December 31, 2024 • 16 mins
Ever found yourself trapped in a whirlwind of grief, loss, or anger, unsure how to navigate the emotional storm? Discover powerful stories from clients like Taylor, Jen, and Simona, who turned stress into strength through the transformative five M's—movement, meditation, mindfulness, manifestation, and more. This episode is all about embracing the waves of emotions to cultivate healing and balance. Whether grappling with grief or striving for healthier relationships, the stories shared here offer a beacon of hope and a roadmap to emotional stability, guiding listeners from overwhelming sadness to moments of joy and self-discovery.
Ready to revolutionize your approach to personal and professional success? Learn to trust your gut and dump perfectionism by embracing the ethos: "If it's not an immediate hell yes, then it's a hell no." In this journey towards authenticity, we uncover the magic of letting go of fear-based beliefs and aligning with your true self. This episode promises to empower you to foster genuine connections and build a community that values authenticity over illusion. Tune in for insights that encourage effortless engagement and relationships that are more genuine and fulfilling.
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Themes: Emotional Mastery, Mindset, Storytelling, Confidence, Health & Productivity, Creativity, Communication Skills, Business, Movement, Meditation, Mindfulness, Manifestation, Resilience, Letting Go, Surrender, Feminine Energy, Masculine Energy, Love, Personal Growth.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
be honest with me, like, really sit back and listen
to this quick trailer and atthe end I just want you to ask
yourself one thing Is this you?
And if it is, I just want youto go ahead and subscribe to
this podcast because, girlfriend, this was made for you.
Are you catching yourselfcrying every day?
(00:24):
Maybe you've heard yourself sayI just want to stop crying.
Maybe you're experiencing grief, loss, sadness or hurt and you
just desire to experience,instead of the absence of
emotion, you want to experiencethe presence of emotion, because
(00:44):
you want to have that abilityand that skill to be able to be
present when both sides of theequation happen, both the good
and the bad, because you knowthat the pendulum is always in
motion.
So if that sounds like you,it's probably a lot like all of
my clients.
The through line are the thingsthat I'm bringing to you here
(01:06):
in this podcast.
So maybe you're like Taylorwhere she says I wake up every
single day with tears in my eyesand my heart sinks because all
I can think about is what I'velost.
She used to say that, but nownow she says now when I cry, it
lasts a few minutes or an hourat most, but it's not happening
(01:30):
daily anymore.
Or maybe you're like Jen who,when I first met Jen, she said I
cannot remember the last daythat I had without crying.
And now, two and a half yearslater, I talked to Jen and she
says I can't even remember thelast time I cried, right.
Or maybe you're a lot likeSimona.
She feels, or felt, all ofthese years ago, when I first
(01:54):
started working with her, shesaid it feels like everything is
falling apart, no matter what Ido.
Nothing is getting any betterand crying is my only option.
Is that where you are?
Because, I'll tell you, simoneis in a different place now.
The last time I spoke to her,she said I have a different
association to crying now.
(02:16):
I used to experience these big,sobbing, ugly tears and now,
now I have this soft gentleweeping, these moments that are
deeply healing and joyful,because crying can be joy-filled
.
(02:37):
Maybe you're like another clientof mine who said I hate seeing
myself in the mirror.
It's not worth putting onmakeup or hair when I feel like
I'm just slapping lipstick on apig.
I'll tell you, she too, has hadgrowth.
She too, now speaks a differentlanguage.
She said when I look in themirror now I realize that I have
(03:01):
finally stepped into theversion of me that I have always
wanted to be.
Another one of my clients saidif another person tells me to
just get over it already I amgoing to snap.
I wish it was that easy.
And now she says I realize Iwas choosing the suffering
(03:24):
Because I was telling myselfthat it was going to take a long
time to process these emotions.
It turns out all that I had todo was to decide to let go and
all of that pain went away.
She says my pain was tied tothe significance that I was
putting on the story of my loss.
(03:52):
Now, this isn't the only thingthat we're going to talk about
is loss.
There are other things youcould be dealing with.
The second thing you could bestruggling with is just being
super reactive and findingyourself exploding on your kids,
your family, friends or teammembers.
Maybe you're just dealing witha lot of pent-up anger,
frustration, rage, things thatmight be building up into
overwhelm and procrastination.
Well, if that's you, it'slikely that you desire to know
(04:15):
when and how to use your releasevalve.
That way, when pressure builds,you have habits that you
maintain.
You have habits that youmaintain.
They're using the five M'smovement, meditation,
mindfulness, manifestation andmore to keep your emotions from
boiling over.
That's what you're looking forand that's what we're going to
(04:37):
talk about Now.
One of my clients used to sayshe said I wake up still
overstimulated from the daybefore and almost immediately I
snap at my daughter.
I just want to be able to letgo of the day before and show up
for my daughter each morningwith an empty cup and extra love
to give.
I think that's what we all want, and doing this work can help
(05:00):
you get there, because just likethat's all she wanted.
Now this is her new reality,she says my new morning and
night routines, incorporatingHealthy Emotional Regulations,
5m's formula movement,meditation, mindfulness,
manifestation and more haschanged everything for me.
I now find closure in each daybefore I head to bed and start
(05:25):
each morning fresh, already withmore love to give to my
daughter, because I learned thatit all starts with me.
Some of these clients may nothave wanted to share their names
, but I still get emotionalreading these because I do
remember the woman who walked into our first session and how
(05:46):
these were her words and knowingthat each and every one of
these women who has had thesetransitions and these huge,
radical transformations in theirlives are still continuing to
watch the compounding effect ofdoing work with me years ago.
I know the power of justlistening to one podcast.
I know the power of puttingthese messages out there can
(06:07):
compound and give you a lifethat you so desperately desire.
So another one of my clientscame to me and she says so
tenderly and so vulnerably myhusband thinks I'm a bitch.
My husband thinks I'm a bitchby the time I get home.
I see him after a long day andall I do is complain.
(06:27):
I'm short with him and I blamehim for any minor inconvenience.
I just want to be the lovingwife that he married again.
She now says I never would haveguessed that doing this work
would help me bring back thesoftness into my relationship
that, being burned over and overacross the years, has left me
(06:52):
with these pointy, rough edges.
But now that I'm leaning intoforgiveness I can feel my edges
softening up again and, as aresult, my husband feels more
loved and masculine.
Or maybe you're like the clientwho came to me and said I'm not
happy with how I show up for myteam in business.
(07:14):
I often feel like everyone'smother, scolding them and
reminding them of theirresponsibilities.
There has to be a differentapproach to business.
There has to be a differentapproach to business.
Now, after implementing thethings that I've taught her
through sessions and throughretreats, she says complete 180.
The more I shift my energy andprioritize more harmony between
(07:39):
my masculine and feminine energyand business, the more that I
see the change I so desperatelydesired by allowing my open,
curious and nurturing side toshow up more often.
My team has now stepped up in anew way.
They are taking moreaccountability and ownership
over their roles.
We have also found moreeffective ways of communicating
(08:03):
that help us come from a placeof understanding and avoid
blowing up on each other oversmall disagreements.
Now I know that that change hasimpacted more than just that
one woman's life, that it infact extends to every co-worker,
every team member that sheworks with.
Every client is now going tofeel that shift.
(08:24):
But maybe you're not dealingwith sadness and loss.
Maybe you're not dealing withanger and rage.
Maybe you fall in this lastcategory.
Maybe it's a lack of trust inyourself causing you to struggle
to make decisions becauseyou're dealing with fear, guilt.
(08:44):
Make decisions because you'redealing with fear, guilt, shame
and unworthiness.
Now, if that's you, you desireto have the confidence to commit
to swift decisions based on theknowledge that they come from
both your head, your logic andyour heart, your intuition.
And if that's you, maybe youfind yourself saying I'm just
(09:07):
not sure about my offer,something doesn't feel right
about it.
I know I had a client actuallymany clients who have come to me
saying this exact thing.
They struggle with sales and Itry and convey to them that it's
really not selling when it's inalignment.
And now this specific clientcame back and said my biggest
lesson in business has been thatit's really not selling when
it's in alignment.
And now this specific clientcame back and said my biggest
(09:28):
lesson in business has been thatit can be easy.
I used to overthink things,attempt to force a product or an
outcome.
My offers always felt weirdwhen I did that and, as a result
, I would never promote it.
But now that I have an offerthat is in alignment with my
greater good, it is so easy tosell my offer because I'm
(09:49):
naturally excited to just talkabout it with everyone that I
meet.
From now on, if I meetresistance in sharing my offer,
then it's just not the rightoffer for me, man that is so
(10:11):
powerful.
I personally have also gonethrough this shift and I know
that if you just apply thethings that we talk about, you
will find that you are worthy ofan offer that is easy to sell,
something that is natural totalk about with everyone that
you meet, and when you have thatthing it can be easy.
Or maybe you're like my clientwho said as much as I want to
(10:34):
say yes to this opportunity.
I just don't know if I canswing it with all these other
responsibilities.
Now she says these days, now Imake decisions in an instant.
These decisions used toparalyze me for days or even
weeks.
The best part is the more that Ilearned to gather quality
(10:55):
information by asking betterquestions and trusting my
initial intuition, the more Irealized I have always known
what was best for me and mybusiness from the start.
Realized I have always knownwhat was best for me and my
business from the start.
The doubt that second guessingit always stems back to
fear-based beliefs for me.
So now I tell myself go withyour gut.
(11:21):
If it's not an immediate hellyes, then it's a hell no for me.
Gosh, immediate hell, yes.
That is such a core beliefbecause that is how we tap in,
that is how we know if this isan alignment.
Because if that gut instinctsays yes, then go for it, and
I'm here to help champion you tothose kind of success stories.
And then I have yet anotherclient, one that I hear all too
(11:44):
often, where they show up andsay I am fearful that the more
that I show up, the more thatothers will realize how far from
perfect that I am.
This is a big one, but you know, here's the learning that she
got, that I've seen over andover and over in my business.
(12:05):
She says gosh, who even wasthat version of me?
We live in 2024.
No one wants to work withperfectly curated people.
They are seeking out real andrelatable people, someone who's
honest and authentic, someonewho shows up on the good days
and the bad days.
My audience only really startedgrowing once.
(12:26):
I said fuck it, it's so mucheasier just to show up and be me
.
If I'm going to be paid to showup as anything, why wouldn't I
build my business and mycommunity around the fullest
version of myself?
Now, when I show up, I tellmyself those who choose to stay
are my people and those who donot are either not ready or
(12:49):
they're simply not my people.
It is so much easier to show upwhen I know that those who are
here are choosing to be herebecause of who I am and the
value that I bring.
Can we agree that that is a verydifferent place to be in than
her initial old belief that I amfearful?
The more I show up, the morethey will realize how far from
(13:12):
perfect I am.
This shows that she nowunderstands that, just like her,
you too are perfect, exactlythe way you are, and there is
someone out there who needs tohear you and your message.
So if you identify with thesestruggles, if you identify with
these desires, then this showwas created for you.
(13:35):
So go and subscribe, becauseI'm going to continue to make
these episodes for you, and theyare going to be a mixture of
solo and guest conversationsthat both include storytelling
and tactical strategies.
That way, you will slowly andsurely find yourself more able
to master these emotions, sothat you consistently implement
(13:58):
these changes.
You will see change episodeafter episode.
So these aren't justdiscussions, these are
masterclasses in how to masteryour emotions, and if you enjoy
an episode and think that afamily member or friend would
benefit from them, then pleaseshare it.
That way they can also begin toexperience healthy emotional
(14:21):
regulation in life and businesstoo.
be honest with me, like, really sit back and listen
to this quick trailer and atthe end I just want you to ask
yourself one thing Is this you?
And if it is, I just want youto go ahead and subscribe to
this podcast because, girlfriend, this was made for you.
Are you catching yourselfcrying every day?
(00:24):
Maybe you've heard yourself sayI just want to stop crying.
Maybe you're experiencing grief, loss, sadness or hurt and you
just desire to experience,instead of the absence of
emotion, you want to experiencethe presence of emotion, because
(00:44):
you want to have that abilityand that skill to be able to be
present when both sides of theequation happen, both the good
and the bad, because you knowthat the pendulum is always in
motion.
So if that sounds like you,it's probably a lot like all of
my clients.
The through line are the thingsthat I'm bringing to you here
(01:06):
in this podcast.
So maybe you're like Taylorwhere she says I wake up every
single day with tears in my eyesand my heart sinks because all
I can think about is what I'velost.
She used to say that, but nownow she says now when I cry, it
lasts a few minutes or an hourat most, but it's not happening
(01:30):
daily anymore.
Or maybe you're like Jen who,when I first met Jen, she said I
cannot remember the last daythat I had without crying.
And now, two and a half yearslater, I talked to Jen and she
says I can't even remember thelast time I cried, right.
Or maybe you're a lot likeSimona.
She feels, or felt, all ofthese years ago, when I first
(01:54):
started working with her, shesaid it feels like everything is
falling apart, no matter what Ido.
Nothing is getting any betterand crying is my only option.
Is that where you are?
Because, I'll tell you, simoneis in a different place now.
The last time I spoke to her,she said I have a different
association to crying now.
(02:16):
I used to experience these big,sobbing, ugly tears and now,
now I have this soft gentleweeping, these moments that are
deeply healing and joyful,because crying can be joy-filled
.
(02:37):
Maybe you're like another clientof mine who said I hate seeing
myself in the mirror.
It's not worth putting onmakeup or hair when I feel like
I'm just slapping lipstick on apig.
I'll tell you, she too, has hadgrowth.
She too, now speaks a differentlanguage.
She said when I look in themirror now I realize that I have
(03:01):
finally stepped into theversion of me that I have always
wanted to be.
Another one of my clients saidif another person tells me to
just get over it already I amgoing to snap.
I wish it was that easy.
And now she says I realize Iwas choosing the suffering
(03:24):
Because I was telling myselfthat it was going to take a long
time to process these emotions.
It turns out all that I had todo was to decide to let go and
all of that pain went away.
She says my pain was tied tothe significance that I was
putting on the story of my loss.
(03:52):
Now, this isn't the only thingthat we're going to talk about
is loss.
There are other things youcould be dealing with.
The second thing you could bestruggling with is just being
super reactive and findingyourself exploding on your kids,
your family, friends or teammembers.
Maybe you're just dealing witha lot of pent-up anger,
frustration, rage, things thatmight be building up into
overwhelm and procrastination.
Well, if that's you, it'slikely that you desire to know
(04:15):
when and how to use your releasevalve.
That way, when pressure builds,you have habits that you
maintain.
You have habits that youmaintain.
They're using the five M'smovement, meditation,
mindfulness, manifestation andmore to keep your emotions from
boiling over.
That's what you're looking forand that's what we're going to
(04:37):
talk about Now.
One of my clients used to sayshe said I wake up still
overstimulated from the daybefore and almost immediately I
snap at my daughter.
I just want to be able to letgo of the day before and show up
for my daughter each morningwith an empty cup and extra love
to give.
I think that's what we all want, and doing this work can help
(05:00):
you get there, because just likethat's all she wanted.
Now this is her new reality,she says my new morning and
night routines, incorporatingHealthy Emotional Regulations,
5m's formula movement,meditation, mindfulness,
manifestation and more haschanged everything for me.
I now find closure in each daybefore I head to bed and start
(05:25):
each morning fresh, already withmore love to give to my
daughter, because I learned thatit all starts with me.
Some of these clients may nothave wanted to share their names
, but I still get emotionalreading these because I do
remember the woman who walked into our first session and how
(05:46):
these were her words and knowingthat each and every one of
these women who has had thesetransitions and these huge,
radical transformations in theirlives are still continuing to
watch the compounding effect ofdoing work with me years ago.
I know the power of justlistening to one podcast.
I know the power of puttingthese messages out there can
(06:07):
compound and give you a lifethat you so desperately desire.
So another one of my clientscame to me and she says so
tenderly and so vulnerably myhusband thinks I'm a bitch.
My husband thinks I'm a bitchby the time I get home.
I see him after a long day andall I do is complain.
(06:27):
I'm short with him and I blamehim for any minor inconvenience.
I just want to be the lovingwife that he married again.
She now says I never would haveguessed that doing this work
would help me bring back thesoftness into my relationship
that, being burned over and overacross the years, has left me
(06:52):
with these pointy, rough edges.
But now that I'm leaning intoforgiveness I can feel my edges
softening up again and, as aresult, my husband feels more
loved and masculine.
Or maybe you're like the clientwho came to me and said I'm not
happy with how I show up for myteam in business.
(07:14):
I often feel like everyone'smother, scolding them and
reminding them of theirresponsibilities.
There has to be a differentapproach to business.
There has to be a differentapproach to business.
Now, after implementing thethings that I've taught her
through sessions and throughretreats, she says complete 180.
The more I shift my energy andprioritize more harmony between
(07:39):
my masculine and feminine energyand business, the more that I
see the change I so desperatelydesired by allowing my open,
curious and nurturing side toshow up more often.
My team has now stepped up in anew way.
They are taking moreaccountability and ownership
over their roles.
We have also found moreeffective ways of communicating
(08:03):
that help us come from a placeof understanding and avoid
blowing up on each other oversmall disagreements.
Now I know that that change hasimpacted more than just that
one woman's life, that it infact extends to every co-worker,
every team member that sheworks with.
Every client is now going tofeel that shift.
(08:24):
But maybe you're not dealingwith sadness and loss.
Maybe you're not dealing withanger and rage.
Maybe you fall in this lastcategory.
Maybe it's a lack of trust inyourself causing you to struggle
to make decisions becauseyou're dealing with fear, guilt.
(08:44):
Make decisions because you'redealing with fear, guilt, shame
and unworthiness.
Now, if that's you, you desireto have the confidence to commit
to swift decisions based on theknowledge that they come from
both your head, your logic andyour heart, your intuition.
And if that's you, maybe youfind yourself saying I'm just
(09:07):
not sure about my offer,something doesn't feel right
about it.
I know I had a client actuallymany clients who have come to me
saying this exact thing.
They struggle with sales and Itry and convey to them that it's
really not selling when it's inalignment.
And now this specific clientcame back and said my biggest
lesson in business has been thatit's really not selling when
it's in alignment.
And now this specific clientcame back and said my biggest
(09:28):
lesson in business has been thatit can be easy.
I used to overthink things,attempt to force a product or an
outcome.
My offers always felt weirdwhen I did that and, as a result
, I would never promote it.
But now that I have an offerthat is in alignment with my
greater good, it is so easy tosell my offer because I'm
(09:49):
naturally excited to just talkabout it with everyone that I
meet.
From now on, if I meetresistance in sharing my offer,
then it's just not the rightoffer for me, man that is so
(10:11):
powerful.
I personally have also gonethrough this shift and I know
that if you just apply thethings that we talk about, you
will find that you are worthy ofan offer that is easy to sell,
something that is natural totalk about with everyone that
you meet, and when you have thatthing it can be easy.
Or maybe you're like my clientwho said as much as I want to
(10:34):
say yes to this opportunity.
I just don't know if I canswing it with all these other
responsibilities.
Now she says these days, now Imake decisions in an instant.
These decisions used toparalyze me for days or even
weeks.
The best part is the more that Ilearned to gather quality
(10:55):
information by asking betterquestions and trusting my
initial intuition, the more Irealized I have always known
what was best for me and mybusiness from the start.
Realized I have always knownwhat was best for me and my
business from the start.
The doubt that second guessingit always stems back to
fear-based beliefs for me.
So now I tell myself go withyour gut.
(11:21):
If it's not an immediate hellyes, then it's a hell no for me.
Gosh, immediate hell, yes.
That is such a core beliefbecause that is how we tap in,
that is how we know if this isan alignment.
Because if that gut instinctsays yes, then go for it, and
I'm here to help champion you tothose kind of success stories.
And then I have yet anotherclient, one that I hear all too
(11:44):
often, where they show up andsay I am fearful that the more
that I show up, the more thatothers will realize how far from
perfect that I am.
This is a big one, but you know, here's the learning that she
got, that I've seen over andover and over in my business.
(12:05):
She says gosh, who even wasthat version of me?
We live in 2024.
No one wants to work withperfectly curated people.
They are seeking out real andrelatable people, someone who's
honest and authentic, someonewho shows up on the good days
and the bad days.
My audience only really startedgrowing once.
(12:26):
I said fuck it, it's so mucheasier just to show up and be me
.
If I'm going to be paid to showup as anything, why wouldn't I
build my business and mycommunity around the fullest
version of myself?
Now, when I show up, I tellmyself those who choose to stay
are my people and those who donot are either not ready or
(12:49):
they're simply not my people.
It is so much easier to show upwhen I know that those who are
here are choosing to be herebecause of who I am and the
value that I bring.
Can we agree that that is a verydifferent place to be in than
her initial old belief that I amfearful?
The more I show up, the morethey will realize how far from
(13:12):
perfect I am.
This shows that she nowunderstands that, just like her,
you too are perfect, exactlythe way you are, and there is
someone out there who needs tohear you and your message.
So if you identify with thesestruggles, if you identify with
these desires, then this showwas created for you.
(13:35):
So go and subscribe, becauseI'm going to continue to make
these episodes for you, and theyare going to be a mixture of
solo and guest conversationsthat both include storytelling
and tactical strategies.
That way, you will slowly andsurely find yourself more able
to master these emotions, sothat you consistently implement
(13:58):
these changes.
You will see change episodeafter episode.
So these aren't justdiscussions, these are
masterclasses in how to masteryour emotions, and if you enjoy
an episode and think that afamily member or friend would
benefit from them, then pleaseshare it.
That way they can also begin toexperience healthy emotional
(14:21):
regulation in life and businesstoo.
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