Gay Men's Life Lab with Buck Dodson

In this episode, I talk with sought-after coach, speaker, professor, and author, Dr. Joel A. Davis Brown about his new book, The Souls of Queer Folk.  

Join me as I talk with Joel about:

• What it means for leaders to be “Queer-minded”  
• How growing up LGBTQ teaches us to be leaders in life
• Queer culture as a wisdom tradition with value for all people, especially organizational and business leaders
• The 9 values that express ...

In this episode, I talk with trauma and recovery coach, spiritual companion, and queer elder, Hunter Flournoy. We dive deep into what it means to heal as gay, bi and queer men & how compassionate community and spirituality are key to embrace ourselves and each other. 

Join me as I talk with Hunter about:

• The importance of LGBTQ Heart Circles for gay men and queer people to see & feel seen
• How and why Hunter helps...

In this episode, I talk with psychotherapists and founders of Calm Counseling, Dr. Vanessa Scaringi and Kate Garland, LCSW about the role of attachment styles and relationships in recovering from eating disorders, body dysmorphia and excessive exercise.

Join me as I talk with Kate and Vanessa about:

• Why disordered eating, body image and exercise issues “work” to address chronic loneliness and disconnection 
• How the searc...

A “Gays On” episode featuring Burak Yilmaz on healing and self-discovery

In this episode, I talk with Burak Yilmaz about his remarkable path to freedom as a gay man which he chronicles in his upcoming book, If My Mother Never Left. 

Join me as I talk with Burak about:

• Being tortured for speaking out as a gay man in Islam
• Learning to survive alone on the streets of Turkey and New York City
• Overcoming shame and re...

We need our gay superpower now more than ever. Our communities, especially our members who are trans, gender non-binary and/or drag artists, are being subjected to assaults on our identities and human rights. Let’s double down on who we are and in this episode, why we’re here. 

Tune in to this ‘Quick Buck’ solo episode as I dive into the powers of camp and drag. I explore:

• What are gay and queer superpowers?
• How camp and...

Let’s talk about sex. Healthy, pleasurable and healing sex that is. In this episode, I talk with Certified Sex Therapist, coach and clinical social worker, Dr. Israel Martinez, about helping gay bring sex into the light in order to have more enjoyable, enthusiastic and shame-free sex. 

Join me as I talk with Dr. Martinez about:

• The distinct challenges gay, bi and queer men face in having healthy sex
• What the 5 senses hav...

Gregory Elsasser-Chavez on the high costs & high rewards of coming out

Part of the ‘Gays On’ Series featuring the voices and stories of gay, bi and queer men.

Welcome to a new season of Gay Men’s Life! In this episode, I talk with Gregory Elsasser-Chavez about his remarkable path to freedom as a gay man which he chronicles in his upcoming book, Terms of Estrangement. 

Join me as I talk with Gregory about:

• The impact ...

And we’re back! I’ve missed you all so I’m happy to bring this episode to close out 2022 and preview what’s to come when Season 3 launches next month. Clearly, I extended my “summer” sabbatical through Fall so I go into what I’ve been going through and how this impacted my return to the podcast. I invite you to tune in to hear some of my story and to reflect with me on what it’s like to come out as your most authentic self. 

I’m sorry for the podcast silence last month, especially since it was Pride Month. Although Gay Men’s Life Lab celebrates LGBTQ+ pride every month.  In this episode, I share about my decision to take a few months off from the podcast so I can spend the summer soaking up some extra self, relationship and business care. 

I hope you’ll tune in to join me for this relatively brief conversation about my decision. It involves filling my w...

In part two of my pro-dating, pro-relationship guide, I dive further into energizing your dating and relationship life. I cover the key topics my clients and I work on and offer practical ways you can beef up your relational dating skills. 

Check out the episode to hear…

1. How to approach pacing in dating so you can stay “sober” in the early stages of love
2. My suggestion for approaching sex 
3. The communication styles and skills you nee...

In the first of this two-parter, I invite you into a conversation about becoming or rediscovering hope and eagerness about dating. Join me for this deep dive into how becoming “pro dating” and a pro at dating means could radically shift your perspective on dating and creating long term relationships. 

Tune in to hear…

1. What it means to be Pro-Relationship rather than Pro-Self
2. How to approach dating like you would in a rel...

Join me for this engaging and important conversation about porn, sex, masturbation, and most importantly, pleasure. I’m talking with Don Shewey, a psychotherapist, pleasure activist and author of The Paradox of Porn: Notes on Gay Male Sexual Culture.

Tune in to hear Don and I discuss:

• His journey to being a pleasure activist and Sacred Intimate
• The integral yet complex role pornography plays in gay men’s self-discovery
• How porn bot...

Join me for this enriching conversation with licensed psychotherapist, Brian Torres, on what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person and how embracing this part of your nature can help you create a more optimal lifestyle.  

Some of the topics Brian and I discuss:

• The core traits of highly sensitive people
• What D.O.E.S. - Depth, Over-Arousal, Emotional Responsiveness, and Sensitivity to Subtleties – has to do with high sensitivity
• ...

You won’t want to miss this enlivening conversation about tapping into your erotic energy as a pathway to healing, aliveness and joy. Join me and my guest, Craig Cullinane from The New Body Electric School as we dive deep celebrating our erotic potential. 

Some of the topics Craig and I discuss:

• The role of “conscious eroticism” in self and collective healing
• His own journey from body shame to celebration
• The intersection of pleasu...

In this episode, I unpack codependence, developmental trauma and love addiction with Jodi White, a psychotherapist, sober recovering love addict and host of “Journals of a Love Addict.” 

Jodi and talk about:

1. The 5 core symptoms of codependence
2. How dysfunctional families set the stage for being over or anti-dependent
3. What love addiction is and how it’s different from codependency
4. Developing a Functional Adult Self to care for our “in...

Gay Men's Life Lab is all about trying things out, and since we have a lot of new listeners in the last year, we’re experimenting with a new Relationship Replay Series which features some of our earliest episodes on all things relationships such as…

• How to handle conflict
• Communicating your feelings 
• Navigating relationship dynamics
• How to identify your needs and get them met 

If there’s one thing I’ve learn...

Gay Men's Life Lab is all about trying things out, and since we have a lot of new listeners in the last year, we’re experimenting with a new Relationship Replay Series which features some of our earliest episodes on all things relationships such as…

• How to handle conflict
• Communicating your feelings 
• Navigating relationship dynamics
• How to identify your needs and get them met 

If there’s one thing I’ve learn...

We’re going to mindset school. In this solo episode, I’m riffing on how our attitudes, perspectives and beliefs—our mindsets—make the difference between creating the life we want or staying stuck.  

Tune in to hear…

1. Buck’s update on his ‘Filling my Well’ commitment
2. How being a ‘design thinker’ can help solve problems and achieve goals
3. The core mindsets you need to move you toward personal and relationship growth
4. How to be curious, t...

This week, I dive into a misunderstood topic that we don’t talk about enough – Adult ADHD. Tune in as I talk with ADHD Coach and Founder of Queer ADHD, Sarah Dopp, about what it does and does not mean to live with ADHD. Even if you don’t have ADHD, I encourage you to check out this episode because someone in your life does and may be struggling alone. 

Sarah and I talk about:

• Misconceptions about Adult ADHD
• How coming ou...