Have you ever wondered what happens when the algorithm suddenly favors you and your content goes viral? That moment when hundreds of thousands—or millions—of eyes are suddenly on you can be both exhilarating and utterly paralyzing.
Most creators dream of virality without understanding the physiological impact of massive attention. When my casual video unexpectedly climbed to 5 million views, I didn't celebrate or capitalize on the momentum—I froze. My body tensed, my mind went blank, and I energetically withdrew from my own success. This wasn't imposter syndrome; it was my nervous system shutting down under pressure.
Your body has a built-in capacity for handling attention and visibility. When that capacity is exceeded, your system perceives success as a threat and will actively sabotage your momentum, regardless of your talent or readiness. The widely touted "consistency myth" misses a crucial truth: consistency isn't just about discipline—it's about emotional regulation that allows you to hold attention over extended periods. Attention carries weight that feels light until it fully lands, bringing with it projections, expectations, and demands from countless strangers.
Rather than asking "Why can't I just keep posting?" when momentum stalls, ask yourself: "Have I trained my body to feel safe with this much attention?" The good news is that you can grow into greater capacity rather than shrinking your message. Practical techniques like the "Calm the Crash" grounding exercise and "Expand the Container" visibility stretches can help your nervous system gradually adapt to increased exposure through micro-doses of safety.
If you've ever disappeared after gaining traction online, frozen after being seen, or felt that success somehow weighs more heavily than failure, remember: you're not broken—you're dysregulated. And that can change. You don't have to build your dreams while bracing for impact. You get to build from safety.
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Episode Transcript
And I'll never forget the day it all started.
I'd posted a fun low effortvideo, not thinking much of it,
and at first it got the typicalcouple hundred views.
Then it got 2000 views and Iwas like, oh, look at that.
And then I look at my phone andit had 25,000 views and then
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75,000 views and I was like, oh,that's cute, isn't that cool?
And then it hit 250,000 viewsand I look at my friend and say,
okay, this is going viral.
My next few videos all startedclimbing past 100,000 views and
then one video popped to 5million views.
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One video popped to 5 millionviews and what did I do?
I didn't celebrate, nope, Ididn't capitalize on it and I
didn't post.
The next day, yeah, I froze, mybody felt tight, my chest was
buzzing and I couldn't thinkclearly.
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Every idea I had for what topost next, it all felt wrong.
It wasn't imposter syndrome, itwasn't a lack of clarity, it
was my nervous system shuttingdown under pressure.
Because here's the truth, andthis is one thing that I did not
know at the time.
But your nervous system isbuilt to a capacity.
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It's only built to hold so muchattention, visibility and
expectation from the outsideworld.
Now.
I had spent years training atthat point to be good at
creating content, but nobody hadtaught me that I needed to be
training myself for the capacityto hold that much attention.
Nobody taught me how tocontinue to feel safe when being
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seen by millions of people.
So I disappeared Now not offthe internet entirely, but
energetically.
I was hiding.
I held back.
I had safe posts, things that Iknew would do well, but I
stopped pushing the limit.
I was overthinking everything.
I just fell behind strategy andnothing had my signature self,
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nothing had my soul.
And that wasn't until I finallylearned how to regulate myself,
how to shift from pressure backinto play.
That's when I learned how toshow up without burning out,
because the first lesson that Ilearned from going viral was
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that success without safety is athreat, because if your body
doesn't feel safe holdingsuccess, it will sabotage you,
no matter how ready you are.
It will right the algorithm.
It might choose you one day,but if your nervous system
doesn't agree, your brilliancewon't last.
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Brilliance won't last becausethis is why the consistency myth
is a myth.
It's not just about discipline,it's not just about consistency
, it's emotional regulation.
That's what is going to allowyou to continue to hold that
attention for a long period oftime.
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Right, because energy is felt.
So lesson two is that attentionis just a form of energy and it
has weight, Visibility, itfeels light until it lands,
until the DMs start pouring in.
Hundreds, if not thousands, ofstrangers are all projecting
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their stories on you.
They're all demanding your time, they all want to ask you
questions, they all want to getas much as they can from you,
until someone shares you in away that you didn't expect,
until it hits millions.
Have you ever wondered whycan't I just keep posting?
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Well, if this has ever happenedto you which it doesn't happen
to everybody, not everybody getsthis, I guess luck of the draw
with the algorithm and gets thehit to go viral to millions of
people.
But if you ever have been oneof these people, then instead of
asking why can't I just keepposting, ask yourself.
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And instead of asking why can'tI just keep posting, ask
yourself have I trained my bodyto feel safe with this much
attention?
I'll say it again have Itrained my body to feel safe
with this much attention?
And if the answer is no, and ifthis is not something you've
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experienced, now is the time.
But here's the thing, lessonnumber three you can grow into
capacity.
You don't have to shrink intoyour message.
Because for a while I mademyself small again.
Subconsciously I thought, well,if smaller I'm, smaller, it's
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safer and let's just stay whereit feels good, it's familiar.
This must be the sweet spot,right?
But the message inside medidn't get smaller, it got
louder, it got bigger.
So I decided to meet it and toregulate into the attention, to
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build myself to where I couldhold more capacity, to build a
body that could hold what mysoul was already ready to say.
So the first technique that I'mgoing to share with you that
I've utilized is the calm, thecrash.
It's just a grounding triangle.
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So just use this right aftersomething really big or
overstimulating happens.
Step one you just place yourhand over your heart and then
the second hand over your bellyright.
Step two you just name whathappened.
That post went viral and I feeloverwhelmed.
That DM came in and ittriggered me.
Whatever it is, say it out loud.
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And then, step three, say thisout loud three times over I am
not in danger, I'm in visibility.
I am not in danger, I am invisibility.
I am not in danger.
I am in visibility.
I am in visibility.
My body is responding, but I amsafe.
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My body is responding, but I amsafe.
My body is responding, but I amsafe.
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I do not have to perform.
I can just breathe.
I do not have to perform, I canjust breathe and stay here just
for a few rounds of breath inthrough the nose, hold and
release.
In through the nose, hold,release, feeling your spine,
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feeling the ground, and thenonly post again when your breath
deepens.
This is something you canutilize anytime and it'll calm
you down.
The second technique is toexpand the container.
It's like a spotlight stretch.
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Use this slowly to build thecapacity that you have over time
.
So, every day, give yourself a.
You can call it a visibilitystretch and it's just slightly
uncomfortable.
So try this.
Try posting a story without afilter or saying what you
actually think in the captionand then letting your face be
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seen in a reel without perfectlighting, sharing something
personal, with no call to action, and then pause.
Just choose one of those andthen pause.
Regulate Reflect, because yournervous system learns best
through micro doses of safety.
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So you don't have to go viralto build your power.
No, what you do have to do isjust show up from truth, not
trauma.
So if you've ever ghosted yourown growth after things started
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working, if you've ever frozenafter being seen, or if you've
ever felt like success is justsomehow heavier than failure,
you're not broken.
You're just dysregulated, andthat gets to change.
Join us inside the HerCollective.
You don't have to build yourdreams while bracing for impact.
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You get to build from safety.
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