When "Yes Ma'am" Meets Gen Z: The Evolving Landscape of Politeness S:1E:38 Extended Podcast But Well Worth The Listen!!

Ever wondered if belching at the dinner table could be considered art? Or whether saying "yes ma'am" might suddenly become politically incorrect? Our latest episode tackles the hilariously contentious world of manners and etiquette through the perfect lens – a mother-daughter duo from different generations.

Bobbi Joy (self-proclaimed graduate of "Belcherama University") and her mother Jane square off in a no-holds-barred debate about what constitutes proper behavior in today's world. The conversation quickly spirals into territory both hilarious and thought-provoking, as Bobbi defends her "thunderclap" belches while Jane desperately advocates for napkin "mufflers" and basic table decorum. What begins as playful banter reveals fascinating insights into how manners vary across generations, regions, and changing social awareness.

The Southern tradition of "sir" and "ma'am" takes center stage as the pair explores how regional differences shape our understanding of politeness. Dr, Domain brought these formal terms of respect into their family, but now modern concerns about misgendering have complicated these once-standard expressions. The result is a fascinating exploration of etiquette as a living, evolving code rather than a rigid set of rules passed down unchanged through generations.

Whether you're team "let it rip" or firmly in the "stifle that belch" camp, this episode delivers equal parts belly laughs and genuine insight into how we navigate respect across different social contexts. Subscribe now and join the conversation – just remember your digital manners when leaving a review!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:04):
Welcome everyone to today's show.
A boomer and a Gen Xer walkinto a bar, coming to you from
our rabbit hole studio where you, as a listener, will experience
some wit and wisdom, some smartassery and a mother and
daughter questioning.
Are we even related?
My name is Bobby joy and my cohost is my mom, jane, and the

(00:25):
next little while we're going totry to entertain you, entertain
we will, because we have quitean interesting topic today, one
that we have mentionedperiodically throughout other
shows.
One that I think is one of yourfavorites.

Speaker 2 (00:40):
It is kind of one of my favorites.
Do you even know what it is?

Speaker 1 (00:43):
Bobbi yeah, I do.
Actually, we're going to betalking about manners and maybe
a little etiquette.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
What yeah, so are you going to be dead silent on that
?

Speaker 1 (00:53):
I could be.
I could be.
Well, the reason no, come on,you say that and listeners are
going to be like man.
She wasn't raised with anymanners or etiquette.
Look, I say that and listenersare going to be like man she
wasn't raised with any mannersor etiquette.
Look, I was, you were, and Iknow a lot of high class
etiquette.
I just don't use it.
I mean, where, where am I goingto go?

Speaker 2 (01:12):
with that, I know a lot of high class stuff high
class etiquette yes, I know Iknow where that fork goes, I
know.
So we are going to talk aboutmanners a little bit and which
will spill over into etiquette,and so when somebody tells you
you really don't have anymanners, bobby, what I mean?

(01:35):
What's that mean to you?
I mean, does that offend you?
Do you just kind of go?
I don't really care?

Speaker 1 (01:40):
usually it's after I belch really loud, but you know
that's on the list.

Speaker 2 (01:44):
That's on the list, so let's talk about table
manners and etiquette I wasn'tat a table, though, so you can't
call it table.

Speaker 1 (01:51):
I mean just, you know , just walking, echoing walking
through the walmart walkingthrough the walmart all of a
sudden.
Hey, listen, if you burp orsomething, the the excuse me has
to be at least as loud as theburp.
And then you sound like anidiot screaming excuse me, okay.

Speaker 2 (02:14):
So, regardless, that's unacceptable.
Irregardless, irregardless,that's right, irregardless.
So regardless, that'sunacceptable.
That is considered poor manners.
Now you're going to say, well,in some countries the belch like
that is considered a complimentto the cook.
Yeah well, we're not in thosecountries, are we?
Better out than in, I suppose,so belching.

(02:40):
So my girls thought that theywent to the college of
belcherama and they graduatedtop in their classes.

Speaker 1 (02:50):
That's for sure I might hold a world record for
longest belch.

Speaker 2 (02:53):
You may, and your sister the loudest, yeah, so we
do have that going for us.
That's our claim to fame herein our family of redneck
hillbillies when we talk aboutbelching, belching at the table,
so Is a little belch at thetable.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
Okay, it's not like you can hold it in.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
Yes, you can, no, you can't.
Oh, my goodness, you can too,and you can silence it.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
I mean you can muffle it, but you don't have a lot of
control about how it's comingout and at what speed.

Speaker 2 (03:25):
Okay, so yours come out like a torpedo okay, like a
thunderclap.
Like you're taking somebody out, yes, yes, like you're taking
somebody out.
Yes and God forbid, stand back,because you're liable to get
some on somebody Accurate at 300yards.
So you're telling me, honest togoodness, that you can't
control any of that I'm sayingyou can stifle it.

Speaker 1 (03:47):
You know you can try to silence it as much as you can
, but if a belch is coming out,what are you going to do?
Swallow it.
You know how bad that hurts,can't you?

Speaker 2 (03:55):
I mean I, I would think that you can just silence
it.
I mean, I don't do the big oldgod-awful belches.

Speaker 1 (04:02):
I'm not.
I'm saying you can stifle it.
You know you can silence itsomewhat.
But if you've got one, that'syou know.
Let's say, you just downed aroot beer or something and you
have to.
There's going to be some kindof you downed a root beer.

Speaker 2 (04:17):
How do you stifle it?
How do you stifle it Like, useyour napkin as a muffler, or
what.
I would use my napkin as amuffler.
I mean I would, If I thoughtthat you know it was going to
have any noise at all, thatnapkin would go over my mouth.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
I mean like you can like close your mouth and hope
it doesn't burn out your nosehairs on the way out.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
But gee, many christmas.
What are you blowing out?

Speaker 1 (04:38):
I have a lot of issues.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
Look, I don't drink the healthiest stuff and I don't
eat the healthiest stuff, sowhen it comes out it's like a
thunder clap okay it's like thorhas come through I mean I, you
know, I'm afraid that sometimethere's going to be paramedics
at the table after I go to therestroom and come back, and it's
because one of you girls nailedsomebody with a belch.

Speaker 1 (05:03):
But I mean, like you know, besides belching, let's
talk about just some basicmanners, please, and thank you.
Okay, you know the core manners.

Speaker 2 (05:12):
You want to get off the belching.

Speaker 1 (05:14):
Well, I do, because we could do a whole episode on
this of her just ripping my assabout this.

Speaker 2 (05:21):
Okay.
So let's okay.
Let's talk about, please, andthank you.
I am a big proponent of nomatter what it is.
Yes, ma'am, no, sir, thank you,ma'am, thank you, ma'am.
Thank you, sir.
Most times we do okay and Iwill say that dr domain brought
that into my life this sir andma'am, that's because he's from

(05:42):
the south.
No, when?
When's the last time you calledme sir, not you bonehead?

Speaker 1 (05:51):
I don't call you.
I can go really south with thisand I'm not going to, but that
is because he's from the south.
When we lived in Texas, youknow my kids were young and it
was yes, ma'am, no ma'am.
But I also think the climatehas changed.

Speaker 2 (06:06):
What does my son call you?
He calls me Miss Jane.
They both call me Miss Jane.

Speaker 1 (06:13):
Am I supposed to be calling you, mr Domain?
Oh, for the love of God, wait aminute, because his name is Dr
Domain, Okay so what Mr?

Speaker 2 (06:24):
Domain, mr Domain, mr Doctor, mr Doctor, sir Domain.

Speaker 1 (06:29):
Mr Doctor, Sir.

Speaker 2 (06:31):
Mr Doctor, sir, no, that's a lot, lot.

Speaker 1 (06:32):
But no, I mean, I get it.
You know the kids were raisedin the South.

Speaker 2 (06:36):
Yeah, I mean your girls used to say that, and I
mean, and my son did too.
Yeah, your kids did.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
And now they don't.
But also, I mean, the climatehas changed.

Speaker 2 (06:46):
Well, the climate because you're in Iowa now.

Speaker 1 (06:49):
No, no talking about the politically correct climate,
oh man, I'm telling you, giveme a break.
Listen, listen.
You can think what you want,but when you're out in public
and you call somebody sir orma'am, there's a chance that
they're going to blow up at you.

Speaker 2 (07:08):
No no.
It never happens, and I'vecalled much younger girls ma'am,
and if they did, who?

Speaker 1 (07:15):
cares?
And if they did, who cares?
I mean, I'm just saying, youknow, a lot of people have
dropped it because of politicalcorrectness.

Speaker 2 (07:21):
If somebody said to me hey, don't call me.
That I would say okay, thankyou, ma'am.

Speaker 1 (07:29):
Well, it's about misgendering too.
That's what I'm saying, thoughit's about misgendering too.

Speaker 2 (07:33):
That's what I'm saying, though it's about
misgendering somebody.

Speaker 1 (07:34):
Listen, I'm not saying I agree with it.
I'm saying that this is theclimate these kids are raised in
and that's why a lot of themhave dropped the sir or ma'am.
Now in the South it isdifferent because, honestly,
they don't give a shit and it issir or ma'am.

Speaker 2 (07:55):
It is and that's just how it is.
Or honey, or you know sweetie,or something like that.
Some I don't even hear thatthat much, but we do hear it and
I say it.
I mean I, I call the waitresses.
Thanks, hon.
Or you know whatever that givesme the heebie-jeebies, no, no,
oh honey oh bobby honey, ohhoney, I'm your daughter.

Speaker 1 (08:09):
It's different, but if I have like a co-worker, if I
have a co-worker that's callingme like so.