October 13, 2025 • 37 mins
Truth doesn’t whisper—it arrives with fire, humor, and a plan. We kick things off with a preview of our upcoming conversation with Muck Sticky, whose out‑loud joy and off‑the‑wall songs remind us that laughter can be a lifeline. From there, we move into the hard, necessary talk so many of you ask for: how to spot narcissistic patterns, cut toxic ties without guilt, and build a home that stays drama‑ and trauma‑free. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much” for telling the truth, you’ll feel seen here.
We read a searing piece from “Dear Silence, You Lost,” honoring survivor voices in their own words—unedited, unsoftened, and undeniable. We talk about why evidence matters when gaslighting tries to rewrite your memory, and how black sheep are often the bravest truth‑tellers in the room. This isn’t about labels; it’s about patterns: blame-shifting, lack of empathy, guilt trips, and control disguised as care. If those signs feel familiar, you are not imagining it—and you are not alone.
Then we get practical. We lay out the exact documents that protect your family and help you avoid unnecessary probate: will, living will, medical and financial power of attorney, trusts when appropriate, property transfers like quitclaim or TOD, plus a simple system for passwords, safe codes, and where everything lives. One organized folder can save your loved ones months of chaos during the hardest week of their lives. We also share how to access our free Academy courses, scholarships, and tools built for survivors, special needs families, and anyone ready to rebuild with clarity.
If this resonates, hit follow, share this with someone who needs a nudge, and leave a quick review so others can find it. What’s the first step you’ll take today—setting a boundary, starting a folder, or sharing your story?
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Howdy, y'all.
Welcome to another episode ofContinuous Smile Unstoppable
with the lovely sexy VictoriaCure, author of 42, make it 43
books.
You get those off Amazon.com.
Most of them.
You get some through ourwebsite.
Speaking of a website, pleasehop over to the website and sign
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up for our Academy, which isfree, and proves the hundred and
thirty-something courses that mywife has that my wife has put
together.
Hello, Victoria.
Y'all, I'm tired.
SPEAKER_03 (00:52):
Okay, I actually did stop.
SPEAKER_05 (00:56):
You remember years ago how I used to like play
these videos of you, three notof you, but for you.
And it was like, today's gonnabe a great day.
And then it was, you know, Ithink I should a little one of
Farden, and you're like, what isthis craziness?
Yes.
And you always laugh at mebecause I love Muck Sticky.
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I think he's fantastic.
He's got a huge heart.
He's fantastic.
He has a beautiful family, abeautiful story of success.
He did it all himself.
And he is going to be on ourshow this week.
SPEAKER_01 (01:35):
Outstanding.
Can't wait to welcome Muck.
SPEAKER_05 (01:38):
And uh I am just so excited because he's amazing.
And he has a fantastic storyabout his sister, who is
amazing.
And I don't want to give up anylittle tidbits.
You have to tune in for aspecial episode of Mutt Sticky.
I'm so excited.
SPEAKER_01 (01:57):
What day is this?
SPEAKER_05 (01:58):
Well, what day we do it and what day we put it out is
not gonna be the same.
So it's gonna come out thisweek, though.
I'm so excited.
SPEAKER_01 (02:08):
Y'all listen up.
And if you haven't uh followedus, follow us.
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Follow us.
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Yep, follow us.
SPEAKER_05 (02:15):
All of our new followers, welcome, welcome,
welcome.
Mug Sticky was on live the othernight and he was telling
everybody that he hasn't doneany shows in 2025.
He hasn't done a lot, he's kindof chilled this year, but he's
doing something special with us,and he told everybody to follow
us.
So welcome, welcome, welcome toeverybody.
SPEAKER_01 (02:36):
Yo, he's got some hilarious songs, you know.
SPEAKER_05 (02:38):
He makes my face hurt because they're so funny.
SPEAKER_01 (02:41):
Um, yeah.
So if you don't know whoMuggsticky is, go ahead and look
him up.
He's probably everywhere.
SPEAKER_05 (02:47):
Oh, he's everywhere.
SPEAKER_01 (02:48):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (02:49):
He's also holds the Get Us Book of World Records for
releasing the most albums in oneday.
And he also holds anotherrecord, which I'm a little
jealous of, for wearing pajamapants consecutively for like
thousands and thousands of daysconsistently.
SPEAKER_04 (03:07):
Like, I think that's awesome that he does that, you
know.
So so excited about that.
So that is that.
SPEAKER_05 (03:16):
Um, I we've been so busy doing so much, and I just
got to this point where I waslike, my release, my outlet is
writing.
And so, like three o'clock inthe morning the other night, I
couldn't sleep, and I wrote awatch, I already know what my
husband's gonna say.
I wrote a whole course abouttoxicity and people and how to
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of course you did.
How to remove the toxicity frompeople out of your life.
SPEAKER_01 (03:48):
Oh, you mean just like leaving your parents?
SPEAKER_04 (03:52):
Sure.
You just like really doing that,don't you?
SPEAKER_05 (03:55):
Like he's really, really trying to uh start some
stuff.
SPEAKER_01 (04:03):
I mean Well, we we know what month this is.
SPEAKER_05 (04:06):
It's not April Fools.
SPEAKER_01 (04:08):
That's right.
What month is this?
SPEAKER_05 (04:10):
Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
SPEAKER_01 (04:12):
That's right.
Which includes narcissism.
SPEAKER_05 (04:15):
Correct, which you and I both have had in our life
from parental units.
SPEAKER_01 (04:21):
Correct.
Now let me preface this.
In in in my life, I I have hadno other choice during different
periods to move in with one orthe other of my parentals, okay,
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due to circumstances.
Whether it was uh because I hadno place to live, because I was
dirt poor, uh, because I washelping one of the family
members uh with you know adisability or something, uh, you
know, an elderly need.
Um there's nothing wrong withthat.
But um, guys, if if you're ifyou're a grown-ass man and
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you're still living with mom,still live with dad, and you've
got no business living there,you've got a good paying job,
and they're able to take care ofthemselves.
SPEAKER_05 (05:16):
Some people do that because they like the luxury of
having, you know, a report wasjust put out uh nationally that
more adult men live at home withtheir parents than women these
days.
The men go back, they move back,uh, because they like being
taken care of by mom.
SPEAKER_01 (05:33):
Well, what I'm saying is cut that umbilical
cord, move out.
SPEAKER_05 (05:39):
Especially if you have a narcissistic mom like we
both had.
SPEAKER_01 (05:42):
Right.
If you have that controllingfather, that controlling mother,
uh that's always in control,that wants to tell you what to
do, where to go, how to spendyour life, how to spend your
money, who to date, you know.
Oh, I don't think you should dothis.
Well, then they put the guilttrip on you, cut that umbel code
cord, get out from under theirhouse, and enjoy freedom.
SPEAKER_05 (06:05):
Here's a number one sign to look for.
And I'm talking professionallyand personally for the both of
us.
You know how much somebodyreally cares when let's say, God
forbid, something huge happens,like a loss of life.
And literally you go to informsomebody, and the only thing
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they say is what well, okay, butlet me tell you about what's
going on with me.
Uh-da-da-da-da.
And it's all about them.
Not the loss of a family member,not how are you handling it.
It's always put back on them.
Always.
SPEAKER_03 (06:45):
And it's not just that, but sorry, they just
walked in here and give daddy anice sign.
Say hi, everybody.
Hey, hey, say hi to Muk Sticky.
He's coming on this week.
SPEAKER_05 (07:10):
The crap out of our kit.
So, anyway, when they care onlyabout themselves and it's all
me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me,me, me, me, me.
That's all they care about, thatis a huge sign of narcissism.
Because how do you lose somebodyand not say, How are you doing?
Right.
Narcissists only care aboutthemselves.
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They do not care about anybodyelse.
And what's also something thatneeds to be made, you know,
publicly aware of the fact thatwhen you're dealing with a
narcissist, all they ever wantto do is blame you for their
shortcomings.
And you know what it is?
You're their biggest threat.
So that's why the black sheep istreated the way that they are,
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because you are the mostdangerous to them.
So even though you know thetruth, they're gonna spit it any
way they possibly can.
So let's say, for instance, andwe're gonna be very generic when
I say this, let's say you haveproof of infidelity or you have
proof of whatever the case maybe, and the narcissist is at
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fault.
And it's not your infidelity,it's not your infidelity, it is
their infidelity, but you haveproof of it, and you have the
hundred percent truth behind youon your side.
That doesn't matter becausethey're gonna turn it on you.
Like, why would you do that tome?
Why are you spying on me?
Are you jealous of me?
It's always going to be turnedagainst you, and a narcissist
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cannot take accountability fortheir responsibility, they
cannot do it, they blameeverybody else for their
shortcomings, literally.
And they just, and in turn,they're really jealous of who
you are and what you offer andthe purity that you hold.
Because people who have beenthrough what we've been through
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want to help other peoplebecause we don't want to see
them go through what otherpeople who have been the black
sheep go through.
SPEAKER_01 (09:03):
That's right.
You're exactly right, Victoria.
You should write a book aboutthis.
SPEAKER_03 (09:15):
Yes.
SPEAKER_05 (09:16):
And um, I am now writing, I can say this
officially now, I am now writingfor three different magazines.
Yeah, I'm very excited andhonored.
Um, when the first article comesout, which is already completed,
I will tell people more, but Ihave been asked and uh acquired
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the ability to write for threedifferent major magazines, and
I'm so honored for that, and I'mlooking forward to being able to
do that as well.
And then, you know, I just wantto tell people again the
importance of getting youraffairs in order.
You would not believe whathappens if one simple step is
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missed.
You know, you think, okay, Ihave a living will, I have a
power of attorney, I have amedical power of attorney, I
have a trust if need be, I havea, you know, final will, and you
have all these things, but thenit's like, do I have a quick
claim deed?
Do I have this?
Do I have that?
And it's those documents thatcan keep you out of going to
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probate, that can make somethinggo from one to two years down to
a few weeks.
And it's so imperative that youhave your affairs in order.
SPEAKER_01 (10:33):
And keep your documents somewhere where your
beneficiary or maybe yourchildren or or another loved one
knows where to look.
You know, hey, I don't know thecodes to all all the safes, you
know, in my my dad's house.
I don't know, I don't knowpasswords, I don't know where to
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keep certain documents.
You know, if something happens,you know, now we're left in the
dark.
You know, I I don't know if he'sgot insurance or not.
Uh, we went through this with mygrandfather when he passed away.
We went through, you know, hehad insurance when he was in uh
Atlanta uh police officer, andum we were looking at old
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insurance, you know, and we justdidn't know.
And we were going throughdocuments for days, you know,
trying to find this stuff.
So get your get your paperworkin order, like Victoria said,
please, y'all.
It's it's it benefits you, butmore your survivors, okay?
Whether it's your spouse or yourkids, whomever.
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And uh my wife does what she'stalking about, y'all.
SPEAKER_05 (11:38):
And the other thing is um about narcissism is Oh,
back to that.
SPEAKER_03 (11:43):
They do some shady shit.
SPEAKER_05 (11:46):
Like, shady shit.
You you find stuff in places youwould never think stuff would
be.
I mean, you have to really becreative to, you know.
SPEAKER_01 (11:58):
What do you mean, Victoria?
SPEAKER_05 (11:59):
Well, you have to clean house, literally, to see
stuff.
They're sneaky, they're verysneaky, they're malicious and
mischievous, and you know, Ijust can't, you know, and they
say you'll never understand themindset of a narcissist because
if you can't wrap your headaround it, you're not one.
But you know, it it's sotroublesome that these people
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care more about what peopleoutside of their house, because
it's not a home, think of themthan their own friends and
family.
Because I promise you, yearsfrom now, even when you think,
oh, these people will be aroundin a year, five years, 10 years,
there will be a point in timewhere they won't anymore.
And who are you gonna call?
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Who are you gonna call to helpyou and and have them be there
for you?
And I don't care how much moneyyou have, you can't take it with
you, but I guarantee thesenarcissists are gonna find a
way.
They're gonna find a way.
They're gonna like line theinside of their coffin with with
money, right?
And and that's it.
And so many people say you don'tget relief until they're no
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longer here because they're nolonger trying to be, you know,
turning around on you, but we'vebeen no contact because we have
a rule, it's drama trauma-freein our home.
And we've been that way foryears, and it's been wonderful.
I love our quaint family and oursmall family and our traditions,
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and we ask everybody how eachother's day went.
We sit at the table and haveconversations, we have family
dinners together.
It's a beautiful, wonderfulthing.
But you know, it's like anarcissistic people do not want
to see other people happy.
Misery is in company with them,and they have their little
flying monkeys, and it's so justdisgusting when you go back and
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think, how do you act that way?
Like, why?
And you know, the more and moreI've not only done school on it
and done research on it, butwe've lived it.
I've really come to theconclusion that narcissists, and
you talk about like extreme, andthere's different versions of
narcissists, but they reallyhave no self-esteem.
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They might come across cocky asall get out, you know, look at
me, look at me, I have this, Ihave that, or they don't even
have to have materialisticthings, they can just be a
narcissist.
But inside, they are so jealousbecause how do you remember lie
after lie after lie after lie,right?
How do you remember those?
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If you just tell the truth, thenyou don't have to remember,
right?
I have been, and I openly sayI've been in therapy for
decades.
And it's so funny because mytherapist who I've had, who I've
had for decades, literally saidto me, you could tell me the
same story, and 10 years lateryou tell me the exact same story
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again, and it is verbatim.
There is not one of thosemiscommunication or
embellishment or anything, andit's because you tell facts, and
I do go into extreme detail, andI know that, and that's actually
a sign of someone who's been inthat kind of abusive situation.
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But you don't have to embellishanything, you don't have to lie
about anything, and my familywill tell you I cannot pull off
a lie to save my butt.
They know when I try, and evenin just like if I'm like try to
pull a prank or be funny, Ican't because they're like, oh,
she's lying, look, she can'thide it.
And it sucks.
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It's been that way my wholelife.
It sucks because I could neverget away with anything.
SPEAKER_01 (15:49):
Yeah.
It's not there.
So to continue, Miss Train ofThought, your recent book.
SPEAKER_03 (15:56):
You are just going beep, beep, beep, beep, beep,
beep.
SPEAKER_01 (16:03):
Uh, Dear Silence, you lost.
SPEAKER_05 (16:05):
Okay.
I retract it and follow themost.
SPEAKER_01 (16:09):
Dear Silence, you lost.
If you haven't picked that oneup, please do.
That was a compilation ofhundreds of amazing.
Amazing, inspiring survivorsslash authors, because they help
write the book.
SPEAKER_05 (16:26):
Yeah.
Why don't you grab it and readanother excerpt?
Because a lot of people likehearing the first one.
It's up there.
SPEAKER_01 (16:40):
Alright, for old guys, I gotta get my glasses on.
SPEAKER_05 (16:43):
He gotta put his eyes on.
And he has not looked at all ofthese.
You gotta read one.
SPEAKER_01 (16:53):
Good god.
SPEAKER_04 (16:54):
Read it.
SPEAKER_01 (16:54):
These are from children.
SPEAKER_04 (16:55):
Okay, I'll read it.
SPEAKER_01 (16:57):
Oh lord.
These are these are smallsentences from children.
Okay, no.
That's fine.
Alright.
Alright, yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (17:13):
If you don't have one of you're gonna call me.
SPEAKER_01 (17:17):
Alright.
Here we go.
Titled You Wanted Quiet.
You created a Firestorm.
You recall that one?
SPEAKER_00 (17:27):
I did.
SPEAKER_01 (17:27):
Alright.
You don't get to be shocked now.
You don't get to look at us withwide eyes and say, but you were
always so calm.
Did you write this?
You read it.
SPEAKER_03 (17:41):
I read it.
SPEAKER_01 (17:42):
And you remember it?
SPEAKER_03 (17:43):
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (17:44):
Wow.
There's hundreds of stories inhere.
Wow, y'all see how awesomeVictoria is?
Alright.
You were always so calm.
Will you stop mouthing thewords?
I'll never get through thesecond.
But you were Victoria! I'm aboutto keep you out of your old
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studio.
But you were so calm.
But you never said anything.
But you never seemed angry.
Of course we did.
Because every time we crackedopen the truth, you told us to
be quieter, more composed, moreladylike, more forgiving.
We weren't born angry.
You made us this way.
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With every time you asked, whatdid we provoke him?
With every time you hugged himat a barbecue after he fractured
our ribs.
Are you kidding me?
Are you kidding me?
SPEAKER_05 (18:52):
I did not alter or edit any story that was
submitted to us.
I wanted it to be in theirwriting, and so that's what all
of these are.
SPEAKER_01 (19:00):
With every time you said that's just how marriage
is, with every court that gavehim custody, with every family
member who said, We don't talkabout that here.
You told us to sit still whilewe were bleeding.
You told us to keep it togetherwhile we were falling apart.
And now you're uncomfortablebecause we finally opened our
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mouths wide enough to burn downthe room.
Good.
Because this isn't a cry forhelp anymore.
This is a declaration of waragainst the silence you worship.
This rage, it's not messy, it'ssurgical.
It knows exactly where thewounds are because we lived
inside them.
It knows the weight of beingunheard, unprotected, unfucking
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believed.
And we're done asking nicely.
This isn't bitterness.
This is what happens when ahuman being is swallowed.
I'm sorry.
This is what happens when ahuman being has to swallow their
screams for too long.
This is what happens when youtrain someone to stay silent and
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then act surprised when theycome back with fire in their
throat and vengeance in theireyes.
You wanted us to be soft.
You wanted us to be silent.
You wanted us broken enough tomanage.
But you forgot something.
We were never yours to silence.
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We are not the aftermath, we arethe reckoning.
And now that we've spoken, youwill never silence us again.
Don't make me read another one.
Because that sounds so familiar.
SPEAKER_02 (20:52):
Because we lived it.
Because we lived it! That's why.
SPEAKER_05 (21:00):
You should read ones that came from these young
teenagers that went throughabuse.
SPEAKER_01 (21:06):
It's hard enough to read already.
SPEAKER_05 (21:08):
This is why he has not read Who Came First.
Regardless of the fact that heis in as my knight in shining
armor.
Because that's who he is.
He's my knight in shining armor.
SPEAKER_01 (21:24):
Okay, you you can finish up the show.
SPEAKER_05 (21:26):
Would you quit crying?
He's such a softie.
What's so funny is when he was acop, people were so intimidated
by him.
I never saw that.
I never saw the intimidationbadger.
Until somebody messed with me.
And then he became like this,this secure, gonna protect and
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defend and rescue me and like,you know, be my, you know, the
high-shining armor.
That's what she did.
And that I love that.
That you know, even before Iwent through the abusive
situation that I went through, Inever felt like a sense of safe,
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secure, loving, just valueduntil this man hugged me for the
first time 25 years ago.
Like it just I felt like thatmissing piece, and I was it, and
then it just snapped into thepuzzle, and that's where it was.
And that's why I had puzzlepieces on the back of my neck.
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Did you know that?
Well, obviously, you knew I hadpuzzle pieces on the back of my
neck, but that's why.
Because it fits, it fits, andthat's why it says believe and
love and all that on my neck inthe puzzle pieces, because it
fits.
SPEAKER_04 (22:42):
Do you need a Kleenex?
SPEAKER_01 (22:44):
No, I'm not reading another story out of there
because it's too heartbreaking.
SPEAKER_03 (22:51):
Maybe crime.
SPEAKER_01 (22:52):
Y'all, y'all, y'all been through this shit.
SPEAKER_03 (22:54):
Yep.
SPEAKER_01 (22:54):
And then when I reread it, it is it's like
you're there.
It's like I'm seeing you inthat, in that, in those words.
Well, that's why I asked you,did you write this?
unknown (23:05):
No.
SPEAKER_05 (23:07):
And I did not edit anything because I wanted to be
authentic from these wonderful,amazing survivors.
It's not my right to to changeanything of their submission,
because I don't know.
This could be the very firsttime that they vocalized their
surviving, right?
This could be the first timethat they use their voice and
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they flip and screamed, and goodfor them.
To celebrate that voice,whether, you know, and I look at
it like the grammatical aspectof it is nothing more than an
upset.
Because it's, you know, somepeople can be like, oh, it's,
you know, I had someone write umabout my first book, Who Kicked
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First, that it should be ateaching tool on how not to
write a book.
But on the very first page ofit, it says this was meant to be
a journal.
Please forgive any grammaticalerrors, like day one, like page
one.
And it was because it waswritten as I sat by our daughter
in the NICU, and she's in amedically induced coma because
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I'm being interrogated left,right, and center by any and
everybody with a badge.
Oh, who wants to break yournose?
Oh, what time of day was it?
What day to week was it?
What was the weather like?
What were you wearing?
Who was where?
What were they wearing?
Any person knows if you arebeing assaulted, you don't know
what else is going on, likeyou're not paying attention to a
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person who might be at like yourone o'clock or seven o'clock,
you're not paying attention tothat.
And so I started writingeverything down as a way for me
to release.
And then I was told by so manypeople, you will help so many if
you would write this.
And it took me seven years toput it out because I was so
humiliated by the content.
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And then I was doing a speakingengagement, and a lady came up
to me, I'll never forget, andI'm now gonna disclose who she
is or her name, and she said tome, I saw your book and I was
intrigued by the cover.
And I read it and it saved mylife because I didn't think
anybody else understood.
I felt so alone and I felt likeI was never gonna get out.
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She's like, now I'm out, I'mgoing to nursing school, and I
am just elated by the fact thatyou know, if that's the one
person that helped, thenhumiliation behind it is so
worth it.
And that's what meant the mostof me.
And what really gets me isanybody who pours their heart
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out about an experience, whethergood, bad, or ugly, and people
can only comment in a negativeway about the grammatical errors
of your book, they're notfinding fault in the wording or
concept.
That just means that they haveto say something, they need to
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put their voice in, and that'sall I'm gonna say about that.
When you have to bedisrespectful about somebody
trying to help somebody elsebecause it makes you feel
better.
There's a lot to be said aboutthat.
There really is, you know.
I had five-star reviews acrossthe board on who kicked first,
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except one.
And then lately we've had acouple of not so great reviews
on the Nart and Arc Who's There.
And it's iconic and ironic,really, because the reviews are
not disputing the contents.
The risk the reviews are talkingabout how it's one-sided, but if
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you've read Nart and Arc Who'sThere, the entire book is
factually based.
Like there's more evidence thanthere is content, really.
Wouldn't you say?
I mean, there's photographs,photos don't lie.
What do they say?
Photos are worth a thousandwords.
So there's photos, there's textmessages, there's emails, and
then there's kind of the what doyou want to call it, like the
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meat and potatoes around it tokind of give uh better insight
as to what evidence you'relooking at?
And the people and names areredacted and changed, but if you
have an issue with the contentsof the book, because you're
thinking it's only telling oneside of the story, does that
mean that you're identifyingwith that part of the story?
(27:34):
Is that I mean, I'm askinggenerically, does that mean that
somebody, somebody who like, ifI read Mary Had a Little Lamb
and I'm like, oh, she had a lamband its fleece was white as
snow, does that mean that I'mMary?
Am I identifying as Mary?
Am I saying I have a fleece ofwhatever?
I I I'm just asking in ingeneral.
SPEAKER_01 (27:56):
I gotcha.
I'm listening.
Uh-huh.
You're doing great.
SPEAKER_05 (27:59):
Yes, thank you.
So, you know, it's unusual butsad when people just want to
rein on a parade of helpingothers.
You know, it it's just, youknow, we've set up this academy
that you can go to.
If you even if you go to ourwebsite at contagious smile.com
(28:20):
and you go to the right-hand topcorner, and it'll say the you
know, join the academy, and youclick on that, it it takes you
straight over to it.
It is free.
You go online, and some of thesecourses they average between 97
and 1,500, right?
Like some of these courses.
And we're doing them eitherfree, the majority of all the
(28:42):
classes are free.
Some of them are like$499.
Then we've done the social mediaplaybook uh collection where we
teach you how to do what we'vedone.
We've had a top 1% uh podcastfor years.
And we've had a top 1% podcastfor years.
We've millions of followers, andwe've taught how to do it in
(29:06):
master classes.
Now, those aren't, you know,five dollar courses, and that is
because the courses forsurvivors, the courses for
special needs, the courses forchildren in the stucco squad,
all of that are free or under$5.
And if you cannot afford it, youreach out to us and we do a
scholarship and we waive thefee, but we still have to
(29:27):
continue to pay for theplatforms that it's on and all
the other platforms that areused.
And I have never taken apaycheck for anything with a
contagious smile, nor has myhusband.
And I get a lot of grief aboutthe fact that we all have to
live too, and that is true, butwe also want to pay it forward
and help others.
SPEAKER_01 (29:49):
That's right.
Um I just lost my train ofthought.
And y'all, we apologize for thequality of the sound right now.
We're going through another.
Technical difficulty with ourmics.
Um, I will get with our currenttechnician.
SPEAKER_05 (30:06):
I think they messed up when we had that backstorm.
SPEAKER_01 (30:09):
Probably um on a gig right now.
So I'll have to call himtomorrow.
Uh we'll get with him and findout what's going on.
Uh so right now we're ondifferent mics, and uh it sounds
like we're in a can.
SPEAKER_05 (30:21):
But it was better than that last time because
those were just awful.
These are high quality mics.
I mean, these are like top ofthe line.
SPEAKER_01 (30:29):
Yeah, we um and now that was that was a necessity,
and that's why you know, everyonce in a while y'all will ask
for a donation or um um uh buyme a coffee.
We usually used to have we stillhave coffee.
SPEAKER_05 (30:46):
We have um had several people buy coffees here
recently, but I had some peopledonate and you know say y'all
need some new equipment, andthat was a while ago.
And then, you know, I've hadstuff where I've helped people
and and they donate, and then weuse it for this stuff so that we
can continue to help otherpeople, but week after week we
don't take anything.
(31:07):
So my husband is exhaustedbecause he's been driving all
the time.
I'm exhausted, and we justwanted to come on and do a short
podcast tonight because we aregonna do a good one, long one,
exciting one amongst theexciting, you know, like and
we've interviewed a lot of othercelebrities, like a lot of other
(31:28):
celebrities, and Faith ishilarious.
She's like, they put on theirpants just like me, and that's
true, but and we've interviewed,you know, blue bloods, we've
interviewed, you know, ScottHamilton, you you know, we've
interviewed a bunch of people,but I just and they're all
amazing people, like everysingle one.
I just think Muck Sticky isgonna be so much fun.
(31:51):
I really do.
Like, I think he's gonna be somuch fun.
SPEAKER_01 (31:55):
I just hope that him and Faith don't get together and
write some song about me toprank me.
Because I know our daughter, anddon't give her that idea.
I shouldn't even say anything.
Dang it.
Can we edit this?
SPEAKER_05 (32:10):
I'm not taking that out.
I'm not taking it out.
I think it's hilarious.
SPEAKER_01 (32:14):
I mean, Eric Eric Winters is already in cahoots
with her.
SPEAKER_05 (32:18):
Eric Winters from The Rookie.
Do a rookie shout-out.
Yes, they were messaging and hewas offering her prank ideas on
how to prank.
And he said, I love that youprank him.
I'll have anyway that I can.
Oh my god.
I, you know, I don't know whichone I was more excited about.
He wrote to me because he's oncameo and I'm on cameo, and he
(32:40):
wrote to me congratulating me onbecoming a cameo person, which
was super, super, super sweet.
And then I wrote back to him andwe were writing back and forth.
And of course, he's married toone of every man's hottie toddy
dreams.
I'm not even gonna go and talkabout her.
She is stunning.
I mean, she is.
SPEAKER_02 (32:58):
What was her name?
SPEAKER_05 (32:59):
No, she's absolutely beautiful and stunning.
What you got, Eric?
No, no, go look it up.
I'm not telling you.
It starts with an R.
SPEAKER_01 (33:06):
What nationality she shut up.
SPEAKER_05 (33:08):
So, do we want to talk about Ted?
SPEAKER_01 (33:10):
No, no, no, no, we don't, we don't, we don't
continue, continue.
SPEAKER_05 (33:13):
Right.
So it's going back and forth,and then Faith is like, oh my
god, so I have so many friendswho think Eric just like stops
the world from rotating becausethey think he's so fine.
And I have friends that arelike, oh my god, if you ever get
to meet him, please, please,I'll do your hair, I'll do your
makeup, whatever, you know.
(33:34):
And I'm like, he's a person justlike me, he's a person just like
her, right?
But so she's messaging him, Igotta pray for my dad, I gotta
bring my dad.
And he's like, Oh, of course,I'll help you.
So they're, you know, but still,I mean, this guy is fantastic.
We've never really had a famousperson that wasn't just like,
they're awesome, they're reallynice, sweet people.
(33:55):
There's some that, you know,have been fantastic more than
others, but they're all great.
I just have to tell you, like, Idon't care what kind of days
you're having.
If you Google Muxticky and youlisten to his music and you
don't laugh, something's goingon.
Right.
Right?
Like you see him laying in thebed, and all of a sudden he was
(34:15):
like, I think I should a littlewhen I thought it.
Like, it's just hilarious.
I mean, hilarious.
He's downright hysterical.
And, you know, how to tellsomebody to F off, right?
And it I I literally, I I usedto listen to that on repeat
because it's it's hilarious.
I mean, it's not kidappropriate, but these kids
(34:37):
these days say worse.
SPEAKER_00 (34:38):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (34:39):
But it's just downright funny.
And so if you need a good laughor whatever, he he's just where
you need to go.
Like he is the new version ofwhere it al yeah, yeah, but
mixed with a little dice play, Iguess.
That's what you're gonna say.
It's a good combination, right?
I love the way he dresses, Ilove the big glasses, I love the
funky hats.
(34:59):
I'm I'm jealous of the pajamapants, you know.
Like I just think it's awesome.
It's awesome.
Did you hear your dad?
Oh, yeah, he was like, I hopeFaith and Let's Sticky don't get
together and write a bad songabout pranking me.
SPEAKER_01 (35:15):
No, Faith.
No.
SPEAKER_05 (35:18):
That's awesome.
All right, guys.
Well, thank you for tuning in,and we will get all this stuff
straightened out.
Please, you know, you neverknow.
Please get your stuff in orderbecause you never know.
We didn't expect that phone callout of nowhere that just said,
out of nowhere, she just passed.
And so, you know, I know peopleare like, oh, I could do it next
(35:40):
week or next month, but youcan't because you don't know,
because you don't know what'sgoing on in life.
And if you really care aboutanybody in your life and you
want to make sure that they'retaken care of and you want to
take the burden off of them,because for the most part, for
the most part, with most people,they're already gonna be in a
mourning, they're gonna be, youknow, devastated at the loss of
(36:02):
a loved one for the most part.
I mean, there's some people outthere, they're gonna say good
riddance, and nobody's gonnawant to claim them or you know,
whatever.
Um, and then what do you do withtheir body in ashes?
But that's a totally differentconversation.
And you need to have your stuffin order, right?
It's just simple.
If you get up and do anything,do this.
(36:23):
Get your stuff in order.
SPEAKER_01 (36:26):
Good night, y'all.
Thank you for listening toPotato Smile Unstoppable with
Victoria and Michael, Stucco andRusty, and of course, Faith, the
PETA.
SPEAKER_03 (36:36):
You did not call her a PETA.
That's it.
Uh don't call her a PETA.
Apologize.
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SPEAKER_03 (36:42):
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SPEAKER_01 (36:43):
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SPEAKER_03 (36:44):
No, apologize.
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She's not a PETA.
She's a Pima.
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What's a Pima?
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A pain in my ass.
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SPEAKER_01 (00:08):
Howdy, y'all.
Welcome to another episode ofContinuous Smile Unstoppable
with the lovely sexy VictoriaCure, author of 42, make it 43
books.
You get those off Amazon.com.
Most of them.
You get some through ourwebsite.
Speaking of a website, pleasehop over to the website and sign
(00:29):
up for our Academy, which isfree, and proves the hundred and
thirty-something courses that mywife has that my wife has put
together.
Hello, Victoria.
Y'all, I'm tired.
SPEAKER_03 (00:52):
Okay, I actually did stop.
SPEAKER_05 (00:56):
You remember years ago how I used to like play
these videos of you, three notof you, but for you.
And it was like, today's gonnabe a great day.
And then it was, you know, Ithink I should a little one of
Farden, and you're like, what isthis craziness?
Yes.
And you always laugh at mebecause I love Muck Sticky.
(01:21):
I think he's fantastic.
He's got a huge heart.
He's fantastic.
He has a beautiful family, abeautiful story of success.
He did it all himself.
And he is going to be on ourshow this week.
SPEAKER_01 (01:35):
Outstanding.
Can't wait to welcome Muck.
SPEAKER_05 (01:38):
And uh I am just so excited because he's amazing.
And he has a fantastic storyabout his sister, who is
amazing.
And I don't want to give up anylittle tidbits.
You have to tune in for aspecial episode of Mutt Sticky.
I'm so excited.
SPEAKER_01 (01:57):
What day is this?
SPEAKER_05 (01:58):
Well, what day we do it and what day we put it out is
not gonna be the same.
So it's gonna come out thisweek, though.
I'm so excited.
SPEAKER_01 (02:08):
Y'all listen up.
And if you haven't uh followedus, follow us.
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Follow us.
SPEAKER_01 (02:14):
Yep, follow us.
SPEAKER_05 (02:15):
All of our new followers, welcome, welcome,
welcome.
Mug Sticky was on live the othernight and he was telling
everybody that he hasn't doneany shows in 2025.
He hasn't done a lot, he's kindof chilled this year, but he's
doing something special with us,and he told everybody to follow
us.
So welcome, welcome, welcome toeverybody.
SPEAKER_01 (02:36):
Yo, he's got some hilarious songs, you know.
SPEAKER_05 (02:38):
He makes my face hurt because they're so funny.
SPEAKER_01 (02:41):
Um, yeah.
So if you don't know whoMuggsticky is, go ahead and look
him up.
He's probably everywhere.
SPEAKER_05 (02:47):
Oh, he's everywhere.
SPEAKER_01 (02:48):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (02:49):
He's also holds the Get Us Book of World Records for
releasing the most albums in oneday.
And he also holds anotherrecord, which I'm a little
jealous of, for wearing pajamapants consecutively for like
thousands and thousands of daysconsistently.
SPEAKER_04 (03:07):
Like, I think that's awesome that he does that, you
know.
So so excited about that.
So that is that.
SPEAKER_05 (03:16):
Um, I we've been so busy doing so much, and I just
got to this point where I waslike, my release, my outlet is
writing.
And so, like three o'clock inthe morning the other night, I
couldn't sleep, and I wrote awatch, I already know what my
husband's gonna say.
I wrote a whole course abouttoxicity and people and how to
(03:42):
of course you did.
How to remove the toxicity frompeople out of your life.
SPEAKER_01 (03:48):
Oh, you mean just like leaving your parents?
SPEAKER_04 (03:52):
Sure.
You just like really doing that,don't you?
SPEAKER_05 (03:55):
Like he's really, really trying to uh start some
stuff.
SPEAKER_01 (04:03):
I mean Well, we we know what month this is.
SPEAKER_05 (04:06):
It's not April Fools.
SPEAKER_01 (04:08):
That's right.
What month is this?
SPEAKER_05 (04:10):
Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
SPEAKER_01 (04:12):
That's right.
Which includes narcissism.
SPEAKER_05 (04:15):
Correct, which you and I both have had in our life
from parental units.
SPEAKER_01 (04:21):
Correct.
Now let me preface this.
In in in my life, I I have hadno other choice during different
periods to move in with one orthe other of my parentals, okay,
(04:41):
due to circumstances.
Whether it was uh because I hadno place to live, because I was
dirt poor, uh, because I washelping one of the family
members uh with you know adisability or something, uh, you
know, an elderly need.
Um there's nothing wrong withthat.
But um, guys, if if you're ifyou're a grown-ass man and
(05:06):
you're still living with mom,still live with dad, and you've
got no business living there,you've got a good paying job,
and they're able to take care ofthemselves.
SPEAKER_05 (05:16):
Some people do that because they like the luxury of
having, you know, a report wasjust put out uh nationally that
more adult men live at home withtheir parents than women these
days.
The men go back, they move back,uh, because they like being
taken care of by mom.
SPEAKER_01 (05:33):
Well, what I'm saying is cut that umbilical
cord, move out.
SPEAKER_05 (05:39):
Especially if you have a narcissistic mom like we
both had.
SPEAKER_01 (05:42):
Right.
If you have that controllingfather, that controlling mother,
uh that's always in control,that wants to tell you what to
do, where to go, how to spendyour life, how to spend your
money, who to date, you know.
Oh, I don't think you should dothis.
Well, then they put the guilttrip on you, cut that umbel code
cord, get out from under theirhouse, and enjoy freedom.
SPEAKER_05 (06:05):
Here's a number one sign to look for.
And I'm talking professionallyand personally for the both of
us.
You know how much somebodyreally cares when let's say, God
forbid, something huge happens,like a loss of life.
And literally you go to informsomebody, and the only thing
(06:26):
they say is what well, okay, butlet me tell you about what's
going on with me.
Uh-da-da-da-da.
And it's all about them.
Not the loss of a family member,not how are you handling it.
It's always put back on them.
Always.
SPEAKER_03 (06:45):
And it's not just that, but sorry, they just
walked in here and give daddy anice sign.
Say hi, everybody.
Hey, hey, say hi to Muk Sticky.
He's coming on this week.
SPEAKER_05 (07:10):
The crap out of our kit.
So, anyway, when they care onlyabout themselves and it's all
me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me,me, me, me, me.
That's all they care about, thatis a huge sign of narcissism.
Because how do you lose somebodyand not say, How are you doing?
Right.
Narcissists only care aboutthemselves.
(07:30):
They do not care about anybodyelse.
And what's also something thatneeds to be made, you know,
publicly aware of the fact thatwhen you're dealing with a
narcissist, all they ever wantto do is blame you for their
shortcomings.
And you know what it is?
You're their biggest threat.
So that's why the black sheep istreated the way that they are,
(07:51):
because you are the mostdangerous to them.
So even though you know thetruth, they're gonna spit it any
way they possibly can.
So let's say, for instance, andwe're gonna be very generic when
I say this, let's say you haveproof of infidelity or you have
proof of whatever the case maybe, and the narcissist is at
(08:11):
fault.
And it's not your infidelity,it's not your infidelity, it is
their infidelity, but you haveproof of it, and you have the
hundred percent truth behind youon your side.
That doesn't matter becausethey're gonna turn it on you.
Like, why would you do that tome?
Why are you spying on me?
Are you jealous of me?
It's always going to be turnedagainst you, and a narcissist
(08:35):
cannot take accountability fortheir responsibility, they
cannot do it, they blameeverybody else for their
shortcomings, literally.
And they just, and in turn,they're really jealous of who
you are and what you offer andthe purity that you hold.
Because people who have beenthrough what we've been through
(08:55):
want to help other peoplebecause we don't want to see
them go through what otherpeople who have been the black
sheep go through.
SPEAKER_01 (09:03):
That's right.
You're exactly right, Victoria.
You should write a book aboutthis.
SPEAKER_03 (09:15):
Yes.
SPEAKER_05 (09:16):
And um, I am now writing, I can say this
officially now, I am now writingfor three different magazines.
Yeah, I'm very excited andhonored.
Um, when the first article comesout, which is already completed,
I will tell people more, but Ihave been asked and uh acquired
(09:39):
the ability to write for threedifferent major magazines, and
I'm so honored for that, and I'mlooking forward to being able to
do that as well.
And then, you know, I just wantto tell people again the
importance of getting youraffairs in order.
You would not believe whathappens if one simple step is
(10:02):
missed.
You know, you think, okay, Ihave a living will, I have a
power of attorney, I have amedical power of attorney, I
have a trust if need be, I havea, you know, final will, and you
have all these things, but thenit's like, do I have a quick
claim deed?
Do I have this?
Do I have that?
And it's those documents thatcan keep you out of going to
(10:22):
probate, that can make somethinggo from one to two years down to
a few weeks.
And it's so imperative that youhave your affairs in order.
SPEAKER_01 (10:33):
And keep your documents somewhere where your
beneficiary or maybe yourchildren or or another loved one
knows where to look.
You know, hey, I don't know thecodes to all all the safes, you
know, in my my dad's house.
I don't know, I don't knowpasswords, I don't know where to
(10:54):
keep certain documents.
You know, if something happens,you know, now we're left in the
dark.
You know, I I don't know if he'sgot insurance or not.
Uh, we went through this with mygrandfather when he passed away.
We went through, you know, hehad insurance when he was in uh
Atlanta uh police officer, andum we were looking at old
(11:14):
insurance, you know, and we justdidn't know.
And we were going throughdocuments for days, you know,
trying to find this stuff.
So get your get your paperworkin order, like Victoria said,
please, y'all.
It's it's it benefits you, butmore your survivors, okay?
Whether it's your spouse or yourkids, whomever.
(11:36):
And uh my wife does what she'stalking about, y'all.
SPEAKER_05 (11:38):
And the other thing is um about narcissism is Oh,
back to that.
SPEAKER_03 (11:43):
They do some shady shit.
SPEAKER_05 (11:46):
Like, shady shit.
You you find stuff in places youwould never think stuff would
be.
I mean, you have to really becreative to, you know.
SPEAKER_01 (11:58):
What do you mean, Victoria?
SPEAKER_05 (11:59):
Well, you have to clean house, literally, to see
stuff.
They're sneaky, they're verysneaky, they're malicious and
mischievous, and you know, Ijust can't, you know, and they
say you'll never understand themindset of a narcissist because
if you can't wrap your headaround it, you're not one.
But you know, it it's sotroublesome that these people
(12:25):
care more about what peopleoutside of their house, because
it's not a home, think of themthan their own friends and
family.
Because I promise you, yearsfrom now, even when you think,
oh, these people will be aroundin a year, five years, 10 years,
there will be a point in timewhere they won't anymore.
And who are you gonna call?
(12:46):
Who are you gonna call to helpyou and and have them be there
for you?
And I don't care how much moneyyou have, you can't take it with
you, but I guarantee thesenarcissists are gonna find a
way.
They're gonna find a way.
They're gonna like line theinside of their coffin with with
money, right?
And and that's it.
And so many people say you don'tget relief until they're no
(13:09):
longer here because they're nolonger trying to be, you know,
turning around on you, but we'vebeen no contact because we have
a rule, it's drama trauma-freein our home.
And we've been that way foryears, and it's been wonderful.
I love our quaint family and oursmall family and our traditions,
(13:30):
and we ask everybody how eachother's day went.
We sit at the table and haveconversations, we have family
dinners together.
It's a beautiful, wonderfulthing.
But you know, it's like anarcissistic people do not want
to see other people happy.
Misery is in company with them,and they have their little
flying monkeys, and it's so justdisgusting when you go back and
(13:56):
think, how do you act that way?
Like, why?
And you know, the more and moreI've not only done school on it
and done research on it, butwe've lived it.
I've really come to theconclusion that narcissists, and
you talk about like extreme, andthere's different versions of
narcissists, but they reallyhave no self-esteem.
(14:18):
They might come across cocky asall get out, you know, look at
me, look at me, I have this, Ihave that, or they don't even
have to have materialisticthings, they can just be a
narcissist.
But inside, they are so jealousbecause how do you remember lie
after lie after lie after lie,right?
How do you remember those?
(14:38):
If you just tell the truth, thenyou don't have to remember,
right?
I have been, and I openly sayI've been in therapy for
decades.
And it's so funny because mytherapist who I've had, who I've
had for decades, literally saidto me, you could tell me the
same story, and 10 years lateryou tell me the exact same story
(14:59):
again, and it is verbatim.
There is not one of thosemiscommunication or
embellishment or anything, andit's because you tell facts, and
I do go into extreme detail, andI know that, and that's actually
a sign of someone who's been inthat kind of abusive situation.
(15:23):
But you don't have to embellishanything, you don't have to lie
about anything, and my familywill tell you I cannot pull off
a lie to save my butt.
They know when I try, and evenin just like if I'm like try to
pull a prank or be funny, Ican't because they're like, oh,
she's lying, look, she can'thide it.
And it sucks.
(15:44):
It's been that way my wholelife.
It sucks because I could neverget away with anything.
SPEAKER_01 (15:49):
Yeah.
It's not there.
So to continue, Miss Train ofThought, your recent book.
SPEAKER_03 (15:56):
You are just going beep, beep, beep, beep, beep,
beep.
SPEAKER_01 (16:03):
Uh, Dear Silence, you lost.
SPEAKER_05 (16:05):
Okay.
I retract it and follow themost.
SPEAKER_01 (16:09):
Dear Silence, you lost.
If you haven't picked that oneup, please do.
That was a compilation ofhundreds of amazing.
Amazing, inspiring survivorsslash authors, because they help
write the book.
SPEAKER_05 (16:26):
Yeah.
Why don't you grab it and readanother excerpt?
Because a lot of people likehearing the first one.
It's up there.
SPEAKER_01 (16:40):
Alright, for old guys, I gotta get my glasses on.
SPEAKER_05 (16:43):
He gotta put his eyes on.
And he has not looked at all ofthese.
You gotta read one.
SPEAKER_01 (16:53):
Good god.
SPEAKER_04 (16:54):
Read it.
SPEAKER_01 (16:54):
These are from children.
SPEAKER_04 (16:55):
Okay, I'll read it.
SPEAKER_01 (16:57):
Oh lord.
These are these are smallsentences from children.
Okay, no.
That's fine.
Alright.
Alright, yeah, yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (17:13):
If you don't have one of you're gonna call me.
SPEAKER_01 (17:17):
Alright.
Here we go.
Titled You Wanted Quiet.
You created a Firestorm.
You recall that one?
SPEAKER_00 (17:27):
I did.
SPEAKER_01 (17:27):
Alright.
You don't get to be shocked now.
You don't get to look at us withwide eyes and say, but you were
always so calm.
Did you write this?
You read it.
SPEAKER_03 (17:41):
I read it.
SPEAKER_01 (17:42):
And you remember it?
SPEAKER_03 (17:43):
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (17:44):
Wow.
There's hundreds of stories inhere.
Wow, y'all see how awesomeVictoria is?
Alright.
You were always so calm.
Will you stop mouthing thewords?
I'll never get through thesecond.
But you were Victoria! I'm aboutto keep you out of your old
(18:11):
studio.
But you were so calm.
But you never said anything.
But you never seemed angry.
Of course we did.
Because every time we crackedopen the truth, you told us to
be quieter, more composed, moreladylike, more forgiving.
We weren't born angry.
You made us this way.
(18:33):
With every time you asked, whatdid we provoke him?
With every time you hugged himat a barbecue after he fractured
our ribs.
Are you kidding me?
Are you kidding me?
SPEAKER_05 (18:52):
I did not alter or edit any story that was
submitted to us.
I wanted it to be in theirwriting, and so that's what all
of these are.
SPEAKER_01 (19:00):
With every time you said that's just how marriage
is, with every court that gavehim custody, with every family
member who said, We don't talkabout that here.
You told us to sit still whilewe were bleeding.
You told us to keep it togetherwhile we were falling apart.
And now you're uncomfortablebecause we finally opened our
(19:24):
mouths wide enough to burn downthe room.
Good.
Because this isn't a cry forhelp anymore.
This is a declaration of waragainst the silence you worship.
This rage, it's not messy, it'ssurgical.
It knows exactly where thewounds are because we lived
inside them.
It knows the weight of beingunheard, unprotected, unfucking
(19:48):
believed.
And we're done asking nicely.
This isn't bitterness.
This is what happens when ahuman being is swallowed.
I'm sorry.
This is what happens when ahuman being has to swallow their
screams for too long.
This is what happens when youtrain someone to stay silent and
(20:11):
then act surprised when theycome back with fire in their
throat and vengeance in theireyes.
You wanted us to be soft.
You wanted us to be silent.
You wanted us broken enough tomanage.
But you forgot something.
We were never yours to silence.
(20:36):
We are not the aftermath, we arethe reckoning.
And now that we've spoken, youwill never silence us again.
Don't make me read another one.
Because that sounds so familiar.
SPEAKER_02 (20:52):
Because we lived it.
Because we lived it! That's why.
SPEAKER_05 (21:00):
You should read ones that came from these young
teenagers that went throughabuse.
SPEAKER_01 (21:06):
It's hard enough to read already.
SPEAKER_05 (21:08):
This is why he has not read Who Came First.
Regardless of the fact that heis in as my knight in shining
armor.
Because that's who he is.
He's my knight in shining armor.
SPEAKER_01 (21:24):
Okay, you you can finish up the show.
SPEAKER_05 (21:26):
Would you quit crying?
He's such a softie.
What's so funny is when he was acop, people were so intimidated
by him.
I never saw that.
I never saw the intimidationbadger.
Until somebody messed with me.
And then he became like this,this secure, gonna protect and
(21:47):
defend and rescue me and like,you know, be my, you know, the
high-shining armor.
That's what she did.
And that I love that.
That you know, even before Iwent through the abusive
situation that I went through, Inever felt like a sense of safe,
(22:07):
secure, loving, just valueduntil this man hugged me for the
first time 25 years ago.
Like it just I felt like thatmissing piece, and I was it, and
then it just snapped into thepuzzle, and that's where it was.
And that's why I had puzzlepieces on the back of my neck.
(22:28):
Did you know that?
Well, obviously, you knew I hadpuzzle pieces on the back of my
neck, but that's why.
Because it fits, it fits, andthat's why it says believe and
love and all that on my neck inthe puzzle pieces, because it
fits.
SPEAKER_04 (22:42):
Do you need a Kleenex?
SPEAKER_01 (22:44):
No, I'm not reading another story out of there
because it's too heartbreaking.
SPEAKER_03 (22:51):
Maybe crime.
SPEAKER_01 (22:52):
Y'all, y'all, y'all been through this shit.
SPEAKER_03 (22:54):
Yep.
SPEAKER_01 (22:54):
And then when I reread it, it is it's like
you're there.
It's like I'm seeing you inthat, in that, in those words.
Well, that's why I asked you,did you write this?
unknown (23:05):
No.
SPEAKER_05 (23:07):
And I did not edit anything because I wanted to be
authentic from these wonderful,amazing survivors.
It's not my right to to changeanything of their submission,
because I don't know.
This could be the very firsttime that they vocalized their
surviving, right?
This could be the first timethat they use their voice and
(23:30):
they flip and screamed, and goodfor them.
To celebrate that voice,whether, you know, and I look at
it like the grammatical aspectof it is nothing more than an
upset.
Because it's, you know, somepeople can be like, oh, it's,
you know, I had someone write umabout my first book, Who Kicked
(23:52):
First, that it should be ateaching tool on how not to
write a book.
But on the very first page ofit, it says this was meant to be
a journal.
Please forgive any grammaticalerrors, like day one, like page
one.
And it was because it waswritten as I sat by our daughter
in the NICU, and she's in amedically induced coma because
(24:13):
I'm being interrogated left,right, and center by any and
everybody with a badge.
Oh, who wants to break yournose?
Oh, what time of day was it?
What day to week was it?
What was the weather like?
What were you wearing?
Who was where?
What were they wearing?
Any person knows if you arebeing assaulted, you don't know
what else is going on, likeyou're not paying attention to a
(24:35):
person who might be at like yourone o'clock or seven o'clock,
you're not paying attention tothat.
And so I started writingeverything down as a way for me
to release.
And then I was told by so manypeople, you will help so many if
you would write this.
And it took me seven years toput it out because I was so
humiliated by the content.
(24:56):
And then I was doing a speakingengagement, and a lady came up
to me, I'll never forget, andI'm now gonna disclose who she
is or her name, and she said tome, I saw your book and I was
intrigued by the cover.
And I read it and it saved mylife because I didn't think
anybody else understood.
I felt so alone and I felt likeI was never gonna get out.
(25:16):
She's like, now I'm out, I'mgoing to nursing school, and I
am just elated by the fact thatyou know, if that's the one
person that helped, thenhumiliation behind it is so
worth it.
And that's what meant the mostof me.
And what really gets me isanybody who pours their heart
(25:38):
out about an experience, whethergood, bad, or ugly, and people
can only comment in a negativeway about the grammatical errors
of your book, they're notfinding fault in the wording or
concept.
That just means that they haveto say something, they need to
(25:59):
put their voice in, and that'sall I'm gonna say about that.
When you have to bedisrespectful about somebody
trying to help somebody elsebecause it makes you feel
better.
There's a lot to be said aboutthat.
There really is, you know.
I had five-star reviews acrossthe board on who kicked first,
(26:24):
except one.
And then lately we've had acouple of not so great reviews
on the Nart and Arc Who's There.
And it's iconic and ironic,really, because the reviews are
not disputing the contents.
The risk the reviews are talkingabout how it's one-sided, but if
(26:47):
you've read Nart and Arc Who'sThere, the entire book is
factually based.
Like there's more evidence thanthere is content, really.
Wouldn't you say?
I mean, there's photographs,photos don't lie.
What do they say?
Photos are worth a thousandwords.
So there's photos, there's textmessages, there's emails, and
then there's kind of the what doyou want to call it, like the
(27:11):
meat and potatoes around it tokind of give uh better insight
as to what evidence you'relooking at?
And the people and names areredacted and changed, but if you
have an issue with the contentsof the book, because you're
thinking it's only telling oneside of the story, does that
mean that you're identifyingwith that part of the story?
(27:34):
Is that I mean, I'm askinggenerically, does that mean that
somebody, somebody who like, ifI read Mary Had a Little Lamb
and I'm like, oh, she had a lamband its fleece was white as
snow, does that mean that I'mMary?
Am I identifying as Mary?
Am I saying I have a fleece ofwhatever?
I I I'm just asking in ingeneral.
SPEAKER_01 (27:56):
I gotcha.
I'm listening.
Uh-huh.
You're doing great.
SPEAKER_05 (27:59):
Yes, thank you.
So, you know, it's unusual butsad when people just want to
rein on a parade of helpingothers.
You know, it it's just, youknow, we've set up this academy
that you can go to.
If you even if you go to ourwebsite at contagious smile.com
(28:20):
and you go to the right-hand topcorner, and it'll say the you
know, join the academy, and youclick on that, it it takes you
straight over to it.
It is free.
You go online, and some of thesecourses they average between 97
and 1,500, right?
Like some of these courses.
And we're doing them eitherfree, the majority of all the
(28:42):
classes are free.
Some of them are like$499.
Then we've done the social mediaplaybook uh collection where we
teach you how to do what we'vedone.
We've had a top 1% uh podcastfor years.
And we've had a top 1% podcastfor years.
We've millions of followers, andwe've taught how to do it in
(29:06):
master classes.
Now, those aren't, you know,five dollar courses, and that is
because the courses forsurvivors, the courses for
special needs, the courses forchildren in the stucco squad,
all of that are free or under$5.
And if you cannot afford it, youreach out to us and we do a
scholarship and we waive thefee, but we still have to
(29:27):
continue to pay for theplatforms that it's on and all
the other platforms that areused.
And I have never taken apaycheck for anything with a
contagious smile, nor has myhusband.
And I get a lot of grief aboutthe fact that we all have to
live too, and that is true, butwe also want to pay it forward
and help others.
SPEAKER_01 (29:49):
That's right.
Um I just lost my train ofthought.
And y'all, we apologize for thequality of the sound right now.
We're going through another.
Technical difficulty with ourmics.
Um, I will get with our currenttechnician.
SPEAKER_05 (30:06):
I think they messed up when we had that backstorm.
SPEAKER_01 (30:09):
Probably um on a gig right now.
So I'll have to call himtomorrow.
Uh we'll get with him and findout what's going on.
Uh so right now we're ondifferent mics, and uh it sounds
like we're in a can.
SPEAKER_05 (30:21):
But it was better than that last time because
those were just awful.
These are high quality mics.
I mean, these are like top ofthe line.
SPEAKER_01 (30:29):
Yeah, we um and now that was that was a necessity,
and that's why you know, everyonce in a while y'all will ask
for a donation or um um uh buyme a coffee.
We usually used to have we stillhave coffee.
SPEAKER_05 (30:46):
We have um had several people buy coffees here
recently, but I had some peopledonate and you know say y'all
need some new equipment, andthat was a while ago.
And then, you know, I've hadstuff where I've helped people
and and they donate, and then weuse it for this stuff so that we
can continue to help otherpeople, but week after week we
don't take anything.
(31:07):
So my husband is exhaustedbecause he's been driving all
the time.
I'm exhausted, and we justwanted to come on and do a short
podcast tonight because we aregonna do a good one, long one,
exciting one amongst theexciting, you know, like and
we've interviewed a lot of othercelebrities, like a lot of other
(31:28):
celebrities, and Faith ishilarious.
She's like, they put on theirpants just like me, and that's
true, but and we've interviewed,you know, blue bloods, we've
interviewed, you know, ScottHamilton, you you know, we've
interviewed a bunch of people,but I just and they're all
amazing people, like everysingle one.
I just think Muck Sticky isgonna be so much fun.
(31:51):
I really do.
Like, I think he's gonna be somuch fun.
SPEAKER_01 (31:55):
I just hope that him and Faith don't get together and
write some song about me toprank me.
Because I know our daughter, anddon't give her that idea.
I shouldn't even say anything.
Dang it.
Can we edit this?
SPEAKER_05 (32:10):
I'm not taking that out.
I'm not taking it out.
I think it's hilarious.
SPEAKER_01 (32:14):
I mean, Eric Eric Winters is already in cahoots
with her.
SPEAKER_05 (32:18):
Eric Winters from The Rookie.
Do a rookie shout-out.
Yes, they were messaging and hewas offering her prank ideas on
how to prank.
And he said, I love that youprank him.
I'll have anyway that I can.
Oh my god.
I, you know, I don't know whichone I was more excited about.
He wrote to me because he's oncameo and I'm on cameo, and he
(32:40):
wrote to me congratulating me onbecoming a cameo person, which
was super, super, super sweet.
And then I wrote back to him andwe were writing back and forth.
And of course, he's married toone of every man's hottie toddy
dreams.
I'm not even gonna go and talkabout her.
She is stunning.
I mean, she is.
SPEAKER_02 (32:58):
What was her name?
SPEAKER_05 (32:59):
No, she's absolutely beautiful and stunning.
What you got, Eric?
No, no, go look it up.
I'm not telling you.
It starts with an R.
SPEAKER_01 (33:06):
What nationality she shut up.
SPEAKER_05 (33:08):
So, do we want to talk about Ted?
SPEAKER_01 (33:10):
No, no, no, no, we don't, we don't, we don't
continue, continue.
SPEAKER_05 (33:13):
Right.
So it's going back and forth,and then Faith is like, oh my
god, so I have so many friendswho think Eric just like stops
the world from rotating becausethey think he's so fine.
And I have friends that arelike, oh my god, if you ever get
to meet him, please, please,I'll do your hair, I'll do your
makeup, whatever, you know.
(33:34):
And I'm like, he's a person justlike me, he's a person just like
her, right?
But so she's messaging him, Igotta pray for my dad, I gotta
bring my dad.
And he's like, Oh, of course,I'll help you.
So they're, you know, but still,I mean, this guy is fantastic.
We've never really had a famousperson that wasn't just like,
they're awesome, they're reallynice, sweet people.
(33:55):
There's some that, you know,have been fantastic more than
others, but they're all great.
I just have to tell you, like, Idon't care what kind of days
you're having.
If you Google Muxticky and youlisten to his music and you
don't laugh, something's goingon.
Right.
Right?
Like you see him laying in thebed, and all of a sudden he was
(34:15):
like, I think I should a littlewhen I thought it.
Like, it's just hilarious.
I mean, hilarious.
He's downright hysterical.
And, you know, how to tellsomebody to F off, right?
And it I I literally, I I usedto listen to that on repeat
because it's it's hilarious.
I mean, it's not kidappropriate, but these kids
(34:37):
these days say worse.
SPEAKER_00 (34:38):
Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_05 (34:39):
But it's just downright funny.
And so if you need a good laughor whatever, he he's just where
you need to go.
Like he is the new version ofwhere it al yeah, yeah, but
mixed with a little dice play, Iguess.
That's what you're gonna say.
It's a good combination, right?
I love the way he dresses, Ilove the big glasses, I love the
funky hats.
(34:59):
I'm I'm jealous of the pajamapants, you know.
Like I just think it's awesome.
It's awesome.
Did you hear your dad?
Oh, yeah, he was like, I hopeFaith and Let's Sticky don't get
together and write a bad songabout pranking me.
SPEAKER_01 (35:15):
No, Faith.
No.
SPEAKER_05 (35:18):
That's awesome.
All right, guys.
Well, thank you for tuning in,and we will get all this stuff
straightened out.
Please, you know, you neverknow.
Please get your stuff in orderbecause you never know.
We didn't expect that phone callout of nowhere that just said,
out of nowhere, she just passed.
And so, you know, I know peopleare like, oh, I could do it next
(35:40):
week or next month, but youcan't because you don't know,
because you don't know what'sgoing on in life.
And if you really care aboutanybody in your life and you
want to make sure that they'retaken care of and you want to
take the burden off of them,because for the most part, for
the most part, with most people,they're already gonna be in a
mourning, they're gonna be, youknow, devastated at the loss of
(36:02):
a loved one for the most part.
I mean, there's some people outthere, they're gonna say good
riddance, and nobody's gonnawant to claim them or you know,
whatever.
Um, and then what do you do withtheir body in ashes?
But that's a totally differentconversation.
And you need to have your stuffin order, right?
It's just simple.
If you get up and do anything,do this.
(36:23):
Get your stuff in order.
SPEAKER_01 (36:26):
Good night, y'all.
Thank you for listening toPotato Smile Unstoppable with
Victoria and Michael, Stucco andRusty, and of course, Faith, the
PETA.
SPEAKER_03 (36:36):
You did not call her a PETA.
That's it.
Uh don't call her a PETA.
Apologize.
SPEAKER_01 (36:41):
Stop recording.
SPEAKER_03 (36:42):
Don't call her a PETA.
SPEAKER_01 (36:43):
She's my little PETA.
SPEAKER_03 (36:44):
No, apologize.
SPEAKER_01 (36:45):
Okay, I'm sorry.
She's not a PETA.
She's a Pima.
SPEAKER_05 (36:48):
What's a Pima?
SPEAKER_01 (36:50):
A pain in my ass.
SPEAKER_05 (36:52):
You know what?
SPEAKER_00 (36:54):
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