July 7, 2025 • 43 mins
Ever wondered what happens when someone refuses to serve your child with a medical condition? Victoria and Michael share a raw, unfiltered account of standing up to a McDonald's manager who denied their daughter food despite knowing her medical needs. This powerful confrontation highlights the fierce advocacy that defines their approach to life and healing.
The couple dives deep into narcissistic relationships, particularly within families, revealing how narcissists view people as possessions rather than individuals with inherent worth. "The biggest fear a narcissist has is the truth," Victoria explains, "because the black sheep's truth unveils their lies." Their insights come from both personal experience and professional research that informs their acclaimed healing programs.
With 41 published books to her name and recognition in multiple magazines, Victoria channels this success into creating accessible healing resources through A Contagious Smile Academy. Most courses cost just $4.99, with many resources completely free - a testament to their belief that recovery should be available to everyone, regardless of financial circumstances. Their upcoming July 13th webinar features remarkable speakers sharing transformation stories that will inspire and equip listeners with practical healing tools.
What sets this couple apart is their genuine commitment - they've never taken a paycheck for their work despite its considerable personal cost. As Victoria poignantly reminds us, "September 7th, I had an arm and a hand, and September 8th, I didn't." Life can change in an instant, which is why they're passionate about making healing resources available today for those who might need them tomorrow. Ready to experience healing that doesn't break the bank? Join their webinar or explore their Academy - your journey to wholeness might just begin with a simple $5 investment.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Good evening and welcome to another episode of a
contagious smile.
Unstoppable.
We have my amazingly handsomeredneck has been Michael, our
beautiful service dogs Rusty andStucco from Stucco squad.
I am Victoria.
How's it going, babe?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I'm a little tired.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
I've been cleaning we know we have been cleaning.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Come on now okay, we have been cleaning yes, I have
gotten hankering.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Is that right?
Did I say it right?
Hankering, hankering for to tolike spring clean?
My husband, love of my life,soulmate, is a hoarder and likes
to like, just collect.
Let's just say that.
So luckily, our garage garage,whatever it is he calls it, um
(00:53):
my grudge likes to collectthings, and then sometimes it
gets a little crazy.
I have interesting hobbies yeah,so we've been on this cleaning,
going to have a massive garagesale at some point, kind of
thing and we're getting readyfor our webinar, which is only a
(01:14):
few days away, and that isincredibly exciting.
We have some amazing peoplecoming on.
It's super, super exciting and,yeah, it's a lot a lot, a lot.
It's gonna be interestingbecause I know you did one about
two years ago we did podcastsfor pause and that ended up
(01:36):
starting out as only a few hourslong and it wasn't a webinar,
but it ended up lasting threedays, yeah.
And what's even worse and Iknow he's going to say it, so
I'll just get there before hedoes is I was not even 24 hours
post-op from oh yeah, let's trythat again A surgery.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Another surgery.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
So that?
And my husband said you can'tseriously be doing this.
And I said, oh, I am.
So they were phenomenal, myhusband and and faith.
They kept bringing me myunsweet tea and making sure I
was good.
And you know, they don't havethe patience, I guess, to sit
like I do at a desk for 16, 18hours at a time.
(02:18):
They just can't do it.
I get up every hour to walk andlike stretch my legs and
whatever, but it's literallymaybe a five minutes at best
that I do that I will do an hourin front of this computer and I
will be sawing logs you do 10minutes in front of the computer
and you're sawing logs.
That connects, driving you nuts,isn't it?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
yes yes so he's just all right.
So june j, july 13th.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
July.
Say it again.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
July.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Okay, before we even do that, I have to ask you, say
what you said.
That I've totally.
Not only did I misunderstand,faith misunderstood, so it's not
just my hearing that's going tocrap.
I said an itch.
Does that not sound like itch?
It sounds like itch, an itch,an itch.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Is different from an itch.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Does that not sound like itch?
It sounds like itch An itch.
An itch Is different from anitch, both of those sounded the
exact same to me.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
I need three inches of whatever Cake batter I don't
know.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Cake batter doesn't go out in inches.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Well, whatever, I need three inches of, didn't I
say wood, okay, but, and I havean itch on my back okay, let's
try it this way.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Let's try the word itch, itch, itch, itch, itch.
Okay, inch, itch, inch, itch,inch, inch.
You know I, I have to say, canwe just also talk about what
happened at mcdonald's the otherday?
(03:55):
uh, I was at mcdonald's, I wasat working for us okay, I was on
the way to the hospital foragain another day of imaging
contesting and I'm sorry butthis is ridiculous.
We get in the line, okay, andthis show is unfiltered, so
don't hold back their love of mylife.
(04:16):
We get in the line.
At 9 45 am we pull up.
I have ticket in hand.
At 9 47 I am getting ourdaughter, who likes to wait to
the very last minute to leaveand everybody who knows me knows
I'm insanely early.
I'm always always early, right,and we drive through and she
wants a big breakfast with hotcakes.
(04:37):
Okay, so it's all pretty muchfrozen crap that they just
microwave or whatever, right,they're not back there beating
the eggs and pouring it in andmaking biscuits.
This is mcdonald's.
They might mcdonald's who, bythe way, powdered eggs I don't
know who on, by the way, doesn'teven have like a one and a half
star on yelp, which I did notknow this, and now I do, and I
(04:59):
will never return to thatmcdonald's ever again.
So we get through.
I have the receipt in hand.
Receipt says 947.
So this is for reference.
Pull up to the next window.
Could you park right up thereplease?
We'll bring it to you in just aminute.
Sure, thank you, have a goodday, like I always say to
everybody, right, we park.
Another lady pulls up beside me.
(05:20):
She is pissed.
She has two little ones in theback seats screaming.
I'm hungry.
Now, if I can hear it, we knowit's loud.
So she looks at me and herwindows down, my windows down,
and she's like I can'tunderstand these people.
Why are we having to park forsomething so stupid?
It's a drive-through and I saidI get it, I understand.
(05:43):
So then there comes in anothercar and another car and another
car and we're all being parkedright, and then I see everybody
else's food is being deliveredand I'm like what did we
possibly order?
That could have been so bad.
So now, after parked for what iswell over 15 minutes of no
exaggeration time, a employee,if you you will, approaches the
(06:08):
vehicle and says did you orderthis bacon, whatever?
No, ma'am, we did not.
I said can I ask you for afavor?
We're on the way to our, to ahospital appointment.
Is there any way we couldexpeditiously kind of hurry this
along so I could get mydaughter her food, like, and
walks off Right.
There was no mean undertone.
(06:29):
I said please.
I said thank you Right.
I just said you know we've beensitting here for well over 15
minutes.
So then out comes the manager.
No name tag on, no hairnet, no,nothing.
You know how you have a petpeeve about dark nails, and I
don't mean like wearing anawesome purple or black shade of
(06:52):
nails, I'm talking about learnhow to clean under your nails.
After you pick your ass andyour nose kind of nails right
Walks out and she's like are youthe one going to the hospital?
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Like go ahead.
It was at this point the drjekyll, mr hyde came out and my
wife that's not fair.
Oh, our listeners are openmouth.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Had someone said that to them okay, I was still
polite at first, at first youare very polite.
At first I said it's hard atfirst I said, yes'am, we have an
appointment at the hospital.
I don't understand what'staking so long.
We have a big breakfast and anorder of hotcakes.
And she was like, well, I can'thelp it that it's backed up
(07:38):
here today.
And I was like, well, everybodyelse has gotten their food.
And I don't understand.
And I said, ma'am, my daughterhas a medical condition and I
have to have her eat, right, andthat's how I said it.
And she goes, that is not myproblem.
Okay, now I can see thereference of Dr Jekyll and Mr
Hyde.
Right, I will do anything inthe world for you, but if you do
(07:59):
anything in the negative senseto anyone I love and care for,
which would be my child, myhusband, my dogs, my good
friends, then I could see howthat can come forth with.
So I said I don't know, maybeyou didn't hear me my daughter
has a medical condition whereshe has to eat and we have to be
at the hospital.
And she was like do you justwant a refund?
(08:22):
I said, no, I would like ourfood and I would hope that you
won't do something to it whenyou bring it to us.
Why would you think that Like?
Why would you automaticallymake the assumption.
And that's how she's talking tome.
And I'm like, oh no, I neverraised my voice yet.
And she's like why would youautomatically assume that we're
going to do something to yourfood?
Why have something to your food?
(08:48):
Why have you seen the movie?
Waiting with ryan reynolds?
No, and I said well, becauseI'm asking where her food is.
And and she was like we are notthat kind of place.
And I was like, well, byreading your yelp reviews,
you're not, you know, thecleanest and and most
professional either, because Ijust pulled up the yelp review
while I'm waiting for now morethan 20 minutes.
I mean every roll in the eyesattitude.
(09:12):
Okay, I don't care where you'refrom, I don't care the color of
your skin, I don't care yourgender.
I am half Yankee, I have aredhead.
I am going to win by default.
I'm just telling you becauseand my husband will tell you I'm
not someone who will raise myvoice, and that pisses off so
many people because they want meto escalate to their level and
I won't.
I will stay at a normal tone, Iwill stay at a normal volume
(09:36):
and it pisses them off even more, but I will put you in your
place so fast your head willspin.
But don't bring me to thatlevel.
That's I ask.
I am a very understandingperson.
I will work this out, but whenyou are withholding food for my
child who has a medicalcondition, all bets are off my
wife is so sexy so she turnsaround while I'm asking, asking
(09:59):
still prominent, we're askingfor food for my child.
She storms off, she comes backand basically tosses the refund.
Luckily, I paid with cash and Iwas like I don't want the
refund, I want her food.
And she's like well, I don'tcare what you want, because you
are not getting fed here andneither is she.
(10:19):
She ain't getting her food here.
Okay, well then I canunderstand how I'm getting a
little heated.
My face might be matching myhair at this point.
I was like I'm sorry, what didyou just say?
I want to make sure I heard youcorrectly.
And she's like we're not givingyour child food.
And I was like okay, I saidI've been here 25 minutes, 25
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minutes.
Okay, I said I've been here 25minutes, 25 minutes.
I asked for food and now you'reforbidding to serve her.
And she goes, yes, like reallyraising her voice.
I said there's no reason foryou to raise your voice at me At
this point.
I still haven't raised myvolume and she gets huffy and
(11:06):
puffy still.
And then, while I'm trying tosay I really need to get her
some food because, in allfairness, there is nothing else
around at that point where weare.
There is literally nothing elseI could go get her to eat
before this appointment.
And where we have to go in thehospital is nowhere near where
the breakfast area would be andby now they're not serving
(11:26):
breakfast anymore and our childcan only eat certain things.
So she can't have, like shecan't eat a hamburger.
She can't, you know, it has tobe soft eggs.
She doesn't eat the outside ofthe biscuit, she eats the inside
of the biscuit, right?
So there's a reason for this.
It's inside of the biscuit,right?
So there's a reason for this.
(11:50):
So as she decides to turn aroundand proceed back in, I was like
, excuse me, I just want you toknow I'm not done with this, I
don't care what you're doingwith this.
And I said I will contactcorporate, I will let them know
the lack of professionalism.
She goes, I don't care what youdo, like really loud, and I was
like I guarantee you, beforeI'm done, you're going to have
to seek employment somewhereelse.
So because I'm pretty much deafand I did miss whatever she
(12:16):
stated at that point under herbreath, she rolled her head
quite a few little times,reminded me of, like the preview
of Beetlejuice, and continuedon her a little way and I may
have screamed you are such abitch.
I did, I admit it.
And so I called corporatemcdonald's and they were
(12:38):
flabbergasted and I told him.
I said I own what I do.
I will tell you this is exactlyhow it happened.
But I did call her a bitch,absolutely did.
And the lady who took mycomplaint was like girl, you're
better than me because I'd havegotten out of the car, and I was
like I couldn't do that becausethat's not who I am, I'm not
going to get out and, you know,resort to violence.
However, it is now on my to-dolist to make sure that that
(13:03):
manager is no longer, you know,being at the golden arches
anymore, because that's not okay.
I mean, I even told a woman Iwas like my daughter can have an
issue from not getting food inher system because she has to
eat for a medical condition.
She did not care.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
So I'm curious Maybe I did not ask you Bringing up
our daughter, and I know hervery well, and you're telling me
she was silent the whole time.
She was.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Which is so unlike Faith, that's right.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Yeah, she will let it go in a heartbeat.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
She just looked at me and said I think it's best that
I just stay quiet, because Ithink you got this.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
She does like to watch you in action.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
No, she actually tries to instigate it.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
But there was no need for instigation here, and so
I'm sorry, but I mean, I don'tthink I overreacted.
I think you know that somebodylike there's so many people out
there who want to work and woulddo a better job and if whatever
its name is, you know wants tocontinue working in customer
(14:13):
service.
I'm sure that working in acemetery would be just great,
and I'm saying she could likework in the back end of a
cemetery.
She could work with a hearingimpaired, just not me.
I'm just saying you don't needto be front and center with
someone and their familyespecially.
I will go out of my way.
If somebody says I have a childwith a medical condition, I
will reach into my bag and seeif I have some kind of snack to
(14:35):
hold over, and I've done this agazillion times at the hospitals
where I'm like here I don'thave much, but you can have this
until you can get her somethingto eat, or get him something to
eat, right, or I'll even offerto go get them something to eat.
But to have somebody do thatwhen there's so many people who
are out there wanting to findwork and this one is collecting
a paycheck is just beyond me.
(14:57):
I mean, I would like to know,hubby of mine, what you would
have done had you been there.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
oh, my ass would have been inside, yeah.
And done what?
I would have made a scene.
You're going to give me my foodright then and there.
You're not going to give me arefund.
I'm inside the restaurant.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
And if they spit on the food and made her sick?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
That's why I'm inside watching Most places.
You see back there the grill,the griddle, the fry machine.
You see how they prepare it, soyeah.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
So I have called corporate.
I do want to call and get thestore manager's name and number
and advise them, but I don'teven know if they care.
You know or not?
Speaker 2 (15:39):
So that leads me into something else.
There, victoria, check withyour state laws on recording and
the state of georgia.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
As long as one party knows that you're being recorded
, you have the legal right torecord and if you push record
then that's.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
That's one party right and that goes along with,
um, you know, being in a adomestic violent relationship
record.
The other one, I have a gnat inhere y'all.
It's like 10 o'clock at nightand I had the windows open doing
things with the AC and there'sa gnat flying around our one
(16:19):
light here in our tiny office.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
And it's driving him nuts.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Yeah, so yeah, definitely record and get your
evidence and get your ducks in arow when you're getting ready
to exit abusive relationship.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Now that you have such great advice, he has no
idea I'm about to do this.
Let me ask you about asituation that we just dealt
with here within the last 24hours, just dealt with here
within the last 24 hours.
We have a individual whosurvived domestic violence and
went through a horrific time.
(16:55):
They're all horrible times, butthe degree of the abuse was of
the abuse was horrific.
And we started speaking with afamily member of that person and
my husband was also there andthe individual family member
(17:19):
made the comment why didn't youjust call me?
And I would have gotten you outof there?
And at that moment my heartbroke for the survivor.
Because we do know that theperson who made that statement
to us was well aware of what wastranspiring during this event
(17:42):
of abuse and it was for a longperiod of time.
So, as a man and father, wecan't say her name, we can't say
the family member or we can'tsay the relation of the person.
How, as a man, does that makeyou feel when you went through
and heard all of this?
As a man, does that make youfeel when you went through and
(18:03):
heard all of this?
Speaker 2 (18:07):
I was flabbergasted that a father would would go
ahead blatantly lie like thatkeep going.
I just my wires are not crossedlike that to be able to
(18:30):
comprehend, to think like that.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
So I don't know how did you feel for the survivor?
Let's call her Jane.
How did you feel for thesurvivor?
Let's call her Jane.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
How did you feel for Jane?
I don't think it was anythingnew.
I don't think it was anythingunexpected of that individual.
Now, some of thecharacteristics of the statement
might have been new, but youknow, the idea was it's still
the same.
(19:04):
It's still the same individual,narcissistic, in control what
characteristics were new?
Speaker 1 (19:12):
what was said, that was new?
Specific details oh, likeidentifying her as were his kid
and some other things but I mean, they're both still alive.
Yeah, and he did.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
He identified her as didn't you state one time that
narcissists will see you as anobject?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
But that person stated that Jane was past tense,
as if she had just passed awaylike she was deceased, by saying
that she was Right or were wasthe.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
So does that mean that individual has severed ties
in his heart?
Well, his black hole shit.
I just keep fudging this, don'tI?
Speaker 1 (20:09):
yeah, a little bit, but it's hard as a parent when I
hear that and as an advocate,because I could never mouth
those words to Faith, no matterwhat, even when they told us
(20:30):
time and time again she wasn'tgoing to make it through the
night.
They've lost their mind.
If they think, I would evenaccept that.
I mean, we had the nicestchaplain with us and he even
said she might not be able to gobecause you haven't let her go.
And I said well, good, becauseI'm not, I'm not going to let
her go.
No disrespect, he wasphenomenal.
But there was no way a parentcan say that I don't care.
(20:52):
You know people say well,you're an adult, jane's an adult
, so jane should literally act acertain way.
But at the end of the day,she's still dna pending kin to
this individual.
So how can you put it off onthem?
And you know one thingnarcissists cannot take
(21:13):
accountability for their actions.
They won't and they don't, nomatter what happens.
I mean it just doesn't.
I mean you know they're.
The one other thing I do knowis that for the longest time
that individual accused jane ofthings and then he stated later
on to you that a whole, totallydifferent story and you're
(21:36):
talking with them because it'slike a manda man thing and um
sort of and it's just.
I mean, it's, it'smind-boggling to me that some
people care more about theperception of their image and
the fatness of their wallet thanthe love within their heart.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
I'm gonna be selfish when it comes to my kid.
I'm not going to let them go,you know.
Going back to your earlierstatement, Well, it's not just
that.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I mean even medically and I'm not talking about just
medically but he basically has,you know, no contact, and it's
nowhere near the first time thatthat's transpired between them.
But it doesn't matter, it, justit's mind blowing that when a
narcissist is done with you,they're done with you, and you
know what.
(22:29):
The biggest fear a narcissisthas is the truth, and that's why
they try to make the blacksheep look so bad, because their
truth, the black sheep's truth,unveils their lies.
And so with the lies of thenarcissist, that's what makes it
such a challenge, because theydon't ever want to be seen as
(22:52):
anything but what they areportraying themselves as it's
like a mask really whichprobably comes out in your
second one prequel your prequelto who kicked first, which is
called nart.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Nart, who's there?
Speaker 1 (23:08):
yes, yes, nice, nice one there, but I y'all know my
wife has written.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
She has published 41 books.
My wife has written.
She has published 41 books.
She's on her 43rd and you knowI am so proud of my wife.
I mean, you know, she's writtenall these books, she's
published them.
She's done the work here infront of this computer.
(23:33):
She's done her research, she'sdone her schoolwork, she's been
through schooling I'm so proudof her, thank you.
Not to mention here recentlyshe's won so many awards we have
for what she's doing here at acontagious smile contagious
smile academy.
She's just been published inthree magazines that I have here
(23:55):
three physical magazines andfive digital.
Which are awesome.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
Now my husband's going around going.
I got me a centerfold.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
You're right there at the centerfold Grief.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Okay, so our webinar lineup for Sunday, the 13th.
You guys can get tickets on theEventbrite website and we are
also going to hey Faith.
Hey, one question.
Can you come here real quickwhile we're live?
Dad couldn't believe that youwere quiet during the whole
(24:30):
McDonald's debacle why not whenthey withheld your food?
He couldn't believe you didn'tround off in him.
Faith, that's right.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
You knew she had it handled.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
I heard that and that tattoo on her arm she got
dedicated to you is going to bea constant reminder.
We all know that she's got youwrapped around the finger so
y'all she.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
She just recently got a tattoo of um you're gonna
talk about inches again let'ssay my hand and her little hand
grabbing my pinky, where you're?
Wrapped on huh where I'mwrapped on oh yeah, you cried
when you said there was, it waspauline big sissy you and she.
(25:36):
She got the words in the banner.
It says choose your destiny.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
And how did she come up with that?
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Something I told her when she was laying in the
hospital bed and she wasfighting for her life pollen
right here.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Now too, he's got pollen in his eyes again you're
dismissed child oh no, shelifted a finger for you.
She gave you a finger.
That's right.
Yes, so the webinar.
You're crying again.
No, you've become so feminineyou've become so feminine sissy
(26:10):
boy, oh boy, sissy boy cryingagain.
No, You've become so feminine.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
You've become so feminine, sissy boy, oh boy,
sissy boy, can.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
I ground her.
No, nope, that's right.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
That's right there.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
pollinator Nothing, he's the pollinator Anyway.
So the webinar on sunday it allgoes for a good cause.
It goes to a contagion thanksfaith.
It goes to a contagious smileacademy, where we want to make
sure that healing is affordableand free.
If you aren't able to pay, Ithink most of the classes are no
more than like $4.99.
Also, I created an amazing$4.99.
(26:51):
And then I created an amazingcourse about the IEP coming up
for all of the kiddos andparents going back to school.
It is a must because when youare going back and having to
start that whole IEP thing again, it is a nightmare and there
are so many things that theschools don't want to inform you
.
But this course prepares youfor all and it's great and it's
(27:13):
in the academy as well.
But we have a great lineup.
We have some fantastic,fantastic people.
I actually had the privilege ofmeeting somebody the other day.
Her name is Carrie Blazer.
She is phenomenal and she isgoing to be our second headliner
with Susan O'Millan.
(27:35):
She'll be first and then Carriewill come in second.
Carrie has an amazing story andhow she's overcome.
She was just so afraid of beingsexually assaulted by men and
she had childhood trauma and alljust so afraid of being
sexually assaulted by men, andshe had childhood trauma and all
of this.
That's gone on and she haslearned how to turn it into
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healing and her story is amazingand she is going to be on as
well.
And then we have our buddyKeelan, and we have JJ, and we
have so many great people whoare going to come on and just
help everybody.
There's something for everyone.
And you know, if you're pickingup your change that's around
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the house or through the dryer,you know, pay it forward.
We just had 4th of July and wecelebrate our Independence Day
because of the men and womenthat so proudly serve for our
freedom.
And, with that being said, howcan you thank them?
How about silently offeringthem a scholarship for other
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classes?
We have guaranteed, no matterwhat, that the Valor Circle will
always be free for veterans andactive duty military, but there
are courses within all of thecollections that duty military.
But there are courses withinall of the collections that.
What are you?
Oh, he always does this.
There are courses within all ofthe other collections that are
available and will help everyonein all different scenarios.
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So, with that being said, youcould go on to a
contagioussmellcom and go overto the right corner and it says
buy mea coffee.
But what you're doing is you'rebuying a scholarship, and you
could do that.
You could also go join.
Why are you looking at me likethat?
because you're beautiful youcould go to a contagious smilem,
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Join the Academy.
It's free.
We have a plethora of resourcesin the resource library which
my husband doesn't understandwhy they're so in-depth, because
, I mean, they're basicallytheir own course on their own
and those are free.
We have the Knowledge Nook, wehave all the other courses.
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There's so many courses thatare free and basically very low
cost.
And then if you want to knowhow we've done this, how we've
gone from zero to millions offollowers, um, you can reap the
benefits of all of my school andtraining and ins and outs and
ups and downs and things thatwork and things that don't, and
go through the social mediaplaybook and get answers to
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those questions as well.
Now I need to like go ahead,babe.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
That was good.
So, for those y'all who maythink that $4 and 99 cents is
nothing and you're going to getjust a couple of paragraphs
wrong, okay, my wife has hasspent her time, her research,
her energy into these courses.
They are not junk.
Okay, I wished that she wouldcharge $399 for some of these
(30:42):
courses, but she won't.
She wants to keep themaffordable for our listeners.
She wants to keep themaffordable for our listeners.
Okay, now, at some point, I'msure things will go up because
of all the advertising, all theprograms that we're on and we do
.
Okay, but for now, y'all takeadvantage, get on there, sign up
(31:04):
for the class, buy a cup ofcoffee, sponsor a scholarship.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
Just do it, y'all, because it is so worth it.
You never know, like.
You know, september 7th, threeyears from this, september 7th,
I had an arm, I had a hand, andseptember 8th, I didn't know.
In December, two years, comingup, one night we had dinner at
the table.
Everybody was laughing, kidding, coming up, having a great time
(31:35):
.
And then, not even 12 hourslater, I was told to call a
priest and my husband becauseshe wasn't going to make it
through the night.
And we spent the next fiveweeks in ICU with her, so
fragile she couldn't even godown to the OR.
They had to do operationsbedside.
She had over 20 operations justin that period of time alone
and one day she had 11 bloodtransfusions just in that day.
(31:58):
And so you never know whattomorrow is going to bring.
You never know.
And what is $5 really?
What is it?
I mean it's some places it'salmost a tank of gas, like.
I mean a gallon of gas, like,look at this, I can't even talk
a gallon of gas.
You know, downtown atlanta gasis over a dollar more than it is
(32:18):
in the outskirts.
But you go and you look.
You know there used to be 99cent menus at restaurant
drive-thrus and whatever.
There's's not now Like you gothrough and get a combo meal and
it's freaking $11, $12 for adrive-thru fast food meal that
used to be four bucks, fivebucks, right, it's obscene, it's
(32:41):
crazy.
You can't get anything for $5anymore.
But somebody who is recoveringfrom domestic violence,
recovering from childhood trauma, is in recovery and people
think recovery.
They automatically think drugaddicts or alcohol.
But you know what?
I'm in recovery because ofabuse, my husband's in recovery
(33:02):
because of abuse, and anyone inany type of recovery.
There are courses out there tohelp you If you are in the
military, if you are a mom ordad to an amazing kiddo who has
special needs our stucco squad Ilove oh, that's so near and
dear to my heart.
Those are the best courses ever.
They are so much fun.
(33:23):
You could do them with your kid.
We're actually my husbanddoesn't know this, so I'll be
rolling this one out right now.
We're actually my husbanddoesn't know this, so I'll be
rolling this one out right now.
I'm actually in the process ofcreating um like a special needs
special education courses sothat stucco will teach the kids
how to count of course you areI've already finished the how to
subtract.
I mean, I've already done thehow to subtract and how to add.
(33:44):
Um, it's going to be on justone area at a time so, like
right now, you can go havestucco teacher kids how to add
basic, like kindergarten firstand second grade math.
Then we have them forsubtraction.
We'll have them stucco teachinghow to do division and
multiplication, also teachinghow to read.
These are all going to be inthe stucco squad as well and
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these are courses that you coulddo.
What is $5 for a mom who rushesall day long for doctor's
appointments and therapiesspeech, occupational, physical,
eating, you name it, therapiesthat has to implement the
therapies throughout the day, tocome home and do something
that's non-medical with theirkid and bond $4.99.
(34:31):
I mean, and you never know, oneday you could be in one of
these categories and it will bethere and available for you as
well.
So if you sponsor today andtomorrow you need help, then it
will be there for you.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Yep and some of the uh, some of the written
published books that my wife hasout are activity books for kids
, which which would be great ifthey could be introduced to, you
know, elementary schools theydo everything electronically,
which I think is ridiculous Iknow you you've tried to get
(35:04):
them into some of the localschools around here yes so if
you want them for your school,reach out to us.
Yes, they need.
Speaking of stucco, I threwdown some no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Let's talk about why this happened.
My boy, my baby, my sweetloving angel, that means the
world to me.
My husband didn't do hiscleaning outside in the yard and
my red stucco is not all redanymore.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
I repositioned some metal.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
That's a nice way of saying it.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
Right Some aluminum.
Speaker 1 (35:44):
What Tracks?
Speaker 2 (35:44):
Aluminum.
Speaker 1 (35:46):
Okay, maybe got that.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Okay, some aluminum tracks, but the tracks had
graphite grease on there y'allthey had what?
Graphite grease kazoon heightand our dogs came in from
outside and they had beenrooting around the metal and
their faces were black.
And if anybody knows, graphitegrease does not come out easily.
(36:12):
It'll come off your hands aftera few days.
Clothes forget it, your clothesis ruined and now your dog has
graphite grease all over hisface.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
No, it's hilarious, it is not.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
We try to give him a bath, we try to wash it off, but
it is not coming.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
George, a bulldog color dog.
He's red and black.
Go dogs, here you go, no.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
No, no.
So it's going to have to wearoff or we're going to have to
shave him.
What?
We're going to have to shavehis face.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Shave his face.
Speaker 2 (37:02):
Oh no, we're not shaving his face.
Yeah, I think that's what we'regoing to have to do.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
Then I'll shave your chest.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
You can shave my chest.
Speaker 1 (37:12):
I'd rather see a shaved dog face than no, I'm
calling the kid.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Leave the kid alone.
Speaker 1 (37:21):
So yeah, Please tune in everybody.
The tickets are free.
You can make a donation on theEventbrite site and pay $5 for a
ticket, but that money, allmonies, go to the scholarship
fund as well, and you know manypeople don't realize this, but
my husband and I have nevertaken a paycheck for many of
(37:43):
this ever, and it is incrediblycostly and as long as faith has
been taken care of, we havesacrificed oh so much to make
sure that we are able to do this, but we're only able to do it
for so long and we have neverhad a marketing team or anybody
else assisting.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
You're the marketing team.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
I'm the kicker and the boodle, you're everything.
That's right, and I'm still notshaving my dog.
I'm just telling you right nowit's not going to happen, I can
shave him.
No, you're not.
No, that's my boy, it's my baby.
That is my baby?
And the answer is no.
He's on my shirt.
Right now I'm wearing a stuccoshirt.
Speaker 2 (38:23):
I wore a contagious smile shirt the other day.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
And he was red.
I promote our company red, red,not red and black.
It's not okay.
It's not okay.
Is it completely covered up?
So this cannot happen againit's covered up, that's not what
I asked.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
I, big daddy, did you , big daddy, everything.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
When the dogs go out at night, I even have a carpet
outside the upstairs hall so itgets all the stuff off of their
little paws, but they get in thebed.
And if they get in the bed andwe have like a California King
size bed, and if they get in thebed and there's mud, dirt,
whatever, my husband if you'veever seen the movie big daddy
(39:05):
will understand the relationhere covers it.
That's his answer foreverything.
He just covers everything uplike, oh, I mean when we had a
puppy, oh, let's just putnewspaper over the dog piss.
Like no, and I'm the clean one.
I'm like I'm the special needsmom and special needs myself.
So I'm used to likeantibacterial and everything.
(39:27):
Everything is ready as an orroom.
And my husband's like, oh,let's just lay a towel all over
that bad boy and then he'llsleep on it, like he sleeps on
top of it.
What's wrong with that?
I mean seriously.
And then I'm like we need tochange the sheets.
No, no, no.
But if the sheets come out ofthe dryer and they're a tiny
(39:47):
little bit mold, like wet,you're like, oh, I gotta do it
all over again, that's right.
But you'll sleep.
Oh, I I can't wait to hear youback out of this.
I can't.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
This is gonna be great it's different how dirt is
clean dirt is not clean dirt isclean.
Dirt is not clean.
Having wet clothes causesmildew.
I don't want mold in my clothes.
I don't want to be sleeping onmold.
That's just disgusting.
Speaker 1 (40:17):
Are we talking about your exes again?
Speaker 2 (40:18):
No, do you want to talk about my exes?
Sure, go ahead, they're inTexas.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
No, they're not Some of them.
They are the state of Texas andour hearts go out to Texas
right now.
No, what?
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
With everything that's going on in there.
Speaker 2 (40:37):
The flash floating yeah.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
It's horrible, it's absolutely horrible.
Yeah, yeah.
So our hearts go out toeverybody in Texas with
everything going on.
Yes, that gnat is like.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
I've been trying to smash that gnat, this whole
podcast.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
And you have not been successful.
Speaker 2 (40:56):
I have not been successful.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
That's shocking, because normally you're pretty
doggone good about it.
Yeah, normally you have hugehands.
What you do, you have hugehands.
Well, you took us out, you tookus in, you took huge hands what
you do.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
You have huge hands.
Will you take us out?
Speaker 1 (41:12):
You took us in, you took us out.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
They love to hear you .
Speaker 1 (41:14):
They love you.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
He's going to take us out, guys.
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Listens what do you call it?
Whatever, whatever.
Thank y'all for listening toanother episode Of A Contagious
Smile With Victoria Curay.
Published author 41 books.
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I mean just she's booked tillwhat?
December?
December, a podcast almostevery day.
(42:23):
Interview.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
And being interviewed .
Interview and being andinterviewing.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
So we're coming up on a time that you know she's in
high demand as long as you'rethe only one who really wants me
, you and our kid.
I'm good, oh, I want you baby.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
You sound like Wolfman Jack.
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Most people don't even know who that is, that's
going back in the 80s.
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I know, I know.
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Good night y'all Come here, Nat, Get that damn thing.
Good evening and welcome to another episode of a
contagious smile.
Unstoppable.
We have my amazingly handsomeredneck has been Michael, our
beautiful service dogs Rusty andStucco from Stucco squad.
I am Victoria.
How's it going, babe?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
I'm a little tired.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
I've been cleaning we know we have been cleaning.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Come on now okay, we have been cleaning yes, I have
gotten hankering.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Is that right?
Did I say it right?
Hankering, hankering for to tolike spring clean?
My husband, love of my life,soulmate, is a hoarder and likes
to like, just collect.
Let's just say that.
So luckily, our garage garage,whatever it is he calls it, um
(00:53):
my grudge likes to collectthings, and then sometimes it
gets a little crazy.
I have interesting hobbies yeah,so we've been on this cleaning,
going to have a massive garagesale at some point, kind of
thing and we're getting readyfor our webinar, which is only a
(01:14):
few days away, and that isincredibly exciting.
We have some amazing peoplecoming on.
It's super, super exciting and,yeah, it's a lot a lot, a lot.
It's gonna be interestingbecause I know you did one about
two years ago we did podcastsfor pause and that ended up
(01:36):
starting out as only a few hourslong and it wasn't a webinar,
but it ended up lasting threedays, yeah.
And what's even worse and Iknow he's going to say it, so
I'll just get there before hedoes is I was not even 24 hours
post-op from oh yeah, let's trythat again A surgery.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Another surgery.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
So that?
And my husband said you can'tseriously be doing this.
And I said, oh, I am.
So they were phenomenal, myhusband and and faith.
They kept bringing me myunsweet tea and making sure I
was good.
And you know, they don't havethe patience, I guess, to sit
like I do at a desk for 16, 18hours at a time.
(02:18):
They just can't do it.
I get up every hour to walk andlike stretch my legs and
whatever, but it's literallymaybe a five minutes at best
that I do that I will do an hourin front of this computer and I
will be sawing logs you do 10minutes in front of the computer
and you're sawing logs.
That connects, driving you nuts,isn't it?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
yes yes so he's just all right.
So june j, july 13th.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
July.
Say it again.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
July.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Okay, before we even do that, I have to ask you, say
what you said.
That I've totally.
Not only did I misunderstand,faith misunderstood, so it's not
just my hearing that's going tocrap.
I said an itch.
Does that not sound like itch?
It sounds like itch, an itch,an itch.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Is different from an itch.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Does that not sound like itch?
It sounds like itch An itch.
An itch Is different from anitch, both of those sounded the
exact same to me.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
I need three inches of whatever Cake batter I don't
know.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Cake batter doesn't go out in inches.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
Well, whatever, I need three inches of, didn't I
say wood, okay, but, and I havean itch on my back okay, let's
try it this way.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Let's try the word itch, itch, itch, itch, itch.
Okay, inch, itch, inch, itch,inch, inch.
You know I, I have to say, canwe just also talk about what
happened at mcdonald's the otherday?
(03:55):
uh, I was at mcdonald's, I wasat working for us okay, I was on
the way to the hospital foragain another day of imaging
contesting and I'm sorry butthis is ridiculous.
We get in the line, okay, andthis show is unfiltered, so
don't hold back their love of mylife.
(04:16):
We get in the line.
At 9 45 am we pull up.
I have ticket in hand.
At 9 47 I am getting ourdaughter, who likes to wait to
the very last minute to leaveand everybody who knows me knows
I'm insanely early.
I'm always always early, right,and we drive through and she
wants a big breakfast with hotcakes.
(04:37):
Okay, so it's all pretty muchfrozen crap that they just
microwave or whatever, right,they're not back there beating
the eggs and pouring it in andmaking biscuits.
This is mcdonald's.
They might mcdonald's who, bythe way, powdered eggs I don't
know who on, by the way, doesn'teven have like a one and a half
star on yelp, which I did notknow this, and now I do, and I
(04:59):
will never return to thatmcdonald's ever again.
So we get through.
I have the receipt in hand.
Receipt says 947.
So this is for reference.
Pull up to the next window.
Could you park right up thereplease?
We'll bring it to you in just aminute.
Sure, thank you, have a goodday, like I always say to
everybody, right, we park.
Another lady pulls up beside me.
(05:20):
She is pissed.
She has two little ones in theback seats screaming.
I'm hungry.
Now, if I can hear it, we knowit's loud.
So she looks at me and herwindows down, my windows down,
and she's like I can'tunderstand these people.
Why are we having to park forsomething so stupid?
It's a drive-through and I saidI get it, I understand.
(05:43):
So then there comes in anothercar and another car and another
car and we're all being parkedright, and then I see everybody
else's food is being deliveredand I'm like what did we
possibly order?
That could have been so bad.
So now, after parked for what iswell over 15 minutes of no
exaggeration time, a employee,if you you will, approaches the
(06:08):
vehicle and says did you orderthis bacon, whatever?
No, ma'am, we did not.
I said can I ask you for afavor?
We're on the way to our, to ahospital appointment.
Is there any way we couldexpeditiously kind of hurry this
along so I could get mydaughter her food, like, and
walks off Right.
There was no mean undertone.
(06:29):
I said please.
I said thank you Right.
I just said you know we've beensitting here for well over 15
minutes.
So then out comes the manager.
No name tag on, no hairnet, no,nothing.
You know how you have a petpeeve about dark nails, and I
don't mean like wearing anawesome purple or black shade of
(06:52):
nails, I'm talking about learnhow to clean under your nails.
After you pick your ass andyour nose kind of nails right
Walks out and she's like are youthe one going to the hospital?
Speaker 2 (07:05):
Like go ahead.
It was at this point the drjekyll, mr hyde came out and my
wife that's not fair.
Oh, our listeners are openmouth.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
Had someone said that to them okay, I was still
polite at first, at first youare very polite.
At first I said it's hard atfirst I said, yes'am, we have an
appointment at the hospital.
I don't understand what'staking so long.
We have a big breakfast and anorder of hotcakes.
And she was like, well, I can'thelp it that it's backed up
(07:38):
here today.
And I was like, well, everybodyelse has gotten their food.
And I don't understand.
And I said, ma'am, my daughterhas a medical condition and I
have to have her eat, right, andthat's how I said it.
And she goes, that is not myproblem.
Okay, now I can see thereference of Dr Jekyll and Mr
Hyde.
Right, I will do anything inthe world for you, but if you do
(07:59):
anything in the negative senseto anyone I love and care for,
which would be my child, myhusband, my dogs, my good
friends, then I could see howthat can come forth with.
So I said I don't know, maybeyou didn't hear me my daughter
has a medical condition whereshe has to eat and we have to be
at the hospital.
And she was like do you justwant a refund?
(08:22):
I said, no, I would like ourfood and I would hope that you
won't do something to it whenyou bring it to us.
Why would you think that Like?
Why would you automaticallymake the assumption.
And that's how she's talking tome.
And I'm like, oh no, I neverraised my voice yet.
And she's like why would youautomatically assume that we're
going to do something to yourfood?
Why have something to your food?
(08:48):
Why have you seen the movie?
Waiting with ryan reynolds?
No, and I said well, becauseI'm asking where her food is.
And and she was like we are notthat kind of place.
And I was like, well, byreading your yelp reviews,
you're not, you know, thecleanest and and most
professional either, because Ijust pulled up the yelp review
while I'm waiting for now morethan 20 minutes.
I mean every roll in the eyesattitude.
(09:12):
Okay, I don't care where you'refrom, I don't care the color of
your skin, I don't care yourgender.
I am half Yankee, I have aredhead.
I am going to win by default.
I'm just telling you becauseand my husband will tell you I'm
not someone who will raise myvoice, and that pisses off so
many people because they want meto escalate to their level and
I won't.
I will stay at a normal tone, Iwill stay at a normal volume
(09:36):
and it pisses them off even more, but I will put you in your
place so fast your head willspin.
But don't bring me to thatlevel.
That's I ask.
I am a very understandingperson.
I will work this out, but whenyou are withholding food for my
child who has a medicalcondition, all bets are off my
wife is so sexy so she turnsaround while I'm asking, asking
(09:59):
still prominent, we're askingfor food for my child.
She storms off, she comes backand basically tosses the refund.
Luckily, I paid with cash and Iwas like I don't want the
refund, I want her food.
And she's like well, I don'tcare what you want, because you
are not getting fed here andneither is she.
(10:19):
She ain't getting her food here.
Okay, well then I canunderstand how I'm getting a
little heated.
My face might be matching myhair at this point.
I was like I'm sorry, what didyou just say?
I want to make sure I heard youcorrectly.
And she's like we're not givingyour child food.
And I was like okay, I saidI've been here 25 minutes, 25
(10:43):
minutes.
Okay, I said I've been here 25minutes, 25 minutes.
I asked for food and now you'reforbidding to serve her.
And she goes, yes, like reallyraising her voice.
I said there's no reason foryou to raise your voice at me At
this point.
I still haven't raised myvolume and she gets huffy and
(11:06):
puffy still.
And then, while I'm trying tosay I really need to get her
some food because, in allfairness, there is nothing else
around at that point where weare.
There is literally nothing elseI could go get her to eat
before this appointment.
And where we have to go in thehospital is nowhere near where
the breakfast area would be andby now they're not serving
(11:26):
breakfast anymore and our childcan only eat certain things.
So she can't have, like shecan't eat a hamburger.
She can't, you know, it has tobe soft eggs.
She doesn't eat the outside ofthe biscuit, she eats the inside
of the biscuit, right?
So there's a reason for this.
It's inside of the biscuit,right?
So there's a reason for this.
(11:50):
So as she decides to turn aroundand proceed back in, I was like
, excuse me, I just want you toknow I'm not done with this, I
don't care what you're doingwith this.
And I said I will contactcorporate, I will let them know
the lack of professionalism.
She goes, I don't care what youdo, like really loud, and I was
like I guarantee you, beforeI'm done, you're going to have
to seek employment somewhereelse.
So because I'm pretty much deafand I did miss whatever she
(12:16):
stated at that point under herbreath, she rolled her head
quite a few little times,reminded me of, like the preview
of Beetlejuice, and continuedon her a little way and I may
have screamed you are such abitch.
I did, I admit it.
And so I called corporatemcdonald's and they were
(12:38):
flabbergasted and I told him.
I said I own what I do.
I will tell you this is exactlyhow it happened.
But I did call her a bitch,absolutely did.
And the lady who took mycomplaint was like girl, you're
better than me because I'd havegotten out of the car, and I was
like I couldn't do that becausethat's not who I am, I'm not
going to get out and, you know,resort to violence.
However, it is now on my to-dolist to make sure that that
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manager is no longer, you know,being at the golden arches
anymore, because that's not okay.
I mean, I even told a woman Iwas like my daughter can have an
issue from not getting food inher system because she has to
eat for a medical condition.
She did not care.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
So I'm curious Maybe I did not ask you Bringing up
our daughter, and I know hervery well, and you're telling me
she was silent the whole time.
She was.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Which is so unlike Faith, that's right.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
Yeah, she will let it go in a heartbeat.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
She just looked at me and said I think it's best that
I just stay quiet, because Ithink you got this.
Speaker 2 (13:45):
She does like to watch you in action.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
No, she actually tries to instigate it.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
But there was no need for instigation here, and so
I'm sorry, but I mean, I don'tthink I overreacted.
I think you know that somebodylike there's so many people out
there who want to work and woulddo a better job and if whatever
its name is, you know wants tocontinue working in customer
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service.
I'm sure that working in acemetery would be just great,
and I'm saying she could likework in the back end of a
cemetery.
She could work with a hearingimpaired, just not me.
I'm just saying you don't needto be front and center with
someone and their familyespecially.
I will go out of my way.
If somebody says I have a childwith a medical condition, I
will reach into my bag and seeif I have some kind of snack to
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hold over, and I've done this agazillion times at the hospitals
where I'm like here I don'thave much, but you can have this
until you can get her somethingto eat, or get him something to
eat, right, or I'll even offerto go get them something to eat.
But to have somebody do thatwhen there's so many people who
are out there wanting to findwork and this one is collecting
a paycheck is just beyond me.
(14:57):
I mean, I would like to know,hubby of mine, what you would
have done had you been there.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
oh, my ass would have been inside, yeah.
And done what?
I would have made a scene.
You're going to give me my foodright then and there.
You're not going to give me arefund.
I'm inside the restaurant.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
And if they spit on the food and made her sick?
Speaker 2 (15:17):
That's why I'm inside watching Most places.
You see back there the grill,the griddle, the fry machine.
You see how they prepare it, soyeah.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
So I have called corporate.
I do want to call and get thestore manager's name and number
and advise them, but I don'teven know if they care.
You know or not?
Speaker 2 (15:39):
So that leads me into something else.
There, victoria, check withyour state laws on recording and
the state of georgia.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
As long as one party knows that you're being recorded
, you have the legal right torecord and if you push record
then that's.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
That's one party right and that goes along with,
um, you know, being in a adomestic violent relationship
record.
The other one, I have a gnat inhere y'all.
It's like 10 o'clock at nightand I had the windows open doing
things with the AC and there'sa gnat flying around our one
(16:19):
light here in our tiny office.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
And it's driving him nuts.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Yeah, so yeah, definitely record and get your
evidence and get your ducks in arow when you're getting ready
to exit abusive relationship.
Speaker 1 (16:34):
Now that you have such great advice, he has no
idea I'm about to do this.
Let me ask you about asituation that we just dealt
with here within the last 24hours, just dealt with here
within the last 24 hours.
We have a individual whosurvived domestic violence and
went through a horrific time.
(16:55):
They're all horrible times, butthe degree of the abuse was of
the abuse was horrific.
And we started speaking with afamily member of that person and
my husband was also there andthe individual family member
(17:19):
made the comment why didn't youjust call me?
And I would have gotten you outof there?
And at that moment my heartbroke for the survivor.
Because we do know that theperson who made that statement
to us was well aware of what wastranspiring during this event
(17:42):
of abuse and it was for a longperiod of time.
So, as a man and father, wecan't say her name, we can't say
the family member or we can'tsay the relation of the person.
How, as a man, does that makeyou feel when you went through
and heard all of this?
As a man, does that make youfeel when you went through and
(18:03):
heard all of this?
Speaker 2 (18:07):
I was flabbergasted that a father would would go
ahead blatantly lie like thatkeep going.
I just my wires are not crossedlike that to be able to
(18:30):
comprehend, to think like that.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
So I don't know how did you feel for the survivor?
Let's call her Jane.
How did you feel for thesurvivor?
Let's call her Jane.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
How did you feel for Jane?
I don't think it was anythingnew.
I don't think it was anythingunexpected of that individual.
Now, some of thecharacteristics of the statement
might have been new, but youknow, the idea was it's still
the same.
(19:04):
It's still the same individual,narcissistic, in control what
characteristics were new?
Speaker 1 (19:12):
what was said, that was new?
Specific details oh, likeidentifying her as were his kid
and some other things but I mean, they're both still alive.
Yeah, and he did.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
He identified her as didn't you state one time that
narcissists will see you as anobject?
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
But that person stated that Jane was past tense,
as if she had just passed awaylike she was deceased, by saying
that she was Right or were wasthe.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
So does that mean that individual has severed ties
in his heart?
Well, his black hole shit.
I just keep fudging this, don'tI?
Speaker 1 (20:09):
yeah, a little bit, but it's hard as a parent when I
hear that and as an advocate,because I could never mouth
those words to Faith, no matterwhat, even when they told us
(20:30):
time and time again she wasn'tgoing to make it through the
night.
They've lost their mind.
If they think, I would evenaccept that.
I mean, we had the nicestchaplain with us and he even
said she might not be able to gobecause you haven't let her go.
And I said well, good, becauseI'm not, I'm not going to let
her go.
No disrespect, he wasphenomenal.
But there was no way a parentcan say that I don't care.
(20:52):
You know people say well,you're an adult, jane's an adult
, so jane should literally act acertain way.
But at the end of the day,she's still dna pending kin to
this individual.
So how can you put it off onthem?
And you know one thingnarcissists cannot take
(21:13):
accountability for their actions.
They won't and they don't, nomatter what happens.
I mean it just doesn't.
I mean you know they're.
The one other thing I do knowis that for the longest time
that individual accused jane ofthings and then he stated later
on to you that a whole, totallydifferent story and you're
(21:36):
talking with them because it'slike a manda man thing and um
sort of and it's just.
I mean, it's, it'smind-boggling to me that some
people care more about theperception of their image and
the fatness of their wallet thanthe love within their heart.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
I'm gonna be selfish when it comes to my kid.
I'm not going to let them go,you know.
Going back to your earlierstatement, Well, it's not just
that.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I mean even medically and I'm not talking about just
medically but he basically has,you know, no contact, and it's
nowhere near the first time thatthat's transpired between them.
But it doesn't matter, it, justit's mind blowing that when a
narcissist is done with you,they're done with you, and you
know what.
(22:29):
The biggest fear a narcissisthas is the truth, and that's why
they try to make the blacksheep look so bad, because their
truth, the black sheep's truth,unveils their lies.
And so with the lies of thenarcissist, that's what makes it
such a challenge, because theydon't ever want to be seen as
(22:52):
anything but what they areportraying themselves as it's
like a mask really whichprobably comes out in your
second one prequel your prequelto who kicked first, which is
called nart.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Nart, who's there?
Speaker 1 (23:08):
yes, yes, nice, nice one there, but I y'all know my
wife has written.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
She has published 41 books.
My wife has written.
She has published 41 books.
She's on her 43rd and you knowI am so proud of my wife.
I mean, you know, she's writtenall these books, she's
published them.
She's done the work here infront of this computer.
(23:33):
She's done her research, she'sdone her schoolwork, she's been
through schooling I'm so proudof her, thank you.
Not to mention here recentlyshe's won so many awards we have
for what she's doing here at acontagious smile contagious
smile academy.
She's just been published inthree magazines that I have here
(23:55):
three physical magazines andfive digital.
Which are awesome.
Speaker 1 (24:01):
Now my husband's going around going.
I got me a centerfold.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
You're right there at the centerfold Grief.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Okay, so our webinar lineup for Sunday, the 13th.
You guys can get tickets on theEventbrite website and we are
also going to hey Faith.
Hey, one question.
Can you come here real quickwhile we're live?
Dad couldn't believe that youwere quiet during the whole
(24:30):
McDonald's debacle why not whenthey withheld your food?
He couldn't believe you didn'tround off in him.
Faith, that's right.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
You knew she had it handled.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
I heard that and that tattoo on her arm she got
dedicated to you is going to bea constant reminder.
We all know that she's got youwrapped around the finger so
y'all she.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
She just recently got a tattoo of um you're gonna
talk about inches again let'ssay my hand and her little hand
grabbing my pinky, where you're?
Wrapped on huh where I'mwrapped on oh yeah, you cried
when you said there was, it waspauline big sissy you and she.
(25:36):
She got the words in the banner.
It says choose your destiny.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
And how did she come up with that?
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Something I told her when she was laying in the
hospital bed and she wasfighting for her life pollen
right here.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
Now too, he's got pollen in his eyes again you're
dismissed child oh no, shelifted a finger for you.
She gave you a finger.
That's right.
Yes, so the webinar.
You're crying again.
No, you've become so feminineyou've become so feminine sissy
(26:10):
boy, oh boy, sissy boy cryingagain.
No, You've become so feminine.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
You've become so feminine, sissy boy, oh boy,
sissy boy, can.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
I ground her.
No, nope, that's right.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
That's right there.
Speaker 1 (26:27):
pollinator Nothing, he's the pollinator Anyway.
So the webinar on sunday it allgoes for a good cause.
It goes to a contagion thanksfaith.
It goes to a contagious smileacademy, where we want to make
sure that healing is affordableand free.
If you aren't able to pay, Ithink most of the classes are no
more than like $4.99.
Also, I created an amazing$4.99.
(26:51):
And then I created an amazingcourse about the IEP coming up
for all of the kiddos andparents going back to school.
It is a must because when youare going back and having to
start that whole IEP thing again, it is a nightmare and there
are so many things that theschools don't want to inform you
.
But this course prepares youfor all and it's great and it's
(27:13):
in the academy as well.
But we have a great lineup.
We have some fantastic,fantastic people.
I actually had the privilege ofmeeting somebody the other day.
Her name is Carrie Blazer.
She is phenomenal and she isgoing to be our second headliner
with Susan O'Millan.
(27:35):
She'll be first and then Carriewill come in second.
Carrie has an amazing story andhow she's overcome.
She was just so afraid of beingsexually assaulted by men and
she had childhood trauma and alljust so afraid of being
sexually assaulted by men, andshe had childhood trauma and all
of this.
That's gone on and she haslearned how to turn it into
(27:57):
healing and her story is amazingand she is going to be on as
well.
And then we have our buddyKeelan, and we have JJ, and we
have so many great people whoare going to come on and just
help everybody.
There's something for everyone.
And you know, if you're pickingup your change that's around
(28:18):
the house or through the dryer,you know, pay it forward.
We just had 4th of July and wecelebrate our Independence Day
because of the men and womenthat so proudly serve for our
freedom.
And, with that being said, howcan you thank them?
How about silently offeringthem a scholarship for other
(28:39):
classes?
We have guaranteed, no matterwhat, that the Valor Circle will
always be free for veterans andactive duty military, but there
are courses within all of thecollections that duty military.
But there are courses withinall of the collections that.
What are you?
Oh, he always does this.
There are courses within all ofthe other collections that are
available and will help everyonein all different scenarios.
(29:02):
So, with that being said, youcould go on to a
contagioussmellcom and go overto the right corner and it says
buy mea coffee.
But what you're doing is you'rebuying a scholarship, and you
could do that.
You could also go join.
Why are you looking at me likethat?
because you're beautiful youcould go to a contagious smilem,
(29:26):
as in mary and as in nancyco,so a contagious smilemnco.
Join the Academy.
It's free.
We have a plethora of resourcesin the resource library which
my husband doesn't understandwhy they're so in-depth, because
, I mean, they're basicallytheir own course on their own
and those are free.
We have the Knowledge Nook, wehave all the other courses.
(29:50):
There's so many courses thatare free and basically very low
cost.
And then if you want to knowhow we've done this, how we've
gone from zero to millions offollowers, um, you can reap the
benefits of all of my school andtraining and ins and outs and
ups and downs and things thatwork and things that don't, and
go through the social mediaplaybook and get answers to
(30:11):
those questions as well.
Now I need to like go ahead,babe.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
That was good.
So, for those y'all who maythink that $4 and 99 cents is
nothing and you're going to getjust a couple of paragraphs
wrong, okay, my wife has hasspent her time, her research,
her energy into these courses.
They are not junk.
Okay, I wished that she wouldcharge $399 for some of these
(30:42):
courses, but she won't.
She wants to keep themaffordable for our listeners.
She wants to keep themaffordable for our listeners.
Okay, now, at some point, I'msure things will go up because
of all the advertising, all theprograms that we're on and we do
.
Okay, but for now, y'all takeadvantage, get on there, sign up
(31:04):
for the class, buy a cup ofcoffee, sponsor a scholarship.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
Just do it, y'all, because it is so worth it.
You never know, like.
You know, september 7th, threeyears from this, september 7th,
I had an arm, I had a hand, andseptember 8th, I didn't know.
In December, two years, comingup, one night we had dinner at
the table.
Everybody was laughing, kidding, coming up, having a great time
(31:35):
.
And then, not even 12 hourslater, I was told to call a
priest and my husband becauseshe wasn't going to make it
through the night.
And we spent the next fiveweeks in ICU with her, so
fragile she couldn't even godown to the OR.
They had to do operationsbedside.
She had over 20 operations justin that period of time alone
and one day she had 11 bloodtransfusions just in that day.
(31:58):
And so you never know whattomorrow is going to bring.
You never know.
And what is $5 really?
What is it?
I mean it's some places it'salmost a tank of gas, like.
I mean a gallon of gas, like,look at this, I can't even talk
a gallon of gas.
You know, downtown atlanta gasis over a dollar more than it is
(32:18):
in the outskirts.
But you go and you look.
You know there used to be 99cent menus at restaurant
drive-thrus and whatever.
There's's not now Like you gothrough and get a combo meal and
it's freaking $11, $12 for adrive-thru fast food meal that
used to be four bucks, fivebucks, right, it's obscene, it's
(32:41):
crazy.
You can't get anything for $5anymore.
But somebody who is recoveringfrom domestic violence,
recovering from childhood trauma, is in recovery and people
think recovery.
They automatically think drugaddicts or alcohol.
But you know what?
I'm in recovery because ofabuse, my husband's in recovery
(33:02):
because of abuse, and anyone inany type of recovery.
There are courses out there tohelp you If you are in the
military, if you are a mom ordad to an amazing kiddo who has
special needs our stucco squad Ilove oh, that's so near and
dear to my heart.
Those are the best courses ever.
They are so much fun.
(33:23):
You could do them with your kid.
We're actually my husbanddoesn't know this, so I'll be
rolling this one out right now.
We're actually my husbanddoesn't know this, so I'll be
rolling this one out right now.
I'm actually in the process ofcreating um like a special needs
special education courses sothat stucco will teach the kids
how to count of course you areI've already finished the how to
subtract.
I mean, I've already done thehow to subtract and how to add.
(33:44):
Um, it's going to be on justone area at a time so, like
right now, you can go havestucco teacher kids how to add
basic, like kindergarten firstand second grade math.
Then we have them forsubtraction.
We'll have them stucco teachinghow to do division and
multiplication, also teachinghow to read.
These are all going to be inthe stucco squad as well and
(34:05):
these are courses that you coulddo.
What is $5 for a mom who rushesall day long for doctor's
appointments and therapiesspeech, occupational, physical,
eating, you name it, therapiesthat has to implement the
therapies throughout the day, tocome home and do something
that's non-medical with theirkid and bond $4.99.
(34:31):
I mean, and you never know, oneday you could be in one of
these categories and it will bethere and available for you as
well.
So if you sponsor today andtomorrow you need help, then it
will be there for you.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
Yep and some of the uh, some of the written
published books that my wife hasout are activity books for kids
, which which would be great ifthey could be introduced to, you
know, elementary schools theydo everything electronically,
which I think is ridiculous Iknow you you've tried to get
(35:04):
them into some of the localschools around here yes so if
you want them for your school,reach out to us.
Yes, they need.
Speaking of stucco, I threwdown some no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Let's talk about why this happened.
My boy, my baby, my sweetloving angel, that means the
world to me.
My husband didn't do hiscleaning outside in the yard and
my red stucco is not all redanymore.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
I repositioned some metal.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
That's a nice way of saying it.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
Right Some aluminum.
Speaker 1 (35:44):
What Tracks?
Speaker 2 (35:44):
Aluminum.
Speaker 1 (35:46):
Okay, maybe got that.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
Okay, some aluminum tracks, but the tracks had
graphite grease on there y'allthey had what?
Graphite grease kazoon heightand our dogs came in from
outside and they had beenrooting around the metal and
their faces were black.
And if anybody knows, graphitegrease does not come out easily.
(36:12):
It'll come off your hands aftera few days.
Clothes forget it, your clothesis ruined and now your dog has
graphite grease all over hisface.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
No, it's hilarious, it is not.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
We try to give him a bath, we try to wash it off, but
it is not coming.
Speaker 1 (36:39):
George, a bulldog color dog.
He's red and black.
Go dogs, here you go, no.
Speaker 2 (36:49):
No, no.
So it's going to have to wearoff or we're going to have to
shave him.
What?
We're going to have to shavehis face.
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Shave his face.
Speaker 2 (37:02):
Oh no, we're not shaving his face.
Yeah, I think that's what we'regoing to have to do.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
Then I'll shave your chest.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
You can shave my chest.
Speaker 1 (37:12):
I'd rather see a shaved dog face than no, I'm
calling the kid.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Leave the kid alone.
Speaker 1 (37:21):
So yeah, Please tune in everybody.
The tickets are free.
You can make a donation on theEventbrite site and pay $5 for a
ticket, but that money, allmonies, go to the scholarship
fund as well, and you know manypeople don't realize this, but
my husband and I have nevertaken a paycheck for many of
(37:43):
this ever, and it is incrediblycostly and as long as faith has
been taken care of, we havesacrificed oh so much to make
sure that we are able to do this, but we're only able to do it
for so long and we have neverhad a marketing team or anybody
else assisting.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
You're the marketing team.
Speaker 1 (38:03):
I'm the kicker and the boodle, you're everything.
That's right, and I'm still notshaving my dog.
I'm just telling you right nowit's not going to happen, I can
shave him.
No, you're not.
No, that's my boy, it's my baby.
That is my baby?
And the answer is no.
He's on my shirt.
Right now I'm wearing a stuccoshirt.
Speaker 2 (38:23):
I wore a contagious smile shirt the other day.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
And he was red.
I promote our company red, red,not red and black.
It's not okay.
It's not okay.
Is it completely covered up?
So this cannot happen againit's covered up, that's not what
I asked.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
I, big daddy, did you , big daddy, everything.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
When the dogs go out at night, I even have a carpet
outside the upstairs hall so itgets all the stuff off of their
little paws, but they get in thebed.
And if they get in the bed andwe have like a California King
size bed, and if they get in thebed and there's mud, dirt,
whatever, my husband if you'veever seen the movie big daddy
(39:05):
will understand the relationhere covers it.
That's his answer foreverything.
He just covers everything uplike, oh, I mean when we had a
puppy, oh, let's just putnewspaper over the dog piss.
Like no, and I'm the clean one.
I'm like I'm the special needsmom and special needs myself.
So I'm used to likeantibacterial and everything.
(39:27):
Everything is ready as an orroom.
And my husband's like, oh,let's just lay a towel all over
that bad boy and then he'llsleep on it, like he sleeps on
top of it.
What's wrong with that?
I mean seriously.
And then I'm like we need tochange the sheets.
No, no, no.
But if the sheets come out ofthe dryer and they're a tiny
(39:47):
little bit mold, like wet,you're like, oh, I gotta do it
all over again, that's right.
But you'll sleep.
Oh, I I can't wait to hear youback out of this.
I can't.
Speaker 2 (39:59):
This is gonna be great it's different how dirt is
clean dirt is not clean dirt isclean.
Dirt is not clean.
Having wet clothes causesmildew.
I don't want mold in my clothes.
I don't want to be sleeping onmold.
That's just disgusting.
Speaker 1 (40:17):
Are we talking about your exes again?
Speaker 2 (40:18):
No, do you want to talk about my exes?
Sure, go ahead, they're inTexas.
Speaker 1 (40:25):
No, they're not Some of them.
They are the state of Texas andour hearts go out to Texas
right now.
No, what?
Speaker 2 (40:34):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (40:35):
With everything that's going on in there.
Speaker 2 (40:37):
The flash floating yeah.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
It's horrible, it's absolutely horrible.
Yeah, yeah.
So our hearts go out toeverybody in Texas with
everything going on.
Yes, that gnat is like.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
I've been trying to smash that gnat, this whole
podcast.
Speaker 1 (40:54):
And you have not been successful.
Speaker 2 (40:56):
I have not been successful.
Speaker 1 (40:57):
That's shocking, because normally you're pretty
doggone good about it.
Yeah, normally you have hugehands.
What you do, you have hugehands.
Well, you took us out, you tookus in, you took huge hands what
you do.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
You have huge hands.
Will you take us out?
Speaker 1 (41:12):
You took us in, you took us out.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
They love to hear you .
Speaker 1 (41:14):
They love you.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
He's going to take us out, guys.
4 million listens Do you callit downloads?
Listens what do you call it?
Whatever, whatever.
Thank y'all for listening toanother episode Of A Contagious
Smile With Victoria Curay.
Published author 41 books.
(41:39):
Get on Amazon, type in her name, oh y'all.
Type in her name on Google orBing and see how many pages she
takes up.
It's crazy how many pages shetakes up.
It's crazy how many pages shetakes up.
It could have been P-H-A-T.
I'm going back to the 80s.
Y'all want a cameo.
(42:01):
Get on Cameo Stars.
Check her out Podstars.
She's down on Podstars.
She's on IMBD Pro.
I'm going to have to get amanager because she's getting
popular y'all.
I mean just she's booked tillwhat?
December?
December, a podcast almostevery day.
(42:23):
Interview.
Speaker 1 (42:24):
And being interviewed .
Interview and being andinterviewing.
Speaker 2 (42:27):
So we're coming up on a time that you know she's in
high demand as long as you'rethe only one who really wants me
, you and our kid.
I'm good, oh, I want you baby.
Speaker 1 (42:40):
You sound like Wolfman Jack.
Speaker 2 (42:42):
Most people don't even know who that is, that's
going back in the 80s.
Speaker 1 (42:45):
I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
Unstoppable with Michael and Victoria.
Speaker 1 (42:52):
Go get your ticket at Eventbrite.
Speaker 2 (42:54):
Eventbrite.
Eventbrite.
Speaker 1 (42:57):
Best of the best is what it's called.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
Good night y'all Come here, Nat, Get that damn thing.
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