Enough Is Enough

Ever feel like your story gets hijacked the moment you start talking? We’ve been there, and we’re calling it out with love and clarity. This conversation is a boundary-reset for anyone tired of being told how to feel, where to go, what to buy, or how to “fix” their life. We unpack why unsolicited advice often smothers trust, how emotional projection turns your experience into someone else’s drama, and what genuine support sounds like when you’re the one venting and just need space to breathe.

We walk through real-world scenarios—friends dictating your feelings, people policing your movements, and loved ones counting your money—and examine the subtle power dynamics behind each. The throughline is agency. When we practice active listening, we stop playing manager and start being a witness: reading tone and body language, reflecting back what we hear, and waiting to be invited before offering opinions. It’s not about silence forever; it’s about consent and timing. Respect shows up as patience, and patience earns trust.

We also talk about the social cost of overstepping. When calls stop, texts slow, and invites fade, that distance may be feedback. The fix isn’t more advice—it’s accountability and a new approach. Our aim is to lift you up, especially if you’re a woman navigating noisy opinions, and give you a practical, judgment-free framework to find your voice and protect your peace. If you’re ready to trade control for connection and advice for attentive presence, you’ll feel seen here.

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Welcome to a Queen's opinion.
When is enough enough?
There are times when people pushyour damn buttons and you just

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grin, smile, laugh it off andsay to yourself, I'll be tired
of this shit one of these days.
Well, this episode is about whenenough is enough.
Stop telling people what to do,what to feel, where to go or not

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go, how to spend their money,how to do anything.
People in general want to giveunsolicited advice regarding
others' situation or business.
When is enough enough?
We appreciate friends, family,co-workers, and even our

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neighbors.
But sometimes we don't needtheir advice.
All we need is a listening ear.
Do you know listening to anotherperson as they are sharing their
situation could be a form ofthem working through that
difficult moment of their life?

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They need to express themselvesout loud and feel like someone
is listening to them.
I emphasize the listening tothem because many times we hear
what people are saying to us,but we are not listening to

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them.
Stop telling others what to do.
People will say, I am here foryou.
Then the next thing you know,those people are telling you how
to solve the situation.
We hear the situation, and thenext thing we do is start trying

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to solve the problem for them inour heads.
We cut the person off and startpouring out our thoughts on
resolving the situation, notkeeping in mind the details of
who, what, when, and why thesituation is a problem for them.

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We don't give them theopportunity to ask for our
opinion.
We just start telling them whatwe would do in the situation.
The person is sharing theconcern or situation with you
because they want to blow offsome steam or they value your
opinion or they want a listeningear.

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When a person comes to you withan upsetting situation, we need
to practice being an activelistener and wait to be invited
to give a reply or advice.
Allow the person to breathe andthink through the situation.
If they need advice or guidance,they will let you know this is

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not your life.
They don't need you to tell themwhat to do.
Just listen.
Stop telling others what tofeel.
Have you ever had an experiencewhere someone really upset you
and you just walked away fromthe situation?
You walked away because you wereso frustrated, angry, mad, and

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upset about what was happeningto you.
You wanted to take a moment torespond.
You start sharing details ofwhat happened with a couple of
girlfriends, and suddenly onesays, you should feel mad as
hell.
Now, they are telling you how tofeel about the situation and

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what you should do about thesituation.
If that happened to me, I wouldhave kicked somebody's ass.
They go on and on.
The girlfriend is so invested inthe situation, it is no longer
about your experience, but it isabout her feelings, which has

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not been experienced.
Friend, just listen to me.
Let me blow off some steam andabsorb my feelings regarding the
interaction.
I need time to respond.
Stop telling me how to feel andhow I should react.

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Stop telling me where to go ornot go.
I am a grown-ass woman, anadult.
I choose to go wherever I wantto at any time I choose to go.
Your friend tells you, girl, Iwouldn't go to that neighborhood
or city.

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It might be dangerous.
Yes, that may be true, but it'sup to me to decide where I am
going and with whom I want to gowith or to go see in that
neighborhood.
Now, the girlfriend has pissedyou off.
Stop telling me where to go ornot to go.

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Maybe I'm trying to get awayfrom you.
Now take that and think aboutit.
Stop telling me how to spend mymoney.
I work hard for my money.
I did the work to earn thismoney.
I have the right to spend it howI choose.

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I can purchase anything I wantfor whom I want to give.
I am told that I spend too muchmoney on this and that.
So what?
It is my money.
Maybe I should tell you to stopcounting my damn money.
It's mine.
If I choose to spend my moneybuying shoes, clothes, handbags,

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things for my home, things formy children, things for my
grandchildren, things for myman, it's not your business or
your money.
Maybe you are jealous because Ididn't spend money on you.
Well, if you stop telling me howto spend my money, maybe you

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will receive a gift or two.
Hell, I might even take you on atrip if you get out of my
financial business.
Stop telling me how to doanything.
I have my own mind, my ownfeelings, my own money.
And I am at an age now that Ican say and do what the hell I

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want to.
No permission required or neededby any damn body.
People want an active listenerwhen they are sharing life
situations.
If you are still not sure whatan active listener is, well,
according to the OxfordDictionary, active listening

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involves listening to the wholeperson and absorbing both verbal
and nonverbal cues.
For example, I say read the roomif you are an active listener.
You would have read the room tosee all the cues.
Read the speaker's face forthose nonverbal cues.

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Are they smiling, crying,looking sad or confused?
Listen to their voice tone andthe words coming out of their
mouth.
Check out their body language.
Are they pacing the room lookinganxious or upset?
Are they sweating?

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They're looking for an activelistener.
So next time someone wants toshare some information with you,
practice being an activelistener and wait for your cue
to give advice or an opinion.

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When is enough enough?
When family and friends stopsharing details of their life
with you.
When friends stop calling andtexting, when you are not
invited to the party anymore,when you lose family and friend
relationships, this may be asign they have had enough.

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A Queen's Opinion is a podcastthat allows people, especially
women, to think out loud aboutlife situations and seek an
opinion without being judged.
This podcast is supposed to liftyou up, encourage you to be the
best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your

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comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right.
But what I am saying is I'mgoing to give you another view
of the situation from adistance.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.

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