May 16, 2024 • 30 mins
Journey To Self-Discovery: A Conversation with Rachel Cox Taylor
In this podcast episode, Jen shares updates from her life, including getting back into routines after a trip, editing her book, and personal family stories. The focus then shifts to an insightful conversation with guest Rachel Cox Taylor, who shares her journey and insights on personal growth, the importance of unconditional love, and understanding one's core values. Rachel, describing herself as a soul coach, delves into the idea of helping others remember their innate worth and find their purpose. She emphasizes the significance of self-care, particularly for mothers, urging them to prioritize their own fulfillment to better nurture their families. The episode concludes with details on how listeners can connect with Rachel and an invitation to local community meetups.
00:00 Welcome to the Podcast: Life Updates and Book Editing Journey 01:02 Family Moments: Tooth Fairy Visits and Puppy Parties 02:08 Introducing Rachel Taylor: A Conversation on Seeing and Being Seen 02:34 Rachel Taylor's Story: From Personal Journey to Soul Coaching 05:14 Exploring Core Values and the Essence of Unconditional Love 06:22 The Role of a Soul Coach: Guiding Others to Their Inner Knowing 10:19 Discovering Life's Purpose and the Power of Joy 14:08 Rachel's Approach to Helping Clients Remember Who They Are 22:35 A Message of Self-Priority and Finding Joy 28:21 Closing Thoughts and How to Connect with Rachel
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Hey there, welcome to the podcast.
It's been a busy week.
I have gotten back into myroutines after my trip and I've
been working on editing my book.
I definitely felt on top of the worldwhen I left my writing adventure.
It was so neat, so blissful, and sodetached from everything else, and now
I'm back in the real world and tryingto fit in editing here and there.
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I'm getting feedback.
I'm navigating that.
It's a humbling experience.
I'm also practicing a lotof self care to combat that.
But I am grateful for people who arewilling to help me bring forth my
message and make it the best it can be.
My oldest lost his first tooth yesterdayand it was hilarious because he came
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home from school and he said, Mom, guesswhat came out of my body at school today?
It was not how I was expecting to hearabout the experience, but very funny.
And then he told his dad laterthat he lost something at
school and it was his tooth.
My middle son recently ate an icecream cone almost as big as his face.
Oh, I have a picture.
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We are just loving this warmerweather and getting into ways
that can then cool us back down.
And my youngest justturned two on Mother's Day.
He had a puppy party andwe did all things dog.
We had a little adopt a dog stationwith stuffed animal puppies and
we had little snacks with dogbowls for the vessel of serving.
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And it was just a really good time.
We celebrated the day before Mother's Dayis that I could still technically have
my own day, but hope you had a good one.
weekend and that you're gettinggeared up and ready for the summer.
I know I am.
My guest today is Rachel Taylor and sheis one of those people that is just so
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good at seeing you, hearing you, feelingyour emotions, and being with you.
Helping you to know that yourworth is It's infinite and the you
truly have the answers within you.
So I will let us get onto theconversation with Rachel Taylor.
Jen Banks (02:34):
Oh, I am here with Rachel Taylor.
How are you, Rachel?
I'm so good.
Thank
Rachel Taylor (02:39):
you.
Yes, I love your shirt, by the way.
Thanks.
A little bit on the wild side today.
Jen Banks (02:47):
Own it, lean into it, be the fullness.
Yes.
Yes.
Well, I am so excited tohave you on the podcast.
We talk a lot in person, so I'mexcited to see how that translates
to our conversation here.
I really just love when itfeels organic and natural.
So I am hoping that we can just be whowe are and then show that to the world.
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That would be my wish too.
I'm really
Rachel Taylor (03:12):
excited.
Jen Banks (03:13):
Yes.
So the theme or the pattern, I shouldsay, this podcast is I like to talk
to people and discover who theyare and then go into what they do.
So let's talk about you a little bit.
Who are you?
What's your soul like?
Just introduce us to you.
Rachel Taylor (03:30):
Okay.
Um, well, my name is Rachel Cox Taylor.
Middle name was my maiden name.
I never had one.
So I got one when I got married and Ienjoy carrying that part around with me.
Um, I love where I've come from.
I have two great parents and I havefour kids who are ages 16, 14, 8 and 10.
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Um, I absolutely love animals and beingin nature, they both fill my soul,
just being with animals and feeling theunconditional love that they give to us
and, uh, really striving for that in myown life to give and receive as well.
Uh, I love reading and learning.
I am a constant learner.
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I love helping people seedeeper into who they are.
Um, and that also magically andbeautifully brings that knowing
of myself stronger too as Iassist other people in doing that.
Uh, is there anything specificyou would like to know?
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I think that's a nutshell
Jen Banks (04:46):
of me.
Yeah, I think that was a great nutshell.
I've been reflecting recently on justhow we introduce ourselves and I thought
you did a great job because a lot oftimes people will begin by saying who
their kids are and that was great.
You know, a little bit intoyour, your explanation.
So I love that.
I love hearing how you brought your middlename into your, or your, your maiden
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name into your new name and just allthose things that kind of light you up.
So thank you.
That was great.
One question I did have, andthat I love to ask people is
what is one of your core values?
One of my core values,
Rachel Taylor (05:22):
probably my highest core value, is unconditional love.
Uh, and that is come from,I think, wanting that.
Wanting to receive that.
And wanting to receive that has Also,just fans this flame and brought this
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burning fire and desire to be ableto love other people in that way.
I feel like that's what we all wantis that being seen and heard and loved
and exactly how we're showing up sothat we can really feel who we are.
So unconditional love is definitelyone of my top core core values.
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Yeah.
so much.
Thanks.
Jen Banks (06:09):
That's so great.
And I see you embody that all the time.
I've definitely felt your love and seeingyou love others too, unconditionally.
So you're, you're great atliving that core value as well.
Thank you.
Yes.
Well, um, let's see, wheredo we want to go next?
I met Rachel through the neighborhoodthat I live in and we go on walks every
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Wednesday and that has been so incredible.
I feel like you're so good at that.
At bringing people back to theirinner knowing and just listening
to their heart, their soul.
And I heard you say one time thatyou have a soul coach and I just had
never heard it put that way before.
And I love that phrase soul coachbecause you're, you're working with
the whole soul, you know, it's notjust your thoughts or your, you know,
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your actions, but it's just all of it.
So I really love how that all encompasses.
How did you meet your soul coach?
Um,
Rachel Taylor (07:09):
so they don't even call themselves a soul coach.
I kind of assigned them that name andI would say that I've had many soul
coaches and one of the things thatI love is being more in alignment
with who I am and I seek that.
I seek that through teachersand books and programs and just
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bettering and improving myself.
And as I've gone through my life, Ifound these different soul coaches.
And what I've discovered makes a soulcoach for me is someone who points me
to myself, someone who points me tothe truth of who I am, kind of like you
said, but it has been a journey for meto find that person who I am and gaining
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that awareness has given me the desireto help other people discover who they
are so they can walk through life inconfidence, without a mask, without fear
of showing what they really love, whatthey're really interested in, what they
want to do, who they want to become.
So yes, I've had many soulcoaches in my life and they've
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been the ones who haven't been.
You gotta do it this way.
Because this will helpyou with X, Y, and Z.
What is your heart tellingyou in this moment?
How are you feeling about this decision?
When did you turn to ask, youknow, in your prayers or in your
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meditations for what your truth is?
And I've had a lot of teachers, andnot all of them do that, and the ones
that have have always been the onesthat have Show me stronger who I am.
And I'm so grateful for all of the soulcoaches that have showed up in my life.
Jen Banks (09:03):
Yes.
That's beautiful.
I feel like many people think we.
We think with our minds, butwe think with our whole body.
And I, I'm learning that aswell, as you are, have said.
And as you are, I haven't alwaysbeen as in tune with my body as I
feel like I am now, and it's justso neat to feel the truth of things
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and to know the truth of things.
And so, Yeah.
There's nothing like it.
Yeah.
I love
Rachel Taylor (09:30):
that you brought that up.
I agree.
I think from a young age we start tobe told, like, we'll say, Oh, I, I
don't feel good or don't like that.
Or my stomach hurts and it'lljust be like, Oh, you're okay.
You're a big girl or you're a big boy.
And it's brushed away at a youngage and coming to feel our souls
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are our true selves requires us to.
To become in a way that, that parent, thatleadership that wasn't there and to take
that role and say, Oh, my stomach hurts.
What's going on?
Is there something I don't like?
Is there something I need to change?
What am I telling myself if we showup to be that listener in that moment?
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I love that you brought that up.
Jen Banks (10:17):
Yeah, that's so true.
I am in a course called selfassured motherhood and the
section that we're on right nowis discovering our life's purpose.
And so she, Encouraged us to think ofdifferent life turns and things that have
happened and use that as a window intowhat we feel like our purpose might be.
And so I've been reflecting onthat and I think mine might be
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sort of some sort of a mentor.
I really love just showing other peoplethat there's different ways to do things.
And.
Exploring all that.
So would you say that?
You're really good
Rachel Taylor (10:51):
at that.
I see that in you.
Thank you.
And you're so willingto share all the time.
I, I love that about you.
Jen Banks (10:58):
Yes.
And what would you say youfeel like your life purpose is?
I know that's a huge question,but maybe even along the lines
of what we were talking, do youfeel like it is a soul coach role?
Cause you've had so many of those peoplein your life that touched you that way.
Okay,
Rachel Taylor (11:14):
so my purpose, I have a purpose statement and my purpose
is to give and receive unconditionallove, to breathe gratitude and joy.
and to help guide others to a remembranceof who they are as their highest self.
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And that's my purpose.
Like, I, I feel it with all mybeing and I know purposes can also
change throughout life and the focuscan, but That is what lights me up.
It makes me happy.
It brings me joy.
And I think sometimes we struggle sohard to be like, Oh, what's my purpose?
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And am I going to mess this up?
We don't have some purposewe're going to miss.
We have what we create our purpose to be.
And the thing that we can create iswhat brings us the most happiness
and find, follow the breadcrumbs.
Trails of joy and when we're following thebreadcrumbs of joy Then all of a sudden
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it's there and we realize this is what Iwas made for Because we allowed ourself
to follow the joy So when I say that mypurpose is to help other people Come to
remembrance of who they are and they'retheir inner being in their high self.
I I I feel so much joy doingthat, and I don't expect anyone
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else to feel that same joy.
Some people will, but we allhave our own joy and our own
spark, and I love that we do.
Jen Banks (12:57):
So great.
I love that you were able tojust say that in its form.
So I am working towards that, andwe've talked about this before.
I love finding people who are 10steps ahead of me so I can, you
know, I can figure out the path andwatch their journey and make mine.
My own within that.
Rachel Taylor (13:15):
And we're all 10 steps ahead in different areas, you know,
and that's the beautiful part is that,you know, I love that you're creating
community and a place where peoplecan share and lift each other up in
the part that they're 10 steps behind.
So it's.
It's what we're made for to, to givethat, that helping hand and those
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steps that we have already climbed.
And, and that's what brings usjoy is that, Oh yeah, I did take
those steps and here, come here.
And again, that's.
Another way to find our purpose is whathave you focused your steps on the most?
Because that's what's bringing you joyand that's maybe where you can serve
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and help and contribute in your life.
Jen Banks (14:06):
Yes, definitely.
That's so good.
Okay, so I know these are veryintertwined, but let's move on
a little bit to what you do.
So how is it that you helppeople remember who they are and
bring them back to themselves?
Rachel Taylor (14:21):
So what I'm currently doing is I have, we call them clients,
but the, when my clients first startedcoming to me, they would say, Oh,
I'm here for my therapy session.
And that didn't set well.
It didn't set well because to me,it felt like it wrapped people in a
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mindset that they're fixing themselves.
This is their time wherethey're fixing themselves.
I don't believe that people are broken.
What I believe is that we've forgottenwho we are at our core, just from living
life, from the trauma we've experienced,from people telling us what we should
believe, what we should do, how weshould behave, what we should wear.
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The list goes on.
We forget who we are.
It's so easy to do, and most of us have.
And so what I do is when my clientssit with me or online, we will center
ourselves And I'll breathe with themand we'll breathe into our hearts
and we'll breathe in love and we'llbreathe out fear and we'll come to
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a place where we're connected tolove and light and truth to God.
Whatever you call a higher power, weconnect to that higher power together.
And when we are both in alignment withthat higher power inside of us, then
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my client speaks and I listen.
And as I listen, I just, Ijust hear what they're saying.
And after they're done speakingwith whatever's going on in their
life, usually for that week, theycan talk about things from their
past, but whatever's on their mind,whatever's on their heart, they let go.
And then we go through what they'veshared and I will ask them questions.
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It's very intuitive what I do,but I will ask them questions.
I will bring up things thatmaybe they didn't notice they
said and that they focused on.
And they always, and I'm not saying thislightly, they will always know their
answer in the end of the conversation.
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They will know their truth.
And remembering session by rememberingsession, I see them become empowered.
I see them become aligned withunconditional love, with knowing who
they are as a being of love, not fear.
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And I see their ability to makedecisions, their ability to
understand why they feelthe way they do, opens up.
And where there was darkness intheir hearts and in their souls,
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light floods in and it becomesa remembrance of who they are.
And I also tell my clientsthat they don't need me
and they don't to this point.
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They don't need me once they canlearn how to connect that inner
knowing and once they can seetheir truth and feel their truth.
They hear me and I reflectback to them what they know is
true already, but they learn tostrengthen this within themselves.
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So I'm a facilitator.
I I am a person who basicallyturns on a recognition and creates
this path for them to walk down towholeness and to light and to truth.
So they need me but they don't.
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They need me to help them get started andthen my ultimate goal is that they go on
and they free themselves and they knowthat they have everything within them.
That they possibly need and theyhave the tools to get there and they
have the confidence and the strength
Jen Banks (18:46):
to do it.
That is so beautiful.
I love even just hearing aboutthe process that That's wonderful.
And I know I've experienced that with you.
So that's beautiful.
I know it's different probablytoo for every person, but I'm, I'm
wondering what the power is there.
Probably, like you said, initiallypeople just being seen and heard and,
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you know, it kind of connotes to alittle bit of permission or validity,
you know, as you remind them who theyare, that they really are capable.
You're just.
Just giving them a gentle push in thatdirection that they're, they're worth it.
And that they do, you know,that have that inner knowing
and they just need to remember.
Rachel Taylor (19:26):
Yeah, I remember one time you said something to me, and
you said that when we were talkingthat I was like a reflection to you.
That you saw yourself reflectedin what I would share.
And that's a beautiful thingwith human beings because we all
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have this divinity within us.
And something magical happens when wecome together seeking that divinity
within us is all of the sudden, it canbe harder to see in ourselves, but when
sometimes when we hear someone elsespeaking or see someone else, we have
this recognition because we see it likethis reflection from a mirror and we're
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like, Oh my, and we feel it in our heart.
And then we see it in our eyes in themirror and all of a sudden, we're like,
wow, I am this amazing thing that I feelin this person, or I am this amazing
thing that I felt when I'm with them.
I see me again.
I remember me again.
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And we come back to life and we feel it.
That's one of the beautiful things ofbeing vulnerable and finding people that
we can create that with and someone wecan trust and and create those kind of
communities together where you can gatherand be that reflection for one another
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and, and bring each other to that light.
Jen Banks (20:58):
Yes, this conversation is conjuring up experiences
that I've had with other people.
And it's, it's I'm saying it somewhatjokingly, but it's also the truth
where sometimes you'll go to peoplebecause you know, they'll validate an
idea that you have or an experience.
And it's because, like you said,they're reflecting what you truly want.
Whereas other people, theytry to shut it down or they
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try to say, Oh, don't do that.
You know, and they're, they'requieting your inner knowing.
And so, uh, yeah, that's just whatit reminded me of like, Oh yeah, I'm
going to go talk to this person aboutthis because I know that she'll get
what I'm trying to say, you know, Yes,
Rachel Taylor (21:36):
and it's like talking about soul coach.
Soul coach, to me, is someonewho points you to your soul.
They don't point to themselves andsay, I'm the authority, and if you
do it this way, it's gonna work.
Like, if you do it this way, if you do ityour way, it's not gonna be as successful.
But you have this inner knowing.
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A soul coach, somebody will alwayspoint you back to your truth
and your power and empower you.
Jen Banks (22:05):
Yeah, it's neat.
It's, this has been causing me toremember people that have been that
definition in my life, a soul coach,because I can, I can pinpoint it and
I, I feel it's power and I know thatthat's the true way to do things.
That's how we're going to grow and evolve.
And, And be our best version ofourselves or be in alignment with
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ourselves because we're, we're followingthe people that lead us back to us.
So that's great.
Yeah, I agree.
Great.
Well, what is a message that'son your heart that you'd love
to share with my audience today?
Is there something that'scoming to mind that is, You've
been thinking about sharing?
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Um, you know,
Rachel Taylor (22:51):
I think the biggest thing your audience I think would be
mostly women, there's probably somemen, um, maybe a lot of mothers.
And I think if I were to give amessage to mothers and to women and
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fathers, if you're listening to it willapply, is to not put yourself second.
Put yourself first.
And this is why.
A lot of years I put myself third, fourth,fifth in my life and I forgot who I was
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because that's not how our souls work.
I know that a lot of times we'retaught, Oh, well, you can't be selfish.
Don't be selfish.
This isn't your time toworry about yourself.
You have all these people to take care of.
What I mean, yes, you'll feed yourchildren before you feed yourself.
What I mean when I mean be selfishis Make sure that you are doing
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the things that feed your soul.
Following the breadcrumbs to joy,uh, reading the books that uplift you
and inspire you, taking time to takecare of your body, taking time to
connect with your higher self, withyour inner being, with, with God, with
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the universe, whatever you call it,with that higher power inside of you.
Because it is so easy to loseourselves in the Side callings of
life, like we go through phases.
We're not always going to bemothers to young children.
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I remember one time I was speakingto someone who just had all of their
kids Become empty, you know, shewas, she became an empty nester.
All of her kids had flown and shedidn't know who she was and she
didn't know what she would do.
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But more importantly, she didn'teven know what she liked anymore.
And that was when my children werevery young that this happened.
And I, she reflected back tome in that moment that I was
kind of becoming that, I think.
I couldn't pinpoint the things thatI really loved, the things that
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really lit me up with joy, otherthan the smiles of my kids and the
activities that I did for them.
So there's a balance and If you willfill yourself first, if you will follow
your breadcrumbs for joy, if you will doall of that, you will show up happier,
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you will show up wiser, you willshow up with more unconditional love.
For everyone in your family, yoursignificant other and your children,
and you will be able to always be therefor yourself in your life, depending on
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whatever you are fulfilling, whateverrole, whether it be motherhood, um,
You know, being a daughter, beinga wife, that's not who you are.
You're not those roles.
You are that divinity within youand if you lose connection with
that divine part in you, youwill never feel fully fulfilled.
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You'll always feel a little bit ora lot of an emptiness inside of you.
If you feel that way rightnow, that is what is missing.
I will tell you that right now.
It is that connection withthat divine part inside of you
that you need to put first.
So you can share it with the peopleyou love, you can share it with
your friends, you can share itwith your family, with your kids.
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That's who you need to be in your life.
Jen Banks (26:59):
That's a beautiful message.
Thank you so much.
And I feel like it just aligns right withwhat I teach and I'm doing and living.
And I'm so glad that you're a betareader for my book because you'll
see a lot of those tones in there.
Because when we do fill our cup,we show up as a much better mother.
When it's not, then when it's notfull, if we're feeling bothered by
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our children, it's because we'renot living out our life's purpose.
And so we feel, you know, buried by whatwe're doing instead of, you know, coming
to it from a place of joy and willingness.
Absolutely.
One other thing I wantedto say too, is that.
You, you hit the nail on the head too.
Our purpose transcends ourroles and responsibilities.
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That is the overarching mission and goal.
And then whatever role we're in, we'reable to show up with that purpose in
some way or form, or make sure thatwe're filling that purpose and that need,
and then showing up as in that role.
Absolutely.
Rachel Taylor (28:00):
Yes.
And your purpose, you know,remember, there's like not one
thing you're here on earth to do.
Follow the joy.
You're, you're always led to yourpurpose through what brings you joy.
And when you're joyful, Imean, you're spreading it all
over and everybody benefits.
Jen Banks (28:19):
So true.
Okay.
Well, thank you so muchfor this conversation.
It feels like a little piece of heaven.
And then now regular life, Idon't know, but where can you get
to bring all the heaven with us?
Yes, for sure.
Where can people get in touch with you ifthey want to learn more or work with you?
Rachel Taylor (28:38):
Well, right now I'm on Facebook, and it's Rachel,
R A C H E L, Cox, Taylor, and I'malso on Instagram, and it's Rachel
underscore Cox underscore Taylor.
I will be, I'm in the process ofbuilding some other things that
are going to be really excitingcoming up, so I'd love for you to
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follow me there and get to know you.
I'm building a community.
Uh, filled with unconditional loveand joy and gratitude and really
anchoring down and remembering who
Jen Banks (29:12):
we are.
So good.
Thank you.
Well, it's been, it's been great toget to know you and your soul and to
have you share that with all of us.
Thank you.
Rachel Taylor (29:21):
Thank you for having me.
And I just love you, Jen.
So I want you to know that.
Thank you for what you do for all of us.
Thank you, Rachel.
You're welcome.
Thank you as always to Blane from Ridethe Wave Media for producing this episode.
And if you want to start your own podcast,be sure to reach out to me or him.
Please leave me a review and followme on Instagram at isforadversity.
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Something new that we're startingwith the Daybreak Business
Community is Monday Meetups.
These are once a month, the firstMonday of the month from 1030
to noon at Bingham Creek Park.
So if you're local, come join us there.
It's a great way to meet other momsor people in your neighborhood, find
out what they're doing, other businessor side hustle, and just let your
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kids play and get some connection.
Hey there, welcome to the podcast.
It's been a busy week.
I have gotten back into myroutines after my trip and I've
been working on editing my book.
I definitely felt on top of the worldwhen I left my writing adventure.
It was so neat, so blissful, and sodetached from everything else, and now
I'm back in the real world and tryingto fit in editing here and there.
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I'm getting feedback.
I'm navigating that.
It's a humbling experience.
I'm also practicing a lotof self care to combat that.
But I am grateful for people who arewilling to help me bring forth my
message and make it the best it can be.
My oldest lost his first tooth yesterdayand it was hilarious because he came
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home from school and he said, Mom, guesswhat came out of my body at school today?
It was not how I was expecting to hearabout the experience, but very funny.
And then he told his dad laterthat he lost something at
school and it was his tooth.
My middle son recently ate an icecream cone almost as big as his face.
Oh, I have a picture.
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We are just loving this warmerweather and getting into ways
that can then cool us back down.
And my youngest justturned two on Mother's Day.
He had a puppy party andwe did all things dog.
We had a little adopt a dog stationwith stuffed animal puppies and
we had little snacks with dogbowls for the vessel of serving.
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And it was just a really good time.
We celebrated the day before Mother's Dayis that I could still technically have
my own day, but hope you had a good one.
weekend and that you're gettinggeared up and ready for the summer.
I know I am.
My guest today is Rachel Taylor and sheis one of those people that is just so
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good at seeing you, hearing you, feelingyour emotions, and being with you.
Helping you to know that yourworth is It's infinite and the you
truly have the answers within you.
So I will let us get onto theconversation with Rachel Taylor.
Jen Banks (02:34):
Oh, I am here with Rachel Taylor.
How are you, Rachel?
I'm so good.
Thank
Rachel Taylor (02:39):
you.
Yes, I love your shirt, by the way.
Thanks.
A little bit on the wild side today.
Jen Banks (02:47):
Own it, lean into it, be the fullness.
Yes.
Yes.
Well, I am so excited tohave you on the podcast.
We talk a lot in person, so I'mexcited to see how that translates
to our conversation here.
I really just love when itfeels organic and natural.
So I am hoping that we can just be whowe are and then show that to the world.
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That would be my wish too.
I'm really
Rachel Taylor (03:12):
excited.
Jen Banks (03:13):
Yes.
So the theme or the pattern, I shouldsay, this podcast is I like to talk
to people and discover who theyare and then go into what they do.
So let's talk about you a little bit.
Who are you?
What's your soul like?
Just introduce us to you.
Rachel Taylor (03:30):
Okay.
Um, well, my name is Rachel Cox Taylor.
Middle name was my maiden name.
I never had one.
So I got one when I got married and Ienjoy carrying that part around with me.
Um, I love where I've come from.
I have two great parents and I havefour kids who are ages 16, 14, 8 and 10.
(04:00):
Um, I absolutely love animals and beingin nature, they both fill my soul,
just being with animals and feeling theunconditional love that they give to us
and, uh, really striving for that in myown life to give and receive as well.
Uh, I love reading and learning.
I am a constant learner.
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I love helping people seedeeper into who they are.
Um, and that also magically andbeautifully brings that knowing
of myself stronger too as Iassist other people in doing that.
Uh, is there anything specificyou would like to know?
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I think that's a nutshell
Jen Banks (04:46):
of me.
Yeah, I think that was a great nutshell.
I've been reflecting recently on justhow we introduce ourselves and I thought
you did a great job because a lot oftimes people will begin by saying who
their kids are and that was great.
You know, a little bit intoyour, your explanation.
So I love that.
I love hearing how you brought your middlename into your, or your, your maiden
(05:07):
name into your new name and just allthose things that kind of light you up.
So thank you.
That was great.
One question I did have, andthat I love to ask people is
what is one of your core values?
One of my core values,
Rachel Taylor (05:22):
probably my highest core value, is unconditional love.
Uh, and that is come from,I think, wanting that.
Wanting to receive that.
And wanting to receive that has Also,just fans this flame and brought this
(05:44):
burning fire and desire to be ableto love other people in that way.
I feel like that's what we all wantis that being seen and heard and loved
and exactly how we're showing up sothat we can really feel who we are.
So unconditional love is definitelyone of my top core core values.
(06:07):
Yeah.
so much.
Thanks.
Jen Banks (06:09):
That's so great.
And I see you embody that all the time.
I've definitely felt your love and seeingyou love others too, unconditionally.
So you're, you're great atliving that core value as well.
Thank you.
Yes.
Well, um, let's see, wheredo we want to go next?
I met Rachel through the neighborhoodthat I live in and we go on walks every
(06:34):
Wednesday and that has been so incredible.
I feel like you're so good at that.
At bringing people back to theirinner knowing and just listening
to their heart, their soul.
And I heard you say one time thatyou have a soul coach and I just had
never heard it put that way before.
And I love that phrase soul coachbecause you're, you're working with
the whole soul, you know, it's notjust your thoughts or your, you know,
(07:00):
your actions, but it's just all of it.
So I really love how that all encompasses.
How did you meet your soul coach?
Um,
Rachel Taylor (07:09):
so they don't even call themselves a soul coach.
I kind of assigned them that name andI would say that I've had many soul
coaches and one of the things thatI love is being more in alignment
with who I am and I seek that.
I seek that through teachersand books and programs and just
(07:33):
bettering and improving myself.
And as I've gone through my life, Ifound these different soul coaches.
And what I've discovered makes a soulcoach for me is someone who points me
to myself, someone who points me tothe truth of who I am, kind of like you
said, but it has been a journey for meto find that person who I am and gaining
(07:59):
that awareness has given me the desireto help other people discover who they
are so they can walk through life inconfidence, without a mask, without fear
of showing what they really love, whatthey're really interested in, what they
want to do, who they want to become.
So yes, I've had many soulcoaches in my life and they've
(08:20):
been the ones who haven't been.
You gotta do it this way.
Because this will helpyou with X, Y, and Z.
What is your heart tellingyou in this moment?
How are you feeling about this decision?
When did you turn to ask, youknow, in your prayers or in your
(08:43):
meditations for what your truth is?
And I've had a lot of teachers, andnot all of them do that, and the ones
that have have always been the onesthat have Show me stronger who I am.
And I'm so grateful for all of the soulcoaches that have showed up in my life.
Jen Banks (09:03):
Yes.
That's beautiful.
I feel like many people think we.
We think with our minds, butwe think with our whole body.
And I, I'm learning that aswell, as you are, have said.
And as you are, I haven't alwaysbeen as in tune with my body as I
feel like I am now, and it's justso neat to feel the truth of things
(09:24):
and to know the truth of things.
And so, Yeah.
There's nothing like it.
Yeah.
I love
Rachel Taylor (09:30):
that you brought that up.
I agree.
I think from a young age we start tobe told, like, we'll say, Oh, I, I
don't feel good or don't like that.
Or my stomach hurts and it'lljust be like, Oh, you're okay.
You're a big girl or you're a big boy.
And it's brushed away at a youngage and coming to feel our souls
(09:52):
are our true selves requires us to.
To become in a way that, that parent, thatleadership that wasn't there and to take
that role and say, Oh, my stomach hurts.
What's going on?
Is there something I don't like?
Is there something I need to change?
What am I telling myself if we showup to be that listener in that moment?
(10:15):
I love that you brought that up.
Jen Banks (10:17):
Yeah, that's so true.
I am in a course called selfassured motherhood and the
section that we're on right nowis discovering our life's purpose.
And so she, Encouraged us to think ofdifferent life turns and things that have
happened and use that as a window intowhat we feel like our purpose might be.
And so I've been reflecting onthat and I think mine might be
(10:41):
sort of some sort of a mentor.
I really love just showing other peoplethat there's different ways to do things.
And.
Exploring all that.
So would you say that?
You're really good
Rachel Taylor (10:51):
at that.
I see that in you.
Thank you.
And you're so willingto share all the time.
I, I love that about you.
Jen Banks (10:58):
Yes.
And what would you say youfeel like your life purpose is?
I know that's a huge question,but maybe even along the lines
of what we were talking, do youfeel like it is a soul coach role?
Cause you've had so many of those peoplein your life that touched you that way.
Okay,
Rachel Taylor (11:14):
so my purpose, I have a purpose statement and my purpose
is to give and receive unconditionallove, to breathe gratitude and joy.
and to help guide others to a remembranceof who they are as their highest self.
(11:38):
And that's my purpose.
Like, I, I feel it with all mybeing and I know purposes can also
change throughout life and the focuscan, but That is what lights me up.
It makes me happy.
It brings me joy.
And I think sometimes we struggle sohard to be like, Oh, what's my purpose?
(12:01):
And am I going to mess this up?
We don't have some purposewe're going to miss.
We have what we create our purpose to be.
And the thing that we can create iswhat brings us the most happiness
and find, follow the breadcrumbs.
Trails of joy and when we're following thebreadcrumbs of joy Then all of a sudden
(12:24):
it's there and we realize this is what Iwas made for Because we allowed ourself
to follow the joy So when I say that mypurpose is to help other people Come to
remembrance of who they are and they'retheir inner being in their high self.
I I I feel so much joy doingthat, and I don't expect anyone
(12:47):
else to feel that same joy.
Some people will, but we allhave our own joy and our own
spark, and I love that we do.
Jen Banks (12:57):
So great.
I love that you were able tojust say that in its form.
So I am working towards that, andwe've talked about this before.
I love finding people who are 10steps ahead of me so I can, you
know, I can figure out the path andwatch their journey and make mine.
My own within that.
Rachel Taylor (13:15):
And we're all 10 steps ahead in different areas, you know,
and that's the beautiful part is that,you know, I love that you're creating
community and a place where peoplecan share and lift each other up in
the part that they're 10 steps behind.
So it's.
It's what we're made for to, to givethat, that helping hand and those
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steps that we have already climbed.
And, and that's what brings usjoy is that, Oh yeah, I did take
those steps and here, come here.
And again, that's.
Another way to find our purpose is whathave you focused your steps on the most?
Because that's what's bringing you joyand that's maybe where you can serve
(14:03):
and help and contribute in your life.
Jen Banks (14:06):
Yes, definitely.
That's so good.
Okay, so I know these are veryintertwined, but let's move on
a little bit to what you do.
So how is it that you helppeople remember who they are and
bring them back to themselves?
Rachel Taylor (14:21):
So what I'm currently doing is I have, we call them clients,
but the, when my clients first startedcoming to me, they would say, Oh,
I'm here for my therapy session.
And that didn't set well.
It didn't set well because to me,it felt like it wrapped people in a
(14:43):
mindset that they're fixing themselves.
This is their time wherethey're fixing themselves.
I don't believe that people are broken.
What I believe is that we've forgottenwho we are at our core, just from living
life, from the trauma we've experienced,from people telling us what we should
believe, what we should do, how weshould behave, what we should wear.
(15:08):
The list goes on.
We forget who we are.
It's so easy to do, and most of us have.
And so what I do is when my clientssit with me or online, we will center
ourselves And I'll breathe with themand we'll breathe into our hearts
and we'll breathe in love and we'llbreathe out fear and we'll come to
(15:31):
a place where we're connected tolove and light and truth to God.
Whatever you call a higher power, weconnect to that higher power together.
And when we are both in alignment withthat higher power inside of us, then
(15:54):
my client speaks and I listen.
And as I listen, I just, Ijust hear what they're saying.
And after they're done speakingwith whatever's going on in their
life, usually for that week, theycan talk about things from their
past, but whatever's on their mind,whatever's on their heart, they let go.
And then we go through what they'veshared and I will ask them questions.
(16:20):
It's very intuitive what I do,but I will ask them questions.
I will bring up things thatmaybe they didn't notice they
said and that they focused on.
And they always, and I'm not saying thislightly, they will always know their
answer in the end of the conversation.
(16:40):
They will know their truth.
And remembering session by rememberingsession, I see them become empowered.
I see them become aligned withunconditional love, with knowing who
they are as a being of love, not fear.
(17:02):
And I see their ability to makedecisions, their ability to
understand why they feelthe way they do, opens up.
And where there was darkness intheir hearts and in their souls,
(17:23):
light floods in and it becomesa remembrance of who they are.
And I also tell my clientsthat they don't need me
and they don't to this point.
(17:44):
They don't need me once they canlearn how to connect that inner
knowing and once they can seetheir truth and feel their truth.
They hear me and I reflectback to them what they know is
true already, but they learn tostrengthen this within themselves.
(18:05):
So I'm a facilitator.
I I am a person who basicallyturns on a recognition and creates
this path for them to walk down towholeness and to light and to truth.
So they need me but they don't.
(18:28):
They need me to help them get started andthen my ultimate goal is that they go on
and they free themselves and they knowthat they have everything within them.
That they possibly need and theyhave the tools to get there and they
have the confidence and the strength
Jen Banks (18:46):
to do it.
That is so beautiful.
I love even just hearing aboutthe process that That's wonderful.
And I know I've experienced that with you.
So that's beautiful.
I know it's different probablytoo for every person, but I'm, I'm
wondering what the power is there.
Probably, like you said, initiallypeople just being seen and heard and,
(19:07):
you know, it kind of connotes to alittle bit of permission or validity,
you know, as you remind them who theyare, that they really are capable.
You're just.
Just giving them a gentle push in thatdirection that they're, they're worth it.
And that they do, you know,that have that inner knowing
and they just need to remember.
Rachel Taylor (19:26):
Yeah, I remember one time you said something to me, and
you said that when we were talkingthat I was like a reflection to you.
That you saw yourself reflectedin what I would share.
And that's a beautiful thingwith human beings because we all
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have this divinity within us.
And something magical happens when wecome together seeking that divinity
within us is all of the sudden, it canbe harder to see in ourselves, but when
sometimes when we hear someone elsespeaking or see someone else, we have
this recognition because we see it likethis reflection from a mirror and we're
(20:13):
like, Oh my, and we feel it in our heart.
And then we see it in our eyes in themirror and all of a sudden, we're like,
wow, I am this amazing thing that I feelin this person, or I am this amazing
thing that I felt when I'm with them.
I see me again.
I remember me again.
(20:34):
And we come back to life and we feel it.
That's one of the beautiful things ofbeing vulnerable and finding people that
we can create that with and someone wecan trust and and create those kind of
communities together where you can gatherand be that reflection for one another
(20:55):
and, and bring each other to that light.
Jen Banks (20:58):
Yes, this conversation is conjuring up experiences
that I've had with other people.
And it's, it's I'm saying it somewhatjokingly, but it's also the truth
where sometimes you'll go to peoplebecause you know, they'll validate an
idea that you have or an experience.
And it's because, like you said,they're reflecting what you truly want.
Whereas other people, theytry to shut it down or they
(21:20):
try to say, Oh, don't do that.
You know, and they're, they'requieting your inner knowing.
And so, uh, yeah, that's just whatit reminded me of like, Oh yeah, I'm
going to go talk to this person aboutthis because I know that she'll get
what I'm trying to say, you know, Yes,
Rachel Taylor (21:36):
and it's like talking about soul coach.
Soul coach, to me, is someonewho points you to your soul.
They don't point to themselves andsay, I'm the authority, and if you
do it this way, it's gonna work.
Like, if you do it this way, if you do ityour way, it's not gonna be as successful.
But you have this inner knowing.
(21:56):
A soul coach, somebody will alwayspoint you back to your truth
and your power and empower you.
Jen Banks (22:05):
Yeah, it's neat.
It's, this has been causing me toremember people that have been that
definition in my life, a soul coach,because I can, I can pinpoint it and
I, I feel it's power and I know thatthat's the true way to do things.
That's how we're going to grow and evolve.
And, And be our best version ofourselves or be in alignment with
(22:26):
ourselves because we're, we're followingthe people that lead us back to us.
So that's great.
Yeah, I agree.
Great.
Well, what is a message that'son your heart that you'd love
to share with my audience today?
Is there something that'scoming to mind that is, You've
been thinking about sharing?
(22:47):
Um, you know,
Rachel Taylor (22:51):
I think the biggest thing your audience I think would be
mostly women, there's probably somemen, um, maybe a lot of mothers.
And I think if I were to give amessage to mothers and to women and
(23:14):
fathers, if you're listening to it willapply, is to not put yourself second.
Put yourself first.
And this is why.
A lot of years I put myself third, fourth,fifth in my life and I forgot who I was
(23:37):
because that's not how our souls work.
I know that a lot of times we'retaught, Oh, well, you can't be selfish.
Don't be selfish.
This isn't your time toworry about yourself.
You have all these people to take care of.
What I mean, yes, you'll feed yourchildren before you feed yourself.
What I mean when I mean be selfishis Make sure that you are doing
(24:01):
the things that feed your soul.
Following the breadcrumbs to joy,uh, reading the books that uplift you
and inspire you, taking time to takecare of your body, taking time to
connect with your higher self, withyour inner being, with, with God, with
(24:24):
the universe, whatever you call it,with that higher power inside of you.
Because it is so easy to loseourselves in the Side callings of
life, like we go through phases.
We're not always going to bemothers to young children.
(24:45):
I remember one time I was speakingto someone who just had all of their
kids Become empty, you know, shewas, she became an empty nester.
All of her kids had flown and shedidn't know who she was and she
didn't know what she would do.
(25:05):
But more importantly, she didn'teven know what she liked anymore.
And that was when my children werevery young that this happened.
And I, she reflected back tome in that moment that I was
kind of becoming that, I think.
I couldn't pinpoint the things thatI really loved, the things that
(25:29):
really lit me up with joy, otherthan the smiles of my kids and the
activities that I did for them.
So there's a balance and If you willfill yourself first, if you will follow
your breadcrumbs for joy, if you will doall of that, you will show up happier,
(25:49):
you will show up wiser, you willshow up with more unconditional love.
For everyone in your family, yoursignificant other and your children,
and you will be able to always be therefor yourself in your life, depending on
(26:10):
whatever you are fulfilling, whateverrole, whether it be motherhood, um,
You know, being a daughter, beinga wife, that's not who you are.
You're not those roles.
You are that divinity within youand if you lose connection with
that divine part in you, youwill never feel fully fulfilled.
(26:32):
You'll always feel a little bit ora lot of an emptiness inside of you.
If you feel that way rightnow, that is what is missing.
I will tell you that right now.
It is that connection withthat divine part inside of you
that you need to put first.
So you can share it with the peopleyou love, you can share it with
your friends, you can share itwith your family, with your kids.
(26:54):
That's who you need to be in your life.
Jen Banks (26:59):
That's a beautiful message.
Thank you so much.
And I feel like it just aligns right withwhat I teach and I'm doing and living.
And I'm so glad that you're a betareader for my book because you'll
see a lot of those tones in there.
Because when we do fill our cup,we show up as a much better mother.
When it's not, then when it's notfull, if we're feeling bothered by
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our children, it's because we'renot living out our life's purpose.
And so we feel, you know, buried by whatwe're doing instead of, you know, coming
to it from a place of joy and willingness.
Absolutely.
One other thing I wantedto say too, is that.
You, you hit the nail on the head too.
Our purpose transcends ourroles and responsibilities.
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That is the overarching mission and goal.
And then whatever role we're in, we'reable to show up with that purpose in
some way or form, or make sure thatwe're filling that purpose and that need,
and then showing up as in that role.
Absolutely.
Rachel Taylor (28:00):
Yes.
And your purpose, you know,remember, there's like not one
thing you're here on earth to do.
Follow the joy.
You're, you're always led to yourpurpose through what brings you joy.
And when you're joyful, Imean, you're spreading it all
over and everybody benefits.
Jen Banks (28:19):
So true.
Okay.
Well, thank you so muchfor this conversation.
It feels like a little piece of heaven.
And then now regular life, Idon't know, but where can you get
to bring all the heaven with us?
Yes, for sure.
Where can people get in touch with you ifthey want to learn more or work with you?
Rachel Taylor (28:38):
Well, right now I'm on Facebook, and it's Rachel,
R A C H E L, Cox, Taylor, and I'malso on Instagram, and it's Rachel
underscore Cox underscore Taylor.
I will be, I'm in the process ofbuilding some other things that
are going to be really excitingcoming up, so I'd love for you to
(28:58):
follow me there and get to know you.
I'm building a community.
Uh, filled with unconditional loveand joy and gratitude and really
anchoring down and remembering who
Jen Banks (29:12):
we are.
So good.
Thank you.
Well, it's been, it's been great toget to know you and your soul and to
have you share that with all of us.
Thank you.
Rachel Taylor (29:21):
Thank you for having me.
And I just love you, Jen.
So I want you to know that.
Thank you for what you do for all of us.
Thank you, Rachel.
You're welcome.
Thank you as always to Blane from Ridethe Wave Media for producing this episode.
And if you want to start your own podcast,be sure to reach out to me or him.
Please leave me a review and followme on Instagram at isforadversity.
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Something new that we're startingwith the Daybreak Business
Community is Monday Meetups.
These are once a month, the firstMonday of the month from 1030
to noon at Bingham Creek Park.
So if you're local, come join us there.
It's a great way to meet other momsor people in your neighborhood, find
out what they're doing, other businessor side hustle, and just let your
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kids play and get some connection.
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