Safety Is Not Something You Find, It's Something You Are

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Have you ever wondered why some people seem to radiate a sense of safety and calm, while others constantly chase it? Today's episode dives deep into a personal breakthrough that forever changed my understanding of what it means to be safe in the world.

Through a spontaneous journal entry that emerged from a simple check-in text with a friend, I share my journey through the multiple dimensions of safety. What began as an external pursuit—seeking safety through self-defense skills, gated communities, and protective relationships—evolved into something far more profound. 

The transformation came when I stopped seeing safety as something to acquire and recognized it as something I already am. "I am safe" shifted from a mere affirmation to an embodied frequency, a vibration that permeates every cell of my being. This realization didn't happen overnight but emerged through intentional silence, meditation, and a willingness to explore the layers of my own consciousness.

When we vibrate at the frequency of safety, everything in our universe shifts. We attract different experiences, relationships, and opportunities that match this new energy. People inexplicably feel comfortable in our presence, often sharing things they've never told anyone else. This isn't coincidence—it's resonance. We become not just recipients of safety but embodiments of it, creating safe spaces wherever we go.

The most beautiful part? This state of being is available to everyone. Safety isn't something you can learn, buy, wear, hire, build, or create—it's something you are. By choosing to embody safety at the deepest level, you transform not only your own experience of life but how others experience you. Ready to make this shift? All you have to do is choose it.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
So I had a friend message me this morning and just
asked how I was.
But because of who this was, Iended up writing something back
that turned into almost ajournal entry of sorts, and so I
thought I'd share it with youtoday and that we'd talk about
it a little bit more.
So I said I finally let go.

(00:22):
I let go of my attachment toeverything and sat in stillness
recently.
And now I've attracted all thestages, opportunities and
relationships I intended in thefirst place.
Thank you.
It took me a while tointernalize the concept of I am

(00:42):
safe.
While to internalize theconcept of I am safe At first, I
thought it was one-dimensional,meaning I am safe, like
externally, my externalenvironment is safe.
Then I sat with it and saw asecond dimension I am safe in my

(01:03):
mind, as in no matter where Iam, I can be safe in my mind.
Then the third dimension hit methe hardest I am safe.
When I realized I am what I sayI am, then meditated on I am

(01:26):
safe.
I finally gave my bodypermission to vibrate at the
frequency of being safe.
Since that moment, everythingin my universe shifted from
seeking externally to seekinginternally what this is.

(01:53):
It's so amazing how certainpeople can be mirrors to you.
Certain people can beactivators, certain people can
be triggers, certain people canjust spark something in you that
either leads you to an epiphanyor it can lead you to a moment
of learning, which many peoplemight define as failure, but I
see it as learning, progress,growth, evolution, right.

(02:15):
This opportunity this morningto sit and reflect, this
opportunity to recognize what Ihave safety in the background.
While I continue to run abusiness, while I continue to
coach others, while I continueto have a relationship, while I

(02:38):
continue life, I'm processingsafety, and so it's really
interesting to be able to sitand look at the three or four
different dimensions that I'mnow exploring.
Safety and how it did.
Really all start by thinkingexternally.
I need to learn self-defense tofeel safe right.

(03:01):
External, I needed to be in agated community.
To feel safe external, I neededto be in relationships that
made me feel safe external.
And then I started to be likewell, I can't always control
those factors, so control whatyou can control.
So I turned internally and Ithought well, even if I can't

(03:22):
control the environment my bodyis currently in, at least I can
control my mind and I can allowmyself to feel safe, even in an
environment where others wouldchoose not to, where others
would choose not to, okay, cool,that's dimension number two,
internal safety.
Okay, so, no matter where mybody goes now I'm safe.

(03:45):
Great, because safety startedwith my thoughts.
Right, it started with thinkingI'm safe, and I thought that was
where it ended until Icontinued the exploration and I
continued to get curious and Icontinued to stay open and I
continued to meditate, Icontinued to sit in silence and
then it hit me One day.

(04:07):
It hit me.
I am safe.
Not, I am safe, not I am safe.
Not I am safe, but I am safe.
I.

(04:28):
I am.
So are you, we all are, but wechoose that.
So I am safe, I, my atoms, theatoms that make up, that choose

(05:02):
to stick together to make up thematter of Jaina Swan.
I am vibrating at the frequencyof safety.
I create safety, I am safety, I.
So it went from external tointernal, to eternal, because I
am safety.
The moment that it reallyclicked for me and I'm saying it
on repeat because I want you tofeel it I know this is a

(05:23):
podcast and I know that I'm notrecording video, so what all you
get is my voice right now whenI say I am, am being the key
word.
Your cellular makeup, yourfrequency, your vibration, how
you show up, how you are thebeing that you are, you are, I
am safety.
And it is not until you get tothat frequency that you become

(05:51):
safe and until then your nervoussystem is not going to feel
safe.
And it is something that you'velearned to become, to be, to
embody.
That's why we call itembodiment.
Originally, healthy emotionalregulation was her embodiment

(06:14):
and people would ask me over andover why embodiment?
Why embodiment?
This is why embodiment Becauseyou are being it.
So safety is not something thatyou can learn.
It's not something you can buy,it's not something you can wear

(06:36):
, it's not something that youcan hire, it's not something
that you can build, it's notsomething you can create.
It's something you are.
I am safe.
I can't explain what it feelslike to be able to sit here and

(06:56):
say that with such confidence,such peace.
I am safe Because I choose tobe safety.
And now I get to be safety formyself and for others.
As I continue to vibrate at thefrequency of being safe, I now

(07:23):
get to activate other people whowill meet me and recognize that
they are not matching thatfrequency, or they are.
They may absolutely fall inlove with hanging out with me
and be like, oh, I really lovehanging out with you.
You're just so great and Idon't know what it is about you.
There's something about youthat just it's that I help you

(07:44):
feel safe.
My energy feels safe.
That's why you tell me things,that's why people open up.
I don't know why I'm tellingyou this right now, but I feel
compelled to share.
It's that I have this giftbecause I am safety, I am
remembrance, I am bringing youback to who you are, so you can

(08:07):
embody being who you are.
I am safe, I am safe.
Meditate on that, sit instillness with that, explore the
ins and outs of that, becausethe first layer of healing for
me was feeling like I was in asafe environment, feel like I

(08:31):
had safety skills, but Irealized none of that helped my
nervous system calm down on theinside.
That's when I explored safetymindsets and then boundaries,
and then exploring, speakingthose boundaries.
And now I'm at the layer evendeeper, to recognizing that I'm

(08:54):
just vibrating at the level ofsafety and that my world will
match that and mirror that to me, because I am in such a
compelling space of choosingthat I am safe.
There is a difference in thatnow than any other time in my

(09:17):
past, which means I am now goingto have a different response
moving forward, because myfrequency is going to be
different, so I will attractdifferent people, different
experiences.
This all comes from having thecuriosity and the openness,

(09:39):
knowing that I had a block,knowing that just months ago I
didn't know what the problem wasor how could I feel safe in a
world that keeps showing me thatI shouldn't be.
And it was because it hadnothing to do with the world
around me and it had everythingto do with me and how I was
choosing to show up in it.

(10:00):
And it took me a little whileto get there, but it wasn't
until I cut off all the externalnoise and I was extremely
selective what voices I letremain in my space.
And then, when I had more timeto sit with myself, I ended up

(10:21):
experiencing all of thesedifferent multiple layers and of
dimensions of safety, which iswhat gets me to the point now
that I can sit here and say withsuch peace and calm and belief
that I am safe, because I knowthat that's the frequency that I

(10:46):
vibrate at in this very moment.
I am safe, and so are you.
All you have to do is choose it.