319| Why Your Best People Are Quietly Updating Their LinkedIn

Hey Friend!

Are you watching good people disengage or leave your team? Seeing departments operate like separate islands instead of one cohesive unit? The problem isn't your strategy or your people—it's that you're leading through your own lens instead of seeing things through theirs.

After two decades of guiding executives through team dynamics, I can tell you the leaders who master this aren't the ones with the most experience. They're the ones who understand that every person on their team has a different operating system. And once you learn to see through their lens, everything changes.

💬 "People don't leave hard work. They leave leadership that doesn't see them."

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🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Surface-level leadership manages behaviors and asks "What are they doing wrong?" instead of "Why is this showing up?"

• Pattern-level leadership understands motivations and starts asking curious questions about the why behind behaviors

• Identity-level leadership unlocks each person's unique design—like giving every chef the right tools instead of forcing everyone to use the same saute pan

• The cost of lens-blindness includes high turnover, siloed departments, and losing your best people to organizations that actually see them

• Strategic questioning transforms resistance into engagement: "What's your thought process here?" beats "Why won't you just do what I asked?" every time

✨ The One Thing You Don't Want to Miss:

➡️ When you have to repeat yourself three times to get through to a team member, that's not a process problem—it's a lens problem. Stop forcing your approach and start seeing their brilliance.

💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:

Next time someone on your team pushes back or seems disengaged, resist the urge to explain your position. Instead, ask: "What's your thought process here?" or "What are your concerns?" Then actually listen to understand their lens.

📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:

"Which team member am I trying to force into my way of working, and what might they need instead to bring their best?"

 

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