5 Leadership Styles That Push People Away—and What to Do Instead #311

Hey Friend!

Have you ever followed a leader who looked impressive on paper but left you drained, disoriented, or doubting your value? You’re not alone—and more importantly, you’re not powerless. This episode will help you spot leadership patterns that push people away—and give you five traits that magnetize teams and create real, lasting impact.

Because leadership isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence, clarity, and alignment.

💬 “People don’t follow perfection. They follow truth.”

 

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🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Impact is measured by the internal shift you create, not by revenue or recognition.
• Five types of leaders people run from:

1. Performative – All image, no depth
2. Controlling – Leads from fear, not vision
3. Insecure – Needs constant validation
4. Absent – Physically there, emotionally gone
5. Rigid – Resistant to change or input

Five types of leaders people run toward:

1. Bring clarity in chaos
2. Lead with authenticity over image
3. Cast inclusive vision
4. Lead with confidence that grounds, not intimidates
5. Model integrity when no one is watching

Trust, alignment, and self-awareness are the foundation of sustainable leadership. If your leadership requires silence or shrinking, it’s not leadership—it’s control. ✨ The One Thing You Don’t Want to Miss:

➡️ The most magnetic leaders are those who create safe, purpose-aligned environments where others feel seen, empowered, and invited to rise.

💪 Challenge if you choose to accept it:

Audit your leadership style this week. Ask your team—or a trusted peer—what it’s like to be led by you. Then ask yourself:

Am I leading from alignment or fear? From clarity or control?

📝 Journal Prompt for Reflection:

Where in my leadership do I still feel the need to prove myself, and what would it look like to lead from alignment instead?

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