March 28, 2024 • 21 mins
Graceful Resilience w/ Kyrie Blaney
This podcast episode captures a conversation between Jen Banks and Kyrie Blaney, the host of 'The Confident Mompreneur' podcast, where they discuss a range of topics including personal growth, overcoming adversity, entrepreneurship, mental health, and the importance of community and vulnerability. Kyrie shares her journey through difficult life experiences, including coping with an abusive relationship, mental health challenges, and her passion for helping women find confidence. The episode emphasizes the power of storytelling, support among women, and the significance of being authentic and vulnerable in creating connections and building communities.
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00:00 Welcome and Personal Updates 01:19 Introducing Kyrie Blaney: The Confident Mompreneur 01:43 Getting to Know Kyrie: Life, Passions, and Entrepreneurship 09:50 Kyrie's Journey Through Adversity and Growth 13:07 Empowering Women and Building Community 15:26 Kyrie's Speaking Engagements and Future Plans 17:26 The Power of Sharing Stories and Building Connections 19:41 Where to Find Kyrie and Closing Thoughts 20:34 Acknowledgments and Sign-off
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(00:25):
Hey there!
I am so excited to be here and Iam so excited that you're here too!
It is spring break in Utah where I'mat and there's been a lot of snow
so it hasn't exactly been springbut I have appreciated the break.
I have had such a busy week.
I went to an event called She Can,I Can and it was an incredible night
of storytelling and how we can becareer women and moms and so it
(00:50):
just really Aligned with exactlywhat I'm trying to do right now.
And then on Friday I spoke ata Momentum Next Level Summit.
I was honored to be a part of thatevent and I hope to host my own events
like it in the future and continueto be a speaker wherever I can.
I have a lot of exciting things coming up.
Hopefully I can share some of themwith you in a solo episode soon.
(01:14):
I have just had so many incredibleguests that I haven't been
able to squeeze myself in.
So today's guest is Kyrie Blaney,and she is the host of the
podcast, The Confident Mompreneur.
And she is also a speaker and an authorand She calls Wyoming home, but is really
just meandering around the United Statesright now, which is so cool, and she has
(01:37):
a lot of great things to share, and shewas so vulnerable in sharing her story,
so I know you'll learn a lot from her.
JEN BANKS (01:43):
All right, I'm here with Kyrie Blaney.
How are you today?
KYRIE BLANEY (01:47):
I am so good.
Thanks for having me here, Jen.
JEN BANKS (01:50):
Yeah, thanks for reaching out.
You're one of the first guests in awhile that I've had who I haven't met
before doing a podcast interview, so it'salways fun to meet someone virtually and
that we have the capability to do that.
KYRIE BLANEY (02:02):
I know, I love that.
That's one of my favorite things is thevirtual connection we now get to have.
One of the good things about social media.
Lots of bad things, butone of the few good things.
JEN BANKS (02:14):
For sure.
Where do you
KYRIE BLANEY (02:15):
live right now?
So I live in Laramie, Wyoming.
But my partner and Itravel all over the U.
S.
Right now I'm in Colorado.
That's
JEN BANKS (02:26):
so fascinating.
That's awesome.
Would you mind introducingyourself to my listeners and a
little bit about what you do?
KYRIE BLANEY (02:34):
Yeah, so my name is Kyrie.
It's a really difficult name,so nobody ever gets it right.
Jen was nice enough to askme how to pronounce it.
So I am a podcaster, anauthor, an entrepreneur.
I am a mom and a partner.
I am a traveler.
I love adventure.
(02:54):
I do a lot of different things.
I'm a very multi passionate person, whichis both a blessing and a curse sometimes
but I, my main motto is like helping womenfind confidence for themselves in every
single area of their lives and especiallyafter you've gone through trauma.
JEN BANKS (03:17):
Yeah, that's beautiful.
I love that.
Women helping women.
We need each other for sure.
Yeah, you talk about names.
I tell people sometimes that Jen isshort for generic because, it's just
one of those names you hear all over.
It's fun to have a unique name.
So that's awesome that you can have that.
You probably get tired of, like you said,pronouncing it for other people though.
KYRIE BLANEY (03:35):
You mentioned some
JEN BANKS (03:39):
Yes, I get it.
You mentioned some ofthe things that you do.
What are some other hats that you wear?
KYRIE BLANEY (03:45):
So I would say there are a lot of hats I wear.
Just like most women, we have alot of hats that we wear in life.
Some of my favorite hats are definitelybeing like a partner and a mom.
I absolutely love those two things.
I have a six year old son,and he is just my favorite.
He's so smart and sokind, so I love that hat.
(04:08):
I would also say being a entrepreneurand a podcaster and all of the
things that come along withthat is another hat that I wear.
And then I also work a fulltime job in finance, so I would
say that's another hat I wear.
There's a lot.
Laughter
JEN BANKS (04:24):
Yeah, do you feel like it's hard to switch from one to
another or it's just ingrainedin who you are and what you like?
KYRIE BLANEY (04:31):
I think it's both.
So I feel like, especiallyentrepreneurship, it's something that
a lot of people like your You're eitherbuilt for it, or you're not to some degree
and for me I always knew Entrepreneurshipwould be some part of my journey not quite
sure how it was gonna work in there or notBut like I've always been that person that
(04:55):
like even when I was a young child like Iwas always doing something extra to make
a little extra money or figuring out someway to Do cool new things that I could
sell or whatever and so that's always beena part of me and then I think a big part
of my journey was just like figuring itout as I go and adjusting because life
(05:18):
is tends to throw new, more complicatedthings at you all along the way.
Like it's never boring.
And so I've just had to adjust andlearn and grow as I'm going along.
So it's I was in one place, beforeI had my son and then I had my
son and it was like, okay, Ihave to relearn how to adjust.
to all of these new things all over again.
(05:41):
And then, I had some trauma happen andthen I had to take a step back and be
like, okay, now I got to totally readjustand do things completely differently.
So I feel like it's ingrained and anongoing process that I'm always trying
to learn and grow and, figure out.
JEN BANKS (05:58):
Yeah, I hear that.
I love that awareness that you'vehad your life, your whole life
because I feel like I found myentrepreneurial itch later in life.
And I feel like it was mostly becauseI was living towards following other
people's dreams or other people's examplesand inspirations instead of really feeling
what my heart was calling me to do.
And so I became a teacher and notthat I don't love that too, but
(06:21):
it's just Entrepreneur pursuits.
They just light me uplike nothing else has.
So it's been interesting to discover that.
What's one of your core values?
What drives you?
KYRIE BLANEY (06:34):
I think one of my core values is just like camaraderie.
Like you said, I love bringingpeople together, especially women.
We are so strong when we have eachother, and it used to be this really
big value, that we had a village tohelp us raise our children, to help
(06:56):
us do all of the things that we needto do, and I feel like as society has
gone on, especially here in the U.
S.
My partner is not from the U.
S., so I have a very unique perspectivefrom, knowing how he grew up, where it
was very much A village kind of idea ofthings and everybody is working for the
(07:17):
good of each other to being here in the U.
S.
and just seeing how separated we arefrom each other and that we really,
especially as women, in businessand entrepreneurship and things, we
get pitted against each other a lot.
And it's like we're constantlyfighting against each other for the
(07:39):
one seat at the table that's meantfor us, instead of, trying to help
each other and push each other so thatthere are more of us at the table.
And so that's somethingthat's super important to me.
I just love bringing peopletogether and having that supportive
village environment for each other.
(08:01):
I love
JEN BANKS (08:01):
that the host of this, or, what's the word?
The person who runs this podcastnetwork, he always talks about
how people at the bottom competeand people at the top collaborate.
And it's so true.
I love how you mentioned that with thetable, because there is room for all
of us, and if we can see that, thenimagine how much stronger we could be.
So, going off topic a little bit.
(08:25):
I always like to askguests a unique question.
What's a food you feel likeyou could never tire of eating?
KYRIE BLANEY (08:31):
Oh gosh, so you sent this over to me and I was like,
I am literally such a foodie.
There's no food, like I will say no to.
We were just in Texas on oneof our travels and of course I
had to get like Texas barbecue.
Cause if I'm going somewhere,I'm going to get some good food
that's like from that place.
So I feel like I have twoanswers to this question.
(08:53):
If I'm traveling, it's like findinglocal, really good cuisine or something
that's like iconic for that, so I justwent to Maine not too long ago and I had
to have lobster, and it was delicious,it was the best lobster I've ever had.
The second answer, if I'm at home I doa lot of cooking for myself at home, and
(09:15):
my mom was a, er, is a, Phenomenal cook.
And she actually wrote her owncookbook, which is amazing.
And so I cook a ton ofrecipes out of there.
So it's either like my mom's home cookingor whatever local cuisine on the road.
JEN BANKS (09:34):
That's great.
I love it.
Best of both worlds, right?
KYRIE BLANEY (09:38):
Yes.
Best of both.
JEN BANKS (09:41):
That's so fun.
I feel like that is a little windowinto your personality too of just
how you are a traveler and youlike to find out what's local.
That's beautiful.
When have you experienced someadversity or challenges and how
did it shape your character?
KYRIE BLANEY (09:56):
Oh gosh, that's a big question.
I have been, yeah, I am only 28 years old.
But I always tell people Because peopleare like, you seem a lot older than that.
And I'm like maybe it's becauseI've lived what feels like
several lifetimes in one lifetime.
And I feel like each lifetime has broughtits trials and tribulations and given
(10:22):
me some lessons to learn from them.
I would say Again, there's a lot,but I'm gonna condense it down to
one of those sections of my life.
Recently, in the last two anda half years I went through a
divorce from an abusive marriage.
Which, I had been married tothat person since I was 18.
(10:45):
So that was a really large transitionin life, and with it I think that's
something that they don't talk about.
When you're getting out of an abusiverelationship it's good that you're
getting out of it, but there are alot of hardships that come with it.
And then after I went through, oras I was going through that divorce
(11:05):
process I, my, my mental healthwas going downhill pretty quickly.
And with that came a lot of Physicalissues which I always say our mental
health is so tied to our physical health.
So I ended up having a cancer scare andhaving to go through surgery for that.
And then just a couple months afterthat, I went through a sexual assault.
(11:31):
And that was very bad.
And I was in the court processfor that for over a year.
And so this was all within the last twoand a half years that this has happened.
So it's been like, it felt like boom.
I was getting hit withone thing after another.
And like I said, my, my mental healthwas already in a downhill slide.
(11:54):
I've struggled with depressionand anxiety for much of my life.
And this was the worst it hadever gotten and so in June
of 2022, I attempted suicide.
And I ended up going into an inpatientfacility and staying there for a little
bit and working through my mentalhealth, getting on meds, getting with
(12:17):
a therapist, those types of things.
And I would say that's probably thebest thing that came out of all of
those things because I was able towork through a lot of the trauma that
I had held for a really long time.
Yeah,
JEN BANKS (12:31):
wow, I can't even imagine.
You're so open andvulnerable to share that.
Thank you for doing that andletting us in on your experience.
Feel like you're able to see both sides ofa lot of things, which is a huge strength.
You talk about a blessing and a curse andalso just with the really real trauma that
you went through just seeing what goodyou can pull out of it because that's so
(12:53):
hard to do if you're just stuck in themoment, but Yeah, again for sharing that.
I feel like we're so much stronger onthe other side and then we can also
help so many other people so Thank you.
We'll move into a littlebit more about what you do.
I love watching your social mediaand just the things that you post.
And when did you, or who doyou say is your ideal client?
KYRIE BLANEY (13:18):
I think my ideal client is really just the mom that's doing
it all and really like strugglingto feel like they can do it all.
We always get told we can'thave it all, but really we can.
It's just a matter of figuring out howwe need to do that, what works for us,
what feels good to us, and doing it in away that is going to be, we're going to
(13:45):
be able to keep doing it for a long time.
Cause I feel like, Too often, we jump intothings without thinking about it too much,
and then we reach burnout, and then we letgo of everything, and it's just a mess.
My ideal client really is just like thatwoman that wants to do it all, and just
wants the guidance on how to do it, andhow to feel confident in doing everything.
JEN BANKS (14:07):
That's awesome.
Yeah, I feel like that resonates sowell because, like you said, we do a
lot of things and a lot of times welike doing a lot of things, but like
you said, when you get to the place ofresentment or doing too much that you
could outsource or, things like that, thenthat's where you need to find a balance.
It's
KYRIE BLANEY (14:25):
neat that you're a speaker.
It can be hard for us tolet go of control though.
Yes.
That's what women struggle with isletting go of control and knowing,
like you said, I love outsourcing.
Especially if you're running abusiness, outsourcing is huge.
But there's also like outsourcingthat we can do with our kids.
It's two, right?
It's can we send them to daycare fora few days a week, or can we like,
(14:49):
swap times with a friend so that wecan make some time for ourselves?
Because also as women, we're reallybad about taking time for ourselves.
Even when we really need it, or ourmental health is not great, or our
physical health is not great, those arethe times that we need it the most, and
we struggle the most in giving it up.
Yes,
JEN BANKS (15:09):
I, yeah, you are speaking my language.
I totally agree 100%.
So I noticed that you're a speakerthat I would aspire to be a speaker.
That's awesome.
I would love to own my own eventcenter one day and just have
classes and workshops for women.
So I noticed people canbook with you on Instagram.
(15:30):
What are some of the speakingengagements you've had?
Yeah.
Yeah.
KYRIE BLANEY (15:34):
Oh, gosh.
I have done women's retreats.
I have done women'sentrepreneurship panels.
I have done women's eventsof all different kinds.
I actually have three events.
It's coming up here inthe next few months.
So for my podcast, The ConfidentMompreneur, we're hitting
a hundred podcast episodes.
(15:54):
And so I'm doing like abig celebration for that.
And I'm also launching a women'scommunity called The Confident
Post where we have different blogposts about different things.
And there's like a community forumwhere you can come on, get ask
questions and get answers without aton of judgment or anything like that.
You can share your events for yourbusinesses, all of those types of things.
(16:15):
So I'm doing a big party for that andI'm gonna do a little fun speech at that.
And then I have women's,International Women's Day is
gonna be coming up in March.
And so I'm doing an event on thatand we're talking about inclusivity.
And with that, I'm really focusing on likeour differences are our strengths, right?
(16:39):
So our story has so much powerif we're, we have the willingness
to share it and to connect.
I always, one of my favorite phrases isthat vulnerability creates connection.
So I love spreading that, that knowledgeand just sharing my story so that
other people don't feel so alone.
(17:01):
And then my other event,I'm doing a virtual summit.
It's called the Hike Like a Woman Summit.
We've got over 40 speakersfrom 7 different countries.
And it's about women in the outdoors.
If you're a woman who loves the outdoors,who loves adventure like I do that's
a very cool one to come and listen to.
JEN BANKS (17:21):
That's so great.
Thank you for sharingthose upcoming events.
Oh, so exciting.
Yeah.
Is there a favorite quote ormantra that guides what you do?
KYRIE BLANEY (17:30):
I just shared it, but the vulnerability creates connection.
And there's power in sharing our stories.
Like you said, my story's hard.
There's a lot of really hard, dark piecesof it that make people uncomfortable.
Because they don't hear peopletalk about it, it's taboo.
(17:53):
Even with the rise of social mediaand us talking more openly about, body
kind of things, and feeling good inour bodies, but also, mental health.
It's still pretty taboo and I don'tsee very many people talking about
Hey, I actually, the cops had to comeand drag me from my house and bring
(18:14):
me to the hospital to an inpatientfacility because I tried to kill myself.
Nobody says those things.
And I think, when you go throughit and it hasn't been talked
about, you feel so alone.
And it makes that experience It's so muchmore isolating and so much more hard.
(18:34):
And like I said, thereis power in community.
So if you have community, if youhave those people that are sharing
those stories that have beenthrough similar things as you it
feels easier to handle those bighard things when they come along.
JEN BANKS (18:51):
Yeah, so true.
And hand in hand with what you're saying.
I heard recently, too, that authenticitycreates magnetism, and then people
are drawn to you, and to, relatingto you, and opening up, and just
finding someone that they can leanon, and bring into their village,
KYRIE BLANEY (19:08):
yeah, I since sharing my story, like you said, that magnetism of
the right people being drawn into me is sohuge, and that's why I love, The community
that I have even on social media.
Social media has a lot of downsides, butone of the upsides is the ability for
you to connect with people from literallyanywhere and everywhere that have
(19:32):
those similar values and things as you.
I do love that so much.
Yes,
JEN BANKS (19:38):
Thanks again.
It's been so great to talk to you.
And you mentioned your podcast.
Is there anywhere else people can
KYRIE BLANEY (19:44):
find you?
Yeah, the main places tofind me are on Instagram.
It's just at the confident mompreneur.
And then my podcast has the samename, The Confident Mompreneur.
And then, like I said, I am doing a fewbig giveaways if this comes out before
February 28th, I'll be, er, 24th, I'llbe doing a few big giveaways for my
(20:07):
100th podcast episode, so if you guyswant to check those out on my Instagram.
And then I'll be launching my women'scommunity, which is TheConfidentPost.
com.
Those are the places to find me.
JEN BANKS (20:19):
Great!
Thank you so much.
I had something I was goingto say and it's gone now.
I
KYRIE BLANEY (20:24):
don't know.
That always happens
JEN BANKS (20:26):
to me.
I know.
But, anyway.
Yeah, have a fabulous dayand good to talk to you.
KYRIE BLANEY (20:33):
Yeah, thank you.
Thank you as always to Blane from Ridethe Wave Media for producing this podcast.
He is not only the CEO of Ride theWave Media, but he is also host
of the best podcast in Utah, RadioDaybreak, so check that one out.
And if you want to start your ownpodcast, reach out to me or him
and we'll get you on the network.
(20:54):
Remember to follow me on Instagram atAS4Adversity and I'll see you next week.
Hey there!
I am so excited to be here and Iam so excited that you're here too!
It is spring break in Utah where I'mat and there's been a lot of snow
so it hasn't exactly been springbut I have appreciated the break.
I have had such a busy week.
I went to an event called She Can,I Can and it was an incredible night
of storytelling and how we can becareer women and moms and so it
(00:50):
just really Aligned with exactlywhat I'm trying to do right now.
And then on Friday I spoke ata Momentum Next Level Summit.
I was honored to be a part of thatevent and I hope to host my own events
like it in the future and continueto be a speaker wherever I can.
I have a lot of exciting things coming up.
Hopefully I can share some of themwith you in a solo episode soon.
(01:14):
I have just had so many incredibleguests that I haven't been
able to squeeze myself in.
So today's guest is Kyrie Blaney,and she is the host of the
podcast, The Confident Mompreneur.
And she is also a speaker and an authorand She calls Wyoming home, but is really
just meandering around the United Statesright now, which is so cool, and she has
(01:37):
a lot of great things to share, and shewas so vulnerable in sharing her story,
so I know you'll learn a lot from her.
JEN BANKS (01:43):
All right, I'm here with Kyrie Blaney.
How are you today?
KYRIE BLANEY (01:47):
I am so good.
Thanks for having me here, Jen.
JEN BANKS (01:50):
Yeah, thanks for reaching out.
You're one of the first guests in awhile that I've had who I haven't met
before doing a podcast interview, so it'salways fun to meet someone virtually and
that we have the capability to do that.
KYRIE BLANEY (02:02):
I know, I love that.
That's one of my favorite things is thevirtual connection we now get to have.
One of the good things about social media.
Lots of bad things, butone of the few good things.
JEN BANKS (02:14):
For sure.
Where do you
KYRIE BLANEY (02:15):
live right now?
So I live in Laramie, Wyoming.
But my partner and Itravel all over the U.
S.
Right now I'm in Colorado.
That's
JEN BANKS (02:26):
so fascinating.
That's awesome.
Would you mind introducingyourself to my listeners and a
little bit about what you do?
KYRIE BLANEY (02:34):
Yeah, so my name is Kyrie.
It's a really difficult name,so nobody ever gets it right.
Jen was nice enough to askme how to pronounce it.
So I am a podcaster, anauthor, an entrepreneur.
I am a mom and a partner.
I am a traveler.
I love adventure.
(02:54):
I do a lot of different things.
I'm a very multi passionate person, whichis both a blessing and a curse sometimes
but I, my main motto is like helping womenfind confidence for themselves in every
single area of their lives and especiallyafter you've gone through trauma.
JEN BANKS (03:17):
Yeah, that's beautiful.
I love that.
Women helping women.
We need each other for sure.
Yeah, you talk about names.
I tell people sometimes that Jen isshort for generic because, it's just
one of those names you hear all over.
It's fun to have a unique name.
So that's awesome that you can have that.
You probably get tired of, like you said,pronouncing it for other people though.
KYRIE BLANEY (03:35):
You mentioned some
JEN BANKS (03:39):
Yes, I get it.
You mentioned some ofthe things that you do.
What are some other hats that you wear?
KYRIE BLANEY (03:45):
So I would say there are a lot of hats I wear.
Just like most women, we have alot of hats that we wear in life.
Some of my favorite hats are definitelybeing like a partner and a mom.
I absolutely love those two things.
I have a six year old son,and he is just my favorite.
He's so smart and sokind, so I love that hat.
(04:08):
I would also say being a entrepreneurand a podcaster and all of the
things that come along withthat is another hat that I wear.
And then I also work a fulltime job in finance, so I would
say that's another hat I wear.
There's a lot.
Laughter
JEN BANKS (04:24):
Yeah, do you feel like it's hard to switch from one to
another or it's just ingrainedin who you are and what you like?
KYRIE BLANEY (04:31):
I think it's both.
So I feel like, especiallyentrepreneurship, it's something that
a lot of people like your You're eitherbuilt for it, or you're not to some degree
and for me I always knew Entrepreneurshipwould be some part of my journey not quite
sure how it was gonna work in there or notBut like I've always been that person that
(04:55):
like even when I was a young child like Iwas always doing something extra to make
a little extra money or figuring out someway to Do cool new things that I could
sell or whatever and so that's always beena part of me and then I think a big part
of my journey was just like figuring itout as I go and adjusting because life
(05:18):
is tends to throw new, more complicatedthings at you all along the way.
Like it's never boring.
And so I've just had to adjust andlearn and grow as I'm going along.
So it's I was in one place, beforeI had my son and then I had my
son and it was like, okay, Ihave to relearn how to adjust.
to all of these new things all over again.
(05:41):
And then, I had some trauma happen andthen I had to take a step back and be
like, okay, now I got to totally readjustand do things completely differently.
So I feel like it's ingrained and anongoing process that I'm always trying
to learn and grow and, figure out.
JEN BANKS (05:58):
Yeah, I hear that.
I love that awareness that you'vehad your life, your whole life
because I feel like I found myentrepreneurial itch later in life.
And I feel like it was mostly becauseI was living towards following other
people's dreams or other people's examplesand inspirations instead of really feeling
what my heart was calling me to do.
And so I became a teacher and notthat I don't love that too, but
(06:21):
it's just Entrepreneur pursuits.
They just light me uplike nothing else has.
So it's been interesting to discover that.
What's one of your core values?
What drives you?
KYRIE BLANEY (06:34):
I think one of my core values is just like camaraderie.
Like you said, I love bringingpeople together, especially women.
We are so strong when we have eachother, and it used to be this really
big value, that we had a village tohelp us raise our children, to help
(06:56):
us do all of the things that we needto do, and I feel like as society has
gone on, especially here in the U.
S.
My partner is not from the U.
S., so I have a very unique perspectivefrom, knowing how he grew up, where it
was very much A village kind of idea ofthings and everybody is working for the
(07:17):
good of each other to being here in the U.
S.
and just seeing how separated we arefrom each other and that we really,
especially as women, in businessand entrepreneurship and things, we
get pitted against each other a lot.
And it's like we're constantlyfighting against each other for the
(07:39):
one seat at the table that's meantfor us, instead of, trying to help
each other and push each other so thatthere are more of us at the table.
And so that's somethingthat's super important to me.
I just love bringing peopletogether and having that supportive
village environment for each other.
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I love
JEN BANKS (08:01):
that the host of this, or, what's the word?
The person who runs this podcastnetwork, he always talks about
how people at the bottom competeand people at the top collaborate.
And it's so true.
I love how you mentioned that with thetable, because there is room for all
of us, and if we can see that, thenimagine how much stronger we could be.
So, going off topic a little bit.
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I always like to askguests a unique question.
What's a food you feel likeyou could never tire of eating?
KYRIE BLANEY (08:31):
Oh gosh, so you sent this over to me and I was like,
I am literally such a foodie.
There's no food, like I will say no to.
We were just in Texas on oneof our travels and of course I
had to get like Texas barbecue.
Cause if I'm going somewhere,I'm going to get some good food
that's like from that place.
So I feel like I have twoanswers to this question.
(08:53):
If I'm traveling, it's like findinglocal, really good cuisine or something
that's like iconic for that, so I justwent to Maine not too long ago and I had
to have lobster, and it was delicious,it was the best lobster I've ever had.
The second answer, if I'm at home I doa lot of cooking for myself at home, and
(09:15):
my mom was a, er, is a, Phenomenal cook.
And she actually wrote her owncookbook, which is amazing.
And so I cook a ton ofrecipes out of there.
So it's either like my mom's home cookingor whatever local cuisine on the road.
JEN BANKS (09:34):
That's great.
I love it.
Best of both worlds, right?
KYRIE BLANEY (09:38):
Yes.
Best of both.
JEN BANKS (09:41):
That's so fun.
I feel like that is a little windowinto your personality too of just
how you are a traveler and youlike to find out what's local.
That's beautiful.
When have you experienced someadversity or challenges and how
did it shape your character?
KYRIE BLANEY (09:56):
Oh gosh, that's a big question.
I have been, yeah, I am only 28 years old.
But I always tell people Because peopleare like, you seem a lot older than that.
And I'm like maybe it's becauseI've lived what feels like
several lifetimes in one lifetime.
And I feel like each lifetime has broughtits trials and tribulations and given
(10:22):
me some lessons to learn from them.
I would say Again, there's a lot,but I'm gonna condense it down to
one of those sections of my life.
Recently, in the last two anda half years I went through a
divorce from an abusive marriage.
Which, I had been married tothat person since I was 18.
(10:45):
So that was a really large transitionin life, and with it I think that's
something that they don't talk about.
When you're getting out of an abusiverelationship it's good that you're
getting out of it, but there are alot of hardships that come with it.
And then after I went through, oras I was going through that divorce
(11:05):
process I, my, my mental healthwas going downhill pretty quickly.
And with that came a lot of Physicalissues which I always say our mental
health is so tied to our physical health.
So I ended up having a cancer scare andhaving to go through surgery for that.
And then just a couple months afterthat, I went through a sexual assault.
(11:31):
And that was very bad.
And I was in the court processfor that for over a year.
And so this was all within the last twoand a half years that this has happened.
So it's been like, it felt like boom.
I was getting hit withone thing after another.
And like I said, my, my mental healthwas already in a downhill slide.
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I've struggled with depressionand anxiety for much of my life.
And this was the worst it hadever gotten and so in June
of 2022, I attempted suicide.
And I ended up going into an inpatientfacility and staying there for a little
bit and working through my mentalhealth, getting on meds, getting with
(12:17):
a therapist, those types of things.
And I would say that's probably thebest thing that came out of all of
those things because I was able towork through a lot of the trauma that
I had held for a really long time.
Yeah,
JEN BANKS (12:31):
wow, I can't even imagine.
You're so open andvulnerable to share that.
Thank you for doing that andletting us in on your experience.
Feel like you're able to see both sides ofa lot of things, which is a huge strength.
You talk about a blessing and a curse andalso just with the really real trauma that
you went through just seeing what goodyou can pull out of it because that's so
(12:53):
hard to do if you're just stuck in themoment, but Yeah, again for sharing that.
I feel like we're so much stronger onthe other side and then we can also
help so many other people so Thank you.
We'll move into a littlebit more about what you do.
I love watching your social mediaand just the things that you post.
And when did you, or who doyou say is your ideal client?
KYRIE BLANEY (13:18):
I think my ideal client is really just the mom that's doing
it all and really like strugglingto feel like they can do it all.
We always get told we can'thave it all, but really we can.
It's just a matter of figuring out howwe need to do that, what works for us,
what feels good to us, and doing it in away that is going to be, we're going to
(13:45):
be able to keep doing it for a long time.
Cause I feel like, Too often, we jump intothings without thinking about it too much,
and then we reach burnout, and then we letgo of everything, and it's just a mess.
My ideal client really is just like thatwoman that wants to do it all, and just
wants the guidance on how to do it, andhow to feel confident in doing everything.
JEN BANKS (14:07):
That's awesome.
Yeah, I feel like that resonates sowell because, like you said, we do a
lot of things and a lot of times welike doing a lot of things, but like
you said, when you get to the place ofresentment or doing too much that you
could outsource or, things like that, thenthat's where you need to find a balance.
It's
KYRIE BLANEY (14:25):
neat that you're a speaker.
It can be hard for us tolet go of control though.
Yes.
That's what women struggle with isletting go of control and knowing,
like you said, I love outsourcing.
Especially if you're running abusiness, outsourcing is huge.
But there's also like outsourcingthat we can do with our kids.
It's two, right?
It's can we send them to daycare fora few days a week, or can we like,
(14:49):
swap times with a friend so that wecan make some time for ourselves?
Because also as women, we're reallybad about taking time for ourselves.
Even when we really need it, or ourmental health is not great, or our
physical health is not great, those arethe times that we need it the most, and
we struggle the most in giving it up.
Yes,
JEN BANKS (15:09):
I, yeah, you are speaking my language.
I totally agree 100%.
So I noticed that you're a speakerthat I would aspire to be a speaker.
That's awesome.
I would love to own my own eventcenter one day and just have
classes and workshops for women.
So I noticed people canbook with you on Instagram.
(15:30):
What are some of the speakingengagements you've had?
Yeah.
Yeah.
KYRIE BLANEY (15:34):
Oh, gosh.
I have done women's retreats.
I have done women'sentrepreneurship panels.
I have done women's eventsof all different kinds.
I actually have three events.
It's coming up here inthe next few months.
So for my podcast, The ConfidentMompreneur, we're hitting
a hundred podcast episodes.
(15:54):
And so I'm doing like abig celebration for that.
And I'm also launching a women'scommunity called The Confident
Post where we have different blogposts about different things.
And there's like a community forumwhere you can come on, get ask
questions and get answers without aton of judgment or anything like that.
You can share your events for yourbusinesses, all of those types of things.
(16:15):
So I'm doing a big party for that andI'm gonna do a little fun speech at that.
And then I have women's,International Women's Day is
gonna be coming up in March.
And so I'm doing an event on thatand we're talking about inclusivity.
And with that, I'm really focusing on likeour differences are our strengths, right?
(16:39):
So our story has so much powerif we're, we have the willingness
to share it and to connect.
I always, one of my favorite phrases isthat vulnerability creates connection.
So I love spreading that, that knowledgeand just sharing my story so that
other people don't feel so alone.
(17:01):
And then my other event,I'm doing a virtual summit.
It's called the Hike Like a Woman Summit.
We've got over 40 speakersfrom 7 different countries.
And it's about women in the outdoors.
If you're a woman who loves the outdoors,who loves adventure like I do that's
a very cool one to come and listen to.
JEN BANKS (17:21):
That's so great.
Thank you for sharingthose upcoming events.
Oh, so exciting.
Yeah.
Is there a favorite quote ormantra that guides what you do?
KYRIE BLANEY (17:30):
I just shared it, but the vulnerability creates connection.
And there's power in sharing our stories.
Like you said, my story's hard.
There's a lot of really hard, dark piecesof it that make people uncomfortable.
Because they don't hear peopletalk about it, it's taboo.
(17:53):
Even with the rise of social mediaand us talking more openly about, body
kind of things, and feeling good inour bodies, but also, mental health.
It's still pretty taboo and I don'tsee very many people talking about
Hey, I actually, the cops had to comeand drag me from my house and bring
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me to the hospital to an inpatientfacility because I tried to kill myself.
Nobody says those things.
And I think, when you go throughit and it hasn't been talked
about, you feel so alone.
And it makes that experience It's so muchmore isolating and so much more hard.
(18:34):
And like I said, thereis power in community.
So if you have community, if youhave those people that are sharing
those stories that have beenthrough similar things as you it
feels easier to handle those bighard things when they come along.
JEN BANKS (18:51):
Yeah, so true.
And hand in hand with what you're saying.
I heard recently, too, that authenticitycreates magnetism, and then people
are drawn to you, and to, relatingto you, and opening up, and just
finding someone that they can leanon, and bring into their village,
KYRIE BLANEY (19:08):
yeah, I since sharing my story, like you said, that magnetism of
the right people being drawn into me is sohuge, and that's why I love, The community
that I have even on social media.
Social media has a lot of downsides, butone of the upsides is the ability for
you to connect with people from literallyanywhere and everywhere that have
(19:32):
those similar values and things as you.
I do love that so much.
Yes,
JEN BANKS (19:38):
Thanks again.
It's been so great to talk to you.
And you mentioned your podcast.
Is there anywhere else people can
KYRIE BLANEY (19:44):
find you?
Yeah, the main places tofind me are on Instagram.
It's just at the confident mompreneur.
And then my podcast has the samename, The Confident Mompreneur.
And then, like I said, I am doing a fewbig giveaways if this comes out before
February 28th, I'll be, er, 24th, I'llbe doing a few big giveaways for my
(20:07):
100th podcast episode, so if you guyswant to check those out on my Instagram.
And then I'll be launching my women'scommunity, which is TheConfidentPost.
com.
Those are the places to find me.
JEN BANKS (20:19):
Great!
Thank you so much.
I had something I was goingto say and it's gone now.
I
KYRIE BLANEY (20:24):
don't know.
That always happens
JEN BANKS (20:26):
to me.
I know.
But, anyway.
Yeah, have a fabulous dayand good to talk to you.
KYRIE BLANEY (20:33):
Yeah, thank you.
Thank you as always to Blane from Ridethe Wave Media for producing this podcast.
He is not only the CEO of Ride theWave Media, but he is also host
of the best podcast in Utah, RadioDaybreak, so check that one out.
And if you want to start your ownpodcast, reach out to me or him
and we'll get you on the network.
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Remember to follow me on Instagram atAS4Adversity and I'll see you next week.
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