February 18, 2025 • 27 mins
Bringing a vision to life is much like the emotional journey of childbirth, an experience filled with anticipation, challenges, and immense satisfaction. In this episode, I share how my incredible team and I navigated six months of intense preparation, overcoming unexpected hurdles akin to a thrilling whitewater rafting adventure. With unwavering support from Michelle and Eden, who selflessly sacrificed time with their families, we embraced the core values of our company to create a nurturing environment where everyone, especially mothers, could focus on their roles without distractions.
Challenges and setbacks are part and parcel of any grand endeavor. When our videographer canceled just days before the event, my photographer and I rose to the occasion, capturing thousands of photos and hours of video content that exceeded our expectations. A frustrating hotel reservation ordeal threatened to dampen spirits but ultimately highlighted the critical need for flexibility and strategic decision-making. These experiences underscored the importance of adaptability, teamwork, and choosing future partnerships wisely.
Amidst these trials, the event unfolded with incredible synchronicity, leaving me speechless and profoundly grateful. The retreat was marked by magical occurrences that I can’t wait to share in future discussions. For now, I want to express my heartfelt gratitude to the listeners and all those who made this transformation possible. By placing trust in my team and demonstrating the techniques I teach, I reinforced that with the right preparation and support, we can weather any storm life throws our way.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
we did it.
The team and I havesuccessfully brought the her
vision to life, and it wasperfect.
Everything, even the curveballs, even all the worst case
scenario scenarios that came up,it was perfect.
It was exactly what it neededto be.
(00:22):
I now understand what mothersgo to to a fraction of a degree,
because I do feel like I havebirthed this into the world and
it took a lot out of me.
It took six months ofpreparation.
It took every aspect of my lifeneeding to line up to be able
(00:45):
to make this work, and it tookdecades and decades before this
to get me to the point that Ineeded to be, to be able to
carry this full term and birthit into this world.
And I had the best birthingteam possible.
Honestly, even though the worstcase scenarios popped up, they
(01:08):
showed up, they surrenderedalong with me, and it was kind
of like being on a whitewaterraft, where you just have to
hold onto the raft and justtrust that you're going to get
there together, and that's trulyhow it felt to me as I went
through the wild and rapidwaters with these girls.
I couldn't have asked for abetter team, because when the
(01:34):
waters got rough, they just heldon more.
They focused on the intention.
They came back to the corevalues of the company and I just
I don't know how to express it.
I've done my best to express itin every way possible and I
(01:56):
will continue to, because thesewomen left their children for me
and I understand the weightthat that comes with that.
Taking nearly a week away fromyour five-year-old and your
one-year-old, that is a lot, andI will never allow that to slip
through the cracks, because Iknow the importance behind that.
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So, thank you Michelle, thankyou Eden, for both going to the
ends of the earth for me,because this thing needed the
right people to support it andto bring it into this world.
I really am grateful and it wasperfect, just like a perfect
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little baby born in this planet.
It was so perfect and I get it.
The next morning after theretreat was done, I'm laying in
my planet.
It was so perfect and I get it.
The next morning after theretreat was done, I'm laying in
my bed, I'm just soaking it inthe energy of it.
You know it's so fast.
It felt like it was long andshort all at once, but I'm just
sitting there, soft tearsstreaming down the sides of my
(03:02):
face as I'm reliving each momentover in my mind, and in that
moment I recognized and I, in avoice note, verbalized how it
was feeling, and it was.
I had gone into that event witha full cup already.
What I experienced was that mycup actually got bigger.
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I understand to a degree again,a fraction of a degree that when
mothers bring a child into thisworld, what they mean by their
capacity grows, their capacityfor love expands.
I get that now To the best thatI can, not actually having
birthed a real human baby intothis world.
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But I champion you because itis difficult and there's so many
parallels and what I had to doto get this all here that this
is the closest thing I have tounderstanding that and you guys
are freaking warriors.
A lot of the women who are partof my event teammates,
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attendees, were moms.
They too had to leave theirchildren to be here, and I know
how important that is.
I made sure to write in timesfor them to call in and check in
with their kids multiple timesa day.
I made sure to continuouslyremind them of their why and I
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knew that, giving them the spaceto go and just release
themselves of allresponsibilities, of their
business, of their home, oftheir kids.
They simply had to show up andeverything else was taken care
of.
That's not something thesewomen get very often, and so I
pride myself on designing aprogram that they could leave
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for four days and trust thateverything is taken care of, so
long as their kids are withsomeone, safe or good, and it
was designed that way.
So I'm grateful for everythingthat happened on this trip,
every single moment, even thosecurveballs that came in, because
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one of the things that the teamand I did before we got to the
event was what's the worst thatcan happen?
And then talking through what'sthe worst thing that could
happen and how do we solve it,so that you can get in the
mindset of simply solving theproblems.
Well, what's the worst that canhappen?
Well, for a media event, havingthe media person bail out is
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the worst case scenario, and Iwas offered the opportunity to
work through that in real time.
Only three days before my event,a fluke accident came up and my
videographer was no longer ableto attend, so we had to work it
out.
So my photographer and I putour heads together and said we
got this, let's do it.
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So I simply felt like I pluggedin and just transferred all of
the thought processes and thedata in my mind.
Thank goodness I had alreadycreated a shot list and detailed
out all of the ideas that I hadin my mind, so there was a
centralized location that shecould continue to resource back
to to get a clear idea of thethings I was looking to capture.
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That took pre-planningforethought.
Thank goodness I did it and Iwas able to see how she stepped
up in that moment and recognizethat when the heat turns up in
the kitchen, oh girl, just grabssome oven mitts and starts
working.
She is a trooper and shegracefully stepped into the role
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and I'm so happy to have beenable to be proven by something
extreme like that.
Something like somethingextreme like that.
I really did not want the photoand video responsibilities for
the event to completely fall onone person.
I felt that was unfair.
It's too much considering theweight that I was putting on the
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media portion of this event.
I didn't want that to be all inone person and Eden freaking
showed up.
She really did.
She shot over 5,000 photos atthis event and captured over a
hundred hours of video content,nearly one and a half terabytes
of data.
I think I can check everysingle box as far as my
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expectations for the media ofthis event, because she crushed
it, and that's what happens whenyou have a mama bear who has a
purpose and a passion and a whythat is burning so deep inside
of her.
She was there for thetransformation.
She was there to see if shecould transform as well as
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continuing to witness andcapture the transformation of
other powerful women, and Ithink she did a phenomenal job.
I also was offered the wonderfulcurveball or worst case
scenario that actually happenedwas that I wasn't given the
right rooms.
Now, you see, there's abackstory.
I booked the hotel and I knewthere were a set of four rooms
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connected that I wanted thegirls to experience together.
So there was a centralizedkitchen and then they could all
be connected to that samekitchen and have that experience
.
I also knew that there weresuites on the opposite end of
the building, on the same floor,that would be suitable to our
session space.
So I talked to four betweenfour and seven different people
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from the company to find outwhat rooms I needed to book, and
none of them really knew.
So I made a booking.
I then checked in on the bookinga month or two later in person
in the sales center, asking morequestions.
What do I need to do?
These are the rooms that I want.
I know you have them.
How do we book them?
I'm booking three months beforethe event.
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I want to make sure that I getthe rooms I'm looking for and
understand how hotel rooms work.
So I know that once they checksomeone in, then you can't
connect those rooms anymore.
So it has to be well in advance.
So I communicate with the frontdesk, I communicate with the
sales desk, I communicate witheverybody I could humanly
possibly get on the phones or inperson actually.
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And then I called again 30 daysbefore the event and got people
on the phones to again clarify.
The notes are in the system.
They do understand what'shappening.
These are the rooms I'm goingto get right, and all I kept
hearing is we'll do our best toget you the rooms you're asking
for, and I'm like that isunacceptable.
I am giving you far enoughnotice.
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We are paying good money forthese rooms and I want this to
be something I want to do everyyear, continuously after this.
So work with me and we getthere.
And not only did I not get therooms that I was asking for
totally fine, just give me somerooms they only checked me into
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half of my what is it called?
Reservations, so only two ofthe three reservations that I
had got checked in that morning.
So my logistics was only giventwo keys.
And so she goes and checksthose rooms just to see maybe
it's something different, andshe recognizes there are only
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two beds available.
So she comes in and she iswhite, like white white I'm
telling you she's a Mexican girl, so she's got some tone to her
but like white white, liketerrified white, and looks at me
and just says there are onlytwo beds.
And I said, excuse me what?
There are only two beds.
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No, these rooms are supposed tosleep 12 people.
There's no way that there'sonly two beds.
I was supposed to have fourrooms, a two bedroom, another
one bedroom and another onebedroom, including four beds.
And I'm like, okay, so I needto go downstairs now and I need
to talk to the front desk.
We had had all of this workedout so that I could be upstairs
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in the room with the girlsteaching at this point doing the
intro.
It's like okay, let's getflexible.
So I went downstairs to go talkto the front desk.
Long story short, they couldn'tgive me the rooms that I was
looking for.
They did have a code for thoserooms.
We are now well aware of whatthat code is.
Not that I will be using it inthe future, because I will not
be booking with this hotel again.
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It was enough of a mess up forme that I'm just not going to do
it anymore.
I get to choose where I take mymoney, where I take my business
.
In the process of this, we wereable to finally get some sets of
rooms that were connected theother ones that were just close
by all of them on the same floor.
Yes, I am very grateful forthat, very grateful that we were
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able to all be on the samefloor.
Yes, I am very grateful forthat, very grateful that we were
able to all be on the samefloor, because it would not have
been conducive to doingelevators and going to different
floors and things.
That said, I had an amazingopportunity as I will label it
to stand downstairs for 40minutes while my program was
running upstairs, and my girlseven left the room to go on
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their snack run, planned snackrun, and I get to see them go by
, have fun.
I'm standing there and I'mstanding there and I'm being
ignored and I'm not being helpedand I'm fighting back tears
because I did everything in mypower to plan this properly, to
control it right.
So in this moment I had tochoose to surrender.
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I had to choose to utilize thetools and techniques I'm about
to teach these women, because ifI had cried or if I had yelled,
I would have lost thatcredibility, because that would
have only triggered and reallyjust messed up the mood of the
person I was working with andit's not their fault and I know
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that.
So it's not to be taken out onthe person at the front desk,
simply to be communicatedthrough the person at the front
desk.
So here I am.
Management is preferring todeal with my partner than me,
because obviously I'm the one infront of them and nobody likes
to be yelled at, and I can tellyou proudly that I did not yell
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at anybody.
I simply stood my ground and Ispoke my piece, because I
understand what happens when Iget frustrated and I don't say
something my eyes start to flareup, my eyes start to swell up,
itch, and it's not a fun thing.
So I am in a world of speakingup because if I do not, my body
will tell me I need to speak up.
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So here I was able to have theopportunity to speak up.
I was also given the opportunityto show the women that we get
to choose how we react to theworld around us the exact thing
I spent time the next dayteaching.
I got to show them in real timeand I think it's awesome that
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they actually got to see it,because the next day I'm
teaching these topics, talkingabout how we get to choose inner
peace.
It doesn't matter what ishappening around us and we can
plan and plan and plan all wewant.
And life still has curve ballsto throw us because it's just
checking in, it's just testingus to say, look, you're saying
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that you're someone who'sregulated, You're saying that
you're someone who meditates anddoes all these things like, but
do you really?
And it's just going to test us.
And this was my test and thiswas my opportunity to use all
the techniques that I was justabout to teach them and show
them that they work in any andall scenarios, because those
women admit they probably wouldnot have been able to hold back
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from yelling or crying in thatscenario.
But now they can, becausethey've learned these techniques
and they know that they work,because I know that they work
and I was giving a wonderfulseries of opportunities again
and again and again to put themto work, so that I could proudly
stand there and say look, Iknow what I'm teaching you and I
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know that it is true because Iuse it each and every day.
So I taught them how tomaintain healthy emotional
regulation even when the stormsof life come.
And it is so, so impactful tobe able to do that, because the
storms will come, and one of thethings that you need to do to
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prepare for when those stormscome is to make sure that you
have a team around you.
Teams are so important and wegot to see the power of
logistics playing out in myretreat.
We got to see it right there infront of us.
In fact, one of the guests at myretreat has hired me as her
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logistics for an event inOctober later on this year.
My retreat has hired me as herlogistics for an event in
October later on this year, andat the end of the event.
She said you know, when youfirst told me that I needed a
logistics for my event and youwere offering to do that, she
thought to herself I don'treally think I need this.
Like what is that?
What even is logistics?
What does that roll?
She said, now that I've seenyour event and how it's run, I
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understand why you need alogistics.
Because the truth is, Icouldn't be as present as I was
with those girls if I didn'thave a logistics, because
logistics is.
Basically I spent six monthsplanning every aspect of this
event, then spent another two,invested two or three months,
into transferring all of thisinformation through
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documentation, through calls,through reviewing it, through
just teaching it, throughvisualizations, through all
sorts of different means,communicating this with my
logistics that when we were onpremises I did not have to think
about anything.
All of the questions aboutlogistics went straight to
Michelle.
Michelle got to be my brain inthat sense, so I could fully be
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present on just being in myheart.
I could fully just channel thethings that were told to me to
express to the room, because Ididn't even.
I wrote the curriculum but Ididn't plan what I was going to
say.
I just got up there andcommunicated.
I told them what they needed tohear in that moment, based on
what they were going through.
This is why it's so customized.
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This is why every retreat isgoing to be its own
once-in-a-lifetime experience,because there will not be two
rooms with the same people in itever again, and I know that and
there is power in that.
So, taking the time to reallywork out and find the right
teammates who are able tosupport.
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Even when the chaos happened,they were able to be there to
ground, to calm, to send energy,to do all of the weird behind
the scenes things that I do thatare very woo-woo in a lot of
people's minds, and I just needmy team to be open to those
things.
Finding the right team matters,and there is power in having
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someone else there to keep youon track.
There were multiple times Ialmost did something and they
were like wait, jaina, there'smore.
And like trying to give me thewinky clue, and they're like
come on, remember the thing.
And I'm like oh, that's right,I wasn't meant to do this, I was
meant to do that next because Igot so caught up in it and I
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was so in the moment and, justbeing there, even I forgot what
was coming next, and so havingsomeone there to keep me on time
, to make sure that everything,oh man, that was the most
pivotal thing.
One of the primary things that Inoticed on this retreat was
that my logistics one of thefirst things I gave her was the
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role as timekeeper.
Like, look, I'm going to giveyou a little cues.
I broke down my slides and myteachings based on like, okay,
about 10 minutes or 20 minutesto do this, this and this and
whatever.
I had everything broken down onthe agenda, down to like 10
minute chunks and five minutechunks and sometimes even two or
three minute chunks.
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And I just said these are mycheckpoints.
I need you to keep me on time.
She had a timer, I had a timer,I had watches running timers,
we had all sorts of things tokeep us on track.
We had music playlists thatwere down to the minute to keep
us on track and obviously we hadsome curve balls.
So different things need topivot along the way.
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So that ability to have someonealso managing that time with you
meant that it didn't justbecome longer and longer and
longer, right, even the lastnight I was internally sitting
there and I was like, oh no,this went way past what I was
thinking so late.
And the girls at the team atthe end had to remind me
actually it didn't, because youhad planned to dance into the
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night.
You had planned for like alittle VIP dance party.
Didn't happen, totally fine.
I also had planned forsomething I'm not going to give
all the details away, but calledthe exchange, which is one of
the last things that we do atthe event, and I only gave it 30
minutes, and I learned veryquickly 30 minutes is not enough
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.
It took us two and a half hoursto do this.
Totally fine.
We have worked out a fewdifferent ways and we're going
to speed it up a little bit, andI just know that it's going to
be a 90 minute exercise andwe'll just plan for that in the
future.
That said, it's really nice tohave someone else who can help
keep you on track.
Otherwise, I would just talkabout certain things all day
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long.
Obviously, I can just talk andtalk, and talk and talk.
So you got to keep someonekeeping you on track so you can
get all the things in that youneed to do.
So part of what we did with ourtime management was that there
were a few different segmentsthat were really just open
discussion.
It was me talking about futureretreats that I was looking at,
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talking about my vision of thefuture, announcing a new
mastermind that I've launcheddifferent things, that aspects
and getting feedback, and Ifigured, instead of doing an
hour long dinner and then comingback and having them sit for an
hour while I talk about thesethings, let's just combine it.
So we ended up doing thatduring our dinner hour.
Basically the first 30 minutesof dinner we were either
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prepping the food or people weremaking their plates.
Then we'd all sit down and thenI would talk and I'd do my
little presentation.
Discussion, open form, ask forfeedback kind of just went with
it.
And it was so good because itdid help us catch up on time
when we were a little bit offtime from some different things.
So that was really great.
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Some different things, so thatwas really great.
And then we had some unexpectedshares.
Oh my gosh.
I had guests who are havingsuch tremendous results and
wanted to better share theirstory leading up to this.
So I had someone who puttogether an entire presentation.
Now she's been working with mefor about two and a half years,
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and so she put together apresentation of where she was
before working with me, thenwhen working with me two years
ago, and then what has happenedover the last two years since,
where she is today and whereshe's going.
And I was so proud of herbecause just the amount of
visual representation in thisvideo gets me excited, because I
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saw the change.
I know who she was before this,but people that see her now
either forget or don't rememberwho she was before this.
So I get excited when I see herbecause I remember who she was
only two years ago.
And being able to see thisvideo put together with her
before and afters, like rightthere in your face, it's like
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whoa, that's a transformation.
And I just thought it was soheartwarming that she also wrote
a song for me and my brand.
I mean, it was one of thosethings where, like, she wrote
the lyrics to it and then fed itinto AI and then told it and,
like, worked with AI to be ableto create this really cool music
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and I'm just going to have toshare it at some point.
It's amazing and things likethat really get me Like that's
something I can go back andre-listen to this again and
again and again, to put me inthat place of when I received
that and I'm just Jen.
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I'm forever grateful.
Thank you for sharing yourstory with the girls.
Thank you for opening it up.
I know we did not record itbecause we want to give you that
safe space, and I am so, so, sograteful that you have provided
this video.
It will be on a landing pagethat I will link in the future
and it'll be findable.
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It'll be something I'm going toput out there because your
story deserves to be heard,because you are freaking amazing
and there were so many stories,so many transformations, so
much release that happened atthis event.
I know I'm going to continue tohave different episodes coming
up where I talk about those andI just I got to sit in it a
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little bit more.
So much happened, so muchhappened, so much happened, so
much happened and I just mylevel of gratitude, at which I
am vibrating right now, is justalways been becoming, and I know
it feels powerful, not becauseit's powerful that I'm going to
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be experiencing that, butpowerful that everyone around me
is going to be experiencing alevel of change that is so rapid
, that is so powerful, that isso just.
I'm like I don't even have words.
And I'm someone who likes totalk a lot I'm really good with
words and I just don't have themBecause the level of
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synchronicity that happened atthis event again and again and
again, and all of the thingshappening were just so I just I
can't even put it into words.
So you know what?
Because this is a podcast andwords are pretty necessary.
I think this is a great placeto end this one, because I know
I will be talking about theseretreats more.
I will be telling more stories,so I'm going to save my words
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for them Until now.
Thank you for listening thisfar.
I appreciate you, and if you'reinterested in hearing more
about these retreats, you can goto
healthyemotionalregulationcomand you will find out more there
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we did it.
The team and I havesuccessfully brought the her
vision to life, and it wasperfect.
Everything, even the curveballs, even all the worst case
scenario scenarios that came up,it was perfect.
It was exactly what it neededto be.
(00:22):
I now understand what mothersgo to to a fraction of a degree,
because I do feel like I havebirthed this into the world and
it took a lot out of me.
It took six months ofpreparation.
It took every aspect of my lifeneeding to line up to be able
(00:45):
to make this work, and it tookdecades and decades before this
to get me to the point that Ineeded to be, to be able to
carry this full term and birthit into this world.
And I had the best birthingteam possible.
Honestly, even though the worstcase scenarios popped up, they
(01:08):
showed up, they surrenderedalong with me, and it was kind
of like being on a whitewaterraft, where you just have to
hold onto the raft and justtrust that you're going to get
there together, and that's trulyhow it felt to me as I went
through the wild and rapidwaters with these girls.
I couldn't have asked for abetter team, because when the
(01:34):
waters got rough, they just heldon more.
They focused on the intention.
They came back to the corevalues of the company and I just
I don't know how to express it.
I've done my best to express itin every way possible and I
(01:56):
will continue to, because thesewomen left their children for me
and I understand the weightthat that comes with that.
Taking nearly a week away fromyour five-year-old and your
one-year-old, that is a lot, andI will never allow that to slip
through the cracks, because Iknow the importance behind that.
(02:16):
So, thank you Michelle, thankyou Eden, for both going to the
ends of the earth for me,because this thing needed the
right people to support it andto bring it into this world.
I really am grateful and it wasperfect, just like a perfect
(02:39):
little baby born in this planet.
It was so perfect and I get it.
The next morning after theretreat was done, I'm laying in
my planet.
It was so perfect and I get it.
The next morning after theretreat was done, I'm laying in
my bed, I'm just soaking it inthe energy of it.
You know it's so fast.
It felt like it was long andshort all at once, but I'm just
sitting there, soft tearsstreaming down the sides of my
(03:02):
face as I'm reliving each momentover in my mind, and in that
moment I recognized and I, in avoice note, verbalized how it
was feeling, and it was.
I had gone into that event witha full cup already.
What I experienced was that mycup actually got bigger.
(03:27):
I understand to a degree again,a fraction of a degree that when
mothers bring a child into thisworld, what they mean by their
capacity grows, their capacityfor love expands.
I get that now To the best thatI can, not actually having
birthed a real human baby intothis world.
(03:48):
But I champion you because itis difficult and there's so many
parallels and what I had to doto get this all here that this
is the closest thing I have tounderstanding that and you guys
are freaking warriors.
A lot of the women who are partof my event teammates,
(04:11):
attendees, were moms.
They too had to leave theirchildren to be here, and I know
how important that is.
I made sure to write in timesfor them to call in and check in
with their kids multiple timesa day.
I made sure to continuouslyremind them of their why and I
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knew that, giving them the spaceto go and just release
themselves of allresponsibilities, of their
business, of their home, oftheir kids.
They simply had to show up andeverything else was taken care
of.
That's not something thesewomen get very often, and so I
pride myself on designing aprogram that they could leave
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for four days and trust thateverything is taken care of, so
long as their kids are withsomeone, safe or good, and it
was designed that way.
So I'm grateful for everythingthat happened on this trip,
every single moment, even thosecurveballs that came in, because
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one of the things that the teamand I did before we got to the
event was what's the worst thatcan happen?
And then talking through what'sthe worst thing that could
happen and how do we solve it,so that you can get in the
mindset of simply solving theproblems.
Well, what's the worst that canhappen?
Well, for a media event, havingthe media person bail out is
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the worst case scenario, and Iwas offered the opportunity to
work through that in real time.
Only three days before my event,a fluke accident came up and my
videographer was no longer ableto attend, so we had to work it
out.
So my photographer and I putour heads together and said we
got this, let's do it.
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So I simply felt like I pluggedin and just transferred all of
the thought processes and thedata in my mind.
Thank goodness I had alreadycreated a shot list and detailed
out all of the ideas that I hadin my mind, so there was a
centralized location that shecould continue to resource back
to to get a clear idea of thethings I was looking to capture.
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That took pre-planningforethought.
Thank goodness I did it and Iwas able to see how she stepped
up in that moment and recognizethat when the heat turns up in
the kitchen, oh girl, just grabssome oven mitts and starts
working.
She is a trooper and shegracefully stepped into the role
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and I'm so happy to have beenable to be proven by something
extreme like that.
Something like somethingextreme like that.
I really did not want the photoand video responsibilities for
the event to completely fall onone person.
I felt that was unfair.
It's too much considering theweight that I was putting on the
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media portion of this event.
I didn't want that to be all inone person and Eden freaking
showed up.
She really did.
She shot over 5,000 photos atthis event and captured over a
hundred hours of video content,nearly one and a half terabytes
of data.
I think I can check everysingle box as far as my
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expectations for the media ofthis event, because she crushed
it, and that's what happens whenyou have a mama bear who has a
purpose and a passion and a whythat is burning so deep inside
of her.
She was there for thetransformation.
She was there to see if shecould transform as well as
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continuing to witness andcapture the transformation of
other powerful women, and Ithink she did a phenomenal job.
I also was offered the wonderfulcurveball or worst case
scenario that actually happenedwas that I wasn't given the
right rooms.
Now, you see, there's abackstory.
I booked the hotel and I knewthere were a set of four rooms
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connected that I wanted thegirls to experience together.
So there was a centralizedkitchen and then they could all
be connected to that samekitchen and have that experience
.
I also knew that there weresuites on the opposite end of
the building, on the same floor,that would be suitable to our
session space.
So I talked to four betweenfour and seven different people
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from the company to find outwhat rooms I needed to book, and
none of them really knew.
So I made a booking.
I then checked in on the bookinga month or two later in person
in the sales center, asking morequestions.
What do I need to do?
These are the rooms that I want.
I know you have them.
How do we book them?
I'm booking three months beforethe event.
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I want to make sure that I getthe rooms I'm looking for and
understand how hotel rooms work.
So I know that once they checksomeone in, then you can't
connect those rooms anymore.
So it has to be well in advance.
So I communicate with the frontdesk, I communicate with the
sales desk, I communicate witheverybody I could humanly
possibly get on the phones or inperson actually.
(09:27):
And then I called again 30 daysbefore the event and got people
on the phones to again clarify.
The notes are in the system.
They do understand what'shappening.
These are the rooms I'm goingto get right, and all I kept
hearing is we'll do our best toget you the rooms you're asking
for, and I'm like that isunacceptable.
I am giving you far enoughnotice.
(09:50):
We are paying good money forthese rooms and I want this to
be something I want to do everyyear, continuously after this.
So work with me and we getthere.
And not only did I not get therooms that I was asking for
totally fine, just give me somerooms they only checked me into
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half of my what is it called?
Reservations, so only two ofthe three reservations that I
had got checked in that morning.
So my logistics was only giventwo keys.
And so she goes and checksthose rooms just to see maybe
it's something different, andshe recognizes there are only
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two beds available.
So she comes in and she iswhite, like white white I'm
telling you she's a Mexican girl, so she's got some tone to her
but like white white, liketerrified white, and looks at me
and just says there are onlytwo beds.
And I said, excuse me what?
There are only two beds.
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No, these rooms are supposed tosleep 12 people.
There's no way that there'sonly two beds.
I was supposed to have fourrooms, a two bedroom, another
one bedroom and another onebedroom, including four beds.
And I'm like, okay, so I needto go downstairs now and I need
to talk to the front desk.
We had had all of this workedout so that I could be upstairs
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in the room with the girlsteaching at this point doing the
intro.
It's like okay, let's getflexible.
So I went downstairs to go talkto the front desk.
Long story short, they couldn'tgive me the rooms that I was
looking for.
They did have a code for thoserooms.
We are now well aware of whatthat code is.
Not that I will be using it inthe future, because I will not
be booking with this hotel again.
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It was enough of a mess up forme that I'm just not going to do
it anymore.
I get to choose where I take mymoney, where I take my business
.
In the process of this, we wereable to finally get some sets of
rooms that were connected theother ones that were just close
by all of them on the same floor.
Yes, I am very grateful forthat, very grateful that we were
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able to all be on the samefloor.
Yes, I am very grateful forthat, very grateful that we were
able to all be on the samefloor, because it would not have
been conducive to doingelevators and going to different
floors and things.
That said, I had an amazingopportunity as I will label it
to stand downstairs for 40minutes while my program was
running upstairs, and my girlseven left the room to go on
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their snack run, planned snackrun, and I get to see them go by
, have fun.
I'm standing there and I'mstanding there and I'm being
ignored and I'm not being helpedand I'm fighting back tears
because I did everything in mypower to plan this properly, to
control it right.
So in this moment I had tochoose to surrender.
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I had to choose to utilize thetools and techniques I'm about
to teach these women, because ifI had cried or if I had yelled,
I would have lost thatcredibility, because that would
have only triggered and reallyjust messed up the mood of the
person I was working with andit's not their fault and I know
(13:05):
that.
So it's not to be taken out onthe person at the front desk,
simply to be communicatedthrough the person at the front
desk.
So here I am.
Management is preferring todeal with my partner than me,
because obviously I'm the one infront of them and nobody likes
to be yelled at, and I can tellyou proudly that I did not yell
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at anybody.
I simply stood my ground and Ispoke my piece, because I
understand what happens when Iget frustrated and I don't say
something my eyes start to flareup, my eyes start to swell up,
itch, and it's not a fun thing.
So I am in a world of speakingup because if I do not, my body
will tell me I need to speak up.
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So here I was able to have theopportunity to speak up.
I was also given the opportunityto show the women that we get
to choose how we react to theworld around us the exact thing
I spent time the next dayteaching.
I got to show them in real timeand I think it's awesome that
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they actually got to see it,because the next day I'm
teaching these topics, talkingabout how we get to choose inner
peace.
It doesn't matter what ishappening around us and we can
plan and plan and plan all wewant.
And life still has curve ballsto throw us because it's just
checking in, it's just testingus to say, look, you're saying
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that you're someone who'sregulated, You're saying that
you're someone who meditates anddoes all these things like, but
do you really?
And it's just going to test us.
And this was my test and thiswas my opportunity to use all
the techniques that I was justabout to teach them and show
them that they work in any andall scenarios, because those
women admit they probably wouldnot have been able to hold back
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from yelling or crying in thatscenario.
But now they can, becausethey've learned these techniques
and they know that they work,because I know that they work
and I was giving a wonderfulseries of opportunities again
and again and again to put themto work, so that I could proudly
stand there and say look, Iknow what I'm teaching you and I
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know that it is true because Iuse it each and every day.
So I taught them how tomaintain healthy emotional
regulation even when the stormsof life come.
And it is so, so impactful tobe able to do that, because the
storms will come, and one of thethings that you need to do to
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prepare for when those stormscome is to make sure that you
have a team around you.
Teams are so important and wegot to see the power of
logistics playing out in myretreat.
We got to see it right there infront of us.
In fact, one of the guests at myretreat has hired me as her
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logistics for an event inOctober later on this year.
My retreat has hired me as herlogistics for an event in
October later on this year, andat the end of the event.
She said you know, when youfirst told me that I needed a
logistics for my event and youwere offering to do that, she
thought to herself I don'treally think I need this.
Like what is that?
What even is logistics?
What does that roll?
She said, now that I've seenyour event and how it's run, I
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understand why you need alogistics.
Because the truth is, Icouldn't be as present as I was
with those girls if I didn'thave a logistics, because
logistics is.
Basically I spent six monthsplanning every aspect of this
event, then spent another two,invested two or three months,
into transferring all of thisinformation through
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documentation, through calls,through reviewing it, through
just teaching it, throughvisualizations, through all
sorts of different means,communicating this with my
logistics that when we were onpremises I did not have to think
about anything.
All of the questions aboutlogistics went straight to
Michelle.
Michelle got to be my brain inthat sense, so I could fully be
(17:02):
present on just being in myheart.
I could fully just channel thethings that were told to me to
express to the room, because Ididn't even.
I wrote the curriculum but Ididn't plan what I was going to
say.
I just got up there andcommunicated.
I told them what they needed tohear in that moment, based on
what they were going through.
This is why it's so customized.
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This is why every retreat isgoing to be its own
once-in-a-lifetime experience,because there will not be two
rooms with the same people in itever again, and I know that and
there is power in that.
So, taking the time to reallywork out and find the right
teammates who are able tosupport.
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Even when the chaos happened,they were able to be there to
ground, to calm, to send energy,to do all of the weird behind
the scenes things that I do thatare very woo-woo in a lot of
people's minds, and I just needmy team to be open to those
things.
Finding the right team matters,and there is power in having
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someone else there to keep youon track.
There were multiple times Ialmost did something and they
were like wait, jaina, there'smore.
And like trying to give me thewinky clue, and they're like
come on, remember the thing.
And I'm like oh, that's right,I wasn't meant to do this, I was
meant to do that next because Igot so caught up in it and I
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was so in the moment and, justbeing there, even I forgot what
was coming next, and so havingsomeone there to keep me on time
, to make sure that everything,oh man, that was the most
pivotal thing.
One of the primary things that Inoticed on this retreat was
that my logistics one of thefirst things I gave her was the
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role as timekeeper.
Like, look, I'm going to giveyou a little cues.
I broke down my slides and myteachings based on like, okay,
about 10 minutes or 20 minutesto do this, this and this and
whatever.
I had everything broken down onthe agenda, down to like 10
minute chunks and five minutechunks and sometimes even two or
three minute chunks.
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And I just said these are mycheckpoints.
I need you to keep me on time.
She had a timer, I had a timer,I had watches running timers,
we had all sorts of things tokeep us on track.
We had music playlists thatwere down to the minute to keep
us on track and obviously we hadsome curve balls.
So different things need topivot along the way.
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So that ability to have someonealso managing that time with you
meant that it didn't justbecome longer and longer and
longer, right, even the lastnight I was internally sitting
there and I was like, oh no,this went way past what I was
thinking so late.
And the girls at the team atthe end had to remind me
actually it didn't, because youhad planned to dance into the
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night.
You had planned for like alittle VIP dance party.
Didn't happen, totally fine.
I also had planned forsomething I'm not going to give
all the details away, but calledthe exchange, which is one of
the last things that we do atthe event, and I only gave it 30
minutes, and I learned veryquickly 30 minutes is not enough
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.
It took us two and a half hoursto do this.
Totally fine.
We have worked out a fewdifferent ways and we're going
to speed it up a little bit, andI just know that it's going to
be a 90 minute exercise andwe'll just plan for that in the
future.
That said, it's really nice tohave someone else who can help
keep you on track.
Otherwise, I would just talkabout certain things all day
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long.
Obviously, I can just talk andtalk, and talk and talk.
So you got to keep someonekeeping you on track so you can
get all the things in that youneed to do.
So part of what we did with ourtime management was that there
were a few different segmentsthat were really just open
discussion.
It was me talking about futureretreats that I was looking at,
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talking about my vision of thefuture, announcing a new
mastermind that I've launcheddifferent things, that aspects
and getting feedback, and Ifigured, instead of doing an
hour long dinner and then comingback and having them sit for an
hour while I talk about thesethings, let's just combine it.
So we ended up doing thatduring our dinner hour.
Basically the first 30 minutesof dinner we were either
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prepping the food or people weremaking their plates.
Then we'd all sit down and thenI would talk and I'd do my
little presentation.
Discussion, open form, ask forfeedback kind of just went with
it.
And it was so good because itdid help us catch up on time
when we were a little bit offtime from some different things.
So that was really great.
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Some different things, so thatwas really great.
And then we had some unexpectedshares.
Oh my gosh.
I had guests who are havingsuch tremendous results and
wanted to better share theirstory leading up to this.
So I had someone who puttogether an entire presentation.
Now she's been working with mefor about two and a half years,
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and so she put together apresentation of where she was
before working with me, thenwhen working with me two years
ago, and then what has happenedover the last two years since,
where she is today and whereshe's going.
And I was so proud of herbecause just the amount of
visual representation in thisvideo gets me excited, because I
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saw the change.
I know who she was before this,but people that see her now
either forget or don't rememberwho she was before this.
So I get excited when I see herbecause I remember who she was
only two years ago.
And being able to see thisvideo put together with her
before and afters, like rightthere in your face, it's like
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whoa, that's a transformation.
And I just thought it was soheartwarming that she also wrote
a song for me and my brand.
I mean, it was one of thosethings where, like, she wrote
the lyrics to it and then fed itinto AI and then told it and,
like, worked with AI to be ableto create this really cool music
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and I'm just going to have toshare it at some point.
It's amazing and things likethat really get me Like that's
something I can go back andre-listen to this again and
again and again, to put me inthat place of when I received
that and I'm just Jen.
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I'm forever grateful.
Thank you for sharing yourstory with the girls.
Thank you for opening it up.
I know we did not record itbecause we want to give you that
safe space, and I am so, so, sograteful that you have provided
this video.
It will be on a landing pagethat I will link in the future
and it'll be findable.
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It'll be something I'm going toput out there because your
story deserves to be heard,because you are freaking amazing
and there were so many stories,so many transformations, so
much release that happened atthis event.
I know I'm going to continue tohave different episodes coming
up where I talk about those andI just I got to sit in it a
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little bit more.
So much happened, so muchhappened, so much happened, so
much happened and I just mylevel of gratitude, at which I
am vibrating right now, is justalways been becoming, and I know
it feels powerful, not becauseit's powerful that I'm going to
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be experiencing that, butpowerful that everyone around me
is going to be experiencing alevel of change that is so rapid
, that is so powerful, that isso just.
I'm like I don't even have words.
And I'm someone who likes totalk a lot I'm really good with
words and I just don't have themBecause the level of
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synchronicity that happened atthis event again and again and
again, and all of the thingshappening were just so I just I
can't even put it into words.
So you know what?
Because this is a podcast andwords are pretty necessary.
I think this is a great placeto end this one, because I know
I will be talking about theseretreats more.
I will be telling more stories,so I'm going to save my words
(25:38):
for them Until now.
Thank you for listening thisfar.
I appreciate you, and if you'reinterested in hearing more
about these retreats, you can goto
healthyemotionalregulationcomand you will find out more there
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