August 23, 2025 • 15 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
The views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of A Queen's
Opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are of their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual or anyone or
(00:26):
anything.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Welcome to a Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen, my voice, myopinion and your listening ears.
This episode is called BigDreams Small Wallet Series Big
Wedding.
Why do big dreams make us smile?
(01:06):
In this episode of the series,we are going to talk about the
big dream wedding.
What does it mean to dream?
I looked up the word dream inthe Oxford Dictionary and it
stated that a dream is a seriesof thoughts, images and
sensations occurring in aperson's mind during sleep.
The second definition said acherished aspiration, ambition
(01:27):
or idea.
Most women want a big wedding,a marriage ceremony in front of
family and friends, anopportunity to show the world
that you found your princecharming and you are going to
ride off into the sunsettogether forever.
(01:48):
And in their mind they musthave that big wedding to display
the forever love.
The top 10 things you must getready for this big dream wedding
.
Number one decide on a dateSummer wedding, fall wedding,
(02:17):
winter wedding or spring wedding.
This decision will have animpact on the location and venue
for the wedding.
It will even affect who canattend.
It will even affect who canattend.
Number two location.
Depending on the season of thewedding, the location is
critical Spring and summer, andfall could be an outdoor wedding
(02:52):
with gorgeous landscaping oftrees and green grass and the
scent of flowers.
A wedding in the winter willrequire an indoor, fabulous
location with a winterwonderland view.
Number three weddinginspiration.
Once you have decided on a dateand location and you're still
having trouble with the overalllook and feel of the wedding,
then number three weddinginspirations can be important To
(03:13):
help you narrow down to theperfect look and feel.
Take a moment to check outmagazines, books and online
inspirations that will flow withthe season's wedding ceremony.
Number four wedding planner.
Therefore, hiring a weddingplanner number four is extremely
(03:36):
helpful because they are goingto ensure all the checklist
items for the wedding arecovered.
All the checklist items for thewedding are covered.
Selecting the best planner inthe area is always a promising
idea for a dream wedding of thissize.
The wedding planner is going tobe helpful with several things
like wedding registry setup,website, wedding announcement
(04:06):
and remaining details on thelist as well, too, the planner
is going to keep you on schedule.
Number five guest list.
You need to decide on thenumber of guests that you are
planning on inviting.
You may decide to invite allyour family, even the ones you
don't even talk to, because thisis your big dream wedding.
(04:28):
You want them all to know youhave found Mr Right.
You should invite those friendsthat have supported you through
the good and rough times ofyour overall relationship.
Those are the friends that havesupported your relationship
with this man for years and theyare so excited to see you
(04:49):
finally get the wedding you haveearned and deserved.
We understand that guest listheadcount is important because
the seating chart impacts theoverall atmosphere of your
wedding.
Plus, headcount will impact theoverall cost for the wedding.
You can invite all the guestsyou want, because it's your big
(05:13):
dream wedding, as, yes, it is.
But to make this weddingofficial, you must invite the
officiant to recite thoseimportant vows and say those
vital words.
I now pronounce you, husbandand wife.
(05:34):
Number six the photographer.
Now it's time to lock in aphotographer.
If you don't, who's going totake all those beautiful
pictures of the event so you canshow everybody how wonderful it
was when it's all over.
Number seven florist.
Oh, my goodness, you must havea florist to represent your love
(05:59):
and freshness, softness andbeauty, or at least that is what
flowers say to me when I'mgoing to a wedding.
You need flowers for yourbeautiful bouquet and if you
don't have flowers, why have aflower girl if she doesn't have
flowers to toss out as she walksdown the aisle?
(06:22):
Yes, you must have flowers.
Number eight did you book a DJor a band?
Somebody's got to have thatfunky music for us to dance to
after dinner.
Want to dance into the night?
Number nine food and drinks.
(06:46):
The food and drinks are thenext important thing.
The caterer must be on pointwith the food.
The food must taste out of thisworld and be visually beautiful
all at the same time.
The drinks must complement themenu.
The wedding cake must bedelicious, melting in your mouth
(07:10):
, moist, but not too sweet, justenough to know it's a wedding
cake.
The cake needs to be at leastfour layers, or a layer per year
of dating and engagement.
Now, don't forget, we need anopen bar, baby, for all to enjoy
(07:31):
.
The bartender needs to be ableto serve whatever type of drink
the guest wants during thewedding.
We need to keep the drinksflowing throughout the full
wedding event.
Number 10, wedding party.
Next, let's talk about thewedding party.
(07:51):
How many bridesmaids, groomsmenand flower girls should
participate in the production ofthis wedding event?
The bigger the wedding, thebigger the wedding party.
The wedding party should nothave to worry about paying for
their attire.
Nope, they don't need to worryabout getting their hair done or
(08:14):
getting haircuts, manicures andpedicures it's all paid for.
In this big dream wedding,we're going to have all the
necessary pre-events for thewedding party and close family
friends of the bride and groom.
Everything the wedding partyneeds is covered.
Of the bride and groom,everything the wedding party
needs is covered.
(08:35):
Don't worry about it, justenjoy.
Of course, the big dream weddingis impressive and perfect in
your mind, but I have a questionfor you who is going to host
this event and pay for it all aswell?
Everybody knows the bride'sfamily pays for the wedding.
(08:58):
However, the new modernapproach consists of splitting
the cost between the family.
Nowadays, the bride and groomsometimes even pay for the event
themselves, taking the burdenoff their parents.
Hallelujah for that.
I'm sure the parents like thesound of their children paying
(09:20):
for their own wedding event.
This is the fairest way tomanage the bill, because two
people are getting married, notjust the bride, not just the
bride.
So let us discuss the cost ofthis big dream wedding.
It sounds like this wedding iswell over $50,000 minimum.
(09:41):
We have not covered all theother items required for this
wedding, but I think we havecovered all the major parts of
the big wedding event.
I think we have covered all themajor parts of the big wedding
event.
Although we desire this bigwedding, we need to be realistic
about having a wedding.
(10:01):
Just a few questions toconsider.
Do we need a wedding event?
Does having a wedding changethe value of the marriage
certificate or devalue our love?
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Could we use the money for a house?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Having a wedding is great.
It's fun, it's exciting andyour wedding will be everything
you want it to be.
However, on the other hand, Ichose the route of going to the
courthouse and banking the moneyfor a down payment on my home.
Let me try to explain why Ichose the option versus having
(10:42):
the big wedding and puttingmyself in debt for one day where
I can use the money for a morevaluable, important decision in
my union with my spouse, onethat will last us a lifetime and
have an asset to pass down tothe children, we would be
(11:04):
building wealth right up front,right in the beginning, instead
of having one day of stress andfun.
Now, let's say we had a weddingand we invited approximately
150 guests.
Now, the proper etiquette isthat, for an average wedding,
gift from a guest is $150 perguest.
(11:27):
If you were to do the math,that would come out to be
$22,500.
That could be used towards adown payment on a home.
Ask for cash to be used for adown payment towards the home.
You might even get more thanyou expected.
(11:48):
To clarify, if you were topurchase a home for $250,000,
the average down payment wouldbe approximately $22,500.
Does that number sound familiar?
Yeah, now you can see whyhaving a wedding may not be the
(12:11):
most important thing in yourunion of marriage.
Like I stated before, having awedding is fun, exciting, and
you just want to share your lovewith the world, with the people
you love in your life.
I get it For me.
I chose a home as a foundationfor starting my family and our.
(12:35):
Happily.
Ever after, I got the samething you did A marriage
certificate printed on the samepaper, with the same ink, with
the same intention, which is tospend my life with this person I
love.
Yes, I was able to share mylove with everyone, just like at
(12:56):
a wedding, except it was at myhousewarming party.
I invited all my family andclose friends.
The event was catered.
We gave tours of the house.
It was awesome.
The housewarming allowed myguests to see how their wedding
(13:18):
gift money was spent and howtheir gift contributed to the
long-term commitment of our newfamily.
Why do big dreams make us smile?
Maybe because they allow us tolive out our best life we see
for ourselves, without anyroadblocks, such as money, to
(13:39):
stop us from having our bigdreams.
We smile because we know thatwe can achieve it.
Maybe not in this lifetime,maybe the next In the end.
I know I should stop havingthese big-ass dreams and live in
my reality, but I'll keepdreaming big, because it has
(14:01):
been seen that dreams can cometrue.
If you are still working on abig dream wedding don't give up.
Keep dreaming and keep workingtowards all your dreams.
A Queen's Opinion is a podcastthat allows people, especially
(14:22):
women, to think out loud aboutlife situations and seek an
opinion without being judged.
This podcast is supposed tolift you up, encourage you to be
the best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
(14:45):
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
Ask the Queen.
Go to our website,wwwaquingsopinioncom and click
(15:11):
on Get In Touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
the Queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcasts.
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
The views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of A Queen's
Opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are of their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual or anyone or
(00:26):
anything.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Welcome to a Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen, my voice, myopinion and your listening ears.
This episode is called BigDreams Small Wallet Series Big
Wedding.
Why do big dreams make us smile?
(01:06):
In this episode of the series,we are going to talk about the
big dream wedding.
What does it mean to dream?
I looked up the word dream inthe Oxford Dictionary and it
stated that a dream is a seriesof thoughts, images and
sensations occurring in aperson's mind during sleep.
The second definition said acherished aspiration, ambition
(01:27):
or idea.
Most women want a big wedding,a marriage ceremony in front of
family and friends, anopportunity to show the world
that you found your princecharming and you are going to
ride off into the sunsettogether forever.
(01:48):
And in their mind they musthave that big wedding to display
the forever love.
The top 10 things you must getready for this big dream wedding
.
Number one decide on a dateSummer wedding, fall wedding,
(02:17):
winter wedding or spring wedding.
This decision will have animpact on the location and venue
for the wedding.
It will even affect who canattend.
It will even affect who canattend.
Number two location.
Depending on the season of thewedding, the location is
critical Spring and summer, andfall could be an outdoor wedding
(02:52):
with gorgeous landscaping oftrees and green grass and the
scent of flowers.
A wedding in the winter willrequire an indoor, fabulous
location with a winterwonderland view.
Number three weddinginspiration.
Once you have decided on a dateand location and you're still
having trouble with the overalllook and feel of the wedding,
then number three weddinginspirations can be important To
(03:13):
help you narrow down to theperfect look and feel.
Take a moment to check outmagazines, books and online
inspirations that will flow withthe season's wedding ceremony.
Number four wedding planner.
Therefore, hiring a weddingplanner number four is extremely
(03:36):
helpful because they are goingto ensure all the checklist
items for the wedding arecovered.
All the checklist items for thewedding are covered.
Selecting the best planner inthe area is always a promising
idea for a dream wedding of thissize.
The wedding planner is going tobe helpful with several things
like wedding registry setup,website, wedding announcement
(04:06):
and remaining details on thelist as well, too, the planner
is going to keep you on schedule.
Number five guest list.
You need to decide on thenumber of guests that you are
planning on inviting.
You may decide to invite allyour family, even the ones you
don't even talk to, because thisis your big dream wedding.
(04:28):
You want them all to know youhave found Mr Right.
You should invite those friendsthat have supported you through
the good and rough times ofyour overall relationship.
Those are the friends that havesupported your relationship
with this man for years and theyare so excited to see you
(04:49):
finally get the wedding you haveearned and deserved.
We understand that guest listheadcount is important because
the seating chart impacts theoverall atmosphere of your
wedding.
Plus, headcount will impact theoverall cost for the wedding.
You can invite all the guestsyou want, because it's your big
(05:13):
dream wedding, as, yes, it is.
But to make this weddingofficial, you must invite the
officiant to recite thoseimportant vows and say those
vital words.
I now pronounce you, husbandand wife.
(05:34):
Number six the photographer.
Now it's time to lock in aphotographer.
If you don't, who's going totake all those beautiful
pictures of the event so you canshow everybody how wonderful it
was when it's all over.
Number seven florist.
Oh, my goodness, you must havea florist to represent your love
(05:59):
and freshness, softness andbeauty, or at least that is what
flowers say to me when I'mgoing to a wedding.
You need flowers for yourbeautiful bouquet and if you
don't have flowers, why have aflower girl if she doesn't have
flowers to toss out as she walksdown the aisle?
(06:22):
Yes, you must have flowers.
Number eight did you book a DJor a band?
Somebody's got to have thatfunky music for us to dance to
after dinner.
Want to dance into the night?
Number nine food and drinks.
(06:46):
The food and drinks are thenext important thing.
The caterer must be on pointwith the food.
The food must taste out of thisworld and be visually beautiful
all at the same time.
The drinks must complement themenu.
The wedding cake must bedelicious, melting in your mouth
(07:10):
, moist, but not too sweet, justenough to know it's a wedding
cake.
The cake needs to be at leastfour layers, or a layer per year
of dating and engagement.
Now, don't forget, we need anopen bar, baby, for all to enjoy
(07:31):
.
The bartender needs to be ableto serve whatever type of drink
the guest wants during thewedding.
We need to keep the drinksflowing throughout the full
wedding event.
Number 10, wedding party.
Next, let's talk about thewedding party.
(07:51):
How many bridesmaids, groomsmenand flower girls should
participate in the production ofthis wedding event?
The bigger the wedding, thebigger the wedding party.
The wedding party should nothave to worry about paying for
their attire.
Nope, they don't need to worryabout getting their hair done or
(08:14):
getting haircuts, manicures andpedicures it's all paid for.
In this big dream wedding,we're going to have all the
necessary pre-events for thewedding party and close family
friends of the bride and groom.
Everything the wedding partyneeds is covered.
Of the bride and groom,everything the wedding party
needs is covered.
(08:35):
Don't worry about it, justenjoy.
Of course, the big dream weddingis impressive and perfect in
your mind, but I have a questionfor you who is going to host
this event and pay for it all aswell?
Everybody knows the bride'sfamily pays for the wedding.
(08:58):
However, the new modernapproach consists of splitting
the cost between the family.
Nowadays, the bride and groomsometimes even pay for the event
themselves, taking the burdenoff their parents.
Hallelujah for that.
I'm sure the parents like thesound of their children paying
(09:20):
for their own wedding event.
This is the fairest way tomanage the bill, because two
people are getting married, notjust the bride, not just the
bride.
So let us discuss the cost ofthis big dream wedding.
It sounds like this wedding iswell over $50,000 minimum.
(09:41):
We have not covered all theother items required for this
wedding, but I think we havecovered all the major parts of
the big wedding event.
I think we have covered all themajor parts of the big wedding
event.
Although we desire this bigwedding, we need to be realistic
about having a wedding.
(10:01):
Just a few questions toconsider.
Do we need a wedding event?
Does having a wedding changethe value of the marriage
certificate or devalue our love?
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Could we use the money for a house?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Having a wedding is great.
It's fun, it's exciting andyour wedding will be everything
you want it to be.
However, on the other hand, Ichose the route of going to the
courthouse and banking the moneyfor a down payment on my home.
Let me try to explain why Ichose the option versus having
(10:42):
the big wedding and puttingmyself in debt for one day where
I can use the money for a morevaluable, important decision in
my union with my spouse, onethat will last us a lifetime and
have an asset to pass down tothe children, we would be
(11:04):
building wealth right up front,right in the beginning, instead
of having one day of stress andfun.
Now, let's say we had a weddingand we invited approximately
150 guests.
Now, the proper etiquette isthat, for an average wedding,
gift from a guest is $150 perguest.
(11:27):
If you were to do the math,that would come out to be
$22,500.
That could be used towards adown payment on a home.
Ask for cash to be used for adown payment towards the home.
You might even get more thanyou expected.
(11:48):
To clarify, if you were topurchase a home for $250,000,
the average down payment wouldbe approximately $22,500.
Does that number sound familiar?
Yeah, now you can see whyhaving a wedding may not be the
(12:11):
most important thing in yourunion of marriage.
Like I stated before, having awedding is fun, exciting, and
you just want to share your lovewith the world, with the people
you love in your life.
I get it For me.
I chose a home as a foundationfor starting my family and our.
(12:35):
Happily.
Ever after, I got the samething you did A marriage
certificate printed on the samepaper, with the same ink, with
the same intention, which is tospend my life with this person I
love.
Yes, I was able to share mylove with everyone, just like at
(12:56):
a wedding, except it was at myhousewarming party.
I invited all my family andclose friends.
The event was catered.
We gave tours of the house.
It was awesome.
The housewarming allowed myguests to see how their wedding
(13:18):
gift money was spent and howtheir gift contributed to the
long-term commitment of our newfamily.
Why do big dreams make us smile?
Maybe because they allow us tolive out our best life we see
for ourselves, without anyroadblocks, such as money, to
(13:39):
stop us from having our bigdreams.
We smile because we know thatwe can achieve it.
Maybe not in this lifetime,maybe the next In the end.
I know I should stop havingthese big-ass dreams and live in
my reality, but I'll keepdreaming big, because it has
(14:01):
been seen that dreams can cometrue.
If you are still working on abig dream wedding don't give up.
Keep dreaming and keep workingtowards all your dreams.
A Queen's Opinion is a podcastthat allows people, especially
(14:22):
women, to think out loud aboutlife situations and seek an
opinion without being judged.
This podcast is supposed tolift you up, encourage you to be
the best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
(14:45):
I am not saying that I am right, but what I am saying is I'm
going to give you another viewof the situation from a distance
.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
Ask the Queen.
Go to our website,wwwaquingsopinioncom and click
(15:11):
on Get In Touch to leave yourfeedback or leave a question for
the Queen.
Don't forget to like uswherever you get your podcasts.
Thank you for taking time outof your day.
I hope you join me for our nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
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