July 8, 2025 • 41 mins
What happens when a creative takes time off instead of pushing through burnout? After taking a two-month hiatus from creating content, I've returned with profound insights about the necessity of pausing, processing, and recalibrating before continuing to serve others.
During my break, I experienced what some call being "triggered" but what a wise friend reframed as being "activated" - receiving the blessing of learning new lessons about my energy, boundaries, and communication patterns. Rather than speaking from an unhealed wound, I chose to step back, process with trusted friends, and return only when I could speak from the scar.
This episode explores the transformative power of cultivating internal safety as a content creator. When we create from fear or scarcity, our audience calibrates to that energy - showing up with guards raised, lacking trust. But when we create from a place of genuine safety and abundance, we invite our audience to consume our content from that same open, receptive space.
For high-performing, heart-led creative women who struggle with loneliness, feeling unsafe online, analysis paralysis, and tying their worth to analytics - this message is especially for you. The audience you seek isn't waiting for perfect thumbnails or algorithm hacks; they're waiting for YOU to step fully into your authentic self.
Ready to cultivate safety from the inside out? Join me at the Empowered Podcasting Conference in Charlotte (September 26-28) for my workshop "The Regulated Creator," or access my free 30-question workbook at janaswancom/safety30. Because you deserve to experience what it feels like to openly express yourself online with no pressure, no expectations - just love and authenticity.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello, my love and thank you.
I really do appreciate yourpatience and forgive me for
taking a two month hiatus andnot putting out new episodes.
I needed some time and so todayI'm going to talk about exactly
what happened during that timeand what I used to get through
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it and where we're going fromhere.
Right, because there is powerin the pause.
There is power in taking a stepback from what you've been
doing to be able to gatheryourself, to take a bird's eye
view.
Some people call it the macrolens or just thinking big
picture, but sometimes we're soin the day-to-day we're grinding
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away, we're creating nonstop,we're posting every day that we
lose the fact that is ourmessaging actually the right
messaging?
Are we attracting the rightpeople to our content and into
our world, whether that'sthrough business or
relationships or however you'reattracting things to you?
Are you attracting more of whatyou want to see?
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Or are you stuck in an oldpattern and find that you just
keep attracting the same baggageover and over and over again?
And I found that I was doingjust that.
I found that I was noticingpatterns in my life and then
everything blew up in my faceand had a massive heartbreak.
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We'll call it with a friend.
That pain was given wise advicefrom friends not to post it at
the time because I would havebeen speaking from the wound.
I definitely want to go backand have that conversation and
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I'm still not in the space forit.
So thank you for your patience.
Right, I am in a world where Ido talk about my pain openly.
I do talk about the things I'mnavigating openly.
I am not one of those peoplewho's a coach or mentor in any
way, who always wants to lookperfect.
I actually find that'sdetrimental to those who are
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learning and growing with me.
They have to see myvulnerability.
They need to see that Istruggle too and that I am able
to continue to show up forothers as I am continuously
processing my own stuff.
So the last few months I havehad the honor I will call it of
being activated.
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Some people say they'retriggered.
I had a wonderful friend giveme the reframe that I was simply
activated.
I was given the blessing oflearning new lessons.
I was given the opportunity torecognize how my energy, my lack
of boundaries, my inability tocommunicate led me to an
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experience that I've had in thepast and it activated me.
Oh yeah, it started the spiralthe spiral most people fall into
and only ever spiral down andit put me into an active
conflict resolution phase, whichis the part of the work that I
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do with my clients, wherethey're actively in the shit,
they're actively feeling all ofthe feelings, and I was there
and it's not wise to speak fromthat space, and so I had to step
back.
I had to, for your benefit,pull back, because I know it's
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beneficial to both pull back thecurtain and let you see it, and
also beneficial for me to getthrough it faster by just
sitting in it myself, by goingto those friends that I know
have the ability to hold thespace and then getting through
the inner work so that I can getinto this active healing phase
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and that's where I'm at nowwhich requires a lot of rest.
It requires a lot of sittingwith the emotions and really
just processing, moving itthrough, going on long walks,
dancing it out right.
I am in the active healing phase, which still requires my
attention, and it is a phasewhere I am starting to share.
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I'm starting to open up withpeople around me, particularly
clients.
I do actually like to let themknow what I'm doing to process
my own stuff right now, I willtell them look, I am going
through this feeling of notbeing safe in my world in a lot
of different ways, and so I'mactively cultivating this
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internal experience of safety,knowing that safety is a thought
that turns into an emotion.
It's something that happensfrom the inside out, not the
outside in, and while Iconsciously know this, my body
has not fully learned this yet,and so I am actively cultivating
that internal safety.
And so when I'm speaking withclients who I'm seeing also have
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the same patterns, instead oftelling them what to do or
teaching them, I just say look,this is what I'm doing.
Here are the journal promptsI've been journaling on and some
of the aha moments I've had.
Try it for yourself and that'sit.
It's just opening up and it'sallowing both myself to have the
space and the vulnerability andjust nurturing, because it's
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hard to walk other peoplethrough something you have not
yet finished going throughyourself.
And I see it all around me.
I see that we are in a worldwhere safety is so rare, a world
where people feel threatenedfrom every angle, a world where
people they speak up less out offear of losing friends,
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experiencing abandonment, maybegetting a bunch of hate from the
internet online.
Right, we are in a world wherepeople are scared scared to lose
their jobs, scared to losetheir family, scared to lose
themselves.
That's a tough place for us tobe, and when I recognize the
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pain around me, everything in meis driven by a desire to reduce
suffering in this world, and Iknow that the knowledge, the
tools and the abilities I havecan help so many people.
So many different issues can besolved with the same tools.
And so I found that over thelast few years, I have been
speaking to everybody and I wastold by coaches over and over
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and over in my business world toniche down, speak to one person
, be really specific as to whoyou're helping, and I was like
but I can help everyone and Isee it.
Now I do.
I see that, yes, the work that Ido can translate to multiple
industries, it can translate tomultiple areas of life.
It can translate to all sortsof things, and when I am in a
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coaching container, one-on-onewith someone, and recognize that
they're struggling with bodyimage issues, I can go down that
route, because I am certifiedto be able to help people by
teaching them about basicnutrition.
I'm able to help someonenavigate through the fitness
lens, but that's not what Ispeak to online.
That's not the message that Ipresent on a regular basis.
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Yes, I can help someone build afunnel and create a system in
their business that's going tosupport the world that they want
to create, but I do not marketmyself as a business coach.
So, sitting back over the lasttwo months and really
recognizing what do I actuallybring to people, what is the
value I bring?
I can do a lot.
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I have a lot of knowledge, awide base, but what is the
unique thing that I bring?
And so I started to get really,really clear, started to get
really clear on who exactly am Iserving, not who can I serve,
but who am I serving.
And not just who am I serving,but who do I actually enjoy
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serving.
And so, looking back over thehundreds of clients I've had
over the last decade and justsitting down and looking at who
are my favorites, which oneswere the most fun to work with,
which ones made my life supereasy and I enjoyed and looked
forward to every single call,and then what are the patterns
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that I can see in the clientswho were resistant and they were
a struggle, and not necessarilybecause they challenged me, but
because they challengedthemselves.
They resisted the process, theyquestioned every single thing
along the way.
They didn't believe it wasgoing to work.
And that's the most criticalpiece, I can believe it's going
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to work all day long.
But if you do not adopt thatbelief and you do not think it's
going to work all day long, butif you do not adopt that belief
and you do not think it's goingto work and you're just like,
well, let me just see whathappens, like that's not going
to help.
And so I recognized what thepatterns were in the clients I
was not having fun with, and soI sat down and got really clear.
And so here I'm going to letyou know right now who this is,
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because I want you to be able torecognize is this you and is
this not you?
And if it's not you and youstill connect with me, reach out
, let me know to say, hey,that's not me, but I still
connect, because I want to knowand know that when I create
content from here forward, thisis the woman that I'm speaking
to, and if you don't fit thismold, it's totally okay to still
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listen to my content If you'restill going to get value.
Just know I am not going to sithere any longer and try and
analyze what I'm saying and howI'm saying it, because I'm
trying to speak to someone whodoes not use the language I use.
I've recognized that I do workwith logical-minded people, very
literal people, and my braindoes not work that way.
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Naturally, I am extremelycreative.
I am very much an inferentialspeaker and listener in a lot of
ways, can be very literal ifneeded, but that's not my
natural go-to.
So I have to actually activelywork to be able to properly
communicate with someone likethat, and it feels like a
struggle.
It probably feels like astruggle from their end too,
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right, and how they think aboutit.
So, to keep it easy, I'm goingto lean into what I know best
and that's me.
I'm going to lean into knowingthat there are people on this
planet.
I'm going to trust and love thefact that there are people out
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there who are so literal, whoare so just, logical and
analytical, and they are thereto teach you the same things I'm
teaching you, but in your voice, in the way that you need to
hear it, and in their voice theway that they need to say it,
and that I trust that I am puton this planet with the gifts,
the talents, the experience, thelife lived that I was given so
that I trust that I am put onthis planet with the gifts, the
talents, the experience, thelife lived that I was given so
that I can speak my voice.
So this is who I'm speaking to.
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I am speaking to women.
I am speaking directly to womenwho are high performers, who
show up over and over and overand overperform, overachieve
Women who are high performers,who are creative, who are
content creators, who arepodcasters, they're YouTubers,
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they're influencers, they'rebloggers, they're musicians.
They're creating things everyday into this world, expressing
themselves through innovativework, day into this world,
expressing themselves throughinnovative work.
They have 100,000 followers orare making $100,000 in their
business.
They are not at the beginningphases where they need to know
the basics.
They are in the middle of itand they're like, hey, I'm
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either burning out and I needhelp, or they're taking a pause
and they're ready to rebuild itin a way that's actually
supportive, long term right.
So this is someone in themiddle of the journey.
You're already years in.
You have a great foundation.
You're just looking for thosetweaks on your internal
emotional and mental mind sothat you can continue to amplify
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what you're already doing.
Well, right, these people, thesewomen, they're kinesthetic,
they're feelers, they feel intothings, they're big on like oh
yeah, I feel energy, like that'smy woman, the one who's
connected to her bodies, to heremotions, to her heart.
She's actually led by her heart.
All of her leadership isheart-led leadership.
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It is more about impactingpeople and what people feel in
the experience than it's abouthow she looks or what she makes
or what her status is.
Those things don't drive thiswoman.
This woman is driven by herheart.
She is an emotional storytellerwho really dives into sharing
personal stories and things thatare happening around her so
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that the people in her audiencecan learn through internal
visualization, through thoseemotional storytelling
opportunities.
These women are open andcurious-minded.
They're always looking to learnmore.
They're open to the fact theymay or may not know, and if they
already have success in an area, they are still open to
learning new things that theycan then integrate into what
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they're already doing andcontinue to get better.
They are impact driven.
Every single thing this womandoes is to create a bigger
impact, and 90% of the time, ifnot 95 or 99% of the time, it's
because she has suffered in someway and doesn't want to
continue to spread the sufferingin some way and doesn't want to
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continue to spread thesuffering, and so, in that, she
is impact-driven, because shewants to help other people win
in ways that she had to struggleto get right On the flip side,
some of the things this womanstruggles with is loneliness,
because a creative adventure canbe a lonely one.
An entrepreneurial adventurecan be a lonely one.
Building a business can besomething that makes you so
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unrelatable to the people thatyou're used to being around with
your friends and family, unlessyou're in that entrepreneurial
friend group already.
It can be so lonely because youdon't really have people to
talk to about these things.
She's probably strugglingdeeply with feeling safe in this
world, especially feeling safewhen posting online, being seen
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as herself online.
Oftentimes she probably doesn'tfully say what she wants to say
, at least kind of sugarcoats itor softens the blow, so it's
not as controversial.
It doesn't strike up a bunch ofdrama, right?
Maybe she's changing who she isto fit the mold of what she
thinks she has to be in herindustry.
Maybe she's just strictly inthe world of copying other
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people because that's what worksright Versus listening to her
heart and putting out what feelsgood to her and just trusting
that it'll get to the rightpeople right?
This woman, she gets stuck inanalysis paralysis all the time
because she is that consciouslearner.
She's always open and curious,which means she is always
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looking at well, what could bebetter, what's going wrong, and
she overanalyzes, which gets herinto analysis paralysis, which
means nothing's ever good enough.
So she's constantly secondguessing herself, constantly
second guessing her titles andher thumbnails and all of it.
How does she structure it?
Who does she bring in?
What visuals?
What B-roll?
What this, what that?
Is the caption right?
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Is it that second guessing?
That energy comes through.
But when you just channel itand you go this is what I want
to talk about, this is what I'mgoing to do, let's go that's
what makes the difference,because this woman who gets
stuck in this analysis paralysis, this second guessing she often
allows herself to slip intothat comparison trap, comparing
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her channel to other channelswhy are they doing better, why
are they getting more follows,how do they get people to
comment Right?
And then allows her mood to beimpacted by these analytics,
thus tying her worth to theamount of views that she's
getting, the amount of commentsshe's getting.
She often finds it's really hardto relate to other people and
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make new friendships as an adult, as a creative, when she's not
really going out other than tocreate and she's not really
connecting with people, becauseher friends and family just
don't get it right.
She struggles to receivecompliments.
Even when her videos and hercontent are great, she still
isn't convinced.
So she's hypercritical of allof her work.
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It could always be a little bitbetter, there's always
something that could have beenbetter, right?
Well, meanwhile, she's also gota bunch of content that's
already done, just isn'tpublished because it's not quite
ready or I don't know.
I'm just not sure.
What are they going to think?
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Is this on brand Right?
These are the thoughts she'shaving because she's constantly
seeking external validation forher work, for her creations,
because she's stuck in thisworld of having to prove her
worth, prove that she is goodenough, prove that her art is
worth what she's asking, insteadof simply expressing what she's
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feeling through her work andwith this, it leaves her rarely
ever feeling fully satisfiedwith the things she creates in
this world, because it couldalways be a little better.
So, if that's you, hey, girl,I'm jana if we haven't met yet
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and I'm here to help you scaleyour income and your impact
through being able to cultivatemore safety, more self-love and
more emotional mastery.
I am your business bestie.
I'm the one who's going to behere for you, girlfriend.
I'm here to help you flip thescript.
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On those low mindset days,those days you have no ability
to peel yourself out of bed, I'mthat one who's going to be like
get up right now and let's makea change in this world.
I will remind you of your why,of who you are impacting, of how
impactful you are.
I will celebrate those winswith you.
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I will help you flip the script.
On those days when that videoyou put so much energy into
flops, I'm going to be the oneto pick you up off the ground
and say it's okay, let's do itagain, right?
That's a business bestie.
It's not just a best friend,right?
It's not just someone who'sgoing to sit there and chit chat
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with you or whatever.
It's that person who can alsotalk business when you need it,
who knows where you're comingfrom, who knows your heart, who
knows your why?
Right?
That person who wants to helpyou feel safe so that you can
express yourself fully in thisworld and be seen for who you
are, so that you can be seenfully in this world and be seen
for who you are, so that you canbe seen by those people who
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need who you are.
Because the truth is, you'restruggling to let go of control
and you're struggling to postconsistently because your
subconscious mind does not yetfeel fully safe.
Subconscious mind does not yetfeel fully safe.
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You're not lazy, you're justyour body's protection
mechanisms are kicking in.
It is trying to help you notface the things that could get
you ostracized from yourcommunity.
Right, long, long, long timeago, our tribe was everything.
Long, long time ago, our tribewas everything, and if we were
kicked out of that tribe, thelikelihood of our survival
plummeted, and so our brains arestill hardwired with that.
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And so the communities that wehave built for ourselves.
When we continue to grow becausewe are open-minded, curious
people who are always looking togrow right, when we continue to
grow, there are moments wherewe actually might outgrow the
rooms we're in, might outgrowthe community we're in.
We might even outgrow ouraudience.
And so when we are the type ofperson who continues to express
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and lean into who they are today, not who they were last year,
you inherently are going to seedrop off.
You are going to see people notagree with you anymore when you
continue to share this and yourbody is going to feel so
threatened.
So here's what you have toremember your audience
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calibrates on you.
Audience calibrates on youright.
So when you post out of fear,when you post out of scarcity,
when you have this safetymechanism coming up but you're
pushing through and stillposting, your audience is simply
going to match that energyright.
They're going to show up tothis video with their guard up.
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They are going to lack trust,they're going to lack safety
with you and that means they'renot going to follow, they're not
going to engage, they might notclick that next video.
This is going to end up causingyou to feel disconnected from
them.
It's going to cause you to feelunsafe, unseen, ununderstood,
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and all of these things aregoing to just perpetuate the
cycle over and over and over,because you don't feel seen.
So you create from a space ofnot feeling seen, not feeling
understood.
You're pushing and forcing yourway out there out of fear and
scarcity that it's never goingto happen, and then that energy
creates this cycle.
So how do we break this cycle?
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You're like Jaina yes, that'sme Constantly creating out of
fear.
What do I do?
This is what you do.
We start with ourselves.
Right, we are the creator.
We start with ourselves.
When we create from safety, weconnect and they consume from
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safety.
So safety starts from theinside out, right, it starts as
a thought and that thoughtbecomes a feeling and those
feelings become words and thosewords become actions and those
actions eventually become habitsand behaviors that create the
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reality that you're in.
So, working from the inside out, start by just aiming to set
the intention.
Set an intention to connect andfully let your walls down
before you begin creating.
Right, it is super importantnot to go into the act of
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recording, the act of creatingfrom the scarcity space, so you
allow yourself to step into thatabundance before you hit play,
before you actually start towrite right.
How are some of the ways thatyou can do that right?
Here are some of the things thatI do before I create to make
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sure that I'm in the rightheadspace and that I'm focused
on them and not me.
So the first thing I do is Ihave a picture of my ideal
client, right?
A lot of people createfigmental ideal clients Also
great, you could utilize AI tobe able to create a picture of
that Fantastic.
Mine is actually a real humanbeing that I know in my life and
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she impacts me and she drivesme and I think of her, and there
was a time where it was reallyhard for me to get her top of
mind.
So what I did was I printed outa picture of her, put it in a
frame and put it behind mycamera, right behind the lens.
So when I'm looking right atthe lens, I see her face and so
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I speak to her.
So maybe try putting a visualaid of your ideal client, of
your ideal audience member.
Put it behind your camera andspeak directly to that person.
Right?
Maybe you have a vision boardbehind your camera that has
their goals and their dreams andtheir struggles and the things
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they love and the words theyassociate to all over that board
, so you can be reminded of thatcontinuously.
The other thing that I do isprime myself with video, so I
will often be scrolling onsocial media and sometimes I'll
run across a video of a woman inthe depths of her pain and
struggle.
Whatever it is, she's just.
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You know the videos.
They're crying, bawling theireyes out, sad, sobby music
behind it telling their story.
And the moment that I read orsee one of those and it
associates to my ideal client,where it is someone who's
struggling with posting contentor struggling with growing their
audience or had a big loss infollowing because they posted
something like those moments, Isave those.
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I save those videos to aspecific folder and before I
create content, I will watchthree or four of those, because
it puts me in the energy oftheir suffering and it puts me
in that mode of being the heroand I'm like you know what.
I can help this?
I can help get her out ofsuffering now, and this is the
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one tip, tool or technique thatI'm going to teach to do that.
And so priming yourself withvideo can be extremely powerful
for putting you in the rightenergy for speaking to that
person in that moment.
I also tend to do this in a moremeditative way, where I simply
meditate on a friend in my worldor a client in my world who is
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actively struggling with thething I'm about to create
content on and I will justmeditate and I'll just sit and
think back to the conversations,think back to what she's told
me.
I'll put myself in her shoes asmuch as humanly possible.
And coming from that place, itreally does help make the
content feel like you'reactually talking to one person,
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and that's the final key isspeak to just one person.
And that's the final key isspeak to just one person.
Hey, girl, right, instead ofhey everybody.
It just feels so much different.
When someone is watching avideo and you're speaking
directly to them, they sit downand go.
Oh my God, it's like I'm in aroom with Jaina and she's just
right.
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You're maybe driving right nowor doing dishes or laundry or
working, and you're justlistening to me in one ear and
I'm speaking to you, not all ofyou to you.
Hey girl, I see you and I thinkof you every time I create
content.
In fact, I thought of you everysingle week for the last two
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months when I wasn't creatingcontent.
I was kicking myself over it.
I had to remind myself there ispower in the pause.
Speak from the scar, not thewound.
So I told myself it's okay.
You don't have to be consistentright now.
Could I have been consistent?
Yeah, could I have still pumpedout content?
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Yeah, could I have beenconsistent?
Yeah, could I have still pumpedout content?
Yeah, would it have been goodfor you guys?
Maybe.
Maybe you would have gottensomething from it.
Would it have harmed me more?
Possibly, and I knew that.
I am the cap, I'm the lid I am.
You are not going to growbeyond the place that I am right
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as the coach, as the mentor, asthe leader.
You're not going to outgrow meand if you do, you're not going
to continue to learn from me.
If you outgrow me, you're goingto go find another beautiful
community of people who arebeyond where you are at that
moment, who can help you grow,and that's perfect.
That's exactly what it's meantto be.
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So I'm here right now,protecting my energy and
protecting myself, and tookthose two months to be able to
really pause so that I couldcome back to you guys with
intention.
To come back to you withpurpose, because it's not about
visibility, it's not about theviews, it's not about hacking
the algorithm.
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It is about feeling safe, beingfully seen as your authentic
self online.
It is about the energy that youbring to the things that you
are creating, because it allstarts with you.
So if you're not gaining anaudience, maybe it's the content
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.
That's a small fractionalpercentage, but the likelihood
is it's you, it's you, it's you,and that's the best news that
you could get, because you cancontrol you, because you have
responsibility over you, becauseyou can choose for you, which
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means that the audience you seekis there, waiting.
They're just waiting for you tostep into all of you.
So, if this is something youfeel is resonating, if you're
like God, that's me.
Every point of it, all thepains, all the dreams, all the
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desires, all the struggles, it'sme.
If you are this woman or man andyou want to continue to do this
work, I'm actually running aworkshop towards the end of the
year and I'd love for you to bepresent for it.
Now, this is actually anin-person workshop.
This is happening through theEmpowered Podcasting Conference.
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They have asked me to come outand speak.
They gave me an extended periodto be able to do a hands-on
workshop.
You're actually going toactively get to do activities in
the room, get the work done,ask your questions and watch a
demo, a demonstration of mehelping someone.
Let go of a limiting belief inreal time, in that room, in the
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moment, and that person could beyou, but you've got to be in
the room.
So, if you are available,friday, september 26th, to come
out to Charlotte, north Carolina, come and visit, come and see
us Friday night I will berunning a workshop and it's
going to be amazing.
And if you are also a podcasterwho just wants to network and
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meet new people, create thatwhole community of people who
are going to continue to helpyou feel safe, loved and seen so
that you can continuously pumpout content, attract, magnetize
that audience to you that youhave so desired to impact, this
is the place to be the EmpoweredPodcasting Conference.
It is September 26th through the28th.
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It is the full weekend Friday,saturday I believe there are
some things on Sunday morningbefore everybody heads home.
The real full day is Saturday.
You get to listen to all sortsof speakers, from panels to
experts giving us keynotes.
There's a lot that happens inthe hallways.
I met so many amazing friendsthere last year and it's just
phenomenal, right.
So if you want to be in the room, if you want to actively be in
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the room, because most of thethings I do are virtual.
So if you want to be in space,ask your question, get the hands
on, feel the energy of gettingmy full attention you have to be
at this workshop.
Because this workshop is beingtitled the Regulated Creator how
to Cultivate Safety and beingSeen Fully Online.
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So if that's you, if you wantto be the regulated creator,
that person who's able topowerfully post, consistently
connect with your audience andeach and every time that you
post and have all of thispositive feedback coming to you
of the people that you'veimpacted along the way, you've
got to be in this room, becausein this room and in this
workshop, you are going to learna deeper understanding of
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what's really holding you back.
It's not your thumbnail, it'snot the title, it's not the
platform you're hosting on.
Let's actually talk about whatthe deeper thing is that's
holding you back.
You're also going to getregulation tools that you can
use in the moment.
You can use when you actuallyfeel yourself hyperventilating,
(32:04):
when you're starting to spiraland you need something right now
.
I'm going to give you those.
You're also going to get toactively explore things through
journal prompts, throughvisualizations in the room in
the moment.
So be there.
Be there, because I don't thinkI'm going to do this again.
At least I'm not recording itand putting it online or
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anything like that.
So if you want to experience it,you've got to be in that room.
And I'm telling you, it is asteal of a deal to get in this
room.
Because if you want to be there, go to empoweredpodcastingcom
and get a ticket right now,before they sell out.
These tickets are onlycurrently $230.
230 and 81 cents, so $231.
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And you can get there for thethree nights Friday night,
saturday, all day, sunday.
Go for this conference.
I'm telling you, the workshopI'm running is going to be so
powerful and it's just the tipof the iceberg.
The other speakers that arebeing brought in, the other
panelists, the other justattendees that show up to this
event are worth being in theroom.
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So, empoweredpodcastingcom, go,get your ticket.
$231,.
Well worth the investment.
Charlotte, north Carolina, and Ilook forward to seeing you
there.
And I know not everybody'sgoing to be able to make the
September 26th through the 28thwork.
Not everybody can make it outto Charlotte, north Carolina,
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and I know that not everybody'sin a space or a place where you
could afford the flight, thehotel room, the food, the event
itself.
I get it and I'm not going tolet you fail.
So I created a freebie just foryou, because I wanted you to
still be able to experience thatcreative expansion Experience,
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that safety and visibilitythrough posting online.
So if you want to be able toexplore deeper where this might
be coming from, where it'sstemming from what's actually
holding you back, I made afreebie resource for you and I'm
so excited for you to get this.
If you go to janaswancomforward, slash safety 30,.
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That's safety three zero.
You're going to get a 30question, four part plan.
I don't know what it is.
It's a workbook.
That's what it is, and in thisfour part workbook, each part
has a series of questions.
It also has a letter from meand a challenge.
So you can break this up intoone part per week and you can do
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it for a month, or maybe thatperson just wants to sit down
and do it all in one day oracross a series of days.
But this activity, this abilityto actually step into these
four different challenges andthese 30 different questions, is
going to help you reallyrecognize, like, what is holding
you back, because the awarenessof what's actually holding you
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back or where this lack ofsafety is stemming from.
That awareness is going tochange everything for you,
because from that awareness wecan actually do the work.
From that awareness, change canhappen and I know that this
resource is going to be reallygreat for so many of you.
But I also hear you guys in thebackground.
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I hear you.
I hear you in my head.
I literally hear you saying butJaina, what if I want more?
30 questions sounds like great,but like I really want to do
this work and I cannot waituntil September to do this work.
I need it now and I cannot waituntil September to do this work
.
I need it now.
If that's you, girl, I alreadygot you.
You know I got you.
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I created a 100-question versionyeah, a 100-question safety and
visibility creative expansionworkbook.
Now this one you're going tohave to pay a few bucks for it
because it took a lot of effortand I also plan to get the
feedback from somebody.
They would love that.
All the little letters I writein this to you to guide you, I'm
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literally guiding you throughthe process.
I'm not just giving you journalprompts and saying go for it,
like I'm there with you to guideyou through.
And the feedback was Jana hey,what if there were audios of you
reading each of these lettersto me?
I think that would be morepersonable.
So, working on that, that willbe a part of this in the near
future.
And what is already there is a100 question version of this.
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It is a 10 chapter versionwhere each of these 10 chapters
ideally you would do them oneper week for 10 weeks, or if
you're that person who wants tojust do it all in one week, all
across a couple days, or evenjust in one day, power through
it.
Go for it.
Really have thattransformational download.
This is for you 100 questionsto really expand on that
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awareness and taking actiontowards stepping into that level
of safety through expansion.
So if you're ready to actuallytake those steps to actually
both become aware and start totake action, then this is for
you and I really did my best tomake this a reasonable
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investment.
So it's only $33 to be able toget your hands on this Because,
again, remember, the 30 questionversion is free.
Go get that if that's where itis.
But if you're ready to invest asmall amount into yourself, put
a little bit of skin in thegame.
Take this out and spread itacross three months for a 10 to
12 week version.
This is for you, right?
That's only $11 a month.
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If you do it across the threemonths, just $33.
And if that's something you'reexcited about, you really want
to dive in and you're ready togo to the depths and you're like
, cool, I want to do thisworkshop, that's great, but I
need something between now andthen.
This is the perfect version,right?
Start it now and you'll befinishing week 10 right before
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the event.
Perfect, it's almost like itwas planned out that way or
something.
Intentional creation.
Who would have thought?
Power in the paws.
So that's for you guys.
If you want that, you can goagain to JanusJuancom forward
slash safety 100.
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That's safety 100.
So either way, there'ssomething for you.
Either way, if you are stillhere with me listening to this
podcast right now, one of thesetwo resources was made for you
and is calling you, so go get it.
Janus1.com forward slash safetyeither 30 or 100.
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Just depends on whether you wantthe free version or you're
ready to upgrade, and I'll goahead and just slip this in
there too, that these arefantastic resources and I also
am building a value vault.
It is a library of all of theresources I have created for any
client, forever basicallydropped into one space for you
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to go through, and a lot of themhave been made free and some of
them have a financialinvestment, mostly because the
amount of effort, energy andtime that went into creating
those resources is a bit higherthan the other ones.
So go and explore.
Maybe there's more freebies inthere for you that you can find
by just going to janaswancomforward slash value vault, value
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vault.
Go find the value vault, gofind your freebies.
Start expanding that visibility, because there is power in the
pause and connection starts withsafety.
So become safe from the insideout.
Let's do it together becauseyou deserve to feel what it
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feels like to just openlyexpress and create, with no
pressure, no expectation, alllove and just be yourself fully
online for once.
Hello, my love and thank you.
I really do appreciate yourpatience and forgive me for
taking a two month hiatus andnot putting out new episodes.
I needed some time and so todayI'm going to talk about exactly
what happened during that timeand what I used to get through
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it and where we're going fromhere.
Right, because there is powerin the pause.
There is power in taking a stepback from what you've been
doing to be able to gatheryourself, to take a bird's eye
view.
Some people call it the macrolens or just thinking big
picture, but sometimes we're soin the day-to-day we're grinding
(00:45):
away, we're creating nonstop,we're posting every day that we
lose the fact that is ourmessaging actually the right
messaging?
Are we attracting the rightpeople to our content and into
our world, whether that'sthrough business or
relationships or however you'reattracting things to you?
Are you attracting more of whatyou want to see?
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Or are you stuck in an oldpattern and find that you just
keep attracting the same baggageover and over and over again?
And I found that I was doingjust that.
I found that I was noticingpatterns in my life and then
everything blew up in my faceand had a massive heartbreak.
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We'll call it with a friend.
That pain was given wise advicefrom friends not to post it at
the time because I would havebeen speaking from the wound.
I definitely want to go backand have that conversation and
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I'm still not in the space forit.
So thank you for your patience.
Right, I am in a world where Ido talk about my pain openly.
I do talk about the things I'mnavigating openly.
I am not one of those peoplewho's a coach or mentor in any
way, who always wants to lookperfect.
I actually find that'sdetrimental to those who are
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learning and growing with me.
They have to see myvulnerability.
They need to see that Istruggle too and that I am able
to continue to show up forothers as I am continuously
processing my own stuff.
So the last few months I havehad the honor I will call it of
being activated.
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Some people say they'retriggered.
I had a wonderful friend giveme the reframe that I was simply
activated.
I was given the blessing oflearning new lessons.
I was given the opportunity torecognize how my energy, my lack
of boundaries, my inability tocommunicate led me to an
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experience that I've had in thepast and it activated me.
Oh yeah, it started the spiralthe spiral most people fall into
and only ever spiral down andit put me into an active
conflict resolution phase, whichis the part of the work that I
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do with my clients, wherethey're actively in the shit,
they're actively feeling all ofthe feelings, and I was there
and it's not wise to speak fromthat space, and so I had to step
back.
I had to, for your benefit,pull back, because I know it's
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beneficial to both pull back thecurtain and let you see it, and
also beneficial for me to getthrough it faster by just
sitting in it myself, by goingto those friends that I know
have the ability to hold thespace and then getting through
the inner work so that I can getinto this active healing phase
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and that's where I'm at nowwhich requires a lot of rest.
It requires a lot of sittingwith the emotions and really
just processing, moving itthrough, going on long walks,
dancing it out right.
I am in the active healing phase, which still requires my
attention, and it is a phasewhere I am starting to share.
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I'm starting to open up withpeople around me, particularly
clients.
I do actually like to let themknow what I'm doing to process
my own stuff right now, I willtell them look, I am going
through this feeling of notbeing safe in my world in a lot
of different ways, and so I'mactively cultivating this
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internal experience of safety,knowing that safety is a thought
that turns into an emotion.
It's something that happensfrom the inside out, not the
outside in, and while Iconsciously know this, my body
has not fully learned this yet,and so I am actively cultivating
that internal safety.
And so when I'm speaking withclients who I'm seeing also have
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the same patterns, instead oftelling them what to do or
teaching them, I just say look,this is what I'm doing.
Here are the journal promptsI've been journaling on and some
of the aha moments I've had.
Try it for yourself and that'sit.
It's just opening up and it'sallowing both myself to have the
space and the vulnerability andjust nurturing, because it's
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hard to walk other peoplethrough something you have not
yet finished going throughyourself.
And I see it all around me.
I see that we are in a worldwhere safety is so rare, a world
where people feel threatenedfrom every angle, a world where
people they speak up less out offear of losing friends,
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experiencing abandonment, maybegetting a bunch of hate from the
internet online.
Right, we are in a world wherepeople are scared scared to lose
their jobs, scared to losetheir family, scared to lose
themselves.
That's a tough place for us tobe, and when I recognize the
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pain around me, everything in meis driven by a desire to reduce
suffering in this world, and Iknow that the knowledge, the
tools and the abilities I havecan help so many people.
So many different issues can besolved with the same tools.
And so I found that over thelast few years, I have been
speaking to everybody and I wastold by coaches over and over
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and over in my business world toniche down, speak to one person
, be really specific as to whoyou're helping, and I was like
but I can help everyone and Isee it.
Now I do.
I see that, yes, the work that Ido can translate to multiple
industries, it can translate tomultiple areas of life.
It can translate to all sortsof things, and when I am in a
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coaching container, one-on-onewith someone, and recognize that
they're struggling with bodyimage issues, I can go down that
route, because I am certifiedto be able to help people by
teaching them about basicnutrition.
I'm able to help someonenavigate through the fitness
lens, but that's not what Ispeak to online.
That's not the message that Ipresent on a regular basis.
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Yes, I can help someone build afunnel and create a system in
their business that's going tosupport the world that they want
to create, but I do not marketmyself as a business coach.
So, sitting back over the lasttwo months and really
recognizing what do I actuallybring to people, what is the
value I bring?
I can do a lot.
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I have a lot of knowledge, awide base, but what is the
unique thing that I bring?
And so I started to get really,really clear, started to get
really clear on who exactly am Iserving, not who can I serve,
but who am I serving.
And not just who am I serving,but who do I actually enjoy
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serving.
And so, looking back over thehundreds of clients I've had
over the last decade and justsitting down and looking at who
are my favorites, which oneswere the most fun to work with,
which ones made my life supereasy and I enjoyed and looked
forward to every single call,and then what are the patterns
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that I can see in the clientswho were resistant and they were
a struggle, and not necessarilybecause they challenged me, but
because they challengedthemselves.
They resisted the process, theyquestioned every single thing
along the way.
They didn't believe it wasgoing to work.
And that's the most criticalpiece, I can believe it's going
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to work all day long.
But if you do not adopt thatbelief and you do not think it's
going to work all day long, butif you do not adopt that belief
and you do not think it's goingto work and you're just like,
well, let me just see whathappens, like that's not going
to help.
And so I recognized what thepatterns were in the clients I
was not having fun with, and soI sat down and got really clear.
And so here I'm going to letyou know right now who this is,
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because I want you to be able torecognize is this you and is
this not you?
And if it's not you and youstill connect with me, reach out
, let me know to say, hey,that's not me, but I still
connect, because I want to knowand know that when I create
content from here forward, thisis the woman that I'm speaking
to, and if you don't fit thismold, it's totally okay to still
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listen to my content If you'restill going to get value.
Just know I am not going to sithere any longer and try and
analyze what I'm saying and howI'm saying it, because I'm
trying to speak to someone whodoes not use the language I use.
I've recognized that I do workwith logical-minded people, very
literal people, and my braindoes not work that way.
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Naturally, I am extremelycreative.
I am very much an inferentialspeaker and listener in a lot of
ways, can be very literal ifneeded, but that's not my
natural go-to.
So I have to actually activelywork to be able to properly
communicate with someone likethat, and it feels like a
struggle.
It probably feels like astruggle from their end too,
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right, and how they think aboutit.
So, to keep it easy, I'm goingto lean into what I know best
and that's me.
I'm going to lean into knowingthat there are people on this
planet.
I'm going to trust and love thefact that there are people out
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there who are so literal, whoare so just, logical and
analytical, and they are thereto teach you the same things I'm
teaching you, but in your voice, in the way that you need to
hear it, and in their voice theway that they need to say it,
and that I trust that I am puton this planet with the gifts,
the talents, the experience, thelife lived that I was given so
that I trust that I am put onthis planet with the gifts, the
talents, the experience, thelife lived that I was given so
that I can speak my voice.
So this is who I'm speaking to.
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I am speaking to women.
I am speaking directly to womenwho are high performers, who
show up over and over and overand overperform, overachieve
Women who are high performers,who are creative, who are
content creators, who arepodcasters, they're YouTubers,
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they're influencers, they'rebloggers, they're musicians.
They're creating things everyday into this world, expressing
themselves through innovativework, day into this world,
expressing themselves throughinnovative work.
They have 100,000 followers orare making $100,000 in their
business.
They are not at the beginningphases where they need to know
the basics.
They are in the middle of itand they're like, hey, I'm
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either burning out and I needhelp, or they're taking a pause
and they're ready to rebuild itin a way that's actually
supportive, long term right.
So this is someone in themiddle of the journey.
You're already years in.
You have a great foundation.
You're just looking for thosetweaks on your internal
emotional and mental mind sothat you can continue to amplify
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what you're already doing.
Well, right, these people, thesewomen, they're kinesthetic,
they're feelers, they feel intothings, they're big on like oh
yeah, I feel energy, like that'smy woman, the one who's
connected to her bodies, to heremotions, to her heart.
She's actually led by her heart.
All of her leadership isheart-led leadership.
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It is more about impactingpeople and what people feel in
the experience than it's abouthow she looks or what she makes
or what her status is.
Those things don't drive thiswoman.
This woman is driven by herheart.
She is an emotional storytellerwho really dives into sharing
personal stories and things thatare happening around her so
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that the people in her audiencecan learn through internal
visualization, through thoseemotional storytelling
opportunities.
These women are open andcurious-minded.
They're always looking to learnmore.
They're open to the fact theymay or may not know, and if they
already have success in an area, they are still open to
learning new things that theycan then integrate into what
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they're already doing andcontinue to get better.
They are impact driven.
Every single thing this womandoes is to create a bigger
impact, and 90% of the time, ifnot 95 or 99% of the time, it's
because she has suffered in someway and doesn't want to
continue to spread the sufferingin some way and doesn't want to
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continue to spread thesuffering, and so, in that, she
is impact-driven, because shewants to help other people win
in ways that she had to struggleto get right On the flip side,
some of the things this womanstruggles with is loneliness,
because a creative adventure canbe a lonely one.
An entrepreneurial adventurecan be a lonely one.
Building a business can besomething that makes you so
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unrelatable to the people thatyou're used to being around with
your friends and family, unlessyou're in that entrepreneurial
friend group already.
It can be so lonely because youdon't really have people to
talk to about these things.
She's probably strugglingdeeply with feeling safe in this
world, especially feeling safewhen posting online, being seen
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as herself online.
Oftentimes she probably doesn'tfully say what she wants to say
, at least kind of sugarcoats itor softens the blow, so it's
not as controversial.
It doesn't strike up a bunch ofdrama, right?
Maybe she's changing who she isto fit the mold of what she
thinks she has to be in herindustry.
Maybe she's just strictly inthe world of copying other
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people because that's what worksright Versus listening to her
heart and putting out what feelsgood to her and just trusting
that it'll get to the rightpeople right?
This woman, she gets stuck inanalysis paralysis all the time
because she is that consciouslearner.
She's always open and curious,which means she is always
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looking at well, what could bebetter, what's going wrong, and
she overanalyzes, which gets herinto analysis paralysis, which
means nothing's ever good enough.
So she's constantly secondguessing herself, constantly
second guessing her titles andher thumbnails and all of it.
How does she structure it?
Who does she bring in?
What visuals?
What B-roll?
What this, what that?
Is the caption right?
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Is it that second guessing?
That energy comes through.
But when you just channel itand you go this is what I want
to talk about, this is what I'mgoing to do, let's go that's
what makes the difference,because this woman who gets
stuck in this analysis paralysis, this second guessing she often
allows herself to slip intothat comparison trap, comparing
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her channel to other channelswhy are they doing better, why
are they getting more follows,how do they get people to
comment Right?
And then allows her mood to beimpacted by these analytics,
thus tying her worth to theamount of views that she's
getting, the amount of commentsshe's getting.
She often finds it's really hardto relate to other people and
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make new friendships as an adult, as a creative, when she's not
really going out other than tocreate and she's not really
connecting with people, becauseher friends and family just
don't get it right.
She struggles to receivecompliments.
Even when her videos and hercontent are great, she still
isn't convinced.
So she's hypercritical of allof her work.
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It could always be a little bitbetter, there's always
something that could have beenbetter, right?
Well, meanwhile, she's also gota bunch of content that's
already done, just isn'tpublished because it's not quite
ready or I don't know.
I'm just not sure.
What are they going to think?
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Is this on brand Right?
These are the thoughts she'shaving because she's constantly
seeking external validation forher work, for her creations,
because she's stuck in thisworld of having to prove her
worth, prove that she is goodenough, prove that her art is
worth what she's asking, insteadof simply expressing what she's
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feeling through her work andwith this, it leaves her rarely
ever feeling fully satisfiedwith the things she creates in
this world, because it couldalways be a little better.
So, if that's you, hey, girl,I'm jana if we haven't met yet
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and I'm here to help you scaleyour income and your impact
through being able to cultivatemore safety, more self-love and
more emotional mastery.
I am your business bestie.
I'm the one who's going to behere for you, girlfriend.
I'm here to help you flip thescript.
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On those low mindset days,those days you have no ability
to peel yourself out of bed, I'mthat one who's going to be like
get up right now and let's makea change in this world.
I will remind you of your why,of who you are impacting, of how
impactful you are.
I will celebrate those winswith you.
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I will help you flip the script.
On those days when that videoyou put so much energy into
flops, I'm going to be the oneto pick you up off the ground
and say it's okay, let's do itagain, right?
That's a business bestie.
It's not just a best friend,right?
It's not just someone who'sgoing to sit there and chit chat
(18:39):
with you or whatever.
It's that person who can alsotalk business when you need it,
who knows where you're comingfrom, who knows your heart, who
knows your why?
Right?
That person who wants to helpyou feel safe so that you can
express yourself fully in thisworld and be seen for who you
are, so that you can be seenfully in this world and be seen
for who you are, so that you canbe seen by those people who
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need who you are.
Because the truth is, you'restruggling to let go of control
and you're struggling to postconsistently because your
subconscious mind does not yetfeel fully safe.
Subconscious mind does not yetfeel fully safe.
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You're not lazy, you're justyour body's protection
mechanisms are kicking in.
It is trying to help you notface the things that could get
you ostracized from yourcommunity.
Right, long, long, long timeago, our tribe was everything.
Long, long time ago, our tribewas everything, and if we were
kicked out of that tribe, thelikelihood of our survival
plummeted, and so our brains arestill hardwired with that.
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And so the communities that wehave built for ourselves.
When we continue to grow becausewe are open-minded, curious
people who are always looking togrow right, when we continue to
grow, there are moments wherewe actually might outgrow the
rooms we're in, might outgrowthe community we're in.
We might even outgrow ouraudience.
And so when we are the type ofperson who continues to express
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and lean into who they are today, not who they were last year,
you inherently are going to seedrop off.
You are going to see people notagree with you anymore when you
continue to share this and yourbody is going to feel so
threatened.
So here's what you have toremember your audience
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calibrates on you.
Audience calibrates on youright.
So when you post out of fear,when you post out of scarcity,
when you have this safetymechanism coming up but you're
pushing through and stillposting, your audience is simply
going to match that energyright.
They're going to show up tothis video with their guard up.
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They are going to lack trust,they're going to lack safety
with you and that means they'renot going to follow, they're not
going to engage, they might notclick that next video.
This is going to end up causingyou to feel disconnected from
them.
It's going to cause you to feelunsafe, unseen, ununderstood,
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and all of these things aregoing to just perpetuate the
cycle over and over and over,because you don't feel seen.
So you create from a space ofnot feeling seen, not feeling
understood.
You're pushing and forcing yourway out there out of fear and
scarcity that it's never goingto happen, and then that energy
creates this cycle.
So how do we break this cycle?
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You're like Jaina yes, that'sme Constantly creating out of
fear.
What do I do?
This is what you do.
We start with ourselves.
Right, we are the creator.
We start with ourselves.
When we create from safety, weconnect and they consume from
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safety.
So safety starts from theinside out, right, it starts as
a thought and that thoughtbecomes a feeling and those
feelings become words and thosewords become actions and those
actions eventually become habitsand behaviors that create the
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reality that you're in.
So, working from the inside out, start by just aiming to set
the intention.
Set an intention to connect andfully let your walls down
before you begin creating.
Right, it is super importantnot to go into the act of
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recording, the act of creatingfrom the scarcity space, so you
allow yourself to step into thatabundance before you hit play,
before you actually start towrite right.
How are some of the ways thatyou can do that right?
Here are some of the things thatI do before I create to make
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sure that I'm in the rightheadspace and that I'm focused
on them and not me.
So the first thing I do is Ihave a picture of my ideal
client, right?
A lot of people createfigmental ideal clients Also
great, you could utilize AI tobe able to create a picture of
that Fantastic.
Mine is actually a real humanbeing that I know in my life and
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she impacts me and she drivesme and I think of her, and there
was a time where it was reallyhard for me to get her top of
mind.
So what I did was I printed outa picture of her, put it in a
frame and put it behind mycamera, right behind the lens.
So when I'm looking right atthe lens, I see her face and so
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I speak to her.
So maybe try putting a visualaid of your ideal client, of
your ideal audience member.
Put it behind your camera andspeak directly to that person.
Right?
Maybe you have a vision boardbehind your camera that has
their goals and their dreams andtheir struggles and the things
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they love and the words theyassociate to all over that board
, so you can be reminded of thatcontinuously.
The other thing that I do isprime myself with video, so I
will often be scrolling onsocial media and sometimes I'll
run across a video of a woman inthe depths of her pain and
struggle.
Whatever it is, she's just.
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You know the videos.
They're crying, bawling theireyes out, sad, sobby music
behind it telling their story.
And the moment that I read orsee one of those and it
associates to my ideal client,where it is someone who's
struggling with posting contentor struggling with growing their
audience or had a big loss infollowing because they posted
something like those moments, Isave those.
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I save those videos to aspecific folder and before I
create content, I will watchthree or four of those, because
it puts me in the energy oftheir suffering and it puts me
in that mode of being the heroand I'm like you know what.
I can help this?
I can help get her out ofsuffering now, and this is the
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one tip, tool or technique thatI'm going to teach to do that.
And so priming yourself withvideo can be extremely powerful
for putting you in the rightenergy for speaking to that
person in that moment.
I also tend to do this in a moremeditative way, where I simply
meditate on a friend in my worldor a client in my world who is
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actively struggling with thething I'm about to create
content on and I will justmeditate and I'll just sit and
think back to the conversations,think back to what she's told
me.
I'll put myself in her shoes asmuch as humanly possible.
And coming from that place, itreally does help make the
content feel like you'reactually talking to one person,
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and that's the final key isspeak to just one person.
And that's the final key isspeak to just one person.
Hey, girl, right, instead ofhey everybody.
It just feels so much different.
When someone is watching avideo and you're speaking
directly to them, they sit downand go.
Oh my God, it's like I'm in aroom with Jaina and she's just
right.
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You're maybe driving right nowor doing dishes or laundry or
working, and you're justlistening to me in one ear and
I'm speaking to you, not all ofyou to you.
Hey girl, I see you and I thinkof you every time I create
content.
In fact, I thought of you everysingle week for the last two
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months when I wasn't creatingcontent.
I was kicking myself over it.
I had to remind myself there ispower in the pause.
Speak from the scar, not thewound.
So I told myself it's okay.
You don't have to be consistentright now.
Could I have been consistent?
Yeah, could I have still pumpedout content?
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Yeah, could I have beenconsistent?
Yeah, could I have still pumpedout content?
Yeah, would it have been goodfor you guys?
Maybe.
Maybe you would have gottensomething from it.
Would it have harmed me more?
Possibly, and I knew that.
I am the cap, I'm the lid I am.
You are not going to growbeyond the place that I am right
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as the coach, as the mentor, asthe leader.
You're not going to outgrow meand if you do, you're not going
to continue to learn from me.
If you outgrow me, you're goingto go find another beautiful
community of people who arebeyond where you are at that
moment, who can help you grow,and that's perfect.
That's exactly what it's meantto be.
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So I'm here right now,protecting my energy and
protecting myself, and tookthose two months to be able to
really pause so that I couldcome back to you guys with
intention.
To come back to you withpurpose, because it's not about
visibility, it's not about theviews, it's not about hacking
the algorithm.
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It is about feeling safe, beingfully seen as your authentic
self online.
It is about the energy that youbring to the things that you
are creating, because it allstarts with you.
So if you're not gaining anaudience, maybe it's the content
(28:22):
.
That's a small fractionalpercentage, but the likelihood
is it's you, it's you, it's you,and that's the best news that
you could get, because you cancontrol you, because you have
responsibility over you, becauseyou can choose for you, which
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means that the audience you seekis there, waiting.
They're just waiting for you tostep into all of you.
So, if this is something youfeel is resonating, if you're
like God, that's me.
Every point of it, all thepains, all the dreams, all the
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desires, all the struggles, it'sme.
If you are this woman or man andyou want to continue to do this
work, I'm actually running aworkshop towards the end of the
year and I'd love for you to bepresent for it.
Now, this is actually anin-person workshop.
This is happening through theEmpowered Podcasting Conference.
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They have asked me to come outand speak.
They gave me an extended periodto be able to do a hands-on
workshop.
You're actually going toactively get to do activities in
the room, get the work done,ask your questions and watch a
demo, a demonstration of mehelping someone.
Let go of a limiting belief inreal time, in that room, in the
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moment, and that person could beyou, but you've got to be in
the room.
So, if you are available,friday, september 26th, to come
out to Charlotte, north Carolina, come and visit, come and see
us Friday night I will berunning a workshop and it's
going to be amazing.
And if you are also a podcasterwho just wants to network and
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meet new people, create thatwhole community of people who
are going to continue to helpyou feel safe, loved and seen so
that you can continuously pumpout content, attract, magnetize
that audience to you that youhave so desired to impact, this
is the place to be the EmpoweredPodcasting Conference.
It is September 26th through the28th.
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It is the full weekend Friday,saturday I believe there are
some things on Sunday morningbefore everybody heads home.
The real full day is Saturday.
You get to listen to all sortsof speakers, from panels to
experts giving us keynotes.
There's a lot that happens inthe hallways.
I met so many amazing friendsthere last year and it's just
phenomenal, right.
So if you want to be in the room, if you want to actively be in
(31:00):
the room, because most of thethings I do are virtual.
So if you want to be in space,ask your question, get the hands
on, feel the energy of gettingmy full attention you have to be
at this workshop.
Because this workshop is beingtitled the Regulated Creator how
to Cultivate Safety and beingSeen Fully Online.
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So if that's you, if you wantto be the regulated creator,
that person who's able topowerfully post, consistently
connect with your audience andeach and every time that you
post and have all of thispositive feedback coming to you
of the people that you'veimpacted along the way, you've
got to be in this room, becausein this room and in this
workshop, you are going to learna deeper understanding of
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what's really holding you back.
It's not your thumbnail, it'snot the title, it's not the
platform you're hosting on.
Let's actually talk about whatthe deeper thing is that's
holding you back.
You're also going to getregulation tools that you can
use in the moment.
You can use when you actuallyfeel yourself hyperventilating,
(32:04):
when you're starting to spiraland you need something right now
.
I'm going to give you those.
You're also going to get toactively explore things through
journal prompts, throughvisualizations in the room in
the moment.
So be there.
Be there, because I don't thinkI'm going to do this again.
At least I'm not recording itand putting it online or
(32:26):
anything like that.
So if you want to experience it,you've got to be in that room.
And I'm telling you, it is asteal of a deal to get in this
room.
Because if you want to be there, go to empoweredpodcastingcom
and get a ticket right now,before they sell out.
These tickets are onlycurrently $230.
230 and 81 cents, so $231.
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And you can get there for thethree nights Friday night,
saturday, all day, sunday.
Go for this conference.
I'm telling you, the workshopI'm running is going to be so
powerful and it's just the tipof the iceberg.
The other speakers that arebeing brought in, the other
panelists, the other justattendees that show up to this
event are worth being in theroom.
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So, empoweredpodcastingcom, go,get your ticket.
$231,.
Well worth the investment.
Charlotte, north Carolina, and Ilook forward to seeing you
there.
And I know not everybody'sgoing to be able to make the
September 26th through the 28thwork.
Not everybody can make it outto Charlotte, north Carolina,
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and I know that not everybody'sin a space or a place where you
could afford the flight, thehotel room, the food, the event
itself.
I get it and I'm not going tolet you fail.
So I created a freebie just foryou, because I wanted you to
still be able to experience thatcreative expansion Experience,
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that safety and visibilitythrough posting online.
So if you want to be able toexplore deeper where this might
be coming from, where it'sstemming from what's actually
holding you back, I made afreebie resource for you and I'm
so excited for you to get this.
If you go to janaswancomforward, slash safety 30,.
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That's safety three zero.
You're going to get a 30question, four part plan.
I don't know what it is.
It's a workbook.
That's what it is, and in thisfour part workbook, each part
has a series of questions.
It also has a letter from meand a challenge.
So you can break this up intoone part per week and you can do
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it for a month, or maybe thatperson just wants to sit down
and do it all in one day oracross a series of days.
But this activity, this abilityto actually step into these
four different challenges andthese 30 different questions, is
going to help you reallyrecognize, like, what is holding
you back, because the awarenessof what's actually holding you
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back or where this lack ofsafety is stemming from.
That awareness is going tochange everything for you,
because from that awareness wecan actually do the work.
From that awareness, change canhappen and I know that this
resource is going to be reallygreat for so many of you.
But I also hear you guys in thebackground.
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I hear you.
I hear you in my head.
I literally hear you saying butJaina, what if I want more?
30 questions sounds like great,but like I really want to do
this work and I cannot waituntil September to do this work.
I need it now and I cannot waituntil September to do this work
.
I need it now.
If that's you, girl, I alreadygot you.
You know I got you.
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I created a 100-question versionyeah, a 100-question safety and
visibility creative expansionworkbook.
Now this one you're going tohave to pay a few bucks for it
because it took a lot of effortand I also plan to get the
feedback from somebody.
They would love that.
All the little letters I writein this to you to guide you, I'm
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literally guiding you throughthe process.
I'm not just giving you journalprompts and saying go for it,
like I'm there with you to guideyou through.
And the feedback was Jana hey,what if there were audios of you
reading each of these lettersto me?
I think that would be morepersonable.
So, working on that, that willbe a part of this in the near
future.
And what is already there is a100 question version of this.
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It is a 10 chapter versionwhere each of these 10 chapters
ideally you would do them oneper week for 10 weeks, or if
you're that person who wants tojust do it all in one week, all
across a couple days, or evenjust in one day, power through
it.
Go for it.
Really have thattransformational download.
This is for you 100 questionsto really expand on that
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awareness and taking actiontowards stepping into that level
of safety through expansion.
So if you're ready to actuallytake those steps to actually
both become aware and start totake action, then this is for
you and I really did my best tomake this a reasonable
(37:06):
investment.
So it's only $33 to be able toget your hands on this Because,
again, remember, the 30 questionversion is free.
Go get that if that's where itis.
But if you're ready to invest asmall amount into yourself, put
a little bit of skin in thegame.
Take this out and spread itacross three months for a 10 to
12 week version.
This is for you, right?
That's only $11 a month.
(37:28):
If you do it across the threemonths, just $33.
And if that's something you'reexcited about, you really want
to dive in and you're ready togo to the depths and you're like
, cool, I want to do thisworkshop, that's great, but I
need something between now andthen.
This is the perfect version,right?
Start it now and you'll befinishing week 10 right before
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the event.
Perfect, it's almost like itwas planned out that way or
something.
Intentional creation.
Who would have thought?
Power in the paws.
So that's for you guys.
If you want that, you can goagain to JanusJuancom forward
slash safety 100.
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That's safety 100.
So either way, there'ssomething for you.
Either way, if you are stillhere with me listening to this
podcast right now, one of thesetwo resources was made for you
and is calling you, so go get it.
Janus1.com forward slash safetyeither 30 or 100.
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Just depends on whether you wantthe free version or you're
ready to upgrade, and I'll goahead and just slip this in
there too, that these arefantastic resources and I also
am building a value vault.
It is a library of all of theresources I have created for any
client, forever basicallydropped into one space for you
(38:52):
to go through, and a lot of themhave been made free and some of
them have a financialinvestment, mostly because the
amount of effort, energy andtime that went into creating
those resources is a bit higherthan the other ones.
So go and explore.
Maybe there's more freebies inthere for you that you can find
by just going to janaswancomforward slash value vault, value
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vault.
Go find the value vault, gofind your freebies.
Start expanding that visibility, because there is power in the
pause and connection starts withsafety.
So become safe from the insideout.
Let's do it together becauseyou deserve to feel what it
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feels like to just openlyexpress and create, with no
pressure, no expectation, alllove and just be yourself fully
online for once.
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