July 21, 2025 • 40 mins
The scars of domestic violence often remain long after the abuse ends. Victoria's story reveals the staggering physical toll—over 120 surgeries in nearly two decades with more to come—including an upcoming radical ear procedure that will leave her completely deaf in one ear. Yet despite never experiencing a pain-free day in almost twenty years, her positivity remains unshaken.
"If anyone has the reason to be like, screw the world, screw everybody in it...it would be me," Victoria acknowledges. "But I'm not going to let that piece of crap win." This defiant statement encapsulates the extraordinary resilience that defines her journey from victim to advocate.
The podcast delves into powerful moments of maternal protection, like when Victoria's "tiger mom" instinct emerged after her abuser threatened their unborn child. Though she typically remained silent to avoid further violence, this threat awakened something fierce within her. This protective instinct ultimately gave her the strength to escape and rebuild her life.
Victoria passionately challenges the excuse that abusers behave as they do because of difficult childhoods. "Because somebody had a bad childhood, that doesn't mean it's okay to make your spouse your playground for violence," she asserts, noting that many people with challenging upbringings—including herself and her husband—choose to break cycles of abuse rather than perpetuate them.
Today, Victoria and her husband have transformed their painful experiences into purpose by creating an academy with resources for domestic violence survivors and special needs families. Their message to those still suffering resonates with hard-earned wisdom: "You are one hell of a warrior...we're going to help you heal, and we are going to be with you every step of the way."
Join our community at ContagiousSmile.com where you'll find resources, support, and proof that healing isn't just possible—thriving is too.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Good evening and welcome to another episode of a
contagious smile unstoppable.
My incredibly sexy husband isover here diligently playing
around on the phone which we'renot supposed to be doing while
recording.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
How do y'all do that?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Why do I do what Tattle?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Yes, you rat me out.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Because you're not supposed to be playing with the
phone.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I'm texting our DJ.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Uh-huh, spinderella, cut it up on time.
My husband hates when I rap.
He hates it, hates it, hates it.
So webinar is behind us.
How do you think it went?
Speaker 2 (00:45):
It went outstanding.
I could say there were some,you know, speakers that could
have done a little bitdifferently, if I can say that
generically, because you know wedo strive to advocate for
domestic violence survivors andthose currently going through.
(01:05):
And then you know special needsfamilies and we want you to put
your business out there, wewant you to put in your plugs,
but you know some people justneed to stay out of left field
and stay on track.
But we're glad to the I don'tknow, as uh keelan said, 300
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million plus that listen andthat's his goal for the years.
Oh, that's his okay, okay yeahwell, we were probably what 150
shy of that.
Dylan was awesome.
I really enjoyed him.
He was amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I could just sit there and listen to him.
Like his stories.
He's a great storyteller, youdon't need a room.
Stop it, just listening to him,and he has so much passion when
he talks.
And he's just that's what theysay about you, I know.
And he's just that's what theysay about you.
Oh, I got so much feedbackabout my closing of the webinar
(02:11):
when I was like, oh, fire, I, Ihad like no filter, apparently,
you know, and people weresurprised to see that side of me
, I guess.
Um, when I was like, hey, thisneeds to be said, so I'm gonna
say it, and I think people werequite shocked at it.
But you know, at the end of theday, you gotta say what you
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have to say.
And I want these beautifulpeople that are going through
hell literally to know that theyare so much better than they
give themselves credit for andthey think of themselves in such
a degrading manner because theyheard it every single day, or
they're still hearing it everysingle day, and because of that
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they find themselves in such aderogatory self-reflection, if
you will, where they just feellike they'll never do better,
they'll never find better,they're worthless, they're ugly,
they're fat, they're scarred,they're dismembered.
I mean, you know everythingunder the sun, it's all
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derogatory.
Well, you know what?
You are one hell of a warriorand you look at that cowardly
piece of shit and realize thatat the end of the day, you're
gonna heal because we're gonnahelp you heal and heal, heal and
we are going to be with youevery step of the way.
And at the end of the day,those pieces of shit are still
those pieces of shit.
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So, and I think people were kindof surprised that I was just
like you are not a man, you area coward and like you know to
phrase one person who wrote tome, I thought it was hilarious.
She's like I really hope thatthis does not offend you, but
you had that GI Jane moment tome when I was listening, where I
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was cheering you on, and youhad that like epiphany moment
where GI Jane turned around andsaid, lieutenant, suck my leg.
And she was like that was howit was for me, when you were
like you're not a man, you're acoward, and I was like no
offense taken, thanks.
That was awesome, that's agreat, you know, thanks.
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But I wasn't always like that.
Never in the beginning was Ilike that, and I want people to
see that they can get there too,that they absolutely can get
there as well so you know ifthey think it's just for show,
you know because you're behindthe microphone oh no no, oh no.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
y'all go to amazon and pick up who kickedicked
First by Victoria Curie, andyou'll see that this woman was
not the woman just behind themicrophone.
She was not, you know,portraying someone who has not
been on the front lines.
She was there.
She stood up for the monster.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Well, it's not just that.
But then I, you know, becauseof the NDA I signed I can't give
specifics, specifics but I tookon the military and we won.
We went and um fought for therights of termination and won,
and so it was its own battle,its own war, if you will, and it
lasted a very, very long time.
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And you know, I have so manypeople that are just like how
are you so positive witheverything that you go through?
I got that a lot as well, andcomments, and it was look, I was
told I was going to die.
I mean, the last time I was putin the ICU I was throwing up
just green stomach vial.
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I was told I wasn't going tomake it.
One minute I'm freezing, thenext minute I'm burning up.
I was in premature labor.
They couldn't stop thecontractions.
You know I was disfigured anddismembered.
I totally didn't even look likeme.
You know I had multiple,multiple breaks and fractures
and dislocations and you knowtears in places that you
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shouldn't ever be torn and allof these things.
And it was horrific.
But I still felt my baby.
I still felt her kicking andI'm not a quitter and I'm not
going to give up.
And then what?
Like my fear was that he wouldhave gotten her and that wasn't
going to happen, like it wasn'tgoing to happen.
So you know, and then all Iever wanted in my life was you
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and her.
And now I have it.
And so you have to fight forwhat you want, and I don't mean
fight as in put up your dukesand get into it, whatever, but
you have to realize that you areworth living.
You are, you know and sure.
Did I ever try to contemplatesuicide?
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I never attempted it, but Iwould be lying if I told you I
didn't think about it.
You know, there were plenty oftimes where I laid on the
bathroom floors that was theonly cold thing I was allowed to
have on my face and thought ifI died, the pain would stop.
But then I thought that isincredibly selfish, because
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that's the easy way out.
And then what happens to faith?
Right, I would never get to seeyou again, and I thought about
you every single day during thisperiod.
But it was literally like howcan I just give up and throw in
the towel, that easy?
And then he went, and I'll bedamned if I'm gonna let that
happen.
So you know, I couldn't justpick myself up.
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I hopped up, you know, and hadto dust myself off and go day by
day, literally, and you knowpeople are very shocked when I
say I own what I did.
I, yes, I gave him permissionto have extramarital affairs
because he wasn't home beatingme and people don't understand
why I would say it's okay forhim to do that.
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And then, on top of it, um, Iprolonged surgeries that I
needed because my first prioritywas her and if it wasn't life
threatening, then they had towait.
Like, I needed shoulder surgerybut I needed to be bedside with
my child, so I dealt with ashoulder that just kept
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dislocating until I could get itfixed and I'd have to have it
set and then be in a sling andyou know the cycle went on and
on.
So, yes, that exacerbated myinjuries, yes, and I knew that.
But any decent person who caresand loves their kids is going
to be there first.
And so now we're still dealingwith stuff and I I want to, for
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the next at least few weeks,keep reminding people, and this
time I want you to do it becauseit's still very fresh.
It's still very hard for me toexplain what's coming, like I go
and look like, for instance,you go to Facebook and you look
at memories constantly.
No kidding, all I ever see isplease pray for my family as I
head back for surgery.
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And it's constant, like youliterally look at a calendar,
365 days, and if you break up,I've had well over, well over
120 surgeries now it's all.
It's literally like every thirdday.
Seriously, and that'sridiculous.
And I have another huge onecoming up and it's affecting my
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speech and for the next fewweeks.
I want to apologize in advancebecause it's not something I can
control or deal with.
Um, and this is really kind ofthe first time we're publicly
talking about it.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
So I'm going to ask my husband to do this one,
because it's still very hard forme to come forward with it so,
basically, y'all, from the abusethat she suffered under that
POS, she has massive damage toher ears, her ear canal, her
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eardrums, and it's gotten to thepoint where she's, I believe,
99% deaf.
In her right ear she hasinfections and it's caused a lot
of of issues.
She eardrum is like she cannotwear her hearing aids because,
uh, the fact that she cannot,you know, hear out of one side
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and then it throws her off.
She's already off balance, youknow, because of the loss of her
arm, which you know weattribute to the pos also.
But, um, they wanted to installa cochlear implant, you know,
um, in her, in her head,basically after they do another
surgery but for now they'regoing to what I call corn out
(10:38):
her ear.
They're going to scoop outeverything inside her ear and
it's just going to be just a youknow, hollow tube, I guess you
take out the eardrum, you won'tbe able to hear anything?
Speaker 1 (10:53):
uh, you know, without that cochlear implant which the
insurance won't pay for, it'sonly 300 grand right for one and
I actually need two, um, but,yeah, interns won't cover it and
, uh, the scary thing is is thatit's a radical surgery and they
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have warned me of the remotepossibility of nicking the
facial nerve.
Um, and what that can cause,and they will, literally.
The best analogy is isbasically like the piece of art
or a picture on the wall thatyou like to look at, but other
than it being there and it'sdecorative it serves no physical
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purpose.
It doesn't do things for you,like our ear, hears for us and,
and you know, warns us of things, and yada, yada.
Well, see, and then this willprohibit me from being able to
do that they will take out myeardrum.
It's either a stitch down or asew down or something on what
they called it.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Tear down.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
What.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
I think it was called tear down.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
And I know one thing it will not prevent.
It will not prevent yourhusband from nibbling on your
ear.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Oh Lord, help me.
And so and I won't even be ableto hear sounds at all on this
and the testing for this is veryintense and it was depressing
in a way because like they cameback and said, did you even hear
their the man talking?
And I was like what man talking?
And they do it with hearingaids in and they do it without,
and they do it with noise, theydo it without and, and it's
supposed to be like a 90 minutetest and I flew through it and
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they were like, yeah, you got azero, and then on the other side
you got like next to none.
And so my other side right nowis I think I'm at 88 to 90
percent in that ear, which isgreat when you don't want to
hear certain people in your lifeand you can just turn that side
to them and say, go ahead, talkaway.
Nobody in this house, by theway, not in our home, but I have
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to admit I am guilty of that.
No, I would never do that toy'all.
But our home it is our home yousaid house well, I fixed it.
But yes, it does impact myspeech and I asked my surgeon,
who is a specialist in this, andhe said that, um, like Marlee
Matlin, who I absolutely havethe most utmost respect for, if
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you hear her talk, you know shecan talk, but her words sound
different and I have been, uh,saying wrong names and wrong
words and it's because I'mhearing things like he might say
clue and I think he says blue.
Or I interviewed the mostamazing gentleman and his name
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is Kurt Warner and he wasamazing.
I mean, what a gentleman.
He is just a nice guy who hassuch a warrior story.
I'm reading his book right nowand it is eye-opening, it.
He's great.
And I had to apologizeimmensely to him because I
thought he said kurt wagner andI wrote it out as such and I
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felt horrible because, know, ayear ago or six months ago I
would never have done that.
And I apologized immensely tohim because I, honest to God,
thought he said Wagner and itwas Warner.
So I went back and fixed it all.
But there are times that nowthat they say it's going to
affect my speech more and moreand like when people go deaf,
their speech becomes different.
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Like when people go deaf, theirspeech becomes different, and
so that's really hard, I mean.
And it's really hard becauseyou know, I had a master's in
sign language and like now Ionly have one hand.
So this really just, you knowand people don't understand and
you know I get it.
You had a bad day at work,somebody cut you off on the way
home, you didn't get the outfityou wanted at the store or
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whatever, and you want to getpissy and blah, blah, whatever
the case may be.
But you know what I have toplug in and plug up and charge
up on an almost nightly basisand I feel like a hollowed out
pumpkin.
I have more prosthetic partsthan I do human parts.
That's what it feels like atthis point and and it's
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frustrating, it is.
But at the end of the day, Ihave my soulmate, the love of my
life.
I have my amazing daughter, whois my everything, and all the
rest of it is just crap.
Are you going to let hold youdown?
Are you going to say you knowwhat?
I survived all this and now I'mthriving.
And there's a big difference.
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You can let it hold you down oryou can get up and push it to
the side and keep going.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
So a lot of y'all know that I was 13 and a half
years in law enforcement.
One of my jobs I worked insidethe jail as a sheriff's deputy
and I took care of the inmates.
Now, each pod that I had tocover there were four of them
housed approximately 50 inmates,all right, so we got a couple
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hundred inmates in there.
Now, if you've been in jail,you can attest to this.
If you have not, then justlisten up.
They have their own societyinside the jail.
Okay, when I go inside there,yes, I am an enforcer, I am a
presence.
There are rules that they haveto follow.
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But what happened to me was Ibecame desensitized because the
inmates in there only understooda few things.
That was yelling and cursingokay, and a show of force.
That was yelling and cursing,okay, and a show of force Okay,
if you show them that you werenot scared of them, that you get
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right up there in their face,they gave you respect.
Okay, they didn't understand.
Sir, can you please sit down?
No, it was, you know, gary, sitdown, okay, and you're yelling
at them.
They understood that.
Ok, that's the society.
So I became desensitized.
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Ok, I became mean without merealizing it, and I brought this
home, I brought this to myhouse, around, you know, the
wife that I had then and thechildren, and little did I know
I was, I was yelling at them, um, and I'm saying all this
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because I didn't let that get tome.
Now, you know, my wife stood upto a monster and said I'm not
going to let you ruin the restof my life, I'm not going to be
like you, I'm not going to havehate in my heart.
And she chose that.
I can't imagine the willpowerit took to do that, to do what
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you did.
You know you did it for lovefor our daughter at that time,
our unborn daughter.
You know you did it for lovefor our daughter at that time,
our unborn daughter.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Ok, and it must have been the hardest thing in the
world.
It was also the loneliest I canimagine.
It really was, and I alwaystalk about my grandparents, but
I prayed to them every day,every night, I prayed for you.
I constantly kept saying you,you know, my husband does this
thing on my face, where he likerubs in a certain way with his
hand, and I would try to emulatethat.
I would try to react that,reenact that, and I couldn't do
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it and it was just because itwasn't you and I only talked
about.
I've gotten asked a few timesdid I ever talk back to him?
I asked a few times.
Did I ever talk back to him?
I did a few times.
I did a few times and knowingme and people who know me are
shocked that I only did it a fewtimes.
He openly admitted that hewould have never hit me if I
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wasn't pregnant because he knewI wouldn't have stood for it and
I would have fought him backphysically and that is true.
I did talk back to him a coupleof times.
He brought out that tigeringmom.
Uh, he would show up in myoffice and I was in the
corporate world and I had thecorner office and and he would
show up in the receptionistwould try to, you know, buzz
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back to let my assistant knowthat he was on the way and and
even though nobody knew, theycould tell because I always wore
my hair a certain way, it was,you know, in the middle of the
summer and I'm wearingturtlenecks to cover up my
bruising um, and I was veryskittish, and he would just show
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up to make sure that my deskwas organized like it was
supposed to be.
In regards to his pictures hadto be placed where people could
see them, and it was stupid.
And then he made a comment whenhe walked in and I was in a
meeting with an older executiveand he went ballistic.
My office is all glass and hewent nuts as to why I had the
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door shut, with another man inthe room and there's a big desk
between us, and this guy was oldenough to be my father, really.
And so he made the comment thatif and I don't know the whole
reason, how it came up, but hemade the comment that if Faith
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so much as dropped her pacifier,that if Faith so much as
dropped her pacifier when, afteryou know, she was born, and she
dropped the pacifier, he wouldbeat her.
And it was like I can't evenbegin to explain it.
It was a whole different, likefrom the inside.
That just came out of me like araging, raging, tigering mom
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and I advised him I had ameeting to go to and that I was
going to walk him out.
I took him to the elevators andhe hated it because I had
executive parking in thebuilding so he couldn't see if I
was there or not, but he alwaysmade me call caller id and all
this stupid ridiculouscontrolling crap.
So I was over seven months andI got in the elevator.
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I waited till the door shut andI told him basically what would
happen if he ever put his handson her.
And that was the first timethat I really like let him know
I wasn't kidding.
And he just I mean, it was awhole different, because I think
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that's really the first tigermom moment where it got to that
point.
Um, but another one is I, I madea comment, um about him being
in the military and he broke mynose because of it.
Um, about him being in themilitary and he broke my nose
because of it.
But, um, he would alwayscompare you, he'd always mention
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you and he hated you becausewhen he first met you, you told
him that he was getting such agood person and that you screwed
up and I'm not trying to hashthat, but, um and that he better
always treat me right.
And it was just like he wouldalways ask why do you have this
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place for him?
Why is?
Why is he so much better thanme?
And you know, he would ask mequestions that show.
Now, now I could see, um, howinsecure and that's very common
these guys act like Billy badassbecause they're so insecure
with themselves.
Like you know, we didn't.
We weren't intimate togetheruntil after we were.
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He and I were, you know,legally bound and we were only
intimate, like with permission,only a couple of times.
The rest was forced.
And so he would ask who is thebetter lover?
He would ask and we all know Idon't lie, well, and I made the
mistake of just flat out tellingthe truth, and you know I mean.
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The point is is that thesepeople and I don't want to hear,
I hear it at least five or sixtimes a week Well, they had a
bad childhood.
This is something I hear allthe time and I just want to
address this for a minutebecause, yes, they, they had a
bad childhood.
But you know what, babe?
You had a bad, not the bestchildhood.
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I didn't have the bestchildhood, excluding my
grandparents.
And that didn't mean that we'regoing to get up and raise our
hand to our kids, because wenever would ever and we would go
through hell and high water forour kids, and I know that, you
know that.
But the thing is, becausesomebody says, oh, they had a
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bad childhood, that doesn't meanthat it's okay to make your
spouse your playground forviolence.
It's not.
It's not okay.
And you know they have.
They are an adult, at leastphysically, and they have the
right to make decisions of theirown.
They made a decision to make ityes or no, answer on a job, or
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yes or no, I want this car orthis place to be domicile or
whatever the case may be.
They made these decisions andyou could say I'm going to break
the cycle, I'm going to stopthis from happening.
I don't want my children tospend the adulthood recovering
from their childhood Right.
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I can't imagine looking in mydaughter's eyes as someone I
can't even say it he tried totake her life and she's staring
at him when he's doing it.
I can't fathom how somebodycould do that and be looking in
a baby's face a baby's eyes,right, it makes me so angry.
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A baby's eyes, right, it makesme so angry and just say, well,
they had a bad childhood.
They chose to get out of bedthis morning.
They chose to go to work, theychose the car they're getting
into, they chose the job thatthey took.
Right, so you can make aintelligent decision and decide
hey, instead of being abusiveand you call yourself a man, how
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about this?
Be a man and instead of takingout your aggression on your
spouse and your kids, walk away.
Then I will tell you thatyou're a man.
If you want to take out youraggression and you want to be a
bully, you're a coward.
I'll say it all day long and Ican get hate mail about it, and
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that's fine.
But the people who are givingme hate mail, I guarantee, fall
into that category, because ifanyone has the right to be the
nastiest, downright depressed,miserable person, I'm sorry,
sorry, but I really hope myhusband speaks up and says
something here.
It would be me.
I mean, there has not been oneday in the last almost two
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decades that I have been painfree.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
She wakes up every day in pain.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
She goes to bed in pain.
And I have never ever.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
I've never no hydro.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
I don't even get a prescription I don't even get a
film, not even anesthetic.
I mean, we don't even do thelike.
I don't even get a script aftersurgery because I'm not going
to.
My daughter needs me, myhusband needs me why?
Speaker 2 (26:10):
because one, she's a badass tough cookie.
Um, she's got a high tolerancefor pain.
I guess, one you're a naturalredhead and two that monster
kind of.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
It's kind of like you know, the judge did a great
thing and said what happened ifyou hit her?
An idiot would say I'd hit heragain If she cried.
I'd hit her again If I stabbedher and she cried, I'd stab her
again.
And he said you basicallytrained her like an alcoholic.
So an alcoholic knows what youhave to drink in order to stay
at that level.
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If they really want to getdrunk more than normal, they
have to do more.
So you've trained her to takeyour hand, and that's true.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
But it doesn't make it right.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
It absolutely doesn't make it right.
It absolutely doesn't make itright.
So that was.
The thing is that if anybodyhas the reason to be like, screw
the world, screw everybody init, I don't care about nobody or
nothing.
I'm just going to sit in acorner and not do anything, yet
alone advocate, help others anddo whatever they can, but I'm
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not going to let that piece ofcrap win and I'm just not.
You know, I, that's not who Iam and that's not what I am
about.
And for people to say, well, Ijust had a bad upbringing, so it
makes it okay that I push mywife around and beat my kids, no
, it doesn't.
No, it doesn't it.
No, it doesn't, it does not.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
And for those y'all who see a neighbor being abused
you know what's going on.
You see your coworker.
Why don't you say something?
Things like this have aprolonged effect on the
individual.
Look at my wife.
It's been almost 20 years andshe's still having surgery for
the stupid shit he did to her.
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Because he was such a coward hehad to go and fight and beat up
a woman.
A pregnant woman.
Not that all women are, youknow, wimps or you know they're
not tough.
My wife is badass.
Okay, there's no way most of usmen could go through what she
(28:25):
did and, you know, come out aspositive as she is.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
So Well, and then that's why you know we this kind
of took us all around MulberryBush to the academy.
You know we've launched thisacademy.
All around Mulberry Bush to theacademy.
You know we've launched thisacademy, which is what we did
the webinar to talk about.
And when you go on there, thereis stuff for everybody and
there is stuff on how to whatare you doing?
Speaker 2 (28:50):
I'm sorry, my husband just took the duster, the
feather duster, on my sweet baby.
I was dusting our dog.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
He's dusty, he's not dusty, dusty.
Okay, but you go in there tothe academy.
There's all these beautifulcourses that help for free you
join for free.
The classes are incrediblyaffordable.
If you can't afford them, letus know.
You know we also do takedonations to help um offset the
cost, which is, you know,something we're trying to make
(29:20):
sure everybody can afford.
So you just go in there,there's stuff for everybody.
And then we have our stuccosquad and there's so many fun
classes.
I just finished the class.
Take it away, stucco.
And it's all about stuccoteaching subtraction.
Get it, take it away, yeah, andI thought it's so cute.
And like stucco is like who ate.
Get it.
Take it away, yeah, and Ithought it's so cute.
And like Stucco is like who atemy cookies.
(29:40):
And he's talking to the classand the class was looking for
his cookies and he had fivecookies and now he doesn't have
five cookies.
He only has two cookies.
So where are the missing three?
And it's so much fun and it'sadventurous and the kids learn
differently and this is how theycan learn and it's it's just a
(30:01):
bonding experience for theparent and child and it makes
them feel so good aboutthemselves, because that's the
number one goal is for thesekids to see how amazing they are
now bear with me, y'all oh,lord, are you gonna talk about
business?
Speaker 2 (30:10):
we do not hate the gay community no okay support it
completely you know where I'mgoing with this gay community?
No, okay, support it completely.
You know where I'm going withthis?
Speaker 1 (30:22):
yes, because you spoke about the stucco squad and
the book, yes okay, we saw avideo and I'm sure a lot of
people saw it and you know howgrowing up they had the book
abcs and the kids section.
This is a barnes and noble andI have to say I'm very sad about
this.
I I totally support that theyhave a team section of yeah,
this, this, this was a tiktokthis was up for a baby book.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
This is a book and this was day bcs it's not abcs
it's gay right, but the peoplewho were filming the video said
we are gay ourselves yes butthis is too much yeah, they
opened the book and a was forarrow and b is for buy.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
And when you're a little tiny, baby, I mean you're
already putting stuff in theirhead.
I mean they're tiny.
This, this is ridiculous.
You know what happened to?
Like sesame street and thewheels on the bus and you bus
and all that stuff, and nowthat's all gone.
That's just crazy.
I don't know.
(31:24):
Yeah, I don't know.
It's just crazy.
So you're not going to talkabout Business Life as I'm
scratching all my Skeeter bites.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Business Life is a magazine that is currently on
every aircraft that we know ofin the United States Used to be
owned by British Airways.
And guess whom is in that issuethis month?
You, yours truly, victoriaCurie.
You're in it too, from acontagious smile.
(31:53):
You're in it as well, righthere in our little office.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
And then we have those two, so we're up to seven.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
Y'all know whenever we do a podcast, every time we
do a podcast, my wife and I sitright across each other and we
stare at each other throughoutthe entire podcast.
So I see all her quirks.
I see everything she does, youknow, scratching her ankles, or
you know, and here I am, over onmy side, um, I'm just a few
(32:22):
feet apart from her right now,um, but it's awesome to be, you
know, in the presence of thiswoman.
I love her dearly, are you okay?
Yeah, there's too much silenceare you?
okay, yeah, come back to earthare you sure you're all right?
Speaker 1 (32:39):
I also again want to take a moment and derail from
business life, um, even thoughI'm very honored and I thank
them for for this, thank you sam.
Yes, thank you, sam.
Is that, um, the amazing,amazing intro that we had done
(33:03):
beforehand for the podcast,where it talked all about, like,
the speakers and all that?
And that voice, that radiovoice, that was done by joshua,
our friend, our very good friend, who is amazing, who is going
to do his podcast.
He will be releasing it heresometime in the future and we
(33:24):
support him a million percentand when it's up and going, we
want to make sure everybody goesand listens.
He's hilarious, he's funny,he's just a good guy all the way
around, and so we want to thankhim again, even though I'm a
little jealous and a littleupset that my husband announced
his pregnancy to him firstreally you had to do that I did
(33:45):
josh, if you're listening,thanks, buddy.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
Um, yeah, speaking of josh, she is she, uh, he, uh,
she.
He's gonna get me now oh, he isgonna get you now so josh is
just one of many people that myvictoria's has helped in their
social media presence andincreasing their numbers and
helping them podcast, and shehas put on an excellent, I would
(34:12):
say, a master class.
There's more than one grownyour social media followers and
and then how to podcast.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
The first one, the basic one you start with, is
called Podcasting Made Easy.
And then there's the blueprintfor podcasting and you know we
started with zero hero followers, zero, and now we're in the
millions and I literally wrote acourse on how to do it and I
mean we spent thousands ofdollars on how to do it and I
mean we spent thousands ofdollars learning how to do it,
(34:41):
the time, the energy, thecourses, everything else.
And so you're going to learnwhat works and what doesn't,
because we've got it down toalmost a science and I've seen
classes that are thousands ofdollars for this.
I mean crazy, and I've beengetting ridiculed by many people
that the price is not highenough right and and and because
(35:02):
of the popularity right now.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Uh, our price will increase here very soon yes okay
, um, like, like she said, wejust had a big weekend with a
lot of names and it was a great.
I almost said bonanza.
What did you call it?
Marathon?
No, webinar, webinar.
I'm kind of out of it.
(35:24):
I worked hard.
Today I'm on my third glass ofwine Sitting here.
Podcasting Is that your third,third.
Oh yeah, oh, and that's all wehave today.
Folks Love that sexy laugh.
Yes, I told my wife sometimesy'all she's got this 1-900 voice
(35:49):
that she does whatever are youtalking about for this, us old
people who remember those 1-900calls on the back of like
creative loafing or somethingright.
Creative Loafing.
What's that?
Speaker 1 (36:01):
Creative Loafing used to be a magazine or a newspaper
that was all over Atlanta andyou'd pick it up.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Those weren't the type of magazines I read.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Well, I never picked up that smut.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Never.
They had great articles inthere.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
You didn't read a doggone, one of them.
You're trying.
No, you did not, and I knowpeople are laughing because you.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Everybody is commenting.
I hear them right now.
Are you making fun of thehearing?
Michael Hugh Hefner, he washilarious in those articles.
Speaker 1 (36:34):
Hugh Hefner wasn't in the articles.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Ugh.
Lord, you half nerve wasn't inthe articles exactly oh, lord,
but yet you would never share me.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
No, I still won't, I still won't.
You're mine, all mine,possessive, possessive, dang
right.
You know how long it took me toget you.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
Oh, you want this debate not really yeah, I didn't
think so, I did not think so.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
So thank you all for listening to Contagious Smile
Unstoppable.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
How do they get to the Academy?
Speaker 2 (37:06):
You're going to tell them?
No, you are.
They're going to go to ourwebsite at ContagiousSmilecom
and go ahead and finish, becauseyou don't know, I do know.
Okay, then go ahead.
Speaker 1 (37:18):
It's uh mighty network something up in the top
where the header is, it saysdirect link to the academy or
you could go a contagious smileremember, there's two s's for
contagious smile dot m is a maryand is a nancy dot co and you
will be able to get in there andjoin for free.
(37:40):
And the resource library alone.
My husband gave me such griefabout it because the library is
full of stuff and it's not likelittle tidbits we're talking
about, like just each page hasdifferent stuff on it.
And if you have a company orcorporation and you think that
you have a product that canreally help others, reach out to
(38:02):
us and let me know, because wecan put you in there as a
resource as well.
And then also we have anotherthing we're doing for donation,
which is a dedication, and adonation can be even $ five
dollars and that gives a womanwho literally grabbed her kids
for the safety of her life andleft her house to survive.
(38:27):
And we have where you candedicate classes and courses to
individuals, like we have acourse dedicated to alex, who is
my dear friend, debbie gailzane's son that she lost due to
mental illness and drugaddiction, and there is other
(38:48):
courses in there that we'regoing to start dedicating and,
um, it's a really sweet gestureto do for somebody.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
Yeah and be sure to um go back to amazon and pick up
my wife's first book, whokicked first?
Speaker 1 (39:02):
stucco is saying hello.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
She has a prequel to it, also called nart nart.
Who's there?
Just type in victoria curey anduh, google or bing y'all.
She's everywhere you want acameo.
She does that.
Pod stars, pod stars, yep, imbd.
Y'all need to check this out.
Thank you really appreciate me.
I do appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (39:25):
I give you breakfast every day in bed oh my god, you
give me an endo and it's time togo and go.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
We are off the air.
Oh uh, hit, end.
Stop recording Frozen waffle.
They're going to hear this.
Hit the button, stucco.
Speaker 1 (39:43):
Hit the mouse, the mouse Stucco.
Say hi.
Everybody Say hi, I'm Stuccofrom Stucco Squad.
Yes, you're a good boy, he'sactually.
He's actually kissing themicrophone.
Thank y'all for listening youcan go bowling, we'll see y'all
(40:03):
again.
Speaker 2 (40:05):
Reach out to us.
Good evening and welcome to another episode of a
contagious smile unstoppable.
My incredibly sexy husband isover here diligently playing
around on the phone which we'renot supposed to be doing while
recording.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
How do y'all do that?
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Why do I do what Tattle?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Yes, you rat me out.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Because you're not supposed to be playing with the
phone.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
I'm texting our DJ.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Uh-huh, spinderella, cut it up on time.
My husband hates when I rap.
He hates it, hates it, hates it.
So webinar is behind us.
How do you think it went?
Speaker 2 (00:45):
It went outstanding.
I could say there were some,you know, speakers that could
have done a little bitdifferently, if I can say that
generically, because you know wedo strive to advocate for
domestic violence survivors andthose currently going through.
(01:05):
And then you know special needsfamilies and we want you to put
your business out there, wewant you to put in your plugs,
but you know some people justneed to stay out of left field
and stay on track.
But we're glad to the I don'tknow, as uh keelan said, 300
(01:29):
million plus that listen andthat's his goal for the years.
Oh, that's his okay, okay yeahwell, we were probably what 150
shy of that.
Dylan was awesome.
I really enjoyed him.
He was amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I could just sit there and listen to him.
Like his stories.
He's a great storyteller, youdon't need a room.
Stop it, just listening to him,and he has so much passion when
he talks.
And he's just that's what theysay about you, I know.
And he's just that's what theysay about you.
Oh, I got so much feedbackabout my closing of the webinar
(02:11):
when I was like, oh, fire, I, Ihad like no filter, apparently,
you know, and people weresurprised to see that side of me
, I guess.
Um, when I was like, hey, thisneeds to be said, so I'm gonna
say it, and I think people werequite shocked at it.
But you know, at the end of theday, you gotta say what you
(02:34):
have to say.
And I want these beautifulpeople that are going through
hell literally to know that theyare so much better than they
give themselves credit for andthey think of themselves in such
a degrading manner because theyheard it every single day, or
they're still hearing it everysingle day, and because of that
(02:57):
they find themselves in such aderogatory self-reflection, if
you will, where they just feellike they'll never do better,
they'll never find better,they're worthless, they're ugly,
they're fat, they're scarred,they're dismembered.
I mean, you know everythingunder the sun, it's all
(03:17):
derogatory.
Well, you know what?
You are one hell of a warriorand you look at that cowardly
piece of shit and realize thatat the end of the day, you're
gonna heal because we're gonnahelp you heal and heal, heal and
we are going to be with youevery step of the way.
And at the end of the day,those pieces of shit are still
those pieces of shit.
(03:37):
So, and I think people were kindof surprised that I was just
like you are not a man, you area coward and like you know to
phrase one person who wrote tome, I thought it was hilarious.
She's like I really hope thatthis does not offend you, but
you had that GI Jane moment tome when I was listening, where I
(03:59):
was cheering you on, and youhad that like epiphany moment
where GI Jane turned around andsaid, lieutenant, suck my leg.
And she was like that was howit was for me, when you were
like you're not a man, you're acoward, and I was like no
offense taken, thanks.
That was awesome, that's agreat, you know, thanks.
(04:21):
But I wasn't always like that.
Never in the beginning was Ilike that, and I want people to
see that they can get there too,that they absolutely can get
there as well so you know ifthey think it's just for show,
you know because you're behindthe microphone oh no no, oh no.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
y'all go to amazon and pick up who kickedicked
First by Victoria Curie, andyou'll see that this woman was
not the woman just behind themicrophone.
She was not, you know,portraying someone who has not
been on the front lines.
She was there.
She stood up for the monster.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Well, it's not just that.
But then I, you know, becauseof the NDA I signed I can't give
specifics, specifics but I tookon the military and we won.
We went and um fought for therights of termination and won,
and so it was its own battle,its own war, if you will, and it
lasted a very, very long time.
(05:20):
And you know, I have so manypeople that are just like how
are you so positive witheverything that you go through?
I got that a lot as well, andcomments, and it was look, I was
told I was going to die.
I mean, the last time I was putin the ICU I was throwing up
just green stomach vial.
(05:42):
I was told I wasn't going tomake it.
One minute I'm freezing, thenext minute I'm burning up.
I was in premature labor.
They couldn't stop thecontractions.
You know I was disfigured anddismembered.
I totally didn't even look likeme.
You know I had multiple,multiple breaks and fractures
and dislocations and you knowtears in places that you
(06:03):
shouldn't ever be torn and allof these things.
And it was horrific.
But I still felt my baby.
I still felt her kicking andI'm not a quitter and I'm not
going to give up.
And then what?
Like my fear was that he wouldhave gotten her and that wasn't
going to happen, like it wasn'tgoing to happen.
So you know, and then all Iever wanted in my life was you
(06:29):
and her.
And now I have it.
And so you have to fight forwhat you want, and I don't mean
fight as in put up your dukesand get into it, whatever, but
you have to realize that you areworth living.
You are, you know and sure.
Did I ever try to contemplatesuicide?
(06:49):
I never attempted it, but Iwould be lying if I told you I
didn't think about it.
You know, there were plenty oftimes where I laid on the
bathroom floors that was theonly cold thing I was allowed to
have on my face and thought ifI died, the pain would stop.
But then I thought that isincredibly selfish, because
(07:10):
that's the easy way out.
And then what happens to faith?
Right, I would never get to seeyou again, and I thought about
you every single day during thisperiod.
But it was literally like howcan I just give up and throw in
the towel, that easy?
And then he went, and I'll bedamned if I'm gonna let that
happen.
So you know, I couldn't justpick myself up.
(07:34):
I hopped up, you know, and hadto dust myself off and go day by
day, literally, and you knowpeople are very shocked when I
say I own what I did.
I, yes, I gave him permissionto have extramarital affairs
because he wasn't home beatingme and people don't understand
why I would say it's okay forhim to do that.
(07:54):
And then, on top of it, um, Iprolonged surgeries that I
needed because my first prioritywas her and if it wasn't life
threatening, then they had towait.
Like, I needed shoulder surgerybut I needed to be bedside with
my child, so I dealt with ashoulder that just kept
(08:17):
dislocating until I could get itfixed and I'd have to have it
set and then be in a sling andyou know the cycle went on and
on.
So, yes, that exacerbated myinjuries, yes, and I knew that.
But any decent person who caresand loves their kids is going
to be there first.
And so now we're still dealingwith stuff and I I want to, for
(08:40):
the next at least few weeks,keep reminding people, and this
time I want you to do it becauseit's still very fresh.
It's still very hard for me toexplain what's coming, like I go
and look like, for instance,you go to Facebook and you look
at memories constantly.
No kidding, all I ever see isplease pray for my family as I
head back for surgery.
(09:00):
And it's constant, like youliterally look at a calendar,
365 days, and if you break up,I've had well over, well over
120 surgeries now it's all.
It's literally like every thirdday.
Seriously, and that'sridiculous.
And I have another huge onecoming up and it's affecting my
(09:20):
speech and for the next fewweeks.
I want to apologize in advancebecause it's not something I can
control or deal with.
Um, and this is really kind ofthe first time we're publicly
talking about it.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
So I'm going to ask my husband to do this one,
because it's still very hard forme to come forward with it so,
basically, y'all, from the abusethat she suffered under that
POS, she has massive damage toher ears, her ear canal, her
(09:53):
eardrums, and it's gotten to thepoint where she's, I believe,
99% deaf.
In her right ear she hasinfections and it's caused a lot
of of issues.
She eardrum is like she cannotwear her hearing aids because,
uh, the fact that she cannot,you know, hear out of one side
(10:14):
and then it throws her off.
She's already off balance, youknow, because of the loss of her
arm, which you know weattribute to the pos also.
But, um, they wanted to installa cochlear implant, you know,
um, in her, in her head,basically after they do another
surgery but for now they'regoing to what I call corn out
(10:38):
her ear.
They're going to scoop outeverything inside her ear and
it's just going to be just a youknow, hollow tube, I guess you
take out the eardrum, you won'tbe able to hear anything?
Speaker 1 (10:53):
uh, you know, without that cochlear implant which the
insurance won't pay for, it'sonly 300 grand right for one and
I actually need two, um, but,yeah, interns won't cover it and
, uh, the scary thing is is thatit's a radical surgery and they
(11:14):
have warned me of the remotepossibility of nicking the
facial nerve.
Um, and what that can cause,and they will, literally.
The best analogy is isbasically like the piece of art
or a picture on the wall thatyou like to look at, but other
than it being there and it'sdecorative it serves no physical
(11:35):
purpose.
It doesn't do things for you,like our ear, hears for us and,
and you know, warns us of things, and yada, yada.
Well, see, and then this willprohibit me from being able to
do that they will take out myeardrum.
It's either a stitch down or asew down or something on what
they called it.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Tear down.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
What.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
I think it was called tear down.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
And I know one thing it will not prevent.
It will not prevent yourhusband from nibbling on your
ear.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Oh Lord, help me.
And so and I won't even be ableto hear sounds at all on this
and the testing for this is veryintense and it was depressing
in a way because like they cameback and said, did you even hear
their the man talking?
And I was like what man talking?
And they do it with hearingaids in and they do it without,
and they do it with noise, theydo it without and, and it's
supposed to be like a 90 minutetest and I flew through it and
(12:29):
they were like, yeah, you got azero, and then on the other side
you got like next to none.
And so my other side right nowis I think I'm at 88 to 90
percent in that ear, which isgreat when you don't want to
hear certain people in your lifeand you can just turn that side
to them and say, go ahead, talkaway.
Nobody in this house, by theway, not in our home, but I have
(12:50):
to admit I am guilty of that.
No, I would never do that toy'all.
But our home it is our home yousaid house well, I fixed it.
But yes, it does impact myspeech and I asked my surgeon,
who is a specialist in this, andhe said that, um, like Marlee
Matlin, who I absolutely havethe most utmost respect for, if
(13:14):
you hear her talk, you know shecan talk, but her words sound
different and I have been, uh,saying wrong names and wrong
words and it's because I'mhearing things like he might say
clue and I think he says blue.
Or I interviewed the mostamazing gentleman and his name
(13:35):
is Kurt Warner and he wasamazing.
I mean, what a gentleman.
He is just a nice guy who hassuch a warrior story.
I'm reading his book right nowand it is eye-opening, it.
He's great.
And I had to apologizeimmensely to him because I
thought he said kurt wagner andI wrote it out as such and I
(14:01):
felt horrible because, know, ayear ago or six months ago I
would never have done that.
And I apologized immensely tohim because I, honest to God,
thought he said Wagner and itwas Warner.
So I went back and fixed it all.
But there are times that nowthat they say it's going to
affect my speech more and moreand like when people go deaf,
their speech becomes different.
(14:24):
Like when people go deaf, theirspeech becomes different, and
so that's really hard, I mean.
And it's really hard becauseyou know, I had a master's in
sign language and like now Ionly have one hand.
So this really just, you knowand people don't understand and
you know I get it.
You had a bad day at work,somebody cut you off on the way
home, you didn't get the outfityou wanted at the store or
(14:46):
whatever, and you want to getpissy and blah, blah, whatever
the case may be.
But you know what I have toplug in and plug up and charge
up on an almost nightly basisand I feel like a hollowed out
pumpkin.
I have more prosthetic partsthan I do human parts.
That's what it feels like atthis point and and it's
(15:09):
frustrating, it is.
But at the end of the day, Ihave my soulmate, the love of my
life.
I have my amazing daughter, whois my everything, and all the
rest of it is just crap.
Are you going to let hold youdown?
Are you going to say you knowwhat?
I survived all this and now I'mthriving.
And there's a big difference.
(15:31):
You can let it hold you down oryou can get up and push it to
the side and keep going.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
So a lot of y'all know that I was 13 and a half
years in law enforcement.
One of my jobs I worked insidethe jail as a sheriff's deputy
and I took care of the inmates.
Now, each pod that I had tocover there were four of them
housed approximately 50 inmates,all right, so we got a couple
(15:57):
hundred inmates in there.
Now, if you've been in jail,you can attest to this.
If you have not, then justlisten up.
They have their own societyinside the jail.
Okay, when I go inside there,yes, I am an enforcer, I am a
presence.
There are rules that they haveto follow.
(16:18):
But what happened to me was Ibecame desensitized because the
inmates in there only understooda few things.
That was yelling and cursingokay, and a show of force.
That was yelling and cursing,okay, and a show of force Okay,
if you show them that you werenot scared of them, that you get
(16:39):
right up there in their face,they gave you respect.
Okay, they didn't understand.
Sir, can you please sit down?
No, it was, you know, gary, sitdown, okay, and you're yelling
at them.
They understood that.
Ok, that's the society.
So I became desensitized.
(16:59):
Ok, I became mean without merealizing it, and I brought this
home, I brought this to myhouse, around, you know, the
wife that I had then and thechildren, and little did I know
I was, I was yelling at them, um, and I'm saying all this
(17:22):
because I didn't let that get tome.
Now, you know, my wife stood upto a monster and said I'm not
going to let you ruin the restof my life, I'm not going to be
like you, I'm not going to havehate in my heart.
And she chose that.
I can't imagine the willpowerit took to do that, to do what
(17:47):
you did.
You know you did it for lovefor our daughter at that time,
our unborn daughter.
You know you did it for lovefor our daughter at that time,
our unborn daughter.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Ok, and it must have been the hardest thing in the
world.
It was also the loneliest I canimagine.
It really was, and I alwaystalk about my grandparents, but
I prayed to them every day,every night, I prayed for you.
I constantly kept saying you,you know, my husband does this
thing on my face, where he likerubs in a certain way with his
hand, and I would try to emulatethat.
I would try to react that,reenact that, and I couldn't do
(18:22):
it and it was just because itwasn't you and I only talked
about.
I've gotten asked a few timesdid I ever talk back to him?
I asked a few times.
Did I ever talk back to him?
I did a few times.
I did a few times and knowingme and people who know me are
shocked that I only did it a fewtimes.
He openly admitted that hewould have never hit me if I
(18:46):
wasn't pregnant because he knewI wouldn't have stood for it and
I would have fought him backphysically and that is true.
I did talk back to him a coupleof times.
He brought out that tigeringmom.
Uh, he would show up in myoffice and I was in the
corporate world and I had thecorner office and and he would
show up in the receptionistwould try to, you know, buzz
(19:07):
back to let my assistant knowthat he was on the way and and
even though nobody knew, theycould tell because I always wore
my hair a certain way, it was,you know, in the middle of the
summer and I'm wearingturtlenecks to cover up my
bruising um, and I was veryskittish, and he would just show
(19:28):
up to make sure that my deskwas organized like it was
supposed to be.
In regards to his pictures hadto be placed where people could
see them, and it was stupid.
And then he made a comment whenhe walked in and I was in a
meeting with an older executiveand he went ballistic.
My office is all glass and hewent nuts as to why I had the
(19:49):
door shut, with another man inthe room and there's a big desk
between us, and this guy was oldenough to be my father, really.
And so he made the comment thatif and I don't know the whole
reason, how it came up, but hemade the comment that if Faith
(20:09):
so much as dropped her pacifier,that if Faith so much as
dropped her pacifier when, afteryou know, she was born, and she
dropped the pacifier, he wouldbeat her.
And it was like I can't evenbegin to explain it.
It was a whole different, likefrom the inside.
That just came out of me like araging, raging, tigering mom
(20:35):
and I advised him I had ameeting to go to and that I was
going to walk him out.
I took him to the elevators andhe hated it because I had
executive parking in thebuilding so he couldn't see if I
was there or not, but he alwaysmade me call caller id and all
this stupid ridiculouscontrolling crap.
So I was over seven months andI got in the elevator.
(20:58):
I waited till the door shut andI told him basically what would
happen if he ever put his handson her.
And that was the first timethat I really like let him know
I wasn't kidding.
And he just I mean, it was awhole different, because I think
(21:19):
that's really the first tigermom moment where it got to that
point.
Um, but another one is I, I madea comment, um about him being
in the military and he broke mynose because of it.
Um, about him being in themilitary and he broke my nose
because of it.
But, um, he would alwayscompare you, he'd always mention
(21:40):
you and he hated you becausewhen he first met you, you told
him that he was getting such agood person and that you screwed
up and I'm not trying to hashthat, but, um and that he better
always treat me right.
And it was just like he wouldalways ask why do you have this
(22:00):
place for him?
Why is?
Why is he so much better thanme?
And you know, he would ask mequestions that show.
Now, now I could see, um, howinsecure and that's very common
these guys act like Billy badassbecause they're so insecure
with themselves.
Like you know, we didn't.
We weren't intimate togetheruntil after we were.
(22:22):
He and I were, you know,legally bound and we were only
intimate, like with permission,only a couple of times.
The rest was forced.
And so he would ask who is thebetter lover?
He would ask and we all know Idon't lie, well, and I made the
mistake of just flat out tellingthe truth, and you know I mean.
(22:47):
The point is is that thesepeople and I don't want to hear,
I hear it at least five or sixtimes a week Well, they had a
bad childhood.
This is something I hear allthe time and I just want to
address this for a minutebecause, yes, they, they had a
bad childhood.
But you know what, babe?
You had a bad, not the bestchildhood.
(23:07):
I didn't have the bestchildhood, excluding my
grandparents.
And that didn't mean that we'regoing to get up and raise our
hand to our kids, because wenever would ever and we would go
through hell and high water forour kids, and I know that, you
know that.
But the thing is, becausesomebody says, oh, they had a
(23:29):
bad childhood, that doesn't meanthat it's okay to make your
spouse your playground forviolence.
It's not.
It's not okay.
And you know they have.
They are an adult, at leastphysically, and they have the
right to make decisions of theirown.
They made a decision to make ityes or no, answer on a job, or
(23:52):
yes or no, I want this car orthis place to be domicile or
whatever the case may be.
They made these decisions andyou could say I'm going to break
the cycle, I'm going to stopthis from happening.
I don't want my children tospend the adulthood recovering
from their childhood Right.
(24:13):
I can't imagine looking in mydaughter's eyes as someone I
can't even say it he tried totake her life and she's staring
at him when he's doing it.
I can't fathom how somebodycould do that and be looking in
a baby's face a baby's eyes,right, it makes me so angry.
(24:37):
A baby's eyes, right, it makesme so angry and just say, well,
they had a bad childhood.
They chose to get out of bedthis morning.
They chose to go to work, theychose the car they're getting
into, they chose the job thatthey took.
Right, so you can make aintelligent decision and decide
hey, instead of being abusiveand you call yourself a man, how
(25:03):
about this?
Be a man and instead of takingout your aggression on your
spouse and your kids, walk away.
Then I will tell you thatyou're a man.
If you want to take out youraggression and you want to be a
bully, you're a coward.
I'll say it all day long and Ican get hate mail about it, and
(25:27):
that's fine.
But the people who are givingme hate mail, I guarantee, fall
into that category, because ifanyone has the right to be the
nastiest, downright depressed,miserable person, I'm sorry,
sorry, but I really hope myhusband speaks up and says
something here.
It would be me.
I mean, there has not been oneday in the last almost two
(25:47):
decades that I have been painfree.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
She wakes up every day in pain.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
She goes to bed in pain.
And I have never ever.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
I've never no hydro.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
I don't even get a prescription I don't even get a
film, not even anesthetic.
I mean, we don't even do thelike.
I don't even get a script aftersurgery because I'm not going
to.
My daughter needs me, myhusband needs me why?
Speaker 2 (26:10):
because one, she's a badass tough cookie.
Um, she's got a high tolerancefor pain.
I guess, one you're a naturalredhead and two that monster
kind of.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
It's kind of like you know, the judge did a great
thing and said what happened ifyou hit her?
An idiot would say I'd hit heragain If she cried.
I'd hit her again If I stabbedher and she cried, I'd stab her
again.
And he said you basicallytrained her like an alcoholic.
So an alcoholic knows what youhave to drink in order to stay
at that level.
(26:45):
If they really want to getdrunk more than normal, they
have to do more.
So you've trained her to takeyour hand, and that's true.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
But it doesn't make it right.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
It absolutely doesn't make it right.
It absolutely doesn't make itright.
So that was.
The thing is that if anybodyhas the reason to be like, screw
the world, screw everybody init, I don't care about nobody or
nothing.
I'm just going to sit in acorner and not do anything, yet
alone advocate, help others anddo whatever they can, but I'm
(27:19):
not going to let that piece ofcrap win and I'm just not.
You know, I, that's not who Iam and that's not what I am
about.
And for people to say, well, Ijust had a bad upbringing, so it
makes it okay that I push mywife around and beat my kids, no
, it doesn't.
No, it doesn't it.
No, it doesn't, it does not.
Speaker 2 (27:41):
And for those y'all who see a neighbor being abused
you know what's going on.
You see your coworker.
Why don't you say something?
Things like this have aprolonged effect on the
individual.
Look at my wife.
It's been almost 20 years andshe's still having surgery for
the stupid shit he did to her.
(28:02):
Because he was such a coward hehad to go and fight and beat up
a woman.
A pregnant woman.
Not that all women are, youknow, wimps or you know they're
not tough.
My wife is badass.
Okay, there's no way most of usmen could go through what she
(28:25):
did and, you know, come out aspositive as she is.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
So Well, and then that's why you know we this kind
of took us all around MulberryBush to the academy.
You know we've launched thisacademy.
All around Mulberry Bush to theacademy.
You know we've launched thisacademy, which is what we did
the webinar to talk about.
And when you go on there, thereis stuff for everybody and
there is stuff on how to whatare you doing?
Speaker 2 (28:50):
I'm sorry, my husband just took the duster, the
feather duster, on my sweet baby.
I was dusting our dog.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
He's dusty, he's not dusty, dusty.
Okay, but you go in there tothe academy.
There's all these beautifulcourses that help for free you
join for free.
The classes are incrediblyaffordable.
If you can't afford them, letus know.
You know we also do takedonations to help um offset the
cost, which is, you know,something we're trying to make
(29:20):
sure everybody can afford.
So you just go in there,there's stuff for everybody.
And then we have our stuccosquad and there's so many fun
classes.
I just finished the class.
Take it away, stucco.
And it's all about stuccoteaching subtraction.
Get it, take it away, yeah, andI thought it's so cute.
And like stucco is like who ate.
Get it.
Take it away, yeah, and Ithought it's so cute.
And like Stucco is like who atemy cookies.
(29:40):
And he's talking to the classand the class was looking for
his cookies and he had fivecookies and now he doesn't have
five cookies.
He only has two cookies.
So where are the missing three?
And it's so much fun and it'sadventurous and the kids learn
differently and this is how theycan learn and it's it's just a
(30:01):
bonding experience for theparent and child and it makes
them feel so good aboutthemselves, because that's the
number one goal is for thesekids to see how amazing they are
now bear with me, y'all oh,lord, are you gonna talk about
business?
Speaker 2 (30:10):
we do not hate the gay community no okay support it
completely you know where I'mgoing with this gay community?
No, okay, support it completely.
You know where I'm going withthis?
Speaker 1 (30:22):
yes, because you spoke about the stucco squad and
the book, yes okay, we saw avideo and I'm sure a lot of
people saw it and you know howgrowing up they had the book
abcs and the kids section.
This is a barnes and noble andI have to say I'm very sad about
this.
I I totally support that theyhave a team section of yeah,
this, this, this was a tiktokthis was up for a baby book.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
This is a book and this was day bcs it's not abcs
it's gay right, but the peoplewho were filming the video said
we are gay ourselves yes butthis is too much yeah, they
opened the book and a was forarrow and b is for buy.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
And when you're a little tiny, baby, I mean you're
already putting stuff in theirhead.
I mean they're tiny.
This, this is ridiculous.
You know what happened to?
Like sesame street and thewheels on the bus and you bus
and all that stuff, and nowthat's all gone.
That's just crazy.
I don't know.
(31:24):
Yeah, I don't know.
It's just crazy.
So you're not going to talkabout Business Life as I'm
scratching all my Skeeter bites.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Business Life is a magazine that is currently on
every aircraft that we know ofin the United States Used to be
owned by British Airways.
And guess whom is in that issuethis month?
You, yours truly, victoriaCurie.
You're in it too, from acontagious smile.
(31:53):
You're in it as well, righthere in our little office.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
And then we have those two, so we're up to seven.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
Y'all know whenever we do a podcast, every time we
do a podcast, my wife and I sitright across each other and we
stare at each other throughoutthe entire podcast.
So I see all her quirks.
I see everything she does, youknow, scratching her ankles, or
you know, and here I am, over onmy side, um, I'm just a few
(32:22):
feet apart from her right now,um, but it's awesome to be, you
know, in the presence of thiswoman.
I love her dearly, are you okay?
Yeah, there's too much silenceare you?
okay, yeah, come back to earthare you sure you're all right?
Speaker 1 (32:39):
I also again want to take a moment and derail from
business life, um, even thoughI'm very honored and I thank
them for for this, thank you sam.
Yes, thank you, sam.
Is that, um, the amazing,amazing intro that we had done
(33:03):
beforehand for the podcast,where it talked all about, like,
the speakers and all that?
And that voice, that radiovoice, that was done by joshua,
our friend, our very good friend, who is amazing, who is going
to do his podcast.
He will be releasing it heresometime in the future and we
(33:24):
support him a million percentand when it's up and going, we
want to make sure everybody goesand listens.
He's hilarious, he's funny,he's just a good guy all the way
around, and so we want to thankhim again, even though I'm a
little jealous and a littleupset that my husband announced
his pregnancy to him firstreally you had to do that I did
(33:45):
josh, if you're listening,thanks, buddy.
Speaker 2 (33:49):
Um, yeah, speaking of josh, she is she, uh, he, uh,
she.
He's gonna get me now oh, he isgonna get you now so josh is
just one of many people that myvictoria's has helped in their
social media presence andincreasing their numbers and
helping them podcast, and shehas put on an excellent, I would
(34:12):
say, a master class.
There's more than one grownyour social media followers and
and then how to podcast.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
The first one, the basic one you start with, is
called Podcasting Made Easy.
And then there's the blueprintfor podcasting and you know we
started with zero hero followers, zero, and now we're in the
millions and I literally wrote acourse on how to do it and I
mean we spent thousands ofdollars on how to do it and I
mean we spent thousands ofdollars learning how to do it,
(34:41):
the time, the energy, thecourses, everything else.
And so you're going to learnwhat works and what doesn't,
because we've got it down toalmost a science and I've seen
classes that are thousands ofdollars for this.
I mean crazy, and I've beengetting ridiculed by many people
that the price is not highenough right and and and because
(35:02):
of the popularity right now.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Uh, our price will increase here very soon yes okay
, um, like, like she said, wejust had a big weekend with a
lot of names and it was a great.
I almost said bonanza.
What did you call it?
Marathon?
No, webinar, webinar.
I'm kind of out of it.
(35:24):
I worked hard.
Today I'm on my third glass ofwine Sitting here.
Podcasting Is that your third,third.
Oh yeah, oh, and that's all wehave today.
Folks Love that sexy laugh.
Yes, I told my wife sometimesy'all she's got this 1-900 voice
(35:49):
that she does whatever are youtalking about for this, us old
people who remember those 1-900calls on the back of like
creative loafing or somethingright.
Creative Loafing.
What's that?
Speaker 1 (36:01):
Creative Loafing used to be a magazine or a newspaper
that was all over Atlanta andyou'd pick it up.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
Those weren't the type of magazines I read.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Well, I never picked up that smut.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Never.
They had great articles inthere.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
You didn't read a doggone, one of them.
You're trying.
No, you did not, and I knowpeople are laughing because you.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
Everybody is commenting.
I hear them right now.
Are you making fun of thehearing?
Michael Hugh Hefner, he washilarious in those articles.
Speaker 1 (36:34):
Hugh Hefner wasn't in the articles.
Speaker 2 (36:36):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Ugh.
Lord, you half nerve wasn't inthe articles exactly oh, lord,
but yet you would never share me.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
No, I still won't, I still won't.
You're mine, all mine,possessive, possessive, dang
right.
You know how long it took me toget you.
Speaker 1 (36:55):
Oh, you want this debate not really yeah, I didn't
think so, I did not think so.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
So thank you all for listening to Contagious Smile
Unstoppable.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
How do they get to the Academy?
Speaker 2 (37:06):
You're going to tell them?
No, you are.
They're going to go to ourwebsite at ContagiousSmilecom
and go ahead and finish, becauseyou don't know, I do know.
Okay, then go ahead.
Speaker 1 (37:18):
It's uh mighty network something up in the top
where the header is, it saysdirect link to the academy or
you could go a contagious smileremember, there's two s's for
contagious smile dot m is a maryand is a nancy dot co and you
will be able to get in there andjoin for free.
(37:40):
And the resource library alone.
My husband gave me such griefabout it because the library is
full of stuff and it's not likelittle tidbits we're talking
about, like just each page hasdifferent stuff on it.
And if you have a company orcorporation and you think that
you have a product that canreally help others, reach out to
(38:02):
us and let me know, because wecan put you in there as a
resource as well.
And then also we have anotherthing we're doing for donation,
which is a dedication, and adonation can be even $ five
dollars and that gives a womanwho literally grabbed her kids
for the safety of her life andleft her house to survive.
(38:27):
And we have where you candedicate classes and courses to
individuals, like we have acourse dedicated to alex, who is
my dear friend, debbie gailzane's son that she lost due to
mental illness and drugaddiction, and there is other
(38:48):
courses in there that we'regoing to start dedicating and,
um, it's a really sweet gestureto do for somebody.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
Yeah and be sure to um go back to amazon and pick up
my wife's first book, whokicked first?
Speaker 1 (39:02):
stucco is saying hello.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
She has a prequel to it, also called nart nart.
Who's there?
Just type in victoria curey anduh, google or bing y'all.
She's everywhere you want acameo.
She does that.
Pod stars, pod stars, yep, imbd.
Y'all need to check this out.
Thank you really appreciate me.
I do appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (39:25):
I give you breakfast every day in bed oh my god, you
give me an endo and it's time togo and go.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
We are off the air.
Oh uh, hit, end.
Stop recording Frozen waffle.
They're going to hear this.
Hit the button, stucco.
Speaker 1 (39:43):
Hit the mouse, the mouse Stucco.
Say hi.
Everybody Say hi, I'm Stuccofrom Stucco Squad.
Yes, you're a good boy, he'sactually.
He's actually kissing themicrophone.
Thank y'all for listening youcan go bowling, we'll see y'all
(40:03):
again.
Speaker 2 (40:05):
Reach out to us.
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