Father’s Day – Do We Still Know What a Father Is?

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Fatherhood isn’t just underappreciated — it’s being redefined, ridiculed, and quietly erased. But behind the headlines and hashtags, millions of kids are growing up without a dad at home… and the data isn’t subtle.

In this special Father’s Day episode of Think First, we ask why fatherhood matters — and what happens when we pretend it doesn’t. With powerful stats, quiet reflection, and just the right dad joke, this is a reminder that real leadership rarely looks loud… but it leaves a lasting mark.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Every June greeting cards appear, barbecue jokes,
dad bod memes, world's bestfather mugs.
But beneath the surface, do westill know what a father is?
Why is fatherhood increasinglysoftened, mocked or redefined?
What happens to kids andcommunities when fathers vanish?

(00:22):
What messages are boysabsorbing today about what it
means to become a man or afather who benefits when
masculinity is framed as aproblem rather than a calling?
Nearly one in four US children,about 18 million, live without a
father at home.
Growing up without an engagedfather is linked to two times

(00:46):
higher risk of mental healthstruggles, 85% of incarcerated
youth and 63% of youth suicides.
By contrast, children withactively involved fathers show
greater emotional stability,higher academic achievement,
lower rates of substance abuseand healthier stress regulation

(01:07):
and long-term resilience.
Father's Day once symbolizedstability and guidance.
Today dads are often punchlines.
Policies rarely mention themand culture treats them as
optional, poetic truth offers.
Anyone can be a dad.
But the deeper reality is thisFatherhood is a calling.

(01:28):
It's not a hobby, convenienceor nickname.
It's a responsibility encodedinto our social DNA.
From the dawn of human life,fathers have provided direction,
protection and identity.
To father well is to steer by amoral compass, not just for
ourselves but for those whofollow, and when you do that

(01:48):
with love, discipline, presence,you tap into a joy.
Words can't contain a quietecho of legacy.
I've been a husband and fatherfor nearly 30 years.
Here's what I've learned.
Fatherhood isn't always visible.
It's sacrifice.
It's the hard no when sayingyes would be easier.

(02:09):
It's showing up with patiencewhen you're worn thin.
It's being the steady hand evenwhen no one's watching.
But it's also the quiet joy ofwatching someone you love grow
into who they were meant to be.
It's the strength of knowingyou didn't get everything right,
but you were there, not forapplause, not for credit, but

(02:30):
because it mattered.
And the things that matter mostecho longer than we do.
They echo through generations.
So happy Father's Day.
In a world full of poetictruths, here's to the real ones
who show up, to my threechildren, elliot, danny and
Sophia.
I love you.

(02:52):
Anyone who says fatherhood isthe greatest thing that can
happen to you is underselling it.
I'm Jim Detchen and this isThink First from Gaslight 360.
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(03:14):
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Dad joke why did the scarecrowget father of the year?

(03:38):
Because he was outstanding inhis field.
Yeah, it's a dad joke, but sois holding the line when no
one's clapping.