December 13, 2025 • 17 mins
What if Santa delivered the inner tools we secretly crave—confidence, courage, forgiveness, and satisfaction—wrapped as gifts for a brand-new year? We explore five vivid portraits that mirror real-life patterns: the Chameleon who blends in so much she disappears, the Good One who longs for love and forgets her worth, the Gingerbread Woman chasing the perfect house, the Pacifier trapped in control, and the Snow Globe who sparkles outside but stays cold within. Each “gift” is practical and symbolic, designed to clear emotional clutter and build a life that fits from the inside out.
We talk about how confidence anchors identity, why boundaries are acts of love, and how contentment can quiet the constant “next.” You’ll hear how backbone, courage, and voice help break cycles of control, and how forgiveness—paired with honesty—melts old ice so real warmth can return. These stories invite reflection without judgment, offering simple, actionable shifts: tiny reps of honesty for the Chameleon, a backbone ritual for the Good One, a satisfaction audit for the home-chaser, a safety plan and support network for the Pacifier, and daily truth-telling for the Snow Globe.
Walk away with language for your own season and a clear next step: pick one gift and practice it this week. If a friend came to mind, share this with them as a nudge wrapped in care. Subscribe for more candid, compassionate conversations, leave a quick review to help others find the show, and tell us: which gift are you choosing first?
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SPEAKER_00 (00:03):
The views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of a Queen's
opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are of their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual, or anyone
(00:26):
or anything.
SPEAKER_01 (00:33):
Welcome to a Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen.
My boy, my opinion, and yourlistening ears.
Today's episode is called Giftsfrom Santa.
(00:56):
If you could give someone theperfect gift for their lives,
what would you give them?
Gifts from Santa.
We don't tell our children whoSanta is, but we all know Santa
is us, you, me, the person whopurchases the gifts.
(01:16):
So everyone can be Santa tosomebody.
In this episode, I am Santa.
And I want to give gifts to helppeople with their emotional
storage warehouse by giving themthe things they need to take
into the new year.
Let's get started.
(01:37):
The chameleon.
Chameleons are adaptable to anyhabitat in any part of the
world, whether they're in therainforest, desert, mountains,
or at the beach.
The chameleon will always findtheir spot.
The chameleon is a good exampleof change.
(01:59):
My friend, who I am callingchameleon for this episode,
changes her personality,opinions, and friendships just
to fit in with the next personor change in general to make the
person she is with happy.
Just like a real chameleon, shecan hide herself from anybody.
(02:22):
If she met you at church, shewill be your sister in Christ.
You will attend events together,go on trips together, do all the
things sisters in Christ may do.
If she met you at a socialevent, don't worry.
She is prepared to change herpersonality to fit the occasion.
(02:43):
If she met you at work, you canforget about ever finding out
who she is because she neverlets her guard down at work.
She's never going to let youinside her private life or her
private thoughts.
The chameleon will be who sheneeds to be in the situation
(03:04):
with you.
She never speaks about heropinion about anything because
she doesn't have one until youlead her to an opinion.
The chameleon can be tricky, andthat's why I'm going to gift her
a 24 by 24 by 24 extra large boxof confidence.
(03:27):
See, if she was confident in whoshe is and what she stands for,
then she wouldn't have to be achameleon.
She can just be herself.
So I am going to give her thisextra large box of confidence.
I want her to make sure it's bigto hold all the confidence she
(03:50):
will need moving forward in thenew year.
Once the chameleon receivesconfidence, then she'll be able
to walk in her truth, speak hertruth, and show herself to be
truthful and honest to all.
(04:11):
Next up is Glinda, the good one.
She is so kind, sweet, and has aheart overflowing with love.
But Glinda, not her real name,is needy for companionship,
marriage, and overall love thatshe will accept from anyone.
She has no confidence inherself.
(04:33):
She doesn't realize that manymen look for a woman with
confidence and one that knowsher worth.
So people say the good onesalways come in last place.
Glenda is the woman most mendescribe they want to marry, but
over time, this personality typecan be a big turn off.
(04:57):
Glenda doesn't want to be alone.
She yearns for marriage.
She yearns to have a man in herlife and will accept men's poor
behavior towards her.
I only want the best for Glenda,the good one.
So I am going to give her avariety package for Christmas.
(05:19):
The package will contain theright man for her.
He's kind, he's loving, and hethinks she is the most beautiful
person in the world.
He wants to spend all his dayswith her.
They will go on trips each year,share long weekends together,
have dinner every night.
He is just perfect for her.
(05:41):
Also, inside her varietypackage, I'm going to stuff it
with the confidence so that sheknows she can do anything by
herself.
She doesn't need a man to tellher what to do or where to go.
I am going to include a stuffedhero shrew to remind her to have
(06:03):
a backbone and speak up forherself.
The hero shrew has the strongestbackbone in the animal kingdom,
which is why I am giving herthis stuffed hero shrew as a
reminder.
Up next, gingerbread woman.
This time of year, people findthemselves making gingerbread
(06:25):
houses.
The gingerbread house usuallyrepresents the type of house
they wouldn't mind having inreal life.
I have seen gingerbread housesmade two stories tall.
I have seen gingerbread houseswith a full yard and even trees.
These folks go all out forgingerbread houses.
(06:46):
Well, my friend, the gingerbreadwoman, can never be satisfied
with the beautiful home she hasnow.
The house she started 25 yearsago was beautiful.
Nice yard, nice community, butshe said it was a good starter
home.
After the kids left for college,the house became too large.
(07:09):
They wanted something smaller.
Although the children were incollege and out in the real
world with their own jobs, thegingerbread woman wanted
something small since it wasjust the two of them now.
She told me, We don't need abackyard.
I want something easy tomaintain.
So the gingerbread woman decidedto sell the big house and move
(07:32):
into something smaller thatrequired less maintenance, and
off she went.
Well, they found what thegingerbread woman thought was
the perfect spot for them.
But after three years, thegingerbread woman decided that
she wanted to move back into ahouse with a backyard.
(07:53):
This house satisfied thegingerbread woman for another
three to five years, and off shewent again, saying she wanted a
large house so when the kidscome back home, they'll have
their own space.
Plus, she needs to make room forall her grandchildren.
(08:13):
Then the gingerbread womanconvinced her partner to sell
this current house and moved toanother house.
A house with five bedrooms, onethat will allow the children to
come back home and have a guestroom for the grandkids.
Once again, this house was notthe right house for the
gingerbread woman because sherealized she wanted a yarn with
(08:37):
a back porch and a front porchso she could sit on the porch
and swing.
I asked the gingerbread woman,what is wrong with this house
you have now?
If you are only wanting a porch,just add a porch.
No need to sell and purchaseagain.
But this was not satisfying tothe gingerbread woman who wants
(09:01):
to build her perfect homeherself since she can't find the
right one.
Now she must find the perfectcommunity with the perfect land
so she can build the perfecthouse.
I'm not sure we will find theperfect house for the
gingerbread woman because shekeeps dreaming of new things to
(09:22):
add or remove from every houseshe has lived in.
I just want her to be happy.
That's all I want.
This is why I am giving her abox of chocolate-covered
satisfaction.
I want her to be happy, content,and realize that she is blessed.
(09:51):
Up next is my friend thepacifier.
Now the pacifier is going to dowhatever her man says with no
questions asked.
If he says he doesn't like afriend, then you got to be cut
off because she has to satisfyhim.
The pacifier can't go anywhereby herself.
(10:13):
She must turn on her location soher husband knows where she is
at all times.
She must always be availablewhen the phone rings.
She must pick it up withoutdelay.
Just like a pacifier, she istied to this man.
She is never alone or allowed todo anything without his
(10:36):
approval.
He keeps his pacifier close.
He takes her everywhere he goes,just like a pacifier.
He needs her by his side, but hedoesn't need her to talk or
think without his approval.
Sometimes not even breathe.
He just wants to know where sheis to control her and her money
(10:58):
because she is the one with themoney.
The pacifier has lost manypeople in her life who have
tried to guide her to speak upfor herself and seek help.
The pacifier is not goinganywhere or thinking outside the
box of the relationship.
The pacifier is going to satisfyher man regardless of how she
(11:23):
may feel inside.
Santa is here, pacifier.
Santa is here to help you.
You are going to receive a verylarge box.
Inside this box is a BCVpackage.
Backbone, courage, and voice.
(11:43):
With this package, you willreceive courage to speak up for
yourself when you feel somethingis not right or not fair to you.
Your courage will help you useyour voice to fight back with
your words, and in the end, youwill grow and see your backbone
and stand on all ten toes.
(12:07):
Yes, come on, pacifier.
Finally, there is my friend, thesnow globe.
Snow globes are beautiful andmagical, and everyone likes to
stare at them.
When you shake it up, all thelittle snowflakes start
trickling down.
(12:28):
We see all the snowflakescovering the space inside the
globe.
The snow represents the coldoutside.
We keep shaking the globe inhopes that the snow will melt
and settle on the ground and notmove so much.
We wonder how cold it must beoutside to form snow.
(12:51):
According to the National Snowand Ice Data Center, the
temperature must be below 32Fahrenheit or zero Celsius to
get snow.
Well, Snow Globe is the kind ofperson that stands out in the
room.
Everybody wants to look at thesnow globe.
(13:13):
She enters the room like asuperstar with no worries in the
world.
She is always looking veryprofessional and on guard at all
times.
Snow Globe makes you wonder ifshe is real or fake.
Once you start talking to her,she comes across nice, sweet,
(13:34):
and kind.
But that is only in your face.
Snowglobe has a cold heart andno regard to how others feel
around her.
Everything is about Snow Globe.
No need to share with herbecause you don't matter.
Snow Globe only shares things inher life that are small, trivial
(13:59):
things and have no substance ofwhat is truly going on in her
life.
Everything is good.
There are no cracks over here inmy world.
God forbid if you cross SnowGlobe or tell Snow Globe she has
a crack in her globe.
She will never forgive you norallow you to explain.
(14:30):
She's so cold.
She's a cold one.
She doesn't have a warm heart offorgiveness and honesty.
So I backed her up the best giftshe can get, which is a gift of
forgiveness of the heart.
May it warm and soften her heartthat she may forgive people and
(14:51):
not hold them in the prisonforever.
Inside the forgiveness ishonesty.
She will feel so much betteronce she releases the pain and
hurt caused by others and thehurt she has caused to other
people.
The forgiveness will melt likethe snow once she warms up and
(15:16):
honesty is released.
Then love will replace the snowinside her cold heart.
Santa's list is long this year.
I still need to visit a fewother ladies on the list.
Santa is going to spread love toall.
(15:37):
They're just going to be sothankful for the gifts I have
bestowed on them.
I feel so blessed.
Jingle bells, jingle bells,jingle all the way.
Santa is bringing gifts to allon this winter day.
Yay! Merry Christmas and have ahappy holiday season.
(16:05):
I'll catch you in the new year.
(16:35):
This podcast is supposed to liftyou up, encourage you to be the
best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right.
But what I am saying is I'mgoing to give you another view
(17:00):
of the situation from adistance.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
Ask the queen.
Go to our website,www.aqueensopinion.com.
And click on get in touch toleave your feedback or leave a
(17:21):
question for the queen.
Don't forget to like us whereveryou get your podcast.
Thank you for taking time out ofyour day.
I hope you join me for my nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
The views and opinions expressed on this
podcast or website are those ofthe authors and do not
necessarily reflect the officialpolicy or position of a Queen's
opinion.
Any content provided by ourbloggers or authors are of their
opinion and are not intended tomalign any religion, ethnic
group, club, organization,company, individual, or anyone
(00:26):
or anything.
SPEAKER_01 (00:33):
Welcome to a Queen's Opinion.
My name is Queen.
My boy, my opinion, and yourlistening ears.
Today's episode is called Giftsfrom Santa.
(00:56):
If you could give someone theperfect gift for their lives,
what would you give them?
Gifts from Santa.
We don't tell our children whoSanta is, but we all know Santa
is us, you, me, the person whopurchases the gifts.
(01:16):
So everyone can be Santa tosomebody.
In this episode, I am Santa.
And I want to give gifts to helppeople with their emotional
storage warehouse by giving themthe things they need to take
into the new year.
Let's get started.
(01:37):
The chameleon.
Chameleons are adaptable to anyhabitat in any part of the
world, whether they're in therainforest, desert, mountains,
or at the beach.
The chameleon will always findtheir spot.
The chameleon is a good exampleof change.
(01:59):
My friend, who I am callingchameleon for this episode,
changes her personality,opinions, and friendships just
to fit in with the next personor change in general to make the
person she is with happy.
Just like a real chameleon, shecan hide herself from anybody.
(02:22):
If she met you at church, shewill be your sister in Christ.
You will attend events together,go on trips together, do all the
things sisters in Christ may do.
If she met you at a socialevent, don't worry.
She is prepared to change herpersonality to fit the occasion.
(02:43):
If she met you at work, you canforget about ever finding out
who she is because she neverlets her guard down at work.
She's never going to let youinside her private life or her
private thoughts.
The chameleon will be who sheneeds to be in the situation
(03:04):
with you.
She never speaks about heropinion about anything because
she doesn't have one until youlead her to an opinion.
The chameleon can be tricky, andthat's why I'm going to gift her
a 24 by 24 by 24 extra large boxof confidence.
(03:27):
See, if she was confident in whoshe is and what she stands for,
then she wouldn't have to be achameleon.
She can just be herself.
So I am going to give her thisextra large box of confidence.
I want her to make sure it's bigto hold all the confidence she
(03:50):
will need moving forward in thenew year.
Once the chameleon receivesconfidence, then she'll be able
to walk in her truth, speak hertruth, and show herself to be
truthful and honest to all.
(04:11):
Next up is Glinda, the good one.
She is so kind, sweet, and has aheart overflowing with love.
But Glinda, not her real name,is needy for companionship,
marriage, and overall love thatshe will accept from anyone.
She has no confidence inherself.
(04:33):
She doesn't realize that manymen look for a woman with
confidence and one that knowsher worth.
So people say the good onesalways come in last place.
Glenda is the woman most mendescribe they want to marry, but
over time, this personality typecan be a big turn off.
(04:57):
Glenda doesn't want to be alone.
She yearns for marriage.
She yearns to have a man in herlife and will accept men's poor
behavior towards her.
I only want the best for Glenda,the good one.
So I am going to give her avariety package for Christmas.
(05:19):
The package will contain theright man for her.
He's kind, he's loving, and hethinks she is the most beautiful
person in the world.
He wants to spend all his dayswith her.
They will go on trips each year,share long weekends together,
have dinner every night.
He is just perfect for her.
(05:41):
Also, inside her varietypackage, I'm going to stuff it
with the confidence so that sheknows she can do anything by
herself.
She doesn't need a man to tellher what to do or where to go.
I am going to include a stuffedhero shrew to remind her to have
(06:03):
a backbone and speak up forherself.
The hero shrew has the strongestbackbone in the animal kingdom,
which is why I am giving herthis stuffed hero shrew as a
reminder.
Up next, gingerbread woman.
This time of year, people findthemselves making gingerbread
(06:25):
houses.
The gingerbread house usuallyrepresents the type of house
they wouldn't mind having inreal life.
I have seen gingerbread housesmade two stories tall.
I have seen gingerbread houseswith a full yard and even trees.
These folks go all out forgingerbread houses.
(06:46):
Well, my friend, the gingerbreadwoman, can never be satisfied
with the beautiful home she hasnow.
The house she started 25 yearsago was beautiful.
Nice yard, nice community, butshe said it was a good starter
home.
After the kids left for college,the house became too large.
(07:09):
They wanted something smaller.
Although the children were incollege and out in the real
world with their own jobs, thegingerbread woman wanted
something small since it wasjust the two of them now.
She told me, We don't need abackyard.
I want something easy tomaintain.
So the gingerbread woman decidedto sell the big house and move
(07:32):
into something smaller thatrequired less maintenance, and
off she went.
Well, they found what thegingerbread woman thought was
the perfect spot for them.
But after three years, thegingerbread woman decided that
she wanted to move back into ahouse with a backyard.
(07:53):
This house satisfied thegingerbread woman for another
three to five years, and off shewent again, saying she wanted a
large house so when the kidscome back home, they'll have
their own space.
Plus, she needs to make room forall her grandchildren.
(08:13):
Then the gingerbread womanconvinced her partner to sell
this current house and moved toanother house.
A house with five bedrooms, onethat will allow the children to
come back home and have a guestroom for the grandkids.
Once again, this house was notthe right house for the
gingerbread woman because sherealized she wanted a yarn with
(08:37):
a back porch and a front porchso she could sit on the porch
and swing.
I asked the gingerbread woman,what is wrong with this house
you have now?
If you are only wanting a porch,just add a porch.
No need to sell and purchaseagain.
But this was not satisfying tothe gingerbread woman who wants
(09:01):
to build her perfect homeherself since she can't find the
right one.
Now she must find the perfectcommunity with the perfect land
so she can build the perfecthouse.
I'm not sure we will find theperfect house for the
gingerbread woman because shekeeps dreaming of new things to
(09:22):
add or remove from every houseshe has lived in.
I just want her to be happy.
That's all I want.
This is why I am giving her abox of chocolate-covered
satisfaction.
I want her to be happy, content,and realize that she is blessed.
(09:51):
Up next is my friend thepacifier.
Now the pacifier is going to dowhatever her man says with no
questions asked.
If he says he doesn't like afriend, then you got to be cut
off because she has to satisfyhim.
The pacifier can't go anywhereby herself.
(10:13):
She must turn on her location soher husband knows where she is
at all times.
She must always be availablewhen the phone rings.
She must pick it up withoutdelay.
Just like a pacifier, she istied to this man.
She is never alone or allowed todo anything without his
(10:36):
approval.
He keeps his pacifier close.
He takes her everywhere he goes,just like a pacifier.
He needs her by his side, but hedoesn't need her to talk or
think without his approval.
Sometimes not even breathe.
He just wants to know where sheis to control her and her money
(10:58):
because she is the one with themoney.
The pacifier has lost manypeople in her life who have
tried to guide her to speak upfor herself and seek help.
The pacifier is not goinganywhere or thinking outside the
box of the relationship.
The pacifier is going to satisfyher man regardless of how she
(11:23):
may feel inside.
Santa is here, pacifier.
Santa is here to help you.
You are going to receive a verylarge box.
Inside this box is a BCVpackage.
Backbone, courage, and voice.
(11:43):
With this package, you willreceive courage to speak up for
yourself when you feel somethingis not right or not fair to you.
Your courage will help you useyour voice to fight back with
your words, and in the end, youwill grow and see your backbone
and stand on all ten toes.
(12:07):
Yes, come on, pacifier.
Finally, there is my friend, thesnow globe.
Snow globes are beautiful andmagical, and everyone likes to
stare at them.
When you shake it up, all thelittle snowflakes start
trickling down.
(12:28):
We see all the snowflakescovering the space inside the
globe.
The snow represents the coldoutside.
We keep shaking the globe inhopes that the snow will melt
and settle on the ground and notmove so much.
We wonder how cold it must beoutside to form snow.
(12:51):
According to the National Snowand Ice Data Center, the
temperature must be below 32Fahrenheit or zero Celsius to
get snow.
Well, Snow Globe is the kind ofperson that stands out in the
room.
Everybody wants to look at thesnow globe.
(13:13):
She enters the room like asuperstar with no worries in the
world.
She is always looking veryprofessional and on guard at all
times.
Snow Globe makes you wonder ifshe is real or fake.
Once you start talking to her,she comes across nice, sweet,
(13:34):
and kind.
But that is only in your face.
Snowglobe has a cold heart andno regard to how others feel
around her.
Everything is about Snow Globe.
No need to share with herbecause you don't matter.
Snow Globe only shares things inher life that are small, trivial
(13:59):
things and have no substance ofwhat is truly going on in her
life.
Everything is good.
There are no cracks over here inmy world.
God forbid if you cross SnowGlobe or tell Snow Globe she has
a crack in her globe.
She will never forgive you norallow you to explain.
(14:30):
She's so cold.
She's a cold one.
She doesn't have a warm heart offorgiveness and honesty.
So I backed her up the best giftshe can get, which is a gift of
forgiveness of the heart.
May it warm and soften her heartthat she may forgive people and
(14:51):
not hold them in the prisonforever.
Inside the forgiveness ishonesty.
She will feel so much betteronce she releases the pain and
hurt caused by others and thehurt she has caused to other
people.
The forgiveness will melt likethe snow once she warms up and
(15:16):
honesty is released.
Then love will replace the snowinside her cold heart.
Santa's list is long this year.
I still need to visit a fewother ladies on the list.
Santa is going to spread love toall.
(15:37):
They're just going to be sothankful for the gifts I have
bestowed on them.
I feel so blessed.
Jingle bells, jingle bells,jingle all the way.
Santa is bringing gifts to allon this winter day.
Yay! Merry Christmas and have ahappy holiday season.
(16:05):
I'll catch you in the new year.
(16:35):
This podcast is supposed to liftyou up, encourage you to be the
best person you can be, toinspire you to step out of your
comfort zone and into your queenzone.
I didn't say my opinion willsolve your problems.
I am not saying that I am right.
But what I am saying is I'mgoing to give you another view
(17:00):
of the situation from adistance.
No more thinking or questioninga situation by yourself.
Ask the queen.
Go to our website,www.aqueensopinion.com.
And click on get in touch toleave your feedback or leave a
(17:21):
question for the queen.
Don't forget to like us whereveryou get your podcast.
Thank you for taking time out ofyour day.
I hope you join me for my nextepisode.
Until then, goodbye.
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