Love my grandparents.
They paved the way.
I wouldn't be here without them.
Totally.
So, so much credit and respectto the generations before us,

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but we were not taught to writewhere we are and I mean, I only
had a, it was a week long timein Costa Rica around this
beautiful culture that's likevery tribal and, um, It just, I

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was thinking about it on thedrive here, like what's so
different about our modern day,you know, like the modern
society and like the Westernworld is that like, we're very
far advanced, like information,like all of this, but what we've
lost is like our roots in thesense of like having, and for

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me, like native American, likeI'm part, I'm.
I'm a quarter Native American,and I think I was drawn to a lot
of this medicine because mygrandma and like those native
roots.
Mm-Hmm.
And if you think back when likeNative Americans were going
through things, they would takeeach other and they would take
whoever was struggling into asweat lodge.

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Yeah.
Or a, an hot a teepee like, andthey would rally around each
other and they would hold eachother through hard things and.
That aspect is what like, Oh, Ihave chills.
Like, I think that's what Tarynand like Jimmy with Watt, like

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they see the value in it andthey're creating that here in
our like, Modern day.
That is so needed.
Like, and just to go deepbecause I was thinking about
this on the way here.
Like for me, a lot of my healingjourney started.
Um, with a lot of loss in mylife, like lost my brother in a

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car accident, a lot ofaddiction.
And when you go throughsomething like that, it changes
you and you always, like, I willnever forget the people that
have looked me in the eye inthose moments and been with me
in pain, like through my pain.
And I think that's what we aremissing.

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And, um, I'm sure there's lotsof stigmas around these groups
and around, like, you know whatI mean?
Yeah.
What is this?
It's such a trip.
Yeah.
And it's like, really, when youthink about it, and now that
we've experienced it, it's sodifferent than what people
actually think that it is.
100 percent.
It's, we're like loving eachother through Loving the darkest

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parts of ourselves.
Yes.
Like the darkness that I'veshared with like the, you know,
like, and you all have loved meanyway, like, and more loved you
more.
It's a while in it, but thenobserving it in others.
When they show me their darkestparts or what they would say are

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their darkest parts, I truly dolove them deeper.
Mm hmm.
Like, it's real and tangible.
Yeah.
So, that is what I love so muchabout all this and why it's life
changing.
Yeah.
Is because, Somewhere along theway it was lost, and I do
believe that our generation isthe generation bringing it back,

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and it's taking people learningto not look to the outside world
for direction or what someoneelse thinks they should do.
It's people like Taryn andJeremy that have sat with
themselves.
And ask themselves for theanswers and they're following

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their heart and it's birthingthese like beautiful things.
I love that.
Truly is.
I mean, I can't have said it anybetter.
I know.
I'm like, that was perfect.
Literally.
We're done.
That's it.
No, I'm just kidding.
Good job.
I did meditation this morning.
It really was like, what?

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It's like, what's the deeperpart of all of this though?
Like, and I'm sure there's somany people that are like,
what's a personal effect?
Like I'm sure I have cowork pastcoworkers that are like, what?
What?
Like, oh, so many people.
Yeah, totally.
It's the best, especially fromthe Midwest.

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I'm thinking like, they're likeour family.
Like when we start talking aboutcertain things, they're like.
Okay.
Yes.
Like, what are you talkingabout?
I mean, my mom has actually beenkind of receptive to it.
Yeah.
She's been, she's like, well,I'm glad that you're just doing
whatever you need to do to, youknow, heal through like parts
of, you know, for, not just foryou, but also for the kids and

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the great grandkids and thegenerations after, um, you know,
I talked on another podcastabout, you know, I was trusted.
You know, as a soul coming intothis world to do that and my
parents played a role in gettingme to the point where I felt

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like I needed to make this, Iguess, take this leap of faith
and moving across the countryis, is a leap of faith, you
know?
And it just, it felt like theytrusted me.
Um, to, to break those cyclesand those generational traumas
that we had, how does that meanthat my kids are completely, you

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know, out of the woods?
Absolutely not.
Oh yeah.
It just, I know, I'm like, it'slike sage that part, you know,
I'm sorry, I just was picturingthat, like, that's actually what
it will be.
Yeah.
And they, you know, but.
Even my, my youngest daughter,we were having a conversation

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the other, or I'm sorry, not myyoungest, my oldest.
I, I still look at her likeshe's a baby, but she's not, uh,
you know, 15 year old.
We were just sitting around oneevening and she looked at me and
she goes, I mentioned somethingabout Arabella, my youngest
doing breath work with Jed.
She, she's my spicy one.

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So I'm like, yeah, I feel likeyou might need some breath work.
I got to cough this down just alittle bit.
I don't want to dim you.
But I also, you know, you can'tjust refine, you can't wake up
right away in the morning and bepissed, like figure this out.
Like, so, you know, she's justspicy.
She's Gemini, like, you know,um, so my, my oldest daughter

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and I were talking about it andshe was like, my, my oldest
daughter really has a soft spotfor it.
Um, Jed and, and Candace andjust their entire family.
She really, truly loves them.
Um, so Candace, Jed, if you'relistening, it's a heartfelt
thing.
Um, but, uh, you know, with it,we were just, we were literally
just talking and she looked atme and she goes, mom, I really

(24:52):
wish we moved out here earlierand I go, why do you feel that
way?
You know, cause at that pointit's like she opened up the
door, you know, so you want toknow.
Explore with questions.
I'm like, why do you feel thatway?
And she goes, I love my familyand I love my friends that I
had, you know, back in Ohio.
She's like, but there's a lot ofhard stuff when you get into

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your teens.
And it feels like.
I could call any one of yourfriends or one of dad's friends
and they would be there for mein a way that I wouldn't have
been able to have.
That is huge.
And I kind of like looked at herand I was like, you know, I

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start to almost tear up becauseI'm like, okay, well this is the
effect.
This is the direct effect thathaving a community that's
willing to kind of open up thoseblind spots.
Look at those shadows, explorethem, heal them.
And this is what it is gonna do.

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And it was like a full circlemoment for me.
You know, not only being herefor just a year.
I'm like, wow the impact thatit's going to have You know even
just this being on this podcastlike do you know how many people
say to me when I'm wearing thesweatshirt?
No, yourself heal the world.
They're like, that's so trueI've had older ladies come up to

(26:22):
me and they've said they're likethat's so true.
I'm like Isn't it?
And I mean, they have thebiggest smile.
So it's almost like, you know,what we talked about earlier of
other generations being thankfulthat we're going and doing these
things in an indirect way, justby wearing a sweatshirt, you

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know, um, and bringing forthlike some of the taboo topics.
That people like riddlethemselves in shame, you know,
and even my, my teenager, likeit's, it's, she's open to go
into breathwork.
She's gone.
She went to a pretty intenseone.
Um, she did.

(27:08):
She, and she's, I mean, butafterwards it was such a great
conversation.
And.
And she was like, there was apart of me that I kind of was
going to play small going intoit.
And she was like, and then Ijust was like, you know what?

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I'm here.
I might as well go for it and itwas really hard being a mom and
listening to your She was rightnext to me and I could feel her
energy and I could hear hercrying So as a mom like the you
wanna you just go and I can'timagine Oh and in that same

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moment and this is her part.
She has to heal I can't do thatfor her.
Now, had I not been work, Imight've gotten jumped out and,
you know, tried to console her,but knowing that, yes, I've had
an impact on her in that way.
And she could be crying aboutsomething that That I gave to

(28:13):
her or created or whatnot, andit's her responsibility to heal
it.
And I can't do that work forher.
I love that.
So it was, it was beautiful.
So I mean, I, she's actuallyexpressed interest in.
Um, you know, possibly, youknow, we're taking that medicine
serum.

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She does make fun of me when Istaged the house though.
She thinks that, um, you know,charging the crystals and like,
you know, stuff like that.
But heck, our whole neighborhoodprobably thinks I'm wack doodles
that those people from Ohio,man, like actually know, like, I
learned this here, you guys haveno idea.

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Oh, I would always used to lookat me like that, too.
What's wrong with her.
And then all of a sudden we allfound each other, got all the
Chris's on, we're ready to go.
Um, I mean, it's, it's just, youknow, the ripple effect and kind
of a like, um, I mean, evenAlina had told me like.

(29:23):
We had Taryn and Jeremy over fordinner, and she's like, they
actually listen to me.
I'm not just like a kid, like,I'm just not sitting at the
dinner table, and they have no,they actually listen to me, and
they care, and I'm like, wow,like that hit me in the heart.
Like, that's, that's, that'samazing.

(29:44):
Yeah.
For a teenage girl to havemultiple, not just mom and dad.
Yeah.
I, I, I would.
It's a tribe.
Yeah.
Tribe.
That's what I'm saying.
Yeah, it really is.
We're, we're here to help eachother and help our kids along,
and There's nothing that I ifone of y'all called me is like,
I need you to take my kid here.

(30:05):
Okay, we're done.
Yeah, we'll get it.
Or if you need me to help youwith anything else.
Yeah, wink, wink.
I'm not sure we should have thatrecorded.
I freaking love you.
Ohio in here, maybe some rules.

(30:32):
Um, you just made me want toshare, which I didn't think I
was going to share this onpodcast, but I did that.
Um, Sangha with Candice, youwere talking about how you were
entrusted to come here.
Like, you know, that andhopefully I don't get too
emotional, but I was in Sanghawith Candice and I was able to

(30:52):
call my mom's highest self inand you guys, I asked her like,
why, why was I treated this way?
And she said, I did what I wassupposed to do.
And I know, and um, and I waslike, okay, um, and Candace was

(31:14):
like, is there anything else shewants to tell you?
And she said, I, my mom said, Iwant you to know that you're
safe in your own body.
And Candace is like, how doesshe know you're safe in your own
body?
And I was like, well, that's agood question.
So I asked her how, how do youknow that?
And she's like, it's a knowing,um, And Candace is like, ask her
what she means by that.
And so I was like, what do youmean in knowing?

(31:35):
And she's like, I knew you wouldbreak it.
Like I knew you would break thecycle.
And it was just so like thatfeeling of like knowing, like a
knowing in your soul that likeyou were entrusted to come here
to do the work and just likehaving that behind you when you
are showing up in really hardshit, like it's so huge.

(31:58):
It was just like, so lifechanging for me.
And so, thank you guys.
But it goes back to the tribe.
Thank you.
Thank you.
But it goes back to the tribe,right?
Like I would have never metCandace.
I would have never had thatexperience.
I would have never been whereI'm at.
Like everything is so perfectlyaligned.
And having the tribe of peoplethat we've met, it's just so

(32:22):
life changing.
It really is.
Love you guys.
Thanks for letting me share.
I'm sure that helps you withyour mom.
Oh my gosh, you guys, I see herin a totally different light.
Just, yeah.
Totally different light.
And that's hard.
Yeah, it's really hard.
It is.
It is hard.
And it's so, yes, it is.
It is so true though.

(32:43):
Conversations with God.
Oh my god.
Yeah, I haven't read it either,but I've heard.
I'm gonna get very slowlybecause it's a lot to take in.
Well, that's where the Sun andthe Soul comes from.
You know that, right?
Yeah.
You didn't know that?
That's in Conversations withGod.
Yeah, it's like a parable inthere and they pulled it out to
make it a children's book.
There's three books, like, inConversations with God.

(33:06):
It's, it's my gal.
I know.
There's messages of the body inthere too, because that one is
eye opening.
Yeah.
I do?
Yeah, we just need to go checkout.
Actually, Candace called me onthat, like, we were in Journey
Space and she's like, In mycart.
She's like, yes, And so good.
Candace said, yes.

(33:29):
like, we'll do it.
Sometimes we need those peoplethough to just like show us
Right like, all right, I'll doit.
It's fine.
so good.
But yes, it is.
It's so like now I can't unseeit.
Like ISI met my mom's highestself and I can't unsee it.

(33:49):
And it's like, that's sobeautiful.
That's a message that hit yourheart.
And that's what starts to createthe shift, you know, you have a
new lens now.
Yeah.
Oh, so you're not seeing herfiltered.
Right.
I'm seeing like her true.
It's not how she parented me.

(34:10):
It's who she truly is.
Yeah.
That's so cool.
And it's so beautiful becausenow you can see it.
And as you continue to heal, shemight start to see it too.
And that's the ripple effect.
So good.
Um, the next thing I wanted totouch on is, I already said this
a little bit, but what hassurprised me the most about

(34:32):
Gentle Warrior is the community.
It's surprised me the most islike having this community that
I didn't even know I wasmissing.
And I had no idea going in thatthat's what would heal me the
most is having people there tolike hold me and love me.
It's given me, I've said itbefore, but like you guys loved
me before I loved myself.
Like you gave me permission tolove myself.
What has surprised you guys themost about Gentle Warrior?

(34:55):
For me, how fast thefriendships.
Like, right.
Yeah.
Just like deep.
Yeah.
Authentic.
Yeah.
And, and that's because Tarynlaid the groundwork.
She did.
Yeah.
It's true.
Of like, okay, like, are wegoing to play here or here or
here, you know?
Yeah.
Yeah.
We all just go right in after.
That's true.
You and I, what, we haven'tknown each other for what,

(35:17):
eight, eight months maybe?
I mean, we've been in the grouptogether.
We've been in the group.
Yeah.
But we didn't really connect,connect until like August of
last year, right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Holy shit.
So it's like all of a sudden.
It's so crazy.
Yeah.
Texting, calling each other onthe shit.

(35:39):
Yeah.
Yeah.
October.
Yeah.
First retreat was really when.
So true.
I think we did the womb healing.
We had that moment on stage.
Oh, let's go get, let's go gobarefoot in the grass.
So true.
And that's what we're justsitting out there and I think we
were looking at each other notsaying a damn word, just like,

(36:03):
okay, that was a lot, but it,it, it was, it was a lot and it,
that was really the first timethat you and I truly connected.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So.
Fast so fast just like oh, no.
I couldn't imagine my lifewithout you guys.
I know right?
Yeah He is allowed to do theBrittany Neal Yolo moving out of

(36:36):
state Okay It's crazy, that'sthe biggest for me.
Yeah I mean, I feel like Ialready shared, like, the most
part.
Yeah.
Um, something does come to mind.
I was talking to a friendyesterday.
And she is a part of this worknow.

(36:57):
She's not a part of GentleWarrior.
Um, but she's been doing plantmedicine and doing a lot of
inner work and we've had somerocky times and using my tools
and using her tools, like wehave kind of turned over a new
leaf in our friendship.
And we've been like talkingheart to heart and just having

(37:19):
hard conversations in order tolike rebuild this friendship.
So anyway, we were talkingyesterday and, um, I actually
had said to her, like, okay, Imight, I'm rewriting a story
here.
So.
Like, I'm just going to tell youhow I've been feeling.
Like, let me know, you know, shecalls me back and we're talking

(37:40):
and she's like, Danielle, she'slike, I'm not going to lie.
Like when you, um, start, youknow, went to Rhythmia and
joined Gentle Warrior, likethere was a part of me that like
felt a little bit abandoned andfelt like I was missing now.
And like, now you have all thesefriends and she's like, but
guess what?
She's like, I get it now.

(38:02):
Like, I get it.
And she's like, I, I really did.
I thought like, Oh, maybe shethinks she's too good for us
now.
And she's like, but I actuallyunderstand that it's not about
me at all.
And I'm so huge.
And she's like, you have justbeen following your path.

(38:25):
And things have been fallingaway, and it hasn't been
intentional, and I'm like,That's so validating.
Yes, scary.
It hasn't been intentional, butit has at the same time, because
I also love even just the littlethings that Taryn has been like,

(38:46):
Okay, are you, like, Cleaning upyour social media or like who
you're following like all thoselittle things like I'm not gonna
lie.
I exited a Group chat that I'vebeen in for years.
Yeah a couple months ago, and Iwas so nervous to do it Thinking
I don't want all of thesebeautiful people that I love to

(39:08):
think I'm like too good for themSo it was like exactly what she
said And I'm like, oh But yousee now that literally it has
nothing to do with anyone else,everything to do with me, and
how like, having these littlemoments because we're being very
intentional with our life oflike, you know what?

(39:30):
Like I love all these people,but I'm just cleaning up things
because I have to make space forwhere I'm wanting to go.
Yes.
So it literally has nothing todo with these people, places,
things that I've exited andeverything to do with like, I've

(39:51):
now learned I need to createspace in my life to refill it
with the things I'm headedtowards.
What did you just say that DGwas, DG said, think of like what
you're doing now is going toaffect the person and then act
like it, like, you know what Imean?

(40:12):
Even though that was like,painful and I had fears, human
fears of like, are they going tothink this?
And then I'm like, that'sactually not what this is.
And I'm just trying to createsome space and clean out.
Like I wasn't very, what's theword active in the group anyway.
So that's literally all that ithad to do with.
So, um, And I also want to godeeper with the people that are

(40:38):
in my life, and that'll give mean opportunity to go deeper with
every one of them, too.
So I don't know, they'lleventually come along.
Yeah.
If they want to, then they'reready, like you just
experienced.
She literally was like, I getit.
And I'm so excited.
Just like, I'm meeting all thesenew people, and I was just like,

(41:01):
Yeah, I mean, and you've done itin so many other ways too.
I mean, you went first, even inyour marriage.
That's what we talked aboutnext.
You went first.
And as you went first, you kindof had these, I guess, just like
people coming along.

(41:21):
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
Like, is this the right, like,is this going to affect, and you
can fill that in all day longwith your fears.
Cause she's experiencing that.
And I literally was like, youjust worry about what your heart
is telling you and everything'sgoing to fall into place.

(41:41):
Like it literally will keepgoing.
Yeah.
I know.
So good.
I just had this like random,like really, this might get too
far.
Nothing's too far.
Yeah.
You think of like Jesus.
Yeah.
The catcher of men.
So if you put yourself kind ofin that same, like that's, you

(42:01):
went first, you started doingthe work, you started him and
all these people just start tokind of come because it's good.
It's yummy.
It's, you know, this is likesuper far outside, you know, of
what we typically talk about.
But I mean, oftentimes like justreading like conversations with
God and you know, the, Oh, gosh,I forget the kids.

(42:23):
I mean, it's, we're all just,you know, human beings, like
looking for a connection andwe're human beings, like.
Looking to be with others withinlike that heart space.
Yeah.
And as you started to do thework, look at the ripple effect
that's followed just withfriends, marriage and not even

(42:46):
your kids yet.
Well start starting there.
one thing at Attack I know Imean, but even for you like, I
mean, could you imagine the viewlike a year ago?
Mm.
Like, how different theconversations are.
Oh my goodness.
It's so crazy.
Just kind of one thing.

(43:06):
Yeah.
Just changing trajectory.
One thing.
So, catcher of men, follower ofcheaters.
It's Sunday.
We gotta say that.
I love it.
All right.
Yeah.
Like, maybe a little far outthere, but.
No, I love it.
It's great.

(43:27):
I do.
I think the, the ripple effectis just like, I don't even think
we understand like the depth,like our human mind can't even
like comprehend the depth of theripple effect that it's going to
have.
You know, well, and back to likeyour original question, then we
went, so that's all right.
I love it.
I think we all can resonate withbeing scared to join a group

(43:52):
like, Oh, totally.
I get feeling intimidating and,um, I don't know.
It's just wild.
It's like, it's actually a wholegroup that's like, like has open
arms ready.
Yeah.
And hold you through life.
Yeah.
And again, that's what we allneed more of.
And it's not taught to us.

(44:15):
It's not, you know, we all werehumans.
Like we all, we do crave to beseen.
We crave to be heard.
And I think also 2020 did it tous.
Heck yeah.
Oh, yeah.
It was a mental warfare.
It still is.
Yeah.
It was like a shift.

(44:35):
Yeah.
It was.
Yeah.
Here we go.
So true.
Now I can't even, like, youknow, stay in your house.
If 2020 didn't wake you up, Idon't know what will be lost
cause.

(44:59):
That'd be your room.
And like, you know, it's whysuicide and yeah, I mean, it
just, the suicide rates for menhave skyrocketed and all of
that, like, Then, like all ofus, all of us living through
whatever we're carryingcompletely by ourselves.
This is too much.
Yeah.
Shame.

(45:19):
Like, in some of the things thatare going on right now, like,
you don't have to hide in yourdarkness.
Yeah.
And there's no shame wherethere's light.
Once you bring it to light, likethat just like, it's free.
goes away.
Because people love you, like,and you learn to love yourself.
Well, it's that quote, um, shamedies when, when stories are told

(45:42):
in safe places.
Oh, love that.
It's so real.
Yeah.
Like, and I, I'm not suregenerations before us would
even, really, and I'm not beingNo, like they just didn't know
fully understand that statement.
Yeah, like what it means.
So true.

(46:02):
Um, Deep.
Well, it's, it's brief.
Yeah, I go to hell out.
Yeah, say things and so brief Imean I don't know.
I just, I think that we're,we're lacking that so much.
Yeah.
And it's always like that hustlegame, like that competition.
It's like, you know, kind ofdeflecting.

(46:24):
And comparing.
Yeah.
And shame.
And it's just, I mean, it's justlike this, um, domino effect.
And it's in society right now.
And again, with this containerthat Taryn has built and a fear
could be, I don't want to jointhis group because competent,

(46:45):
you know, feeling verycompetitive.
I've been a very competitiveperson my whole life.
To have his groundwork laid andto literally be in journey space
and be like, What am I?
I'm feeling something.
My husband's like, you'rejealous.
I'm like, what?
Don't say that.
No I'm not.

(47:07):
He's like, I don't feel itoften, but I'm witnessing it.
And to go and sit down and belike, what is?
What is?
Why do you feel competitive?
Competition?
Why do you feel when someoneblossoms?
That's not about the otherperson.
It's about you and to actuallydig into the core of that.

(47:28):
Yeah, and for me, it's heavythough.
It is heavy.
This shit isn't really perfect.
I really have to look therelike, oops, I've been doing it
wrong.
Yeah.
Well, that was a fun one.
Like, oh, because, I need toplay more.

(47:51):
I need to live in my femininemore.
I need to, these are all of the,I've created this very
masculine.
Check boxes every day and youcould debate that like my life
experiences gave that to me butI also latched on to that with
my trauma and created thatperson and so Every time it's

(48:14):
looking within ourselves anddoing the work and going what is
that about me?
It's not about the other personYeah, and so all of those things
of why?
you're fearful to do it and It'sactually the reason.
Yeah.
It's so true.
Yeah.
You know.
Yeah.

(48:35):
Like, if you really dig intofear, like, we can just, like,
keep going.
Totally.
It's so true.
It just keeps going.
Zard says, there's layers tothis shit.
Yeah.
It just keeps going.
Usually, it's about seven to tenlayers deep.
Usually, it's a wide, thenyou're like, okay.
This started at this age, atthis time, and when you're going

(49:01):
through it, having the communityto hold space, ask questions, to
help you get to that root fasteris certainly something that, I
mean, while feeling the emotionsas you go through it, typically
when you get to the root is whenyou feel the emotions though,
because then it hits you rightin the heart space.

(49:22):
Yeah.
Oh shit.
Yep.
This is it.
And that's why the year and acouple months of Gentle Warrior
feels like lifetimes.
Yeah.
Yeah.
A year ago yesterday.
Yeah.
A year ago yesterday, because wejust keep changing and evolving,
because You just keep going.
Yeah.
And it's usually the same stuffthat keeps coming up, right?

(49:44):
Yeah, it's just in a differentYeah, no, what are you talking
about?
It's not the same.
Every single time.
Hi, I'm again.
We're on this merry go round andit's affected me in a different
way this time.
I saw a different perspective.
I saw this spot instead of thisspot on the merry go round.
Amber's analogy.

(50:06):
Me too.
Best.
She is.
Oh.
Analogies.
Meme queen and analogies queen.
She is.
She does the whole damn thing,man.
Like, you do all this work orwhatever.
Like, so for me it was likegoing to therapy.
Yeah.
And I say everything different.
And then you walk upstairs andyou look out a window at the

(50:27):
same scene.
And it's the same f ing scene.
But it looks different.
Yep.
Yep.
And you, you fine tuned incertain ways, and then you go
upstairs to the next level, lookdown at it, and it all looks
different, but it's the samescene, like that's what this is.
It's so true.
And so many facets.
Yeah.

(50:48):
Where I think we all can lookback and go, holy shit.
I've changed so much.
Yeah, it's slow It doesn't feellike in the moment.
It doesn't feel like it rightand I think of this is so silly
But I think of the Jack Johnsonsong of like we're better
together Because it's true likewe can only get so far if we
don't have people holding spaceor being a mirror showing us our

(51:09):
blind spots because we Do haveblind spots and we don't grow
without Having those people tellus and be willing to tell us and
have a safe container where itis Like and if somebody's scared
to jump in it's as simple asjust taking the damn step Just
do it and I like I'll be theI'll peg myself right now It's

(51:32):
like I'm just guys when I'm inI'm fucking it.
Yeah, I I actually have to learnhow to Understand people that
aren't yeah, because I it's justhardwired in me You And I've
seen it in my own life and I'veseen it, seen it in others.
Every time I resist something.

(51:52):
It's actually the number onething I'm supposed to be doing.
Yes.
No.
Yeah.
So that's the like, that's thething about joining Gentle
Warrior.
Yeah.
Whatever calls to you.
So many different, I don't know.
Any, I don't know.
Give me some more.
Abundant tribe.

(52:12):
I'm like, uh, what else?
Oh, man.
No.
Just all of these.
Like, if you're really nervous,that is kind of usually the
right one.
Yeah.
It's because it's the good food.
Yeah, you know, I was at the B1conference and I can't remember

(52:36):
who said it.
I wish I could remember rightnow.
He said, um, Oh, I can't thinkof his name.
McManus.
Is that his name?
Um, he said, I used fear as thecompass in the direction I
should go.
And I was like, done.
That is it.
That's it.
Like, every time you feelfearful, that is the direction

(52:57):
you should be headed.
I think it's your soul.
Yeah.
Me too.
For sure.
And being like.
Yeah.
And if it keeps coming up.
Oh yeah.
And the fear is just the egotrying to keep you safe.
But it's like your soul is like,no, no, no.
We want to go that direction.
Yeah.
So good.
I mean, and then there's beenflip sides too, where.

(53:19):
I'll get this like really strongfeeling in my gut, like I
shouldn't do something.
Yeah.
That's also like fear and Imean, I think the two kind of
intertwine and it's just relyingon yourself and trusting
yourself.
Yeah.
Making it all somehow one, whichhas been my biggest grapple

(53:44):
trying to integrate like Thatmind, body, spirit.
So good.
I have two more questions.
I know.
Um, so if somebody is listeningand they're like, I, I want to
do something like that, but Idon't know, they don't have the
finances or they don't have,what other community do you

(54:05):
think they could find?
Like if they're feeling like,Oh, I want to join gentle
warrior, but I, it's not anoption for me right now.
Like, is there anything elsethat they could, for me, like,
and Nick and I have said this,like I would go.
Drive Uber or DoorDash if I hadto, to pay for GentleWay or like
that, but I've been in it andI've seen the results and like,
I would do anything to be in it.
Um, but I don't know if somebodyis feeling like they can't join

(54:28):
right now.
What kind of actually you'redoing it advice podcasts.
Yeah, that's a good one.
I think I had forgiven.
Podcast.
Yeah, that's a good one.
Like I'd been in books, selfdevelopment in books for so
long, you know, and then I thinkyou hit this point too, where

(54:49):
you're like, Okay.
I am outsourcing all of these,which I still love.
Books and podcasts, of course.
There like became a point whereit was like, now I need to get
in.
I'm doing all this in my mind.
Mm-Hmm.
And now I need to like, I needthat community.
Get in and like do thing.
Yeah.
You know?
Yeah.
Um, but I don't know.
That's a tough one.

(55:10):
'cause I wanna I wanna go in theother direction.
Yeah.
Like, do whatever you do.
How else does this show up inyour life that finances are at.
Well, I love that.
Yeah.
I, I want to go in thatdirection.
Yeah.
Of like, ask yourself thosequestions.
Like, is this a pattern in yourlife?
Yeah.
Like, do you make excuses aroundanything else?
People please mean, are you Youknow, are you taking care of

(55:33):
others before you take care ofyourself?
Like what are the things you cansacrifice?
Yeah, totally.
Do you have to get your nailsdone every week?
That's so true.
You have to have those things.
You know, like it's literallycomes down to priorities.
True.
Yeah, it is.
I looking at Bri, well you bothknow, I tell you.

(55:54):
Sorry, Brit.
Finances are probably one of mybiggest triggers.
Yeah.
Look at the jam.
Pedicure.
that Yeah, I know.
You'll, you know, so bad too.
I feel like we can laugh forlike.
Probably 20 minutes on just thepedicure thing.

(56:15):
So done.
I'm getting so much better.
You are.
But also, it's because I havereally put myself out of my
comfort zone financially.
Yeah.
For things that I'm like, Iactually really have checked in
and been like, oh, like my heartis saying yes.
Mm hmm.

(56:37):
And my mind is like, you know,okay, I'm doing it.
And then my mind's trying tocatch up, but like, I've gone
out on a limb and been like,okay, I'm going to, I'm going to
sacrifice and I've had dreamsabout driving Uber.
There you go.
Yeah.

(57:00):
And I just mentioned it.
That's hilarious.
I love that though.
It's like telling people, like,if you really are questioning
joining, like Dive intoyourself.
Like, why are you questioning?

(57:22):
Get really curious.
What can you give up?
What can you because ituncomfortable?
Yeah.
It's so true.
It's about being uncomfortable.
Oh yeah.
And I can also look back in allthose instances that I was like,
buckled off like, Holy shit.
I'm really surprised myself.

(57:42):
I surprised myself.
Yeah.
And it always works out.
Yeah.
Then I like one of my favoritemantras or affirmations that I
actually say all the time is,um, I'm open to the highest good
unfolding and I feel like that'swhat always happens to you.

(58:03):
I love that.
Like, be open to the highestgood unfolding.
Yeah.
If you're having this likefeeling inside, like listen to
it.
Yeah.
I think that's great.
It reminds me of the meme.
Have you seen the meme of like,it shows Jesus and he's like
holding a torch.
Huge teddy bear behind his backand he's taking the little
girl's teddy bear.
And she's like really reluctantto give it up.

(58:25):
But behind his back is likesomething even better for her.
It's like, I know.
Right.
It's so true.
It's so true.
It's like letting go of thatcontrol to get what you.
I know.
I'm like, we probably shouldn'tdive into that one.
I'd be here all day.

(58:46):
We all have that one.
I think that comes with being awoman too sometimes.
Oh yeah.
We're just taught.
So yeah, the society we grew upin for sure.
You don't, you don't showemotions or you'll be too crazy.
Yeah, it's so true.
Too sensitive.
Be the good girl.
So many things.
Oh yeah.

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I didn't need to watch theentire movie.
That one part, I was like,literally that one part.
Yeah, it's so true.
The, the end where she talks toher, like she turns into a
human, right.
And she talks to the girl aboutlike why she was even made.
Oh, okay.
It was like the very end.

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Yeah.
It's like this whole speech andyou're like, Yeah.
Like how as a woman, we're justnever good enough.
Like we're either too skinny ortoo fat or too this or too that
or too any, literally anything.
Yeah.
Not too much of a bitch.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It just, there's never like acommon ground that we can be.
And tying it back to GentleWarrior.

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Yeah.
This is a space for us to play.
Yeah, all of that.
It's so true.
And then be seen.
Yeah, through it all is, I mean,we talk about this work, not
being for the faint of heart,but also being a mom, a wife
and, you know, living in societyof today.
Yeah.

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It's not easy.
No, we do need that love.
Unconditional love.
It usually comes from otherwomen because we're all in the
same space.
Being okay with talking.
Oh, so good.
It just goes back to what you'resaying.
Like we've lost that simplicityof like tribe of just holding
each other because we've gottenso busy and so distracted in our

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modern life.
I know that's true.
Whoever they is, that's whatthey want.
But yeah, distracted from thethings that really matter.
Yeah.
And it's in our DNA to wantthat.
Like we've had that at one pointthat like tribal, yeah.

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Oh, good.
We weren't here to createTesla's, but yeah, maybe we
were, remind me of Jetson cars.
We own one, so there you go.
I love, I just love it.
So funny.
I mean, I'm a tech geek, so Ilike the tech stuff.

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It's still funny to me.
Um, my last question, which wemight have already touched on
was just like, what do you feellike is the been been the
biggest takeaway for like, whenyou joined Gentoyer or like, I
mean, we're still in it, butwhat do you feel like?
I know it's so hard to like.
I don't even know if I couldname like one thing, but I'm
just curious if you guys haveanything that has been like huge

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for you.
Just the, just gratitude,gratitude for, I just, I don't
feel like I'm walking in this bymyself and lone wolf strategy.
Great.
Yeah.
But it's so funny because beforeI joined, I did feel like I had

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good friends and did feel, Ididn't feel this deep, like
lacking, if that makes sense,until I gained it, until I
gained this depth and thissafety and this, and then it's
like, Oh, I was lacking.
So hindsight's always 20, 20,right?

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So it's like hard to.
I don't know.
See, and I'm different.
I felt lacking.
I felt it before.
Yeah.
Like I just felt like, and itwas for a long time, where,
which I don't feel like anymore.
I don't want to go out drinking,and I don't want to.

(01:02:43):
Bitch about my husband.
Yeah.
Didn't want those things.
Those things happen.
I know.
I'm like, maybe that's theMidwestern us.
I don't know.
But like, that's a real common,yeah.
Going out drinking, talking shitabout your husband, about your
husband, complaining about yourlife, you know, comparing
yourself to other women, this,like the cattiness and stuff.

(01:03:05):
I'm not saying that all myfriendships were like that.
No.
Yeah.
Um, it just, I felt this likedeeper calling in my soul of
somewhere.
And I felt that from a veryyoung age, that I'm just like, I
just didn't feel like I, um, Ibelong.
But you do now.
I do now.
Yeah, absolutely.
And I didn't even feel that, youknow, within my family

(01:03:27):
structure, I always felt like Iwas kind of outside and, um, I
don't feel that way anymore.
So there was a point in my life,I think maybe for a long time, I
just kind of, you know, Thatthere was something else out
there and that the breakaway wasgoing to have to happen.

(01:03:49):
And then when it did, it was, itwas everything that I had ever,
uh, so good.
They can be checked.
My blind spot.
You're like, wait, maybe I didmy grandmother.
Um, she would always like.

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I was one of the ones that hadthe dark hair and the dark eyes.
And a lot of my family memberswere kind of blue, blue eyes,
blonde hair, like lighter otherthan the Italian side.
Now the Italian side, they havedarker features Duke.
Um, but it was, she would alwaysplay with my hair and I could
just tell that like, it's almostlike she knew that I F I felt

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that way for a long time.
So she was always very like, Shedidn't like coddle me because
she was not a coddler.
My, my grandma was the flip youoff on the side of the highway.
I can't even imagine that.
I don't know where I got itfrom.
So it was like, but she also hadthis like really soft side and I

(01:04:57):
could kind of see just throughto her soul that like, she
might've felt this.
So there was like this littlebit of a push or this pull to
like, she told me like when Iwent to college, she's like, go
out there and do something.
And I actually never went backto my hometown.

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Um, but I, like, I feel thatspirit.
From her, you know, inside of meto, to just, just be, just go do
it.
What was that?
I'm like erase everything I saidearlier.
I did have great, I had greatfriends along the way, but I

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think it's more for me, it'slike, You know that quote that
says, um, people can only meetyou as far as they've met
themselves.
It's like that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Does that make sense?
Yeah.
Can I flip that and apply itback to where I was at when I
joined?
You could only meet yourselfwhere you were at.

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Like you didn't realize what youwere missing until you got it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like, I also am with you and Ithink that anyone that is with
It was what you explained inyour song a session that like, I
think we've all had some sacredmoments of like, y'all are the,

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like, I'm the way shower.
I'm the chosen one, you know?
And maybe it's, I don't know.
Yeah.
It's, it's, it's a beautiful,it's so beautiful.
Y'all just.
Thanks to Taryn.
Yeah, y'all, you know kind ofgot to the space but now that I
have it I'm like, yeah I ain'tnever letting this go.

(01:06:46):
Yeah I'm excited to go the lastthe last one.
I was freaking nervous.
Yeah, but this one I'm like Oh,well, whatever we do, it'll be,
it'll be great because we'resafe.
Yeah.
We just go without even knowingwhat I love that.

(01:07:08):
She doesn't tell us.
It's like, she doesn't know it'sjumping off a fucking cliff.
Cause I'm like, you know, I'mpregnant, I'm pregnant.
Yeah, same.
I feel like you have went anddid that.
I know.
Go them.
Oh shit.
They're all on pedestals.
I know.

(01:07:28):
Same.
Like you're amazing.
I way true.
You know, I might end up doingit'cause I am, you know, I have
that little bit of that likecompetitiveness.
I wanna do it if everybody elsedoes it.
Like yeah, I'm just gonna do itand then I'll be the one that
will jump off first.
Like, that's like,'cause I'mlike, if I wait, I'm not, I'm
gonna go.
Yeah.
Yeah.

(01:07:48):
You know, I just have to go.
But yeah.
I mean, so I might do it.
The heck of shit work is if youwere there.
We would all do it.
We would all do it.
You'll do it.
That's the thing is like, ifyour friends jumped off a
bridge, would you?
If you guys did, I would.
I'd trust it.
You know, we'd do three ways.
Like we'd jump all together.
High five like in the middle.

(01:08:09):
We'll help it.
So what do you want?
You to jump really far out orhow far out?
I keep kicking you.
Thanks.
Yeah.
Cool.
Thank you guys for what's youranswer?
Oh, question.
Yeah, I was about to end it.
Um, for me it's like, honestly,I credit Gentle Warrior and

(01:08:31):
Taryn for where I'm at and likeit's changed my life, Nick's
life, my kids' life.
Like we were talking about.
It's been a total like trickleeffect and like I, the biggest
takeaway for me is I'm livingauthentically in who I am and
not letting fear rule my life.
It was ruling my life.
I had didn't have.

(01:08:52):
I didn't talk about anything Iwent through except with the
therapist, like I was terrifiedof everything.
I mean, you guys met me when Iwas at first joined, like I was
scared.
I was a little like scared,little like mouse.
Like I didn't talk very much.
I didn't, I don't know.
So it's really just like helpedme be authentic.
And, like, genuine and not livefrom such a fearful face, which

(01:09:17):
I'm just so thankful for..
I'm writing a blog and I'mscared shitless.
Oh, I know.
I'm scared every time I show up.
Damn it.
And then we'll get on calls andI'll call Dani afterwards and
say, I feel like I shared toomuch.
I got it.
She what?
No, never.
Yeah.
But it's that imposter syndrome.

(01:09:37):
Yeah.
But you're, I mean, you're outhere killing it.
Thank you.
I love you.
Also with like little old ladiescoming up to me and like, I'm
like, that makes my heart sohappy.
I'm like, this is amazing.
That's so cute.
What do I need to buy?
I know.
I know.
These like self reflections.
Yeah.

(01:09:59):
Yeah.
But I, I love it.
I had actually an old man, likean older gentleman come up to me
at the airport.
I was wearing mine.
He's like, what's heal yourself,heal the world mean?
What do you think?
Yeah.
Yeah.
And so we had this wholeconversation.
It was so beautiful.
'cause he like started tellingme stories about himself and I
was just like, this is badass.
Like that's what we need.
Yes.
That's what we need.
Biggest conversation.

(01:10:19):
Yes.
People.
That's my whole, like what Iwant out of it.
It's so cool.
Divided and folder.
Yeah.
It's just, it's like we're allafter the same thing.
We're all trying our best.
We really are.
And back to the full circlemoment of like, being

(01:10:39):
competitive and everything.
What does it actually do whensomeone does something?
Launches a podcast.
Launches a vlog.
It shows me.
Holy shit.
It pulls us up, right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Talk about your story.
Yeah.

(01:11:00):
And not be afraid to talk aboutit.
I mean, there's so many peoplelike, I mean, I'm sure that some
of the stuff that I write, maybesome of the stuff that I'm even
saying right now It might offendsomebody.
Yeah.
It might trigger them.
But that's their part.
Yeah.
That's their opportunity.
Yeah.
Everything's an opportunity.
And themselves.
Yeah.

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And that's what this communityis about.
Mm hmm.
Like getting triggered.
I love that.
You know, like, and that's, thatis the ripple.
Yeah.
And when I get fearful, that iswhat I remind myself.
Like, this is not about me.
It's about other people and howthey can like heal or learn or
whatever it helps them do, youknow?
And it's also like in the leastway you expect it, the thing

(01:11:44):
that you didn't think would be.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Or like, you know.
Yeah.
Even me listening to some ofyour episodes and me hitting you
up and being like, yeah, Ash,thank you for sharing.
Yeah.
It doesn't seem like a big dealto you, but that hit me in the
heart and I needed that.
Like it's those little moments.
And the sentences, it can be onefreaking sentence dude.
Oh yeah.

(01:12:04):
Yeah.
Like one sentence.
And, and you may not even listento the whole podcast.
Yeah.
One sentence.
Yeah.
That you needed to listen to canchange so many things.
Yeah.
Plan for a second.
I do when I have to.
Yeah, it's good.
It's a good tool.
It's groove.
It's so good about even cominghere and like, yeah, I mean, I

(01:12:27):
did sit down and do ameditation, but it's a little
different than it would havelooked in the past.
Oh, I'm sure.
In the past, it was like, yeah.
She would have had a lid on it.
Yeah.
Yeah, totally.
I mean, you're flowing, girl.
Yeah.
So proud of you.
No, you are.

(01:12:48):
It's true.
It's so good.
I love it.
Thank you guys.
We could go all day.
Yeah.
Well, and three people that feelsafe together and love each
other.
Right.

(01:13:08):
Like, They probably listen to uslaugh majority of the time.
So join General Warrior.
You get to solve this.
Yeah.
Seriously, I love you guys.
Thank you so much for beinghere.
Thank you.
I'm proud of you guys.
You're the best.
The end Bye.
Thank you so much for taking thetime to listen.
It means the world to me.

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