March 14, 2025 • 33 mins
Victoria and Michael open the doors to their new passion project, the "Stucco Squad" – a vibrant, supportive community designed specifically for children with special needs. Named after their service dog (who was in turn named after Victoria's law enforcement nickname), this initiative creates a space where extraordinary kids can connect, celebrate their uniqueness, and participate in engaging activities like coloring contests, themed worksheets, and creative challenges.
Drawing from their personal experiences – Victoria's own special needs journey and raising their daughter with special needs – they understand the profound impact of building self-worth in children who often feel different. "We know what it's like to think of ourselves as not equal," Victoria shares with raw honesty, "and that's not true, because we are way more than equal. We get to travel a journey where every milestone is exciting and celebrated."
What truly sets the Stucco Squad apart is its accessibility. Recognizing the financial constraints many special needs families face, membership costs less than $5 monthly. Children receive official ID cards with badges, and there are plans for a magazine featuring these amazing kids. The Stucco Squad Facebook group serves as the community hub where families can connect and children can showcase their creativity.
Alongside this initiative, they're launching their Podcast Academy with classes on podcasting, social media management, and building a digital footprint – all priced affordably between $24.99 and $49, a stark contrast to similar programs charging thousands. "We want everybody to reach their goals and their dreams," Victoria explains, acknowledging today's economic challenges.
The couple also reveals their upcoming podcast-a-thon partnership with Give Kids the World, an organization working with Make-A-Wish to provide accommodations for families in Florida. Their passion for advocacy extends to domestic violence survivors, with Victoria emphasizing the importance of private communication channels to protect those who've escaped dangerous situations.
Throughout their conversation, Victoria and Michael's genuine connection shines through their playful banter, while their shared commitment to breaking cycles of abuse and creating safe spaces for vulnerable communities forms the foundation of everything they do. Join the Stucco Squad today and become part of this extraordinary journey of celebration, support, and empowerment.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Good evening y'all.
Welcome to another episode of AContagious Smile, unstoppable.
You are here with Victoria, theone and only, stucco, his son,
rusty Uno and Michael Howdyy'all.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Hi babe.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Okay, this dog's got a tail, come on, wow, that's why
he's yours.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hi, babe.
Okay, this dog's got a tail.
Come on, wow, that's why he'syours.
He's a little wild dog, alright.
So what's been going on In thelast few days?
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Work cleaning.
Honeydew list More honeydewstuff that I may or may not have
gotten to.
I think you have it pretty easywhen it comes to honeydew stuff
that I may or may not havegotten to.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I think you have it pretty easy when it comes to
honeydew lists, because I knowfor a fact you've had some other
not honeys that have given youlists of things and they're
nowhere at all compatible to oneanother.
I'm not talking about otherhoneys.
Those weren't honeys.
Those weren't honeys, thosewere like molasses.
Those weren't honeys, thosewere like molasses there was OPH
(01:08):
, other people's honeys.
What.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
What.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
It's OPP, yes, not OPH.
And yours were not honeys, moreof a molasses of unflavoredness
.
So we're a little behind on therollout of the Podcast Academy.
That's my fault, y'all.
No, it is my fault because Ihad surgery.
It's my fault.
I decided to do something Ihaven't done in a few days and
(01:36):
go on an OR table Nuts.
Yeah.
So that will be rolling outhere soon.
I'm super excited that ourpodcast-a-thon will be coming
out and we are teaming up withGive Kids the World, which is a
fabulous, fabulous organizationthat partners with Make-A-Wish
(01:59):
and helps Make-A-Wish familieshave a place to stay while
they're in Florida, and thisplace will literally change your
life.
It's just amazing and itchanged mine.
It changed Faith's.
We're going to go back downthere this year and do some
podcasting with some familiesand some videos and things of
that nature, which will be somuch fun.
(02:22):
So that's on the horizon andI'm pretty super excited that
we're doing this big event.
We Make a Wish in the summerand we are going to invite all
of the kids, alumni and siblings, and wish givers and getters
(02:43):
that have yet to obtain theirwish to join our stucco squad.
Why don't you tell everybodywhat stucco squad?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
is Stucco squad.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Tell them about stucco squad.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Well, it's a squad of stuccos.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
That's pretty simple.
How about you elaborate?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
So our main stud, no y'all, not me, not Michael, it's
our dog.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Stucco Jr.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
His name is named after a nickname that I was
given back when I was in lawenforcement.
Yes, they called me Stucco.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
No, not they.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,it wasn't they who gave you the
nickname.
Who gave you the nickname?
Who gave you the nickname?
You know who, who, you know who.
You don't remember, do you?
Yes?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I didn't want to say her name over here why?
Because she might come haunt me.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
That's not funny?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Well, it's not funny.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
That she'd come haunt you.
Well, y y'all, that was herbest friend next to me before me
and she passed away.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
We were best friends for like 30 years.
That's that in bad taste?
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I hope no one's offended 30 years but kim would
be practical joker like that andcall me yeah, after she passed
away I got a letter in the mailand says hey, you know, I guess
I'm pushing up fertilizer and I,you know, and I know you're
gonna get mad at me but youcan't kill me because I'm
already dead.
And that was just her sense ofhumor and I was like, try not to
laugh and cry at the same timeat the letter I had just gotten.
(04:12):
But yeah, she had a sense ofhumor, and so just to clarify,
why did she call you stucco?
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Because you were stuck on me.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
No it, you were stuck on me.
No, it was, you were stuck onme.
That's right.
Yes, so sure I didn't have youwrapped.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
No, maybe somewhat okay, fine, anyway.
So stucco squad, yes, namedafter my nickname and our main
studs.
My service dog is named stucco,our golden retriever is named
stucco and, um, yeah, so we comeup with a little, a little
initiation for the stucco squad.
The kids get their id cards,they get our vip vip official
(04:57):
membership.
Uh, yeah, it's, it's.
It's got a little badge on theback and it's gonna be fun it's
gonna be so much fun.
We're going to walk around tohis park there and meet everyone
and meet the families, thekiddos.
Yeah, it's going to be fun.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Well, it's not just that.
Anybody online who is a memberof the special needs community
or just an everyday happy kidcan join the Stucco Squad.
They go to Facebook and gounder groups and look up either
a Contagious Smile Stucco Squador just Stucco Squad and I'll
put the links in in our shownotes and then that will get you
(05:38):
access.
And what's really cool is thisis just a club for the Stucco
Squad and it has so many coolthings like, for instance, we're
doing our first contest where Ihave put up I don't know how
many, do you think I did Five orsix maybe coloring pages.
Yes, and they're all reallycute little stucco pictures or
stucco with kids, and you pickthe one you want, color it in,
(06:02):
get mom or dad or yourself totake a photo and upload it to
that group page and we're goingto give prizes.
So that's super awesome.
And then we are also reallyhard because y'all color so well
right, so we're going to dothat.
Um, I also just uploaded somefun St Patrick's Day worksheets
(06:27):
that aren't really worksheets Idon't like that term because it
sounds school related but, forinstance, coloring pages of like
a leprechaun and a pot of goldand crossword not crossword,
sorry, word search and I evencreated a make your own word
search so you can make your ownand then put it up there and let
(06:47):
us see what you do.
We're all about celebrating youand how amazing you are, and
there's nothing ordinary aboutour Stucco Squad.
Everybody's extraordinary andI'm so excited to have this and
we're going to have so manyawesome events to have this and
(07:08):
we're going to have so manyawesome events.
We're even doing classes nowfor mom and dad and grandmas who
are listening.
What also is really cool iswe're not only advocating for
special needs.
Our daughter has special needs.
I'm special needs and becauseof that, we know what it's like
to think of ourself as not equal, and that's not true, because
(07:30):
we are way more than equal.
We get to travel a journeywhere every milestone is just
exciting and you celebrate it,like some people take for
granted the little things, wherewe just live for them.
So one of the things I'velearned after advocating in the
community of special needs forholy smokies almost 20 years now
(07:51):
, that's a kick in the agebucket, thanks is self-esteem,
self-wonderman, body dysphoria,scars, things of that nature.
So we have put together aacademy which is going to have
multiple sections within it andit's going to offer classes for
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everyone to be able to attend,whether it's helping you see how
amazing you are in yourself-worth, how you wear your
scars with bravery, because thatjust shows your strength.
There are so many differentclasses.
I think my goal was to do onenew class a week and I have
(08:35):
gotten so like I don't know ifyou obsessed isn't the word.
I got so ecstatic about havingthis that I've put up eight this
week alone, and so that's justfor the Stucco Squad.
And then we're going to haveour regular podcast powerhouse
(08:55):
courses that are going to showyou how we have gone from zero
followers to millions, how yearsof school and classes and
courses and trial andtribulations and what works and
what doesn't work.
We've compiled it all intoaffordability, because today
(09:16):
things are tough.
Things are tough and it'sexpensive.
Like eggs are like 1050.
Are you?
Are you serious?
So we want everybody to reachtheir goals and their dreams.
So a lot of classes out there.
We've seen them from 400 to 6000 and we're trying to be
nowhere near that.
(09:36):
I think our most expensive classright now is like 49 and I I
want to say the average is$24.99.
And that's for the social mediaand the podcasting and the
digital footprint and the UGCand all of that.
That's where that goes.
(09:57):
But for our stucco squads, weare not allowing this to get
pricey because we know firsthandhow tight money can be.
So we're doing membershipswhere it's not even $5 a month.
It's not even.
And we will also, if you wouldlike, we will celebrate your
(10:19):
amazing little one and put themin a magazine.
We're about to start and holdon.
I got to go left field for aminute.
My husband would not recordwith me earlier because he said
I look tired.
Now he is barely keeping hiseyelids in the upright position.
How is this?
We're talking about stuccosquad.
You should be like I'm an oldman, seriously.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Old man fall asleep sitting on toilet.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
No, no, yeah.
So then you talk about thepodcast academy for a minute.
So then you have to.
You know, jaw jack my train ofthought.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
You talk so much.
What I mean?
I mean what I meant dear, whatI got you dear I got you, dear
easy, greasy, keep it peachy, ohlord, um.
So, in reference to classes,courses that my wife has written
and and I can attest she'll,she'll write like one in an
(11:17):
afternoon and it just floors me,but these are master class
level courses.
The contents in there, you knowthe graphics, the, the
explanations.
You know the graphics, theexplanations, the.
You know just all the importantstuff you need to know
concerning whatever topic you'restudying.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Not just that, but tell them how much fun the
stucco squat classes are.
I mean, yes, the others arevery informative and they're
going to help you reach yourgoals.
Yes, but right now we'retalking about the kids.
So how amazing are the kidsclasses?
They're so cute.
They are so cute.
They have our little redheadgolden retriever, my boy, my boy
(11:58):
.
They have him in there and heis.
He is pushing you to um,receive, uh, achieve your goals,
and he is just with you everypaw of the way.
Get it and it's just.
Did you pause for a moment?
I did.
I paused for a moment.
(12:19):
Yeah, so it's just so much funto have your kid get excited
about things and their ideas onways to celebrate, know things
that they do on a daily basisand how to overcome society's
you know insecurities, becauseit's not our insecurities, it's
society's insecurities and howyou can get over that, because
(12:40):
these kids are amazing and theseare who we should be learning
life from.
So that's a really, really bigdeal.
So all of the links will be inthe show notes.
I'm hoping in the next coupleof days, give me till, like
Thursday.
Hopefully a podcast will belive, because I'm so methodical
(13:01):
about making sure it's justperfect, perfect, that there's
no bones about it.
So All right, there's no bonesabout it.
So all right, now we've.
We've done our little podcastthing and talked about that.
Yeah, I don't like it when weplug our stuff.
I like it when we plug, youknow, talk about everybody
else's accomplishment there.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Victoria, our listeners did come here to
listen.
Let's talk, okay, aboutcontagious smile, what we do,
how we can help Y'all go tocontact us If you have a story
that y'all want to get on here.
You want to come on our show?
Write to us and we'll respondback to you.
(13:42):
I probably won't because I'mlazy, you're sleeping or I'm
working a full-time job.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
I don't do a full-time job.
I don't do a full-time job, youdo more than a full-time job I
do, like six full-time jobs youdo.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
And you do it one-handed.
You're awesome at it.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
I do want to say I've had a lot of people recently
like reach out For those of youwho may or may not have checked
out our knock-knock who's there?
Help, I'm gasping for air show.
We get hundreds of comments.
Even if they're positive ornegative, they're read.
We read them regardless becauseyour voice matters and we want
you to know that we hear you.
(14:21):
I had someone ask me if I wouldwrite another book to the narc
narc, because it has been statednumerous times by both of us
that for every like one piece ofevidence we put in, there's
like 15 more that we didn't.
And would we put in anotherbook, giving up the rest of the
information?
And that that individual foundit funny.
(14:42):
And my sister from anotherminister, Dana, was like all
right, here comes the PuertoRican and she's like I'm going
to blow up a skirt here and shewent nuts over that, like she
was not happy and I appreciatethat because you know she's real
and her new book just came out.
So go get that Rising from theAshes.
(15:03):
I was the only person who gotto read it before it was out for
sale.
I finished it before herhusband.
I'm just saying so you have togo out and get it, because it's
a reader, that's for sure.
And so I had somebody in a Idon't know what you want to call
it.
I was in a, a group earlier,within a week ago, talking about
(15:25):
the numbers that we have, andquestions were directed to me
about well, you know, you can'tmake your numbers up.
We see them, we know where theyare, but how come you're like
one of the only people who don'tget comments posted on the
actual shows and stuff, right,like you don't see very many
comments on tiktok or instagramor facebook.
Well, I've stated from day onenot to do it, because one of the
(15:50):
things that I do teach and I'mvery serious about is, let's say
, jane Bagadonuts, you know, gotout of a domestic violence
situation and she found us andstarted to follow us.
Well, then she was makingcomments about oh yes, I went
through this myself.
You know I'm still goingthrough this, or you know
whatever they can be found bytheir comments, and so I tell
(16:13):
people all the time write usindividually, send us a private
message, email us, whatever else.
Don't make it public, becausepeople can find you that way,
and I love the fact that ourlisteners, who are our family.
They understand that and theydon't.
You know, they don't go out andput stuff out publicly because
(16:35):
they are protecting who they are, just like when we have people
come on.
One of the very first things Isay every single time is I will
not disclose where you aregeographically, I will not give
your last name.
If you want to use a differentfirst name, we can do that too.
That is totally up to you.
And if we get done with thisrecording and you say you know
what, I'm nervous, I don't wantto put it out, I'll scrap it
(16:58):
you've done that in the pastI've done it a lot because it's
my number one priority is yourcomfortability and your safety.
So explaining that everybodyelse who is in that community
understood a little bit betteras to why that we, you know, we
tell everybody don't makeyourself known putting out
(17:20):
public comments, because you canbe found that way, you know,
even if you think, oh well, myex doesn't have the knowledge or
access, but you know what heknows, someone who does.
And it's really important tomaintain your safety.
And even when we have I bet youI have at least another 500
comments or stories and I don'teven know about how many Dana
(17:44):
has that we read, right?
And the thing is is thatsometimes people will say, oh,
you can say my name or you cansay something about me, and I'll
say, oh, I had somebody writeme that is presumably a high
school girl and that's all I'llsay right.
And then, because I don't knowwhen we're going to get to all
(18:05):
of them, we will get to all ofthem and we always say you know,
stick with us, we're going toget your questions and comments
on, but even then when I'mreading them, I don't give out
any information.
I might say something like thisis a member of the lgbtq
community community.
But that's all I give and it'sbecause I want people to know
they have a safe space.
My husband is having a very.
(18:26):
Do you want some toothpicks foryour eyelids?
Speaker 1 (18:28):
wow, I mean seriously well, I worked a full-time job
today.
Uh-huh, I drove around, yeah,on my butt uh-huh then I come
home and worked no, not really Idid.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Working on the throne is not working well, yeah, so
I'm a little tired.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
I try not to be so.
Guys it's challenging for me topodcast or do anything with
TikTok or Flip or anythingsocial media after you know
working all day.
I just want to come home andSleep.
Well, eat, shower, sleep.
(19:10):
How about that?
I didn't add equation, yousnuck up beside me.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
No, okay, you want to save that somehow.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
I can't.
It's out there that ship hassailed.
That's horrible.
So kudos to y'all who have madeyou know successful business
out of tiktok or flip orwhatever amazon influencer after
working you know full-time.
Wish I could do it.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
I wish I had energy well, maybe you'll get it after
your colonoscopy oh, let's notgo there.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Why?
Speaker 2 (19:43):
because I don't want anyone to go there are you
afraid the shit's gonna hit thefan?
Speaker 1 (19:46):
it's something gonna hit the fan, something's going
to hit the fan, it's not bad.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
It's not bad.
Violating it's not, it's amedical procedure.
No, uh-huh, pop goes the weasel.
It just like yes, it's not bad,I've had it, it's not a big
deal Serious.
You got to like suck it up, man, really.
Suck it up man Really.
It's not painful.
(20:12):
They're going to twilight youand you'll be out before they
even put an IV in, so it doesn'treally matter.
You're going to be like countto ten Did he even say one?
Or count backwards from ten,and you won't even go.
I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
They don't give you options, do they About what
they're not going to put youunder?
Speaker 2 (20:31):
general anesthetic and you won't even go about what
.
They're not going to put youunder general anesthetic because
of a colonoscopy.
It's just not going to happen.
And our daughter is like justcan't wait.
It's hysterical.
Why are you getting a butt sore?
What's the problem?
(20:51):
I mean, you know I tell peoplethey're getting on my nerves.
Get it, my nerve nerves,seriously.
Yeah, he's playing with myapple watch, which I don't
understand because no, I don't,you can have it.
What?
What am I going to do with it?
I mean, seriously.
(21:11):
I asked them how do you reallyoperate an Apple Watch when you
only have one hand?
Okay, I mean seriously, if it'son my nub it'll fall off, and
if it's on the other arm I can'tpush any of the buttons.
So it doesn't really work forme and it just kind of sits
there.
Now, okay, women are going tothink very weird when I say this
(21:35):
.
Not only that, especially beingthat I am a survivor of
domestic violence and I havebeen stabbed multiple, multiple
times.
But my husband came home fromtoday, from work today, and on
the counter was a gift and itwas a knife, and I've always
collected knives and so has myhusband, and of course, some
(21:58):
people don't understand that,why somebody who's been stabbed
multiple times would have aknife collection it's not the
knife's fault.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
No, it's not the gun's fault.
The gun didn't shoot all thosepeople.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Speaking of gun shooting.
So South Carolina had its firstexecution by firing squad,
sweet.
They brought the guy out, put acover over his head, they put a
target on his heart Seriously,and he died eight minutes after
it began Because he felt likethe lethal injection might not
(22:32):
be the way to go, becausesomebody who was in the same
prison as him elected lethalinjection and it took them like
20 minutes and they thought itwas inhumane how he ended up
being in pain for 20 minutes.
Are you kidding?
20 minutes, that's it Of pain.
One of them was murder and theother was multiple murders, I
(22:58):
believe.
But still, what about thevictims?
I'm always advocating for that.
What about the victims?
I bet it was longer than 20minutes.
They didn't get up that morning, put their feet down off the
bed and say this is going to bemy last day, but then they want
to complain of 20 minutes beinginhumane.
I mean, come on now, that'sjust crazy.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
I don't know.
I like the idea of the firingsquad Now.
Hopefully they'll bring backthe guillotine.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Either you just got us a lot of new listeners or we
just lost a lot.
Why would you like to see theguillotine?
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Well, something that traumatic should send, you know,
a message to folks now.
Hey don't do this, okay, youknow, as the red queen said off
with her head yeah, but likethat woman, um langdon, who was
from georgia state university.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
She was brutally assaulted, and I mean intimately
, and then she was murdered byillegals that had a very serious
criminal record and they werenot made to leave.
And now, you know, trump putinto law the length in law.
(24:20):
But I mean, if you're I don't,I'm gonna say this carefully
illegal or not illegal, if youhave a criminal history of such
violent murder, rape, anythingto do with kids, I don't think
you can be rehabbed.
I don't personally believe itbecause and you know, people are
(24:42):
like well, why do you say that,yes, I'm a survivor of abuse?
Yes, I can say that because myex was beating all of the wives
before and after.
And there's not that kind ofmindset.
Is not somebody you canrehabilitate, unless you put
them somewhere by themselves.
Right, then that's different.
(25:04):
They're not going to commit thecrime anymore.
Like you know, I've talked topeople.
They're like well, yes, my exused to beat me, but he hasn't
hit me in 10 years, right?
I had a woman that Iinterviewed and she said I
haven't been hit in 10 years.
I said I'm going to ask you onequestion, just one, right?
And she goes, sure, and I saidhas he been incarcerated for 10
years?
And she goes how did you knowthat?
(25:26):
I said because he hasn't hityou in 10 years.
Because and you can talk aboutthat as an officer too is, as
soon as they start hitting you,it's not long before they take
it out on the dogs, the cats,the kids, if I mean.
And they right.
And a lot of times you're likeoh, he'd never hit my kid, he
never hit my kid.
Yes, he will, I promise you hewill.
(25:49):
And when people say no, no, no,he hasn't done anything, he's,
he's better it.
You know it's.
I was right where y'all were.
I did something to make him mad.
It was all my fault.
What did I do?
What could I have donedifferent?
Blah, blah, blah.
But you know what?
Somebody else pissed in hiscornflakes and he's still going
to come back and take it out onyou.
And I think, if you and wedon't, we chose to be better and
(26:20):
stop the cycle.
We chose to break the cycle sothat our kids didn't go through
what we went through, right, andthere's a big difference.
So to use the crutch that well,he was abused as a child.
So that makes it okay?
No, it doesn't, it absolutelydoes not and he is not going to
go through and get better andwhatever.
(26:41):
You know, they put my exthrough rehab and they put my ex
through anger management.
He got kicked out of angermanagement.
Please tell me who can getkicked out of anger management.
Seriously, that loser?
Yeah, that piece of crap gotkicked out of anger management,
like that's something to be saidright there, right, crazy,
crazy but we are much happierbecause we're not with our
(27:06):
abusive exes stop the cycle
Speaker 1 (27:08):
absolutely right, yes .
And they're still miserable,they're still themselves.
Yeah, right, yes.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
And they're still miserable, they're still
themselves.
Yeah Right, do you believe thatsomebody who could hurt a child
is somebody who can berehabilitated?
Speaker 1 (27:24):
No, so I spent four and a half years in jail.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
But on the other side of the bars.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
And I watched and took care of the pedophiles that
came in there.
They did not get rehabilitated,they did not choose a better
path.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
They would gossip and about how they got away with
stuff, right.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Where their stories with like a badge of honor on
how they lured the kids and whatthey would say to them.
And it was, it was disgusting.
So, yeah, there's norehabilitation for that, that's
just.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
I've never understood why, while you're on death row,
that they say, okay, well,we're going to let you have
congregational visits and we'regoing to do this, and we're
going death row, that they say,okay, well, we're going to let
you have congregational visitsand we're going to do this and
we're going to do that, and thenyou get to have whatever meal
you want as your last meal.
I mean, why do these monstersget to have free healthcare,
free education, you know, freesex, sorry, and then they get to
(28:31):
pick the meal of their choicebefore they're calmly and
quietly put to sleep, right?
I mean, let's talk aboutanybody that was their victim
who is brutally taken away fromtheir family, won't ever get to
get married, won't get to be amom or a dad, won't get to see
their grandkids, won't get to goand, you know, be the big
brother or sister.
You know all of the things thatare taken away from them.
(28:54):
They don't get the last meal,they don't get free health care,
they don't get free education.
But we treat our criminalsbetter than we treat Everyday
people like and I don't meaneveryday people is in like.
You know what I mean.
I mean the people who are notincarcerated are treated worse.
They, the criminals, have aroof over their head and they
(29:15):
get health care and educationand and they even get ipads.
Now I mean really, I mean, dowe want to give them two-ply
toilet paper too?
You know, and people think thatI'm like real far right on the
fact that I'm really strongabout this.
Well, you know what, when youhave been beaten to death's door
on more than one occasion, whenyou've been beaten to at
death's door on more than oneoccasion pregnant, you know you
(29:39):
have every right to be like, hey, it's not okay, and this
jackass hasn't done it just tome, there's other people.
And it kept happening and hekept getting away with it
because our judicial systemfavors more that way than it
does for us, because we getre-victimized on the stand.
They, they absolutely just.
(30:00):
You know what did you do?
Why did you do it?
And they take it all like it'sall our fault.
Okay, go ahead.
Whatever you're saying, it's atthe bit, keep going.
No, I'm good.
You're trying to stay awake.
I am, but I'm good, go ahead.
See you wound up, I know you domy wife is sexy hot and she's
mine.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
She's taking y'all.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
Yeah, I can't believe you did that at Home Depot the
other day.
I just got glasses, I gotglasses.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
My wife walked away from me to go shop it on her own
to get whatever, and I took ourdaughter and, as the Home Depot
worker, older gentleman, olderthan me and I'm 50, walked by
her.
He was smiling and saidsomething I didn't hear.
He was, you know, about 30 feetaway and I pointed my finger
(30:47):
right at him as he's walkingtowards me and I yelled she's
mine, she's taken.
He got a kick out of it.
But that's us.
We're a very jovial andfun-hearted family.
We love pranks.
My wife just played a prank onme After coming back from the
store.
Oh here, baby, here's you somesweet tea.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
I did not say that.
I did not say I said I needmore cup holders.
I said I need more cup holders.
I said I need more cup holdersand it was not sweet tea and you
spit it everywhere.
And I do know for a fact faithhas one coming tonight for you.
A prank tonight.
Oh yeah, it is good, it is sogood it is it's going to get you
(31:36):
.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
This is going to be a good one.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
It'll wake you up.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
No, yeah no.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Yeah, you're not sleeping until in the morning.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Until the morning, uh-huh, what's that supposed to
mean?
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Like you're not going to go to sleep now and stay
asleep until no, it's not no, no, like you're not going to go to
sleep now and stay asleep until.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
No, it's not Go to bed early.
No, because we wake up early.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
No, no, you wake up to play video games.
Let's call a spade.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
a spade and to make your breakfast.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
You pop out something that's frozen into a toaster.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
That's still me making your breakfast every day.
I get your vitamins, yourvitamins, your vitamins.
I get your vitamins, yourvitamins, your vitamins, I get
your tea.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
I make your tea.
You came home the other day.
You had a German chocolate cakethat I made waiting for you.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
First time in 20-something years.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
It's not the first time.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Really A German chocolate, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
It is not the first time.
First time I recall.
Well, go figure, you had red isnot the first time.
First time, I recall.
Well, go figure, you had redvelvet not that long ago.
Uh-huh, uh-huh.
I made your tea, yeah, but thisGerman chocolate wasn't.
Yeah, that's right, hush it.
The house was all clean.
The floor smelled all nice andsmelling good, even though we
(32:53):
have three four paws runningaround.
Yep, mm-hmm, uh-huh.
And then what does my husbanddo?
Plays video game and watchesmovies with our kid.
Yep, and what do I do?
Speaker 1 (33:06):
work, work so let's end this podcast and you don't
watch a movie you're not gonnawatch a movie.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
You're gonna go make one in your dreams and go to
sleep.
Probably I'll have to get Faithto keep you awake.
Alright, take us out.
Oh well, everybody, thank youfor listening.
Look out for our podcastacademy and join our stucco
squad.
We're going to have so much fun.
It's going to be great.
It's going to be so much funand we can even send out
(33:36):
birthday cards and we have allsorts of awesome stuff coming
with this Stucco Squad.
So join us and we will talk toy'all soon.
Speaker 1 (33:47):
Bye y'all.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
You waited too late.
Good evening y'all.
Welcome to another episode of AContagious Smile, unstoppable.
You are here with Victoria, theone and only, stucco, his son,
rusty Uno and Michael Howdyy'all.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Hi babe.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Okay, this dog's got a tail, come on, wow, that's why
he's yours.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Hi, babe.
Okay, this dog's got a tail.
Come on, wow, that's why he'syours.
He's a little wild dog, alright.
So what's been going on In thelast few days?
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Work cleaning.
Honeydew list More honeydewstuff that I may or may not have
gotten to.
I think you have it pretty easywhen it comes to honeydew stuff
that I may or may not havegotten to.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I think you have it pretty easy when it comes to
honeydew lists, because I knowfor a fact you've had some other
not honeys that have given youlists of things and they're
nowhere at all compatible to oneanother.
I'm not talking about otherhoneys.
Those weren't honeys.
Those weren't honeys, thosewere like molasses.
Those weren't honeys, thosewere like molasses there was OPH
(01:08):
, other people's honeys.
What.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
What.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
It's OPP, yes, not OPH.
And yours were not honeys, moreof a molasses of unflavoredness
.
So we're a little behind on therollout of the Podcast Academy.
That's my fault, y'all.
No, it is my fault because Ihad surgery.
It's my fault.
I decided to do something Ihaven't done in a few days and
(01:36):
go on an OR table Nuts.
Yeah.
So that will be rolling outhere soon.
I'm super excited that ourpodcast-a-thon will be coming
out and we are teaming up withGive Kids the World, which is a
fabulous, fabulous organizationthat partners with Make-A-Wish
(01:59):
and helps Make-A-Wish familieshave a place to stay while
they're in Florida, and thisplace will literally change your
life.
It's just amazing and itchanged mine.
It changed Faith's.
We're going to go back downthere this year and do some
podcasting with some familiesand some videos and things of
that nature, which will be somuch fun.
(02:22):
So that's on the horizon andI'm pretty super excited that
we're doing this big event.
We Make a Wish in the summerand we are going to invite all
of the kids, alumni and siblings, and wish givers and getters
(02:43):
that have yet to obtain theirwish to join our stucco squad.
Why don't you tell everybodywhat stucco squad?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
is Stucco squad.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Tell them about stucco squad.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Well, it's a squad of stuccos.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
That's pretty simple.
How about you elaborate?
Speaker 1 (03:04):
So our main stud, no y'all, not me, not Michael, it's
our dog.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Stucco Jr.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
His name is named after a nickname that I was
given back when I was in lawenforcement.
Yes, they called me Stucco.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
No, not they.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,it wasn't they who gave you the
nickname.
Who gave you the nickname?
Who gave you the nickname?
You know who, who, you know who.
You don't remember, do you?
Yes?
Speaker 1 (03:30):
I didn't want to say her name over here why?
Because she might come haunt me.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
That's not funny?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
Well, it's not funny.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
That she'd come haunt you.
Well, y y'all, that was herbest friend next to me before me
and she passed away.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
We were best friends for like 30 years.
That's that in bad taste?
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I hope no one's offended 30 years but kim would
be practical joker like that andcall me yeah, after she passed
away I got a letter in the mailand says hey, you know, I guess
I'm pushing up fertilizer and I,you know, and I know you're
gonna get mad at me but youcan't kill me because I'm
already dead.
And that was just her sense ofhumor and I was like, try not to
laugh and cry at the same timeat the letter I had just gotten.
(04:12):
But yeah, she had a sense ofhumor, and so just to clarify,
why did she call you stucco?
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Because you were stuck on me.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
No it, you were stuck on me.
No, it was, you were stuck onme.
That's right.
Yes, so sure I didn't have youwrapped.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
No, maybe somewhat okay, fine, anyway.
So stucco squad, yes, namedafter my nickname and our main
studs.
My service dog is named stucco,our golden retriever is named
stucco and, um, yeah, so we comeup with a little, a little
initiation for the stucco squad.
The kids get their id cards,they get our vip vip official
(04:57):
membership.
Uh, yeah, it's, it's.
It's got a little badge on theback and it's gonna be fun it's
gonna be so much fun.
We're going to walk around tohis park there and meet everyone
and meet the families, thekiddos.
Yeah, it's going to be fun.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Well, it's not just that.
Anybody online who is a memberof the special needs community
or just an everyday happy kidcan join the Stucco Squad.
They go to Facebook and gounder groups and look up either
a Contagious Smile Stucco Squador just Stucco Squad and I'll
put the links in in our shownotes and then that will get you
(05:38):
access.
And what's really cool is thisis just a club for the Stucco
Squad and it has so many coolthings like, for instance, we're
doing our first contest where Ihave put up I don't know how
many, do you think I did Five orsix maybe coloring pages.
Yes, and they're all reallycute little stucco pictures or
stucco with kids, and you pickthe one you want, color it in,
(06:02):
get mom or dad or yourself totake a photo and upload it to
that group page and we're goingto give prizes.
So that's super awesome.
And then we are also reallyhard because y'all color so well
right, so we're going to dothat.
Um, I also just uploaded somefun St Patrick's Day worksheets
(06:27):
that aren't really worksheets Idon't like that term because it
sounds school related but, forinstance, coloring pages of like
a leprechaun and a pot of goldand crossword not crossword,
sorry, word search and I evencreated a make your own word
search so you can make your ownand then put it up there and let
(06:47):
us see what you do.
We're all about celebrating youand how amazing you are, and
there's nothing ordinary aboutour Stucco Squad.
Everybody's extraordinary andI'm so excited to have this and
we're going to have so manyawesome events to have this and
(07:08):
we're going to have so manyawesome events.
We're even doing classes nowfor mom and dad and grandmas who
are listening.
What also is really cool iswe're not only advocating for
special needs.
Our daughter has special needs.
I'm special needs and becauseof that, we know what it's like
to think of ourself as not equal, and that's not true, because
(07:30):
we are way more than equal.
We get to travel a journeywhere every milestone is just
exciting and you celebrate it,like some people take for
granted the little things, wherewe just live for them.
So one of the things I'velearned after advocating in the
community of special needs forholy smokies almost 20 years now
(07:51):
, that's a kick in the agebucket, thanks is self-esteem,
self-wonderman, body dysphoria,scars, things of that nature.
So we have put together aacademy which is going to have
multiple sections within it andit's going to offer classes for
(08:13):
everyone to be able to attend,whether it's helping you see how
amazing you are in yourself-worth, how you wear your
scars with bravery, because thatjust shows your strength.
There are so many differentclasses.
I think my goal was to do onenew class a week and I have
(08:35):
gotten so like I don't know ifyou obsessed isn't the word.
I got so ecstatic about havingthis that I've put up eight this
week alone, and so that's justfor the Stucco Squad.
And then we're going to haveour regular podcast powerhouse
(08:55):
courses that are going to showyou how we have gone from zero
followers to millions, how yearsof school and classes and
courses and trial andtribulations and what works and
what doesn't work.
We've compiled it all intoaffordability, because today
(09:16):
things are tough.
Things are tough and it'sexpensive.
Like eggs are like 1050.
Are you?
Are you serious?
So we want everybody to reachtheir goals and their dreams.
So a lot of classes out there.
We've seen them from 400 to 6000 and we're trying to be
nowhere near that.
(09:36):
I think our most expensive classright now is like 49 and I I
want to say the average is$24.99.
And that's for the social mediaand the podcasting and the
digital footprint and the UGCand all of that.
That's where that goes.
(09:57):
But for our stucco squads, weare not allowing this to get
pricey because we know firsthandhow tight money can be.
So we're doing membershipswhere it's not even $5 a month.
It's not even.
And we will also, if you wouldlike, we will celebrate your
(10:19):
amazing little one and put themin a magazine.
We're about to start and holdon.
I got to go left field for aminute.
My husband would not recordwith me earlier because he said
I look tired.
Now he is barely keeping hiseyelids in the upright position.
How is this?
We're talking about stuccosquad.
You should be like I'm an oldman, seriously.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Old man fall asleep sitting on toilet.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
No, no, yeah.
So then you talk about thepodcast academy for a minute.
So then you have to.
You know, jaw jack my train ofthought.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
You talk so much.
What I mean?
I mean what I meant dear, whatI got you dear I got you, dear
easy, greasy, keep it peachy, ohlord, um.
So, in reference to classes,courses that my wife has written
and and I can attest she'll,she'll write like one in an
(11:17):
afternoon and it just floors me,but these are master class
level courses.
The contents in there, you knowthe graphics, the, the
explanations.
You know the graphics, theexplanations, the.
You know just all the importantstuff you need to know
concerning whatever topic you'restudying.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
Not just that, but tell them how much fun the
stucco squat classes are.
I mean, yes, the others arevery informative and they're
going to help you reach yourgoals.
Yes, but right now we'retalking about the kids.
So how amazing are the kidsclasses?
They're so cute.
They are so cute.
They have our little redheadgolden retriever, my boy, my boy
(11:58):
.
They have him in there and heis.
He is pushing you to um,receive, uh, achieve your goals,
and he is just with you everypaw of the way.
Get it and it's just.
Did you pause for a moment?
I did.
I paused for a moment.
(12:19):
Yeah, so it's just so much funto have your kid get excited
about things and their ideas onways to celebrate, know things
that they do on a daily basisand how to overcome society's
you know insecurities, becauseit's not our insecurities, it's
society's insecurities and howyou can get over that, because
(12:40):
these kids are amazing and theseare who we should be learning
life from.
So that's a really, really bigdeal.
So all of the links will be inthe show notes.
I'm hoping in the next coupleof days, give me till, like
Thursday.
Hopefully a podcast will belive, because I'm so methodical
(13:01):
about making sure it's justperfect, perfect, that there's
no bones about it.
So All right, there's no bonesabout it.
So all right, now we've.
We've done our little podcastthing and talked about that.
Yeah, I don't like it when weplug our stuff.
I like it when we plug, youknow, talk about everybody
else's accomplishment there.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Victoria, our listeners did come here to
listen.
Let's talk, okay, aboutcontagious smile, what we do,
how we can help Y'all go tocontact us If you have a story
that y'all want to get on here.
You want to come on our show?
Write to us and we'll respondback to you.
(13:42):
I probably won't because I'mlazy, you're sleeping or I'm
working a full-time job.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
I don't do a full-time job.
I don't do a full-time job, youdo more than a full-time job I
do, like six full-time jobs youdo.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
And you do it one-handed.
You're awesome at it.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
I do want to say I've had a lot of people recently
like reach out For those of youwho may or may not have checked
out our knock-knock who's there?
Help, I'm gasping for air show.
We get hundreds of comments.
Even if they're positive ornegative, they're read.
We read them regardless becauseyour voice matters and we want
you to know that we hear you.
(14:21):
I had someone ask me if I wouldwrite another book to the narc
narc, because it has been statednumerous times by both of us
that for every like one piece ofevidence we put in, there's
like 15 more that we didn't.
And would we put in anotherbook, giving up the rest of the
information?
And that that individual foundit funny.
(14:42):
And my sister from anotherminister, Dana, was like all
right, here comes the PuertoRican and she's like I'm going
to blow up a skirt here and shewent nuts over that, like she
was not happy and I appreciatethat because you know she's real
and her new book just came out.
So go get that Rising from theAshes.
(15:03):
I was the only person who gotto read it before it was out for
sale.
I finished it before herhusband.
I'm just saying so you have togo out and get it, because it's
a reader, that's for sure.
And so I had somebody in a Idon't know what you want to call
it.
I was in a, a group earlier,within a week ago, talking about
(15:25):
the numbers that we have, andquestions were directed to me
about well, you know, you can'tmake your numbers up.
We see them, we know where theyare, but how come you're like
one of the only people who don'tget comments posted on the
actual shows and stuff, right,like you don't see very many
comments on tiktok or instagramor facebook.
Well, I've stated from day onenot to do it, because one of the
(15:50):
things that I do teach and I'mvery serious about is, let's say
, jane Bagadonuts, you know, gotout of a domestic violence
situation and she found us andstarted to follow us.
Well, then she was makingcomments about oh yes, I went
through this myself.
You know I'm still goingthrough this, or you know
whatever they can be found bytheir comments, and so I tell
(16:13):
people all the time write usindividually, send us a private
message, email us, whatever else.
Don't make it public, becausepeople can find you that way,
and I love the fact that ourlisteners, who are our family.
They understand that and theydon't.
You know, they don't go out andput stuff out publicly because
(16:35):
they are protecting who they are, just like when we have people
come on.
One of the very first things Isay every single time is I will
not disclose where you aregeographically, I will not give
your last name.
If you want to use a differentfirst name, we can do that too.
That is totally up to you.
And if we get done with thisrecording and you say you know
what, I'm nervous, I don't wantto put it out, I'll scrap it
(16:58):
you've done that in the pastI've done it a lot because it's
my number one priority is yourcomfortability and your safety.
So explaining that everybodyelse who is in that community
understood a little bit betteras to why that we, you know, we
tell everybody don't makeyourself known putting out
(17:20):
public comments, because you canbe found that way, you know,
even if you think, oh well, myex doesn't have the knowledge or
access, but you know what heknows, someone who does.
And it's really important tomaintain your safety.
And even when we have I bet youI have at least another 500
comments or stories and I don'teven know about how many Dana
(17:44):
has that we read, right?
And the thing is is thatsometimes people will say, oh,
you can say my name or you cansay something about me, and I'll
say, oh, I had somebody writeme that is presumably a high
school girl and that's all I'llsay right.
And then, because I don't knowwhen we're going to get to all
(18:05):
of them, we will get to all ofthem and we always say you know,
stick with us, we're going toget your questions and comments
on, but even then when I'mreading them, I don't give out
any information.
I might say something like thisis a member of the lgbtq
community community.
But that's all I give and it'sbecause I want people to know
they have a safe space.
My husband is having a very.
(18:26):
Do you want some toothpicks foryour eyelids?
Speaker 1 (18:28):
wow, I mean seriously well, I worked a full-time job
today.
Uh-huh, I drove around, yeah,on my butt uh-huh then I come
home and worked no, not really Idid.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
Working on the throne is not working well, yeah, so
I'm a little tired.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
I try not to be so.
Guys it's challenging for me topodcast or do anything with
TikTok or Flip or anythingsocial media after you know
working all day.
I just want to come home andSleep.
Well, eat, shower, sleep.
(19:10):
How about that?
I didn't add equation, yousnuck up beside me.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
No, okay, you want to save that somehow.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
I can't.
It's out there that ship hassailed.
That's horrible.
So kudos to y'all who have madeyou know successful business
out of tiktok or flip orwhatever amazon influencer after
working you know full-time.
Wish I could do it.
Speaker 2 (19:37):
I wish I had energy well, maybe you'll get it after
your colonoscopy oh, let's notgo there.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Why?
Speaker 2 (19:43):
because I don't want anyone to go there are you
afraid the shit's gonna hit thefan?
Speaker 1 (19:46):
it's something gonna hit the fan, something's going
to hit the fan, it's not bad.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
It's not bad.
Violating it's not, it's amedical procedure.
No, uh-huh, pop goes the weasel.
It just like yes, it's not bad,I've had it, it's not a big
deal Serious.
You got to like suck it up, man, really.
Suck it up man Really.
It's not painful.
(20:12):
They're going to twilight youand you'll be out before they
even put an IV in, so it doesn'treally matter.
You're going to be like countto ten Did he even say one?
Or count backwards from ten,and you won't even go.
I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
They don't give you options, do they About what
they're not going to put youunder?
Speaker 2 (20:31):
general anesthetic and you won't even go about what
.
They're not going to put youunder general anesthetic because
of a colonoscopy.
It's just not going to happen.
And our daughter is like justcan't wait.
It's hysterical.
Why are you getting a butt sore?
What's the problem?
(20:51):
I mean, you know I tell peoplethey're getting on my nerves.
Get it, my nerve nerves,seriously.
Yeah, he's playing with myapple watch, which I don't
understand because no, I don't,you can have it.
What?
What am I going to do with it?
I mean, seriously.
(21:11):
I asked them how do you reallyoperate an Apple Watch when you
only have one hand?
Okay, I mean seriously, if it'son my nub it'll fall off, and
if it's on the other arm I can'tpush any of the buttons.
So it doesn't really work forme and it just kind of sits
there.
Now, okay, women are going tothink very weird when I say this
(21:35):
.
Not only that, especially beingthat I am a survivor of
domestic violence and I havebeen stabbed multiple, multiple
times.
But my husband came home fromtoday, from work today, and on
the counter was a gift and itwas a knife, and I've always
collected knives and so has myhusband, and of course, some
(21:58):
people don't understand that,why somebody who's been stabbed
multiple times would have aknife collection it's not the
knife's fault.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
No, it's not the gun's fault.
The gun didn't shoot all thosepeople.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Speaking of gun shooting.
So South Carolina had its firstexecution by firing squad,
sweet.
They brought the guy out, put acover over his head, they put a
target on his heart Seriously,and he died eight minutes after
it began Because he felt likethe lethal injection might not
(22:32):
be the way to go, becausesomebody who was in the same
prison as him elected lethalinjection and it took them like
20 minutes and they thought itwas inhumane how he ended up
being in pain for 20 minutes.
Are you kidding?
20 minutes, that's it Of pain.
One of them was murder and theother was multiple murders, I
(22:58):
believe.
But still, what about thevictims?
I'm always advocating for that.
What about the victims?
I bet it was longer than 20minutes.
They didn't get up that morning, put their feet down off the
bed and say this is going to bemy last day, but then they want
to complain of 20 minutes beinginhumane.
I mean, come on now, that'sjust crazy.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
I don't know.
I like the idea of the firingsquad Now.
Hopefully they'll bring backthe guillotine.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Either you just got us a lot of new listeners or we
just lost a lot.
Why would you like to see theguillotine?
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Well, something that traumatic should send, you know,
a message to folks now.
Hey don't do this, okay, youknow, as the red queen said off
with her head yeah, but likethat woman, um langdon, who was
from georgia state university.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
She was brutally assaulted, and I mean intimately
, and then she was murdered byillegals that had a very serious
criminal record and they werenot made to leave.
And now, you know, trump putinto law the length in law.
(24:20):
But I mean, if you're I don't,I'm gonna say this carefully
illegal or not illegal, if youhave a criminal history of such
violent murder, rape, anythingto do with kids, I don't think
you can be rehabbed.
I don't personally believe itbecause and you know, people are
(24:42):
like well, why do you say that,yes, I'm a survivor of abuse?
Yes, I can say that because myex was beating all of the wives
before and after.
And there's not that kind ofmindset.
Is not somebody you canrehabilitate, unless you put
them somewhere by themselves.
Right, then that's different.
(25:04):
They're not going to commit thecrime anymore.
Like you know, I've talked topeople.
They're like well, yes, my exused to beat me, but he hasn't
hit me in 10 years, right?
I had a woman that Iinterviewed and she said I
haven't been hit in 10 years.
I said I'm going to ask you onequestion, just one, right?
And she goes, sure, and I saidhas he been incarcerated for 10
years?
And she goes how did you knowthat?
(25:26):
I said because he hasn't hityou in 10 years.
Because and you can talk aboutthat as an officer too is, as
soon as they start hitting you,it's not long before they take
it out on the dogs, the cats,the kids, if I mean.
And they right.
And a lot of times you're likeoh, he'd never hit my kid, he
never hit my kid.
Yes, he will, I promise you hewill.
(25:49):
And when people say no, no, no,he hasn't done anything, he's,
he's better it.
You know it's.
I was right where y'all were.
I did something to make him mad.
It was all my fault.
What did I do?
What could I have donedifferent?
Blah, blah, blah.
But you know what?
Somebody else pissed in hiscornflakes and he's still going
to come back and take it out onyou.
And I think, if you and wedon't, we chose to be better and
(26:20):
stop the cycle.
We chose to break the cycle sothat our kids didn't go through
what we went through, right, andthere's a big difference.
So to use the crutch that well,he was abused as a child.
So that makes it okay?
No, it doesn't, it absolutelydoes not and he is not going to
go through and get better andwhatever.
(26:41):
You know, they put my exthrough rehab and they put my ex
through anger management.
He got kicked out of angermanagement.
Please tell me who can getkicked out of anger management.
Seriously, that loser?
Yeah, that piece of crap gotkicked out of anger management,
like that's something to be saidright there, right, crazy,
crazy but we are much happierbecause we're not with our
(27:06):
abusive exes stop the cycle
Speaker 1 (27:08):
absolutely right, yes .
And they're still miserable,they're still themselves.
Yeah, right, yes.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
And they're still miserable, they're still
themselves.
Yeah Right, do you believe thatsomebody who could hurt a child
is somebody who can berehabilitated?
Speaker 1 (27:24):
No, so I spent four and a half years in jail.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
But on the other side of the bars.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
And I watched and took care of the pedophiles that
came in there.
They did not get rehabilitated,they did not choose a better
path.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
They would gossip and about how they got away with
stuff, right.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Where their stories with like a badge of honor on
how they lured the kids and whatthey would say to them.
And it was, it was disgusting.
So, yeah, there's norehabilitation for that, that's
just.
Speaker 2 (28:08):
I've never understood why, while you're on death row,
that they say, okay, well,we're going to let you have
congregational visits and we'regoing to do this, and we're
going death row, that they say,okay, well, we're going to let
you have congregational visitsand we're going to do this and
we're going to do that, and thenyou get to have whatever meal
you want as your last meal.
I mean, why do these monstersget to have free healthcare,
free education, you know, freesex, sorry, and then they get to
(28:31):
pick the meal of their choicebefore they're calmly and
quietly put to sleep, right?
I mean, let's talk aboutanybody that was their victim
who is brutally taken away fromtheir family, won't ever get to
get married, won't get to be amom or a dad, won't get to see
their grandkids, won't get to goand, you know, be the big
brother or sister.
You know all of the things thatare taken away from them.
(28:54):
They don't get the last meal,they don't get free health care,
they don't get free education.
But we treat our criminalsbetter than we treat Everyday
people like and I don't meaneveryday people is in like.
You know what I mean.
I mean the people who are notincarcerated are treated worse.
They, the criminals, have aroof over their head and they
(29:15):
get health care and educationand and they even get ipads.
Now I mean really, I mean, dowe want to give them two-ply
toilet paper too?
You know, and people think thatI'm like real far right on the
fact that I'm really strongabout this.
Well, you know what, when youhave been beaten to death's door
on more than one occasion, whenyou've been beaten to at
death's door on more than oneoccasion pregnant, you know you
(29:39):
have every right to be like, hey, it's not okay, and this
jackass hasn't done it just tome, there's other people.
And it kept happening and hekept getting away with it
because our judicial systemfavors more that way than it
does for us, because we getre-victimized on the stand.
They, they absolutely just.
(30:00):
You know what did you do?
Why did you do it?
And they take it all like it'sall our fault.
Okay, go ahead.
Whatever you're saying, it's atthe bit, keep going.
No, I'm good.
You're trying to stay awake.
I am, but I'm good, go ahead.
See you wound up, I know you domy wife is sexy hot and she's
mine.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
She's taking y'all.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
Yeah, I can't believe you did that at Home Depot the
other day.
I just got glasses, I gotglasses.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
My wife walked away from me to go shop it on her own
to get whatever, and I took ourdaughter and, as the Home Depot
worker, older gentleman, olderthan me and I'm 50, walked by
her.
He was smiling and saidsomething I didn't hear.
He was, you know, about 30 feetaway and I pointed my finger
(30:47):
right at him as he's walkingtowards me and I yelled she's
mine, she's taken.
He got a kick out of it.
But that's us.
We're a very jovial andfun-hearted family.
We love pranks.
My wife just played a prank onme After coming back from the
store.
Oh here, baby, here's you somesweet tea.
Speaker 2 (31:09):
I did not say that.
I did not say I said I needmore cup holders.
I said I need more cup holders.
I said I need more cup holdersand it was not sweet tea and you
spit it everywhere.
And I do know for a fact faithhas one coming tonight for you.
A prank tonight.
Oh yeah, it is good, it is sogood it is it's going to get you
(31:36):
.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
This is going to be a good one.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
It'll wake you up.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
No, yeah no.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Yeah, you're not sleeping until in the morning.
Speaker 1 (31:45):
Until the morning, uh-huh, what's that supposed to
mean?
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Like you're not going to go to sleep now and stay
asleep until no, it's not no, no, like you're not going to go to
sleep now and stay asleep until.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
No, it's not Go to bed early.
No, because we wake up early.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
No, no, you wake up to play video games.
Let's call a spade.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
a spade and to make your breakfast.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
You pop out something that's frozen into a toaster.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
That's still me making your breakfast every day.
I get your vitamins, yourvitamins, your vitamins.
I get your vitamins, yourvitamins, your vitamins, I get
your tea.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
I make your tea.
You came home the other day.
You had a German chocolate cakethat I made waiting for you.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
First time in 20-something years.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
It's not the first time.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Really A German chocolate, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
It is not the first time.
First time I recall.
Well, go figure, you had red isnot the first time.
First time, I recall.
Well, go figure, you had redvelvet not that long ago.
Uh-huh, uh-huh.
I made your tea, yeah, but thisGerman chocolate wasn't.
Yeah, that's right, hush it.
The house was all clean.
The floor smelled all nice andsmelling good, even though we
(32:53):
have three four paws runningaround.
Yep, mm-hmm, uh-huh.
And then what does my husbanddo?
Plays video game and watchesmovies with our kid.
Yep, and what do I do?
Speaker 1 (33:06):
work, work so let's end this podcast and you don't
watch a movie you're not gonnawatch a movie.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
You're gonna go make one in your dreams and go to
sleep.
Probably I'll have to get Faithto keep you awake.
Alright, take us out.
Oh well, everybody, thank youfor listening.
Look out for our podcastacademy and join our stucco
squad.
We're going to have so much fun.
It's going to be great.
It's going to be so much funand we can even send out
(33:36):
birthday cards and we have allsorts of awesome stuff coming
with this Stucco Squad.
So join us and we will talk toy'all soon.
Speaker 1 (33:47):
Bye y'all.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
You waited too late.
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