Balancing Being And Doing: Electromagnetism As A Map For Alignment

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Ever feel like you’re either sprinting on fumes or sinking into the couch with zero momentum? We unpack a clear, no-drama framework for understanding your internal balance using the language of masculine and feminine energy—redefined as doing and being. No gender boxes here, just a practical way to spot what’s missing and how to restore it fast.

We start with duality as a simple lens for everyday life, then reframe masculine energy as action, structure, and forward motion, and feminine energy as presence, creativity, and receptivity. From there we dive into the electromagnetism metaphor: electricity as the active push, magnetism as the steady pull. Too much electricity overheats and leads to burnout; too much magnetism gets heavy and can feel like depression. You’ll hear real-world examples of personal ratios—why some people function best at 60 percent being and 40 percent doing, while others thrive in long stretches of high action—and how partners, teams, and families can honor different blueprints without judgment.

We lay out a seasonal approach: how to intentionally tilt toward doing during launches or deadlines and then schedule deliberate recovery on the other side. If you’re burned out, the fix is subtracting, slowing, and reconnecting to your body and creative flow. If you’re stuck, the fix is small, decisive movement—one email, one task, one win—to shift the field and re-engage your momentum. Along the way, we highlight how your state attracts or repels opportunities and people, and why mindful awareness of your energy is the most reliable way to design days that actually work for you.

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SPEAKER_00 (01:12):
Let's chat about the masculine and feminine energy.
This is a duality of energiesthat plays a part in every
single moment of your life,every single day.
Whether it's the energy thatyou're bringing to the table,
the energy that your reality isprojecting back at you, whether
it's energy and creation ofsomething, as duality is

(01:33):
required for anything to exist,right?
So what do I mean by that?
To be able to have somethingthat's hot, you must also have
cold.
To have light, you must have thedarkness.
The opposite of the sun is themoon.
The opposite of going inward isgoing outward, right?

(01:55):
Everything in life.
As you now begin to hear this,you might begin to notice that
everything has duality.
Everything has an existence anda knot.
Because even if it comes down tohaving, it's not necessarily to
think iPhone versus Android.
No, it's iPhone versus noiPhone.

(02:16):
That's the duality, right?
Or Android versus no Android.
So there is a duality ineverything in life.
And one of the main dualitiesthat we like to talk about or
reference because it is it iswell documented for centuries
and centuries of time is themasculine and feminine energy.

(02:36):
Now I talk a lot about this withmy clients, with my peers, with
people that I meet in day-to-daylife.
But the one thing that I findreoccurring over and over as I
speak about the subject is thatpeople presume masculine equals
male and feminine equals female,which is absolutely incorrect.

(02:58):
We all have both energies.
Every single being on thisplanet has both masculine and
feminine qualities.
There are no positives andnegatives to either of these.
There just are, right?
So you can look at them also asthe masculine is the doing

(03:19):
energy.
It's it's outward, it's forwardmotion.
And then the feminine is thebeing energy.
It's a little bit morestationary and still.
Now that duality shows up inmultiple ways.
The masculine is the one tochase, the feminine is the one
to attract.
The masculine is the actiontaker, the strategy, the

(03:43):
systems.
The feminine is the creative,the flow, the nurturing.
There's the masculinetraditional values, there's the
masculine ROI-driven values inbusiness, or there's the
opposite of that.
There's the feminine innovation,the change and the optimism for
the future.
Or there's the opposite of everyaspect of life falls into either

(04:09):
the category of masculine orfeminine.
And again, these are completelydisconnected from gender.
All of us have a balance ofboth.
And the beauty is that all of ushave our own unique balance of
both the masculine and thefeminine.
Now I say this because when Italk about generalities, right,

(04:32):
they are just that.
They're general.
We have outliers that are lifeis a spectrum, right?
Everybody falls on the spectrumsomewhere.
And there's no right or wrong towhere you are on this spectrum.
What's happening is that peopleassume that because they are a
specific gender, they must onlyever show up as the

(04:53):
inappropriate assumption thatthat gender is strictly one
energy.
Say they are born as a, I knowI'm getting into weird territory
with this with a lot of peoplein the world right now, but I'm
just going to stick to what Iknow and believe, right?
And if you don't like it, youdon't have to listen to this
podcast.
Cool.
If you were born in a male body,if you were born uh with that

(05:15):
anatomy, then it might bepresumed that you should show up
a certain way in this world.
And society has told us thatyou're more likely to play with
trucks, you're more likely tolike the color blue, right?
You're more likely to want toget your hands in the dirt
outside, right?
All of these things are thingsthat the society has projected
onto this being because it wasborn into a specific body.

(05:39):
Now, what happens when thatyoung boy grows up and decides
that he loves dance and art andexpressing himself and singing
and making music?
When he doesn't fall into thetraditional masculine energetic
values, he is a morepredominantly energetic being in
the feminine side of things withthe creativity and the flow.

(06:02):
That is the difference.
And there is no right or wrong.
As long as that young man leansinto what feels good in his
body, then he will be inenergetic alignment.
And if that's a more femininetake on the world, then so be
it.
That is what's right for hisbody and his energetic makeup.
So what I'm getting at is thatevery single one of us has our

(06:24):
own formula, our own percentage.
Um, it's the percentagedistribution between the
masculine and the feminine.
For example, in my world, I'vefound that I tend to be much
better and more um balanced andmaintained my energy for a
longer period of time when Ihave about 60% of my energy

(06:45):
going towards the feminine andonly 40% going towards the
masculine, which means amajority of my time I should be
connecting with people.
I should be creating art.
I should be moving my body andstaying in a flow state,
relaxing, recovering.
And then only that 40% of thetime should I be strategizing?
Should I be chasing leads?

(07:05):
Should I be doing these othermechanisms that leave me in the
masculine energy and more in myhead thinking versus being in my
heart, the feeling?
So for me, that's the shift thatworks.
Now there are times in my lifewhen I need to push a little bit
more.
Maybe I'm in a sprint season.
And so I end up shifting andbeing a little bit more 60%,

(07:27):
maybe even 70% in my masculine,but that's only a short period.
And then I always end uprecognizing at some point a
reach nearly or always burnout.
And then I need a couple weeksor even months where I'm
completely the opposite, maybemore 80% feminine to recover and
recoup.

(07:47):
So to keep a maintained energyall year round and balance
myself so that I don't burn out,keeping that 60-40 split and
making sure there's enoughspace, rest, and recovery in my
schedule, that's what's going tokeep me from burnout.
So you might find the same thingwith you, or you might find that
you're like my partner.

(08:08):
My partner, he is the completeopposite.
He does much better in hismasculine, in the performance
mode, in the doing mode, takingaction all the time.
He does a lot better in that.
He struggles with slowing downand relaxing, recovering.
He struggles with being morecreative outside of the
engineering and the datamanagement and the tech and all

(08:29):
of that.
That's where his creativeshines.
But outside of that, in the workenvironment, which is still
partly his masculine, becausehe's doing those things out of a
necessity to solve a problem,not because he's having fun
building a computer, right?
So he does much better in hismasculine.
And I think that what peoplehave a hard time with is finding

(08:53):
a way to balance all the thingsthat they're responsible for,
that they need to get done, thatwell, that they tell themselves
they need to get done.
All these things that they puton their calendar, put on their
plate to try and balance that,that's where the struggle comes
in.
This is where we have to haveclarity about what works for us

(09:13):
in the long term.
We need to have goals that areset for the long term or
mindsets that understand that weare doing a short-term sprint,
right?
My goals will shift if I'm in abodybuilding prep because I know
that I'm in a bodybuilding prep.
I know it's not going to beforever, it's only going to be
for a period of time, and that'sokay.
And then I plan for recoveryafter the fact.

(09:35):
So knowing this can help younavigate life.
Now, I know that for some peopleit's still a little bit
difficult to grasp the masculineand the feminine.
So let's talk about it in adifferent way.
I was given this visual from afriend, this metaphor, and it
just stuck with me.
It is for me a such an extremelyeasy way to explain a tangible

(10:00):
experience with the masculineand feminine.
And so what it is, is it'selectromagnetism.
So if you think about our bodiesand our hearts, if we have a
heart attack, then we need a uma defibrillar, right?
We need to electrically shock usto come back to life.
So our bodies, our batteries, werequire electricity to run.

(10:25):
It's not just the air that weneed, it's not just the water
and the food and all of thesleep and all of that.
Like we literally run onelectricity.
So our hearts, they needelectromagnetism to be able to
survive.
We need electromagnetism.
So let's break that down evenfurther.
The electricity part ofelectromagnetism, in this

(10:47):
metaphor, that is the masculine,the electricity, the active
part, the movement, the action,the forward motion, the active
component.
I don't know how else I couldsay it without using that word,
but the active component in thisprocess, that's the electricity.
The opposite side of that is themagnetism.

(11:08):
That's what attracts.
That's the thing that staysstill but pulls things towards
it.
That's that aspect.
So we have the electricity, themasculine, and the magnetism,
the feminine, right?
So these directly correlate tothe same qualities that we
talked about earlier with themasculine and the feminine.
The masculine chases,electricity pushes and moves

(11:29):
forward, and the magnetismattracts.
And so what can happen is thinkabout that going back to what I
was saying about thepercentages.
So if you are in a world wheremaybe your body requires more
feminine energy, but you're in atime in your life where you

(11:50):
really truly have to just showup in your masculine to be able
to keep you protected, keep yousafe, keep your business moving
forward, keep your familyfunctioning, whatever that may
be.
So you end up pushing through.
You know you need more feminine,more relaxation, more rest, more
flow, more creativity.
And yet you keep pushing.
And what happens is when youhave too much electricity, just

(12:11):
like a phone or any other devicewith too much electricity, it
will get hot and it will burnout.
So when we have too muchelectricity going through us, we
are gonna burn out.
Which the resort or the solutionto that is to just be more.
Slow down.
Have that cup of coffee withjust you, not running around

(12:32):
sipping it while you'reanswering emails or dealing with
the kids in the morning.
Slow down and be more.
It's not about the doing.
When we hit burnout, that's toomuch electricity, too much
masculine.
We need more feminine.
Slow down, be more.
And the same goes for theopposite.
When we have too much magnetism,too much feminine in our life,

(12:55):
that can also be a negativething.
Because if we're not havingenough movement, we get stuck,
we get drudged down, we getslow, we get depressed.
That depression is too muchmagnetism.
It's not enough movement, it'snot enough doing.
So the solution for that is todo more, to take action, to get

(13:16):
up, to go actually selectsomething on your to-do list and
do it.
Take a shower, brush your teeth,clean your room, answer that one
email, get the ball rolling, domore, and it will pull you out
of that depression.
Because the depression is thatfeeling of heavy magnetism.
You are so much in the beingthat you are beginning to spiral

(13:40):
and you are sucked into thatbeing and that stuckness.
And so to get out of that, weneed more movement.
So we need more doing.
So, do we see how the balance isdifferent for everyone?
For some people, they'reexperiencing more depression.
And so what they need is moredoing, more action, more
masculine energy, more strategy,more systems, more showing up,

(14:01):
more taking action, morecalling, more chasing.
And on the flip side, we havepeople who are struggling with
burnout because they have waytoo much doing, too many tasks
lists, too much overwhelm, toomany things on their to-do list.
They need more being.
They need more space in theircalendar, more time to just take
a couple deep breaths betweeneach meeting.

(14:24):
There is no right and wrong.
What is wrong is us trying tofit our energetic systems to
what works for someone else.
And for someone else to look atus and go, Well, I can do it.
It's not that hard.
And expect that person in frontof you who might have a
completely different energeticsystem to go internally, what do
you mean it's not that hard?

(14:45):
I struggle every day.
Because the moment you realizethat surprisingly, when you have
billions of people on a planet,we're not all the same.
Who would have thought?
Who would have thought that thecreator who created this entire
complex system that we live inwould think to add a little

(15:10):
uniqueness to each of us?
Would think that if we were alla little bit different, maybe,
just maybe, we could fittogether like a puzzle, create a
beautiful, bigger picturetogether, support each other,
hold each other, and buildsomething bigger together.

(15:31):
Instead of looking at someoneand saying, Well, it's easy for
me, why can't you do it?
Why isn't it easy for you?
Well, there are probably thingsthat are super easy to that
person that you struggle with,but you don't know about because
it's not coming up in thecontext of your relationship.
But to sit and to think thatjust because someone's not like
you makes them broken, makesthem not enough, makes them

(15:53):
lazy.
No, recognize hereelectromagnetism.
Maybe you just need a littleextra electricity or a little
extra magnetism.
Because life is all aboutbalance.
And the masculine and feminineenergies, whether you want to
admit it or not, are alwaysplaying a role in your life.

(16:13):
Every single day.
And how you show up, thatdepicts how the opposite end of
the spectrum shows up.
Because magnets attract, theyalso repel.
And so if you show up in acertain energy, you're more
likely to attract.
And if you show up in adifferent energy, you can repel.

(16:34):
We have to be super specific andvery aware and conscious and
mindful of the energy we'reshowing up in.
Because a lot of people aregetting frustrated because
they're attracting the oppositeend of the spectrum and not
realizing that that's just howlife works.
You can't expect both.
This is a complex topic, butalso so simple when you really

(16:59):
think about it.
Being and doing.
That's it.
Just being and doing.
Which do you need more of?
Do you need more but time justbeing staying present?
Calm.
Relaxed.

(17:20):
Or more doing.
Taking action, getting that ballrolling, getting those ideas
into play.
Let me know.
I'd love to hear more about it.