September 1, 2025 • 37 mins
Sarah and EJ meet up to see if there’s a potential futurebetween them. Harold takes Amber’s first test of meeting her closest friend. Tony gets another chance to meet a Brazilian bombshell. Amber and Keavan talk about the possibility of a long-distance relationship.
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Hi Amy, happy last night was match me abroad season 2 episode
11. Love and hate this at the same
time because I know that it's coming to an end I.
Know I think we only get shows until the end of September
anyway. Yeah, yes, I anyway, let's move
on. Life continues.
Before we dissect the drama thisweek, let's do a 1 and 2 one
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And now we may begin. What was your overall review or
opinion of this episode? I like that we're getting the
storylines wrapped up, so I feltthat it it was satisfying in
that respect. I think I found it interesting
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overall, almost vindicating in some points or at one point.
Yeah, I I enjoyed it. It just it seemed short, just
like the yeah, 90 day UK yesterday seemed really short.
I'm like, why? So we've got it almost felt like
the preview for next week was longer than the actual.
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Episode. Not sure why that's happening.
Let's talk about it. I'm not beginning with Sarah.
And EJ. It's the second date with EJ.
He brings her a gift. Of course he does, because he
was wise. He was wise and he knows that
her love language is gift giving.
What else could it possibly? Be very smart and not.
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Just gift giving. It has to be designer gift
giving. What a gaudy key chain.
Not my taste either, but I appreciated that he figured that
out about her pretty fast. And I mean, they've been
texting, they've been talking during this whole time, so
presumably she has let drop the fact that she likes designer
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stuff and he's done his due diligence.
Found the designer key chain, presented it in the huge bag
with the little box, All good. I think he just, he did really
well. This man continues to surprise.
Me, me as well. I'm really impressed by EJ, but
when he comes to see Sarah at the poolside, he has some bad
news to deliver to us. She already knows this.
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He's leaving in a couple of daysto go to a bodybuilding
competition, so he's not going to have that much time with
Sarah and he'll only be back at the end of this competition for
one day in Singapore before she leaves.
But I wonder how long this competition is because it looks
like he needs to do a lot of preparation for it.
I'm not judging him, just knowing what I know about these
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competitions as they need to cutfor so long.
They need to completely dehydrate themselves in order
for their vasculars and their muscles to, to really come out.
He didn't look like he had a competition right around the
corner. And also when you're preparing
for competitions, because you'recutting so much and so fast, you
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just, you become so depleted, you become Moody.
Most people become Moody and almost like despondent, like
they don't really want to be around other people because
like, it's, it's miserable. Like you're eating nothing but
chicken and rice and vegetables.I mean, if you're even allowed
to have carbs at that point. So I just just something random
that I want to point out. Yeah.
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Very interesting. So you may be suggesting that
this is a ruse. I think so.
That he had already decided he wasn't going to go because why
else would he not be doing all those things that you said he
should be doing? He also said drinking.
Yeah, going to the pool. Well, by that point we knew that
he wasn't gonna be doing the competition because he announced
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it at the mother daughter date. That was later on that night
though. Yeah, But anyway, him coming to
the pool, sitting down with her to talk for a while ostensibly
is so that we can know he's not going to be around a lot.
There is no opportunity for themto get to know one another all
that much better because of the reduced amount of time that's
available. Then we get this moment where
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she's OK. I had a really hard time with
this, and I think it's just the reverse sexism.
She's telling him to take his top off, to put his swimsuit on,
jump in the pool, and then he's like, OK, well, I will if you
do. Oh, no, my hair, my makeup.
I just did it. I'm not going.
So you can you go strip off and give me a show?
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Yeah, let me watch you. Well, I sit here and look
pretty. And also, did she not know that
they were going to a pool? She couldn't have prepared and,
you know, put her extensions in a ponytail.
I didn't have any sympathy for her in this segment because I
just felt like she was being impossibly high maintenance.
You want to get to know this guybetter.
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Be open, be playful, get in the pool with him, have some fun.
Don't just sit on the lounger and go.
Oh, he's so hot and I look so pretty.
Anyway, she asks him about her glam.
Is it too much for him? Can he handle it?
He seems very accepting. I'm not sure if I bought it or
not. For me, I would have thought DJ
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was more the kind of person who likes the natural look, not
somebody who is obviously puffedup and enhanced, medically
speaking. But he seems to take it all in
stride. OK.
If that's what you want to do, Isupport you and you support me
going on this competition so-called.
Yeah, quote UN quote. I found the way that he
communicated was very mature. It was very articulate.
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He just seemed very emotionally mature.
So even if it's not something that he believes, then man, he
must be an excellent, excellent salesman.
Not over the top complimentary, but not overly.
It's really growing on. Me, he's got some good human
interaction skills. He just seems like he's he's got
an answer for everything, but itdoesn't feel like a fake answer,
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if that makes sense. So they have this continued or
next date with mom so that mom can grill him to find out more
about who he is and whether or not he's good enough for her
baby girl. This bothered me.
I think it was just before the date.
Well, the date with her mom, I don't even know how to say the
meeting. I guess she says that she's
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she's really not sure if he's all talking games.
And I can appreciate the apprehension, but on the other
hand, he's been very clear aboutwhat his intentions are.
Has he given her any indication that his his intentions are not
sincere? And for him to make this grand
gesture quote, UN quote of not going to the competition just to
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be with her, is that not indication enough that he's
willing to to give that up to spend some more time with her to
see if this is actually going towork?
It's very generous of him to make that offer.
I feel like what you suggested at the beginning is probably
what's actually going on that he'd already decided because you
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didn't see any of the evidence that he's actually cutting right
now and doing all the restriction, restrictions that
he would need to put in place inorder to compete.
And yet at the same time, I don't want to think that he's
the kind of guy who would lie about it.
It could be a production thing, like maybe they had reached out
for him to go on a date with herand he was like, well, no, I've
got this competition coming up. They're like, well, you can't if
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you want to be on the show, Like, OK, I just won't do it.
And they're like, great, we'll add that onto the storyline
because that preparation takes months and months.
Like when I was competing powerlifting, obviously not
bodybuilding, not the same, but I would be gearing up for the
competition like 3 months ahead of time.
Well. Back to the meeting with mom,
she's asking him a whole slew ofvery tough questions and he's
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completely unflappable throughout.
Props to EJ. He does extremely well.
He performs under pressure. He's got very good answers and
like I said before, I don't feellike they're made-up answers to
try to fit into her ideal of what she's looking for.
They seem genuine and real. Yeah.
The answers came too easy to him, and if he was trying to
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flub about, there would be more pauses, there would be more
umms. He's just very clear, very
concise with his responses. And we had a couple of really
nice gestures during this meeting.
One was that he had brought flowers for mom because it
happened to be Mother's Day. And the second is that mom
invited him to come to Houston, which that's amazing.
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And then she used a couple of words to describe EJ, which I
found interesting. One of them I completely agree
with. Confident.
Yes, confidence in Spade. The other word she's used was
masculine. I was like, what does that mean
exactly? Is that referring to the
physical appearance? Is that something else?
I don't know. Because that's very effective.
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It see, it seemed to be complimentary, like nothing that
she was saying about EJ indicated that she saw any red
red flags. She was definitely happy that
this guy was in her daughter's life.
And then he announces that he's not going to the competition and
both mother and daughter are basically over the moon.
I had more questions. I think he's a keeper.
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You have a question. I have more questions.
So more questions, OK. He says he was divorced for he's
been divorced for 1314 years. OK.
His most recent relationship ended a month and a half ago.
But how long was it? Yeah, no information there.
Is he a love bomber? Because he says, you know, when
I love, I love hard or I fall hard or something.
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Is he a love bomber? But we didn't get that
information. And then again about the
competition is how often does hecompete?
Because I don't think that he mentioned it previously but
competitions are so expensive. And how often like depending on
how often he competes, like is he going to have to wait for the
next like 6 months cycle before he can do it again?
Is this going to be in another year?
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Like how much of a compromise isthis?
Which makes me think that it wasalready decided that he wasn't
going to be competing at that point.
Yeah, very, very plausible and quite likely.
But we just don't know. We don't have the information.
I just want to hope my gut tellsme there's something a little
bit fishy about the timing of this, and he is not necessarily
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lying about it to Sarah. But definitely there has been
some manipulation of the facts, probably by production, in order
to facilitate this beautiful storyline of him giving up the
competition and wanting to get to know her more and instead of
going wherever it was that he was supposed to go.
And this was a traveling competition.
Yeah, yes. I'm not going to give up one of
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these traveling competitions fora date.
It's just not happening. The amount of money, the amount
of preparation, just the enter. No.
Anyway, can we please move on because that's going to bother
me. OK, All right.
Well, I, I think that Sarah looks genuinely happy here, and
I really appreciated the fact that she seems to be getting
into the groove of being grateful for EJ, of liking him
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enough. I think that they're both going
to be happy, at least in the short term.
I also think that her mom asked a lot of really good questions,
so I think mom actually added something to this as opposed to
Betty. All right, let's move on to
Harold. It is finally time for Harold to
meet one of Amber's friends. This is a very big step for
Amber, even though it's only oneperson who she's only known for
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three or four years. At first I thought, oh, is this
going to be like her childhood friend?
If it's her best friend and it'sonly one person, three to four
years. OK.
All right. What did you think of Joe?
I thought she was so funny. She was very animated.
I thought she asked a lot of really good questions though.
I thought she was a touch judge,mental.
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But then I think she really redeemed herself and I just, I
thought this meeting was so incredibly awkward and then it
just became so joyous. I loved how she made fun of
Harold's face when he ate the the raw meat.
I thought it was adorable. I'm really, really happy that
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this is the experience that Harold has had with her friend
because I know how nervous he was.
And, and I think Amber really went out on a limb to let him
meet her friend because obviously, you know, they move a
lot slower in in Singapore. So I just thought this was a
resounding success. What are your thoughts?
Absolutely. On the success front, it went
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extremely well. There were moments when I was
very, very worried. When they initially sat down and
Joe said I want to hear all about Prague, I was like, oh,
that's a bit forward and blunt. Like, what are you expecting to
hear? The entire story of Harold's
heartbreak? That's a bit awkward.
And I wasn't sure at first, based on the questions and the
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attitude and the emotiveness of Joe, if she understood that
Harold was on the spectrum because he was definitely
uncomfortable with how he was getting peppered incessantly
with questions at the start. I think she was excited, yeah,
there was definitely a level of excitement there.
And she was so enthusiastic about the meeting that that was
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contagious. But like Harold was saying, he
finds it difficult sometimes to deal with people who are in your
face all the time. He prefers to withdraw and be a
little bit more quiet, so you could see him struggling.
Even though he was struggling, he did his best and he performed
so, so well. He told the story about
Michaela. He explained about having kissed
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Amber, which was a huge surpriseto Joe.
That was. Cute.
Joe's reaction was just what he didn't tell me.
The most important part of all of this.
What is? Yeah.
Oh my God. Like she was just like your
typical like BFF. What do you mean you didn't tell
me this? And then I love the part where
both Amber and Joe kind of turn to one another and started
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talking about all of Harold's great qualities as if he wasn't
even there. You know, he's so smart, he's so
funny, he's adventurous, he's sointerested in you.
He's so into you, Amber. I mean, clearly everybody is on
Team Herald, which is great. That's the way things should be.
I was very happy. The only question mark at the
end of this segment is what is Harold going to do in order to
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secure himself in this relationship with Amber?
Because he really wants to solidify things in some way so
that when he leaves, he knows that she is in a relationship
with a capital R with him. Whether that means girlfriend or
boyfriend or engaged, we don't know, but he definitely wants to
take that next. Step.
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I still think he needs to slow his roll with the engagement,
though. I did want to go back to the
dinner. First of all, it looked
absolutely delicious. And yes, I am hungry.
Amber was like, OK, I'm going tolean back.
And you know, Joe can go ahead. You can have like a quick fire
question round or something. And his response was, it's OK,
I'm flame retardant. Let's go.
Oh my God, Harold, you're so cute.
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And then when Joe starts asking about his autism and she's like,
I think it means that you're super smart and or, you know,
neurodiverse. And it was just like this huge
positive thing. And then they started going back
and forth about, you know, all the great things about him.
And I think that's when you could see him finally relax.
Like, how beautiful would that be to have this person that
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you're very interested in and her friend just sit there and
compliment you in front of you as if you're not even there?
I think that's so beautiful. I mean, it could be awkward, but
I think, I think he really needed to hear that.
Definitely needs the positive reinforcement and so far it's
only been Dolly who's been able to deliver that to him.
And it's always been tempered with something else like you
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shouldn't move too fast or you shouldn't wear your suspenders.
You should be terrelled 2 point O.
So it's really nice for him to finally have this unadulterated
compliment session. I thought it was beautiful.
Nothing else, I don't think. So it was just, all I can say is
just, it's just so cute. And we all know how much I love
Harold. I just don't want to go.
I don't want to read on Tony's next.
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Well, I also I don't want to read on.
However, as you told me yesterday, we must.
Yes, we have no choice. OK, here we go, Tony.
First of all, I noticed two things On this date with Tais.
1, Tais is gorgeous, absolutely gorgeous.
And two, her hair is lovely and it's long and it has 0
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correlation to her ability to raise children.
That's a fair assessment. That's a fair assessment.
Did you talk to a gynecologist to confirm that?
Because I'm not sure you're a medical professional unlike.
Tony. Tony seems to be.
Tony, the medical professional expert on all things women.
Yeah. What did What did you think of
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her? I thought she was beautiful.
I thought she was talented. I thought she was funny.
I think she she gave him a chance and he quickly blew it.
I think she had a lot more patience with him that I think I
would have even just walking in on that date, you know, he just,
he looked so smug. I think that's like the the best
way that I can describe his faceis just so smug.
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But first of all, I love that they went to a place called
Batman Alley and that they were going to go and do graffiti.
I've always wanted to, but it's illegal, so clearly I will not
be doing that. But I thought that that was a
really fun and interesting firstdate idea, a great way for them
both to exercise their creativity, their talent and or
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lack thereof. I love that he gave this big
story about, you know, this ninja turtle and he's walking
the pig. And I'm like, well, isn't that
ironic given the fact that you are a pig?
And, you know, the way that he was describing her, you know, I
didn't even notice the hair at first.
I was just so taken aback by whatever else.
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And then he said that her skin is so Milky soft.
And my question is, does he wantto friggin wear it?
Because that's what it seemed like it would just, it was so
creepy. I'm so glad he didn't say it to
her face because that was reallyweird.
And then when she brings up the fact that she has dogs and she
was saying, I was really surprised that he wasn't
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interested in it. You know, if he doesn't love
dogs, that's a red flag. But didn't he have like one of
those blind blind dates with someone who said that they had
dogs or what? It was his second date with the
jiu jitsu woman who allows her dog to sleep in the bed.
And he's he said he had an axe who allowed that, and he does
not approve. It's not good when women equate
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dogs with babies. They get confused and they don't
know how to raise children. Yeah.
Something along those lines. Yes.
Can we can we go back to the pigs?
Because yes, this part was so funny.
I also found it ironic that he was going to do a pig because
Tony big equals sign between those two words.
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Also the little story that he told was just ridiculous.
If you let a pig out into the wild, it will turn into a
warthog eventually. What the fuck?
What? Drugs are you on, Tony?
Excuse me? Is a warthog no.
Never a pig and I also just likeI wanted to just like grab my
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screen and shake it be like, youknow the irony of him also being
a pig, but at least a pig and a warthog has more hair than he
does just. You know what I mean?
Not only is this guy not smart, he is so misinformed about just
about everything, and yet he believes himself to be an
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expert. And he thinks he's so good.
That you want to punch. Oh my God.
And you know how they do those little like the introduction
where he's like on the beach andwhatever.
And the I think the first one was him, you know, laying out
like a beach blanket and it was the most lazy laying out of a
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beach blanket ever. And then he lays on it as if
he's so sexy. And then the second one was him
with the umbrella and he keeps trying to stick it into the
sand, but he can't really get itin there.
So he's just, he just sits up all proud.
Like dude, you were no. Everybody's making fun of you,
Tony. Absolutely everybody.
The sooner you understand that the better, because then you can
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go get help and turn things around.
No, because he's a complete and utter narcissist.
Well, there's that. But we can always hope that some
bit of reason gets through his tiny little brain and he
actually wants to make a difference and change his life a
little bit to become respectable, nice, decent human
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being. I have very little hope.
Is him not getting his hairline tattooed?
Is that not indicative of him being a decent human?
I I'm sorry, I can't even finishthat.
Sentence No, no, no, no. But this person was the perfect
one to have his final date with because obviously it's his final
date. She, the way that she started
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picking him apart was fantastic.I love that she criticized his
hair. And then it's like he can sense
that she's not into him. So he starts at yeah, and then
he try and then he's got to turnit all around.
Oh, I'm the one who's rejecting her because her hair is not long
enough and blah, blah, blah. Like just chefs kiss when she
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tells him I like long hair on a man.
That moment was so tasty. I I felt so good.
I was really waiting for her to slice into him some more.
But it let you know when they first met it was broad daylight
and then when they were leaving it was around dusk.
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So like, I wonder if she did saya lot but they cut it out.
I'm just going to live with my idea that she did say a hell of
a lot more than yeah, what the editors allowed us to see.
But I I noticed the exact momentwhere he started to try to take
control of the situation back, like, oh, you don't think that
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I'm good looking? What did he say?
He said. Are you a flashy person?
No, it was before that. Because he's like, you know,
what are you looking for in a man?
And she's like, oh, you know, loyalty and blah, blah, blah.
And his response was like, wow, that's basic.
That's what everyone, woman, every woman wants.
Like is there nothing else like?Oh, OK, you know, you know what?
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I think he said that that it wasbasic because he doesn't
understand that values are more important than physical
appearance. He's wanting her to say, oh, I'm
looking for a guy who's buff, who's 6 foot four, who has a car
and a house, blah blah blah. Who has a heroin but she.
But she comes up with what you would normally expect, which is
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I want somebody who's kind, who's caring, who's funny, who's
compassionate, intelligent. You are not.
So he doesn't know what to do with that because those are not
the qualities that he is lookingfor.
He's not able to wrap his mind about around the fact that there
are other things than physicality with which to
choose. A mate and Louisa called it out
from the very beginning like sheneeds to remove the physical
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aspects from it, which is why they did the blind date, why
this woman has tried so hard butanyway going back to the tooth.
I didn't even notice and even when he was talking about it, I.
Couldn't see it. Me either.
I went to school with a woman who had a diamond tooth and she
was utterly insufferable. And that is in no way reflective
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of Tais because I think that she's absolutely stunning.
She has a beautiful personality.From what we've seen, she seems
artistic, creative, whatever. But that's what it was like.
No, no, are you? That's when he said, Are you
flashy? And it's so shallow.
Maybe she just stuck a little sticker on her tooth.
I, I don't know, maybe she's just trying something out for
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the very first time. Maybe it is permanent.
It could be maybe she enjoys that.
Maybe that's what Brazilian women do.
I don't know, but the fact that he immediately writes her off
because of this one tiny little physical detail which is not
even a part of her body so it can be removed tells you
everything you need to know. This guy has impossible
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standards, nobody will ever liveup to them and he himself is not
a prize because he has such strict prejudices and
expectations of people. I thought it was just, it was so
awkward but also so hysterical to see him just flip, you know?
Like when he started getting thevibes that she didn't like him,
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then he was like, never mind. It's one of those like, I'm
going to hurt you before you canhurt me kind of thing.
He's being more protective of himself.
Well, again, that says more about you than it does about
her. And I'm being like but then.
I mean, he tries to tear her down and she's not having any of
it. And so she calls off the dates.
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I'm tired. So tired.
I have. To go, it's like 6:00.
Go in. Brazil, because that's when the
evening ends, not. Not even when the evening
begins. So the date ends, and
immediately my thought goes to, OK, Tony's not going to take any
kind of accountability for this.And of course, he immediately
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blames Louisa because Louisa hasa problem.
Louisa's setting him up with these loser women.
It's nothing to do with him. It's all Louisa, Louisa, Louisa.
Predictable. Love that for him.
He's going to be alone and miserable forever.
I mean, I wouldn't wish that on many people.
This guy, just based on his persona on TV, I mean, you put
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yourself on TV, you have opened yourself up to these judgments.
Yeah, absolutely. Based on what he has shown us.
Sir, just please do the right thing and walk into a volcano.
Even the fact that he can't approve appreciate it when a
woman says to him, oh, I have two dogs.
I can't say like, oh, that's cool, what are their names or
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what kind or something interested.
You don't have to like pets. You don't have to like dogs, but
to show interest and the way that he was completely flat when
she said that she had dogs and she picked up on that.
Immediately I was like. Immediately she's like, oh,
that's a red flag if if he doesn't say anything nice to me
about the fact that I have two dogs.
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Yeah, right on, sister. You know that I don't
particularly care for kids, but when people start talking about
their kids, I ask questions evenif I don't care because that is
a part of you and I care. About you.
So why don't you tell me about what's going on with you and
your kids? So you're you're one of a few
exceptions and you know, I love all my friends kids.
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I just don't love random people's.
Children. So when we go to meet up with
Louisa. She.
Looks so like beyond done like angry, disappointed, disgusted.
And I kept checking her hands like I thought she was vibrating
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with anger waiting to have this conversation with him.
And I I honestly think that she was because if you saw her
coffee cup, like at one point itwas like separated with like
more coffee on the top and more cream on the bottom.
And then it was like all mixed up.
And I can't see it having like separated in that just a short
amount of time. So I feel like she was just like
frantically sitting there just like stirring her coffee, just
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waiting for him to show up. But I love the way that she was
talking about how Tais and she played the voicemail about, you
know, how that was the most awful date of her entire life.
And she lifts off all the reasons why I loved it.
It was. It was beautiful cinematography.
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I don't know well. More more audio.
But yes yes I I love Louisa. She has been wonderful all
season long and she is spot on with this one.
Tony is the one who's damaged and insecure.
Love that. That's classic projecting.
He's the one who has those things, and yet he claims that
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all the women he dates are that way.
And of course, the cherry on top, the icing on the cake, the
Creme de la Creme, the absolute joy of the whole season is going
to be the moment when she fires him, which is coming very soon.
Love it. I love it, even though I think
that's why the preview seems so much longer, because I was like,
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Oh yeah, this, yes, it's coming.And just just sipping on the
tea, you know? I can't wait.
I desperately want for Tony to hear the words You are not
dateable. I wonder how you're going to
react. I like.
I wonder if he has like an element of aggression in him.
(29:05):
I wonder if he's going to get inher face.
I wonder if he's going to throw insults at her.
I wonder if he's going to flip afriggin table.
I know she's protected. I'm not.
I'm not worried about her safety.
I just wonder, like how derangedis this man?
We. Will find out very soon.
I can't wait. I can't.
Wait I also loved it when she said that not only is he
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damaged, but he needs help. He doesn't learn, he doesn't
open up and just the way that she was saying it was just so
doesn't learn. It was almost like through
gritted teeth, like she was so mad.
And there could have been like alevel of anxiety to that as well
because she dated a guy like that and she might be anxious
about confronting him. I hope she feels the support
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that we all have for her becauseshe's doing the right thing.
She has done her job to the bestof her ability.
There are just some clients thatyou cannot help and he is one of
those. Shall we read on?
Let's lower our blood pressure alittle bit, shall we?
I just got so excited about the fact that now it's like it's
becoming a reality that she's going to fire him.
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I think this is phenomenal. And that Tais, that Tais was so
like strong within herself to beable to call him out on it and
be like, like a guy who has longer hair.
Any hair? I don't like a guy who has
tattoos. I don't think she said that, but
that could have been really funny too because I mean, he
doesn't have like a classic tattoo.
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He has hair. Tattoos.
And not only does he not have hair, but he's got tattooed
hair. So pathetic.
I mean, that's even worse than atoupee.
Yep. That's that's so.
Laughable. Let's go to Amber.
Yes, ma'am, let's do this. Yes, we start off with both of
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them snuggled up in bed in the hotel.
She calls even a stallion. And yet they didn't.
Have the sex. They did.
They did. They did.
They did they did. You know how I know?
Because she called him a stallion.
Well, that you know, OK, yes, probably when I heard that word,
I was like, OK, I know what you guys have been doing.
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It was when he got up, she was kneeling on the floor with her
like forearms on the bed. She had this stupid, stupid grin
on her face from ear to ear. And she was just watching him
and saying, you know how he had a cute little bomb?
I was like, this is the post coital love haze, nothing else.
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These are. All those happy hormone
chemicals. That are coming around, the
serotonin, all of it is floodingher body.
She is happy. But she said they didn't have
sex because sex confuses things and they don't have sex.
And she is confused. Yes, she's confused.
They did the sex. But I also wanted to acknowledge
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that the place that they stayed at looked absolutely
breathtaking. Yes, that building with all the
Ivy going up the sides. I just.
I want like a castle. I can't.
You know how I feel. OK.
Anyway. Yeah.
Sorry. OK, Then they move on to the
archery. It's cute, I guess that Kevin
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says if I win, then you have to stop dating everybody else.
But she wins, so I guess she's going to keep dating everybody
else and. Again, with the Super unique and
fun date idea. This isn't dinner.
This isn't, well, I mean, they've already done drinks at
the pub and whatever, but I lovethat this is like adventurous,
but it's not doing Brazilian JiuJitsu on your first date or
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something like this is it's a lot more chill.
And have you ever done anything like that before?
Yes, I've done archery. Yeah, a few times.
It's fun. I loved it.
That was actually my intro into powerlifting because I was using
a 40 LB bow in the way that I was pulling it back My friend
was like I need to get you into the weight room.
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Wow sorry that was my humble brag.
I suck at aim though. We lost a couple arrows, but I
think that they did really well though.
I think that Amber also lost a couple arrows because when you
saw his board versus hers, therewere several missing.
And sometimes, like when they had this shot at her, you could
see that her her bow was slightly pointed a little too
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high. And I was like a girlfriend.
You just have fun. Yeah, I love that day too.
What I found even more intriguing though was afterwards
when they go and they sit on a bench and they're talking about
the future, talking about the possibility of a long distance
relationship and he talks about living in Canada.
So he has been looking into emigrating to Canada for some
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time, which means, excuse me, Kevin, you do have long term
plans. Why didn't you say anything
about this before? It could have impressed her and
us a whole lot more. Hello.
Maybe it's because it's not like, like a firm plan.
It was just something that he's been throwing around that he's
been looking into. But now that he could possibly
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be dating a woman from from the US, it gives him more of a
reason to do it. So, you know, he doesn't have
much of AI. Don't know what I'm doing.
I could do this. I could do this, but now he has
a reason to do it. OK.
Does that make sense? Yeah, it makes sense.
I'm just disappointed that he didn't mention anything like
this before when she asked what are your long term plans or what
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are your desires for the future?He could have said Oh well I
have this dream of moving to Canada and doing whatever.
Fill in the blank. There.
But was that his dream? Because he just said he was
looking into it. OK stop nitpicking.
I just mean that he has a thought in his brain and he
didn't show us before. Why not?
Let's go to Glenn. Because he is still in Amber's
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thoughts and they are still texting.
They're still communicating every day and he is unlike even
living up to her expectations for good communication, which
seems to mean a lot to her. Interesting.
I don't. Know, I still think that this
guy is just Glenn. Yeah, OK.
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Yeah. I don't have a good vibe really
about either one of these choices for Amber.
I think something is lacking with both men, so I don't have a
good feeling about her choosing Glenn or Keevan.
I think she needs a third option, but I don't think we
have enough time to introduce the third option at this point.
I think because we don't have much time left, my prediction is
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that she might not choose eitherone and that would be
interesting, but like would be alittle.
Sad it would be what? I would like to see her on
another season because she's so bubbly, she's so fun, she's so
outgoing, She's just so pure andgenuine.
And I also love the way that herhair just gets absolutely
everywhere. And Kevin goes to give her that
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kiss and she's like, oh, you gota hair kiss?
And it's not like my hair is in the way.
Like she just, she just lets it all out and she's damn, she's
just, she's so much fun. And that reminds me of when she
was dancing with with Glenn's dad.
And she's just a little firecracker.
Yeah, I would like to have drinks with her.
OK, let's. See if we can set that up maybe
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in Ireland. Oh.
Let's do it. OK, OK, why don't we do our
first 90 day? Trip.
Oh. Can we?
Yeah, we can write it off. No budget.
No budget 00 income negative. Income negative.
We have to pay for the podcasting software.
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OK. Anyway, any other comments for
the show or for Amber? I I enjoyed the episode.
Obviously I am very intrigued asto what's going to happen next
week. The preview was so I hate to use
this word, but juicy. Yes.
We're going to see Tony get fired.
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We're going to see Monica get put in a very awkward situation
with Bruno and Bernardo. Love this so much, it's going to
be so awkward. It's, it's going to be very,
very awkward and I think very, very satisfying for us to watch.
We have two more left. I know, I know.
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I'm really looking forward to it.
Like actually. That's why it's it's great and
it's tragic at the same time. We only have two left, then it's
done. So we wrap things up all right
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Thanks everyone, see you next week.
Hi Amy, happy last night was match me abroad season 2 episode
11. Love and hate this at the same
time because I know that it's coming to an end I.
Know I think we only get shows until the end of September
anyway. Yeah, yes, I anyway, let's move
on. Life continues.
Before we dissect the drama thisweek, let's do a 1 and 2 one
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And now we may begin. What was your overall review or
opinion of this episode? I like that we're getting the
storylines wrapped up, so I feltthat it it was satisfying in
that respect. I think I found it interesting
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overall, almost vindicating in some points or at one point.
Yeah, I I enjoyed it. It just it seemed short, just
like the yeah, 90 day UK yesterday seemed really short.
I'm like, why? So we've got it almost felt like
the preview for next week was longer than the actual.
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Episode. Not sure why that's happening.
Let's talk about it. I'm not beginning with Sarah.
And EJ. It's the second date with EJ.
He brings her a gift. Of course he does, because he
was wise. He was wise and he knows that
her love language is gift giving.
What else could it possibly? Be very smart and not.
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Just gift giving. It has to be designer gift
giving. What a gaudy key chain.
Not my taste either, but I appreciated that he figured that
out about her pretty fast. And I mean, they've been
texting, they've been talking during this whole time, so
presumably she has let drop the fact that she likes designer
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stuff and he's done his due diligence.
Found the designer key chain, presented it in the huge bag
with the little box, All good. I think he just, he did really
well. This man continues to surprise.
Me, me as well. I'm really impressed by EJ, but
when he comes to see Sarah at the poolside, he has some bad
news to deliver to us. She already knows this.
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He's leaving in a couple of daysto go to a bodybuilding
competition, so he's not going to have that much time with
Sarah and he'll only be back at the end of this competition for
one day in Singapore before she leaves.
But I wonder how long this competition is because it looks
like he needs to do a lot of preparation for it.
I'm not judging him, just knowing what I know about these
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competitions as they need to cutfor so long.
They need to completely dehydrate themselves in order
for their vasculars and their muscles to, to really come out.
He didn't look like he had a competition right around the
corner. And also when you're preparing
for competitions, because you'recutting so much and so fast, you
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just, you become so depleted, you become Moody.
Most people become Moody and almost like despondent, like
they don't really want to be around other people because
like, it's, it's miserable. Like you're eating nothing but
chicken and rice and vegetables.I mean, if you're even allowed
to have carbs at that point. So I just just something random
that I want to point out. Yeah.
(03:13):
Very interesting. So you may be suggesting that
this is a ruse. I think so.
That he had already decided he wasn't going to go because why
else would he not be doing all those things that you said he
should be doing? He also said drinking.
Yeah, going to the pool. Well, by that point we knew that
he wasn't gonna be doing the competition because he announced
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it at the mother daughter date. That was later on that night
though. Yeah, But anyway, him coming to
the pool, sitting down with her to talk for a while ostensibly
is so that we can know he's not going to be around a lot.
There is no opportunity for themto get to know one another all
that much better because of the reduced amount of time that's
available. Then we get this moment where
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she's OK. I had a really hard time with
this, and I think it's just the reverse sexism.
She's telling him to take his top off, to put his swimsuit on,
jump in the pool, and then he's like, OK, well, I will if you
do. Oh, no, my hair, my makeup.
I just did it. I'm not going.
So you can you go strip off and give me a show?
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Yeah, let me watch you. Well, I sit here and look
pretty. And also, did she not know that
they were going to a pool? She couldn't have prepared and,
you know, put her extensions in a ponytail.
I didn't have any sympathy for her in this segment because I
just felt like she was being impossibly high maintenance.
You want to get to know this guybetter.
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Be open, be playful, get in the pool with him, have some fun.
Don't just sit on the lounger and go.
Oh, he's so hot and I look so pretty.
Anyway, she asks him about her glam.
Is it too much for him? Can he handle it?
He seems very accepting. I'm not sure if I bought it or
not. For me, I would have thought DJ
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was more the kind of person who likes the natural look, not
somebody who is obviously puffedup and enhanced, medically
speaking. But he seems to take it all in
stride. OK.
If that's what you want to do, Isupport you and you support me
going on this competition so-called.
Yeah, quote UN quote. I found the way that he
communicated was very mature. It was very articulate.
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He just seemed very emotionally mature.
So even if it's not something that he believes, then man, he
must be an excellent, excellent salesman.
Not over the top complimentary, but not overly.
It's really growing on. Me, he's got some good human
interaction skills. He just seems like he's he's got
an answer for everything, but itdoesn't feel like a fake answer,
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if that makes sense. So they have this continued or
next date with mom so that mom can grill him to find out more
about who he is and whether or not he's good enough for her
baby girl. This bothered me.
I think it was just before the date.
Well, the date with her mom, I don't even know how to say the
meeting. I guess she says that she's
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she's really not sure if he's all talking games.
And I can appreciate the apprehension, but on the other
hand, he's been very clear aboutwhat his intentions are.
Has he given her any indication that his his intentions are not
sincere? And for him to make this grand
gesture quote, UN quote of not going to the competition just to
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be with her, is that not indication enough that he's
willing to to give that up to spend some more time with her to
see if this is actually going towork?
It's very generous of him to make that offer.
I feel like what you suggested at the beginning is probably
what's actually going on that he'd already decided because you
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didn't see any of the evidence that he's actually cutting right
now and doing all the restriction, restrictions that
he would need to put in place inorder to compete.
And yet at the same time, I don't want to think that he's
the kind of guy who would lie about it.
It could be a production thing, like maybe they had reached out
for him to go on a date with herand he was like, well, no, I've
got this competition coming up. They're like, well, you can't if
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you want to be on the show, Like, OK, I just won't do it.
And they're like, great, we'll add that onto the storyline
because that preparation takes months and months.
Like when I was competing powerlifting, obviously not
bodybuilding, not the same, but I would be gearing up for the
competition like 3 months ahead of time.
Well. Back to the meeting with mom,
she's asking him a whole slew ofvery tough questions and he's
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completely unflappable throughout.
Props to EJ. He does extremely well.
He performs under pressure. He's got very good answers and
like I said before, I don't feellike they're made-up answers to
try to fit into her ideal of what she's looking for.
They seem genuine and real. Yeah.
The answers came too easy to him, and if he was trying to
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flub about, there would be more pauses, there would be more
umms. He's just very clear, very
concise with his responses. And we had a couple of really
nice gestures during this meeting.
One was that he had brought flowers for mom because it
happened to be Mother's Day. And the second is that mom
invited him to come to Houston, which that's amazing.
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And then she used a couple of words to describe EJ, which I
found interesting. One of them I completely agree
with. Confident.
Yes, confidence in Spade. The other word she's used was
masculine. I was like, what does that mean
exactly? Is that referring to the
physical appearance? Is that something else?
I don't know. Because that's very effective.
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It see, it seemed to be complimentary, like nothing that
she was saying about EJ indicated that she saw any red
red flags. She was definitely happy that
this guy was in her daughter's life.
And then he announces that he's not going to the competition and
both mother and daughter are basically over the moon.
I had more questions. I think he's a keeper.
(09:06):
You have a question. I have more questions.
So more questions, OK. He says he was divorced for he's
been divorced for 1314 years. OK.
His most recent relationship ended a month and a half ago.
But how long was it? Yeah, no information there.
Is he a love bomber? Because he says, you know, when
I love, I love hard or I fall hard or something.
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Is he a love bomber? But we didn't get that
information. And then again about the
competition is how often does hecompete?
Because I don't think that he mentioned it previously but
competitions are so expensive. And how often like depending on
how often he competes, like is he going to have to wait for the
next like 6 months cycle before he can do it again?
Is this going to be in another year?
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Like how much of a compromise isthis?
Which makes me think that it wasalready decided that he wasn't
going to be competing at that point.
Yeah, very, very plausible and quite likely.
But we just don't know. We don't have the information.
I just want to hope my gut tellsme there's something a little
bit fishy about the timing of this, and he is not necessarily
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lying about it to Sarah. But definitely there has been
some manipulation of the facts, probably by production, in order
to facilitate this beautiful storyline of him giving up the
competition and wanting to get to know her more and instead of
going wherever it was that he was supposed to go.
And this was a traveling competition.
Yeah, yes. I'm not going to give up one of
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these traveling competitions fora date.
It's just not happening. The amount of money, the amount
of preparation, just the enter. No.
Anyway, can we please move on because that's going to bother
me. OK, All right.
Well, I, I think that Sarah looks genuinely happy here, and
I really appreciated the fact that she seems to be getting
into the groove of being grateful for EJ, of liking him
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enough. I think that they're both going
to be happy, at least in the short term.
I also think that her mom asked a lot of really good questions,
so I think mom actually added something to this as opposed to
Betty. All right, let's move on to
Harold. It is finally time for Harold to
meet one of Amber's friends. This is a very big step for
Amber, even though it's only oneperson who she's only known for
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three or four years. At first I thought, oh, is this
going to be like her childhood friend?
If it's her best friend and it'sonly one person, three to four
years. OK.
All right. What did you think of Joe?
I thought she was so funny. She was very animated.
I thought she asked a lot of really good questions though.
I thought she was a touch judge,mental.
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But then I think she really redeemed herself and I just, I
thought this meeting was so incredibly awkward and then it
just became so joyous. I loved how she made fun of
Harold's face when he ate the the raw meat.
I thought it was adorable. I'm really, really happy that
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this is the experience that Harold has had with her friend
because I know how nervous he was.
And, and I think Amber really went out on a limb to let him
meet her friend because obviously, you know, they move a
lot slower in in Singapore. So I just thought this was a
resounding success. What are your thoughts?
Absolutely. On the success front, it went
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extremely well. There were moments when I was
very, very worried. When they initially sat down and
Joe said I want to hear all about Prague, I was like, oh,
that's a bit forward and blunt. Like, what are you expecting to
hear? The entire story of Harold's
heartbreak? That's a bit awkward.
And I wasn't sure at first, based on the questions and the
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attitude and the emotiveness of Joe, if she understood that
Harold was on the spectrum because he was definitely
uncomfortable with how he was getting peppered incessantly
with questions at the start. I think she was excited, yeah,
there was definitely a level of excitement there.
And she was so enthusiastic about the meeting that that was
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contagious. But like Harold was saying, he
finds it difficult sometimes to deal with people who are in your
face all the time. He prefers to withdraw and be a
little bit more quiet, so you could see him struggling.
Even though he was struggling, he did his best and he performed
so, so well. He told the story about
Michaela. He explained about having kissed
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Amber, which was a huge surpriseto Joe.
That was. Cute.
Joe's reaction was just what he didn't tell me.
The most important part of all of this.
What is? Yeah.
Oh my God. Like she was just like your
typical like BFF. What do you mean you didn't tell
me this? And then I love the part where
both Amber and Joe kind of turn to one another and started
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talking about all of Harold's great qualities as if he wasn't
even there. You know, he's so smart, he's so
funny, he's adventurous, he's sointerested in you.
He's so into you, Amber. I mean, clearly everybody is on
Team Herald, which is great. That's the way things should be.
I was very happy. The only question mark at the
end of this segment is what is Harold going to do in order to
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secure himself in this relationship with Amber?
Because he really wants to solidify things in some way so
that when he leaves, he knows that she is in a relationship
with a capital R with him. Whether that means girlfriend or
boyfriend or engaged, we don't know, but he definitely wants to
take that next. Step.
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I still think he needs to slow his roll with the engagement,
though. I did want to go back to the
dinner. First of all, it looked
absolutely delicious. And yes, I am hungry.
Amber was like, OK, I'm going tolean back.
And you know, Joe can go ahead. You can have like a quick fire
question round or something. And his response was, it's OK,
I'm flame retardant. Let's go.
Oh my God, Harold, you're so cute.
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And then when Joe starts asking about his autism and she's like,
I think it means that you're super smart and or, you know,
neurodiverse. And it was just like this huge
positive thing. And then they started going back
and forth about, you know, all the great things about him.
And I think that's when you could see him finally relax.
Like, how beautiful would that be to have this person that
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you're very interested in and her friend just sit there and
compliment you in front of you as if you're not even there?
I think that's so beautiful. I mean, it could be awkward, but
I think, I think he really needed to hear that.
Definitely needs the positive reinforcement and so far it's
only been Dolly who's been able to deliver that to him.
And it's always been tempered with something else like you
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shouldn't move too fast or you shouldn't wear your suspenders.
You should be terrelled 2 point O.
So it's really nice for him to finally have this unadulterated
compliment session. I thought it was beautiful.
Nothing else, I don't think. So it was just, all I can say is
just, it's just so cute. And we all know how much I love
Harold. I just don't want to go.
I don't want to read on Tony's next.
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Well, I also I don't want to read on.
However, as you told me yesterday, we must.
Yes, we have no choice. OK, here we go, Tony.
First of all, I noticed two things On this date with Tais.
1, Tais is gorgeous, absolutely gorgeous.
And two, her hair is lovely and it's long and it has 0
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correlation to her ability to raise children.
That's a fair assessment. That's a fair assessment.
Did you talk to a gynecologist to confirm that?
Because I'm not sure you're a medical professional unlike.
Tony. Tony seems to be.
Tony, the medical professional expert on all things women.
Yeah. What did What did you think of
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her? I thought she was beautiful.
I thought she was talented. I thought she was funny.
I think she she gave him a chance and he quickly blew it.
I think she had a lot more patience with him that I think I
would have even just walking in on that date, you know, he just,
he looked so smug. I think that's like the the best
way that I can describe his faceis just so smug.
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But first of all, I love that they went to a place called
Batman Alley and that they were going to go and do graffiti.
I've always wanted to, but it's illegal, so clearly I will not
be doing that. But I thought that that was a
really fun and interesting firstdate idea, a great way for them
both to exercise their creativity, their talent and or
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lack thereof. I love that he gave this big
story about, you know, this ninja turtle and he's walking
the pig. And I'm like, well, isn't that
ironic given the fact that you are a pig?
And, you know, the way that he was describing her, you know, I
didn't even notice the hair at first.
I was just so taken aback by whatever else.
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And then he said that her skin is so Milky soft.
And my question is, does he wantto friggin wear it?
Because that's what it seemed like it would just, it was so
creepy. I'm so glad he didn't say it to
her face because that was reallyweird.
And then when she brings up the fact that she has dogs and she
was saying, I was really surprised that he wasn't
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interested in it. You know, if he doesn't love
dogs, that's a red flag. But didn't he have like one of
those blind blind dates with someone who said that they had
dogs or what? It was his second date with the
jiu jitsu woman who allows her dog to sleep in the bed.
And he's he said he had an axe who allowed that, and he does
not approve. It's not good when women equate
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dogs with babies. They get confused and they don't
know how to raise children. Yeah.
Something along those lines. Yes.
Can we can we go back to the pigs?
Because yes, this part was so funny.
I also found it ironic that he was going to do a pig because
Tony big equals sign between those two words.
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Also the little story that he told was just ridiculous.
If you let a pig out into the wild, it will turn into a
warthog eventually. What the fuck?
What? Drugs are you on, Tony?
Excuse me? Is a warthog no.
Never a pig and I also just likeI wanted to just like grab my
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screen and shake it be like, youknow the irony of him also being
a pig, but at least a pig and a warthog has more hair than he
does just. You know what I mean?
Not only is this guy not smart, he is so misinformed about just
about everything, and yet he believes himself to be an
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expert. And he thinks he's so good.
That you want to punch. Oh my God.
And you know how they do those little like the introduction
where he's like on the beach andwhatever.
And the I think the first one was him, you know, laying out
like a beach blanket and it was the most lazy laying out of a
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beach blanket ever. And then he lays on it as if
he's so sexy. And then the second one was him
with the umbrella and he keeps trying to stick it into the
sand, but he can't really get itin there.
So he's just, he just sits up all proud.
Like dude, you were no. Everybody's making fun of you,
Tony. Absolutely everybody.
The sooner you understand that the better, because then you can
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go get help and turn things around.
No, because he's a complete and utter narcissist.
Well, there's that. But we can always hope that some
bit of reason gets through his tiny little brain and he
actually wants to make a difference and change his life a
little bit to become respectable, nice, decent human
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being. I have very little hope.
Is him not getting his hairline tattooed?
Is that not indicative of him being a decent human?
I I'm sorry, I can't even finishthat.
Sentence No, no, no, no. But this person was the perfect
one to have his final date with because obviously it's his final
date. She, the way that she started
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picking him apart was fantastic.I love that she criticized his
hair. And then it's like he can sense
that she's not into him. So he starts at yeah, and then
he try and then he's got to turnit all around.
Oh, I'm the one who's rejecting her because her hair is not long
enough and blah, blah, blah. Like just chefs kiss when she
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tells him I like long hair on a man.
That moment was so tasty. I I felt so good.
I was really waiting for her to slice into him some more.
But it let you know when they first met it was broad daylight
and then when they were leaving it was around dusk.
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So like, I wonder if she did saya lot but they cut it out.
I'm just going to live with my idea that she did say a hell of
a lot more than yeah, what the editors allowed us to see.
But I I noticed the exact momentwhere he started to try to take
control of the situation back, like, oh, you don't think that
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I'm good looking? What did he say?
He said. Are you a flashy person?
No, it was before that. Because he's like, you know,
what are you looking for in a man?
And she's like, oh, you know, loyalty and blah, blah, blah.
And his response was like, wow, that's basic.
That's what everyone, woman, every woman wants.
Like is there nothing else like?Oh, OK, you know, you know what?
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I think he said that that it wasbasic because he doesn't
understand that values are more important than physical
appearance. He's wanting her to say, oh, I'm
looking for a guy who's buff, who's 6 foot four, who has a car
and a house, blah blah blah. Who has a heroin but she.
But she comes up with what you would normally expect, which is
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I want somebody who's kind, who's caring, who's funny, who's
compassionate, intelligent. You are not.
So he doesn't know what to do with that because those are not
the qualities that he is lookingfor.
He's not able to wrap his mind about around the fact that there
are other things than physicality with which to
choose. A mate and Louisa called it out
from the very beginning like sheneeds to remove the physical
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aspects from it, which is why they did the blind date, why
this woman has tried so hard butanyway going back to the tooth.
I didn't even notice and even when he was talking about it, I.
Couldn't see it. Me either.
I went to school with a woman who had a diamond tooth and she
was utterly insufferable. And that is in no way reflective
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of Tais because I think that she's absolutely stunning.
She has a beautiful personality.From what we've seen, she seems
artistic, creative, whatever. But that's what it was like.
No, no, are you? That's when he said, Are you
flashy? And it's so shallow.
Maybe she just stuck a little sticker on her tooth.
I, I don't know, maybe she's just trying something out for
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the very first time. Maybe it is permanent.
It could be maybe she enjoys that.
Maybe that's what Brazilian women do.
I don't know, but the fact that he immediately writes her off
because of this one tiny little physical detail which is not
even a part of her body so it can be removed tells you
everything you need to know. This guy has impossible
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standards, nobody will ever liveup to them and he himself is not
a prize because he has such strict prejudices and
expectations of people. I thought it was just, it was so
awkward but also so hysterical to see him just flip, you know?
Like when he started getting thevibes that she didn't like him,
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then he was like, never mind. It's one of those like, I'm
going to hurt you before you canhurt me kind of thing.
He's being more protective of himself.
Well, again, that says more about you than it does about
her. And I'm being like but then.
I mean, he tries to tear her down and she's not having any of
it. And so she calls off the dates.
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I'm tired. So tired.
I have. To go, it's like 6:00.
Go in. Brazil, because that's when the
evening ends, not. Not even when the evening
begins. So the date ends, and
immediately my thought goes to, OK, Tony's not going to take any
kind of accountability for this.And of course, he immediately
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blames Louisa because Louisa hasa problem.
Louisa's setting him up with these loser women.
It's nothing to do with him. It's all Louisa, Louisa, Louisa.
Predictable. Love that for him.
He's going to be alone and miserable forever.
I mean, I wouldn't wish that on many people.
This guy, just based on his persona on TV, I mean, you put
(25:50):
yourself on TV, you have opened yourself up to these judgments.
Yeah, absolutely. Based on what he has shown us.
Sir, just please do the right thing and walk into a volcano.
Even the fact that he can't approve appreciate it when a
woman says to him, oh, I have two dogs.
I can't say like, oh, that's cool, what are their names or
(26:11):
what kind or something interested.
You don't have to like pets. You don't have to like dogs, but
to show interest and the way that he was completely flat when
she said that she had dogs and she picked up on that.
Immediately I was like. Immediately she's like, oh,
that's a red flag if if he doesn't say anything nice to me
about the fact that I have two dogs.
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Yeah, right on, sister. You know that I don't
particularly care for kids, but when people start talking about
their kids, I ask questions evenif I don't care because that is
a part of you and I care. About you.
So why don't you tell me about what's going on with you and
your kids? So you're you're one of a few
exceptions and you know, I love all my friends kids.
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I just don't love random people's.
Children. So when we go to meet up with
Louisa. She.
Looks so like beyond done like angry, disappointed, disgusted.
And I kept checking her hands like I thought she was vibrating
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with anger waiting to have this conversation with him.
And I I honestly think that she was because if you saw her
coffee cup, like at one point itwas like separated with like
more coffee on the top and more cream on the bottom.
And then it was like all mixed up.
And I can't see it having like separated in that just a short
amount of time. So I feel like she was just like
frantically sitting there just like stirring her coffee, just
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waiting for him to show up. But I love the way that she was
talking about how Tais and she played the voicemail about, you
know, how that was the most awful date of her entire life.
And she lifts off all the reasons why I loved it.
It was. It was beautiful cinematography.
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I don't know well. More more audio.
But yes yes I I love Louisa. She has been wonderful all
season long and she is spot on with this one.
Tony is the one who's damaged and insecure.
Love that. That's classic projecting.
He's the one who has those things, and yet he claims that
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all the women he dates are that way.
And of course, the cherry on top, the icing on the cake, the
Creme de la Creme, the absolute joy of the whole season is going
to be the moment when she fires him, which is coming very soon.
Love it. I love it, even though I think
that's why the preview seems so much longer, because I was like,
(28:43):
Oh yeah, this, yes, it's coming.And just just sipping on the
tea, you know? I can't wait.
I desperately want for Tony to hear the words You are not
dateable. I wonder how you're going to
react. I like.
I wonder if he has like an element of aggression in him.
(29:05):
I wonder if he's going to get inher face.
I wonder if he's going to throw insults at her.
I wonder if he's going to flip afriggin table.
I know she's protected. I'm not.
I'm not worried about her safety.
I just wonder, like how derangedis this man?
We. Will find out very soon.
I can't wait. I can't.
Wait I also loved it when she said that not only is he
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damaged, but he needs help. He doesn't learn, he doesn't
open up and just the way that she was saying it was just so
doesn't learn. It was almost like through
gritted teeth, like she was so mad.
And there could have been like alevel of anxiety to that as well
because she dated a guy like that and she might be anxious
about confronting him. I hope she feels the support
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that we all have for her becauseshe's doing the right thing.
She has done her job to the bestof her ability.
There are just some clients thatyou cannot help and he is one of
those. Shall we read on?
Let's lower our blood pressure alittle bit, shall we?
I just got so excited about the fact that now it's like it's
becoming a reality that she's going to fire him.
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I think this is phenomenal. And that Tais, that Tais was so
like strong within herself to beable to call him out on it and
be like, like a guy who has longer hair.
Any hair? I don't like a guy who has
tattoos. I don't think she said that, but
that could have been really funny too because I mean, he
doesn't have like a classic tattoo.
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He has hair. Tattoos.
And not only does he not have hair, but he's got tattooed
hair. So pathetic.
I mean, that's even worse than atoupee.
Yep. That's that's so.
Laughable. Let's go to Amber.
Yes, ma'am, let's do this. Yes, we start off with both of
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them snuggled up in bed in the hotel.
She calls even a stallion. And yet they didn't.
Have the sex. They did.
They did. They did.
They did they did. You know how I know?
Because she called him a stallion.
Well, that you know, OK, yes, probably when I heard that word,
I was like, OK, I know what you guys have been doing.
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It was when he got up, she was kneeling on the floor with her
like forearms on the bed. She had this stupid, stupid grin
on her face from ear to ear. And she was just watching him
and saying, you know how he had a cute little bomb?
I was like, this is the post coital love haze, nothing else.
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These are. All those happy hormone
chemicals. That are coming around, the
serotonin, all of it is floodingher body.
She is happy. But she said they didn't have
sex because sex confuses things and they don't have sex.
And she is confused. Yes, she's confused.
They did the sex. But I also wanted to acknowledge
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that the place that they stayed at looked absolutely
breathtaking. Yes, that building with all the
Ivy going up the sides. I just.
I want like a castle. I can't.
You know how I feel. OK.
Anyway. Yeah.
Sorry. OK, Then they move on to the
archery. It's cute, I guess that Kevin
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says if I win, then you have to stop dating everybody else.
But she wins, so I guess she's going to keep dating everybody
else and. Again, with the Super unique and
fun date idea. This isn't dinner.
This isn't, well, I mean, they've already done drinks at
the pub and whatever, but I lovethat this is like adventurous,
but it's not doing Brazilian JiuJitsu on your first date or
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something like this is it's a lot more chill.
And have you ever done anything like that before?
Yes, I've done archery. Yeah, a few times.
It's fun. I loved it.
That was actually my intro into powerlifting because I was using
a 40 LB bow in the way that I was pulling it back My friend
was like I need to get you into the weight room.
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Wow sorry that was my humble brag.
I suck at aim though. We lost a couple arrows, but I
think that they did really well though.
I think that Amber also lost a couple arrows because when you
saw his board versus hers, therewere several missing.
And sometimes, like when they had this shot at her, you could
see that her her bow was slightly pointed a little too
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high. And I was like a girlfriend.
You just have fun. Yeah, I love that day too.
What I found even more intriguing though was afterwards
when they go and they sit on a bench and they're talking about
the future, talking about the possibility of a long distance
relationship and he talks about living in Canada.
So he has been looking into emigrating to Canada for some
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time, which means, excuse me, Kevin, you do have long term
plans. Why didn't you say anything
about this before? It could have impressed her and
us a whole lot more. Hello.
Maybe it's because it's not like, like a firm plan.
It was just something that he's been throwing around that he's
been looking into. But now that he could possibly
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be dating a woman from from the US, it gives him more of a
reason to do it. So, you know, he doesn't have
much of AI. Don't know what I'm doing.
I could do this. I could do this, but now he has
a reason to do it. OK.
Does that make sense? Yeah, it makes sense.
I'm just disappointed that he didn't mention anything like
this before when she asked what are your long term plans or what
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are your desires for the future?He could have said Oh well I
have this dream of moving to Canada and doing whatever.
Fill in the blank. There.
But was that his dream? Because he just said he was
looking into it. OK stop nitpicking.
I just mean that he has a thought in his brain and he
didn't show us before. Why not?
Let's go to Glenn. Because he is still in Amber's
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thoughts and they are still texting.
They're still communicating every day and he is unlike even
living up to her expectations for good communication, which
seems to mean a lot to her. Interesting.
I don't. Know, I still think that this
guy is just Glenn. Yeah, OK.
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Yeah. I don't have a good vibe really
about either one of these choices for Amber.
I think something is lacking with both men, so I don't have a
good feeling about her choosing Glenn or Keevan.
I think she needs a third option, but I don't think we
have enough time to introduce the third option at this point.
I think because we don't have much time left, my prediction is
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that she might not choose eitherone and that would be
interesting, but like would be alittle.
Sad it would be what? I would like to see her on
another season because she's so bubbly, she's so fun, she's so
outgoing, She's just so pure andgenuine.
And I also love the way that herhair just gets absolutely
everywhere. And Kevin goes to give her that
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kiss and she's like, oh, you gota hair kiss?
And it's not like my hair is in the way.
Like she just, she just lets it all out and she's damn, she's
just, she's so much fun. And that reminds me of when she
was dancing with with Glenn's dad.
And she's just a little firecracker.
Yeah, I would like to have drinks with her.
OK, let's. See if we can set that up maybe
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in Ireland. Oh.
Let's do it. OK, OK, why don't we do our
first 90 day? Trip.
Oh. Can we?
Yeah, we can write it off. No budget.
No budget 00 income negative. Income negative.
We have to pay for the podcasting software.
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OK. Anyway, any other comments for
the show or for Amber? I I enjoyed the episode.
Obviously I am very intrigued asto what's going to happen next
week. The preview was so I hate to use
this word, but juicy. Yes.
We're going to see Tony get fired.
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We're going to see Monica get put in a very awkward situation
with Bruno and Bernardo. Love this so much, it's going to
be so awkward. It's, it's going to be very,
very awkward and I think very, very satisfying for us to watch.
We have two more left. I know, I know.
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I'm really looking forward to it.
Like actually. That's why it's it's great and
it's tragic at the same time. We only have two left, then it's
done. So we wrap things up all right
before we go. If you're enjoying the 90 day
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