September 8, 2025 • 36 mins
Amber meets Glenn again, then has a heart-to-heart with Katarina. Luiza waits for her client to show up so she can fire him, but the loser even doesn’t bother to turn up or cancel their meeting. Sarah fishes for dinner while talking babies with EJ. Monica is forced to make a choice between two men. Harold has an idea for how he can get to know Amber better, as well as solidify their relationship.
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Hi, Amy. Happy.
We just watched Match Me Abroad Season 2 episode 1212.
Did you have anything you wantedto share about this episode
before we start? When I first started it, I kind
of fast forwarded it through thethe intro and I paused on what
looked like the most delicious meal ever.
So then I rewound it and then I couldn't.
Find it again? How strange.
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Did you ever figure it out? No, but I'm hungry, OK.
As usual. All right, well.
I know. Before you dish the dirt, Oh
well. My opinion of it is a lot of
people were getting pushed in directions that ultimately I
think will not serve them. Excellent, Excellent perspective
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and I concur. Excellent agreement.
Thank you. Let's do the one and two one
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Honestly. And now let us begin.
All right, let's do it. Amber has another date with
Glenn, also known as Mr. Eyebrows.
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Mr. Ireland? No those.
Eyebrows are a bit much. They are way too much.
I can't look at anything but theeyebrows.
I think the eyebrows have their own personality.
It could possibly be more than Glenn's personality.
However, I would not date the eyebrows I.
Also would not date the eyebrows.
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And I'm sure you've noticed, andI'm sure those that watch us on
YouTube know that I have an eyebrow that has a mind of its
own. But I also think that my one
singular eyebrow has more of a personality than Glenn does.
Agreement here, yes, nodding. However, the choice of
traditional Irish dancing as a date I think is a great.
(01:51):
One. I thought it looked like so much
fun. Charming, so sweet.
I would love to do this. What do we think of Mr. Eyebrows
in this date? I found him super boring.
Really. Yeah, my comment was and is not
for her. Yeah, it's very, very funny that
you should say that because my first comment was, it's amazing
how full of confidence he is, that he is the one for Amber.
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I don't believe he is. With nothing to back it up.
Yeah, it seems like he's just out there for the winning or for
the being on TV, the clout. I don't get anything real from
him except that he's enthusiastic and he's very self
confident. Good for him.
What did? You think of Amber telling Glenn
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that she had stayed overnight with another guy.
Oh, that was super cringy. But I think it was good of her
to be honest, because obviously when you're dating multiple
people and they know that you'redating multiple people,
especially through matchmakers, it's par for the course, though.
I think he could have created his own idea of what actually
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happened. And I don't think, you know, she
said we didn't have sex. I don't think that he would
believe her. Be like of course you did,
because I. Would have, yes.
I didn't think it was necessary for her to volunteer that
information, He asked her. They went on a date.
Yeah, she, he asked her what have you been up to these last
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few days? And she could have just said I
went and I stayed in the castle near Kilkenny.
I think it was not. I was invited by another man to
have a weekend at this estate. I really thought that that was
an odd thing to volunteer as a piece of information to him.
And this surges or pushes Glenn on to try to persuade Amber to
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break things off with Kevin. I was going to say to piss on
her leg but same thing. Yeah, he is very territorial.
He feels like an entitled brat. I think he's a man who's used to
getting whatever he wants, even if it's at the expense of other
people's feelings. He doesn't really care.
He just wants three wants and damn it all to hell, he's going
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to get it. Yes, it's smacks of arrogance.
Cockiness. Even though he refutes it, he's
not cocky. He is confident.
There's a fine line, dude, and you have right over that line.
I don't know what that noise was.
I'm sorry that was. Amy demonstrating with her
fingers, walking a little dance in the air, and then the person
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fell off a Cliff. I was like trotting, I think.
I'm not sure. He seems very enthusiastic.
She has the same kind of energy.They match in certain ways, but
I don't get the sense that he's catching any feelings for Amber.
He's just playing the part. Yeah, I think they would both
get bored really quickly and or maybe he's love bombing her and
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then he's going to retract and then she's going to chase after
him and that's really what he wants.
And I think we really find that out when she talks to Katarina.
Katarina was so real and I love her so much more now.
Katarina is always telling the truth in the hardest moments and
I love that about her. Yes, I thought she did an
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excellent job, but before she talked to Amber, she called
Keevan. And I thought even with Keevan,
she was very insightful because she got right to the heart of
the matter. With Keevan, which.
Is in a kind way of. Course, which was to ask him
Have you expressed to Amber how you feel about her?
Katarina asked Keevan how he feels.
He says he cares a lot about Amber, and yet that hasn't been
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communicated to Amber because Keevan is afraid of rejection
and afraid of the fact that he knows there are other people
involved and so he could get hurt.
I get it, you're scared. Yeah, he's being, he's being
super cautious about the whole relationship thing, when in
reality she's only there for a short period of time and he
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really needs to make his interest known.
And one of my other comments about Kevin in comparison to
Glenn is I really think that Kevin's demeanor, his
personality, apprehension, his ability to second guess things,
which I'm not saying is, is a con.
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I think it's good to have someone who's a little bit
reserved, especially in the faceof Amber's personality.
I think that he would really even her out.
So I mean, it's easier to say this watching as things play out
because obviously we're not in it, but I think that Kevin would
be a much better match for her then then Glenn.
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And I remember when they first met her and Glenn and they went
to the salt mines or whatever itwas.
I don't know, they went somewhere.
They went to the prison castle. Thank you.
I know I was thinking what they were not little gnomes in a dark
mind. I mean, they could have been,
but at the same time, like, you know, their energies match.
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And I was kind of really excitedabout that.
But I feel like Glenn has reallyfallen flat, whereas Kevin's
been, he's been showing up, he'sbeen showing his interest
without being overly commutative.
About it, but that's a problem for Amber.
Yes. She's talked about how she
doesn't like the fact that he doesn't text her, but that's.
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That's a point of growth for himor an opportunity for growth for
him. Maybe that's why he hasn't been
successful in love, because he'sbeen too apprehensive to express
his feelings, worried about being hurt.
This is his opportunity to to really shine.
And I really hope that in the next episode that's what we see.
But in this episode, I loved howKatarita called Amber out, and
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Amber was just what? What?
What do you, what do you mean? I forget what she said, but she
got all, like, defensive about it.
I think it's exactly what Amber needed to hear, whether or not
she wanted to hear at that time.Yeah, absolutely.
She did. She did need to hear that.
She did need the hard truths. The way that Amber described her
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two relationships, saying that being with Kevin is like an
emotional roller coaster. I thought that was not good.
And also. Untrue.
How can you be? How can you have an emotional
roller coaster with some guy who's so chill?
Think what she means is the lackof communication puts her in the
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down spiral of the roller coaster and then all of a sudden
it's like come away with me for a weekend at this romantic
castle, which is obviously the opposite of that.
So I can see how she would feel that it is like that.
But at the same time, Katarina gets right to the point here
where she says do you think thatGlenn is genuine?
Which is a fantastic question. You can see that Amber is like
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her wheels are spinning. She's trying to make excuses and
find the good in Glenn in order to make that her choice rather
than Kevin who is the more of a question mark because he's not
feeding her the attention she craves whereas Glenn is.
But how much attention is Glenn going to to shower her with
before he retracts it? Absolutely getting.
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Bored. And this is This is why Katarina
is saying Glenn is typical of the men that Amber has dated in
the past. And he's not really good for her
because it is a situation where there's a lot of love bombing
and then who knows what comes next.
But it's obviously not good because Amber is still single
and she needs to try something else, which is the Kievan route.
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But I'm going to stick to what Isaid last time, which is that I
don't think that either of these, his choices is good for
Amber. Obviously, Glenn, he's a prick
and there's just no two ways about it.
He is. Kevin is a nice guy, absolutely,
but he is too reticent. He hasn't yet learned to take
life by the horns. He hasn't learned to seize the
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moment. He hasn't learned to be free
with his emotions and to take the opportunity when it is in
front of him. And unless he has some huge
emotional growth between this episode and the next one, I
really don't think that Amber's going to end up going home with
either one of these guys as her boyfriend.
Well, I think I said that last week.
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I don't think she's going to go home with either one of them.
I think she needs to find someone who's in between their
personalities and their. I want to say comfort, but I
also don't want to say comfort because I feel like Glenn is way
too comfortable with himself andI feel like Kevin really needs
to amp that up. That being said is I still think
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that this is a huge opportunity for Kevin to step it up.
I would love to see that happen,but just from what we've seen so
far, I don't think that that's in the works.
It doesn't seem to be at that point.
If they'd had more time togetherand Kevin had actually fallen
somewhat in love by this point, I think that that would have
been possible. But given that they've only had
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a few dates, he's not been consistent with the
communication. I don't think he would be at the
stage where she would say, oh, Ireally need to show her how I'm
feeling before she leaves because otherwise I'm in danger
of losing her forever. I wonder how he and Veronica
will work together. Veronica, do you mean Vic?
That one, yes. Thank you.
Yes, interesting question had not thought about that.
(11:16):
They were they're both kind of what's the word not commitment
phobic, although she is that youknow, when they have the part,
the personality of the attachment style is.
Avoidant. Avoidant.
Thank you. They both are avoidant I think,
so I'm not sure that that would work out so well.
I don't know, I just had that idea and that's why I'm stabbing
myself in the face with my pen with my non clicky pen.
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Do you have any other things to communicate regarding Amber?
No, I am actually quite eager tomove on to the next one.
Oh well, let us do so and let's discuss.
Tony. He doesn't show up to his own
breakup. Classic Tony I felt.
Isn't it a firing? Sorry.
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Isn't it a firing? Yes, he's he's getting fired.
Yes, but he doesn't show up to it because he would rather be
the control freak and say F you without saying F you because he
knows what's coming instead of taking any kind of feedback.
Any kind of feedback? No.
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This guy is not willing to grow,he's not willing to learn.
He is not open to any kind of criticism.
He thinks he is perfect as he is, and the problem lies with
everybody else. You know when they have, oh,
Tony on the beach with the umbrella and he was trying to
stick it in the sand. Did you see how he couldn't
stick it in the sand? And he had.
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To hold it. I know the the trolling has been
on par all season long, there's no doubt about that.
My comment for Tony is dirtbag disrespectful asshole.
Mine was Tony has his own way ofloving himself that.
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Makes me want to vomit, but everything that he does or
doesn't do in this episode just proves the case.
Proves everything that Louisa issaying about him.
It proves everything that we have thought about him.
We are totally justified in having thought that Tony was an
asshole from the beginning because of this, yes.
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I'm aging myself, I'm sorry. But I think Louisa, she does a
wonderful job of breaking it down for us, talking about Tony
not being ready for a healthy relationship.
Absolutely, 100%. There's nothing more that she
can do for him. She's given him all these
opportunities to meet women, to go on dates.
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He's rejected everybody. He's rejected everything.
All of the feedback, criticism, and he does this as a way to
hurt other people before they hurt him or.
At least reject them before theyhurt him.
Yes. Which I think is very, very
valid. Very poignant he is.
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Nothing but rude beyond rude and.
Louisa on that like, you know the scale of good looking and
crazy. Like he's below Ground Zero at
that point. Like he is that kind of guy that
just expects the outer world andhas nothing to offer.
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But again, I think it's his mommy issues because I think his
mom blew smoke up his ass for sofriggin long.
He can't accept anything other than sheer perfection.
But sheer perfection will never accept him.
Or maybe his mom was absent and he's been doing everything he
possibly can to get his mom's acceptance.
Can't get it? So now he rejects every woman
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because none of them are his mom, and that's the only
acceptance that he needs. His mom's acceptance, well, he
definitely has some deep traumatic emotional wound from
somewhere. Who knows what it is.
All I can tell you is that I think that Tony is the poster
child for someone who needs therapy right now.
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I think it's completely and utterly useless as a human
being. I don't ever want to see him on
my screen again. Him and his tattooed forehead.
Like he's just ridiculous. He is.
He's beyond help. And I felt really bad for Louisa
(15:30):
that she was given this task andit was an impossible task.
I really hope that she chalks this one up to my Lord.
There was nothing I could have friggin done.
I hope, I hope that Louisa got ahuge fat fee out of Tony before
all of this ridiculous behavior happened.
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I like that she gets rewarded for all of her hard work and
patience, as well as compensatedfor the disrespect and that the
lack of consideration. You know, I think we're only at
what, season 2 of Match Me? But out of the two seasons I
believe. Correct me if I'm wrong wrong,
but I believe that he has had the most days out of any single
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person. Yeah, I think you're right.
Because he had that blind date where he had, what, four or five
different women? 3 So he had five women all
together. Think and then we we look at
everyone else and it's two or three and he propose everything,
everyone, everything. My Lord, I'm glad he's done, but
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I was man. I cackled when he didn't show
up. Like this man has no integrity.
Yeah, it yes, it was very funny that he didn't come.
But at the same time, I so much was looking forward to this
moment of seeing his face drop. When Louisa says you're fired,
get out of here. And we didn't get that
satisfaction. But on the other hand, his
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behavior towards Louisa is confirmation of everything that
we've already thought about him.So that is also very satisfying.
Yeah. Shall we read on, Sarah?
And EJ. The EJ.
They are having another date. They've had lots of dates.
Apparently they've been seeing each other regularly since the
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last episode. But no kiss yet.
No talk of the future. Yet I thought the lack of
kissing was interesting. But we also know from Amber that
Singaporeans take things as a culture.
I guess like dating culture, they take things very slowly.
So I'm not sure if he was respecting that, if he was
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respecting her, or if he was worried that if he kissed her,
her lips would pop. Lots to consider there.
I was also concerned about the lack of kissing, but now that
you mentioned this is a Singaporean culture, I have to
dial it back a little. So my initial response was
there's definitely something wrong here that they've gone out
so many times and not haven't breached the physical barrier
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yet. But maybe yes, maybe given the
culture it is OK and there's really nothing wrong with it at
all. No alarm bells should be
sounding at this point. Well, even when we have his
little interviews, he says he's so interested in her.
They've had such a great time. But again, after that many date,
like even Harold got a misstep and kiss on what the second date
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and EJ hasn't even tried and then I'm jumping ahead of it.
But you know, they do have that kiss.
And it was. It was a pack.
Yeah, yeah, it. Wasn't one of those like you
lean in and it's like such pack and then it just like turns into
like this big emotional. Are you gonna start singing with
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your arms? Like I'm feeling what you're
describing when they're. Yeah.
Exactly. I wanted that.
There was so much more that could have happened, like it
could have been one of those Disney fairy tale kisses that
was just come on, you wanna kiss?
The girl. Well, well, you know, like that,
like there was none of that. It was, it almost seemed like a
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business transaction, like therewas no emotion involved in it.
It was like goodbye. Yes, I I see that I felt a
little bit cold, a little bit sterile.
To me, it felt more like kissingyour family member or close
friend. Yeah, there was nothing romantic
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about it. I was waiting for that moment
when the kiss just lingers. 1-2 seconds and then there's that
look as you move away from each other and looking to each
other's eyes. None.
No, it was legit. Like she gets into the car, she
drives away, he watches her drive off forloringly, and I
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look forloringly as well. All the things that could have
been. And it's not like either one of
them tried to do anything differently.
It was just. OK, all right, well, we're not
going to figure this out, but let's talk about the date
itself. What did you think of this
interesting idea of catching prawns, cooking them and eating
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them? OK, first of all, I don't know
if they actually cook them and ate them.
I don't think we saw. That we saw the cooking.
Oh, maybe I was cooking myself. Not myself, but chop chopping.
You were, you were in the kitchen.
Ah, you got distracted, OK. Which is kind of frustrating
because I was like. Why are you cooking yourself?
Isn't that painful? You know how I feel because my
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question was did they even eat the the prawns?
But I thought that the whole idea of the prawn fishing, I
thought that was really cute. I thought it was really unique.
And I'm on Sarah side. Like I love fishing, but I will
not bait the the hook. Yeah, I can't It's it makes me
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gag Fair. But I will fish.
And I think she gave an effort, E for E for effort.
To. To engage.
She did catch 1 prawn. I'm I'm surprised that I
actually missed the actual king in the eating.
Like, at what point did I step away and I came back and they
were just departing? I don't know.
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I don't think they saw, we saw them eating them, but we saw
the, I want to say scampi prawns.
We saw the prawns on a grill. They were.
It was barbecued. Well, I was hungry before, but
now I'm even more hungry. EJ, I will eat prawns with you
anyway. I really didn't appreciate how
she was pressuring him about thekids and her timeline.
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I really think that she needs torespect his his timeline without
projecting hers on on to him. And she even said in her little
interview thing I need to convince him that he needs to
have kids before 2 years. But at the same time when he
first meet someone it takes a long time to actually get to
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know them. So you're saying that you just
want to meet them, You want to marry him and immediately have
kids? That's a bit much.
You have no time to establish the foundation of your
relationship in order to to havea family.
It's really setting them up for failure if she wants to pressure
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him like that. And she even says in her
interview, I'm going to try to convince him I.
Found this. I found this very confusing and
not confusing in the timeline because it was obvious She has
this one year strict deadline. She wants to start having a
family within one year of meeting somebody and he says he
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had. He needs a minimum of two years
because he wants to establish his business.
Do you know how old he is right now?
I can't remember. I don't know if we've ever been
given his age. But that aside, so their plans
don't seem to match. We've got one year versus
minimum two years. But at at a certain point they
started saying, well, if this were to happen, as in they were
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to get together and have kids, we would make it work even if
the timeline hadn't been the twoyears yet.
And I was like, OK, so you are on the same page.
But then it seemed at the end that they weren't on the same.
Page now to me it sounded like baby trapping.
Yeah. And then I thought, like you
did, why on earth would you havethis deadline of nearly a year,
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which is nothing before having kids with somebody when you
can't really know them that wellthat quickly?
And why on earth doesn't she freeze her eggs?
I'm sure she has the ability to do that.
She seems very well off. If she's got this time crunch
where she doesn't want to wait until she's 38, Oh my God.
So she has to do this within thenext year to get pregnant.
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Then freeze your God damn eggs and take the pressure off.
Get to know somebody properly and make sure that it's the
right one. Don't just grab the nearest die
because you've got a ticking time bomb.
Or the nearest syringe you. Mean Turkey baster.
Yeah, OK. Yeah, I was not happy with this
date at all. How many men do you know who
(24:22):
could fill Turkey based or let's?
Be serious and to answer the question.
OK, correct. Correct.
I was just, I was just thinking of the syringes because I feel
like that's what they normally use in order to inject whatever
Kayla. Yeah, let's move on that.
Anyway, I just don't appreciate that she's pressuring him about
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kids and now she wants to changehis timeline to appease herself.
And also we all know how self involved she is with her looks
and it's almost reminiscent of Jasmine.
Are you going to carry this babyyourself?
Because if not freezing your eggs, having a surrogate would
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be an excellent option and that gives you a hell of a lot more
time. So why do you feel this pressure
to do it? Unless she really wants to carry
this child herself. But medicine has come such a
long way, and yet you're settingthis unilateral timeline on
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yourself. That's a hell of a lot of
pressure to put on a guy that you've known for two weeks.
Yeah, it's huge. I have no words.
I don't understand why she is doing this, except that she must
be incredibly desperate just to get to the point of having the
family. And if she wants a family that
bad and she feels like no, I've only got one year left before
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I'm going to be a shriveled up old bag who can't have kids.
Which, of course, is nonsense. Then why don't you go to a sperm
bank and get some good sperm andthen do it yourself?
Also eggs. Also an alternative to freezing
eggs or having a surrogate or doing all of the other things
that would give you more time toget to know somebody.
Yeah, exactly. Like this is contrived.
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Yeah, it's the end or be all yeah type of thing.
And I don't appreciate it. I don't like the way that she's
talking to him about it. I don't like the way that she's
presenting these ideas. Again, timeline.
Yeah. Bullshit.
EJ runaway. OK.
On that note, shall we continue,Monica?
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She's meeting with Louisa to figure out how to get out of
this dreadful situation that she's in where she cannot choose
between the two men. One of whom treats her well,
wants the same things as she does, and the other one who
blows her off, doesn't want kidsand treats her like she is an
opportunity, not a woman in her own right.
(26:54):
OK. Yeah, and she also said that
Bernardo stood her up because there was a misunderstanding
about the timing red flags. Can you not just make plans?
You and I made plans for this podcast today.
You said I can do it at six PMI said Gig, right?
And we both showed up at six PMI.
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Mean I was six O 3 but whatevs. Louisa said that she wanted to
invite both of them there because grown-ups make
decisions. Monica responds with I don't
want to make a decision. I know because she is immature.
This encapsulates the entirety of her season.
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I don't want to make a decision.And didn't she say when we very
first met her that her complaintabout the men she was dating in
California is that they can't commit.
They will not make a decision and be with her only.
They want to go on to the next one and the next one and the
next one. Monica, this is Yes, yes.
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Pot, kettle. Both black.
Both the. Same.
I miss the kettle part. So this was just infuriating for
me because in the last episode when we saw her, she was texting
Bernardo to say, basically, you jerk, how dare you change our
plans. You're not treating me the way
that we just agreed that you would.
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I'm not a priority. So see ya.
And yet, no, she didn't follow through with that.
He's still on the menu, and in fact, she seems to have him at
the top of the menu. And that floors me.
But I really appreciated the fact that Louisa brought them
both in so she had to face them both together.
And even seeing them physically together, Bruno was worlds above
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Bernardo. Not just with his words, but his
physical reactions. Like when she started crying, he
leaned over and he was rubbing her arm.
His words were so comforting, kind, compassionate.
His. Clothes.
He was wearing a jacket, a nice outfit.
He was taking it seriously. Bernardo was in a T-shirt.
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He didn't look like he was really all that bothered to be
there. And he also looked like he just
rolled out of bed. Yeah, he might even be hungover.
There's very little respect in Bernardo's demeanor and in his
outward appearance that is echoed when we hear him say, oh,
I'm just living in the moment. I'm in the present.
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And then Bruno says that he wants to make Monica fit into
his life. I.
Know. Not make make Monica his life,
just embrace her into his current life.
And that is the most level headed, mature comment that he
ever could have said. And in fact, if you watch it
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back, Bruno is the one who's answering Louise's questions
right away without hesitation. And Bernardo's kind of hanging
back. It's as if he doesn't want to
answer. He doesn't want.
To give a shit. Obviously he does not.
He doesn't want to be there. He wants to get laid.
Yeah, he has no answers. There is no substance here.
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The choice could not be any moreclear.
It is obvious and yet I felt like Louisa had to strong arm
Monica into making the right choice, which ultimately is
going to backfire. Like when we saw the preview for
next week, I wonder if she's going to be calling Bernardo,
apologizing and crying again. Oh my God, I'm so sorry that I
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picked Bruno. I really should have picked you.
And then he's going to say, if you you didn't pick me, I'm on
to the next. And then she's going to be
destroyed and. It's time to go home.
Back to the beginning. Yeah, of course that's what's
going to happen because Bernardoeven says as he's leaving after
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she's made her choice of Bruno, that this isn't over yet between
them. He still feels like they've got
some kind of connection and they're going to be talking in
the next few days. She's going to go meet up with
him. She's going to have sex with
him. Yep, it's going to be pity sex
guilt. Sex.
Yeah, and then she's going to gocry back to Bruno when Bernardo
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was done with her. It's just, I would say it's sad,
but I mean, these are your choices.
It's pathetic that she she cannot make a decision, she
can't stick to it. She can't engage in a mature
relationship, one which is not all about the honeymoon stage.
It's not all about the lust and the, oh, the excitement of we're
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doing all these physical things for the first time.
She can't get past that. And when she talks about how
much she wants, she yearns for this steady, solid relationship.
And what she's doing is, in fact, the opposite to that.
She sounds like a 19 year old. Every man that she gets with is
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going to be the one. Yeah.
She's so emotionally immature and I feel so bad for her
daughter because what is she teaching her?
Oh, her daughter's way more mature than than my I was.
Going to say thank God for the Father because apparently he's
instilled. A lot more common sense.
Yeah, into the kid then she has,and I feel so bad for her kid
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having to watch her mom go through all of this.
I'm just like Mom, you're an idiot.
Shall we read on? I would love to.
Thank you. The lovely Herald is next.
Unfortunately it was a very short segment this week.
It was. Too short.
He meets up with Dolly to assesshow things are going with Amber
and to catch her up on the last couple of days.
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Harold is also leaving scheduledto leave.
To be leaving. In a couple of days, I love the
fact that Dolly was acknowledging all of Harold's
growth, all of the strides that he's made, all of the learning
that he's taken on, and I was very, very pleased that she
tells him that she sees it. That's great.
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Remember from the very beginningwe were like, I don't know about
Dolly. She tells him not to wear his
suspenders. And you know, you have to be
Harold 2 point O And I think we've really begun to understand
her. And I love that now she is just
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so supportive and so kind with him.
And I think she's really giving him the positive reinforcement
that he needs in addition to theconstructive criticism that he
also needs. And he is learning from it.
I think he feels supported and that's why he's able to execute
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all of these different actions and behaviors with Amber to be
so successful. Does that make sense?
I don't know if those words actually strong together
properly. Are you high or something?
Just so I could forget where youare.
You makes you're making sense. I've had less than four hours of
sleep. I had We'll take a cat emergency
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last night, remember? That will do it.
So Harold is asking Dolly how orif he can lock it down with
Amber. He really wants to get this
reassurance before he leaves. And Dolly acknowledges, be
patient with Amber, refrain frompushing her.
And then Harold has this magnificent idea, which is maybe
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he'll stay longer in Singapore. Does Amber want him to stay
longer in Singapore? But Donnelly also said it might
be better for you to not proposition it, but say, I want
to stay in Singapore longer so Ican see more about the country
and the culture and not make it so much about spending more time
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with her. And I thought that was a really
good call because that would puta lot of pressure on Amber.
Yes, now he's staying longer. Just for you.
And you know, what if she has towork?
What if she has to go to school?What if she has?
Those are plans. Yeah, I think it's a wonderful
suggestion. I would love to see Harold
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taking these adventures on his own and then suggesting that
Amber might want to join him every now and again for
something some time and keep thepressure off Amber.
We will see how this goes. I don't know if the preview for
next week looks really good. I don't see Tony in it, which
makes me happy. Oh, also, my only comment that I
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wrote for Harold and Hamper was he's so sweet.
I love Harold, we know. This Yes, we know this.
Any final comments before we go this week?
It felt like a really short episode.
I feel like I really missed out on the whole Sarah and EJ prawn
food thing. I might have to go and rewatch
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that. But also I'm just, I'm just
hungry. OK, maybe it's time to go eat.
I will reiterate what I said at the beginning.
This was all about pushing people maybe a little bit too
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Hi, Amy. Happy.
We just watched Match Me Abroad Season 2 episode 1212.
Did you have anything you wantedto share about this episode
before we start? When I first started it, I kind
of fast forwarded it through thethe intro and I paused on what
looked like the most delicious meal ever.
So then I rewound it and then I couldn't.
Find it again? How strange.
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Did you ever figure it out? No, but I'm hungry, OK.
As usual. All right, well.
I know. Before you dish the dirt, Oh
well. My opinion of it is a lot of
people were getting pushed in directions that ultimately I
think will not serve them. Excellent, Excellent perspective
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and I concur. Excellent agreement.
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All right, let's do it. Amber has another date with
Glenn, also known as Mr. Eyebrows.
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Mr. Ireland? No those.
Eyebrows are a bit much. They are way too much.
I can't look at anything but theeyebrows.
I think the eyebrows have their own personality.
It could possibly be more than Glenn's personality.
However, I would not date the eyebrows I.
Also would not date the eyebrows.
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And I'm sure you've noticed, andI'm sure those that watch us on
YouTube know that I have an eyebrow that has a mind of its
own. But I also think that my one
singular eyebrow has more of a personality than Glenn does.
Agreement here, yes, nodding. However, the choice of
traditional Irish dancing as a date I think is a great.
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One. I thought it looked like so much
fun. Charming, so sweet.
I would love to do this. What do we think of Mr. Eyebrows
in this date? I found him super boring.
Really. Yeah, my comment was and is not
for her. Yeah, it's very, very funny that
you should say that because my first comment was, it's amazing
how full of confidence he is, that he is the one for Amber.
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I don't believe he is. With nothing to back it up.
Yeah, it seems like he's just out there for the winning or for
the being on TV, the clout. I don't get anything real from
him except that he's enthusiastic and he's very self
confident. Good for him.
What did? You think of Amber telling Glenn
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that she had stayed overnight with another guy.
Oh, that was super cringy. But I think it was good of her
to be honest, because obviously when you're dating multiple
people and they know that you'redating multiple people,
especially through matchmakers, it's par for the course, though.
I think he could have created his own idea of what actually
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happened. And I don't think, you know, she
said we didn't have sex. I don't think that he would
believe her. Be like of course you did,
because I. Would have, yes.
I didn't think it was necessary for her to volunteer that
information, He asked her. They went on a date.
Yeah, she, he asked her what have you been up to these last
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few days? And she could have just said I
went and I stayed in the castle near Kilkenny.
I think it was not. I was invited by another man to
have a weekend at this estate. I really thought that that was
an odd thing to volunteer as a piece of information to him.
And this surges or pushes Glenn on to try to persuade Amber to
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break things off with Kevin. I was going to say to piss on
her leg but same thing. Yeah, he is very territorial.
He feels like an entitled brat. I think he's a man who's used to
getting whatever he wants, even if it's at the expense of other
people's feelings. He doesn't really care.
He just wants three wants and damn it all to hell, he's going
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to get it. Yes, it's smacks of arrogance.
Cockiness. Even though he refutes it, he's
not cocky. He is confident.
There's a fine line, dude, and you have right over that line.
I don't know what that noise was.
I'm sorry that was. Amy demonstrating with her
fingers, walking a little dance in the air, and then the person
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fell off a Cliff. I was like trotting, I think.
I'm not sure. He seems very enthusiastic.
She has the same kind of energy.They match in certain ways, but
I don't get the sense that he's catching any feelings for Amber.
He's just playing the part. Yeah, I think they would both
get bored really quickly and or maybe he's love bombing her and
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then he's going to retract and then she's going to chase after
him and that's really what he wants.
And I think we really find that out when she talks to Katarina.
Katarina was so real and I love her so much more now.
Katarina is always telling the truth in the hardest moments and
I love that about her. Yes, I thought she did an
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excellent job, but before she talked to Amber, she called
Keevan. And I thought even with Keevan,
she was very insightful because she got right to the heart of
the matter. With Keevan, which.
Is in a kind way of. Course, which was to ask him
Have you expressed to Amber how you feel about her?
Katarina asked Keevan how he feels.
He says he cares a lot about Amber, and yet that hasn't been
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communicated to Amber because Keevan is afraid of rejection
and afraid of the fact that he knows there are other people
involved and so he could get hurt.
I get it, you're scared. Yeah, he's being, he's being
super cautious about the whole relationship thing, when in
reality she's only there for a short period of time and he
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really needs to make his interest known.
And one of my other comments about Kevin in comparison to
Glenn is I really think that Kevin's demeanor, his
personality, apprehension, his ability to second guess things,
which I'm not saying is, is a con.
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I think it's good to have someone who's a little bit
reserved, especially in the faceof Amber's personality.
I think that he would really even her out.
So I mean, it's easier to say this watching as things play out
because obviously we're not in it, but I think that Kevin would
be a much better match for her then then Glenn.
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And I remember when they first met her and Glenn and they went
to the salt mines or whatever itwas.
I don't know, they went somewhere.
They went to the prison castle. Thank you.
I know I was thinking what they were not little gnomes in a dark
mind. I mean, they could have been,
but at the same time, like, you know, their energies match.
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And I was kind of really excitedabout that.
But I feel like Glenn has reallyfallen flat, whereas Kevin's
been, he's been showing up, he'sbeen showing his interest
without being overly commutative.
About it, but that's a problem for Amber.
Yes. She's talked about how she
doesn't like the fact that he doesn't text her, but that's.
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That's a point of growth for himor an opportunity for growth for
him. Maybe that's why he hasn't been
successful in love, because he'sbeen too apprehensive to express
his feelings, worried about being hurt.
This is his opportunity to to really shine.
And I really hope that in the next episode that's what we see.
But in this episode, I loved howKatarita called Amber out, and
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Amber was just what? What?
What do you, what do you mean? I forget what she said, but she
got all, like, defensive about it.
I think it's exactly what Amber needed to hear, whether or not
she wanted to hear at that time.Yeah, absolutely.
She did. She did need to hear that.
She did need the hard truths. The way that Amber described her
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two relationships, saying that being with Kevin is like an
emotional roller coaster. I thought that was not good.
And also. Untrue.
How can you be? How can you have an emotional
roller coaster with some guy who's so chill?
Think what she means is the lackof communication puts her in the
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down spiral of the roller coaster and then all of a sudden
it's like come away with me for a weekend at this romantic
castle, which is obviously the opposite of that.
So I can see how she would feel that it is like that.
But at the same time, Katarina gets right to the point here
where she says do you think thatGlenn is genuine?
Which is a fantastic question. You can see that Amber is like
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her wheels are spinning. She's trying to make excuses and
find the good in Glenn in order to make that her choice rather
than Kevin who is the more of a question mark because he's not
feeding her the attention she craves whereas Glenn is.
But how much attention is Glenn going to to shower her with
before he retracts it? Absolutely getting.
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Bored. And this is This is why Katarina
is saying Glenn is typical of the men that Amber has dated in
the past. And he's not really good for her
because it is a situation where there's a lot of love bombing
and then who knows what comes next.
But it's obviously not good because Amber is still single
and she needs to try something else, which is the Kievan route.
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But I'm going to stick to what Isaid last time, which is that I
don't think that either of these, his choices is good for
Amber. Obviously, Glenn, he's a prick
and there's just no two ways about it.
He is. Kevin is a nice guy, absolutely,
but he is too reticent. He hasn't yet learned to take
life by the horns. He hasn't learned to seize the
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moment. He hasn't learned to be free
with his emotions and to take the opportunity when it is in
front of him. And unless he has some huge
emotional growth between this episode and the next one, I
really don't think that Amber's going to end up going home with
either one of these guys as her boyfriend.
Well, I think I said that last week.
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I don't think she's going to go home with either one of them.
I think she needs to find someone who's in between their
personalities and their. I want to say comfort, but I
also don't want to say comfort because I feel like Glenn is way
too comfortable with himself andI feel like Kevin really needs
to amp that up. That being said is I still think
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that this is a huge opportunity for Kevin to step it up.
I would love to see that happen,but just from what we've seen so
far, I don't think that that's in the works.
It doesn't seem to be at that point.
If they'd had more time togetherand Kevin had actually fallen
somewhat in love by this point, I think that that would have
been possible. But given that they've only had
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a few dates, he's not been consistent with the
communication. I don't think he would be at the
stage where she would say, oh, Ireally need to show her how I'm
feeling before she leaves because otherwise I'm in danger
of losing her forever. I wonder how he and Veronica
will work together. Veronica, do you mean Vic?
That one, yes. Thank you.
Yes, interesting question had not thought about that.
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They were they're both kind of what's the word not commitment
phobic, although she is that youknow, when they have the part,
the personality of the attachment style is.
Avoidant. Avoidant.
Thank you. They both are avoidant I think,
so I'm not sure that that would work out so well.
I don't know, I just had that idea and that's why I'm stabbing
myself in the face with my pen with my non clicky pen.
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Do you have any other things to communicate regarding Amber?
No, I am actually quite eager tomove on to the next one.
Oh well, let us do so and let's discuss.
Tony. He doesn't show up to his own
breakup. Classic Tony I felt.
Isn't it a firing? Sorry.
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Isn't it a firing? Yes, he's he's getting fired.
Yes, but he doesn't show up to it because he would rather be
the control freak and say F you without saying F you because he
knows what's coming instead of taking any kind of feedback.
Any kind of feedback? No.
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This guy is not willing to grow,he's not willing to learn.
He is not open to any kind of criticism.
He thinks he is perfect as he is, and the problem lies with
everybody else. You know when they have, oh,
Tony on the beach with the umbrella and he was trying to
stick it in the sand. Did you see how he couldn't
stick it in the sand? And he had.
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To hold it. I know the the trolling has been
on par all season long, there's no doubt about that.
My comment for Tony is dirtbag disrespectful asshole.
Mine was Tony has his own way ofloving himself that.
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Makes me want to vomit, but everything that he does or
doesn't do in this episode just proves the case.
Proves everything that Louisa issaying about him.
It proves everything that we have thought about him.
We are totally justified in having thought that Tony was an
asshole from the beginning because of this, yes.
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I'm aging myself, I'm sorry. But I think Louisa, she does a
wonderful job of breaking it down for us, talking about Tony
not being ready for a healthy relationship.
Absolutely, 100%. There's nothing more that she
can do for him. She's given him all these
opportunities to meet women, to go on dates.
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He's rejected everybody. He's rejected everything.
All of the feedback, criticism, and he does this as a way to
hurt other people before they hurt him or.
At least reject them before theyhurt him.
Yes. Which I think is very, very
valid. Very poignant he is.
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Nothing but rude beyond rude and.
Louisa on that like, you know the scale of good looking and
crazy. Like he's below Ground Zero at
that point. Like he is that kind of guy that
just expects the outer world andhas nothing to offer.
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But again, I think it's his mommy issues because I think his
mom blew smoke up his ass for sofriggin long.
He can't accept anything other than sheer perfection.
But sheer perfection will never accept him.
Or maybe his mom was absent and he's been doing everything he
possibly can to get his mom's acceptance.
Can't get it? So now he rejects every woman
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because none of them are his mom, and that's the only
acceptance that he needs. His mom's acceptance, well, he
definitely has some deep traumatic emotional wound from
somewhere. Who knows what it is.
All I can tell you is that I think that Tony is the poster
child for someone who needs therapy right now.
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I think it's completely and utterly useless as a human
being. I don't ever want to see him on
my screen again. Him and his tattooed forehead.
Like he's just ridiculous. He is.
He's beyond help. And I felt really bad for Louisa
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that she was given this task andit was an impossible task.
I really hope that she chalks this one up to my Lord.
There was nothing I could have friggin done.
I hope, I hope that Louisa got ahuge fat fee out of Tony before
all of this ridiculous behavior happened.
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I like that she gets rewarded for all of her hard work and
patience, as well as compensatedfor the disrespect and that the
lack of consideration. You know, I think we're only at
what, season 2 of Match Me? But out of the two seasons I
believe. Correct me if I'm wrong wrong,
but I believe that he has had the most days out of any single
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person. Yeah, I think you're right.
Because he had that blind date where he had, what, four or five
different women? 3 So he had five women all
together. Think and then we we look at
everyone else and it's two or three and he propose everything,
everyone, everything. My Lord, I'm glad he's done, but
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I was man. I cackled when he didn't show
up. Like this man has no integrity.
Yeah, it yes, it was very funny that he didn't come.
But at the same time, I so much was looking forward to this
moment of seeing his face drop. When Louisa says you're fired,
get out of here. And we didn't get that
satisfaction. But on the other hand, his
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behavior towards Louisa is confirmation of everything that
we've already thought about him.So that is also very satisfying.
Yeah. Shall we read on, Sarah?
And EJ. The EJ.
They are having another date. They've had lots of dates.
Apparently they've been seeing each other regularly since the
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last episode. But no kiss yet.
No talk of the future. Yet I thought the lack of
kissing was interesting. But we also know from Amber that
Singaporeans take things as a culture.
I guess like dating culture, they take things very slowly.
So I'm not sure if he was respecting that, if he was
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respecting her, or if he was worried that if he kissed her,
her lips would pop. Lots to consider there.
I was also concerned about the lack of kissing, but now that
you mentioned this is a Singaporean culture, I have to
dial it back a little. So my initial response was
there's definitely something wrong here that they've gone out
so many times and not haven't breached the physical barrier
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yet. But maybe yes, maybe given the
culture it is OK and there's really nothing wrong with it at
all. No alarm bells should be
sounding at this point. Well, even when we have his
little interviews, he says he's so interested in her.
They've had such a great time. But again, after that many date,
like even Harold got a misstep and kiss on what the second date
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and EJ hasn't even tried and then I'm jumping ahead of it.
But you know, they do have that kiss.
And it was. It was a pack.
Yeah, yeah, it. Wasn't one of those like you
lean in and it's like such pack and then it just like turns into
like this big emotional. Are you gonna start singing with
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your arms? Like I'm feeling what you're
describing when they're. Yeah.
Exactly. I wanted that.
There was so much more that could have happened, like it
could have been one of those Disney fairy tale kisses that
was just come on, you wanna kiss?
The girl. Well, well, you know, like that,
like there was none of that. It was, it almost seemed like a
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business transaction, like therewas no emotion involved in it.
It was like goodbye. Yes, I I see that I felt a
little bit cold, a little bit sterile.
To me, it felt more like kissingyour family member or close
friend. Yeah, there was nothing romantic
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about it. I was waiting for that moment
when the kiss just lingers. 1-2 seconds and then there's that
look as you move away from each other and looking to each
other's eyes. None.
No, it was legit. Like she gets into the car, she
drives away, he watches her drive off forloringly, and I
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look forloringly as well. All the things that could have
been. And it's not like either one of
them tried to do anything differently.
It was just. OK, all right, well, we're not
going to figure this out, but let's talk about the date
itself. What did you think of this
interesting idea of catching prawns, cooking them and eating
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them? OK, first of all, I don't know
if they actually cook them and ate them.
I don't think we saw. That we saw the cooking.
Oh, maybe I was cooking myself. Not myself, but chop chopping.
You were, you were in the kitchen.
Ah, you got distracted, OK. Which is kind of frustrating
because I was like. Why are you cooking yourself?
Isn't that painful? You know how I feel because my
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question was did they even eat the the prawns?
But I thought that the whole idea of the prawn fishing, I
thought that was really cute. I thought it was really unique.
And I'm on Sarah side. Like I love fishing, but I will
not bait the the hook. Yeah, I can't It's it makes me
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gag Fair. But I will fish.
And I think she gave an effort, E for E for effort.
To. To engage.
She did catch 1 prawn. I'm I'm surprised that I
actually missed the actual king in the eating.
Like, at what point did I step away and I came back and they
were just departing? I don't know.
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I don't think they saw, we saw them eating them, but we saw
the, I want to say scampi prawns.
We saw the prawns on a grill. They were.
It was barbecued. Well, I was hungry before, but
now I'm even more hungry. EJ, I will eat prawns with you
anyway. I really didn't appreciate how
she was pressuring him about thekids and her timeline.
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I really think that she needs torespect his his timeline without
projecting hers on on to him. And she even said in her little
interview thing I need to convince him that he needs to
have kids before 2 years. But at the same time when he
first meet someone it takes a long time to actually get to
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know them. So you're saying that you just
want to meet them, You want to marry him and immediately have
kids? That's a bit much.
You have no time to establish the foundation of your
relationship in order to to havea family.
It's really setting them up for failure if she wants to pressure
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him like that. And she even says in her
interview, I'm going to try to convince him I.
Found this. I found this very confusing and
not confusing in the timeline because it was obvious She has
this one year strict deadline. She wants to start having a
family within one year of meeting somebody and he says he
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had. He needs a minimum of two years
because he wants to establish his business.
Do you know how old he is right now?
I can't remember. I don't know if we've ever been
given his age. But that aside, so their plans
don't seem to match. We've got one year versus
minimum two years. But at at a certain point they
started saying, well, if this were to happen, as in they were
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to get together and have kids, we would make it work even if
the timeline hadn't been the twoyears yet.
And I was like, OK, so you are on the same page.
But then it seemed at the end that they weren't on the same.
Page now to me it sounded like baby trapping.
Yeah. And then I thought, like you
did, why on earth would you havethis deadline of nearly a year,
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which is nothing before having kids with somebody when you
can't really know them that wellthat quickly?
And why on earth doesn't she freeze her eggs?
I'm sure she has the ability to do that.
She seems very well off. If she's got this time crunch
where she doesn't want to wait until she's 38, Oh my God.
So she has to do this within thenext year to get pregnant.
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Then freeze your God damn eggs and take the pressure off.
Get to know somebody properly and make sure that it's the
right one. Don't just grab the nearest die
because you've got a ticking time bomb.
Or the nearest syringe you. Mean Turkey baster.
Yeah, OK. Yeah, I was not happy with this
date at all. How many men do you know who
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could fill Turkey based or let's?
Be serious and to answer the question.
OK, correct. Correct.
I was just, I was just thinking of the syringes because I feel
like that's what they normally use in order to inject whatever
Kayla. Yeah, let's move on that.
Anyway, I just don't appreciate that she's pressuring him about
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kids and now she wants to changehis timeline to appease herself.
And also we all know how self involved she is with her looks
and it's almost reminiscent of Jasmine.
Are you going to carry this babyyourself?
Because if not freezing your eggs, having a surrogate would
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be an excellent option and that gives you a hell of a lot more
time. So why do you feel this pressure
to do it? Unless she really wants to carry
this child herself. But medicine has come such a
long way, and yet you're settingthis unilateral timeline on
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yourself. That's a hell of a lot of
pressure to put on a guy that you've known for two weeks.
Yeah, it's huge. I have no words.
I don't understand why she is doing this, except that she must
be incredibly desperate just to get to the point of having the
family. And if she wants a family that
bad and she feels like no, I've only got one year left before
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I'm going to be a shriveled up old bag who can't have kids.
Which, of course, is nonsense. Then why don't you go to a sperm
bank and get some good sperm andthen do it yourself?
Also eggs. Also an alternative to freezing
eggs or having a surrogate or doing all of the other things
that would give you more time toget to know somebody.
Yeah, exactly. Like this is contrived.
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Yeah, it's the end or be all yeah type of thing.
And I don't appreciate it. I don't like the way that she's
talking to him about it. I don't like the way that she's
presenting these ideas. Again, timeline.
Yeah. Bullshit.
EJ runaway. OK.
On that note, shall we continue,Monica?
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She's meeting with Louisa to figure out how to get out of
this dreadful situation that she's in where she cannot choose
between the two men. One of whom treats her well,
wants the same things as she does, and the other one who
blows her off, doesn't want kidsand treats her like she is an
opportunity, not a woman in her own right.
(26:54):
OK. Yeah, and she also said that
Bernardo stood her up because there was a misunderstanding
about the timing red flags. Can you not just make plans?
You and I made plans for this podcast today.
You said I can do it at six PMI said Gig, right?
And we both showed up at six PMI.
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Mean I was six O 3 but whatevs. Louisa said that she wanted to
invite both of them there because grown-ups make
decisions. Monica responds with I don't
want to make a decision. I know because she is immature.
This encapsulates the entirety of her season.
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I don't want to make a decision.And didn't she say when we very
first met her that her complaintabout the men she was dating in
California is that they can't commit.
They will not make a decision and be with her only.
They want to go on to the next one and the next one and the
next one. Monica, this is Yes, yes.
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Pot, kettle. Both black.
Both the. Same.
I miss the kettle part. So this was just infuriating for
me because in the last episode when we saw her, she was texting
Bernardo to say, basically, you jerk, how dare you change our
plans. You're not treating me the way
that we just agreed that you would.
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I'm not a priority. So see ya.
And yet, no, she didn't follow through with that.
He's still on the menu, and in fact, she seems to have him at
the top of the menu. And that floors me.
But I really appreciated the fact that Louisa brought them
both in so she had to face them both together.
And even seeing them physically together, Bruno was worlds above
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Bernardo. Not just with his words, but his
physical reactions. Like when she started crying, he
leaned over and he was rubbing her arm.
His words were so comforting, kind, compassionate.
His. Clothes.
He was wearing a jacket, a nice outfit.
He was taking it seriously. Bernardo was in a T-shirt.
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He didn't look like he was really all that bothered to be
there. And he also looked like he just
rolled out of bed. Yeah, he might even be hungover.
There's very little respect in Bernardo's demeanor and in his
outward appearance that is echoed when we hear him say, oh,
I'm just living in the moment. I'm in the present.
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And then Bruno says that he wants to make Monica fit into
his life. I.
Know. Not make make Monica his life,
just embrace her into his current life.
And that is the most level headed, mature comment that he
ever could have said. And in fact, if you watch it
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back, Bruno is the one who's answering Louise's questions
right away without hesitation. And Bernardo's kind of hanging
back. It's as if he doesn't want to
answer. He doesn't want.
To give a shit. Obviously he does not.
He doesn't want to be there. He wants to get laid.
Yeah, he has no answers. There is no substance here.
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The choice could not be any moreclear.
It is obvious and yet I felt like Louisa had to strong arm
Monica into making the right choice, which ultimately is
going to backfire. Like when we saw the preview for
next week, I wonder if she's going to be calling Bernardo,
apologizing and crying again. Oh my God, I'm so sorry that I
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picked Bruno. I really should have picked you.
And then he's going to say, if you you didn't pick me, I'm on
to the next. And then she's going to be
destroyed and. It's time to go home.
Back to the beginning. Yeah, of course that's what's
going to happen because Bernardoeven says as he's leaving after
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she's made her choice of Bruno, that this isn't over yet between
them. He still feels like they've got
some kind of connection and they're going to be talking in
the next few days. She's going to go meet up with
him. She's going to have sex with
him. Yep, it's going to be pity sex
guilt. Sex.
Yeah, and then she's going to gocry back to Bruno when Bernardo
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was done with her. It's just, I would say it's sad,
but I mean, these are your choices.
It's pathetic that she she cannot make a decision, she
can't stick to it. She can't engage in a mature
relationship, one which is not all about the honeymoon stage.
It's not all about the lust and the, oh, the excitement of we're
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doing all these physical things for the first time.
She can't get past that. And when she talks about how
much she wants, she yearns for this steady, solid relationship.
And what she's doing is, in fact, the opposite to that.
She sounds like a 19 year old. Every man that she gets with is
(32:02):
going to be the one. Yeah.
She's so emotionally immature and I feel so bad for her
daughter because what is she teaching her?
Oh, her daughter's way more mature than than my I was.
Going to say thank God for the Father because apparently he's
instilled. A lot more common sense.
Yeah, into the kid then she has,and I feel so bad for her kid
(32:28):
having to watch her mom go through all of this.
I'm just like Mom, you're an idiot.
Shall we read on? I would love to.
Thank you. The lovely Herald is next.
Unfortunately it was a very short segment this week.
It was. Too short.
He meets up with Dolly to assesshow things are going with Amber
and to catch her up on the last couple of days.
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Harold is also leaving scheduledto leave.
To be leaving. In a couple of days, I love the
fact that Dolly was acknowledging all of Harold's
growth, all of the strides that he's made, all of the learning
that he's taken on, and I was very, very pleased that she
tells him that she sees it. That's great.
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Remember from the very beginningwe were like, I don't know about
Dolly. She tells him not to wear his
suspenders. And you know, you have to be
Harold 2 point O And I think we've really begun to understand
her. And I love that now she is just
(33:32):
so supportive and so kind with him.
And I think she's really giving him the positive reinforcement
that he needs in addition to theconstructive criticism that he
also needs. And he is learning from it.
I think he feels supported and that's why he's able to execute
(33:53):
all of these different actions and behaviors with Amber to be
so successful. Does that make sense?
I don't know if those words actually strong together
properly. Are you high or something?
Just so I could forget where youare.
You makes you're making sense. I've had less than four hours of
sleep. I had We'll take a cat emergency
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last night, remember? That will do it.
So Harold is asking Dolly how orif he can lock it down with
Amber. He really wants to get this
reassurance before he leaves. And Dolly acknowledges, be
patient with Amber, refrain frompushing her.
And then Harold has this magnificent idea, which is maybe
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he'll stay longer in Singapore. Does Amber want him to stay
longer in Singapore? But Donnelly also said it might
be better for you to not proposition it, but say, I want
to stay in Singapore longer so Ican see more about the country
and the culture and not make it so much about spending more time
(35:00):
with her. And I thought that was a really
good call because that would puta lot of pressure on Amber.
Yes, now he's staying longer. Just for you.
And you know, what if she has towork?
What if she has to go to school?What if she has?
Those are plans. Yeah, I think it's a wonderful
suggestion. I would love to see Harold
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taking these adventures on his own and then suggesting that
Amber might want to join him every now and again for
something some time and keep thepressure off Amber.
We will see how this goes. I don't know if the preview for
next week looks really good. I don't see Tony in it, which
makes me happy. Oh, also, my only comment that I
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wrote for Harold and Hamper was he's so sweet.
I love Harold, we know. This Yes, we know this.
Any final comments before we go this week?
It felt like a really short episode.
I feel like I really missed out on the whole Sarah and EJ prawn
food thing. I might have to go and rewatch
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that. But also I'm just, I'm just
hungry. OK, maybe it's time to go eat.
I will reiterate what I said at the beginning.
This was all about pushing people maybe a little bit too
far there before we go. If you're enjoying the 90 Day
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