February 4, 2025 • 33 mins
Transform your life with the story of how a single decision can lead to profound personal change. Join us as we share the journey of creating a unique women's transformation retreat, lovingly designed over six months for nine inspiring women. From custom team shirts to a comprehensive 135-page workbook and 400 presentation slides, no detail was overlooked. This retreat is more than an event; it’s a sanctuary for healing, growth, and empowerment. Step away from the chaos and discover the power of rewriting your narrative in a space dedicated to self-discovery.
The road to transformation is rarely smooth, and this retreat faced its share of unexpected challenges. Imagine the chaos of a friend's injury just before the event, threatening to derail months of meticulous planning. Yet, resilience and teamwork paved the way forward as a photographer stepped up to take on new responsibilities. A surprise Instagram message from a former client added a twist of serendipity, proving that maintaining an open mind can lead to unexpected solutions and deeper connections. This journey isn't just about overcoming obstacles—it's about embracing them as opportunities for growth.
Find peace and power in choosing your responses over your reactions, and learn how intuition can guide you through chaos to clarity. Hear how an extra workbook became a lifeline for a ninth participant, symbolizing the importance of trusting in a universal plan. Through personal stories of growth and the transformative practices of the five M's—moving, meditating, mindfulness, manifesting, and MORE (self-celebration)—we invite you to step into your highest potential. Whether you're seeking guidance, relaxation, or personal growth, this episode promises insights that could reshape your journey. Connect with us to explore which retreat could be your path toward transformation.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You know, when this episode releases, I'm going to
be running my first women'sretreat.
I have eight, nine actually.
That's a whole story in itself.
We will get there sunshine,okay.
So I am running this retreatfor these nine amazing women and
I am so excited to bring thisthing to life.
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It has been six months ofbuilding the curriculum, of
building the agenda, buildingthe team behind this.
Every single detail of thisevent has been planned out, has
been put into action.
It is here.
I have everything from customteam shirts to workbooks that
are 135 pages long.
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I have over 400 slides that aregoing to walk us through each
of these segments and continueto keep us on track.
I have put my whole self intothis retreat.
I have created something thatcame from a space of wanting to
heal my own inner child, wantingto give her what she's always
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wanted to experience.
There are so many health andhealing programs out there, so
many wellness retreats you canchoose from.
You can go to yoga retreats.
You can go to retreats thatwill feed you great foods.
You can go to retreats that areoff on the side of a mountain
somewhere.
You can do all sorts ofretreats and all of them are
perfect in the way they are, andmy idea when bringing a women's
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retreat to life was not to justduplicate what I had
experienced or seen or know isalready out there.
It was not to duplicate someoneelse's program and just tweak
it and make it my own.
No, it was to fully channelsomething that was my own
creation, from A to Z, into thisworld.
That was my own creation from Ato Z, into this world.
It was something that I sat inmeditation month after month
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after month, envisioning eachand every aspect of this retreat
, every aspect of how the audiovideo tech is going to work, how
we're going to capturedifferent angles of this.
Even the marketing we're goingto do after the fact has already
been thought through.
This is something that I sodesperately wanted to bring to
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this world, because I know it isneeded.
I'm honored to have a group ofnine women who have dedicated
their time to come and be a partof this.
This is a once-in-a, once in alifetime opportunity for them.
I will run women's retreatsagain, but it will never be the
same as this first foundationalexperience, the fact that
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they're giving me this much oftheir time five days of their
time, five days of their timetraveling in, having three
strong days together, fourreally, really great days, and
then having that fifth travelday.
That's a lot to ask fromsomebody who's running a
business, mother who hasmultiple children this is a lot
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to ask of people, and it's alsoexactly what they needed.
We all get caught up in ourto-do lists and what is coming
next and the fires that arehappening around us and the
urgency of the things put on ourplate and the time of the year
and the holidays and the up inthe doing.
We miss the being, and that'swhat I wanted to bring to life
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Was the being present, theletting go of the
responsibilities of your home,your kids, your business, your
world, so you can invest intoyourself, you can determine
what's holding you back, what'skeeping you from that next level
, actually addressing it,connecting deeply with other
women who are like-minded andalso looking to grow themselves,
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and then allowing someone tochallenge you and to push you to
step into that next version ofyourself, to face those fears,
to recognize the stories thatyou're telling yourselves, that
no longer serve you, and allowyou to rewrite that story.
That is exactly what thisexperience is, and I have put
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everything into getting it towhere it is.
And you know that experience Iknow you know this as a creator
that experience of bringingsomething into this world and
knowing it is.
And you know that experience Iknow you know this as a creator
that experience of bringingsomething into this world and
knowing it is as close to achild as it can get for someone
who is childless, because I puteverything morning, night, I
sleep and I dream of it.
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It's everything to me.
And yet live events, events arelive events and things can
happen all the way up until themoment that it actually happens.
And here we are.
I've been getting ready forthis event.
The entire focus of this eventis around the media that we're
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capturing.
The photos and videos were themost important aspect to capture
at this event, second to theactual transformation that the
guests who are attending will begoing through, but that I don't
know, that that needs to besaid.
But as the team, we're firstand foremost going to guide that
transformation and create thatsafe space for them to actually
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experience that growth, thatsafe space for them to actually
experience that growth.
And our other focus is themedia and capturing those
stories of transformation,following these women through
the process of letting go andstepping into that next version.
And that media is so important,because how do you market
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something, how do you run ads tosomething that you have yet to
actually do?
And so I needed that media, andso this entire event was how do
I get the girls in the room andhow do I just run the darn
thing so that I can then takethose videos and take those
photos and now run ads behindthem and actually produce a
business that can actuallycreate profit and pay for itself
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?
That's the idea.
The hardest thing for me to findabout three, four months out
from this event, when I finallybooked the rooms, was a
videographer.
This is a women's retreat and Iwanted them to feel completely
safe and open, to be able tojust be, not have to worry about
anything.
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I wanted to make sure that thephotographer and the
videographer were women, and itis actually very difficult to
find female videographers, and Iwas struggling to find anyone
who would fit that role.
And then I had a friend whohappened to be the perfect fit.
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She wasn't necessarily alreadyinto video, but it was
definitely a skill she waslooking to learn and she was
excited to do so.
So for three months we workedtogether to continue to build
her skills, allow her to utilizethe equipment that I had, to
get familiar with it, to build ashot list with me so that we
could understand exactly whatour creative shots were, that we
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were looking for.
And here we are, less than aweek out from the retreat and
she, accidentally, cutting opena box, cut her finger open
pretty bad, had to go to the ER,had to get stitches.
Now the stitches were supposedto be taken out about a week
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after that and then she would begood to go and it just
continued to heal, be a littlestiff, painful, but you know she
could work around it.
Unfortunately, she wasn'thealing the way that they were
anticipating and so she had tostep down and say that she could
not attend the event for fearof her injury getting worse.
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And I said, okay, that's fine.
And I had a split second whereI almost allowed myself to
spiral like anyone would, comingup on the big event that
they've spent six monthspreparing for and thousands and
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thousands of dollars beinginvested to make this what it is
, and to know that that role wasso important to me.
It was very hard.
I had a choice to make in thatmoment.
My choice was I could eitherget mad, say what the were you
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thinking?
You should have been safer,protect your hands.
That's what I'm paying for isyour hands.
I could have been mean, I couldhave said so many things, but
in that moment I chose no, I'mgoing to support her.
She is in pain, she's goingthrough this.
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This is going to impact otherareas of her life as well, and I
know that she doesn't want tostep down.
It's just what's happening.
And in this moment, she wasn'twilling to push through that
pain and take the risk.
And that's just the decisionshe made, and I have to respect
that decision.
And so my only response backwas okay, be safe.
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Whatever you need to do to heal, I support that, we'll figure
it out.
Be safe, whatever you need todo to heal, I support that,
we'll figure it out.
And I had a near mentalbreakdown, because it was hard
enough to find a femalevideographer for three and four
months out, let alone less thana week's notice.
So I had to sit there and thinkokay, who do I call?
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In this moment, so much isfeels like my world is crumbling
around me, and so I was so init.
I was so close to the problemin that moment and I was like,
all right, I could either callsomeone who would listen and let
me bitch to them and I couldjust bitch and moan about this,
or I can call someone who canactually do something about it.
So that's what I did.
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I called the photographer thatwas booked for the event and
said look, this is what theproblem is.
Here's what we're looking at.
What do you think we should do?
Should I find someone?
Do you know anybody?
And she said I got this, I'llhandle it, I'll do the video and
I'll do the photo, it'll befine.
She said I don't think that youshould bring someone else in,
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because we've already createdand established a very good
group dynamic and I don't thinkyou should mess that up,
bringing someone in the lastminute trying to get the vision
and the mission and all of thattransitioned over.
I will be the person to step upand do it.
She took a massive load ofresponsibility on in that moment
and showed me that she's reallyin this for the long haul and
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she is a team player, and I amso grateful that one of the
guests that's attending myretreats, was the one who
recommended this friend and thisfriend, this friend, this
photographer has.
I just so appreciate her and Iknow that I've said this to her
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on repeat over the last 48 hours.
She got on a call with me thismorning and we walked through
the shot list and every detailof what I had been communicating
over the last few months andkind of showing the ideas.
Here are the things, this iswhat we're thinking, here's
where you find the shot list,here's how it all works.
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And I get done with that calland I felt so good it's like all
right, we're going to be okay,we're going to figure this out,
it'll be totally fine.
Right.
Then I opened my Instagraminbox to a voice note.
When I finally relaxed andsurrendered was when something
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that I have been seeking andchasing for over a year finally
dropped into my lap.
I had a friend actually it wasa client she'd worked with me
doing a breakthrough sessionabout two and a half years ago
almost three years ago now and Iwas predominantly connected
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with her via Instagram.
Well, if you know my story, youknow that in 2023, in July of
2023, I deleted that Instagramaccount with my 11,000 followers
.
Deleted that Instagram accountthat I had gone viral to 20
million people.
On that I was deeply connectedwith a lot of people and my DMs
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were very active and I had a lotof great friendships there that
I let go of.
And this one, I wasn't quiteworried at the time.
I was like, oh, it's okay, Ihave her phone number, but she's
in Canada so I had to useWhatsApp.
And you know what?
Not everybody's the greatest atchecking WhatsApp.
I know I'm not, and I don'tthink that she has built that
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habit either.
So it was just two shipspassing in the wind.
I would see her and follow heronline and see all of her
amazing content.
And she has gotten to a pointto where she has over 100,000
followers.
So her DMs are insane.
I can only imagine the amountof DMs that she's getting
because she's doing so well.
And it was really cool tofinally see a voice note back.
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And so I listened to this voicenote and she says oh my gosh,
jaina, my team has been the onethat's been messaging you back,
so I haven't actually seen thesemessages, which makes sense.
And she said they said thisthis Jaina girl keeps trying to
reach out to you, and I thinkyou should hear this voice note.
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She said, oh my God, jaina, Ineed to hear that voice note
Like, yes, please connect me.
And so she listened to my voicenote.
The voice note was sent about amonth ago, maybe six weeks ago,
and it was me saying hey, I'mrunning a women's retreat and I
have one more spot and I reallythink that that spot is for you.
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I continued to tell her whatthe event was about and that I
would love to hear back from herif she was available to make it
out, and that I would love tohear back from her if she was
available to make it.
And in her voice note responseto me, she said hey, is that
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spot still open?
Because I'd love to attend.
I tell you, I literally buckledat my knees and fell to the
ground in that moment andstarted to cry, because every
time I've imagined this event,I've seen her face and I didn't
know why, but I knew herpresence was there and yet I
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could not get through to her inany messaging platform.
I've emailed her back.
I've you know, because I'm onher email list.
I've emailed her back.
I've reached you know, causeI'm on her email list.
I've emailed her back, I'vereached out via WhatsApp, I've
reached out via DMs, and none ofthem were going through until
now, and the only reason I wasable to say, yeah, actually we
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do have a spot is because myteam member is no longer
attending, which means I have anextra seat at the show, means
that I have an extra bed to give, means that I have an extra
thing.
And you know, here's the coolestpart is that when I was mailing
out the workbooks I had to sendahead of time, when I was
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mailing out those workbooks,something in my gut said to put
nine in the box instead of eight.
So I did so.
I don't know what it is whethersomeone's going to spill coffee
on theirs or what.
I shouldn't be putting thatonto the universe but I knew I
needed an extra one, so I sentnine in that box, and now I was
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able to say yes, and now I'mable to have that ninth person.
Have this woman who is soenergetically powerful and
magnetizing, someone who I'veworked with and has seen
tremendous results from doingthe deep work with me, someone
who I know is open and who isready for that next level, and I
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can see that potential and it'stime for her to step into that
and this is the perfect place todo it.
And I was able to say yes, butonly because I went through my
lows yesterday of all of thatloss, and I truly believe that
me just relaxing andsurrendering into it was what
energetically made my messagesfinally get through.
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So remember the universe alwayshas a bigger plan than we do.
There's so many other thingshappening outside of our small
little world.
All you need to do is find thatclear vision and take action on
it.
Follow those gut hits.
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Listen to your intuition whenit says to do something and to
not do something.
I was feeling that pull awayenergetically from my team
member before she sent me themessage that she was fully
pulling out.
I felt that that's somethingthat we have to listen to in our
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guts and when it happens, wejust have to respect the
decision and let it go.
If I was to cry about it more,I might have totally missed this
opportunity If I was to allowit to let me crumble.
If I was to allow it to let mecrumble, it would have impacted
eight other women's experiences.
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That's not okay and that's notwhat I'm going to allow to
happen.
I'm going to let this go nowand address my baggage now so
that I don't carry this in tothe next week, because my job is
to lead these women, to guidethese women, and I can't expect
them to do something that I'mnot willing to do myself.
So this was a phenomenalperformance universe.
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Thank you for giving me thisopportunity, for giving me this
example of what it's like toactually implement on the fact
that chaos can be happeningaround you.
But it comes down to this youget to choose peace, because
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inner peace comes from theinside, has nothing to do with
what's happening outside of us.
And if it's as dumb asrepeating to yourself over and,
over and over that you're goingto choose peace, choose peace,
choose peace and let that bewhat you do, because that is
what I did.
I have a girlfriend, I'll tellyou.
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She heard a voice note of mejust sitting there saying choose
peace, jaina, choose peace.
I'm crying my eyes out,hyperventilating, just telling
myself to choose peace, and hervoice note back was laughing at
me because she's like I can'tbelieve you're doing that, but
it works, it works.
Tell yourself over and over tochoose peace, because that is
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the one thing that will alwaysbe in our control is our ability
to choose how we respond to thethings that happen to us versus
how we react to the things thathappen to us.
My reaction was oh shit, this isterrible.
Ah, that was my reaction.
My response was okay, how arewe going to fix this?
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It'll all be okay, because mymantra for this year is what is
meant for me will be so.
This is how this is meant to be.
This is exactly what was meantto happen, and I cannot wait to
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bring back the stories ofradical transformation from the
nine women that will beexperiencing this retreat next
week.
Right now, today, as you'relistening to this, they are with
me.
They are experiencing this.
They are with me.
They are experiencing this.
They are releasing, they arefinding themselves, they are
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receiving permission to just be,because that's all we need in
this world is to just be.
Be ourselves, be present withour babies, be bold in our
businesses, be compassionate inour messaging, just be.
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That is what's going to make achange in this world.
That's what's going to give youthat happiness that you're
looking for, that experience,that high that you're looking
for when you choose to just be,choose peace, choose presence,
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choose to go all in.
That's what life's about.
Allow yourself to relax andsurrender to the universe's
bigger plan because this orsomething better and baby doll,
there's something better aroundthat corner that you have no
idea is even there.
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So trust, let that thing happen, let that corner happen.
You never know when it's goingto be and that patience is going
to pay off, because there weretimes in the past where I
thought I want it now, but Inever would have been able to
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handle it.
Then.
I was not ready.
I needed to be who I am todayto be able to handle what is
happening to me now.
There is a purpose foreverything.
There is a reason for thediscomfort, for the pain, for
the challenges that you face,for all the things that are
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falling apart, something else isfalling together.
You have to believe that, andthe more that you surround
yourself with good people, themore that you choose your team
wisely and I don't just meanyour team in business, I mean
your team in life.
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No-transcript on moreresponsibility.
We can do this.
That's the team member that youwant.
You want the team member who'sgoing to show up for you.
You want the team member whojust hears about all the chaos
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and sends you a voice note thatsays I know you need to hear
this right now because I know Iwould need to hear this if I was
in your position.
But I'm going to be there.
I'm going to be there sopresently for you.
I bought luggage for this, Ibought shoes, I bought a jacket
for this.
I'm going to be there sopresently for you.
I bought luggage for this, Ibought shoes, I bought a jacket
for this.
I'm going to be there and Ineeded you to hear that, because
I would want to hear that rightnow if I was going through what
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you're going through.
That's the team member that youwant.
Choose your team wisely andmake sure that your team members
are doing it for themselves,not for you, because someone
who's doing it for you will giveup when it gets hard.
They won't take the extra risk.
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They won't see it through tothe end.
Find people who have a purposeand a mission and a vision of
their own.
Those are the people who willshow up and say how can I help?
What can I do?
I have multiple guests who areattendees to the event, who have
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recognized the difficultiesthat I'm going through right now
and have all reached out andsaid if you need a second pair
of hands, just tell your photogirl to tap my shoulder and ask
I will be there.
I have multiple people in videoproduction who will be at this
event who have said if you needit, just ask.
And I'm like you know what, Iappreciate you.
And some of them have said,yeah, if you could just check in
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with her every now and again,ask her if everything's charged
in the battery world and ask herif she needs any SD cards
swapped out or she needsanything like that.
Like, just remind her of thesmall things, because sometimes,
when all that pressure is on usand it's a live event, there's
just so many little turningpieces to think about.
So if you could just check inwith her and make sure she's
doing okay, that'd be great.
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If you see an extra pair ofhands needed, that'd be great.
But truly, the guests I needthem in front of the camera, not
behind the camera.
I need them present forthemselves, because their
radical transformation is what'sfueling the tank of this rocket
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ship and that is what's goingto actually create the staying
power to push us into the nextevents, because we're not here
for ego.
We're not here to say, look atus, look at these pretty videos
we've made.
No, my team and I are here torun these events because we are
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transformation focused, our owntransformations.
Yes, the team expects to growfrom this and learn from this
and develop from this, and wewill.
We're also focused on guidingand creating that safe container
for all of the guests toexperience radical
transformation and growth, thatchange we always so desperately
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seek.
The moment we get close to thatchange on our own, we
self-sabotage and we slide back.
But when you're in a containerlike this with this kind of
energy, when you have 12powerful women in a room
together for four days, workingon ourselves and designing our
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future version of ourselves andstepping into that version of
ourselves and letting go of allof the blocks, all the anchors
holding us back, all thatbaggage that has filtered the
world to see it in such anegative light and those stories
that are not serving us, tohave that kind of an energy
contained in one small space,that is what's actually going to
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see those transformations grow.
Because what you do in smallgroups, it amplifies what we can
do in one-on-one by 10x,because in that small group we
have such a higher level ofaccountability, you have the
ability to see how many otherpeople are struggling with the
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same thing that you arestruggling with, so you don't
feel so alone in the process andin that it can feel so powerful
to be witnessed as you releasethat old self and step into that
new version of yourself.
To have witnesses that includeyour best friends and your
business friends.
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That is so powerful and thatcommunity is something that is
going to continue on after thisretreat and that is something
I'm also looking forward to iscontinuing to add into this HER
community.
As we have retreats and afterthe retreat, people want
continued support and that'swhat we're doing.
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We are launching at this retreatmultiple things.
I think I could talk about itnow, because we're at the
retreat, so we're launching it.
One of those things is thethick and thin challenges.
I am launching challenges thatinclude the app that I've built,
healthy Emotional Regulation,and the five Ms.
So the five Ms are what you'llfind in the app, healthy
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Emotional Regulation.
My unique formula includesmovement, meditation.
Movement, meditation,mindfulness, manifestation and
more and more always is ourself-celebration and our more
wins.
So I love what I've created inthis app and I know that this is
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the formula that will continueto keep you regulated so that
you can continue to scale andgrow your business and your life
in a healthy way.
All you have to do is each oneof these five things each and
every day, and you will seethose results.
And so, with this challenge,the challenge is to use the app
and to track all five of the Msfor a 30-day period of time, and
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if you can consistently do itfor 30 days, you'll be entered
into a raffle, and those raffles, every 90 days, we will draw
one person to win, and that oneperson will win $1,000.
And that is what we're doing tobe able to help people stay
accountable with themselves,because at the retreats we are
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experiencing, the five M's livein person.
We're moving our bodies, wehave silent meditations every
single day.
We definitely manifest becausewe are constantly learning with
mindfulness.
We are filling our minds withall sorts of new things, staying
curious and learning aboutourselves.
We're also manifesting bytalking about our future version
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of ourselves throughout theentire event, as I do not allow
people to say I want.
They have to say I am.
And that is going to bethroughout the entire event and
it's definitely going to be anevent that is going to be
transformative.
I cannot wait, because exactlythe people that need to be in
the room will be in the room.
This has fallen into placeperfectly, everything is just
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right, and all I need to do isshow up and just be me.
Show up and share my heart,share my messaging to teach and
openly storytell in a way thatcan allow people to find those
little moments, those littleglimmers of golden nuggets that
they can take with them, thoselittle hints to that next level
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that I wish you guys find inthese podcasts, and I'm sure you
do.
But imagine four days of that.
But imagine four days of that.
If these retreats sound likesomething that you would like to
be a part of, please reach out.
Find us on social media.
You can either find me,jainaswan, or you can find our
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app social media page HealthyEmotional Regulation.
Either of those you searchonline, you will find us.
You can also email us.
You can emailstudentsuccessatjanaswancom.
Chat with us there.
We will send you a quick littleapplication.
You can fill it out, jump on acall, see if you're a good fit
and if you are a good fit, whichretreat would be the best for
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you and we'll get you signed up,we'll get you in there and we
will get you that radicaltransformation that you so
desperately are looking for.
All it takes is the rightguidance relaxing and
surrendering and then steppinginto that next version of
yourself.
Your loved ones deserve to seeyou as that highest potential
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self, and I would love to be theguide to help you get there.
You know, when this episode releases, I'm going to
be running my first women'sretreat.
I have eight, nine actually.
That's a whole story in itself.
We will get there sunshine,okay.
So I am running this retreatfor these nine amazing women and
I am so excited to bring thisthing to life.
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It has been six months ofbuilding the curriculum, of
building the agenda, buildingthe team behind this.
Every single detail of thisevent has been planned out, has
been put into action.
It is here.
I have everything from customteam shirts to workbooks that
are 135 pages long.
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I have over 400 slides that aregoing to walk us through each
of these segments and continueto keep us on track.
I have put my whole self intothis retreat.
I have created something thatcame from a space of wanting to
heal my own inner child, wantingto give her what she's always
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wanted to experience.
There are so many health andhealing programs out there, so
many wellness retreats you canchoose from.
You can go to yoga retreats.
You can go to retreats thatwill feed you great foods.
You can go to retreats that areoff on the side of a mountain
somewhere.
You can do all sorts ofretreats and all of them are
perfect in the way they are, andmy idea when bringing a women's
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retreat to life was not to justduplicate what I had
experienced or seen or know isalready out there.
It was not to duplicate someoneelse's program and just tweak
it and make it my own.
No, it was to fully channelsomething that was my own
creation, from A to Z, into thisworld.
That was my own creation from Ato Z, into this world.
It was something that I sat inmeditation month after month
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after month, envisioning eachand every aspect of this retreat
, every aspect of how the audiovideo tech is going to work, how
we're going to capturedifferent angles of this.
Even the marketing we're goingto do after the fact has already
been thought through.
This is something that I sodesperately wanted to bring to
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this world, because I know it isneeded.
I'm honored to have a group ofnine women who have dedicated
their time to come and be a partof this.
This is a once-in-a, once in alifetime opportunity for them.
I will run women's retreatsagain, but it will never be the
same as this first foundationalexperience, the fact that
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they're giving me this much oftheir time five days of their
time, five days of their timetraveling in, having three
strong days together, fourreally, really great days, and
then having that fifth travelday.
That's a lot to ask fromsomebody who's running a
business, mother who hasmultiple children this is a lot
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to ask of people, and it's alsoexactly what they needed.
We all get caught up in ourto-do lists and what is coming
next and the fires that arehappening around us and the
urgency of the things put on ourplate and the time of the year
and the holidays and the up inthe doing.
We miss the being, and that'swhat I wanted to bring to life
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Was the being present, theletting go of the
responsibilities of your home,your kids, your business, your
world, so you can invest intoyourself, you can determine
what's holding you back, what'skeeping you from that next level
, actually addressing it,connecting deeply with other
women who are like-minded andalso looking to grow themselves,
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and then allowing someone tochallenge you and to push you to
step into that next version ofyourself, to face those fears,
to recognize the stories thatyou're telling yourselves, that
no longer serve you, and allowyou to rewrite that story.
That is exactly what thisexperience is, and I have put
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everything into getting it towhere it is.
And you know that experience Iknow you know this as a creator
that experience of bringingsomething into this world and
knowing it is.
And you know that experience Iknow you know this as a creator
that experience of bringingsomething into this world and
knowing it is as close to achild as it can get for someone
who is childless, because I puteverything morning, night, I
sleep and I dream of it.
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It's everything to me.
And yet live events, events arelive events and things can
happen all the way up until themoment that it actually happens.
And here we are.
I've been getting ready forthis event.
The entire focus of this eventis around the media that we're
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capturing.
The photos and videos were themost important aspect to capture
at this event, second to theactual transformation that the
guests who are attending will begoing through, but that I don't
know, that that needs to besaid.
But as the team, we're firstand foremost going to guide that
transformation and create thatsafe space for them to actually
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experience that growth, thatsafe space for them to actually
experience that growth.
And our other focus is themedia and capturing those
stories of transformation,following these women through
the process of letting go andstepping into that next version.
And that media is so important,because how do you market
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something, how do you run ads tosomething that you have yet to
actually do?
And so I needed that media, andso this entire event was how do
I get the girls in the room andhow do I just run the darn
thing so that I can then takethose videos and take those
photos and now run ads behindthem and actually produce a
business that can actuallycreate profit and pay for itself
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?
That's the idea.
The hardest thing for me to findabout three, four months out
from this event, when I finallybooked the rooms, was a
videographer.
This is a women's retreat and Iwanted them to feel completely
safe and open, to be able tojust be, not have to worry about
anything.
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I wanted to make sure that thephotographer and the
videographer were women, and itis actually very difficult to
find female videographers, and Iwas struggling to find anyone
who would fit that role.
And then I had a friend whohappened to be the perfect fit.
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She wasn't necessarily alreadyinto video, but it was
definitely a skill she waslooking to learn and she was
excited to do so.
So for three months we workedtogether to continue to build
her skills, allow her to utilizethe equipment that I had, to
get familiar with it, to build ashot list with me so that we
could understand exactly whatour creative shots were, that we
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were looking for.
And here we are, less than aweek out from the retreat and
she, accidentally, cutting opena box, cut her finger open
pretty bad, had to go to the ER,had to get stitches.
Now the stitches were supposedto be taken out about a week
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after that and then she would begood to go and it just
continued to heal, be a littlestiff, painful, but you know she
could work around it.
Unfortunately, she wasn'thealing the way that they were
anticipating and so she had tostep down and say that she could
not attend the event for fearof her injury getting worse.
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And I said, okay, that's fine.
And I had a split second whereI almost allowed myself to
spiral like anyone would, comingup on the big event that
they've spent six monthspreparing for and thousands and
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thousands of dollars beinginvested to make this what it is
, and to know that that role wasso important to me.
It was very hard.
I had a choice to make in thatmoment.
My choice was I could eitherget mad, say what the were you
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thinking?
You should have been safer,protect your hands.
That's what I'm paying for isyour hands.
I could have been mean, I couldhave said so many things, but
in that moment I chose no, I'mgoing to support her.
She is in pain, she's goingthrough this.
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This is going to impact otherareas of her life as well, and I
know that she doesn't want tostep down.
It's just what's happening.
And in this moment, she wasn'twilling to push through that
pain and take the risk.
And that's just the decisionshe made, and I have to respect
that decision.
And so my only response backwas okay, be safe.
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Whatever you need to do to heal, I support that, we'll figure
it out.
Be safe, whatever you need todo to heal, I support that,
we'll figure it out.
And I had a near mentalbreakdown, because it was hard
enough to find a femalevideographer for three and four
months out, let alone less thana week's notice.
So I had to sit there and thinkokay, who do I call?
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In this moment, so much isfeels like my world is crumbling
around me, and so I was so init.
I was so close to the problemin that moment and I was like,
all right, I could either callsomeone who would listen and let
me bitch to them and I couldjust bitch and moan about this,
or I can call someone who canactually do something about it.
So that's what I did.
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I called the photographer thatwas booked for the event and
said look, this is what theproblem is.
Here's what we're looking at.
What do you think we should do?
Should I find someone?
Do you know anybody?
And she said I got this, I'llhandle it, I'll do the video and
I'll do the photo, it'll befine.
She said I don't think that youshould bring someone else in,
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because we've already createdand established a very good
group dynamic and I don't thinkyou should mess that up,
bringing someone in the lastminute trying to get the vision
and the mission and all of thattransitioned over.
I will be the person to step upand do it.
She took a massive load ofresponsibility on in that moment
and showed me that she's reallyin this for the long haul and
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she is a team player, and I amso grateful that one of the
guests that's attending myretreats, was the one who
recommended this friend and thisfriend, this friend, this
photographer has.
I just so appreciate her and Iknow that I've said this to her
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on repeat over the last 48 hours.
She got on a call with me thismorning and we walked through
the shot list and every detailof what I had been communicating
over the last few months andkind of showing the ideas.
Here are the things, this iswhat we're thinking, here's
where you find the shot list,here's how it all works.
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And I get done with that calland I felt so good it's like all
right, we're going to be okay,we're going to figure this out,
it'll be totally fine.
Right.
Then I opened my Instagraminbox to a voice note.
When I finally relaxed andsurrendered was when something
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that I have been seeking andchasing for over a year finally
dropped into my lap.
I had a friend actually it wasa client she'd worked with me
doing a breakthrough sessionabout two and a half years ago
almost three years ago now and Iwas predominantly connected
(12:17):
with her via Instagram.
Well, if you know my story, youknow that in 2023, in July of
2023, I deleted that Instagramaccount with my 11,000 followers
.
Deleted that Instagram accountthat I had gone viral to 20
million people.
On that I was deeply connectedwith a lot of people and my DMs
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were very active and I had a lotof great friendships there that
I let go of.
And this one, I wasn't quiteworried at the time.
I was like, oh, it's okay, Ihave her phone number, but she's
in Canada so I had to useWhatsApp.
And you know what?
Not everybody's the greatest atchecking WhatsApp.
I know I'm not, and I don'tthink that she has built that
(13:02):
habit either.
So it was just two shipspassing in the wind.
I would see her and follow heronline and see all of her
amazing content.
And she has gotten to a pointto where she has over 100,000
followers.
So her DMs are insane.
I can only imagine the amountof DMs that she's getting
because she's doing so well.
And it was really cool tofinally see a voice note back.
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And so I listened to this voicenote and she says oh my gosh,
jaina, my team has been the onethat's been messaging you back,
so I haven't actually seen thesemessages, which makes sense.
And she said they said thisthis Jaina girl keeps trying to
reach out to you, and I thinkyou should hear this voice note.
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She said, oh my God, jaina, Ineed to hear that voice note
Like, yes, please connect me.
And so she listened to my voicenote.
The voice note was sent about amonth ago, maybe six weeks ago,
and it was me saying hey, I'mrunning a women's retreat and I
have one more spot and I reallythink that that spot is for you.
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I continued to tell her whatthe event was about and that I
would love to hear back from herif she was available to make it
out, and that I would love tohear back from her if she was
available to make it.
And in her voice note responseto me, she said hey, is that
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spot still open?
Because I'd love to attend.
I tell you, I literally buckledat my knees and fell to the
ground in that moment andstarted to cry, because every
time I've imagined this event,I've seen her face and I didn't
know why, but I knew herpresence was there and yet I
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could not get through to her inany messaging platform.
I've emailed her back.
I've you know, because I'm onher email list.
I've emailed her back.
I've reached you know, causeI'm on her email list.
I've emailed her back, I'vereached out via WhatsApp, I've
reached out via DMs, and none ofthem were going through until
now, and the only reason I wasable to say, yeah, actually we
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do have a spot is because myteam member is no longer
attending, which means I have anextra seat at the show, means
that I have an extra bed to give, means that I have an extra
thing.
And you know, here's the coolestpart is that when I was mailing
out the workbooks I had to sendahead of time, when I was
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mailing out those workbooks,something in my gut said to put
nine in the box instead of eight.
So I did so.
I don't know what it is whethersomeone's going to spill coffee
on theirs or what.
I shouldn't be putting thatonto the universe but I knew I
needed an extra one, so I sentnine in that box, and now I was
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able to say yes, and now I'mable to have that ninth person.
Have this woman who is soenergetically powerful and
magnetizing, someone who I'veworked with and has seen
tremendous results from doingthe deep work with me, someone
who I know is open and who isready for that next level, and I
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can see that potential and it'stime for her to step into that
and this is the perfect place todo it.
And I was able to say yes, butonly because I went through my
lows yesterday of all of thatloss, and I truly believe that
me just relaxing andsurrendering into it was what
energetically made my messagesfinally get through.
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So remember the universe alwayshas a bigger plan than we do.
There's so many other thingshappening outside of our small
little world.
All you need to do is find thatclear vision and take action on
it.
Follow those gut hits.
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Listen to your intuition whenit says to do something and to
not do something.
I was feeling that pull awayenergetically from my team
member before she sent me themessage that she was fully
pulling out.
I felt that that's somethingthat we have to listen to in our
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guts and when it happens, wejust have to respect the
decision and let it go.
If I was to cry about it more,I might have totally missed this
opportunity If I was to allowit to let me crumble.
If I was to allow it to let mecrumble, it would have impacted
eight other women's experiences.
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That's not okay and that's notwhat I'm going to allow to
happen.
I'm going to let this go nowand address my baggage now so
that I don't carry this in tothe next week, because my job is
to lead these women, to guidethese women, and I can't expect
them to do something that I'mnot willing to do myself.
So this was a phenomenalperformance universe.
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Thank you for giving me thisopportunity, for giving me this
example of what it's like toactually implement on the fact
that chaos can be happeningaround you.
But it comes down to this youget to choose peace, because
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inner peace comes from theinside, has nothing to do with
what's happening outside of us.
And if it's as dumb asrepeating to yourself over and,
over and over that you're goingto choose peace, choose peace,
choose peace and let that bewhat you do, because that is
what I did.
I have a girlfriend, I'll tellyou.
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She heard a voice note of mejust sitting there saying choose
peace, jaina, choose peace.
I'm crying my eyes out,hyperventilating, just telling
myself to choose peace, and hervoice note back was laughing at
me because she's like I can'tbelieve you're doing that, but
it works, it works.
Tell yourself over and over tochoose peace, because that is
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the one thing that will alwaysbe in our control is our ability
to choose how we respond to thethings that happen to us versus
how we react to the things thathappen to us.
My reaction was oh shit, this isterrible.
Ah, that was my reaction.
My response was okay, how arewe going to fix this?
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It'll all be okay, because mymantra for this year is what is
meant for me will be so.
This is how this is meant to be.
This is exactly what was meantto happen, and I cannot wait to
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bring back the stories ofradical transformation from the
nine women that will beexperiencing this retreat next
week.
Right now, today, as you'relistening to this, they are with
me.
They are experiencing this.
They are with me.
They are experiencing this.
They are releasing, they arefinding themselves, they are
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receiving permission to just be,because that's all we need in
this world is to just be.
Be ourselves, be present withour babies, be bold in our
businesses, be compassionate inour messaging, just be.
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That is what's going to make achange in this world.
That's what's going to give youthat happiness that you're
looking for, that experience,that high that you're looking
for when you choose to just be,choose peace, choose presence,
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choose to go all in.
That's what life's about.
Allow yourself to relax andsurrender to the universe's
bigger plan because this orsomething better and baby doll,
there's something better aroundthat corner that you have no
idea is even there.
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So trust, let that thing happen, let that corner happen.
You never know when it's goingto be and that patience is going
to pay off, because there weretimes in the past where I
thought I want it now, but Inever would have been able to
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handle it.
Then.
I was not ready.
I needed to be who I am todayto be able to handle what is
happening to me now.
There is a purpose foreverything.
There is a reason for thediscomfort, for the pain, for
the challenges that you face,for all the things that are
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falling apart, something else isfalling together.
You have to believe that, andthe more that you surround
yourself with good people, themore that you choose your team
wisely and I don't just meanyour team in business, I mean
your team in life.
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No-transcript on moreresponsibility.
We can do this.
That's the team member that youwant.
You want the team member who'sgoing to show up for you.
You want the team member whojust hears about all the chaos
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and sends you a voice note thatsays I know you need to hear
this right now because I know Iwould need to hear this if I was
in your position.
But I'm going to be there.
I'm going to be there sopresently for you.
I bought luggage for this, Ibought shoes, I bought a jacket
for this.
I'm going to be there sopresently for you.
I bought luggage for this, Ibought shoes, I bought a jacket
for this.
I'm going to be there and Ineeded you to hear that, because
I would want to hear that rightnow if I was going through what
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you're going through.
That's the team member that youwant.
Choose your team wisely andmake sure that your team members
are doing it for themselves,not for you, because someone
who's doing it for you will giveup when it gets hard.
They won't take the extra risk.
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They won't see it through tothe end.
Find people who have a purposeand a mission and a vision of
their own.
Those are the people who willshow up and say how can I help?
What can I do?
I have multiple guests who areattendees to the event, who have
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recognized the difficultiesthat I'm going through right now
and have all reached out andsaid if you need a second pair
of hands, just tell your photogirl to tap my shoulder and ask
I will be there.
I have multiple people in videoproduction who will be at this
event who have said if you needit, just ask.
And I'm like you know what, Iappreciate you.
And some of them have said,yeah, if you could just check in
(24:47):
with her every now and again,ask her if everything's charged
in the battery world and ask herif she needs any SD cards
swapped out or she needsanything like that.
Like, just remind her of thesmall things, because sometimes,
when all that pressure is on usand it's a live event, there's
just so many little turningpieces to think about.
So if you could just check inwith her and make sure she's
doing okay, that'd be great.
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If you see an extra pair ofhands needed, that'd be great.
But truly, the guests I needthem in front of the camera, not
behind the camera.
I need them present forthemselves, because their
radical transformation is what'sfueling the tank of this rocket
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ship and that is what's goingto actually create the staying
power to push us into the nextevents, because we're not here
for ego.
We're not here to say, look atus, look at these pretty videos
we've made.
No, my team and I are here torun these events because we are
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transformation focused, our owntransformations.
Yes, the team expects to growfrom this and learn from this
and develop from this, and wewill.
We're also focused on guidingand creating that safe container
for all of the guests toexperience radical
transformation and growth, thatchange we always so desperately
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seek.
The moment we get close to thatchange on our own, we
self-sabotage and we slide back.
But when you're in a containerlike this with this kind of
energy, when you have 12powerful women in a room
together for four days, workingon ourselves and designing our
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future version of ourselves andstepping into that version of
ourselves and letting go of allof the blocks, all the anchors
holding us back, all thatbaggage that has filtered the
world to see it in such anegative light and those stories
that are not serving us, tohave that kind of an energy
contained in one small space,that is what's actually going to
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see those transformations grow.
Because what you do in smallgroups, it amplifies what we can
do in one-on-one by 10x,because in that small group we
have such a higher level ofaccountability, you have the
ability to see how many otherpeople are struggling with the
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same thing that you arestruggling with, so you don't
feel so alone in the process andin that it can feel so powerful
to be witnessed as you releasethat old self and step into that
new version of yourself.
To have witnesses that includeyour best friends and your
business friends.
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That is so powerful and thatcommunity is something that is
going to continue on after thisretreat and that is something
I'm also looking forward to iscontinuing to add into this HER
community.
As we have retreats and afterthe retreat, people want
continued support and that'swhat we're doing.
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We are launching at this retreatmultiple things.
I think I could talk about itnow, because we're at the
retreat, so we're launching it.
One of those things is thethick and thin challenges.
I am launching challenges thatinclude the app that I've built,
healthy Emotional Regulation,and the five Ms.
So the five Ms are what you'llfind in the app, healthy
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Emotional Regulation.
My unique formula includesmovement, meditation.
Movement, meditation,mindfulness, manifestation and
more and more always is ourself-celebration and our more
wins.
So I love what I've created inthis app and I know that this is
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the formula that will continueto keep you regulated so that
you can continue to scale andgrow your business and your life
in a healthy way.
All you have to do is each oneof these five things each and
every day, and you will seethose results.
And so, with this challenge,the challenge is to use the app
and to track all five of the Msfor a 30-day period of time, and
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if you can consistently do itfor 30 days, you'll be entered
into a raffle, and those raffles, every 90 days, we will draw
one person to win, and that oneperson will win $1,000.
And that is what we're doing tobe able to help people stay
accountable with themselves,because at the retreats we are
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experiencing, the five M's livein person.
We're moving our bodies, wehave silent meditations every
single day.
We definitely manifest becausewe are constantly learning with
mindfulness.
We are filling our minds withall sorts of new things, staying
curious and learning aboutourselves.
We're also manifesting bytalking about our future version
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of ourselves throughout theentire event, as I do not allow
people to say I want.
They have to say I am.
And that is going to bethroughout the entire event and
it's definitely going to be anevent that is going to be
transformative.
I cannot wait, because exactlythe people that need to be in
the room will be in the room.
This has fallen into placeperfectly, everything is just
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right, and all I need to do isshow up and just be me.
Show up and share my heart,share my messaging to teach and
openly storytell in a way thatcan allow people to find those
little moments, those littleglimmers of golden nuggets that
they can take with them, thoselittle hints to that next level
(30:44):
that I wish you guys find inthese podcasts, and I'm sure you
do.
But imagine four days of that.
But imagine four days of that.
If these retreats sound likesomething that you would like to
be a part of, please reach out.
Find us on social media.
You can either find me,jainaswan, or you can find our
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app social media page HealthyEmotional Regulation.
Either of those you searchonline, you will find us.
You can also email us.
You can emailstudentsuccessatjanaswancom.
Chat with us there.
We will send you a quick littleapplication.
You can fill it out, jump on acall, see if you're a good fit
and if you are a good fit, whichretreat would be the best for
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you and we'll get you signed up,we'll get you in there and we
will get you that radicaltransformation that you so
desperately are looking for.
All it takes is the rightguidance relaxing and
surrendering and then steppinginto that next version of
yourself.
Your loved ones deserve to seeyou as that highest potential
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self, and I would love to be theguide to help you get there.
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