The Paradox of Purposeful Inaction

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Have you ever felt that uncomfortable sensation when your body is screaming for change? That's exactly where I found myself recently – caught in a masculine, pushing, externally-driven strategy that left me depleted and disconnected from my own wisdom.

When I noticed myself speaking words that left a bad taste in my mouth, I recognized it was time for a radical shift. Rather than trying to ease back gradually, I slammed on the brakes completely. This wasn't about making minor adjustments – it was about honoring a profound internal calling for transformation.

The most powerful insight came when I realized that as we evolve in frequency, we can't expect everyone around us to change with us. The solution isn't forcing others to match our new vibration; it's having the courage to leave rooms we've outgrown to find spaces aligned with our current selves. This meant clearing my calendar of anything that wasn't essential – even long-term friendships that had evolved into regular calls – to create space before opportunities arrived.

What followed was the challenging practice of sitting in stillness without productivity. No multitasking during bubble baths, no researching prospects, no building landing pages – just being present and allowing recalibration. As the waters of my life became still, something magical happened: opportunities I'd been chasing for years began approaching me. I realized my constant movement had been creating ripples that scared away the very things I desired.

This counterintuitive approach – detaching completely from outcomes and embracing stillness – attracted once-in-a-lifetime opportunities that appeared effortlessly. If you've been pushing relentlessly toward goals without success, I challenge you to experiment with letting go. Release your grip on what you think you need, sit in peaceful awareness, and watch as the universe responds with unexpected abundance. Sometimes the most powerful action is no action at all.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Recently, I had a shift in energy.
It was a massive shift frommore of a masculine, pushing,
externally driven, feedbackfocused strategy.
It was a lot, and I wasconsuming a lot of external

(00:24):
material and I was reallyfeeling like I was putting in an
excess amount of energy forwhat I was getting back out.
So I stopped Everything.
I decided, instead of justeasing back, I was going to
essentially just slam on thebrakes and something would

(00:48):
change.
I didn't know what, but it'slike my body was screaming for
something different.
It was saying this is not it,jaina, this is not what we are
meant to be doing, is not whatwe are meant to be doing.
And every time my body hasgiven me these signals, if I
don't listen, it ends up turninginto sickness, disease, eyelid

(01:13):
eczema, cysts on my vulva, youname it and those are some
painful situations.
So I'm going to avoid that.
Yeah, I'm going to go ahead andlisten.
And so this time, what did I dodifferent?
Well, first it took me a whileto hear the signs and to like,

(01:34):
get the cue and go.
Oh, and then go.
Okay, I need to make somechanges here.
But what are the changes I'mgoing to make?
Because I've made changes in mylife quite a lot over the last
few decades, but what did I needthis time?
And so one of the things Istarted to recognize was that my
world was getting very loud.
There were a lot of externalvoices, and so I was having a
hard time hearing my owninternal voice, because I had

(01:56):
everybody else's feedback andopinions and this, that and the
other.
Plus, I noticed that I wasgoing and telling the same
stories over and over and over,and it was like people weren't
hearing the new stories, theywere only ever listening and
hearing the old stories, and soI was finding that as I was

(02:18):
shifting and evolving into a newversion of myself, because they
weren't evolving, they were notable to stay with me, because
they can only continue to acceptme if I stay the same as I was
when I matched their frequency.
And as I continue to changefrequency, the only thing that
they know to do is to keep me intheir frequency, and so there's

(02:43):
nothing wrong with that.
It's just we change, we evolve,and at this time I was feeling
a separation from people.
Voices that I used to findcomforting, voices I used to
seek out and really enjoy, werebecoming something that were
ruminating Statements, werestaying in my mind for long

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periods of time.
It was causing me to makechoices, to allow myself to sit
into emotions I didn't like.
I said to someone once, veryrecently, when I was talking
about this change and I said youknow, I think it was the moment
that I noticed I said somethingand I didn't like the way my

(03:27):
words tasted.
She said what?
Yeah, I noticed that I wassaying something and I did not
like the way my words tasted.
When you say something and itcomes from a negative space and

(03:47):
you train yourself to notice it,for me it's a taste in my mouth
.
I don't like how it tastes whenI talk negatively about someone
or something else, becausethere is nothing inherently
wrong with anybody.
It is just a differentfrequency as you and so it seems
wrong to you at that timebecause you are not a frequency

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match.
And it's interesting when youcan go from something being a
direct frequency match to youfor a long time to then shifting
to where you're like I wantsomething different out of life,
I want to vibrate at adifferent frequency, and then
you start to change frequenciesand now you find that you're
saying negative things aboutpeople you used to say positive

(04:31):
things about, used to saypositive things about, and they
have not changed.
You have changed and so youchanging to be able to maintain
the change in your frequencyeasily and effortlessly.
The solution is not to haveeverybody else around you change
.
The solution is for you toleave those spaces and go into

(04:53):
new spaces.
And it's like if you want to gointo new rooms and meet new
people at higher levels, youhave to be willing to leave the
rooms that you're currently in.
That's really hard to hearsometimes, because you get
really comfortable and you startto develop relationships and

(05:16):
you love these people andthey've been through tough
things with you and it's likebut they've watched me grow and
I could just stay and I can goin new rooms and stay in this
room.
It's like, no, you can't.
You're splitting your energy.
Where your energy goes, whereyour attention goes, your energy
flows, and if your attention isscheduling time to be in rooms
with these people, you can't bein rooms with other people.

(05:39):
It's something you really haveto be intentional about.
So when I noticed that I wasready for new rooms, I first
detached from everything.
I first detached fromeverything.

(06:00):
I had this gut hit that Ineeded to clear everything off
my calendar that wasn't a payingclient or a call with a team
member, anything reoccurringlike intro call with someone,
connection call with someone,that's different.
But anything that was areoccurring weekly, bi-weekly
thing that was not a client or ateam member cleared off my
calendar and that was reallytough to do.
I had developed a lot oflong-term friendships with

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people that have turned intomonthly, bi-weekly or weekly
calls, even if it was 20, 30, 45minutes or an hour.
Sometimes those calls would goover an hour and a half, two
hours.
Doing that on a regular basiswas eating into my time and I
loved the connections I loved.
Some of them were veryproductive, some of them fed

(06:44):
into me and the things that I'veevolved through.
Some of them were content.
Some of them all hadpositiveness to it or I would
not have done it.
But I had a shift internallythat was saying okay, we need to
quiet the voices, we need toturn inwardly, you need to take
back your time on your calendar.
And the last time that thishappened, years ago, when I took

(07:07):
back my time on my calendar,then I had a bunch of
opportunities pop up and I hadoh well, what do you know?
A bunch of time on my calendarto be able to say yes, you have
to clear the closet out beforeyou put the new clothes in,
otherwise you're just shovingthings in and there's not space.
Create space for opportunitiesbefore the opportunities arise.

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So that's what I did I detached,I started to clear things off
my calendar and, instead offilling my calendar back in with
things, I sat in silence.
I pushed myself to get reallyuncomfortable, to take these
bubble baths where I would donothing, nothing.
I would meditate, I wouldn'tread a book, I wouldn't create

(07:51):
content, I wouldn't edit videos,I wouldn't and these are all
things I normally do when I'mdoing bubble baths, because to
me, a bubble bath can be have astacked habit on there.
So I'm going to be productivewhile I'm doing it and I forced
myself to just sit and enjoy it,meditate and be silent, think,
feel experience be present.

(08:13):
Think, feel, experience bepresent.
And then I allowed myself to dothat on the couch and then on
the back porch and during a walkaround the neighborhood and
over at my brother andsister-in-law's house with my
nieces and nephews.
And then I allowed myself timeto not do anything.

(08:39):
I didn't research prospectiveclients, I didn't tighten up my
offer, I didn't build anotherlanding page, I didn't create
another social media thing, Ididn't work on my content
pillars.
I didn't nothing.
I just sat in stillness andallowed myself to recalibrate,

(09:03):
allowed myself to come back to abaseline, without the external
feedback and without theexternal noise, and I just
allowed things to stop for alittle while.
And then, just as things gotreally still in the water,

(09:32):
opportunities started to pop up.
It's almost like when Idetached, I set the bait and
then, when I sat in silence, Ijust waited for someone to come
along and then, the moment thatthat's here, I now can do

(09:53):
something about it, I can nowmove forward, but I didn't have
to go out and find the fish.
In fact, movement createsripples in the water and ripples
scare the fish away.
So I think what was happeningwas that I had been doing so
much active movement for so longthat everything was just
getting scared away from me,because it seemed like there was

(10:16):
just a lot happening here.
Creating stillness broughtpeople in.
They leaned in with morecuriosity.
They came in and said, hey,you've been quiet, what are you
doing?
What are you up to?
Hey, what's happening over here?
They got really curious, socurious.
They got up close to my baitand said, oh, that's something I

(10:39):
need, that's something I'm into.
Tell me more about that.
And now I'm in a conversationwith someone where I get to
actively tell them aboutsomething I'm so excited that I
built.
But I'm not going to them coldin the DM saying, oh my gosh,
I'm so excited I built thisthing.
Oh my gosh, I'm so excited Ibuilt this thing sounding like
every other cold DM.

(10:59):
So I attracted it.
I attracted it to me bydetaching and sitting in
stillness and it has been easyand effortless and things that I
have been chasing for years andyears and years.
I finally allowed myself tojust stop chasing and then they

(11:29):
came to me and offered a once ina lifetime opportunity that we
were able to say yes to, whichis now leading to a once in a
lifetime opportunity that we gotto say yes to Because I
detached and sat in stillness.
Less is more.
Slow down to speed up.
It works.
You don't always have to bemoving forward, taking action.

(11:51):
Move the goalpost, new goal, newgoal.
Sometimes that motion, thatmovement is just creating all
the ripples that scareeverything away.
Sometimes you need to say, okay,I've done the movement, Now
it's time to sit in stillnessand breathe and have a season of

(12:11):
going inward, a season ofrelaxation, a season of
attraction and now attractingpeople in and getting them
really curious.
So they bite on your bait andsay tell me more about this
thing you've created.
I'm interested that that's whatyou're looking for.
So if you've been chasingsomething, a goal, anything, for

(12:35):
a long time and you've beenhaving a, a goal, anything, for
a long time and you've beenhaving a really hard time
getting to it, I challenge youto just let go to say I don't
need it anymore, I don't need tolose the weight, I don't need
to make the money, I don't needto have the child, I don't need
to get into the school, I don'tneed to get the job, I don't

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need any of it.
And the moment you detach, thenall of it wants to chase you.
So just leverage that detachand sit in stillness and watch
the magic of the opportunitiesattracting to you.